Category: Anal Only Lifestyle


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Message: Top 3 Reasons for Anal Only?

Mrk: Can you give the top 3 reasons for men and 3 for women for joining the AO lifestyle?

I can’t speak for everyone, so I can’t say these are the top three, but here are a few reasons.

For Men

  • It’s a tighter, grippier sensation than vaginal, and a lot of men enjoy how it feels more.
  • It’s more visually appealing, and vaginas look better empty while anuses look better and sexier filled.
  • You can have sex much deeper than with vaginal.
  • Men like butts and the idea of having sex with them is pretty inherently appealing to many.
  • It’s easy to get quickly bored with vaginal sex, but anal sex doesn’t get boring in the same way and inspires arousal and excitement for a lifetime in comparison.
  • It allows a deeper, more intimate connection.
  • It’s different and less common, and the idea of fully replacing vaginal sex with anal and abandoning the vagina completely can be very exciting.
  • There’s very little risk of getting pregnant compared to vaginal.

For Women

  • Anal is a more intense sensation than vaginal, which can often be fairly bland in comparison. The feeling of being filled is also much more intense.
  • Anal orgasms are also more intense, and in many cases easier to achieve than vaginal orgasms. Anal orgasms without clitoral stimulation also don’t have the post-orgasm low that often comes from clit orgasms.
  • For those who enjoy feeling submissive, the idea of giving up one’s vagina for pure anal penetration only can feel like a very submissive act. However, for those who aren’t into dominance/submission play, anal and the anal only lifestyle can be enjoyed on their own merits as well.
  • Just as for men, being anal only can be an extremely intimate act, far more than vaginal.
  • It’s natural birth control without the negative effects of artificial hormonal birth control, allowing pleasure and sexuality without the baggage of pregnancy risk.

Message: Am I Normal?

Annabee: So I stumbled upon your blog. it has opening me up to a new world. When I was preteen-teen I touch my clit and it felt kinda good. but once I was 16 it started feeling awkward. so never really masturbated that much. when I did with my clit it just felt weird in a way that made me not want to touch myself. almost depressed so I just didn’t masturbate that much and I really only did cuz I thought it was weird that all my friends were talking about how great it felt and I was the complete opposite I thought I was weird. fast forward to now I’m 30 and happy to say a vaginal Virgin I just found your blog and I thought I’d give anal a try so I bought a toy and some warming lube. I’ve tried a few times but haven’t been able to orgasm yet. One thing I do love seeing and doing is ride my dildo and watch my close pussy in the mirror but Just thought I would share my story and also see if you had any suggestions to help me orgasm from just anal.

Thanks for sharing, and I’m glad that you have found the blog helpful and inspirational.

Regarding anal only orgasms, you can try some of the tips in this article on the subject. It can take some time for some people to get to the point where anal orgasms are easy, but it’s well worth it once you get there. Some also find it easier with a partner but more difficult when just masturbating.

If you don’t like clitoral stimulation, you may not prefer to go down this path, but some like or prefer combining clitoral stimulation with anal penetration.

Good luck! The more you explore anal, the more you’re going to love it.

Natural Attraction to Anal Sex

As the anal only community has grown and more people have talked about their experiences, more people—especially men, but also a number of women—have spoken up about the fact that they had a natural attraction to and preference for anal sex over vaginal. In many cases, when growing up, they’ve found themselves attracted to asses and anuses, rather than vaginas and vaginal sex, and in turn have found that this preference carried over to sex as well.

Among those who are still in the depths of ignorance and stigma surrounding anal sex, the idea of men having an aversion to vaginal sex and preferring anal is commonly derided as a sign that he is gay and doesn’t like women, but this is far from the truth—whether heterosexual or bisexual, a preference for anal is just that, and has nothing to do with liking or being attracted to women in general. On top of that, more women are speaking up about having such a preference to anal as well—many discovering that later, but some themselves figuring it out early on in their lives.

All this is a fairly clear sign of the increasingly obvious fact that for some, being anal only comes completely naturally and that anal sexuality and centrism is a normal and natural sexual preference on the level of a sexual orientation. For many others, it’s something discovered later in life, but fits their needs so perfectly once they do try it out.

Discussion: Prefer Anal Over Vaginal Sex

I am just curious if others prefer anal over vaginal sex..I was diagnosed with having uterine fibroids which cause me to have bad cramps and pain everyday plus I am going through menopause so I have vaginal dryness..When we start foreplay I am fine but not long after I dry up so I much prefer anal cause it seems to feel better plus I can orgasm…I thought about using creams for the dryness but kinds concerned of the affects from the creams…Anyone else experience the same problem and prefer anal?

melvinshelley2019, WeddingBee forums

A majority of the responses from other women are negative towards anal, with some even bringing up the same old myths of health risks from anal, but several women express their own enjoyment of anal or share that they similarly enjoy anal most and find vaginal uncomfortable or painful, or started out anal only.

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Message: So Good to Feel Normal

Anonymous: I am so happy this blog exists because for many years I felt like I was such a freak for thinking the things you and others post about on this blog.

I have never had vaginal sex with a girl, because it doesn’t interest me or appeal to me at all, and I never will. I’ve only ever fucked girls in the ass. It’s been hard, though, and lots of girls act like I’m some kind of freak for wanting this.

I truly think anal sex is the only way anyone should have sex, and that vaginal sex is not just inferior, it’s wrong and shouldn’t be done at all. There are so many reasons, it doesn’t feel as good, it isn’t intimate in the same way as anal, it totally ruins a woman’s arousal and mood, and it’s just so unappealing. Anal is natural, vaginal isn’t.

Even though it took a while, I have an anal only girlfriend who believes the same as me and is completely anal only like me. We’ve been together for about a year now and things couldn’t be better. We don’t use her pussy or clit at all and neither of us ever want to. So I’m really glad your blog helped me feel normal and like I could ask girls again about an anal only relationship.

Always remember there really isn’t any such thing as “normal” when it comes to sexual preference. Anal only may be less common, but it’s totally normal and there’s nothing at all wrong with it. All that matters is that you’re happy and that you find a partner who shares your interests and preferences.

I’m very happy to hear that you have found just that, and it sounds like you’re perfect for each other. Enjoy your anal only life together.

Your Anal Only August Experiences

Though we haven’t promoted Anal Only August here for a while (which might change, given its popularity elsewhere!) there have definitely been other people practicing it this year. For those who missed it, fear not—there’s still No Pussy November later this year—but for anyone who did give Anal Only August a try, let us know how things went for you!

Message: I Love Anal

Anonymous: I found this blog by accident really, but I started reading it and kind of got hooked. I didn’t know anal only was a thing, but it totally makes sense. I love anal so much, I have pretty much since the first time I tried it. It kind of hurt that first time, but it felt so amazing I just kept going anyway and had my first orgasm from penetration without using my clit as a result, and I’ve never stopped doing anal since then. I hadn’t really thought about it that much before, but I’ve definitely been anal only for almost a year before when I had a boyfriend who loved anal as much as I do and that’s all we did, but it just sort of happened that way, we didn’t talk about it or decide to do it.

But now that I’m seeing that it’s a thing people choose to do, it has me really thinking about doing it again, this time on purpose. The idea is really interesting and exciting to me, actually, so I think I’m going to look for a new boyfriend who prefers anal and propose that we go anal only. I’m really looking forward to only having my ass fucked again!

Thanks for sharing, and glad to be able to help inspire you to go anal only (again)!

Message: Porn’s Influence on Anal

When I was growing up, I watched a lot of porn and really enjoyed watching anal more than anything, so that’s what I wanted to do myself too. When I first started having sex, the boys I dated were willing to do whatever I wanted but what they really wanted most was anal. They had also been introduced to it through porn and thought it was really hot, so they wanted to try it, or if they had already tried it, it was usually what they preferred.

Do you think porn is influencing people towards doing more anal or just exposing and introducing them to the idea and getting them to try it? I think it’s maybe a little of both, and I actually think it’s a good thing because I don’t know if I would have learned just how much I prefer anal if I hadn’t been inspired to try it and had boys who wanted to do it too.

I actually only did anal for the first three years I was having sex and looking back on it, those were some of the best years of my sex life so far. When I went to college I lost my vaginal virginity and had sex every way for a while and it was nice for a while but I didn’t love vaginal like I love anal and I found myself longing to go back to just anal, so last year I decided to go back to anal only after I found your blog and I’ve been much happier with sex since. I don’t know about other people but it really is the best thing for me.

I agree with you that it’s a mix of both things with porn: it’s introducing a lot more people to the idea in general through exposure but it’s also helping to normalize anal and not treat it as some strange thing you might want to try once or twice or on rare occasions but that it’s a normal activity people should be enjoying frequently. Those are positive things.

The only negative side I see is that it can give somewhat unrealistic expectations of getting started with and preparing for anal and generally leaves out the necessary preparation, lubrication and warmup that happens in the real world, and can lead to some people wanting to try it and rushing into it, resulting in a painful experience that discourages them from trying again.

The other issue that arises as it transitions to be more normalized but isn’t universally there for everyone yet is a matter of consent and mutual desire. If one partner very much wants and expects it and the other doesn’t or is unprepared for the idea, they can end up pressured into doing something they aren’t ready for. Such things should always be discussed and explored together before starting to make sure everyone is on board with the idea and interested in trying it together.

Article: I prefer to have anal sex to vaginal sex

A reader writes in to an advice column with a question about preferring anal sex:

I DON’T know what is wrong with me. I prefer to have anal sex to vaginal sex. My husband has started complaining that the quality of sex we have has gone down because of that. How can I make things better? — Worried.

This is a fairly common scenario, despite people often not realizing it or thinking there’s something wrong with them for preferring anal. The advice columnist responds:

While enjoying anal is evidently your preference and choice I would advise you to also consider your husband’s needs. He likes vaginal sex, you like anal sex — mix up the two. One round you can have anal the next vaginal or vice versa but just make sure you wash your sex organs before you engage in another type of penetration. It may be vaginal sex is never going to be your thing again. But if there are underlying reasons for avoiding it, exploring and addressing those is sensible, regardless of whether you want to ever have vaginal sex again.

You and your partner clearly need to work out together what feels nice for you, and you are certainly not unique in experiencing a sexual disconnection but it is important to find common ground before it’s too late. Talking to your man is also important as you have mentioned they are OK with anal because you like it, but he might prefer vaginal penetration. Being certain your partner is genuinely fine with anal sex is important, just to be sure they are not going along with it — like you do with vaginal sex.

Advising her to suffer through vaginal sex for his behalf isn’t the best solution. I would instead suggest that she communicate with her husband and see why he thinks sex isn’t as good with her preferring anal, and figure out how to address those concerns while sticking with anal.

While it is possible that he likes vaginal more, that’s a relatively uncommon position to hold once you’ve experienced good anal, so it’s possible that there are just things interfering with anal being as good as it could be for him. Often when discussing the difference, men will agree that it does feel better but complain that it might take more time to prepare for it, make it more difficult to have spontaneous sex, and require that they go slower. All these things can be done with more proactive preparation and training and an increase in the frequency of anal sex. It truly is a scenario where more is better.

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