Category: Anal Advice

Posts containing advice about anal sex and the anal only lifestyle. For more general anal advice, see our Anal Sex Advice and Guide to the Anal Only Lifestyle page.


Message: Helping Friends Go Anal Only?

Anonymous: Hi! I’ve been following this blog for a long time (I hope you’re still active!), and I’ve been anal only with my current and previous boyfriend for a few years now. I love it and so does my boyfriend, and I really like the idea of encouraging my friends to do it too! I’m not sure how to really bring it up, though, do you have any suggestions?

I’m glad being anal only has been such a positive experience for you that you want to share it with others! If your friends are more sexually open minded and you talk about sex on some level with them already, wait for one of those moments talking about your sex lives or what you like and bring up that you and your boyfriend are anal only and that you really love anal and prefer it to vaginal, and if they show any interest or curiosity encourage them to try it out as well. That’s probably the easiest approach!

Article: Anal Sex the Tantric Way

Although anal sex has been been a part of human sexuality since ancient times, couples exploring Tantric sex are not likely to find much information about anal sex and might conclude, therefore, that anal sex isn’t Tantric. However, that isn’t true. In fact, anal sex fits well within the Tantric tradition and facilitates several goals of Tantric sex.

For example, one of the key aspects of Tantra has been violating personal and cultural taboos. Though about one-third of heterosexual couples have tried anal sex, it is still a bit taboo. Tantric anal sex extends a couple’s sexual boundaries.

Tantric anal sex also fits in with the concept of complete union between partners. By having anal sex, a woman surrenders herself totally to her partner, allowing him access to all parts of her body.

Tantric anal sex can also facilitate kundalini arousal. Between the rectal wall and the tip of the tailbone, or coccyx, exists an irregular, oval-shaped gland called the “coccygeal body,” which Tantra considers the “Kundalini gland.” Anal sex can activate the gland by dilating the anal sphincters, causing a reflex effect upon the two branches of the autonomic nervous system, the parasympathetic (Ida) and the sympathetic (Pingala), which terminate in the anus and rectum. In addition to altering the state of the involuntary nervous system, anal intercourse results in the ejaculation of semen into the rectum, which, according to traditional belief, nourishes the Kundalini gland much the same way as the white of an egg nourishes the fertilized yolk.

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Message: Anal Only as Bisexual Woman

Anonymous: Hi! I am curious about combining the anal only lifestyle with being a bisexual woman. If a woman never touches her pussy nor lets it be touched when she is having sex with men, would the same apply to women? Otherwise, what sort of sexual activity would be recommended among women who want to keep the anal only lifestyle?

Ultimately it’s up to you, of course. Some anal only women allow non-penetrative vaginal/clitoral play but exclude vaginal for intercourse. Some are more strict. If you don’t touch your pussy and don’t want it to be touched, however, then I would say the same should go with female partners. Just do rimming, anal fingering, plugging and anal dildo play together and keep things purely anal only!

The Impacts of Roe v. Wade’s Fall and Anal Only

First, I want to say that I and this blog fully support women’s reproductive rights and I stand in firm opposition to efforts to remove the right to abortion and reproductive freedom in general. For anyone who thinks this is the only target, it’s not: access to contraception, LGBTQ rights, and more are the next target and we need to all prepare for a long fight for all our rights and freedom. Attempts to restore “anti-sodomy” laws is likely coming as well, trying to make non-reproductive sex illegal.

With that being said, I expect there will be an influx of people here who are looking for safe alternatives to enjoy sex without the risk of pregnancy, and the anal only lifestyle is still an excellent choice which provides pleasure, intimacy, passion and sexual freedom combined with excellent natural birth control.

If you have any questions, don’t hesitate to ask, and be sure to check out our Guide to Anal Sex and the Anal Only Lifestyle as well.

In a time of crisis and regression, the anal only lifestyle can provide sexual freedom and equality for women, and the act of going anal only can also serve as a form of protest.

Message: Concerns About Waxing from an AO Woman

Anonymous: Hi! Idk how many years I’ve been AO, but it’s been a long time. I always prioritize my personal hygiene, including waxing which is a better alternative for me since it’s more effective. I never used my front part, thus not shaving or waxing my front part since i don’t bother using it, Idk if I’m the only girl who feel this way, ofc I always practice waxing for my own leisure, not for anybody else.

Some anal only women choose to remove hair from their vulva even though they don’t use it, because they prefer how it looks or feels. Others choose to wax or shave everything else but keep their vulva hairy as a symbol of its lack of use. Both can be excellent options, depending on your personal preferences. What’s really important is not using your vagina and being anal only.

Article: Best Butt Plugs for Beginners

When it comes to butt stuff, ‘go big or go home’ isn’t the best advice. Instead, it’s best to start with something small, like one of these butt plugs aimed at newbies

As a one-time sex toy retail worker, I often noticed that when customers came into my store looking shifty-eyed and incapable of expressing what they actually wanted to buy, they were usually looking for a butt plug. Sometimes, I’d lead them to the butt plug section unprompted, just to watch sweet relief bloom on their face as I showed them what they had wanted all along.

It makes sense that so many people are skittish about trying anal play. It’s still hugely taboo and shrouded in misconceptions — like that it “makes you gay” (nope), has to hurt (nope) or will automatically be messy (not necessarily). Given how intimidating anal penetration can be, both physically and psychologically, it’s usually best to start with something small — like a finger or a beginner-friendly butt plug.

Butt plugs are different from other anal toys in that they’re designed, more-or-less, to stay put inside you. You can thrust them in and out like a dildo or a set of anal beads, but staying still is what they were made to do, so they do it very well. This makes them a popular pick for combining with masturbation or sex — they can provide some passive prostate stimulation during a blow job, enhance the sensation of vaginal sex or amp up your pleasure when you’re touching yourself. They’re also the comfiest and most practical choice if you want some surreptitious anal sensations in public, like while on a dinner date with your partner.

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Article: A 12-Step Guide to Pleasing Your Asshole

The deepest part of ourselves that we hold so much shame around, can unlock our nervous system, bring about deeper orgasms, and help release old stories that we have locked in our brains and body. The anus is connected to the root chakra, which responds to the coccygeal plexus of nerves. Anal can be a powerful way to explore these nerve responses, as well as the ideas of family patterning, feeling safe in our bodies, and primal responses. In tantra there is no abstraction. The physical body is the basis for consciousness. Anal sex requires deep, primal connection, communication and trust. Ass play, or “root chakra work” as I like to call it, can be extremely pleasurable, activating and healing.

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Forum: Pregnancy Being Anal Only

Hello everybody, I have noticed in several comments and chats that many people of the anal only community believe that to have children we must have vaginal sex, yes we keep our pussy for reproductive purposes and the ass for sex and pleasure, but there is another option that I decided to share here.

You can have anal sex and penetrate the pussy just to cum inside if you want to have children but this is not recommended because of the vaginal infections that can cause taking something from your ass to your pussy.

The better option is artificial insemination, you can go to a doctor for this but since it is not for fertility problems there is a simpler option, buy an insemination kit that is usually sold in pharmacies and do it yourself, the kits are simply sterile containers for the semen, a sterile syringe and some tube or utensil to penetrate the pussy and place the semen deep within it or directly into the uterus (a penetration much smaller than a cock)

This for example:
https://gyazo.com/da02c3eb1bcec4b692ff34513aa3931f
https://gyazo.com/cf14a9bbf433466524c148b98b09ea76

I think it’s a good option for those anal only couples who want to have children and keep the pussy unfucked and closed, they can also opt for a cesarean on the moment of birth.

I know that not everyone here wants to have children or that they are single or already have children, I dont want children but in the future if I want, I will use this option, it seems useful to me as anal only woman, I hope it will be useful to you too, in the present or the future.
Greetings, good luck and have lots of anal sex

julietagc, Anal Only Lifestyle forum

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Discussion: My Boyfriend Likes Anal More

A woman asks:

My boyfriend said he likes anal with me more than normal intercourse. I know he likes my butt but did he mean that my pussy is too loose?

She gets some ignorant answers advocating for exercise to tighten her vagina, missing the point entirely that many men just prefer anal and don’t want vaginal whether it’s tight or not. Fortunately, one such man follows up:

As a fellow sodomite, some of us just prefer anal sex. For me, it’s about the dominance and how good it feels. Her vagina is nice and snug and I enjoy vaginal sex but anal is where it’s at for me.

It sounds like the conversation needs input from more anal only men and women.

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Message: How Do I Stop Clit Stimulation?

Jenny32: I have been doing anal only with my boyfriend for the past couple years and I found switching from vaginal to anal to be easy, it feels better and it turns us on more and I love that he can cum in me every day and I don’t have to be on birth control. It’s been wonderful! But I admit I am still really reliant on my clitoris and my boyfriend has told me that he’d like it if I could stop rubbing myself and be totally anal only. I’d like that too, but I am not sure how to do it because it is a lot harder for me to stop. Any advice?

I’m really glad to hear that you’ve been having a great time since going anal only, and I hope that you continue to enjoy it long term. It sounds like the perfect time to give up clit stimulation and commit to pure anal only going forward, which will further strengthen and deepen your commitment to the anal only lifestyle.

First, remember that it’s a process and failure is often part of any process of learning or mastering something. If you go back to clit stimulation at some point, don’t give up, just start again with not using it.

Establishing a challenge to go a week without clit stimulation can be a good way to start, and ease into it without worrying longer term just yet. Once you make it a week, try extending it another week, then to a full month, and just keep going from there.

If you end up giving in to clit stimulation, try setting your next challenge to be longer than your previous success and keep building on your past experiences from there! Before you know it, you’ll be clit free for good.

You might also try numbing creams like Orajel on your clit, which temporarily remove sensation and can be applied before sex to aid in giving up touching yourself. Also check out the page on our Guide about clitoral denial, which covers this topic in more detail!

Good luck! I’m sure you can do this!