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Mary: Hi there. Thank you so much for allowing me to ask this question. My name is Mary, I’m 23 and happily married as of two years ago (some would say I’m married too young lol).

When my now husband and I were 18, we were lustful and Catholic. So we had anal as a “technicality”. It kinda hurt the first time but eventually it got very pleasurable and we had it all the time. I lost my vaginal virginity on my wedding night and it was good as well. But it wasn’t what my brain was used to if that makes sense.

Anyhow, to make a long story short, we did find out Catholicism prohibits anal even in marriage. Which we didn’t know at the time. We also know some priests think it’s okay but not enough to make it mainstream. If we take our faith seriously, should we continue to have anal or no? Should we give it up entirely?

[Side question, is it normal that I feel incredibly tingly in my feet and toes when o have anal but not vaginal? According to my husband I have to wiggle them so much when we finish.]

Hi Mary, thanks for reaching out! I’m glad to hear that you started out anal only and still love it far more than vaginal. While I am not religious and you’ll ultimately have to decide for yourselves what is right for you, I would strongly encourage you to not only continue enjoying anal sex but to go anal only.

If anal sex was wrong, why would your bodies be designed to so perfectly enjoy it even more than vaginal sex? Surely a creator would want you to enjoy your bodies the way you most enjoy them, and a smart creator would make one hole for getting pregnant and another just for sharing pleasure with your partner. Anal provides that beautiful pleasurable intimacy without risk of pregnancy, and the anal only lifestyle is the perfect natural birth control.

And yes, it is normal to feel so much more pleasure from anal than vaginal. Most women get far more pleasure from anal, and that’s just one more reason I believe the anal only lifestyle is the right thing for everyone.

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Chris: Not many people share their intimate experiences and I thought doing so might be a good way to inspire others.

It’s Sunday morning and my girlfriend and I are just chilling in bed. We have nowhere to go and all the time in the world. I start to get turned on feeling her body, especially running my hands over her hips and ass. I even rub her pussy a little and cup it with my hand, but I won’t be going there. Every day with her I think how lucky I am not to have to have vaginal sex ever again.

My girlfriend spits in her hand and starts rubbing my cock. When she’s got me wet, I get her to roll on her side away from me and I do the same with her anus. It takes less than a minute to get her slippery inside using my finger.

Spooning behind her I love looking at her back and shoulders as I guide myself into her anus. She’s relaxed and used to the penetration but the little resistance I always still get from the muscle feels great. It’s one of the best parts and we both moan every time. I ease all the way in and push up close behind her.

After waiting a few seconds to make sure we’re both comfortable I begin to pump. It’s always hard to tell how much time passes because my mind can’t concentrate on much other than how good it feels. The heat, the tightness and always her anus gripping me. I remember kissing her back and neck as I caress her waist, hips and breasts. A few times we pause to add more saliva before we continue.

My girlfriend has always been quiet during sex, except when I try and thrust extra deep or toward the end when I speed up. After a while, she starts to push back a bit with her ass. I know from what she has told me that the good feeling for her grows and slowly builds. When I hear her breathing a bit faster and deeper then I know she is happy and also knowing that we are connected in the most intimate way possible, plus the feelings of being inside her ass, push me to the edge.

My girlfriend says I can be loud when I cum, but I’m not aware of it. Every time I shoot inside her ass it feels like her whole anus and rectum squeeze my cock, almost trying to suck me inside. It was never like this before – her pussy always felt dead to me.

We lie recovering for a minute, she holds my hand and we try to kiss but it’s awkward with her facing the other way. I pull out slowly and the head of my cock catches on her anus on the way out. The feeling is as awesome as going in. The hole closes, keeping all my cum inside. Even that is better than the pussy, which couldn’t even do that properly.

My girlfriend turns and we kiss and hug for a bit. She behaves differently from how she used to be after vaginal. She’s more happy and affectionate. She’s told me before how the good feelings that built up in her ass during sex stay with her for some time after.

I wish everyone could experience this.

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Chris: I’ve been thinking about something my girlfriend said once when we’d watched some anal porn. She said, “Why does anal always look so beautiful?”. I hadn’t thought about it like that, but I had to agree with her. I think she meant it in a purely physical way but there is also an internal or emotional beauty to it as well I think. The physical, because a man’s penis and a woman’s anus fit perfectly together and there is far less getting in the way. It is simpler and much more pleasing to look at. Then there is how the head pops inside and the anus closes behind it on insertion, locking it inside. It’s the same in reverse when the man is finished, having to pop back out again. The is nothing comparable with the vagina.

Seeing a couple engaged in anal sex is appealing because you know that they are having the most deep and meaningful connection possible between a man and a woman. He understands that she is wanting to stimulate him with her anus and rectum not because she wants to get pregnant but because she wants to give him the most pleasure. Likewise, she understands that he wants to cum inside her there not because of biology but because he wants something special for them both. I think, being a man, NOT having to use her vagina has a meaning all of its own. There is also a sense of relief and inner peace that transcends the orgasm itself which I know both my girlfriend and I feel, probably in our different ways. It FEELS like the right way to have sex.

Thanks for sharing, I absolutely agree — anal is objectively more beautiful than vaginal on multiple levels.

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Chris: I’ve recently returned to this blog after a long absence. I honestly forgot about it for a few years, I guess because once you start living an anal-only life you just get on with living and don’t think much about how you got there. I know that’s kind of unfair as I have so much to be thankful for because of this blog. I know it doesn’t make any sense, but I never would have thought of the concept of anal-only if not for this blog. I always preferred and wanted more anal but never put two and two together and took it to the next logical step. I realized that I didn’t have to be having vaginal sex again. If I’m honest I feel stupid for not thinking of it myself. It didn’t even require a huge discussion, just changing assumptions so that my girlfriend was like “Oh…you want to put it in my ass again this time? Okay…”. She never even questioned why we started having vaginal sex so rarely. It simply became routine to have anal. I think of vaginal as being like a bad habit that we kicked together.

So here I am a couple of years later with the sex life I always wanted. It is so much less complicated and stress-free compared to what we had before. Most nights now we have sex and there is something wonderful about cumming in the tight grip of her anus that never gets old. It was a sense of completeness or fulfillment that was always lacking from vaginal sex. It’s not just me saying that as my girlfriend feels the same.

All of this is a long-winded way of me saying how much this place means to me, but how saddened I am by the drop off in content. It seems the community around this is dying. And not because of lack of interest. I think it’s because places like this are so hard to find these days. If you search for “anal only” or similar terms then all you get is porn. Do you get the feeling that educational and information content is being suppressed or that entertainment is boosted in the algorithm? Does more interaction from the community boost the rankings? If so I’ll continue to try and comment on posts.

Glad to hear of your anal only success, and it’s understandable and desirable for it to be routine in a sense and move on to living a better life with pure anal. But as you said, continuing to stay engaged in the community can help with keeping things more active and inspiring others to make the same change!

I think some of the decline in community is due to that, but the loss of community-centric platforms like Tumblr affected engagement significantly. We went from tens of thousands of active followers there to much less across various platforms. The addition of the “Anal Only” porn production name diluted search results, as you noted, making it much harder to find actual discussion on anal only topics.

A combination of less people submitting content to this blog and my own reduction in availability to spend active in the community myself hasn’t helped. But the more people continue to share their experiences, ask questions, post comments, and stay engaged on here, the better for the blog community! Any other ideas are encouraged as well.

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Chris: My girlfriend and I have been anal only a couple of years now thanks to the blog. It was the best thing ever stumbling on this. At first it took a lot of persuading before she agreed to try and several times she almost backed out. But the more anal we did the less of an issue she made about it until eventually, she came to accept it as the new normal. We both love it so much more now and she even laughs at how she used to find excuses not to do anal.

I’m saying this because I do believe most couples would come to the same conclusion if they don’t give up. I think it’s mostly something in a woman’s mind saying she can’t do it. When you are actually doing anal only you eventually see all the objections are just artificial barriers.

It’s good for the relationship as a whole as even she now agrees it feels nicer and I’m happier because I get the sex I prefer.

Most of the reasons people give to not go anal only are an internal mental block or cultural myths not rooted in reality. That’s why my suggestion is always for people to just go and try it for themselves for 1 or more months, without a longer term commitment up front, and see how they actually find the experience from there. The majority of women become much more amenable to staying anal only once they have 1 – 3 months experience of not using their pussy and focusing on anal exclusively, and see the benefits of doing so for themselves and that they don’t actually miss their pussy as much as they thought they would, or that they enjoy the increased arousal of doing so.

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My husband and I have done anal since the start of our relationship. We both enjoyed it, but it never occurred to us that going anal only or primarily anal was a choice we could consciously make until after the birth of our daughter who is 7.

Once I got cleared for sex, I was anxious about PIV so we opted to do a lot more anal. Shortly thereafter we met someone through the kink community who mentioned that she was “anal only” and we realized that it was something we could choose for ourselves.

For the next 2.5 years, we did mostly anal only. I think we did PIV 3-4 times in that period. At some point, we had a discussion about moving to anal only and used it to fuel some of our other kinks. For the last 6-8 months of that 2.5 year period, we did anal only. No PIV, no clitoral stimulation.

Then we decided to try for a baby, but we didn’t want to leave anal behind. While trying to conceive our second child, I monitored my ovulation and we did vaginal sex during the days I was ovulating and anal during the rest of my cycle. My husband played into our shared breeding kink by telling me that my pussy was only good for making babies and that that was the only time I’d ever be fucked in my pussy again… when he wanted to put another baby in me. It was super hot and made conceiving our second baby a lot of fun. It took us three months of trying to finally conceive. Once I got pregnant, we reverted to anal only. I actually went into labor with our second shortly after a pretty rough anal fuck while 9 months pregnant.

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Saurav: Is it safe to have anal sex without condom if both partners are clean and monogamous. How much penis to enter the anus

It certainly is safe: if you’re comfortable having sex with each other without a condom from an STI standpoint, then you can safely have anal without a condom as well, because anal is natural birth control.

As to how deep to penetrate, that depends on the receptive partner and how comfortable they are. As deep as you both want to is fine, so long as it feels good. If going too deep becomes uncomfortable, then don’t go that deep for now, and revisit it later after more practice.

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Anonymous: My boyfriend and I have been anal only for about two months now and its been going pretty good. We normally do anal about 2-3 times a week and I just give him blowjobs on the days between but recently he told me he would like to start doing anal everyday. I’m definitely open to the idea but I’m a little worried that that might not be good for my health and was hoping I could get some advice here. Is it harmful for your butt to have a small enema and anal sex everyday?

Daily anal sex, so long as your body is adjusted to the routine, is perfectly fine to do. Ultimately you have to listen to your body to determine if you’re ready for that frequency yet. Try it, and see how sustainable it is for you. You can also just work up to that over the course of several weeks, where each week you add another day a week that you do it, and you should be totally fine if you take that approach.

Deeper enemas should be avoided at high frequency, but a small flush of the rectum isn’t a problem.

I say go for it, chances are you’ll love daily anal and it will ultimately make your anal only experience that much better.

Anal Only 2024

Happy new year! It’s hard to believe that it’s 2024 already, and 12 years since the Anal Only Lifestyle community began. With the new year, there are all sorts of new opportunities for anal only fun! It’s time to make your anal only new year’s resolutions and share them with the world to help inspire others.

  • If you’re new to this lifestyle, consider dedicating this year to becoming anal only. Start with a short-term commitment, like a month or two, to get accustomed. If it resonates with you, extend your journey and fully embrace this unique experience.
  • For those who are already enjoying anal play predominantly, why not take the leap and commit to anal only? It’s a bold step but can be incredibly fulfilling for many.
  • If you’re already anal only but still rely on clitoral stimulation, challenge yourself to explore pure anal pleasure. Aim to achieve orgasms solely from anal stimulation, enhancing the depth of your experience.
  • Are you looking to push your boundaries? Consider larger toys or engaging in double anal play more frequently. If double anal is already your preference, think about adopting a double anal only lifestyle, further intensifying your sexual experiences.
  • If you’re happy with your anal only lifestyle and want to help others experience the same, consider being more outspoken about the lifestyle to friends and others and encourage them to try it for themselves. A goal of introducing others to anal only is an excellent way to have a rewarding experience for yourself while growing the lifestyle at the same time.
  • Orgasm denial and edging, the practice of nearing climax but stopping short, can be particularly intense with anal stimulation. Try incorporating anal edging into your routine for a more thrilling experience.

There are many more great options to try, and this is far from an exhaustive list. Leave a comment on this post or submit a message detailing your anal only goals and resolutions for 2024.

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Anonymous: My GF and I have been doing anal only for a few months now and while I’m kinda ashamed to admit I think my favourite part is knowing that I get more pleasure out of it than her. She definitely enjoys it but I know she can’t cum without her clit and I also noticed that she really urges me on to cum now like she wants it to be over faster. This turns me on so much that I can’t even think about going back to vaginal sex again but more than that I’ve been kind of obsessed with the idea of her giving up her pussy completely which for her would mean giving up orgasms too. I’m scared that if I ask her about this she will think I’m a completely selfish jerk. Do you think its wrong for me to be into this and do you think I should try asking for it or just be content with what I have?

It’s not wrong to want that, but it depends what she wants too. Some women get off on the same sort of thing, and that’s fine. Whether she’ll be open to it depends on her motivation. Tell her that you being anal only really turns you on and you love it and would love for her to stop using her clit too and just get her pleasure from anal, and ask what she thinks about that. If she’s not into it, then keep things as they are. But, if she is, then explore that together.