Unfortunately, there is still a stigma and a lot of prejudice related to anal and people who choose to make it a part of their lifestyle or those who simply prefer it over other types of intercourse. On this sub we have seen a lot of posts from people who have had a bad experience sharing their desires and choices with others.
This post is different though, I want to share some positive situations, and hear your stories too.
Starting off with a simple one but very important for me. I once met a guy, we went on a few dates and eventually things started getting closer to the bedroom. I decided it would be better to just say upfront that I am AO. I expected the worst, but he was very mature and respectful about it. He wasn’t into anal at all, he didn’t even want to try it but at the same time he made me feel accepted. He didn’t try to force or preasure me into doing something I didn’t want, he didn’t mock me or anything, we just had different desires and it was comepletely ok. We still talk from time to time.
Another one happened between me and a female work colegue. She dropped by at my house to collect some documents. I wasn’t prepared for it she called me like 2min before knocking on my door. I asked her to come inside, and from the hallway she could see my kitchen. There was a towel with four freshly cleaned, butt plugs drying out right on my kitchen table. I live alone and hardly ever have unexpected guests so I completely forgot about it. You can imagine how embarrased I was when she noticed it. Fortunately, she just laughed it off and said that she also like it up her butt from time to time. We occasionaly have joke about it but it’s light hearted and we also had few chill conversations about anal where we shared our experiences.
Category: Anal Masturbation
Masturbating anally for fun and pleasure. See also Anal Training for posts specifically referring to the use of anal play & masturbation techniques to further develop one’s anal abilities and prepare for anal sex.
I see a lot of posts on here about how people have partners to help them change their view on what their primary sex organ is. I’m single, so I don’t have anyone to help me in that area.
I used to do anal years ago and loved it, but due to some health issues I developed a hemorrhoid and stayed away from ass play for probably 8 years now. I’ve always wanted to go back to it, but I was worried about the pain and if the hemorrhoid would come back. Now I feel ready to start again. I’d like to buy some trainer plugs to start off with, any recommendations? I’d also prefer to be anal only by myself first and find a partner who never wants to fuck my pussy. I’d love to do clit denial too because I’ve always wanted to cum from penetrative sex. I already use orajel on my clit when I masturbate to train myself not to take pleasure from my clit. What is the best way to train my mind to see my ass as my primary sex organ and also be able to cum from anal?
Many of us love anal sex. Often drawn to butt play for its taboo-turned-thrilling nature, it’s the benefits of anal sex that keep us coming back—especially the incredible pleasure the act can bring.
“The sensations of anal sex are mindblowing,” says Dr. Sakshi Tickoo, a Mumbai-based registered sexuality counselor. “For penis owners, it is like recreating a blow job, but with an element of uncertainty, as the internal anal muscles contract and relax on their own—which is quite the plot twist.
“For vulva owners, it creates a sense of thickness and fullness, which in turn stimulates the other clitoral structures and creates a dual stimulation by just stimulating one organ,” the doc adds.
So, we know butt play is fun— but are there also actual physical and emotional benefits to having anal sex? Whether you’ve tried it before or are exploring the idea for the very first time, there are many reasons to make anal sex your private playtime choice.
The deepest part of ourselves that we hold so much shame around, can unlock our nervous system, bring about deeper orgasms, and help release old stories that we have locked in our brains and body. The anus is connected to the root chakra, which responds to the coccygeal plexus of nerves. Anal can be a powerful way to explore these nerve responses, as well as the ideas of family patterning, feeling safe in our bodies, and primal responses. In tantra there is no abstraction. The physical body is the basis for consciousness. Anal sex requires deep, primal connection, communication and trust. Ass play, or “root chakra work” as I like to call it, can be extremely pleasurable, activating and healing.
This post was cross-posted from our Bdsmlr page.
Anonymous: just had to share a recent victory… I’m not AO but have been doing near-daily training over the past 5 months, sleeping plugged most nights, stretching my ass to take bigger and bigger toys, and my partner and I are having anal sex probably 80% of the time. I realized recently that I can now fit bigger toys in my ass than I can in my pussy – the largest toy I’m training with won’t even fit in my pussy. Thank you for being an inspiration – I’ve followed you for years, on tumblr and now here!
Congratulations, and thanks for sharing! If you’re anal mostly at this point, I’d encourage trying to go all in with anal only, at least for a month or two to start and see how things go from there. It sounds like you much prefer anal anyway, and committing to anal only can be the next great step for you!
Anal Only April has now officially begun! Read through the earlier post for the full details, but in essence, it’s a challenge for you and any partners you may have to only have anal sex for the entire month, as an opportunity to explore the anal only lifestyle without a long-term up-front commitment.
If being anal only intrigues you, here’s your chance to try it for yourself. If you’re already anal only, take it as a month of celebration and as much anal sex, masturbation and butt plugging as you can manage, or an opportunity to explore a new twist on the anal only lifestyle that you’ve been fantasizing about or are curious to try. In the past, some long-term anal only women have made Anal Only April a “double anal only” month!
As always, if you plan to participate, let us know and share your experiences and questions throughout the month and beyond. After all, most people who try going anal only for a month or two at first find that they don’t ever want to go back to vaginal by the time their trial period is over!
Have you been curious about going anal only but haven’t had the push to actually try it for yourself? Well, now is the perfect opportunity. Anal Only April is one of several challenge months where we encourage people interested in the anal only lifestyle to make a month-long commitment and try out pure anal for themselves.
The rules of Anal Only April are simple: starting April 1st, whether on your own or with your significant other, stop all vaginal penetration for sex and masturbation, and replace it with anal instead.
Clitoral stimulation is optional. If you would like to go for a more advanced form of anal only, try doing it without touching your clit and only orgasming through anal. If you need your clit in order to enjoy anal, combine it with anal, but only rub your clit while also masturbating anally.
Oral sex is still allowed and encouraged, especially blowjobs and rimming. Cunnilingus is optional—some choose to exclude it, others still include it but don’t engage in any vaginal penetration as part of it.
Try your best to stick with anal only for the whole month—it’s a long enough period of time that while you might struggle a little bit with it at first, whether adjusting to the frequency of anal sex, or dealing with lingering cravings for vaginal sex or clitoral stimulation, by the end of a month most people figure out what being anal only is really like, and a majority of people who enjoyed their month trial either choose to stay anal only and not go back to vaginal, or return to it again later after a break.
If you’re already anal only, don’t worry—you can still enjoy Anal Only April yourself. Challenge yourself to have anal sex every day of the month, or to start wearing a butt plug or masturbate anally every day, or to experiment with clitoral denial and anal only orgasms if you aren’t already, or to start doing ass to mouth regularly, or to train your ass with bigger toys to be able to do anal fisting or double anal. The possibilities are endless for exploring new things as part of the anal only lifestyle. If you already enjoy double anal, consider trying making April a double anal only month—whether with two partners every time, or with a partner and a dildo, or two dildos.
Over the next week, get your plans in order, get your partner (if any) on board, and if you haven’t had anal sex yet or for a while, start working on training so that by the time Anal Only April begins, you’re ready to dive in!
If you decide to take part, let us know! Share your plans, ask any questions, and keep us updated as you start exploring the anal only lifestyle!
Even though anal sex—or at least, talking about anal sex—has become significantly less taboo in the past decade, it still remains the big elephant in the bedroom, despite the world becoming a lot more comfortable with the derrière.
Butts have taken on an entirely new status (thanks, social media!)…and the good news is society has become more sex-positive overall (yay!). Still, actually having anal sex remains ~controversial~ among women, no matter how often it’s discussed.
“Unfortunately, there is still a tendency to stigmatize acts that might be considered ‘non-traditional’ for some people, due to lack of information,” explains Alexis Clarke, PhD, a licensed psychologist who specializes in sex and relationships.
Thing is, anal sex can oftentimes become the preferred method for women who don’t have vaginas, for those for whom vaginal penetration is especially painful, and for women who simply experience more pleasure that way, Clarke says.
To make a long story short, I (20f) have undergone vaginal surgery which caused sensitivity loss. The doctor has also mutilated a lot of other women as I have later found out.
Now, it looks perfect, I still get very wet but this period without being able to touch my vagina made me want to explore pleasure in another way, as I have always had a curiosity for anal.
Since I was small I have experimented with it and now recently I came to terms that I probably will have to explore that forever if I want to feel real pleasure.
I have been using improvised toys (I’m poor lol don’t judge) and I can cum very fast, it’s still not only anal orgasm as I do still try to touch myself but I have just been crazy about it.
I have not had anal sex yet, so my question is, what are the chances of anal sex being as good as anal play and me actually enjoying it? i haven’t tried it yet because I don’t want to be disappointed as I feel I am doomed to have to use it forever anyways so I don’t want a bad experience.
Are there any other women who have gone through a similar experience as well?
This Halloween, make the anal only lifestyle a part of your costume by dressing up with a butt plug as an integral part of the design. Not only will it be a sexy surprise for any special people in your life, it will also help spice up the experience and give you a fun secret to focus on during the day.
Giving it a try? Let us know!