In this well-written article, author Emma Austin advocates for the use of anal sex as a primary form of birth control, diving into many of the reasons that it’s a good and beneficial idea.
I know it sounds like a joke, but I am completely serious. Anal sex really is one of my birth control methods of choice.
It’s not something they’ll teach you in high school sex ed, and the nurse who doles out condoms and advice about the morning after pill probably won’t recommend it, but I’ve used this method in my teenage years and in my married life and it’s proven to be both reliable and fun.
Now, of course, I know I didn’t invent this. Christian teens have long been rumored to use anal sex as a way of avoiding vaginal penetration. And although I don’t have any religious reasons for doing it, I salute them for blazing the trail.
Anal sex really is a very effective form of birth control, and while like any other method it’s not 100% foolproof, with a little care it can be effectively so, and lacks all the negative effects of other forms of birth control.
Although it’s growing in acceptance, anal sex is still seen as a taboo. Even a lot of the women who enjoy it still can’t shake the feeling that there’s something a little dirty about it.
But it really doesn’t deserve the raunchy reputation we’ve given it. It really can be an intimate act, and one that’s appropriate for relationships of all stripes.
That’s because good anal sex is all about trust and care. In most cases, it needs to be taken slowly and engaged in gradually. It needs a lot of preparation — both psychologically and physically. And it requires a partner who is continually attuned to the way you’re feeling so they can know when to slow down, when to keep going, and when to let you take the lead.
She couldn’t be more right about this—while for the purposes of certain kinks, anal can take on the role of something dirty or raunchy at varying levels, it really isn’t inherently. It’s a beautiful, intimate act that relies on mutual trust and in many ways is far more intimate than vaginal sex. Couples who regularly engage in anal sex or who have gone anal only frequently talk about what wonders it has done for the intimacy of their relationship.
I first started thinking seriously about anal sex as birth control when I decided to go off the pill.
I had been taking hormonal birth control practically since I hit puberty. It was sort of the default. Every girl who reached the age where she might start lusting after boys was supposed to start taking it, just in case.
The pill was always presented in a positive light. It would keep you from getting pregnant — no need to wonder how it worked, it just did (well, for the most part).
So, I took it religiously, and I had no idea that it was slowly wreaking havoc on me.
There are quite a few side effects you can get from taking the pill. I had three major ones. There were mood swings. There were also unbearable migraine headaches. But probably worst of all is that it seriously diminished my sex drive, especially once my raging teenage hormones started to give way.
Ruining my sex drive really affected me. I think it’s no surprise to any of my followers that I love sex. And it was quite depressing to not want it while also really strongly wanting to want it. It felt like a part of me was missing.
Though I do have to admit, killing my sex drive was a great way to keep me from getting pregnant.
In general, it’s best not to mess with your hormones unless they’re out of balance. I’ve been off the pill for years now and I will never go back on it. I’d much rather resort to anal sex than put my body through that again.
Though it’s being discussed a lot more in recent times, the vast negative effects of hormonal birth control still goes largely ignored or glossed over by most, possibly as a means of ensuring that people continue to use birth control to avoid vast unwanted pregnancies. A better strategy would be to advocate for the adoption of anal sex and the anal only lifestyle as the default form of natural birth control instead.
It’s a good article overall, and while it’s not specifically advocating for people to go anal only, it’s still a very anal positive perspective that applies to those interested in anal exclusivity as well, and I encourage going to read the rest of the article as well.
Here, of course, I’ll go a step further and advise people to fully embrace the anal only lifestyle as their primary means of birth control rather than to compromise by continuing to have vaginal sex with condoms, etc. In addition to the natural birth control benefits of the anal only lifestyle, there are many other reasons for giving up vaginal sex and going anal only.
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