Category: Anal Only Lifestyle


Message: Anal Negativity is Frustrating

Anonymous: I appreciate you finding articles and discussions to post here and respond to from your perspective, but it is frustrating to see just how negative and ignorant people still are about anal sex!

It’s easy within our bubble of anal love and positivity to forget that a lot of people still haven’t discovered the truth about anal sex yet and not only buy into the pervasive myths that still surround anal, they continue to spread them to others despite having no experiences of their own to base them on.

Things are still improving overall, however, and there’s more easily accessible information than ever about how to enjoy anal. As more people speak positively about anal sex and the anal only lifestyle, and open up about them to friends, sharing personal experiences that supplant the impersonal myths, jokes and general negativity and encourage people to explore it for themselves. If you love anal, and you have friends that you feel comfortable talking about sex with, start talking to them about it, and if they have questions, try to be helpful and encouraging.

For more information on this topic, see our Helping to Advocate the Anal Only Lifestyle to Others page in our new Anal Sex & Anal Only Lifestyle Guide.

Natural Attraction to Anal

It’s no great secret that most men’s first reaction to seeing a vagina is aversion, innately recognizing it as something not particularly appealing or attractive, but conversely the instinct with asses and assholes is curiosity, attraction and greatly increased interest.

Traditionally, people have “gotten over” this first impression and learned to enjoy it for its other attributes, and that’s a common response when someone who has this aversion to vaginal talks with other people about it, but perhaps it’s time to reconsider that and instead embrace that natural instinct of attraction to the anus over the vagina.

Anal sex is far better suited for pleasure and intimacy than vaginal is, and is almost perfectly optimized to that purpose, while the vagina is optimized for pregnancy and giving birth. From a biological goal of reproduction, innate desires and preferences for vaginal sex made sense, but we’re now on an overpopulated planet where a growing number of people aren’t even financially stable enough to consider having children, and reproductive sex is far from the minds of most people.

Since non-reproductive goals are the primary sexual motivators for modern people, and since the only advantage vaginal sex has over anal is reproduction, it’s only natural that our preferences are shifting towards anal. Our first impressions are correct: anal is what we should be doing and vaginal should be avoided.

Reddit: Projected Market Cap of Anal Only Relationships

From r/analonlylifestyle on Reddit:

Assuming that enough exposure to the wonderful lifestyle was able to be presented to people (along with likely good past experimentations too) how much would you suspect the percentage of A/O relationships would go up to?

Based on how many women in my past were forever changed by their introduction to anal I honestly believe it’s about 25-50%. At least for hetero relationships. I have no numbers from memory to base a guess on for other people.

Anyways, they always seemed to protest the loudest the the idea at first and a few post enlightenment actually thanked me for not giving up (lol that’s not hard) and motivating them to take the whole cock.

It’s not such a huge step after you’re work to the joys of the asshole that A/O is a real consideration. I almost see it as valid as a sexual orientation of its own.

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Message: Cleaning Every Time I Go to the Bathroom

Anonymous: I went anal only over a year ago after finding your blogs on Tumblr and I just love it. I’m a committed anal only girl now who’s totally sold on the idea and using my pussy again doesn’t interest me at all. But I wanted to share some advice for other girls doing anal sex and going anal only, because I used to worry a lot about cleanliness, and doing an enema before each time kinda got in the way of spontaneous sex.

So what I do now is I keep an enema bulb in my bathroom and whenever I use the toilet, I just wash it out after I’m done with some warm water and then I’m good for the rest of the day. It helps that I have regular digestion so I only need to do this once a day and I’m always clean and ready for sex otherwise. I can have anal all I want and do ass to mouth (which I love 💖) without worry. It really helped take care of one of the things that kept me from going anal only before and has made all the difference for me so I really suggest it to others!

That’s a great piece of advice, thank you for sharing, and thanks for sharing your story as well. I’m glad my blogs helped inspire you to try going anal only for yourself and discover just how great it is!

I’ve heard of other women doing similar things with a daily enema/anal douche/rectal flush after going to the bathroom as a regular part of their bathroom routine, and it seems to really work for people so long as you use just a small amount of water and don’t go too deep with your enema. (For more information on good/safe enema practices, see our page on anal hygiene in our new guide to anal sex and the anal only lifestyle.) Some will go so far as to attach an enema hose to their shower head or get a bidet for their toilet (which helps with hygiene on its own) that has an enema attachment.

Message: She Agreed to Try Anal Only!

Lucky: I want to share this with you because I am very excited! I suggested to my wife that we went only anal for a few months as you say, she agreed! She didn’t even hesitate or question, she just said it doesn’t matter, it sounds interesting. We start from the first day of the year, at least until April.

Congratulations! I’m guessing you both already enjoy anal together for her to agree so quickly to the idea, and that also suggests that she likes anal a lot or even prefers it. Going anal only may have been something she was already interested in, even.

Anal Only April begins April 1, so you should probably at least go until that’s over. But, if you’re still doing anal only together after three months, there’s a good chance that you aren’t going back to vaginal anyway and will be staying with anal only for good.

Message: When’s the Next Anal Only Challenge?

Anonymous: When is the next anal only challenge you’re going to do? I want to try going anal only with my gf but I think she would be more willing to try it if we were doing it along with a lot of other people.

We now officially do Anal Only April and No Pussy November each year, both of which run for the entire month.

Anal only challenges can be done at any time on your own, but as you say, some people find comfort in doing them alongside a larger group of people, so waiting until April could be your best bet in that scenario. If she does show interest in doing it sooner, though, you can always suggest trying it on your own anyway.

Discussion: Is It Normal That I Want to Stay a Vaginal Virgin and Do Anal Only?

I’m 20 and I haven’t ever had vaginal sex, but I do anal all the time and I love how it feels so much. I masturbated my ass long before I tried playing with my pussy or clit, and my first boyfriend fucked me in my ass too, which got me hooked on it.

I’ve tried using a toy in my pussy and rubbing my clit to masturbate, but I just don’t like how it feels. Up my ass it’s amazing and I can cum so easily, in my pussy it’s just weird and kind of raw feeling and painful.

Plus I can’t get pregnant with anal, and all the guys love that I always want it up the ass, so I don’t see any reason to lose my pussy virginity. I think it’s a really sexy idea to stay a virgin there and just be a big anal slut until I decide to have kids someday.

Sound reasoning all around from this young woman, and it seems she already knows what she wants and needs and has no real issues with it. Still, she asks the audience of Is It Normal? for their opinion on her lifestyle choice. Unfortunately, the majority of them accuse her of being a guy, mock the idea in one way or another, or make troll comments. There are a few positive comments, but honestly, the most positivity comes from the original poster herself, who defends her position in a few cases, including to the claim that she must enjoy pain if she does anal.

What do you mean?? I don’t like pain, anal doesn’t hurt, it’s my pussy that does when I’ve tried using a dildo in it, that’s why I decided to not have vaginal.

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Message: Regret Ever Losing My Vaginal Virginity

WishIWasStillVV: My biggest sexual regret in my life is losing my vaginal virginity. I was like some of the girls in your blog who started having anal sex only. I did not want to get pregnant and it was an easy way to avoid that when I started. I loved it and my boyfriend loved it, so there was no reason to do anything else.

Over time, I became very attached to anal sex and to the fact that I was only anal, and I decided not to have vaginal sex unless I decided to have a child someday . In fact, I did it for 9 years, until I was 25 years old. But then, after being single for a while, I met a new boyfriend who agreed with the anal but wanted over time to take my virginity and continued to put pressure on me. I did not want to do it, but I finally gave in and gave up.

Unfortunately, it was very uncomfortable and unpleasant for me. I did not like it at all and the fact that I was pushed to do it probably did not help to make things pleasant. But I thought that was what I had to do to be normal, so I did it and continued for a while, until we broke up.

Since then, I have become anal only again and I never want to use my vagina again, but I am so angry and sad to think that I have lost something precious and that I am not pure anal only like I wanted to be .

I am really sorry that you were pressured into doing something you didn’t want to do, that’s not okay regardless of what type of sex act is involved. Someone who doesn’t want to do vaginal pressured into doing vaginal is bad, and someone who doesn’t want to do anal being pressured into doing anal is bad.

I’ve heard similar things from a lot of women who started out anal only for an extended period of time before losing their vaginal virginity, many express some level of regret or at least a wish that they’d realized sooner that they’d want to end up committing to anal only long-term. In your case, however, it sounds like you already knew that for yourself, and the decision to do vaginal all came from external influence instead.

And at the same time, for those who have chosen to lose their vaginal virginity, or who want to try both to see for themselves what they prefer, you shouldn’t feel bad either. It’s your body, and your choice, and that is what matters. If someone is making you uncomfortable by pushing you to do things you don’t want to do, then that’s where there’s a problem.

Thank you for sharing, and I’m glad you were able to end up back in the anal only lifestyle after. I know preserving one’s vaginal virginity as part of being anal only can be appealing and something special to some people—myself included—and it can feel like a loss, especially when you were pressured to lose it despite not wanting to, but it doesn’t make you any less. Always remember that.

Forum: Introducing Anal After 13 Years of Marriage

From our companion Anal Only Lifestyle forum, user aredeejay3001 shares:

My wife and I are in our 40s, married for 13 years now with three little kids (ages 10, 7, 5). Our times for uninterrupted intimacy are limited to say the least.

I first got into anal in my 20s with girlfriends at the time. One girlfriend I lived with seemed to enjoy anal sex more than anything else. She probably would have embraced this AO concept! Another girlfriend introduced me to receiving anal pleasure by fingering me.

That was all over 20 years ago. My wife has never seemed interested in exploring this and I didn’t push it as I was very content with our sex life and we were both very busy with kiddos, jobs, etc. But it was still something that I was interested in, still something I would fantasize about.

But in the last year, everything has changed! And suddenly, anal play is now a regular part of what we do.

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Message: Giving Up Clit Stimulation In 2019

Anonymous: My anal only new year’s resolution for 2019 is to give up clit stimulation. I’m already anal only. I have been for years. But I really rely on my clit a lot and I think it is holding me back. So this year I want to quit. I’m not going to try to do it all at once immediately, because I tried that before and it never worked for me for more than a few weeks. I’m going to take the whole year to try using it less and hopefully by the end of the year I’ll be clit-free! Wish me luck, everybody!

Thank you for sharing your goal for 2019, and good luck! While clit denial may not always be for everyone, if you’re interested in exploring it or have frustrations with clit stimulation, I highly recommend doing what you’re doing and seeing how it works for you to work on excluding it going forward.

Gradually reducing clit stimulation during anal like you’ve mentioned is a great way to do it. And, while you didn’t say what you do currently, I’d highly suggest not masturbating with your clit at all unless you are also masturbating anally at the same time or having anal sex at the same time. This helps shift that focus over to anal as the primary act and clit stimulation as only a secondary, supplemental act which you can reduce and eliminate over time.

For more information about clit denial, its benefits, and ways to help with the process of excluding clit stimulation, see our Benefits of Avoiding Clitoral Stimulation During Anal Sex guide.