Message: Stay With Partner Who Doesn’t Want Anal?

Anonymous: I’ve been lurking here for a while and finally decided to jump in because this place gave me the courage to speak up and maybe get some real advice.

I’m almost 30, pretty sexually experienced and adventurous. I’m currently in a relationship — stable, grown-up, and organized, just like I wanted. Before this, I was all over the place: multiple boyfriends, threesomes, and somewhere along the way, I discovered my absolute passion for anal sex. It’s become my biggest turn-on.

Now, here’s the thing. My boyfriend is super wealthy and spoils me in every way except in bed. He’s mostly into oral and vaginal, and no matter how much I try, he’s just not into anal. I’ve even tried to get him to experiment with it, but no luck. Meanwhile, I find myself masturbating to anal-heavy porn, recently even mostly double anal scenes — those drive me wild. I even catch myself daydreaming about being in those scenes, completely taken and stretched, and it’s honestly the hottest thing I can imagine. What’s wrong with me?

I’m seriously craving an anal-only sex life, but how do you convince him to open up to that? I’ve tried everything I can think of, but he’s just not there. And forget about double anal or group stuff — I don’t even know how to bring that up without killing the mood or freaking him out. Am I crazy for wanting this so badly? Should I just accept a stable but kind of boring sex life? Or… is it okay to explore this behind his back if he won’t meet me halfway? How do you balance wanting wild, kinky sex with wanting a steady relationship? Has anyone been stuck in this spot and figured out a way to have both? Or should I just end the relationship and look for what truly makes me happy?

I’m really torn and could use some honest advice.

Thank you for being so open. What you’re feeling isn’t “wrong” — it’s deeply human. It’s okay to crave more than what you’re currently getting, especially when you’ve discovered a part of your sexuality that brings you such intense, personal pleasure. Anal, and particularly anal only, can be deeply affirming, and wanting to share that with your partner isn’t selfish — it’s a desire for intimacy, connection, and mutual expression.

At the same time, your partner’s disinterest isn’t a personal failure either. People have limits and preferences, and while those can sometimes shift, they don’t always. The tough part is realizing that compatibility in a relationship isn’t just emotional or practical — it’s sexual too. And when there’s a deep mismatch, especially on something you’re passionate about, it can create a quiet ache over time, even if everything else seems stable.

You’re not crazy for wanting double anal or group sex, or even for fantasizing about it. You’re not broken. You’re a sexual person with vivid and evolving desires — that’s normal. But no matter how strong the craving, going behind your partner’s back isn’t the right move. It might offer a thrill, but at the cost of trust and long-term peace of mind. That doesn’t mean you’re trapped either. It just means the choice you make should come from clarity, not desperation.

If you haven’t already, try having an open, pressure-free conversation with your boyfriend. Not just about anal, but about what arousal means for you now — how it’s become core to your sense of self. He may not be willing to join you fully, but if he loves you, he’ll listen.

If he still can’t or won’t meet you partway — even just with a toy in a low-pressure setting — then you have to ask yourself: Is staying with him more important than living as your full sexual self? That’s not a decision anyone else can make for you.

Message: Male Porn Stars

Joel: Your post congratulating Vicky Sol was a great one! It’s important to thank all the anal focused stars. I’m a male porn star fan and I think a lot of them don’t get that kind of recognition. Of course we have to thank Giorgio Grandi. Without LegalPorno, 0% Pussy might have not existed! Some other ones are Mike Adriano who’s been anal heavy for years and now he has all these anal sites for great content. Markus Dupree has Vogov, not anal only, but it has anal in every video. Skip the pussy content, it’s some great ass fucking!

Absolutely agree — Giorgio Grandi and LegalPorno played a massive role in pioneering the “0% Pussy” concept and pushing the boundaries of what anal scenes could be. Mike Adriano deserves credit too, not just for his signature style but for building whole networks of anal-focused content that have inspired so many fans and performers alike even if they aren’t anal only. Even just having consistent anal in every scene and a strong anal focus is a step in the right direction, though we want to see fully anal only as the end goal!

Anal porn is an art form — and it’s the stars, crews, and fans who’ve helped it evolve into something deeply worthy of celebration. Let’s get more people committing to anal only.

The Evolution of Anal in Pop Culture: From Taboo to Total Normalization

Anal sex has undergone a profound cultural transformation over the past fifty years. What began as a whispered taboo — something framed as dirty, degrading, or niche — has steadily become a central part of modern sexual identity and representation. From porn studios to pop music, memes to mainstream dating discourse, anal has not just entered the conversation, it’s taken it over.

Below is a deep dive into how anal sex became integrated into pop culture and why its rise signals something even larger: the decline of vaginal sex as the default and the inevitable rise of the anal only world.

1970s–1990s: Taboo, Transgression, and Silence

In the 1970s and 80s, anal sex was considered perverse even in porn. Golden age films avoided it entirely. When anal did appear in fringe films or hardcore imports, it was often framed through dominance, pain, and degradation. Scenes focused on girls saying no, flinching, and being pushed past their limits.

In these early portrayals, anal wasn’t about pleasure. It was about control. Women were shown enduring it rather than enjoying it. The message was clear: anal was something men did to women, not something women wanted or enjoyed.

Even into the 1990s, anal remained a “special event” in porn. A performer’s first anal scene was treated as a shocking milestone. Titles emphasized pain or transgression: Painful Pleasures, Anal Perversions. The anus was still Othered — never the focus, never the norm.

Outside of porn, anal was virtually absent from the public conversation. It didn’t appear in mainstream sex education, wasn’t featured in romantic comedies or dramas, and was still coded as “dirty” or deviant. Anal sex was culturally associated with homosexuality, and even in progressive circles, it was rarely discussed openly. Comedians avoided the topic, and if referenced, it was a punchline, not a real option.

2000s: Visibility and Curiosity, But Not Yet Acceptance

In the early 2000s, the rise of the internet allowed viewers to search for exactly what they wanted. Anal categories began climbing in popularity on emerging tube sites. Yet despite growing interest, there were almost no true anal only scenes. Most porn still revolved around vaginal sex, with anal tagged on at the end or mixed in.

Performers who specialized in anal (Belladonna, Sasha Grey, Rocco Siffredi) were seen as extreme. Even popular anal scenes still emphasized domination, mess, and roughness. Viewers watched it, but the framing hadn’t changed: anal was still a performance, not a preference.

In mainstream pop culture, anal began surfacing — slowly. TV shows like Sex and the City (1998–2004) featured hesitant, awkward anal plotlines, often framed as something embarrassing or reluctantly agreed to.

Early 2000s music was still conservative on the topic, but hip hop and underground comedy began to reference “backdoor” sex. American Pie and Road Trip leaned into anal as a gross-out joke. It was visible now — but only barely, and always framed as discomfort, not desire.

2010s: Normalization Through Porn, Music, and Memes

The 2010s saw a dramatic tone shift. Performers began speaking more openly about their real sexual preferences, and for many, anal was at the top of the list. In interviews, on social media, and in cam content, women described anal not as painful but as more intense, more pleasurable, and more fulfilling than vaginal.

Examples:

  • Anya Olsen, in a pre-scene interview: “Girls, if you’re watching, try anal! Please! It’s amazing. I cum so easily from anal. It’s like the most intense orgasm ever.”
  • Adriana Chechik, on the Pornhub podcast: “Honestly, I cum better from anal. I’m mostly anal only with my boyfriend.”
  • Charlotte Sartre, via Twitter: “Why fuck the pussy when there is a perfectly good asshole right there.”
  • Lexi Grey, via Twitter: “It’s been a month since a dick has been in my pussy. I’m officially anal only.”

Studios like Tushy and LegalPorno responded by centering anal in almost every scene. No longer just an add-on, it became the entire purpose. For many newer European studios, anal became the default. Most scenes skipped vaginal altogether.

The framing changed too: no more grimaces or tears. Instead, genuine anal orgasms, ass-focused worship, and proud presentation. Women were not just enduring it, they were choosing it.

Outside porn, the pop shift exploded.

  • Music: Lyrics about anal and eating ass went mainstream. Kevin Gates’s 2014 declaration, “I eat ass,” went viral and helped popularize the phrase across social media. By 2016, ass eating was a meme genre unto itself.
  • TV & Streaming: Broad City featured a full anal sex scene played for humor and honesty. Girls and Euphoria integrated anal into character relationships without shame or scandal.
  • Social Media: Tumblr, Twitter, and later TikTok normalized plug wear, anal masturbation, and anal cravings. Anal wasn’t edgy content — it was standard sexual content.
  • Dating Culture: “Anal only” preferences began appearing in bios, with women proudly listing plug use, anal training, and anal only expectations.

🔹 2020s: Anal Only as the New Cultural Center

By the 2020s, double anal (DAP) had become a new standard in porn. Once treated as extreme, it’s now common across major platforms. AnalVids features multiple anal only scenes, often focusing on DAP and TAP, almost daily. Women train for it. Fans expect it. And increasingly, DAP is treated as the new default.

Anal only stars, still typically only those making independent content, are celebrated for never having vaginal sex at all. Their commitment is admired, and their scenes set a new bar for purity of focus.

Meanwhile, vaginal sex is quietly vanishing. In most European anal scenes, it’s not just avoided — it’s structurally removed. The anus is the only point of penetration. Viewers no longer expect a pussy shot. They expect camera focus on the ass — stretched, filled, opened.

Pop culture reflects the shift:

  • Ass-eating is considered more intimate than oral sex on a vagina.
  • Women post openly about plug training, “needing to be filled,” and being permanently stretched.

The Future: Denormalizing Vaginal Sex

This is no longer just about acceptance. It’s about replacement. Anal is:

  • More orgasmic for many women
  • More intimate
  • Feels better, is tighter, takes more discipline

Vaginal sex, by contrast, is increasingly obsolete: associated with reproduction, tedium, and compromise. It lacks focus. It doesn’t serve the body or the relationship the same way.

Culture has already normalized anal. What comes next is simple: the denormalization of vaginal sex.

Message: Anal Stretching/Gaping Before Sex

Nthan: Me and my gf are engaging in semi-regular anal sex (she’s new to anal and we are taking it slow). She takes it well, but I really want to train her more, I want to stretch and gape her before we have anal sex. She likes to gape when we fuck, but shes dragging her feet with this and doesn’t engage when i try to talk to her.

I would appreciate some help to get her more in to it and also toys to use to stretch her out (i like hollow plugs, need to get one asap)

FYI – We still use her pussy, about 60/40 pussy to ass, trying to move in the right direction at a good pace

Your help please?

Thanks for sharing your question — it’s clear you’re enthusiastic about anal and excited to deepen the experience with your girlfriend. That’s great, and it sounds like you’re already making progress together. It’s important to remember that anal training, especially stretching and gaping, isn’t just physical — it’s emotional and psychological too. For many people, especially those newer to anal, it can take time to fully embrace the idea of training or making anal the primary focus.

You mentioned that she enjoys gaping when you’re having sex, which is a great sign — she’s already finding pleasure in the sensations and reactions of her body. What might be happening now is that she’s unsure how to approach more structured stretching, or she may be hesitant about what it means long term. Rather than pushing for training directly, try talking with her about what turns you on about seeing her open up, and invite her to share what she likes about anal so far. Keep it light and sexy — not pressure-filled — and center it around shared pleasure and intimacy, not just goals.

As far as toys, starting with medium-sized silicone plugs with longer necks can help her get used to deeper and more sustained stretch. Hollow plugs can be exciting visually and for warmup, but for comfort and daily training, a solid plug with a smooth taper may be better. You can also explore mutual play — try using toys together during foreplay or while watching porn, and make it feel fun and bonding rather than like a routine or a task.

Finally, since you’re still having a mix of vaginal and anal, it might help to agree on small, positive shifts rather than jumping to anal only immediately. Maybe you set aside one night a week that’s just for anal, or try taking a break from vaginal for a week as a sexy challenge. Focus on deepening your shared love for anal rather than eliminating other kinds of sex too fast. The more she associates anal with fun, connection, and affirmation, the more she’ll want to explore what her ass is capable of — for herself, not just for you.

Message: How Do We Stop Having Vaginal Sex?

Tim: My girlfriend is turned on by anal only in sexting. This was so HOT! Problem is that when we are physically together, we tend to have vaginal sex. And she is very aroused by this, and we have a great time. But I enjoy anal only. She is aroused like hell, and she make me aroused. Question is, how do I stop enjoying this? Because I want to. I just want to forget her pussy exist and want her to never think about vaginal ever again. I want her to be horny in her ass, and refuse her vagina. Where do I begin?

I’d like to add that we broke up recently, due to more factors leading us to separate. That she refused anal was one of them, but like all good relationships; sex isn’t all. But sex is one of the important parts of the chain. We broke up! But a week later, she came to a party I had, and I told her that she could be here with us and have a good time; she and I ended up leaving all the folks out and she and I had anal sex! I told her that’s exactly what I wanted. She was so aroused by the idea of being anal only. And I was so in love because I finally thought I’d meet my queen wife.

So we started dating again, and gradually we started having vaginal sex again.

I want this to end… I WANT and NEED our lives to be in truly vaginal rejection and living anal only. But she likes vaginal so much. And to be honest, I like the sex as well, since she is so sexy and attractive to me, but in the depth of my heart I want us both to commit to abandon vaginal play forever. This is the last straw for me, to kiss her pussy goodbye—to welcome her anus to be the real stuff.

What should I do?

Should I refuse to give her vaginal from now on? Ought I to be harder on her? She does not like masturbating without me being involved. Shall I be more strict, and enforce her to stop this “naughty vaginal play”?

Thanks for the message, it sounds like you both really enjoy anal and love the idea of being anal only but have had a hard time putting it into practice. That’s not unusual, quite a few people really want to embrace anal only and love the concept of it but find their old ways are easy to return to and end up going back to vaginal over and over again.

If you both share the desire for anal to be your main or only form of sex, the key is creating consistency, clarity, and arousal around that goal. Start with a clear agreement together, even if it’s temporary: a week, a month, or even just a single weekend of strictly anal only. Frame it not as a restriction but as an exciting experiment to deepen the pleasure, intimacy, and intensity you already feel when you’re focused only on her ass.

Help make anal more accessible and satisfying for her outside of sex, too. Daily or regular plug wear—even small at first—can help her body and mind stay in the anal zone. Try mutual masturbation where she only uses her ass while you talk about how hot it is that she’s keeping her pussy off-limits. If she’s open to it, you could even do playful denial or ceremony around not touching her pussy—create rituals or routines that build anticipation and make anal feel like the centerpiece it truly is.

Above all, keep your focus on arousal, not enforcement. The more she feels desired and empowered for her anal pleasure, the less she’ll crave anything else. If you can consistently make her feel like her ass is the most important, most loved, most hers part of her body—and reinforce that with practice, praise, and intimacy—it’ll become her new default. Over time, anal only won’t feel like a rule you’re both trying to follow; it’ll just feel like who you are together.

Obviously, if she enjoys control around keeping her pussy off limits, you could incorporate that as well, but embracing her arousal from anal and anal only is likely the most effective strategy.

From Taboo to Standard: Society’s Inevitable Shift to Anal Only

Not long ago, anal sex was considered taboo — something whispered about, joked about, or relegated to the most “extreme” corners of porn. For decades, it was painted as deviant, dirty, or something reserved for late-night experimentation. But culture has shifted — not just quietly, but dramatically. And the truth is simple: anal isn’t fringe anymore. It’s becoming the norm.

We’re watching in real time as society reorients itself around anal pleasure — and not just as a kink or an alternative, but as the main event. The next step is clear: it’s time to stop treating vaginal sex as standard and finally recognize anal sex as the superior, default path for pleasure, fulfillment, and connection.

Anal Is No Longer a Taboo — It’s the Preference

Today, anal is everywhere. It’s no longer hidden or taboo. Mainstream porn sites consistently show “anal” as one of the most searched and watched categories — often dominating over vaginal, lesbian (unless anal lesbians!), or oral categories entirely. For many viewers, anal scenes are not a niche preference — they’re the default. Performers who specialize in anal are elevated, desired, and followed. Even if a scene contains vaginal, it’s seen as warmup for anal, which is the main event. Porn stars who focus on vaginal-only content are increasingly seen as irrelevant. Even among women, “anal” ranks as a top fantasy and search term. This is not a coincidence — it’s a shift in what arouses, what satisfies, and what defines real sex.

And it isn’t just porn. Everyday couples are embracing anal as a central part of their sexual lives. What used to be a rare request is now openly discussed. More and more women are not just allowing anal — they’re craving it, requesting it, and taking pride in it.

Eating Ass Is Becoming More Normal Than Eating Pussy

If you needed more proof, look at oral culture. A decade ago, the idea of “eating ass” was still a punchline. Now? It’s a basic expectation. Songs, jokes, TikToks — eating ass is openly celebrated, often more commonly and confidently than eating pussy. The stigma is gone. It’s normal, it’s hot, and it’s what people want.

The popularity of rimming doesn’t exist in a vacuum. It reflects a broader reorientation of sexual focus — one that privileges the ass over the vagina. The anus isn’t just an accepted site of pleasure. It’s becoming the primary one.

Double Anal: Not an Exception — a Goal

Double anal penetration was once reserved for the most “extreme” corners of porn. Now, it’s everywhere. Major studios center it. Viewers expect it. And more women are choosing it — not as a challenge, but as a preference. It’s not shocking anymore. It’s celebrated. In many cases, a performer’s first DAP scene is framed as a milestone achievement — a sign of full submission, full evolution, full readiness.

As the physical, emotional, and symbolic depth of double anal becomes more understood, it’s clear that DAP isn’t just an act — it’s a statement. And for more women, it’s a standard. One hole, fully claimed, fully stretched, fully filled. That’s not fringe anymore. That’s focus.

Vaginal Sex Is the Outdated Standard

So what’s left? One thing: the vagina. Still clinging to its cultural position as the default. Still seen as the starting point for every relationship. Still handed over as a sign of affection, availability, or expectation.

But let’s be honest — vaginal sex is outdated. It’s built around reproduction, not pleasure. It’s boring, hormonally volatile, less intense, and frequently dependent on clitoral stimulation to even function. It lacks the depth, intimacy, and discipline that anal demands — and it keeps too many people stuck in a model of sex that doesn’t actually work for them.

Most people don’t need their vagina touched to feel loved. They need their ass opened to feel taken.

The Next Step: Denormalizing Vaginal Sex Entirely

We’ve already shifted the conversation. Anal is no longer taboo. It’s desirable. Preferred. Dominant. Now we must take the final step: removing the vagina from the equation entirely.

That means:

  • Ending the idea that vaginal sex is expected in a relationship
  • Rejecting porn that centers or even includes vaginal penetration
  • Encouraging couples — especially women — to retire vaginal sex permanently
  • Celebrating anal only as the default, not the deviation
  • Supporting women in choosing to stay vaginal virgins

Anal only is not just an identity. It’s the future of sexual culture. One that centers intensity, intention, trust, and real satisfaction — not legacy acts based on reproduction. The shift has already begun. Porn reflects it. Relationships increasingly reflect it. Language reflects it. All that’s left is to let go of the outdated standards that no longer serve us and step fully into the lifestyle that does.

Anal isn’t taboo anymore. Vaginal is. And that’s how it should be.

Message: Stopping Clit Stimulation

Anonymous: Hi, I’ve been transitioning into the anal only lifestyle for a few months now. I’ve stopped having vaginal sex and only penetrate my ass for sex or masturbation, which has been an amazing change. I feel more connected to my body and much more focused when I orgasm.

But I still find myself drawn to clit stimulation when I masturbate, even though I know it doesn’t really fit with the anal only mindset. I don’t want to depend on it anymore, and I want to fully commit to anal orgasms only. How do I break the habit of going back to the clit, and retrain my body to respond only through my ass?

Thanks for everything you do — this blog has helped me more than I can say.

If you haven’t already, I recommend checking out our Benefits to Avoiding Clit Stimulation During Anal Sex page in our Guide, it details a lot of what you’ve already mentioned but also goes into detail about how to stop using your clit.

It makes total sense that you want to move past clitoral dependence and focus on pure anal stimulation and pleasure instead, and I commend you for wanting to take that step. It will only deepen your enjoyment and your commitment to the anal only lifestyle.

It sounds like this is mostly an issue for you when you masturbate, not when you have sex. If you’re able to focus on the anal pleasure during sex, I encourage working on shifting your thoughts to your ass when masturbating as well. If you’re just casually playing with yourself and fingering your ass and feel tempted to rub, take the opportunity to focus more on your ass and switch to something more active like a dildo. The increased penetration and sensation will help you away from your clit. Whenever you feel the urge to touch your pussy, increase your anal intensity instead. Use that urge to redirect attention to your ass.

If you still find it hard to ignore, try covering it with tape when masturbating, or using a topical anesthetic like orajel to temporarily numb your clit. A physical barrier or numbing can work very well to train you away from it because even if you’re tempted to touch, it won’t deliver any sensation — and your attention will return to where it belongs. Over time, your body will adapt. The clit will fade from your awareness, and your ass will take over fully.

The Anal Only Lifestyle Patreon is Back — Stronger Than Ever

After a long period of inactivity, the Anal Only Lifestyle Patreon is back online and ready to move forward.

Thank you to everyone who’s supported the project in the past or reached out during the downtime. Your interest and encouragement have meant a lot — and I’m excited to get back to work on growing the community, improving our content, and spreading the Anal Only message.

This Patreon helps fund:

  • Our ad-free, open-access blog full of educational and inspirational content
  • The forum and chat server where people can connect and explore the lifestyle together
  • Ongoing content creation, outreach, moderation, and event planning (like our Anal Only Month challenges)

I’ll be making some improvements to the Patreon itself too — including updates to tiers, exclusive content just for patrons, and better ways to reward and recognize those of you helping keep all this alive.

If the Anal Only Lifestyle has helped you, inspired you, or just made you think, please consider supporting it here.

User Submitted Post

Anonymous: My girlfriend is incredibly skilled and passionate about anal fisting and double anal — I’m so proud of her and love bragging about her talents to trusted circles. I fantasize about her showing off those skills in some good, hard gangbangs or intense group sessions, really owning her sexuality.

She was raised Christian and, while she’s not deeply religious anymore, the idea of actually engaging in group sex still feels like a heavy conflict for her. This creates tension between my desire to see her fully express herself and her lingering reservations.

Am I okay wanting her to move on to real-life double anal experiences with others, even if it challenges her comfort zone?

It’s completely okay for you to want that. Fantasizing about your partner being fully used, admired, and celebrated for her abilities—especially when she’s as talented and passionate about anal fisting and DAP as you describe—is a natural extension of your pride, arousal, and deep admiration for her. There’s nothing wrong with craving that next level of intensity, or even feeling like it would unlock something deeper in both of you. That’s part of the anal only mindset: wanting to go further, stretch wider, and be even more fully shared.

At the same time, her background and concerns matter too. Even if she no longer holds strict religious beliefs, years of internalized messages don’t just disappear. Group sex, especially in the context of showcasing her body and talents, can feel like a direct challenge to everything she was taught to suppress or avoid. That doesn’t mean she’ll never move in that direction, but it does mean she may need time, space, and the right framing to get there.

Instead of pushing her toward a decision, consider framing it as a shared evolution. Not “I want you to do this,” but “I love how you’ve embraced anal and DAP, and I can’t stop imagining how powerful it would be to see you fully celebrated in that way. Not because I need it to happen, but because it excites me to think of you being admired and filled and stretched for others the way I already admire and desire you.” Let her feel how much this comes from love and erotic awe, not pressure.

So yes, wanting it is okay. Even if it never happens exactly the way you imagine, the fact that you’re proud of her, aroused by her skills, and eager to see her reach her full potential in this lifestyle is beautiful. I hope that you’re able to enjoy DAP together with other partners, and maybe even go double anal only if you aren’t already!

Why Men Should Refuse Pussy

For far too long, men have been expected to take whatever sex they can get — and that usually means pussy. It’s what culture tells you to expect, what partners are assumed to offer, and what most of society still treats as the “real” kind of sex. But for most men, vaginal sex is not just underwhelming. It’s a waste.

Every time you have vaginal sex, you’re giving up the chance to fuck her ass instead. You’re trading pleasure for thoughtless simplicity. Depth and tight friction for natural lubrication. Real passion for the soft expectation that you’ll accept what’s easiest. And why?

You don’t need it. You shouldn’t settle for it. And if you’re serious about who you are sexually, you need to stop.

It’s Not About Denial — It’s About Standards

This isn’t about withholding sex. This is about choosing the kind of sex that reflects your values. Anal sex is more intense, more dominant, more connected, and more psychologically satisfying. It’s not routine — it’s deliberate. And that’s exactly why it works.

When a man chooses anal only, he’s not limiting himself. He’s demanding more. More control. More pleasure. More passion. He’s making it clear that he knows what he wants — and won’t accept less.

Vaginal sex might be what she offers first. But you deserve to refuse it and insist on anal only — or nothing at all.

Assert It, Don’t Negotiate It

You don’t have to settle for vaginal. State that you’re anal only — not because you’re being picky, but because you know what works for you. You know what satisfies you. And you know that it’s not the pussy.

If she doesn’t get it, or tries to change your mind, that’s fine — she’s not the one. You don’t need to compromise your body or your desires for someone who isn’t willing to meet you there. There are plenty of women who already prefer anal, and even more who will come to love it when it’s the only option.

But they’ll never make that shift if men keep giving in and going along with vaginal just because it’s available. If you want a world of anal only women, it starts with anal only men.

Stop Reinforcing Vaginal Expectation

Every time you fuck a woman in the pussy, you teach her that it’s acceptable — that it’s good enough. You normalize it. You reinforce a culture that says, “Give him your vagina and he’ll be satisfied.”

But you’re not satisfied. And you shouldn’t pretend to be.

When you say no to pussy, you open the door for something better. You set the bar higher. You make space for anal to be not just accepted, but expected. And when more women encounter men who say no to pussy and yes only to ass, they’ll learn to offer you what you’re actually there for — or step aside.

Being an anal only man isn’t about being extreme or forcing women to do something they don’t want to do. It’s about being honest. You want intensity, connection, and control — and you know where that lives. In the ass. Not the pussy.

Refuse pussy. Demand ass. Stay anal only.