Category: Anal Only Lifestyle

Preferring Anal Sex Does Not Make You A Freak

Something I hear quite often is that people feel scared to admit their preference of anal sex to others, whether it be friends, potential partners, or even existing partners. This is usually the result of the perception that other people will judge them negatively or see them as a “freak” for what can still be seen by some as abnormal.

Unfortunately, sometimes this concern is based on actual experiences people have had when trying to be open about it in the past and they try to protect themselves from future humiliation by not talking about it with others going forward. But the reality is that your preference for anal isn’t going to go away—it’s a natural part of who you are and there’s absolutely nothing wrong with it or with you for having that preference.

But it can feel that way when other people judge you for it. Luckily, in recent years, a lot of people are getting past that and are responding much more positively to the idea, with some thrilled to discover others with similar preferences, or inspired to try it for themselves after finding out their friends are active and experienced with anal sex. Even still, some still feel like a freak.

Don’t. You can’t let your life be ruled by what other people think, especially about something so personal and inherent as this. Your body and your sexuality are what they are and preferring anal sex isn’t harmful in any way to anyone. Sure, not everyone is going to be into it at the same level as you, and that’s okay. Be respectful of potential partners and their own preferences, and don’t force your preferences onto others, but be open and honest about what your preferences are and you will meet other people who have or are curious about those same things and you will both end up the better for it.

Whether you’re anal only, a non-exclusive anal enthusiast, curious about anal sex, or not into anal at all, be who you are and pursue what you want and own that fact. Those who love or are interested in you will understand and quite possibly be thrilled to discover your preferences, and if they respond negatively to you sharing your preferences, they probably aren’t the best candidates to be your partner or your friend in the first place.

Announcing a Patreon Page for the Anal Only Lifestyle

As this community and the lifestyle that surrounds it grows, I’ve gradually been spending more of my time and money on it. It’s not a lot of money, just enough for hosting costs at this time, but it can add up. I do spend an extensive amount of time, however.

When Tumblr was active, I was creating content for multiple blogs to post between 1 and 6 times a day, some of them uninterrupted for years. The forum and Discord server require monitoring and moderation for spam, rule violations, and other abusive behavior to ensure that they remain welcoming spaces for all their members.

And with this blog, in addition to the recent several-week-long migration of all its content off Tumblr to its new home, I’ve tried to always keep to as frequent a posting schedule as possible, given my time and the availability of content. This requires writing original posts and articles, looking for relevant articles, discussions and quotes online, and answering reader questions as they are submitted. I’ve also created a guide to anal sex and the anal only lifestyle which we launched earlier this year and has continued to expand over time, with answers to many of the most frequently asked questions received.

Because of that, I’m happy to announce that I’ve created a Patreon page for the Anal Only Lifestyle community. The blog, forum and Discord will continue to be publicly and freely accessible to everyone as they always have been, but if you’d like to support their continued hosting and development by becoming a patron, you’re more than welcome to do so and can receive special roles on the forum and Discord that identify you as a supporter, as well as a few other special perks for contributing members.

Outside of this community, I work as an independent contractor on a variety of projects, so the more income I’m able to earn from running this community, the more time I’ll be able to spend on it going forward and treat it like a part-time job rather than just a hobby when I have the time. I have lots of ideas for new content, products, and resources I’d like to develop if I have the time to do so, and I’d love to discuss those ideas with readers and future patrons as well.

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Reddit: Can’t Keep Anal Off My Mind

I haven’t had sex in years, and even became a Christian in the process. I started NoFap to regain self control – but I keep failing. I haven’t watched porn in almost a year, and I lost all my fetishes, but I still keep thinking of and missing anal. I can’t help but masturbate once it crosses my mind. If I get married, I know it’s only a matter of time until I introduce daily anal sex (if not multiple times a day) into my future marriage.

I preferred it to vaginal sex. I don’t feel much inside my vagina (which I am sad about), but in my ass I can feel everything – the texture, the pressure, every movement sliding in and out. The penis can go deeper in my ass than my vagina as well, and one time I’ve had 9 inches balls deep inside me. With my vagina, it feels like the man is having sex with just the vagina. With my ass, it feels like he’s having sex with my whole body. Because of this, it feels deeper and more intimate.

I introduced all my ex boyfriends to anal. I suggested it, and the man happily complied. When I spread everything for display, my man would finger and play with any parts he wanted. We then used coconut oil and took it slow, with him inserting the tip first. I pushed myself against his dick, my hands still spreading my ass (this always drove my exes nuts). I eased myself onto his dick, feeling the shape of him and how it pulsated inside me. My feet were already weak by this point, and my lips and breasts were swollen as a direct response to being “full”. He spooned me while fondling me, smelling my hair and kissing my neck. I wrapped my legs around his and led his hand to my mouth to suck on his wet fingers (to taste myself, which drove him wild). It was very easy to make myself come by tightening myself around his dick, and he said this was the tightest hole he felt. Eventually he couldn’t take it anymore and start thrusting very hard, in different positions every time we had sex. Sometimes he would keep his finger in my mouth. I would feel his thrusts through my whole body, and I sucked his dick with my ass by continuing to clench. After he came, we kept his dick inside me a bit longer as we made out. I loved basking in the heat and sweat of the man. When he slid out, it would make a “pop” noise and I kept his cum inside me until our next session, which was pretty soon.

What’s also interesting is that once I vaginally orgasm, I am not horny anymore. With anal, even after an intense orgasm, I am still hungering for more and I can satisfy that hunger multiple times a day anally without losing that drive. This was my life, almost every day.

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Anal Only Father’s Day

Are you someone who loves anal sex and haven’t come up with a good Father’s day gift yet for your husband or partner? Consider the option of going anal only with him for an extended period of time, and letting him enjoy anal sex with you every time you have sex rather than only on occasion.

It’s a great gift, both for him and for yourself. There are many different advantages to going anal only, and while he’ll no doubt love it, there are many reasons you can enjoy it as well!

For more information on the anal only lifestyle, check out our Guide, which goes much deeper into every aspect of the lifestyle.

Reddit: Anal Only Isn’t a Form of Denial

I don’t see anal only as a firm of denial for me. My orgasms have always come from a blend of sensations. Anal is simply superior in that aspect.
We have gine anal only for a number of reasons. One of which is the extreme intimacy. Vaginal has to much risk of pregnancy that it had become a source of anxiety for me. However with anal we are both more relaxed. The sensations are better. He can orgasm inside me with no fear. We are physically connected during both of our orgasms so it is infinately more intimate than vaginal ever was or could be.
We even find that due to the shape and length of our bodies we physically fit together better in some of our positions. We are in contact head to toe and that is an amazing feeling on so many levels.
Like we were designed for it…

Bottemsup95, /r/analonlylifestyle

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Forum: Anal Only Milestone Reached

Even though we are on the AO road for a while, we are reaching new milestones. Last week my wife went to the doctor to remove her IUP and quit hormonal birth control. So until now we had the possibility to skip the AO lifestyle and go back to ordinary sex. This possibility is now gone and we passed the point of no return. But it wasn’t that hard to make the decision, to be honest.

analogue, Anal Only Lifestyle forum

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Anal is for Pleasure

Talk to any woman regularly engages in anal sex, regardless of whether she’s anal only or just combines anal with vaginal, and there’s a very good chance that she will say that anal sex feels better and more pleasurable than vaginal. Everyone is different and can have different preferences, but the majority of people with experience with anal sex all end up preferring anal by far.

This reinforces a principle of the anal only lifestyle that vaginal sex is for procreation and anal sex is for recreation. Because vaginal sex is generally less pleasurable, and requires additional forms of birth control to avoid its primary function of reproduction, anal naturally makes sense as the default, normal, natural form of sex for pleasure purposes.

Anal is sex purely for pleasure and intimacy without the baggage of reproduction. You just get to enjoy the best sex can be, without ever having to worry about getting pregnant or the impulses and emotions that can surround that.

Message: How Big To Go?

Anonymous: I’m a self-described anal only slut and I just can’t ever seem to get enough of big things in my ass. I’ve been doing anal since I first started masturbating and knew right away I liked to put my finger in my butt more than my pussy, and pretty much have been anal only ever since, only trying it in my pussy a few times along the way, but otherwise it’s barely been used and I’m done trying, I just want it all in my ass all the time! I cum easily from anal and never have from my pussy.

I like using big toys, stretching my ass as much as I can and making it bigger until it gets easy and I go even bigger yet. I really like fucking guys one on one still too and it feels great but I’m compelled to stretch it more and more as well. I started doing double anal pretty often last year and that’s a lot of fun, both on my own with toys and with two guys at once. I think that’s my current favorite, but I’m getting into fisting now too and I’d like to start doing triple anal.

But how big should I go? Should I stop somewhere or just keep chasing my need to go bigger and bigger? I know how to be safe and not hurt myself and I always stop if something starts to hurt, I don’t want any long-term injuries or ill effects, and I don’t have any problems as a result of my passion even though I’ve been at it for years now. I saw you posted about some girls going double anal only and I’d like to try that at least for a while. I wear a 2″ plug every day and sometimes bigger, should I go larger with that?

Thanks for the message! Sounds like you have an awesome and healthy anal only sex life! While not everyone craves going to bigger and bigger sizes, there’s nothing at all wrong with that desire and I think it’s totally normal as you really get into anal and the anal only lifestyle, especially when combined with a slut lifestyle.

Go as big as you want and keep chasing that craving. As long as you play it safe, you aren’t going to hurt yourself or develop long-term issues. And don’t worry about getting “loose” either, assholes don’t really get loose, they just increase their upper size limit. And you can have a lot more fun with a well-trained, flexible asshole than an overly tight one! So definitely keep doing what you enjoy most.

Double anal is definitely becoming more popular lately. It’s been a popular porn genre for a while, but in recent years I’ve seen a huge uptick in real women starting to practice it, some occasionally, some regularly. I know several who have gone “double anal only”, as you mentioned, and who have made it their primary sexual activity, only having sex with two or more partners penetrating them anally at the same time. If that sounds appealing to you and you have the partners to make it work on a regular basis, it could definitely be something to explore. It’s a very fun idea for the right person.

There are a lot of large plugs out there. If you find your everyday plug really comfortable and not pushing your limits anymore, you might try going to a larger one as your primary one, which will help keep you relaxed open for bigger and better things.

Good luck, and let us know how things go. I’m sure you’re in for a very fun time going forward.

Article: Anal Is the New Birth Control

In this well-written article, author Emma Austin advocates for the use of anal sex as a primary form of birth control, diving into many of the reasons that it’s a good and beneficial idea.

I know it sounds like a joke, but I am completely serious. Anal sex really is one of my birth control methods of choice.

It’s not something they’ll teach you in high school sex ed, and the nurse who doles out condoms and advice about the morning after pill probably won’t recommend it, but I’ve used this method in my teenage years and in my married life and it’s proven to be both reliable and fun.

Now, of course, I know I didn’t invent this. Christian teens have long been rumored to use anal sex as a way of avoiding vaginal penetration. And although I don’t have any religious reasons for doing it, I salute them for blazing the trail.

Anal sex really is a very effective form of birth control, and while like any other method it’s not 100% foolproof, with a little care it can be effectively so, and lacks all the negative effects of other forms of birth control.

Although it’s growing in acceptance, anal sex is still seen as a taboo. Even a lot of the women who enjoy it still can’t shake the feeling that there’s something a little dirty about it.

But it really doesn’t deserve the raunchy reputation we’ve given it. It really can be an intimate act, and one that’s appropriate for relationships of all stripes.

That’s because good anal sex is all about trust and care. In most cases, it needs to be taken slowly and engaged in gradually. It needs a lot of preparation — both psychologically and physically. And it requires a partner who is continually attuned to the way you’re feeling so they can know when to slow down, when to keep going, and when to let you take the lead.

She couldn’t be more right about this—while for the purposes of certain kinks, anal can take on the role of something dirty or raunchy at varying levels, it really isn’t inherently. It’s a beautiful, intimate act that relies on mutual trust and in many ways is far more intimate than vaginal sex. Couples who regularly engage in anal sex or who have gone anal only frequently talk about what wonders it has done for the intimacy of their relationship.

I first started thinking seriously about anal sex as birth control when I decided to go off the pill.

I had been taking hormonal birth control practically since I hit puberty. It was sort of the default. Every girl who reached the age where she might start lusting after boys was supposed to start taking it, just in case.
The pill was always presented in a positive light. It would keep you from getting pregnant — no need to wonder how it worked, it just did (well, for the most part).

So, I took it religiously, and I had no idea that it was slowly wreaking havoc on me.

There are quite a few side effects you can get from taking the pill. I had three major ones. There were mood swings. There were also unbearable migraine headaches. But probably worst of all is that it seriously diminished my sex drive, especially once my raging teenage hormones started to give way.

Ruining my sex drive really affected me. I think it’s no surprise to any of my followers that I love sex. And it was quite depressing to not want it while also really strongly wanting to want it. It felt like a part of me was missing.

Though I do have to admit, killing my sex drive was a great way to keep me from getting pregnant.

In general, it’s best not to mess with your hormones unless they’re out of balance. I’ve been off the pill for years now and I will never go back on it. I’d much rather resort to anal sex than put my body through that again.

Though it’s being discussed a lot more in recent times, the vast negative effects of hormonal birth control still goes largely ignored or glossed over by most, possibly as a means of ensuring that people continue to use birth control to avoid vast unwanted pregnancies. A better strategy would be to advocate for the adoption of anal sex and the anal only lifestyle as the default form of natural birth control instead.

It’s a good article overall, and while it’s not specifically advocating for people to go anal only, it’s still a very anal positive perspective that applies to those interested in anal exclusivity as well, and I encourage going to read the rest of the article as well.

Here, of course, I’ll go a step further and advise people to fully embrace the anal only lifestyle as their primary means of birth control rather than to compromise by continuing to have vaginal sex with condoms, etc. In addition to the natural birth control benefits of the anal only lifestyle, there are many other reasons for giving up vaginal sex and going anal only.

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Reddit: Ready to Give Up

I have been anal only my entire life (I’m only 19 but still) and I have a few other kinks. But it’s seeming impossible to find a Daddy or another little/cow anywhere near me that is ok never putting anything in my pussy. I am ready to just go back to the last Daddy I tried to date who was willing to only if he could fuck my pussy (and “pop my cherry”).

I don’t know what to do and I’m scared I’m going to have to give up being anal only.

Lilly_Moonstar, /r/analonlylifestyle

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