Category: Anal Advice

Posts containing advice about anal sex and the anal only lifestyle. For more general anal advice, see our Anal Sex Advice and Guide to the Anal Only Lifestyle page.


Message: Anal Porn

Anonymous: Hi, I don’t know if you don’t remember me exactly, but I’m a female and I have been anal only for 2 years. I do appreciate that there is anal positivity nowadays. However one thing that really irks me is how porn has become normalize, including anal porn. If you want to normalize anal, then why do people push the connotion of anal as a “porn thing” or things that exists in pornography? That’s how the stigma affects my sexuality and how I view myself all. I am not trying to push the “ban porn” and I really don’t care if anyone wants to watch it. The thing is that many women like me feel insecure and view myself negatively after getting disgusted and I really don’t wanna see any kind of pornography no matter what and I’m not interested in it. Do not learn from porn. Yes it can be amazing but you will regret it. Yes I still like anal sex rather than anal porn, but no offense to the so-called pornography and society who creates the stigma behind anal sex.

I think it’s more that porn has also become quite normalized for most people and recognized that while yes, it’s entertainment and not always an accurate representation of sex, it can be enjoyed by most people and does influence and inspire people to try new and better things as a result. A lot of people say that they first tried anal because they saw it in porn and liked how it looked.

But not liking porn is fine as well, and plenty of people enjoy anal without any pornographic connotations. Just recognize that porn has helped with the spreading of anal positivity in recent years.

Forum: Anal Only April!

Our first of two of our favorite times of the year is almost upon us! For my wife & I April means her pussy is still in play. I can lick it and play with her clit, but no penetration of ANY kind. Nothing, my penis, toys, fingers, even my tongue are all out. The inside of her vagina is out of bounds. Unlike November, when her pussy is completely out of bounds.

Just over a year ago we had seriously thought about going A.O.A (Anal only April) style all year round. While my wife found the idea to be super kinky. She decided that she wasn’t ready give up on her vagina completely.

As things stand now. Three out of four times we have A.O.A. style sex. That one time out of four she wants vaginal sex, but it only lasts for a few minutes before she wants it in her ass. Which is how we almost always finish anyway. After having twins vaginal has become uncomfortable for her and it only feels good for a very short time.

On Saturday afternoon my wife wants to use a heart shaped pastie to seal her pussy closed. Using the vee at the top to leave her clit exposed so I can lick it. Not that it takes much for play these days to get her ass ready. She has gotten to the point now that I can enter her ass “cold” with ease & no discomfort at all for her. Does anyone else have special, kinky plans for this month?

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Anal Only is Essential for Men Too

Much of what this blog focuses on is the benefits of anal sex and the anal only lifestyle for women, but there are so many advantages for men as well.

Some women have a strong preference for anal but hesitate to go anal only because they fear that men won’t want to miss out on vaginal sex. The reality is, however, that excluding vaginal and focusing just on anal increases pleasure, arousal, and intimacy for men as well.

In a physical sense, anal provides more sensation, greater depth, and an inability to get pregnant when cumming inside.

Mentally and emotionally, anal is inherently more intimate because it requires more trust and strengthens a relationship by transitioning to anal only.

The bottom line is that there are benefits to going anal only for everyone regardless of their gender and the best way to learn more about it is to try it for yourself for at least a month and see what it’s like in reality.

Arguments for and Against Vaginal Virginity

Vaginal virginity can be a topic of some contention within the anal only lifestyle community at times, with some people very much in favor of women who choose to remain vaginal virgins and only ever have anal sex without ever experiencing vaginal, while others argue that all women should try both before choosing which they prefer. Outlined below are some common arguments from both sides.

Arguments In Favor of Preserving Vaginal Virginity

  • The idea of remaining vaginally pure has deep roots in many civilizations and appeals to many people, and this modernizes those ideas to advocate for lifelong vaginal purity and reclassification of the vagina as purely a reproductive organ while the anus becomes a woman’s sex organ
  • Many men who prefer anal only girls are extremely attracted to vaginal virgins who have never and don’t want to have vaginal sex, ever
  • By focusing on anal stimulation and anal pleasure only, without ever experiencing vaginal, it is much easier to get even more pleasure from anal because there are no habits or connections with vaginal penetration or (in some cases) clitoral stimulation to overcome
  • You can always decide later in life to have vaginal sex if you change your mind, but you can’t go back to being a vaginal virgin

Arguments Against Vaginal Virginity

  • To make a truly informed decision, someone has to experience everything before deciding what they prefer

What are your views on this subject? Leave a comment sharing your opinion.

Message: Can We Go Anal Only?

Anonymous: I really like anal sex but it makes me sore after so we don’t do it very often. The idea of being anal only really appeals to me though, and I’d like to try. Is there a way we can do it without me getting so sore?

Anal is one of those things, kind of like exercise in general, where doing it more often and on a more consistent schedule will help you to enjoy it without becoming sore in the same way. Ease into it: start once a week for a few weeks, then twice a week, and increasing frequency over the course of several months until you can do it as often as you like. At that point, it’s easy to make the transition to anal only!

Article: From The Confessional: Moms Are Confessing About ‘Butt Stuff’

No matter how you like your salad tossed, there’s a mom out there who’s done it and is ready to help anyone who’s curious about…”butt stuff.” Anal sex and foreplay are a very common part of the bedroom scene for many couples — and sometimes, you don’t even need a partner to enjoy it!

Some moms are very into it — these are the pros. The people who know exactly how to utilize their rear in the right way. Some moms are more novice and are just exploring their own curiosity about what you do, how far you can go, what they like, what’s a big NO, etc.

The good news is, all of this information and more is alive and well in our Confessinal.

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Anal Only Can Be a Commitment, But Well Worth It

Part of what makes the anal only lifestyle so rewarding is the fact that it’s a commitment. It takes effort for many women to get started, to resist the urges of their vaginal and clitoral habits, and to train for frequent anal. For many, vaginal may be easier, but by no means does that make it better.

Taking the first step and going a few weeks or months to get past the strong urges for vaginal penetration or clitoral stimulation can be difficult, but with that focus and commitment and self control comes the clarity of anal pleasure and the amplification of arousal that comes from suppressing vaginal and clit stimulation in favor of anal only.

The cleaning and training routine to stay ready for anal sex on a regular schedule can seem like a lot to the uninitiated, but it can become an appealing part of the lifestyle for many, and actually serves to build the commitment: through all the effort and work put in, it makes someone not want to give up on it and go back to vaginal.

Message: Does Liking Anal Make Me Gay?

Phelix: So I recently told my ex girlfriend I liked to receive anal. She broke up with me because I like receiving anal. She told me that I was gay and that it was weird. I don’t understand it what do you think?

And I have a question? I started play anally about a year and a half ago. I’m trying to orgasm from anal only do you have any tips to stop using my penis to have an orgasm. Right now I can use anal to get to the edge but I have to touch my penis to actually orgasm.

Enjoying anal as a giver or a receiver doesn’t inherently have anything to do with someone’s sexuality. Sexuality has to do with who you’re attracted to. You can be a straight man who likes giving or receiving anal sex from women. You can be a gay man who likes giving or receiving anal sex from men. Or all sorts of other combinations. The sexual act is separate from the gender you’re attracted to and want to have sex with. But because men receiving anal sex has been so associated with being gay in our culture, it’s assumed by some less informed people that liking anal means you’re gay.

As for orgasming from anal, just keep going. It takes time. Try committing to at least several months without anything but anal stimulation and you should gain significantly more sensitivity and start to get over the edge from anal stimulation alone.