Category: Anal Advice

Posts containing advice about anal sex and the anal only lifestyle. For more general anal advice, see our Anal Sex Advice and Guide to the Anal Only Lifestyle page.


Reddit: Cleaning Before Anal

Are that many people doing a lot of prep before anal? Almost every thread I read there is talk of preparation, enemas etc..

My wife and I have been AO for 6 years now and I don’t think there has once been any sort of preparation on her end

He gets an assortment of responses, a selection of which are included below:

We are anal only, with my gf in vaginal chastity. We only do anal once or twice a week and she always gets enema when I decide to go condom-less. We have sexualised enemas itself and I administer it to her from time to time. I can’t even comprehend the idea of condom-less anal without proper prep.

Same here, no special prep. It’s extremely rare for there to be any mess when we have anal. Unless I’ve just had exceptional good luck with anal sex, I think the risk of mess is pretty overblown in most people’s minds. Obviously avoid doing it when there is something amiss like a stomach upset etc but we’re at it multiple times a week and I can’t remember the last time there was the slightest issue.

I’ve been AO for a long time and my prep is generally just so oil before hand. A good diet is the best for avoiding incidents.

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Discussion: My Wife is Suddenly Obsessed With Anal Sex

Dear Reverend,
My wife and I have been together for eight years. She’s suddenly become obsessed with having anal sex. The idea has always kind of grossed me out, so I’ve never tried it. I’m willing to give it a shot, but I’m worried that I’ll hurt her. Any tips?
Anally Anxious (male, 35)

Dear Anally Anxious,
First off, congratulations. Hearing about a long-term couple who wants to try new things and keep their sex life spicy warms the cockles of my heart.

Anal sex isn’t anything to freak out about. It might seem icky to some because we’re accustomed to the anus as an exit route for poop — but it’s also another hole we can stick things in for fun. Nothing gross should happen as long as there’s no train waiting to leave the station and the tracks are clean, if you know what I’m sayin’.

He then proceeds to provide a good but simple overview of advice on how to approach anal play and anal sex for mutual enjoyment. It’s always good to see anal positivity spreading openly in more traditional forms of media.

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Message: New Goal for an Anal Only Marriage

Anonymous: My girlfriend and I got together 6 years ago. She didn’t have much sexual experience when we met, but during those years, little by little, I got her into anal, then anal only, then strict clitoral denial, then casual ass to mouth, then finally orgasm denial (she still has anal orgasms occasionally, but they happen when they happen, I never get out of my way to cause them, and I don’t behave differently when they do).

To me, she’s now the perfect girlfriend, and I actually proposed her! We’re getting married in about three months.

So far, we always had goals in our relationship, and for our marriage, we’d like to try new goals… but I’m perfectly happy, so I’m not sure what I could add, haha! We both love all your blogs, and we wondered if you could suggest something, a new goal to start our marriage. That’d please us very much.

We’re monogamous, not into dirty play or water sports. You probably guessed that my girlfriend is submissive – she wasn’t at first, but she got more and more submissive (both in and out of bed) and slutty as soon as we started clitoral denial. It boomed even more after orgasm denial.

What would you suggest? Thanks, and keep up the good work!

It sounds like you have a wonderful relationship and a wonderful fiancée, thank you for sharing your experiences and your progress together.

Committing to an anal only marriage and a life of pure anal together seems a pretty great goal in and of itself, and having a ceremony of your own after the main wedding where you pledge anal only to each other is something that some anal only couples like to do.

Beyond that, it sounds like you’re at a pretty great place already and should enjoy your ideal relationship and sex life. If there isn’t anything that stands out as something that you’d really like to do, there’s nothing wrong with just enjoying what you have together.

If you wanted to push her anal limits, you could explore larger toys or double anal with you and a toy. If she doesn’t wear a plug regularly, you could introduce long term plug wear into your routine. You could talk with friends and couples you know about the anal only lifestyle and work together to try and encourage other people to experiment with it and discover its benefits as well. You could symbolize your commitment to the anal only lifestyle with a set of chastity piercings.

If you do settle on something, or have any other questions, don’t hesitate to share or ask.

Article: 6 Benefits of Anal Sex

According to a 2012 study by Indiana University, more people are having anal sex. While the 1990s only saw roughly one-quarter to one-third of men and women having tried anal, by 2009 that percentage had jumped to 40 to 45 percent. But while that may the case, anal sex is still, as Salon reported in 2012 “Science’s Last Taboo.” We know that some people are having it, but it’s not very likely that people are willing to talk about it. Somewhere between the poop rumors and the embarrassment of liking butt stuff, people go mum.

But, as is the case with sex in general, anal shouldn’t be a source of shame. Ever. If you like anal sex, you’re not the first or the last one to do so. Both men and women the world over enjoy anal play because it can be very pleasurable when done correctly. Although that’s a fact and I can find you easily a dozen women in the next 10 minutes who agree, anal sex has yet to really be embraced by the sexual mainstream. It’s on its way there, but it’s still inching along very slowly.

The article then goes on to list six benefits of anal sex and why you should be doing it if you aren’t already.

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Reddit: Tips and Opinions on Solo Play

It’s been two months since I haven’t used my dildo in my pussy. It’s now exclusively for anal play, and it’s been great. However, I haven’t had an orgasm just using it alone — I always have my nipple clamps on (an absolute must since I love the pain) and a vibrator on my clit, sometimes rubbing it with just my finger.

Do you have any tips to achieve orgasm with just solo anal play? I’m gonna try doing it tonight — firstly putting my nipple clamps on and then starting slowly with anal beads. After that I’ll go in with my dildo and try my best not to touch my clit. I can’t wait!

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Our Guide is an Ebook Now!

If you’ve followed us for a while, you’re probably familiar with our Guide to Anal Sex and the Anal Only Lifestyle, which has been a part of this website for the past year since moving off Tumblr.

It’s always going to be a freely available resource as part of this blog for those who want to learn more about anal sex and the anal only lifestyle, but I’m happy to announce that you can also purchase it in an ebook format through Amazon as well, if that’s how you prefer to do your reading!

It can be a good resource if you’re just getting started, and it can make a good gift for friends who might be interested in anal or going anal only. Either way, it helps support this blog and the greater anal only community.

And, if you’re looking for another way to support the anal only community, consider becoming a Patron!

Message: No Clit, Anal Only & 24/7 Butt Plug

Canan the Turkishwife: First of all, I apologize for my poor English. I’ve been anal only with my husband for 2 years. I haven’t touched my clitoris since May. I only do anal masturbation without touching my pussy and clit.

I’ve been wearing anal plugs on my ass 24/7. I have the right to remove anal plugs for no more than one hour a day. My husband fucks me in the ass every day, but he says it’s not enough. My husband wants me to be “Double Anal Only” now. He wants to fuck me without removing the anal plug. He wants me to wear a second anal plug after the fuck. Do you think I should do this to make him happy?

Is it something that you want to do? Everyone’s sexual and relationship dynamic is different, and it sounds like you have a dom/sub dynamic going on, but what you want can still matter as well.

Aside from whether it’s something you want to do, my concern would be that keeping two butt plugs in your ass would become uncomfortable fairly quickly, as they aren’t designed to be worn in that manner, and a better approach might be to go up in size to a larger plug that’s ergonomically designed but still is significantly larger.

And for double anal sex, that’s certainly something that many people are exploring and enjoying, though usually with two men or a man and a dildo, rather than a man and a butt plug. It’s no doubt possible, but might not be comfortable for either of you to do with a butt plug every time. If you’re interested, give it a try and see how it goes, but if it doesn’t work out very well, you could try it with a dildo instead alongside his penis.

Ultimately, I’d suggest trying it a few times, seeing how it works, and then if you do find something that works, commit to a month of it and see how things progress from there before committing to it fully.

Message: Colonics/Enemas Not Working as Effectively

Ana: Hi. I want to know if any woman in here who has done only anal sex for more than 3 years has stomach issues. Me and my partner have anal sex 5 days a week and everyday I am doing colonics to be clean. For a month now i have noticed that it doesn’t work so well anymore. I prep myself and when we have sex something happens and we get dirty and when we have sex my stomach sometimes hurts. It is someone here that can relate to my story? I really can use some advice . Thank you.

I’m sorry to hear that you’re having digestive/hygiene issues that are affecting your ability to enjoy anal. That’s something that can sometimes affect people, even if they’ve had no problem before. The causes can vary, and there are different things to try, but it will generally get better in time.

  • It’s possible that you have been impacted by a stomach virus or something similar which is affecting you at a lower level and that you need time to recover, especially if you’re noticing any other digestive issues. You could talk to your doctor about the issue and see if they can offer any assistance.
  • If you’ve made any dietary changes recently, that may be a factor. Try adding more fiber to your diet, whether through fiber supplements or natural dietary fiber. This can make a huge impact. Even if it hasn’t been an issue before, adding fiber is usually a positive thing for an anal only lifestyle.
  • You may consider backing off on the enemas somewhat—even if it wasn’t an issue before, for some people they can cause more of a mess or throw off the balance of healthy bacteria that help with the digestive process.

For more information on the above, see our guide to anal hygiene and how to have clean anal sex. It has additional details about fiber supplements and more. Good luck, and I hope everything works out for you and you’re able to get back into a clean anal routine!

Message: How Do I Let Him Know I Want Anal?

Beth: I’ve been married for a few months and my husband so badly wants to fuck my ass. He has fingered my ass during sex a few times and even rimmed me on our wedding night. He knows I’m open to it but he doesn’t quite know just how much it turns me on. He’s tried to rim my ass and press his cock into me but I’m much too tight and he’s much too endowed. I know there will have to be a little training before but I don’t really know how to start & I think he’s a little impatient. I purchased a butt plug and I wear it at least once a week when he isn’t home but I know it isn’t enough.

Do I just wear it and surprise him with it? Do I ask him to plug me next time things get heated? I just don’t know the best way to bridge the gap!

It sounds like your primary concern is not being ready enough, because it seems that you do want it as much or more than him, you just want to make sure that his impatience or him being overeager doesn’t hurt you and it’s an enjoyable experience for the both of you. Is that a fair assessment?

I’d suggest making the butt plug wear a much more frequent thing for you, and to start masturbating regularly while wearing the plug, as well as fingering your ass during masturbation. Our Guide to Anal Sex and the Anal Only Lifestyle has a section on Anal Training that provides more information that process. Once you’re comfortable doing it more regularly, I would also read the Guide to Having Anal Sex for the First Time and then decide if you want your husband to help train you the rest of the way before having sex or dive right into trying it with him.

Once you do want to admit your enthusiasm about trying it, I would just be open about it and tell him. He’ll love to hear that you want to do anal too, if he’s as excited as it seems about trying it with you. Communication is best for everyone. But you can also be wearing a plug when you tell him that, and show him, and he’ll love seeing that too!

Good luck, and I hope you have a wonderful time exploring anal together!

Message: Double Anal Only?

Clara: I’ve seen a few of your posts recently where you mentioned women going “double anal only”. Can you talk some more about that and how it works?

I’ve been anal only for four years myself, since I was 16, and I’ve done double anal every now and then during the past few years. I really like it and think it’s a lot of fun, and I think the idea of going double anal only, at least for a while, sounds pretty hot, but I don’t know how I would do it practically since it can be hard to find guys into it, even enough to do it regularly.

A general increase in interest in double anal is something I’ve been seeing over the past few years, and I know there are at least several women out there—no doubt many more who aren’t talking about it publicly—who practice double anal only lifestyles, or who have done so in the past.

Generally, these women fall into one of two categories:

  • those who have many different sex partners and who cultivate a group of guys who enjoy/prefer double anal until they have enough to always have some combination of at least two guys at any time
  • those who are in a relationship and/or live with at least two partners full time and so always have two guys available for their ass at all times

Now, these aren’t always the easiest scenarios to bring about for everyone, but if you’re really motivated to make a double anal only lifestyle work for you, especially if it’s something you’ve been able to do from time to time before, chances are you’ll be able to figure it out and find some guys into the idea. You can always start doing it just for a month or so at first, and see where it goes from there.