Anonymous: I’ve been training for double anal and my goal is to work toward being double anal only, but sometimes I still do solo plug play or have one-on-one anal sex with my boyfriend without a dildo. It feels good, and it keeps me stretched, but lately I’ve been wondering if I’m stalling. Every time we go back to just one cock, I feel a little underwhelmed, like we’re slipping into something too easy.

I feel like single anal is a crutch and I’m not fully committed if I’m still leaning on it. Is it okay to mix both still as part of the journey or do I need to leave single anal behind completely and commit to double anal only?

It’s a process to get to double anal only, especially if you started with single anal, but it sounds like you’re at the point where it’s time to commit fully to DAO and move past single anal if you’re already regularly having double anal and just occasionally doing a single anal break.

Take the jump, commit, and don’t look back.

When people try to dismiss anal only as niche, fringe, or “just a fetish,” they usually haven’t looked at the real data, or listened to real women. Researchers increasingly have, however: a landmark qualitative study titled “Why Women Engage in Anal Intercourse” (PMC, 2015) interviewed 28 women aged 18–30 to ask the most basic, but rarely answered, question: why? Why are more women exploring anal, and why are many of them coming back to it again and again?

The answers weren’t shocking to people like us, but they might be to those who still think of anal as a taboo or just a “special occasion” act. Here’s what the study found, and what it means for the Anal Only Lifestyle.

Curiosity is the Gateway

Many women described their first anal experience as driven by curiosity. It wasn’t always about trying to impress a partner or act out a fantasy, it was about wanting to know for themselves. What would it feel like? Could it be enjoyable?

Once that curiosity turns into experience, something shifts: the women who enjoyed it aren’t just “open” to anal, they start seeking it out and prefer it.

Sound familiar? For many of us in the anal only lifestyle, curiosity was the first spark. But what kept us here was what these women echoed: deeper pleasure, more intense connection, and a sense of “rightness” in their bodies that vaginal sex never gave them.

Pleasure and Intimacy Takes Center Stage

In the study, the women linked anal sex to deeper emotional and physical pleasure. One woman said it helped her “open up to someone,” while another described it as feeling “closer than vaginal.” That goes directly against the myth that anal is somehow cold, disconnected, or only for porn. Instead, the butthole was framed as a site of intimacy.

That intimacy wasn’t limited to partnered sex either, many women developed their own relationship with their butthole, from solo exploration to plug wear to intentional training. It’s not just about what a partner wants, it’s about claiming your own sexual identity through your ass.

Control, Boundaries, and Redefining Roles

Another powerful takeaway is that some women said they chose anal because it gave them more control, not less.

Unlike the expectations around vaginal sex, anal let them set the pace, define the limits, and feel more present in their bodies. That tracks with what we see in the anal only community: women who reject the idea that their pussy has to be offered, used, or even acknowledged just because they have one.

Choosing anal is choosing intention—choosing anal only is choosing clarity.

Anal is a Shift

Maybe the most important message this study sends is that anal is not just a one-time experiment or something to “check off the list.” For many women, it becomes the preferred way to be penetrated. It becomes normal, primary. For some, like us, it becomes everything.

This research doesn’t just validate the anal only lifestyle—it shows we’re ahead of the curve. Women are choosing their ass, not just as an option, but as a foundation. And they’re not waiting for culture to catch up. They’re stretching, plugging, training, and transforming their sex lives.

This study was published in 2015. Now, in 2025, we’re even further along with people going quietly (and loudly) anal only all over the world. Anal only is the future.

Tess: I’m in my mid-30s and very open about my sexuality. Double anal has become my favorite form of sex, something I was first drawn to in my early 20s after seeing it in porn. What started as fantasy slowly became something I wanted to experience for real.

The path there wasn’t simple. At first, I experimented occasionally with toys along with a partner but it always felt incomplete. I wanted the real thing with two guys, not just the idea of it. I lost relationships along the way because most men weren’t comfortable sharing me, and those breakups hurt more than I expected. It made me wonder whether my desires were simply “too much.”

Eventually, I decided to stop waiting for permission. I went to a group-sex event on my own, where I finally experienced true double anal for the first time. That night was transformative. I knew then that this was something I needed in my life, and wasn’t something to feel ashamed of.

Today, I’m with a partner who has chosen to explore this with me. It took time, honesty, and a lot of reassurance. I had to be clear that sharing this experience didn’t diminish my feelings for him, in fact, it deepened them. What we share now feels intentional and deeply connected.

I’m happier than I’ve ever been sexually, and more confident in who I am. My advice to anyone reading this is simple: don’t let shame convince you to settle. If something feels true to you, keep honoring it. The right people won’t be scared by your desires—they’ll rise to meet them.

Glad to hear you’ve embraced your natural double anal needs, and I hope that this leads to you becoming not just anal only, but double anal only!

Stephen: I’ve long been interested in anal sex. I realize that the anal only lifestyle is not just about the anal sex part. It’s also about ignoring pussy completely and abandoning the clit ultimately.

Wow, it really feels so good to say. It feels so good to let women’s pussies get ignored..

I’m certain I’m anal only.
I will never fuck a vagina ever again.
I will never touch a clitoris ever again.
I will never use my mouth on any pussy or clit again.
I will stimulate her body through nipple play and never pussy play.

It’s good to admit to yourself who you are and what you need, and embrace that fact with future partners. Live that true anal only life from now on.

Tony: A couple of years ago I met Violet. She was sweet, very feminine, and made me feel truly loved. We moved in together quickly and everything felt right. What I didn’t know at the beginning was how wild her sexual side really was. Slowly she started opening up, and it turned out she was completely crazy about anal. Not just regular anal but also heavily into double anal, group play, and watching women take multiple cocks, especially in her ass. She took the lead right away. She showed me her favorite porn, told me exactly what turned her on, and guided me through it all. At first it felt scary and overwhelming, but the sex that followed was incredible. She got so insanely horny that I just went with it.

Before long she told me she wanted to show me the world of swinging. She wanted to play with other men and couples again, so she could get fucked by multiple cocks at the same time. After some back and forth I agreed because I really liked her. That first swinger experience was intense and a little frightening for me, but she was on fire. Seeing her like that, completely lost in pleasure, was something I’ll never forget. We repeated it several times. She even took real double anal with other men while I watched and joined in. She was always leading, always teaching me, always pushing us further.

Eventually I got scared. She felt too sexually advanced, too ambitious in her desires. I thought she wasn’t the right long-term partner for me and I left her. Since then I’ve been with two other women. Both were much more conservative and vanilla. Nice girls, but there was no real fire, no adventure, and definitely no anal exploration like with Violet. She has moved on too and found a new partner.

Now, a few years later and a bit more mature, I see things differently. I realize how special she was. I miss her feminine energy, I miss her taking control, I miss her putting on those dirty double anal and gangbang movies, telling me what she loved seeing and how she wanted to be fucked, and leading us into swinger parties and new experiences. Most of all, I miss watching her get lost in pleasure when she was being double penetrated anally. It fascinated me more than I was willing to admit back then.
I deeply regret letting her go.

So if you’re reading this and you find a girl who is sweet and feminine on the outside but has this extreme anal side and especially maybe even if she loves double anal and wants to explore it with you and others… don’t make my mistake! Don’t run away because it feels scary or too much at first. Give yourself time to get used to it. Let her lead. Enjoy the ride. She might be the best thing that ever happened to your sex life.

True enough, it can be a common mistake to let go of a partner who seems intimidating or hard to keep up with, and that almost always leads to regret. Embrace the experienced partner who wants to take you on new AO/DAP adventures!

George: No posts anymore. Nobody sharing their stories. So pity.

Not dead, but we do often go through periods of minimal user submissions and then I can fall out of the routine of posting as they do start to come back in, so posts sometimes come in waves as a result. If we can keep up more reader/user activity of a publishable quality, it will be easier to maintain consistent posting!

Olivia: I want to share something that’s been on my heart for a while. We live in a society that still doesn’t fully allow women to embrace their real sexuality without judgment. From a young age we’re taught to be “good girls,” to keep our desires modest, quiet, and acceptable. Anything beyond that, especially when it comes to anal, gets labeled as dirty, excessive, or shameful.

Because of this, so many women never get to fully develop their sexuality. They stay stuck in a smaller version of their pleasure, constantly worried about what others will think if they admit what they really crave. The fear of being judged keeps them from exploring deeper, harder, and fuller experiences, even when their body is clearly asking for more. I used to be one of those women.

I’ve always had a strong passion for anal, but for a long time I felt embarrassed about how far I wanted to take it, wanting not just one cock in my ass, but two. Feeling that intense stretch and exploring that overwhelming double fullness made me question if something was wrong with me. Society’s voice was loud in my head: Too much. Too slutty. Not normal.

But I finally decided I was done shrinking my desires to fit other people’s comfort.
I worked through the shame, the fear of judgment, and the conditioning that told me my pleasure had limits. I gave myself permission to explore, to train, to experience, and to love every second of it. And on the other side of that journey I discovered something beautiful: it is more than okay to be a double anal slut.

In fact, it feels incredible. The way two cocks stretch me open together, the deep pressure, the overwhelming sensation of being completely filled. It is a level of pleasure I never want to live without again. This is my body, these are my desires, and I’m no longer apologizing for them.
This is more than being selfish. When I take two cocks in my ass during an orgy I am not only accommodating them, I am also sharing an enormous amount of pleasure with my partners. The moans, the intensity, and the pure lust I give them is just as powerful as what I receive.

I am so grateful that I have found a partner who fully shares this passion and vision with me. He supports my desires, celebrates my sluttiness, and together we explore and enjoy this lifestyle in a safe and deeply connected way.

I’m proud of the woman I’ve become. Proud that I escaped the cage of “acceptable” female sexuality. Proud that I fully embraced my passion for double anal and made it part of my lifestyle. There’s real power in owning it unapologetically.

If you’re reading this and you’ve been holding back because of judgment from family, friends, partners, or society, I want you to know you’re not alone. You’re allowed to want more. You’re allowed to crave intense anal pleasure. You’re allowed to be a double anal slut and still be a good, worthy, beautiful woman. Your sexuality doesn’t need anyone’s permission but yours.

So here I am, loud and proud: I love double anal, I live it, and I have zero shame about it anymore.

Fantastic, thanks so much for sharing! I completely agree, there is no shame in being a double anal slut and I’m so glad to see it becoming increasingly normal and common for women to embrace that. I hope you live an anal only life generally! Have you considered going double anal only, or just intermittently as the opportunity presents itself?

From Velunara on r/analonlylifestyle on Reddit:

Hello! I (F19) have been into anal play (AO) for quite some time now, and lately I’ve been reflecting on how it has impacted my life overall. To be honest, it’s hard for me to remember a single day in the past few years where I didn’t engage in some form of anal stimulation. It’s fair to say I’m addicted to it, but in a way that I’ve managed to turn into a massively positive force in my daily life. I’m a hardworking person with a lot of responsibilities, so when I realized my new hobby was starting to affect me negatively, I decided to find a solution. One creative approach that worked really well for me is turning anal play into a reward and motivation system. For example, when doing chores (cleaning, laundry, cooking, etc.), I start with my smallest butt plug. With every task I complete and cross off my to-do list, I switch to a bigger size. Once all my chores are done, I give myself time to fully relax and enjoy anal play however I want. I use the same strategy during workouts: with each exercise I finish, I increase the plug size or switch to a different toy. Squats on a dildo or crunches with anal beads have become some of my favorites , especially when I tilt my body to the side and push the beads in one by one with alternating hands before pulling them out and continuing the set. Since the pandemic, I’ve had a hybrid work setup (only two days in the office, the rest remote). On work-from-home days, I incorporate my toys and reward myself after completing each task. In short, by weaving anal play into my daily routine this way, I’ve become much more motivated to tackle my responsibilities. I actually look forward to starting my chores, workouts, and work now. I’m not sure if anyone else will find this interesting, but I’m curious, has anyone else struggled with an intense interest in anal and managed to channel it into their life in a similarly creative, productive way?

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Tina: I’ve stopped using my pussy entirely and I love being anal only in theory, but I still haven’t had a full orgasm from anal alone. Should I go back to clit stimulation or keep pushing through?

First off, congratulations on making the commitment! Loving the lifestyle “in theory” is a great start, but we want you to love it in practice, too. What you’re experiencing—the difficulty of reaching a hands-free anal orgasm—is incredibly common during the transition phase.

The reality is, your brain and body have likely been wired for years to associate climax with clitoral stimulation. Retraining those neural pathways takes time, patience, and often a change in technique. Should you go back? Not necessarily. If your goal is to be truly anal only, “pushing through” doesn’t mean depriving yourself of pleasure; it means evolving how you achieve it.

Try these three adjustments before you give up on the goal:

• Instead of total abstinence from clit stimulation, try using it only to get yourself 90% of the way there, then stop and focus entirely on the anal sensation for the finish. This helps your brain start to “transfer” the peak to the new sensation.
• Sometimes an anal orgasm requires a different kind of stimulation than a vaginal one. Experiment with different toy shapes or depths that put pressure in different places.
• The more you stress about the orgasm, the further away it stays. Focus on the feeling of being filled and the intimacy of the act itself. Often, the first anal orgasm happens when you finally stop chasing it.

Stay the course. Stick it out. You won’t regret it.

Elaine: My opinion might not be well received, but, as a woman, I truly believe it’s a man choice to put his penis wherever he wants. It’s their body, their penises. If they want an anal only lifestyle, I truly support it.

Thank you for sharing such a bold perspective. For those like you who embrace such a philosophy it can work quite well. However, I would argue a slightly altered perspective, because often this may lead to women having vaginal sex or losing their anal only commitment due to wanting to do what a man wants. I would advocate for women standing up for their anal only lifestyle and insisting men fuck them in the ass or not at all.