Anonymous: I have recently become curious about anal play and find that with a little stimulation my rectum produces enough mucus that I don’t need lube. I can use toys or just my fingers. It is really hard to find anyone talking about this on the web.

Everyone has natural anal lubrication to some extent, to help with digestion. The body produces anal mucous in response to stimulus. It’s often not enough for everyone to anally masturbate or have sex with, but as you train your anus to be more relaxed and elastic, it can be enough lube for some people, or your body may produce more in response over time. Some people even report developing a response to arousal where their anus begins lubricating similar to the vagina.

If it’s enough lubrication for you, great. If not, you might want to start out with a little bit of lube at first and then let your body’s natural lubrication take over, or supplement with more lube as you go larger in size if you find yourself feeling irritation from the more intense stimulation. Listen to your body and it will tell you if you need more lube than your body provides.

My husband and I have done anal since the start of our relationship. We both enjoyed it, but it never occurred to us that going anal only or primarily anal was a choice we could consciously make until after the birth of our daughter who is 7.

Once I got cleared for sex, I was anxious about PIV so we opted to do a lot more anal. Shortly thereafter we met someone through the kink community who mentioned that she was “anal only” and we realized that it was something we could choose for ourselves.

For the next 2.5 years, we did mostly anal only. I think we did PIV 3-4 times in that period. At some point, we had a discussion about moving to anal only and used it to fuel some of our other kinks. For the last 6-8 months of that 2.5 year period, we did anal only. No PIV, no clitoral stimulation.

Then we decided to try for a baby, but we didn’t want to leave anal behind. While trying to conceive our second child, I monitored my ovulation and we did vaginal sex during the days I was ovulating and anal during the rest of my cycle. My husband played into our shared breeding kink by telling me that my pussy was only good for making babies and that that was the only time I’d ever be fucked in my pussy again… when he wanted to put another baby in me. It was super hot and made conceiving our second baby a lot of fun. It took us three months of trying to finally conceive. Once I got pregnant, we reverted to anal only. I actually went into labor with our second shortly after a pretty rough anal fuck while 9 months pregnant.

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Happy new year! It’s hard to believe that it’s 2024 already, and 12 years since the Anal Only Lifestyle community began. With the new year, there are all sorts of new opportunities for anal only fun! It’s time to make your anal only new year’s resolutions and share them with the world to help inspire others.

• If you’re new to this lifestyle, consider dedicating this year to becoming anal only. Start with a short-term commitment, like a month or two, to get accustomed. If it resonates with you, extend your journey and fully embrace this unique experience.
• For those who are already enjoying anal play predominantly, why not take the leap and commit to anal only? It’s a bold step but can be incredibly fulfilling for many.
• If you’re already anal only but still rely on clitoral stimulation, challenge yourself to explore pure anal pleasure. Aim to achieve orgasms solely from anal stimulation, enhancing the depth of your experience.
• Are you looking to push your boundaries? Consider larger toys or engaging in double anal play more frequently. If double anal is already your preference, think about adopting a double anal only lifestyle, further intensifying your sexual experiences.
• If you’re happy with your anal only lifestyle and want to help others experience the same, consider being more outspoken about the lifestyle to friends and others and encourage them to try it for themselves. A goal of introducing others to anal only is an excellent way to have a rewarding experience for yourself while growing the lifestyle at the same time.
• Orgasm denial and edging, the practice of nearing climax but stopping short, can be particularly intense with anal stimulation. Try incorporating anal edging into your routine for a more thrilling experience.

There are many more great options to try, and this is far from an exhaustive list. Leave a comment on this post or submit a message detailing your anal only goals and resolutions for 2024.

I’ve been interested in anal only the past six months and have been training off and on. Recently, these past few weeks, I’ve decided to treat my anus as my clitoris and it worked! One of the things holding me back was the lack of orgasm that a clitoris gives you (I’d already orgasmed from anal before but it wasn’t the same.) With dedication, I orgasmed from my anus alone. I still receive the same amount of pleasure, just without the post-nut clarity. I’m now completely anal only. No vaginal stimulation, no clitoral stimulation, and it’s amazing. I’m curious to see if anyone else has accomplished this?

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Unfortunately, there is still a stigma and a lot of prejudice related to anal and people who choose to make it a part of their lifestyle or those who simply prefer it over other types of intercourse. On this sub we have seen a lot of posts from people who have had a bad experience sharing their desires and choices with others.

This post is different though, I want to share some positive situations, and hear your stories too.

Starting off with a simple one but very important for me. I once met a guy, we went on a few dates and eventually things started getting closer to the bedroom. I decided it would be better to just say upfront that I am AO. I expected the worst, but he was very mature and respectful about it. He wasn’t into anal at all, he didn’t even want to try it but at the same time he made me feel accepted. He didn’t try to force or preasure me into doing something I didn’t want, he didn’t mock me or anything, we just had different desires and it was comepletely ok. We still talk from time to time.

Another one happened between me and a female work colegue. She dropped by at my house to collect some documents. I wasn’t prepared for it she called me like 2min before knocking on my door. I asked her to come inside, and from the hallway she could see my kitchen. There was a towel with four freshly cleaned, butt plugs drying out right on my kitchen table. I live alone and hardly ever have unexpected guests so I completely forgot about it. You can imagine how embarrased I was when she noticed it. Fortunately, she just laughed it off and said that she also like it up her butt from time to time. We occasionaly have joke about it but it’s light hearted and we also had few chill conversations about anal where we shared our experiences.

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I see a lot of posts on here about how people have partners to help them change their view on what their primary sex organ is. I’m single, so I don’t have anyone to help me in that area.

I used to do anal years ago and loved it, but due to some health issues I developed a hemorrhoid and stayed away from ass play for probably 8 years now. I’ve always wanted to go back to it, but I was worried about the pain and if the hemorrhoid would come back. Now I feel ready to start again. I’d like to buy some trainer plugs to start off with, any recommendations? I’d also prefer to be anal only by myself first and find a partner who never wants to fuck my pussy. I’d love to do clit denial too because I’ve always wanted to cum from penetrative sex. I already use orajel on my clit when I masturbate to train myself not to take pleasure from my clit. What is the best way to train my mind to see my ass as my primary sex organ and also be able to cum from anal?

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Many of us love anal sex. Often drawn to butt play for its taboo-turned-thrilling nature, it’s the benefits of anal sex that keep us coming back—especially the incredible pleasure the act can bring. 

“The sensations of anal sex are mindblowing,” says Dr. Sakshi Tickoo, a Mumbai-based registered sexuality counselor. “For penis owners, it is like recreating a blow job, but with an element of uncertainty, as the internal anal muscles contract and relax on their own—which is quite the plot twist.

“For vulva owners, it creates a sense of thickness and fullness, which in turn stimulates the other clitoral structures and creates a dual stimulation by just stimulating one organ,” the doc adds. 

So, we know butt play is fun— but are there also actual physical and emotional benefits to having anal sex? Whether you’ve tried it before or are exploring the idea for the very first time, there are many reasons to make anal sex your private playtime choice.

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The deepest part of ourselves that we hold so much shame around, can unlock our nervous system, bring about deeper orgasms, and help release old stories that we have locked in our brains and body. The anus is connected to the root chakra, which responds to the coccygeal plexus of nerves. Anal can be a powerful way to explore these nerve responses, as well as the ideas of family patterning, feeling safe in our bodies, and primal responses. In tantra there is no abstraction. The physical body is the basis for consciousness. Anal sex requires deep, primal connection, communication and trust. Ass play, or “root chakra work” as I like to call it, can be extremely pleasurable, activating and healing.

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Anonymous: just had to share a recent victory… I’m not AO but have been doing near-daily training over the past 5 months, sleeping plugged most nights, stretching my ass to take bigger and bigger toys, and my partner and I are having anal sex probably 80% of the time. I realized recently that I can now fit bigger toys in my ass than I can in my pussy – the largest toy I’m training with won’t even fit in my pussy. Thank you for being an inspiration – I’ve followed you for years, on tumblr and now here!

Congratulations, and thanks for sharing! If you’re anal mostly at this point, I’d encourage trying to go all in with anal only, at least for a month or two to start and see how things go from there. It sounds like you much prefer anal anyway, and committing to anal only can be the next great step for you!

Anal Only April has now officially begun! Read through the earlier post for the full details, but in essence, it’s a challenge for you and any partners you may have to only have anal sex for the entire month, as an opportunity to explore the anal only lifestyle without a long-term up-front commitment.

If being anal only intrigues you, here’s your chance to try it for yourself. If you’re already anal only, take it as a month of celebration and as much anal sex, masturbation and butt plugging as you can manage, or an opportunity to explore a new twist on the anal only lifestyle that you’ve been fantasizing about or are curious to try. In the past, some long-term anal only women have made Anal Only April a “double anal only” month!

As always, if you plan to participate, let us know and share your experiences and questions throughout the month and beyond. After all, most people who try going anal only for a month or two at first find that they don’t ever want to go back to vaginal by the time their trial period is over!