Anonymous: As a married woman who despises anal sex married to a man who has attempted to pressure me for years to go AO, I hope you understand anal is not the answer or even pleasurable for every woman. We are now divorcing over this issue.

I’m happy spaces like this exist for my soon to be ex husband, but in the same way his sexual wants are entirely valid, so are mine.

Not all women will eventually find anal enjoyable. Please understand that’s okay too. I think your blog can be very pushy that women can be ‘convinced’ to like anal, and if they don’t like it, they’ve just been doing it wrong, or had bad experiences with it. I’m sure that is sometimes the case, but not always. As someone who’s former partner spent years linking this blog to me, I just felt the need to come out and say this –

I don’t like anal, because it’s just not my preference, it physically doesn’t feel good to me. It doesn’t hurt, it doesn’t feel ‘dirty’. I just don’t like the sensation.

Thank you for sharing this message. It’s an important one. Not everyone does enjoy or prefer anal, and that’s okay.

That fact has been pointed out on this blog in the past, but as it has grown, and the majority of people reaching out have been those with an existing preference for, or open curiosity about anal sex, the tone has inadvertently ended up shifting somewhat, and I think it’s necessary to get a bit more grounded in recognizing that while it’s reasonable for someone to discuss anal sex and the anal only lifestyle with their partner, and try it together if they’re willing, not everyone is going to be interested or like it, and continuing to push them after they’ve made that clear will only push them away.

You can’t force liking anal or being anal only on someone, and trying to do it with someone who doesn’t enjoy it will backfire. Everyone has to be open and willing to try in order for something like anal only to work, and consent is essential in all things sexual.

It is both the goal and the projection of this blog that the anal only lifestyle ultimately becomes the norm for all or most of the world, with anal replacing vaginal sex as the default way for people to have sex, and vaginal becoming simply for reproductive purposes.

And as things continue to shift towards a greater and more widespread adoption of anal sex, normalizing it for a large percentage of the population, it can be interesting to look into the future and see where things may ultimately end up for anal sex and the anal only lifestyle.

Anal Will Become the Norm

We’re already seeing the public embrace of anal sex in recent years, with the majority of porn now largely anal in focus, mainstream film and television shifting their tone on anal from it being a misinformed punchline to something characters genuinely are including in their sex lives, and young people around the world rapidly increasing the frequency with which they practice anal sex themselves and in many cases having totally normalized it as an equal form of sex already.

This trend is only going to continue as the myths surrounding anal continue to fade away and information on safe and enjoyable anal sex becomes more easily available to more people. Including proper anal practices in sexual education classes would be a big part of this.

Coupled with the fact that anal is natural birth control and an easy way for girls to start having sex without worrying about getting pregnant, it’s highly probable that most young women in the coming generations will be focusing primarily or exclusively on anal.

Population Growth Needs to Reduce

As mentioned above, anal is the best and most natural birth control, with very little chance of unwanted pregnancy. Because sex is rarely intended for reproductive purposes, and many pregnancies are unplanned, simply switching to anal only will do a lot for slowing population growth, something that is desperately needed for the long-term sustainability of our species on this planet.

Mutual Pleasure Matters

Sex is about mutual pleasure and a shared connection, and anal provides both of these far better than vaginal. As people continue to discover this and try anal, then anal only, for themselves, the result will be widespread abandonment of vaginal sex.

Anal sex can be tricky. It comes with a lot of hows and whats and dos that many might switch over to their private browser to search for. And while you may have some embarrassing questions about the logistics of backdoor play, know that you should never be ashamed about any of your curiosities, because chances are many others are probably thinking the same thing.

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Anonymous: I was never interested in vaginal sex, my first time was anal but later i ended up losing my vaginal virginity so i could feel more “normal” and i regret it deeply. So i just want to tell all the virgin women who read this blog, don’t lose your vaginal virginity. You will regret it like i did.

I agree, for those who prefer anal and are vaginal virgins, it’s much better to stay anal only and not bother with vaginal sex. If someone really wants to try both, it can be reasonable to compare both—you’ll almost definitely end up preferring anal anyway—but if you don’t want to give up your vaginal virginity, don’t do it. You will regret it.

You can always try vaginal later if you change your mind, but you can’t become a vaginal virgin again, and the biggest regret of most women who started with anal and then tried vaginal later is wasting their vaginal virginity on discovering that they hated vaginal and just wanted to go back to anal only.

Anonymous: I’m a girl and i don’t wanna be a boy but I just hate having a pussy. It’s been 5 years since I went anal only but during this períod i touched my clit many times, to avoid touching my clit i avoid getting turned on with pictures and videos. I don’t know what to do anymore i just wish i didn’t have a clit cause i think that someone is only 100% anal only if they dont touch their pussy ever again.

It sounds like you hate your pussy because it tempts you for stimulation and you find it hard to resist, which conflicts with your strong desire to be pure anal only.

I would encourage you to step back and reassess things a little bit. Yes, you have a pussy. Yes, it can cry out for stimulation and beg to be touched sometimes, but that doesn’t mean you need to use it. You have an asshole to play with instead. When you get horny and feel the urge to rub your clit, finger and play with your asshole instead. Do this multiple times a day and over time, your urges will shift away from your clit.

You can also use numbing gels like orajel, tape over your pussy, a chastity belt, backless panties, and a variety of other things to help yourself move away from your clit and towards being fully anal only without clit stimulation.

That said, everyone has their own definition of what it is to be anal only, and for many women, that includes some or even lots of clitoral stimulation. If you really struggle without your clit, maybe being anal only for you should mean no vaginal penetration but the occasional clit stimulation if you need to without feeling guilty about it. Ultimately, it’s up to you.

Don’t hate yourself or who you are or even parts of yourself. Yes, you may choose to be anal only, and that’s a great thing, which means that your pussy isn’t part of sex for you, but it is still a part of your body, and you can choose to love it in its own way, how it’s always empty and unused and shows how horny you are while you ignore it and play with your better hole instead.

A common element of discussions of the anal only lifestyle is to good-naturedly refer to vaginas as “useless”. Most people understand what is meant here, and that it refers to a sexual context within the anal only lifestyle, where anal sex is so much better at everything that it renders vaginal sex pointless and vaginal sex useless.

In reality, though, we of course know that vaginas have a very important use to the human race: reproduction. The vagina is wonderful in that regard, optimized for that purpose, efficiently designed for impregnation and giving birth.

Vaginas aren’t, however, efficiently designed for recreational sex, which is the vast majority of what we humans want to engage in. The vast majority of the time we have sex, we’re seeking pleasure, intimacy, bonding, release, relaxation, and more. Having kids isn’t part of it at all except for when we actually plan and decide to start a family.

And because of that, anal provides a better option for everything else: better pleasure, better intimacy, better bonding, better orgasms. So if you aren’t trying to have kids right now, vaginas are actually pretty useless!

Anonymous: Okay, so I know that half of female pornstars enjoy (or even prefer anal) anal and has cum hard from anal. I read that there are pornstars that want to go anal only in porn as well as in their personal life, but why do producers see anal only as undesirable? I do understand why they want the girls who prefer anal to still do vaginal for money-related reasons or bcuz of the audience who complain that they do too much anal

It comes down to professionals not wanting to limit themselves and their earning potential, usually. While a growing number of people prefer to watch anal-centric or anal only porn, there’s still a big market of people who want to see vaginal and other things, so porn actors often will do everything in order to be desired by and make money from all the different audiences.

However, I hope to see more specialization in the future, with actors refusing to do vaginal scenes and only do pure anal. Viewer’s interests drive porn trends to some extent, but porn trends ultimately also help drive what people are interested in, so a shift to anal only in porn will get more and more people into pure anal in their own lives and in turn increase the demand for pure anal porn.

Last night my little PAWG deepthroated me with a dedication and fervour that was new to me. With an almost concentrated look on her face she spread her spit along my shaft every time she came up for air.

At some point she seemed satisfied with her work, and turned around, sticking her beautiful ample rump up in the air she looked back at me.

“Don’t wait too long. I have made you all wet and slippery because I wanted to try it without lube.”

I love that girl and her dedication to pure anal sex.

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I’m really curious about your motivations. I know some people here come from a BDSM background and are into the denial aspect of it. Some just prefer anal above all else. Some just really dislike vaginal sex. WHat was your personal motivation?

For me it was the humiliation/degradation aspect of it. I came to like the idea that I have no choice but take it up the ass now. We came from a PIV-centric relationship, were into fisting for a while so my husband liked the idea that my pussy was so wrecked it was no longer usable, so he had to move on to the ass basically LOL. Diferent motivations same goal.

What’s yours or your SO’s?

There are lots of responses to the question, and you should go and read them all.

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An ongoing trend in places like Bdsmlr and other places that dive deep into the fantasies and kinks that surround anal sex is to focus on degradation, pain, and other negatives. While the intent of this isn’t to shame those who enjoy those kinks, I think that the focus on that side of anal can harm its widespread adoption and enjoyment.

Instead, I’d like to talk about one of the best side effects of anal sex and the anal only lifestyle: the bliss and joy and just sheer happiness that one can experience by going anal only. Lots of people enjoy anal sex, but there’s something kind of magical that happens once you make the decision to fully stop using your vagina (and even more so with your clit) for sex and switch to anal penetration only.

Because your body no longer receives any vaginal stimulation, it is able to fully adjust to anal stimulation as its primary pleasure source, and if no longer experiencing any clitoral stimulation either, you no longer have the negative emotional side effects of clit orgasms that many women experience, such as loss of arousal and post-orgasm depression.

This results in a more constant, increased state of arousal that no only makes you more eager for sex more often, it can boost your mood and genuinely make you happier throughout the day as well. Couples who go anal only report not only greater enjoyment of sex, but becoming closer together as a couple and being happier and more satisfied individually.

Anal and the anal only lifestyle are a joyous thing. Sure, if some of the other kinks appeal to you and are something that you enjoy, by all means incorporate them into your life as well, but don’t let them define anal sex for you if they aren’t something you want.