Category: Anal Only Lifestyle


Vaginal Holds You Back From Real Pleasure

Many people enjoy anal sex, but not exclusively. They make anal a part of their sexual routine and enjoy it as a portion of the sex they have, though vaginal often remains some part of it as well.

Now, any inclusion of anal is better than none, but there’s something to be said about being anal only, and it’s something that’s hard to fully comprehend until you’ve tried it for yourself for a while.

Stopping all vaginal penetration entirely to focus purely on anal ends up amplifying your arousal and pleasure beyond simply having anal sex, and makes sex better, more enjoyable, and more exciting.

Why is this? It likely comes down to a combination of factors: the increased trust and intimacy that comes from focusing purely on anal sex, and the fact that vaginal and clitoral stimulation suppress arousal, especially post-orgasm, while anal tends to have far more arousal amplifying effects.

So, if you aren’t already, try going anal only for a few months and see what it’s like for yourself. You’ll most likely fall in love with it and not want to return to vaginal sex.

Message: Double Anal and Gapes?

This message was originally posted to the Anal Only Bdsmlr blog, and is being cross-posted here.

Anonymous: You keep enconraging gapes and double anal. They’re indeed a very sexy thing, but in reality wouldn’t you be afrait if the one good hole get’s loose there’s nothing to enjoy anymore?

While in fantasy, some people like the idea of women being stretched out to the point that they can’t enjoy even anal anymore, that doesn’t really happen in real life aside from major injury and nerve damage.

Gapes are just the result of learning to control your anal muscles and keep them relaxed open. Because you have that control, you can also let them tighten back up again too, when you’re ready to do so.

Stretching from increased usage, whether from larger partners, larger toys, or from double anal, doesn’t mean that you’re always loose, it just increases your upper limit of comfortable stretching. You can still stay tight when you want to have sex that way, and enjoy smaller penetration as well. Women like Roxy Raye, who can have massive gapes and enjoy huge toys, still close up tight after and can have “normal” anal sex too.

That said, some women simply prefer larger penetrations and over time may find that they want to focus on large toys or double anal, because thats what gives them the most pleasure, and that’s perfectly fine as well if it’s what they want and they’re able to sustain it.

Why Are You Anal Only?

People choose the anal only lifestyle for many reasons, including but not limited to:

  • a simple preference for anal sex
  • wanting to maintain vaginal virginity
  • the natural birth control of anal sex
  • the dom/sub dynamics that can pair well with being anal only
  • total orgasm denial, or clitoral orgasm denial with the benefits of anal orgasm

What is your reason for being anal only? Please respond in the comments and share why you are or want to embrace the anal only lifestyle.

Message: Condom Broke, He Wants to Go Anal Only

Jess: I always wanted to be anal only and today the opportunity finally came. I had sex with a guy but the condom broke and now we’re both paranoid about it. Now he wants to have only anal sex. But how will I transition to anal this fast??? Please, help.

Sounds like a great opportunity to get what you want, but be honest with him. Tell him you will need a little time to adjust to it at first, and go more slowly the first few weeks, gradually increasing how often you have sex. Wear a butt plug regularly when you aren’t having sex.

You may have to start out only doing it two or three days a week, and can do oral on days that you can’t do anal, and then every few weeks, increase it by another day a week, until you can do it as often as you like. Just listen to your body. If you’re getting sore, take it a little slower. If everything is fine, gradually go a bit more often.

Good luck, and keep us updated on how it goes!

Message: Anal Only Post-Pregnancy

This message was originally posted to the Anal Only Bdsmlr blog, and is being cross-posted here.

I had a baby a year ago, and your post about matures and childbirth got me thinking abt my situation. I’m 27 (not exactly a mature) but childbirth did change things down there. When we began having sex again my husband was only interested in anal sex. (I started having regular anal sex when we got married, it was part of our deal because I didn’t gave him enough anal when we were dating, so I’m pretty used to anal, I don’t mind it) The problem is, it has been a year now. He always has some excuse to not do PIV, he says he prefers Anal so he just makes me cum with his hands so he can get to the butt fucking. 

Do you think it might have something to do with childbirth? Or is he AO curious like myself and decided to be AO? Should I let this continue since I don’t dislike anal? 

Thanks for reaching out! It sounds like it could be a combination of both, potentially.

It’s pretty common for people to be more attracted to anal during and after pregnancy, potentially in part because we instinctively know that anal is a natural form of birth control, and when pregnant, there’s no way to get pregnant again, so the reproductive drive isn’t really there and anal has more of a draw instead.

But he probably also is interested in anal only, like yourself, and has effectively said as much when he told you he prefers anal.

You should both talk about it—non-confrontationally—and decide together whether you want to commit to anal only going forward as a conscious and mutual decision. Obviously, I’d encourage you to stick with it, but ultimately it’s up to the both of you!

The Natural Beauty of Anal

Something which men tend to notice quickly once starting to have anal sex with a woman, and which women often echo when watching anal in porn, is that they find it much more aesthetically pleasing and visually enjoyable than vaginal sex.

While aesthetics are far from the only element of sex, we do tend to be very visual when it comes to our sexuality, and seeing the beauty and elegance of anal sex, with a tight, round anus that seems perfectly designed to fit and cling to a penis, absolutely helps to contribute to the excitement and enjoyment of anal sex.

As people gain exposure to anal sex or start to go anal only, it’s commonly reported that they start to find seeing vaginal sex unappealing and even a turn off. Others see it that way from the start.

What has been your experience with how you visually perceive vaginal sex vs. anal?

Message: Vaginal Tightness and Anal Only

This message was originally posted to the Anal Only Bdsmlr blog, and is being cross-posted here.

Anonymous: What if you have to go anal only ’cause your pussy can’t get tight any more?

That’s a perfectly legitimate reason to go anal only as well, and one of many reasons that people do it. If you or your partner are unable to enjoy vaginal sex, switching to anal only makes a lot of sense and can provide a sexual outlet that’s equal to or better than vaginal and can restore confidence and sexuality.

Forum: Anal Passion

Two days after I posted that our country was locked down and with the virus, we decided to post pond the idea of having a kid. We feel like it would be a risk for a baby with something dangerous is out there. So that’s the sad part because I really wanted a child and here is the good part. 26 month anal only and continue. and with this situation, we are not planning to have a kid until next year. And we had some crazy home alone anal sex time for the past few months.


Also, I would like to add more to my anal sex experience. Because there are still people think this is just a bullshit idea and this is some sort of male fantasy being spread. This is not a statement to prove that fact is wrong or otherwise. This is my realization of my own experience.

People have sexual desires and fantasies and this is one of them. I started anal from a very early age but until marriage, my sex is pussy and ass both. I tried some anal only period before marriage it was broken and after marriage i only had anal sex now it’s 26 months more than two years. First year i only had anal sex but i rubbed my clit for singe masturbation. Didn’t penetrate in vigina just rubbing like a virgin girl masturbate. After like a year i started to masturbate anal only two. Every nine out of ten intercourse i have i cum. Just from anal. Occationally squirt too.

How it happens? Remember when you watched porn or so much aroused for any reason and for guys one or two stroke you cum and women just a touch on her vigina she cum too. And your orgams is so strong accorging to how much horney or aroused you were. This is very rare some times people can orgasm or cum just by having sexy imagination without touching your sexual organs. This is not pre-ejaculation this your inner arousness and how strong your sexual chemistry is. Rare but possible.
So when it comes to the anal only why this is so amazing for me because this is not just physical for me. We all have sex fantasy and desires. Has anyone ever had sexual passion?. This is my way. I have a sexual passion for anal sex. This passion takes me to a certain level of arousness within my chemistry in the body. And when this passion arounsnes meets physical anal contact my orgasm cannot be explain thru words.
If anyone says sexual passion is just bullshit have any one seen public dom and sub couples? Dom actually, takes the sub in public on a collar and leash. And the woman doesn’t feel it as a humiliation she enjoys it because it’s a passion. Not a try out.

And if there are any girl and woman who try anal only and not working i say if you can try this. Have a passion for it. Not like oh! i want to try anal. No, not like that, using the fantasy, desire, some times porn helps too not for all try to make passion and when that passion goes thru you, your sex experience will be unexplainable.

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When Can You Call Yourself Anal Only?

There are a lot of people exploring the anal only lifestyle these days in various capacities, and a question which comes up often is what people at different stages of the transition to anal only can or should call themselves, and when they can say that they’re anal only.

There’s a lot of personal variation

The fundamental component of the anal only lifestyle is not having vaginal sex and doing anal instead. If you do that, you’re anal only. Beyond that, it comes down to personal preference and what works best for you.

Some people choose to exclude all vaginal penetration, including toys and fingering, while others are okay with that so long as it’s not vaginal intercourse. Some people choose to exclude external stimulation including clit rubbing and cunnilingus, while others want or need that in combination with anal. Some people will only orgasm from anal, while others are happy to orgasm any way so long as it doesn’t involve vaginal sex.

Do what works best for you. If you are doing anal instead of vaginal every time, you’re anal only.