Category: Anal Advice

Posts containing advice about anal sex and the anal only lifestyle. For more general anal advice, see our Anal Sex Advice and Guide to the Anal Only Lifestyle page.


Message: Anal Multiple Times a Day

Anonymous: Hello. I’ve been with my husband for about three years and a half now, we’ve been married for about two years. When we met, I had never done anal, but he gradually introduced me to it. At one point, we were doing it quite often (every time we had sex, in fact), and that’s when he confessed to me that he was anal only, and that he only did vaginal sex with me in hope it’d change and I’d agree to switch to anal only with him. I tried anal only for a few months, and I finally agreed to switch. He asked me for marriage very shortly after that (I was 28), obviously I agreed (he’s gorgeous, I’m very much in love, and I really enjoy anal). It was a bit strange to think I’d nearly have no vaginal sex for the rest of my life, but eventually it became normal to me.

My husband is a blue collar worker, and he’s usually very tired when he comes home from work, so we generally fuck about three to four times a week. With the virus outbreak, however, we’re both trapped home, and he’s fucking me every day – several times a day, actually, up to four times a day. It’s to the point I woke up in bed several times with his cock deep inside my ass, plowing me while I was asleep. I’m not used to this at all, but I don’t want to turn him down: sex is a very good way for him to get the stress out – so far, everything is going fine at home despite the situation, and I want it to stay that way. I tried getting him off with blowjobs, but he’s always going after my ass no matter what.

What could I do to avoid being sore, and to be able to take it all? Apparently, this crisis will last for quite some time, and I’m not sure I’ll be able to provide anal sex at that frequency for that long. So far, I don’t feel sore and I’m having pleasure, but I’m a bit worried. Are there creams I could use? Will I gape permanently? My husband marvels about the gape I have lately and he jokes about it, but I’m worried about my ass not being able to close properly in the long term. How could I increase my sex drive to get closer to his? I talked to him about it a bit, and he told me to stop touching myself (I still touch my clit during sex, even if it has always annoyed him) – would that change anything?

Thank you for your work and for your answer.

Thank you for sharing, and it sounds like you have a great anal only relationship. Well done to the both of you for being able to make it work.

Daily anal, even multiple times a day like you’re doing right now, can be entirely manageable and safe, so long as your body is ready and adjusted to it. If it doesn’t hurt and you aren’t sore, then there’s nothing really to worry about. Listen to your body. If you start getting sore, maybe try a little less for a couple days. But really, once you get to where you can have anal four times a day every day, or more, without pain or significant soreness, you should be able to keep doing that indefinitely. Yes, you will likely relax more as a result and have a bigger gape, because your ass is staying more warmed up, but that is not a bad thing and if you take a break from it, it will get tighter again. And remember, being warmed up and relaxed does not mean being loose. It just means that you’re more flexible and elastic and need less preparation. It sounds like your husband appreciates you being warmed up and gaping, so it’s not a bad thing at all! It won’t harm you, so long as you aren’t injuring yourself, and if it doesn’t hurt, you aren’t.

As for higher sex drive, definitely try going without clit play and focusing on pure anal pleasure. If you can orgasm just from anal, try doing only that going forward. If you can’t, try to learn by going without clit stimulation for a while. Or if you really need to cum, use your clit the last time you have sex at the end of the day only. You could also try edging with your clit but not using it to actually orgasm.

Good luck to the both of you, especially in this trying time. With any luck you’ll be able to use the time to get closer and further develop and improve your anal only lifestyle in ways that you’ll both be able to enjoy for the rest of your lives!

Discussion: Anal Sex After Hemorrhoids?

I’ve been dating a new guy for 6 months or so. The sex is terrific. He’s very relaxed and sex positive. He is very sensitive around his anus and loves for me to play with it. He also loves mine. So we’ve starting talking about anal sex. I told him that I used to do it quite a bit with my husband 15 or so years ago. He asked, why did you stop? and I really had to think about it – so long ago – I said I thought we were just in a phase and then we lost interest.

Well… I suddenly remembered WHY we stopped. 15 years ago I had my 3rd and last baby. During that pregnancy I had terrible hemorrhoids. They cleared up years ago and I can’t remember the last time they bothered me. However, having hemorrhoids stretches out the tissues, and now I’m a little worried about being, well, ruined back there.

Has anyone else dealt with this? I guess I could “test things out” with a dildo or vibrator. The whole thought of it is making me nervous which I know moves things in the wrong direction. I’m not feeling forced into this. I really want to try it! But I also want it to go well.

Any thoughts? Suggestions?

CaptCorriander

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Article: Can Anal Sex Be Romantic?

There’s a difference between the question of whether anal sex can be romantic and whether anal sex is romantic for me. Although I personally don’t find anal sex romantic or desirable, I have no difficulty acknowledging that for some people, it can be very romantic. Like most things in life, romance is subjective.

Why not? Romance means different things to different people. As long as we are talking about consenting adults where everyone’s needs are being met and everyone’s boundaries are being respected, anything goes. Not everyone enjoys anal sex or finds it romantic, but not everyone enjoys a box of chocolates and a bouquet of roses either.

Romance is not reserved for the vagina. Besides, not everyone has a vagina anyway, and not everyone wants one either, and that’s wonderful. Society is finally approaching a point where we realize that sex and romance is about more than inserting Tab A into Slot B, where “Tab A” equals the penis, and “Slot B” is the vagina.

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Article: Anal Sex — Pregnant?

A worried boyfriend asks an advice column:

Dear Alice,

Last night, my girlfriend and I had anal sex without a condom. She is a virgin.

Is there a probability for her to get pregnant?

I would appreciate a lot your help.

Signed,
Worried Boy

And he gets an excellent and informed response:

Strictly speaking, sperm entering the anus can’t lead to pregnancy. The only way someone might possibly become pregnant from anal play is if ejaculated semen is near the vulva or vaginal opening and that semen happens to work its way upwards into vagina. Otherwise, there is no chance of conception with anal sex. Is there more to learn more about the anatomy involved? Butt of course!

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Share the Anal Only Lifestyle With Friends

With Anal Only April coming up in a few days, it’s an excellent time to remind everyone that the anal only lifestyle isn’t just something that you should enjoy on your own—it’s also something that you can open up to friends about, if you’re comfortable doing so, and share the benefits with them too.

We live in a time where a growing number of people really love and enjoy anal, but many haven’t yet considered the idea of going anal only, and may not even realize the many benefits that can come from the lifestyle and choice to replace vaginal sex fully with anal.

With so much differing information out there, comments, advice and encouragement from friends about anal and anal only can hold more weight and actually inspire those you know to give it a try.

Especially now, in a world increasingly spending most of its time indoors and in isolation for the foreseeable future, existing couples have a lot of time together on their hands, and it can be a good opportunity to explore new things and spice up their sex life with a month or two experiment in going anal only. If you know anyone who might benefit from it, be sure to encourage them, and share why it’s been so great for you and how they might enjoy or prefer it themselves.

In addition to the benefits to them if they find they do enjoy it, you will benefit not only by having a more open relationship with your friends, but by having other anal only couples to share with and confide in, building up your own local community of anal only enthusiasts.

Reddit: Anal Orgasms

I’ve done anal before welll a few times. I guess I’m curious if there are others who find or struggle with having/reaching an orgasm through/from anal?

analonlynz

An assortment of responses:

I’ve never had an orgasm from solely anal and I’ve been AO for a long time. It’s become my preference honestly.

KaraBear_94

It only took me a couple weeks of increased anal only and ignoring my clit. It happens when I get relaxed enough to let him REALLY pound me harder and faster. To be able to take that I wear a somewhat large plug for hours every day. The orgasm feels really good. There will suddenly be a big increase in how good the stimulation feels and then like a full body wave of pleasure. It subsides without a sharp peak feeling that would normally make me want to stop all stimulation. It’s great to feel that wave of extreme pleasures and then want to keep going.

thepetgirl

It seems to be a 50/50 deal with my partners. (Me male, them female)

Either they dont enjoy anal and cant get any pleasure from it at all, or it makes them orgasm anywhere from 1-4 times a session. The second type of girl is a gift from heaven.

Try different positions. I have found doggy is easier to do for them pain wise, but rarely if ever does it cause orgasms. Try ditching the bed and do it on the floor. While its not as comfortable on the knees, your butt might thank you for the deeper connection and your back will bend easier for proper entry. Trust me, he will thank you also.

Best success by far is with the seashell position (basically missionary on back with legs raised. The pressure according to partners gives the most full filling possible). Most of the time i have ever made a woman orgasm is this way. This is tougher to pull off for less experienced couples but well worth the difficulty curb in my humble opinion of only really being interested in anal with a woman since i was interested in sex.

Also prone boning (women lays flat face down) has a high learning curve, but does create some orgasms for both partners. One more recommendation if you are spry enough and the height differential isnt too off is standing anal. Its tough to orgasm for a male, but its really kinky and some women have found it exciting enough to get off.

You may require clitoral stimulation. You may need to try other positions. You may need to build some more confidence with it. You may just not be able to orgasm from it. That’s all fine and great. The fact that you would do this for a man makes you a superstar

kakarott1224

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Message: Anal Only Hypnos

Jay: Do you know where I can find anal only hypnos with women? I’m a FTM Transman who wants to try to be anal only in april and I’m looking for hypnos to watch while anal masturbating.

There isn’t a ton of content out there, but there are a few which you can find by searching Google for “anal only hypnos”. The first ones that come up in such a search are about the only ones that truly contain inspirational/hypno-style text.

Otherwise, the bulk of the content available is anal/anal only PMVs (Porn Music Videos), which can serve a similar purpose but generally don’t include text.

Anal Only in the Time of COVID-19

As we are practicing social distancing and even quarantine during the COVID-19 global pandemic, it’s being noted that there will likely be an increase of births starting in 9 months from all the couples cooped up in their homes together with nothing to do but have sex.

Now, more than ever, it’s important to practice the anal only lifestyle and use anal sex’s role as natural birth control to avoid unwanted pregnancies. The global population is already out of control as it is, let alone the risks of being pregnant during a pandemic or giving birth while the health care system is already massively stressed.

Please be careful and stay safe.

Forum: Anyone Else Not Use Lube?

BWS19 on the Anal Only Lifestyle forum asks:

Me and my Partner are anal only by choice and convenience but we have something in common. we don’t really like to use lube as it gets rid of a lot of friction and feeling inside for us. some days when shes just naturally wide open we can get in no lube other times we need a bit and it does steal some feeling for us and make it messier sometimes but does anybody else do or like this or is it uncommon

And one of several responses:

While initially we used lube, many years Of anal now means that my wife’s a master of relaxing and letting me in. Just a little natural pre-cum – a drop or two – and then I’m sliding in balls deep.

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