Category: Anal Advice

Posts containing advice about anal sex and the anal only lifestyle. For more general anal advice, see our Anal Sex Advice and Guide to the Anal Only Lifestyle page.


The Depth of Anal is a Hidden Advantage

A somewhat under-appreciated advantage of anal sex over vaginal is the increase in depth that the rectum can provide over the vagina, and the fact that with a little practice and training it can be possible to go deeper than the rectum.

While women with shorter vaginal canals can experience discomfort or pain from a penis reaching the end and impacting their cervix, the rectum is generally longer to begin with and can allow for complete penetration, even with a partner on the longer side.

Depth play can be a lot of fun

When first exploring beyond the end of the rectum into the colon, it can be best to do so with a thin, flexible dildo that bends and helps to temporarily straighten out the bend at the top end of the rectum that acts as a valve for the bottom end of the colon. Because it is a sharp bend, trying to force something past it without practicing at first can cause pain or discomfort or even risk injury, so it’s best to explore it with something suitably soft and flexible first.

Colon penetration unlocks new potential

Once you get started, and learn what it takes to get into your colon, it can lead to a whole new level of fun for masturbation and ultimately sex. The sensation of feeling a toy or penis pop through the bend can be incredibly pleasurable and even orgasmic for some women, and the ability to get fucked all the way through your rectum into your colon can be very satisfying mentally as well as provide for a well-endowed partner to fit fully inside if he doesn’t fit in your rectum on its own.

Deep ejaculation provides health benefits

Another major advantage of exploring colon penetration is that if you enjoy keeping semen inside longer term for its various health and mood-enhancing benefits, ejaculating deeper into the colon will help to keep it inside of you for longer without leaking out, because it will be kept behind the valve at the bend between rectum and colon and allow it to be absorbed over a longer period of time.

If you haven’t experimented with anal depth play, and are looking for a new frontier, give it a try!

Submission: How a Carnivore Diet Allowed Me to go Anal Only

Dear anal lovers, if you feel too much pain during anal, this might help.

I am a very happy slave to my Owner and we’ve been together for over 4 years now (I am 23). Since we met I tried to please him with my ass as much as possible, since he wanted to explore anal in many ways. But no matter how hard I tried, I ALWAYS felt more pain than I should.

I did everything, from relaxing to different forms of lube. And my Owner is extremely caring, patient and experienced. So we really did not understand what was wrong, since only about 10% of our attempts resulted in some “OK” anal sex. The other 90% of the time I felt BAD shivers and pain in my rectum, as if my rectum itself was hurt inside. My anus was ok on the outside, the problem was inside.

So after many years, due to a serious health issue, I had to do some deep research and talk to some specialists and discovered keto diet. After researching some more and trying keto for a while, which I did not enjoy at all, I started going full carnivore and my health issue (an auto immune problem) was gone.

But what we did not expect was that as soon as I went full carnivore, my rectum didn’t hurt anymore. It was like magic and trust me, we had been trying every month since we met, so the difference was huge. And I did not just stop feeling the awful shivers but all of a sudden I started REALLY loving the feeling of anal sex for the first time in my life, to the point that I was BEGGING him to fuck me in the ass instead of my pussy.

I used to be very sad because I couldn’t please him anally and now, after all this time, he decided (and I loved it) to be anal only for some time and see how we feel. It’s been a month and a half and we are LOVING it. I never thought this would be even possible and everything changed because of my diet.

So please, if you struggle with pain in your rectum during anal, consider changing your diet instead of just believing that plants and fibers are the solution for everything, because that is what was making me sick in the first place. Carnivore diet saved my life and also changed everything in my sex life for the best. Just keep your minds open and research a lot. I hope this helps you as it helped me.

Honey Doom

Forum: How to Convince my Religious Husband to go Anal Only?

My husband enjoys anal sex but feels guilty afterwards due to his religious beliefs. I absolutely love anal and want to move away from pussy, but he feels it’s wrong and that we should not do it anymore. I keep enticing him and get my way, but after he starts with pussy. He loves my tight ass and says it feels better but continues to be resistant to it. What should I do? Any tips? Any other AO lovers with similar problem? I want his cock in my ass every day, I want to orgasm anally only and want to abandon boring pussy fucking. Help!!!!

Jess for anal, Anal Only Lifestyle forum

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Article: Anal Is the New Birth Control

I know it sounds like a joke, but I am completely serious. Anal sex really is one of my birth control methods of choice.

It’s not something they’ll teach you in high school sex ed, and the nurse who doles out condoms and advice about the morning after pill probably won’t recommend it, but I’ve used this method in my teenage years and in my married life and it’s proven to be both reliable and fun.

Now, of course, I know I didn’t invent this. Christian teens have long been rumored to use anal sex as a way of avoiding vaginal penetration. And although I don’t have any religious reasons for doing it, I salute them for blazing the trail.

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The Dangers of Clit Stimulation

While many women regularly indulge in clit stimulation and clit orgasms as part of their sex life, and in fact a majority of women who have vaginal sex rely on their clit in order to orgasm since 1/3 or less of women are capable of orgasming from vaginal sex, there are many disadvantages and even dangers of using your clit, especially when compared to anal orgasms.

Clit Orgasms Suppress Arousal

While this doesn’t affect everyone in the same way, many women experience a crash after clit orgasms, where their arousal levels drop and they generally lose interest in continuing any sexual activities, as well as their sex organs often becoming very sensitive to the touch.

This is often combined with a mood crash as well, with some even reporting that it can contribute to depression for them. Again, everyone has different effects, but these effects can be so common that many women just think of them as a normal part of sex and orgasm, when that doesn’t have to be the case.

This is also the reason that edging and orgasm denial appeal so much to many women, because it boosts and maintains arousal levels without the orgasm itself causing that happier and more sexual state to be suppressed. But, orgasm denial isn’t the only option!

Clit Addiction Makes Anal Orgasms More Difficult

A common goal for anal only women is to achieve anal orgasms, and studies show that far more women are able to have anal orgasms than from vaginal.

But, if you have a strongly established habit and addiction to clit stimulation, where you have a very hard time resisting it and rely strongly on it for all orgasms, it can be more difficult to adjust to orgasms from other sources, including anal orgasms. Your body can become habituated to clit stimulation as the only way it knows how to orgasm, especially if clit orgasms come easily to you, and other stimulation can take a backseat to it.

By foregoing clit stimulation for a while, and focusing on anal penetration only, you can start to unlock those other paths to orgasm, and with practice anal orgasm can start to come very easily!

Of course, for some women, they can naturally orgasm very easily from anal to begin with with and it’s less of a challenge to switch to anal only orgasms.

Clit Stimulation Distracts From Natural Anal Centrism

Part of the advantage of going anal only is that by eliminating vaginal penetration, you’re focusing all your stimulation on anal and really learning to maximize its pleasure, which is already more intense and gives a stronger feeling of fullness, and becomes better without the distraction of vaginal penetration. The longer you go anal only, the better sex keeps getting, as commonly reported by many anal only couples when they check in on the forum and give updates on their years of anal only.

The same is true for clit stimulation, and while you can certainly be anal only without eliminating clit stimulation entirely, it’s a much deeper pleasure and satisfaction to stop clit play as well, and really maximizes the commitment to pure anal pleasure without feeling like your pussy and clit are still holding you back. At first, it can be a difficult urge to resist, but in time, transitioning all your stimulation and pleasure to anal just feels natural, and you’ll stop reaching for your clit.

Anal Orgasms Have None of These Negatives

Clit denial is not the same thing as orgasm denial, and as mentioned above, it can make anal orgasms easier to regularly experience. And the strong advantage of this is that anal orgasms don’t have those same downsides for most women.

  • Anal orgasms feel more full body rather than centered in one area specifically
  • Anal orgasms usually don’t cause an arousal crash at the same level as clit orgasms, and in some women can actually boost arousal, which in either case makes it possible to continue having sex and wanting to keep going as much as possible and getting multiple orgasms in a session
  • Anal orgasms usually don’t cause mood crashes and typically leave one feeling higher and happier afterwards
  • Anal orgasms usually don’t cause increased super-sensitivity to where genital or anal contact and continuing to have sex becomes uncomfortable

As with anything, there are some women for whom the above may not be true, but most women are able to enjoy anal orgasms with minimal side effects compared to clit orgasms, and the only thing holding someone back from continuing to have orgasm after orgasm is their partner’s stamina and their physical energy.

So, if you’re considering trying clit denial, go for it. The advantages are well worth the initial challenges.

Message: How to Tell New Boyfriend I’m Anal Only? Pt. II

Anonymous: Hi! I wrote to you four weeks ago, I think. I’ve been taught about anal sex (and sex in general) by my very first boyfriend (we only did anal for the whole time, for a year and a half), then we broke up recently (not because of sex). I’m dating a new boyfriend, but I discovered that the idea of vaginal sex scared me (just him touching my pussy through my jeans gave me anxiety), and I didn’t know how to tell him I wanted to continue having anal sex only. Because of this, I only gave him blowjobs, but he was growing impatient for more, so I asked your advice, which you gave. You asked me to let you know how it went, so I’m writing back.

Just after I wrote to you, I thought I was an idiot: like I told you, my ex introduced me to anal sex by saying he was scared of pregnancy but didn’t want to use condoms or other contraceptives (I keep thinking it was an excuse to get me into anal, but whatever), so the solution appeared to me: I just had to use my ex’s excuses!

When I started explaining this to my boyfriend, I got very nervous about his reaction, I was afraid he’d think I’m a slut, so I added what you advised me to say: that I’d love to do anal and oral with him as often as he wants, and that he can have anal sex with me all the time and cum in my ass without any fear of pregnancy.

I was scared he’d reject me, but he smiled broadly, said he didn’t expect this at all from me or my ex (they’re good friends), then he hugged and kissed me, caressing my ass. It was a huge relief to feel his hands on my ass and not my pussy: you have to know I chose not to experience sex by myself, I wanted to discover it romantically with a boyfriend, and my ex never touched my pussy, so my genitals basically never received any sort attention.

We made love right away, and it went well. My boyfriend’s bigger than my ex, and he’s much rougher when he fucks, but it didn’t cause me any trouble, my ass adjusted very well to him. At one point, I felt that I was a little dry, so I did what my ex taught me to do: I pulled out, then I sucked his cock to lube it up with saliva. This drove my boyfriend crazy: he swore loudly, then grabbed my head firmly and started fucking my throat while calling me names, then he came with a lot of cum down my throat. It’s a good thing my ex taught me how to handle this (he did it pretty often), or I would have choked for sure.

He later apologized, he said that me sucking his cock after it’s been in my ass caught him off guard. This surprised me, since my ex told me any guy into anal sex would expect this, that it was just normal behaviour.

Anyway, we’ve been having sex very regularly since, and everything is going well. My boyfriend explains much less things than my ex, he’s not licking my ass at all, and he’s always fucking me doggy style, but I really enjoy sex with him.

Yesterday, though, he surprised me. He told me he talked a lot with my ex since we started having sex, that they shared their experiences, and it brought them a lot closer. Then, he asked me if I’d be OK with a threesome.

Like I said, I’m a romantic, so I was a bit shocked, I didn’t know what to say. He said he’d let me think about it. On one hand, I’m still shocked: I’m his girlfriend, and I’ve only had two lovers so far, so getting into threesomes now somehow hurts my values. But on the other, we’re all quite close, and I really loved sex with my ex. Besides, my boyfriend is less experienced than my ex, so maybe a threesome would teach him a few things. And finally, I’m not comfortable with the idea of saying “no” to my boyfriend: after all he’s my boyfriend, and I told him what you advised me to say, that he could do anal and oral with me as often as he wants – what if he’s disappointed?

What do you think I should do? I’m confused.

My boyfriend told me that if I’m OK with it, they could try double penetration. Do you have any advice?

I’m glad to hear that things worked out well for you and that your new boyfriend accepted you being anal only. It’s great that you’re able to enjoy anal and oral sex together without having to worry about him trying or wanting vaginal sex, and I’m sure he’s very happy with the arrangement as well!

As for a threesome, it really comes down to whether you want it or not. It sounds like part of you does while another part does not. I can’t really tell you what you should do in that case, you’ll have to reconcile the two halves of yourself and decide what will be best for you. Will having sex with your ex boyfriend along with your new boyfriend ultimately cause tension in your relationship, or will it bring you all closer together? Do you want to explore multiple partners or do you strictly want to stick to one partner at a time? Sex with multiple partners can be a lot of fun for some people, while other people don’t like it. And while some of that may come down to experimenting and figuring out whether you’ll actually enjoy it or not, some people just aren’t interested in even starting, and there’s nothing wrong with that.

When you boyfriend suggested the three of you try double penetration, what specifically is he referring to? If he means they can have anal and oral sex with you at the same time, that can definitely be something fun to try. If he means they can have double anal sex where they both penetrate your anus together simultaneously, that’s definitely a more advanced activity but a lot of women love how it feels and say it’s much more intense than just regular anal. But, if he’s suggesting one of them penetrate your anus and the other your vagina, then that wouldn’t be anal only and I wouldn’t suggest doing that nor would I expect that you want it. If that’s what he means, I’d say you aren’t interested in double penetration.

Hope that helps, and I’m sure we’ll all be interested in hearing what you decide to do and how things progress! Good luck.

Message: My No Pussy November Goals

Ann: I will be doing No Pussy November with my husband, and our goal is to not have vaginal sex or for me to have any clit stimulation. We want to use this month to try it and see if we can make it work full time, and if we can, we plan to stay anal only.

We both prefer anal but have continued doing vaginal at times when anal has been harder to do or required more work and we were lazy and we want to stop accepting that as an excuse.

Glad to hear that you’re taking part! I hope that you have a great time with it and are able to establish an anal only routine that keeps you from feeling the need to return to vaginal sex.

Frequent plug wear, a good diet/hygiene routine, and having anal sex regularly can very much minimize most needs for preparation, and makes anal only a lot more feasible.

No Pussy November 2020

It’s here! A month of pure anal only sex and your opportunity to challenge yourself to see what it’s all about or to try new things related to the anal only lifestyle.

After eight years in a row, No Pussy November still remains our flagship month each year to celebrate anal sex, the anal only lifestyle, and to encourage new people who aren’t yet anal only to challenge themselves to trying it for a solid month and seeing what it’s like.

If you’re new to the anal only lifestyle and you want to give it a try, this is a great time and way to do it! Talk with your partner now in advance of November and make sure you’re both on board with the idea, or if you’re single and want to try it with toys, get yourself to the point where you’re comfortable with anal masturbation on a regular basis—at least 3 to 5 times a week, if not every day.

If you’re already anal only, there are plenty of other things that you can try as a No Pussy November challenge this year!

  • If you still use clitoral stimulation, you can challenge yourself to stop and focus purely on anal pleasure and anal orgasms. The more you go without your clit and rely on anal only to orgasm, the easier anal orgasms get!
  • If you aren’t wearing a butt plug regularly, you can challenge yourself to wear one at some increased interval, or to spend the entire month plugged as often as possible. If you want to reach the latter goal but aren’t quite there yet, you could work yourself up to that point over the course of the month.
  • You can challenge yourself to make ass to mouth a regular part of your sex life, normalizing it by doing it every time you have sex this November.
  • You can start to introduce double anal to your sex life, either through play with two dildos, a partner and a dildo, or two partners.

Along the lines of that latter idea, for those who are particularly interested or experienced with double anal, we’re introducing an official advanced challenge this year: Double Anal Only November, where those who want to or are able to masturbate regularly with two dildos in their ass or have double anal sex regularly spend the entire month only having double anal sex every time they have sex. Naturally, this is going to be somewhat limited to people who have multiple partners who want to have double anal with them, but you can also participate by always using a toy along with their partner to achieve double anal, or by masturbating with a minimum of two toys in your ass at a time.

What are your plans? Let us know!

Message: How to Make Girlfriend Obsessed With Ass to Mouth

Anonymous: I have been blessed with a submissive girlfriend who loves anal and does not mind giving me a blowjob afterwards. We have however not done that much talking about it in bed; my penis sometimes changes from her ass to her mouth, no mention of where it has been before.

During our play session last night I put that into words; “you are doing ass-to-mouth”. We both agreed that it was incredibly hot so I want to continue exploring that path with her. I want to see if I can make her obsessed with doing ass to mouth. To the point of her not cleaning my dick after anal sex would be a punishment. Having her beg me to fuck her just so she can taste it.

Do you have any suggestions for how to ‘train’ or influence her?

Thank you for a wonderfully inspiring community and the work you put into it.

I’d suggest just making it a regular habit, talking about it more overtly, and starting to phrase it as being a reward or treat for her. Especially if she really enjoys this additional focus of calling attention to it, it will very likely boost her arousal and build the association of always doing ass to mouth so that not doing it would be abnormal for her.

Message: Infection Scare

Anonymous: I have an uncircumcised penis of length 5.6″ and will it be ok for anal sex ? will analingus, anal penetration, cunnilingus and felatio go one after the other during sex and which lubricant is best for anal sex?

Circumcised and uncircumcised penises are both fine for anal sex, and you just need to wash after sex and urinate.

The order of sexual activities is largely up to you and your partner and what you both want, though you shouldn’t have vaginal sex after anal sex without cleaning first.

As for lubricants, we have a Guide to Anal Lubricants that you can read through.