Anonymous: My husband (34M) and I (29F) have been in a relationship for 10 years, married for 2. I’ve been attracted to anal since a teenager (the first time I masturbated was anally), but my husband is a pretty vanilla kind of guy, so it took a while to convince him to fuck my ass. That was some 6 years ago I think. Since then we’ve been having some anal occasionally (definitely much less than once every 2 months) and it’s always been me initiating.

Anyways, in April we got pregnant after a very long spell of no anal to achieve conception and my doctor forbade vaginal sex due to some complications. Oral was also out of the question for me (and still is) due to extreme all-day sickness that sent my gag reflex into overdrive. As a result, we’ve been sex free for 3 months and now that my all-day sickness is going away, my husband finally proposed by himself that he fuck my ass!

So we had a talk and told him that I’d gladly have regular anal sex with him, as many times a week as he wants. It’s been a week since then and he’s fucked my ass every other day, completely ignoring my pussy. He won’t even touch my clit, which I find extremely hot (so I stopped touching it as well, hoping to achieve pure anal orgasms). He just lubes his cock and goes straight for my ass. It’s like my pussy doesn’t even exist for him now! It honestly feels like I’m living the dream!

I hope those anal only months will tip the scales and make him want more of it after the pregnancy is over, although I won’t even dream that he’ll want to stay anal only. I know he loves my pussy too much.

I never expected that getting pregnant would make my anal only sex fantasy come true!

Congratulations! That’s wonderful that you’re living your anal only dream finally and that it seems he’s happy with the arrangement as well and is committed to ignoring your pussy and clit entirely at least in the moment. You must be loving it, and I hope that you update us with more details on how things are progressing since you first shared this.

Make sure to let him know regularly how much you love him in your ass and how happy you are to be his anal only wife and he may very well be happy to keep ignoring your pussy and keep you purely anal only even after the pregnancy is over. It would be a shame to waste such a wonderful streak that you both enjoyed just because it’s technically possible to return to vaginal despite anal being better for you both. Maybe help him to also see that just because he loves your pussy doesn’t mean he has to fuck it, and not fucking it and using your ass instead can be a stronger sign of love.

It’s nearly the best time of the year again—after nine years in a row, No Pussy November still remains our flagship month each year to celebrate anal sex, the anal only lifestyle, and to encourage new people who aren’t yet anal only to challenge themselves to trying it for a solid month and seeing what it’s like.

If you’re new to the anal only lifestyle and you want to give it a try, this is a great time and way to do it! Talk with your partner now in advance of November and make sure you’re both on board with the idea, or if you’re single and want to try it with toys, get yourself to the point where you’re comfortable with anal masturbation on a regular basis—at least 3 to 5 times a week, if not every day.

If you’re already anal only, there are plenty of other things that you can try as a No Pussy November challenge this year!

• If you still use clitoral stimulation, you can challenge yourself to stop and focus purely on anal pleasure and anal orgasms. The more you go without your clit and rely on anal only to orgasm, the easier anal orgasms get!
• If you aren’t wearing a butt plug regularly, you can challenge yourself to wear one at some increased interval, or to spend the entire month plugged as often as possible. If you want to reach the latter goal but aren’t quite there yet, you could work yourself up to that point over the course of the month.
• You can challenge yourself to make ass to mouth a regular part of your sex life, normalizing it by doing it every time you have sex this November.
• You can start to introduce double anal to your sex life, either through play with two dildos, a partner and a dildo, or two partners.

Along the lines of that latter idea, for those who are particularly interested or experienced with double anal, we’re continuing our official advanced challenge this year as well: Double Anal Only November, where those who want to or are able to masturbate regularly with two dildos in their ass or have double anal sex regularly spend the entire month only having double anal sex every time they have sex. Naturally, this may be somewhat limited to people who have multiple partners who want to have double anal with them, but you can also participate by always using a toy along with their partner to achieve double anal, or by masturbating with a minimum of two toys in your ass at a time.

What are your plans? Let us know!

At just 12 years old, Devan Merck was diagnosed with a rare condition called Mayer-Rokitansky-Küster-Hauser syndrome, a congenital disorder that affects the reproductive tract. In Merck’s case, she was born without a vaginal canal, cervix and a malformed uterus.

Merck, now 23, underwent a hysterectomy at 13 years old, and later had reconstructive surgery, using tissue grafts to create a “man-made” vagina.

They say that success comes when luck is met with preparation. Devan has all of the former, and none of the latter; if I were lucky enough to be born with a special trait like no-vagina, I’d turn on the camera at 12:01am on my 18th birthday and just watch the money roll in. I don’t think this woman realizes just how profitable her situation is – if you heard there was a video out there of a woman with no vagina having anal sex, wouldn’t you pay half the money in your checking account to see that?

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miceandorratz: Hi! Know you’re on hiatus so feel free to answer whenever.

I found this blog a while ago and when I found out about No Pussy November I got really excited to finally start exploring anal stuff, especially now that I have friends (and probably more importantly the finances) to support me.

I’m not exactly sure what to do to start, though? I know November is a while’s off when I send this ask, but if I wanna buy any sex toys for the month I wanna do it beforehand. There’s no “anal training regimine” out there (I get it’s because I should go at the pace I feel comfortable with, but I wish there was something out there giving me a little more direction) so I’m not sure if I should get an anal training kit or just a lotta lube or what. Even between anal training kits I’m not sure what material to get it made outta!!

If you have any advice on what to do I’d appreciate it, all I really know that silicone lube is the preferred anal lube iirc. Any idea on if and what sex toys to bother with, general idea of how long to play with yourself, etc would be really appreciated. I don’t even have preference on price I’d just appreciate some direction.

Thanks for reading, hope things get easier for you! I’ve admired this blog for a while and stuff.

Glad to hear that you’re interested in anal and trying No Pussy November!

I suggest starting with lube and fingers and then getting a butt plug and dildo to try further from there. If you haven’t read our Guide, give it a look—it has a lot of advice on these topics.

Ultimately, though, the motivation and desire to get started is more important than exactly what you use. Most things will work, some better than others, and sticking with it and working on training your ass and ignoring your pussy are what will bring you success in the anal only lifestyle above all else.

Maria: Hi, i’m Maria, independent woman, 32y old. Just wanted share my opinion why anal was the first and only option for me. Firstly oral sex is something that is not really appealing for me, first when you have oral its not a mutual experience at the same time, one is giver another is receiver. I never liked the idea of oral, so never considered having it. Ok so what’s next? Vaginal, as a women who wants to stay single independent and without family is it the most appealing sort of sex? Not for me, i see to many problems with it. Birth control, condoms, menstruation cycle etc, first time pain and bleeding. Too much to think and worry about, what should be source of joy. So whats left? Right. Anal. While having anal sex, it’s mutual exercise which brings joy to both partners at the same time and you don’t have to care about all the stuff that i mentioned about vaginal sex. Pure freedom. I’ve never tried oral or vaginal and i doubt I will ever try.

Great reasoning for why anal is the best form of sex and vaginal in particular interferes with the purity of anal pleasure and its benefits. Oral sex can be an enjoyable addition to anal, however, and can compliment it, not necessarily as an independent act but as something supplemental. Analingus can provide relaxation and warmup before anal sex, and fellatio during and after can provide additional lubrication, arousal and cleanup for anal. Cunnilingus doesn’t need to be a part of an anal only life and often detracts from it.

Anonymous: I don’t trust people who claim to be sex-positive yet they got angry and point a finger at a woman who did harmless stuffs, minding her own business, such as preferring anal sex. The stereotypes and perceptions they perpetuate pushes back women who are curious and want to learn about anal sex with a positive mind, and the toxic cycle will keep going and will fuck up people’s mindset if you guys keep saying harmful stuffs to women. This is why I get red flags from feminist blogs/content creators who spread misinformation of anal sex and even say harmful stuffs and it’s a slap to my face as a woman who strongly prefers anal sex for reasons. I really do hope they learn the right information and education about anal sex, including willing to hear and amplify the voices of women who prefer anal, and listen to their experiences. If you think women are not capable of enjoying anal sex because of of her man or any assumptions that are straight up red flags, you genuinely don’t support that women can like different stuffs and have preferences. Women liking anal should not bother people, there is nothing wrong with enjoying anal sex.

Well said! Women can and do absolutely love and prefer anal and people need to stop claiming that they don’t or that it’s just men exploiting them and they only think they like it. The reality is that most women get more pleasure and arousal from anal than from vaginal or clitoral and it’s time the world accepted and respected that. Less than 1/3 of women orgasm from vaginal sex and yet we somehow think vaginal is normal when anal can provide orgasms far more easily than that without the side effects of clit stimulation?

Due to a number of things going on at once (all good) I currently have very little free time and am unable to maintain posting on this blog consistently and so am taking a temporary hiatus until things settle down. I will continue to post and answer any questions or comments anyone sends in but will not write new articles or track down additional content to post. Currently the plan would be to resume regular posting after a few months.

Thank you for your continued support and readership.

Wolf: My girlfriend and I have been in a relationship for 2 years. When I started having vaginal sex with her I realized that she was not very attracted to vaginal sex and she made many excuses not to have sex. When we had vaginal sex after I ejaculated she tried to bring her to orgasm with my fingers on her clitoris, but she did not like the sensation because when she already felt that she was going to have her orgasm and she told me to stop and not to do that anymore.

She also always told me that she was afraid to get pregnant that before meeting me she had already had an experience where she believed that she was pregnant and was afraid of the fact that it would happen again. We only had sex once a week and I was getting ready I was very tense in my balls, my girlfriend did not want that I would ejaculate if she was not present, so from time to time I asked her for a blowjob or a handjob to release my tension and she accepted and I began to be very excited by the idea that I had an orgasm with her giving me pleasure without her receiving it.

So I proposed to her that she only give me blowjobs and handjobs and after talking about it, we both agreed. And since then we have a much better relationship, we are very close, sometimes she sends me messages while I am at work that if I am ready for my blowjob of the day. Before we only had sex once a week, now she makes me ejaculate every day with a blowjob. And I have told her how horny I am that she pleases me without her receiving it and I tell her that I am very excited to have my orgasm and that she sees me ejaculate without her having an orgasm, she told me that the idea also makes her horny of making me enjoy without her receiving pleasure she gets wet when she sees me enjoy and when she sees me ejaculate.

She says that she feels more comfortable as well because it is a contraceptive method and she knows that she will not get pregnant and that leaves her calm and she enjoys it more and she gets horny she has control of my ejaculation.

We already have 4 months like this and it is the best thing that has happened to me. I found your blog and I liked the posts and I showed it to my girlfriend and we decided to write this because although this blog is about anal sex I have also seen some publications of girls that are only oral, and denial of orgasm for women and I think my situation has some similarities to this blog. Sorry my bad english.

Thanks for sharing! Various forms of sex that exclude vaginal sex have a lot of similarities, and being oral only fits in well with the same sort of mindset as anal only. The two of you might enjoy the oral and anal only lifestyle as well in time while continuing to exclude vaginal!

EllaV: Hi, I found your site because I was searching for a solution to what I want and I think this might be it. I am a virgin and I really want to stay that way, it’s not because of my family or religion really, just something that I want for myself because I don’t like the idea of vaginal sex or getting pregnant until I’m ready, so I’d like to not have vaginal sex until then which will be a long time. But I also am really horny and have been dating so I would like to have sex, and anal only seems like a good way to do it.

I started fingering myself last week and I like how it feels. How long do I need to practice for until I can try anal sex with my boyfriend? He’s been pushing for sex lately and I want to be able to give it to him but I want it to be safe too!

I agree that it’s a good solution for staying a vaginal virgin and I definitely support the idea of not having vaginal sex outside of reproductive goals and only doing anal and oral otherwise! I think that’s a trend we’re going to be seeing more and more of so that we can start to take control of our lives away from the risk of reproduction through sex and turn sex into something that serves us instead through anal only. Sex is healthy and good and should be done regularly but it shouldn’t be vaginal, it should be anal.

I encourage fingering yourself until you can fit three fingers without it hurting and then get a butt plug around that thickness or a little bigger and work to be able to wear that. From there you could either try a dildo similar size to your boyfriend or just work towards anal together with him at that point if he’s patient and gentle and won’t just push it in.

Also be sure to talk with him about your goal to be anal only and that you want to keep your pussy virgin and unused and make sure that he’s on board with this idea as well. The last thing you want is him not understanding and going for your pussy instead.

Good luck and enjoy! You’re going to love being anal only.

I am not a newbie, but recently I have experienced things I have never seen before. My girl likes to be fucked longer, harder and more all the time. She has been getting really into total pussy denial, i used to be allowed to lick her and spank her pussy but now she wants it absolutely untouched. She is also really insisting on natural lubricants and without her pussy it’s just spit (mine and hers) and she has become totally obsessed with deep-throating ass-to-mouth for extra lube.

I have known girls who love anal above all else. I even knew anal-only girls, but I never experienced something like that. It’s like a manifestation of the anal-only mythology where she always wants more and I get addicted to her ass.

She says she always loved anal but this is the first time she realizes that she wants to have her pussy completely denied, only have her ass licked and fucked and only come from anal or not at all.

Has anybody had such an experience too. Is that happening more often or am I just experiencing something very special?

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