Whether you’re new to the idea of anal only, returning to it after doing it in the past, or already committed to the idea for a while now, No Pussy November is an annual event that you can participate in and enjoy!

If you’re new to anal only, the main activity is to spend the entire month of November completely replacing vaginal sex with anal sex. If you want to take it even further, you can also completely exclude clitoral stimulation and only orgasm anally.

If you’ve been anal only in the past, this is your opportunity to get back into it and rekindle your commitment to the anal only lifestyle.

And if you’re already anal only, use the month to celebrate how much better life is when anal only and how glad you to have given up vaginal sex in favor of pure anal. Try a new activity as an additional challenge for the month—start doing ass to mouth, avoid using your clit to orgasm for the month if you haven’t already, start wearing a butt plug regularly, have anal sex daily, train for double anal—the possibilities are endless!

For our previous anal only challenge month, Anal Only April, several women pledged to only do double anal for the entire month, and one decided to stay double anal only after the month was over, and others are making similar pledges for No Pussy November. So if you’re already experienced with double anal, that can be an option!

If you plan to participate, take the time now to make your plans and arrangements with partners, or get any necessary toys. Whatever you decide to do and whatever your experience level currently is, be sure to let us know what your goals are and keep us updated!

An unfortunately still rather common trope among those inexperienced with anal pleasures is that while it can look sexy and be fun to watch in porn, it isn’t something that women really enjoy and that those who do it in porn are just active and pretending because it’s what guys want to see, and in turn, women mimic that to please guys but don’t really enjoy it for themselves.

This is simply untrue. Sure, there may be some who do this, but the reality is that many women, both in real life and in porn, love anal and can’t get enough of it. Even among those who aren’t anal only, enjoyment of frequent anal is very common and growing.

Unfortunately, it’s a bit of a self-perpetuating issue, because people insist loudly that it’s all an act for porn, resulting in those who do enjoy it for themselves often feeling marginalized and ashamed or afraid to speak up for their own enjoyment, and then as a result, they never correct the myth and it spreads further to other people.

How can we prevent this falsehood from spreading even further? Counter such claims with your own experiences and perspectives! Don’t be afraid to open up and tell people how much you enjoy or even prefer anal, and why. Some people may be dismissive or disbelieving, but most will recognize that you have a valid counter opinion or perspective, and some will be interested in learning more and may even reveal their own curiosity about anal and want tips from you on how to better enjoy it. People, especially women, who open up to their friends, have found a great deal of positive results as their friends end up wanting to try anal for themselves too, and if those friends already enjoy anal, they often end up trying to go anal only on their own as well if the idea is shared with them in a positive manner.

Anonymous: We are an anal only couple and we would like to introduce our children to the anal only lifestyle as well but we don’t know how we should do it. Do you think this is appropriate, and how much should we talk about? We don’t want to force them in any direction, we just want to be open about the lifestyle and why it’s been a good choice for us and that we think it’s good for others too.

Of course. Sex education is a healthy, positive and very beneficial thing for parents to provide to their children, and when something like the anal only lifestyle has been such a positive thing in one’s life, it’s only natural to want to pass on education about it to their children as well. It’s completely reasonable to encourage its practice and mention its benefits, or even to say that you yourself practice it as well. Ultimately, of course, it’s each person’s choice, but there’s nothing wrong with encouraging something that you think is in their best interest.

Squirting is a popular porn category, but although it’s not as common IRL, squirting can and does happen — including during anal sex.

As you might already know, squirting, also called female ejaculation, is the name for what happens when fluid “squirts” out of the urethra during sex. This occurs when the Skene’s gland — a gland located inside the anterior wall of the vagina — is stimulated, explains sex and dating coach Myisha Battle. This stimulation makes the Skene’s gland fill with fluid, which is then expressed through the urethra.

“Historically, we thought about stimulation of the G spot contributing to more intense orgasms and the potential for female ejaculation,” Battle explains, but “in the sexological world, we would probably lead more towards calling it the S-spot, because the Skene’s gland is something that, when stimulated, fills with fluid.” Whatever you call it — the G-spot, the S-spot, or the Skene’s gland — you’re going to want to stimulate it through “penetration of some kind, either manually, with a penis or with a toy,” Battle explains. Ideally, she adds, with a “toy that’s curved.”

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A member of the r/analonlylifestyle subreddit shares his story:

So I got back with my ex. We’ve been apart for almost three months but we missed each other very much so we’ve started dating again. The thing is: I don’t know if I’m back with her because she’s anal only.

In these three months I went back to meeting people after a relationship of 1.5 years, and it felt very awkward. I thought I needed to see other people but I found out that all this flirting thing bores me terribly. I tried to hook up with a few girls, but I think my ex spoiled me and that only anal sex can turn me on now.

I met another girl and she was funny and interesting, but she didn’t like anal very much. She liked to be rimmed, but I suspect we only did it because she knew I liked it. I would eat her ass and get super hard, but when she wanted me to fuck her (in the vagina), I couldn’t help getting soft. It was very frustrating and it happened many times with other girls. It came to a point that I could only get horny from anal porn. And the worse part, watching anal reminded me of my ex.

So I texted her, we met, we talked and we end up fucking super crazy like we used to do. It was amazing. And now we’re talking about getting back and how are we going to manage it, and I have lots of doubts.

Objectively she’s a keeper. She’s very kind and caring, we like the same things and have the same goals in life. I feel like there’s nothing I can’t tell her. And I know I’m not getting back with her because I feel lonely (in fact, one of the things that led us to breaking up was the fact that I value my time alone very much and I wanted my space).

I tell myself I’m back with her because I want to share my life and my things with her and team up to face adversity, but I can’t keep thinking that the truth is that sex is fucking amazing with her. I love grabbing her legs, spreading them apart and eating her asshole right away. I love how she moans, it drives me crazy. When we fuck she’s always clean and we don’t even need lube. She rides me and she cums in two minutes without touching her clit or her vagina. It’s so easy and so rewarding that I can’t believe it, and she loves it too. It blows my mind.

So my question is, am I fetishizing her? Have any of you been in a similar situation? Do you have any advice?

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An argument that often comes up when introducing the idea of the anal only lifestyle to someone who has not yet experienced it for themselves is that by excluding vaginal sex, you are in some way limiting yourself sexually and that it’s more open-minded to still include vaginal sex in one’s sexual routine rather than to focus purely on anal and oral.

While on the surface, this may appear to make sense to those who have not yet tried anal only, the reality is quite different. In practice, eliminating vaginal sex in favor of anal only is more of an enhancement to one’s sex life than a restriction, the result of focusing on that which gives the most pleasure, intimacy and excitement and mastering the best acts rather than feeling obligated to do everything.

There’s something magical that happens when going anal only for the long term, which is hard to comprehend until you’ve tried it and experienced it for itself, but which is different than simply having a lot of anal sex. The total exclusion of vaginal sex and the state of mind involved with the conscious decision to fully replace vaginal with anal ends up making sex and pleasure so much more intense and arousing.

Additionally, unlike vaginal sex, anal doesn’t generally get boring or tedious in the same way. Couples who got tired of vaginal quickly found that even a decade into being anal only, they still find it exciting and thrilling. There is so much fun and variety you can do with anal alone and vaginal doesn’t have much special to offer that anal can’t do better.

So if the idea of going anal only interests you but you’re worried it will end up limiting your options, don’t worry. Give it a try for yourself—No Pussy November is coming up and is a great time to experiment with the anal only lifestyle—and you’ll soon see the benefits!

… i was on vacation with my family on a small mediterranean island. It was that time i suggested to my wife to participate Anal only August. She agreed.

My wife and I were together for 15 years, raising a family with two kids, working hard, lot of stress. It was time for a change to renew our relationship. Also she was tired of hormonal birth control and wanted to quit.

After the tryout period we discussed it again and decided to go anal only for long term.

Right now we’re here again, on the same small mediterranean island, looking back on two very happy years. We made the change!

For curious couples reading this: just do it …

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Sex during pregnancy is highly individual. Some people experience higher libidos when pregnant, some have lower libidos, and some don’t see much of a change. If you do want to have sex during pregnancy, it’s safe, unless your doctor tells you otherwise. And that includes anal sex. So if you usually enjoy backdoor play, there’s no reason to stop having while pregnant.

“Anal sex while pregnant can be completely safe and enjoyable,” says Jennifer Driver, sex educator State Policy Director at the Sexuality Information and Education Council of the United States (SIECUS). “However, as with any sexual activity (pregnant or not), there are things to consider before engaging. For example, it is important to be aware of and clearly communicate comfort levels, express what is enjoyable and what is not, and have an understanding of both your own and your partner’s STI status.” As always with anal sex, you should use lube and be sure to clean the penis or sex toy — or change condoms — between anal sex and vaginal sex to avoid transferring bacteria.

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It’s hard to believe that it’s been nearly seven years since our first No Pussy November anal only challenge! Inspired by the idea that the best way to decide if going anal only is the right thing for you is to try it for at least a month, No Pussy November started as a month where many different people pledged to spend up to a month without vaginal sex, focusing just on anal sex, and shared their experiences.

Since then, with the growth of the Anal Only Lifestyle community across multiple platforms and with many people years into committed anal only relationships, it’s expanded to also be an annual celebration of anal sex and anal only for those who are already living in the lifestyle, and an opportunity for them to try new and different things.

So whether you’re new to the idea of anal only, have tried it before but would like to try it again, or are actively anal only and want to try something new, it’s time to start thinking about it and making plans with your partners to spend the entire month of November anal only or to introduce something new—clitoral denial, vaginal chastity, long term butt plug wear, a daily anal sex routine, bigger toy play or even more advanced things like anal fisting or double anal—into your anal only routine.

Be sure to share with us your ideas and goals for the month!

Even if you aren’t able to go anal only in your sex life with a partner—either because your partner doesn’t want to stop having vaginal sex, or because you don’t have a partner—you can still choose to go anal only in your solo play if you’re someone who receives anal.

Just make the decision that going forward, all your masturbation is going to be anal only. Even if you continue to combine it with other external stimulation, decide to stop all vaginal penetration and replace it fully with anal. Or if you want to go all in with anal only and are able to orgasm from anal—or want to learn how—exclude clitoral stimulation as well.

In this small way, you can start the anal only life that you want, and then work over time to achieve the same with a partner as well.