Category: Anal Advice

Posts containing advice about anal sex and the anal only lifestyle. For more general anal advice, see our Anal Sex Advice and Guide to the Anal Only Lifestyle page.


Message: Anal Only to Stay Virgin?

EllaV: Hi, I found your site because I was searching for a solution to what I want and I think this might be it. I am a virgin and I really want to stay that way, it’s not because of my family or religion really, just something that I want for myself because I don’t like the idea of vaginal sex or getting pregnant until I’m ready, so I’d like to not have vaginal sex until then which will be a long time. But I also am really horny and have been dating so I would like to have sex, and anal only seems like a good way to do it.

I started fingering myself last week and I like how it feels. How long do I need to practice for until I can try anal sex with my boyfriend? He’s been pushing for sex lately and I want to be able to give it to him but I want it to be safe too!

I agree that it’s a good solution for staying a vaginal virgin and I definitely support the idea of not having vaginal sex outside of reproductive goals and only doing anal and oral otherwise! I think that’s a trend we’re going to be seeing more and more of so that we can start to take control of our lives away from the risk of reproduction through sex and turn sex into something that serves us instead through anal only. Sex is healthy and good and should be done regularly but it shouldn’t be vaginal, it should be anal.

I encourage fingering yourself until you can fit three fingers without it hurting and then get a butt plug around that thickness or a little bigger and work to be able to wear that. From there you could either try a dildo similar size to your boyfriend or just work towards anal together with him at that point if he’s patient and gentle and won’t just push it in.

Also be sure to talk with him about your goal to be anal only and that you want to keep your pussy virgin and unused and make sure that he’s on board with this idea as well. The last thing you want is him not understanding and going for your pussy instead.

Good luck and enjoy! You’re going to love being anal only.

If You Haven’t Tried Ass To Mouth, Here’s Why You Should

Even among the more experienced anal lovers and anal only enthusiasts there are those who are hesitant to try performing oral sex after anal sex. As such, there are many who miss out on the joys and benefits of doing ass to mouth!

Common concerns include fears that it is unhygienic and unsafe, or that it’s unpleasant and will taste bad. However, so long as you take basic precautions to have clean anal sex and only perform it on partners who have penetrated yourself, there are few health or safety concerns. Similarly, most people who do it find that it actually tastes really nice when clean and genuinely enjoy doing it.

Ass to Mouth is Sexy and Fun!

For many people, the appeal of ass to mouth is that it really turns them and their partner on. Part of that can be due to its perception as something that not as many people do, while another aspect is the general appeal of sexual openness and open-mindedness, where someone willing to put their partner’s penis in their mouth after it’s been in their anus becomes more attractive and appealing as a result.

A lot of women who start doing it say that it makes them feel sexier and turn them on, so it’s not just about pleasing your partner—it can be lots of fun for you too!

It Can Taste Great Too!

The taste and flavor, despite what one might expect, is actually very good if you’re clean. It can have an earthy and sweet taste to it, and women who do it regularly find themselves getting addicted to it, not just to the sexy and slutty act, but to the flavor itself.

It Boosts Intimacy Further

Anal and going anal only already relies heavily on trust and results in significant increases of sexual intimacy as a result, and ass to mouth just takes that a step further, with a very open expression of acceptance of one’s own body and of each other as you share even further by adding oral after anal into the mix.

Message: Orgasms in the Anal Only Lifestyle

Anonymous: Dear Sir

I wrote to you last June asking for advice on becoming anal only for my Master. First, a huge thank you. Your advice was great and i am officially an anal only slut since April. It feels amazing to say that and my Master is so proud of me. Second, i would like to get your opinion on something. What is your stance on orgasms in the anal only lifestyle? My Master never allowed me to orgasm freely and always made sure i earned it. But since i am anal only it feels wrong to ask for clitoral stimulation (my only way to orgasm). I still want to orgasm but it just does not feel right. Do you have any advice?

Thanks for your guidance and your blog. 

humbly honey 

Thank you for following up! You’re quite welcome, and I’m glad to hear that you have decided to officially go anal only and are loving the experience! Ultimately, that’s what matters most, that you and your partner want it and are happy with it, and if so, then by all means, being anal only is what you should do!

As for orgasms, I’m all for them personally, but each person has their own individual preferences and goals. Excluding clit stimulation can certainly help with amplifying anal pleasure and arousal even further, and if that also works with your dynamic of orgasm denial, then I encourage continuing to explore it further. You may discover that after an extended period of time without clit stimulation, you can start to orgasm from anal penetration on its own!

Article: Moms Are Confessing About “Butt Stuff”

For some moms, anal sex is still a big ol’ mystery they might be ready to solve…and for others, well, they’re pros

No matter how you like your salad tossed, there’s a mom out there who’s done it and is ready to help anyone who’s curious about…”butt stuff.” Anal sex and foreplay are a very common part of the bedroom scene for many couples — and sometimes, you don’t even need a partner to enjoy it!

Some moms are very into it — these are the pros. The people who know exactly how to utilize their rear in the right way. Some moms are more novice and are just exploring their own curiosity about what you do, how far you can go, what they like, what’s a big NO, etc.

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Message: Stinging When Trying Anal?

Anonymous: When I have anal sex or use a butt plug, it stings and continues to whenever I try anything for a few days. Do you have any suggestions so I can try anal more often without it hurting?

It sounds like you may need to warm up a bit more, starting with lots of lube and gentle massage to gradually work your anus open with fingers, then progressing to a small toy. If it stings, you may be tearing it slightly by going too quickly.

Once you get to where you can use a toy without it stinging, try using it regularly, at least part of each day, and that will help you to stay relaxed and warmed up without risking injury. Even a minor injury can become irritated and last longer if it keeps happening or isn’t allowed to heal, so do what it takes to warm up without pain and you’ll enjoy long term satisfaction of anal sex!

Talk to Your Friends About Anal Only

Are you someone who enjoys anal sex and the anal only lifestyle and practices it yourself in your personal life? Has going anal only changed your life for the better and made your sex life more rewarding and fulfilling?

Why not talk about it with your friends as well and encourage them to try it too? If they haven’t tried anal yet, give them advice on how to do it properly. If they enjoy anal regularly but also do vaginal, have them try a month of anal only to start learning why it’s better to be anal only rather than just doing anal along with vaginal.

In the end, you’ll not only help others discover the joys and benefits of anal only, you’ll have a group of friends who can all support each other in your collective anal only life.

Forum: Do You Get Enough From Anal?

Once a girl on social media told me That she enjoy masturbating/playing/fucking/hard-fucking her ass all the day .. and then a question came up in my mind, as the anal has no orgasm ( except the clitoral one ) do you get enough getting your ass fucked ?
Excuse my Bad english and have a healthy anal only Lifestyle

Adoomit.hinner, Anal Only Lifestyle forum

You can, in fact, have pure anal orgasms, and they’re much more powerful for someone who enjoys being penetrated than genital orgasms.

Also, they don’t give you libido crash, you’re still horny even right after an anal orgasm, and anal orgasms last very long, meaning having your ass fucked AFTER an orgasm feels incredibly good, and can lead to other anal orgasms, etc. Which means you can, in fact, fuck your ass all day and have incredible sexual pleasure.

Samy, Anal Only Lifestyle forum

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Forum: Just a Little Disappointed

We’ve never made it a full week doing anal only. I think 5 days has been our max and then he’s back to my pussy and my ass gets ignored for many months.

For years before we met, I fantasize about being someone’s little anal slut and having my pussy ignored completely. That doesn’t seem like an option right now but does anyone have advice on convincing him to try this for more than just a few days?

CuriousKitten, Anal Only Lifestyle forum

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Article: Learning to Love Anal Sex

It’s perfectly normal to be anxious or apprehensive about anal sex. After all, that area deals with some pretty, non-sexy situations. However, anal sex can be so pleasurable and is absolutely worth trying out, keep in mind things can go wrong if not done properly. Here are a few tips to make sure it has positive outcomes:

1. Talk It Over With Your Partner

Anal sex is not something that just spontaneously happens. Some people are very uncomfortable with the thought of anything entering their anus. This means, as a couple, you need to have a conversation and determine if it’s the right time for the two of you to try it out. This conversation should not happen fifteen minutes before trying anal sex! This is a conversation that should happen days, maybe even weeks before.

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Message: I Already Only Want Anal

Anonymous: Well, it’s official, Anal Only April isn’t even over and I’m already feeling like I only want to do anal and not do vaginal anymore. I saw your and other posts saying that would happen but I didn’t really believe it, I’ve always liked getting my pussy fucked too, but it’s like this past week something changed and I lost interest in my pussy and really want to stay anal only now! I don’t even understand it but I honestly kind of love it.

That’s pretty common and normal! Vaginal urges stick around for a while like a bad habit but over time as you transition into anal only, your desire to have anything to do with your pussy goes away really quickly. Stick with it, resist any short term urges, and you’ll happily stay anal only for good!