Category: Anal Masturbation

Masturbating anally for fun and pleasure. See also Anal Training for posts specifically referring to the use of anal play & masturbation techniques to further develop one’s anal abilities and prepare for anal sex.


Message: Does Liking Anal Make Me Gay?

Phelix: So I recently told my ex girlfriend I liked to receive anal. She broke up with me because I like receiving anal. She told me that I was gay and that it was weird. I don’t understand it what do you think?

And I have a question? I started play anally about a year and a half ago. I’m trying to orgasm from anal only do you have any tips to stop using my penis to have an orgasm. Right now I can use anal to get to the edge but I have to touch my penis to actually orgasm.

Enjoying anal as a giver or a receiver doesn’t inherently have anything to do with someone’s sexuality. Sexuality has to do with who you’re attracted to. You can be a straight man who likes giving or receiving anal sex from women. You can be a gay man who likes giving or receiving anal sex from men. Or all sorts of other combinations. The sexual act is separate from the gender you’re attracted to and want to have sex with. But because men receiving anal sex has been so associated with being gay in our culture, it’s assumed by some less informed people that liking anal means you’re gay.

As for orgasming from anal, just keep going. It takes time. Try committing to at least several months without anything but anal stimulation and you should gain significantly more sensitivity and start to get over the edge from anal stimulation alone.

Reddit: How Long Did It Take To Cum From Anal?

At the moment I can only cum from clitoral stimulation and anal, but I’ve read some posts on here where ladies have cum from just anal and I want that

An excerpt of several good responses:

I started to be fucked in the ass in July or August last year. Then closer to Christmas I started using buttplugs when I played with myself and earlier this month I used a vibrator and a dildo to play only with my ass! I kept playing when my body wanted to stop and then I squirted and came on the dildo! I was so proud I had to tell my Daddy (Dom) immediately

Little-CocoPops, /r/analonlylifestyle

My wife is the same way as you but unfortunately she doesn’t have the same hunger to cum solely from anal as you. We’re AO at this point because of some ongoing vaginal issues she’s having (which we suspect are due to her taking immunosuppressants for her autoimmune disease), but she needs her vibrator on her clit to cum, no matter what. She’ll have massive anal orgasms, but once she cums her psychological lust for anal dissipates, and she’s like “honey you gotta try to cum, I can’t go much longer.” Every time I broach the subject of “why don’t we try to slowly gradually train you away from your vibrator?” She gets pissed.

syncop8, /r/analonlylifestyle

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Message: Friends Liking AO

Maddie: I wanted to share some exciting news! I’ve been telling my friends about how much I love anal and AO for a while and have become “that girl” that they come to and ask questions about anal when they or their boyfriends want to try it, and I’ve slowly started to talk them into trying it more often and wearing butt plugs and they’re really starting to enjoy it a lot more and it’s not just something they do for their guys now! But one has a boyfriend who really prefers anal, and they’ve been doing it a lot lately, and she actually asked me for advice on going anal only with him as a gift! I told her to wear her plug more often to relax and to just tell him she wanted be anal only with him, and she did it. He was totally down with the idea (of course) and they’re going to try it until his birthday in May to start with. I told her she should make it permanent for his birthday if she has had a good time up until then. She said, “that’s the idea”, lol.

So I’m really proud and had to share, it feels really good to help another girl with anal only too, I can see why you do it!

Wow, that’s such great news! Thanks for sharing.

You’re right, it is incredibly rewarding and enjoyable to help people make the transition to the anal only lifestyle, and I encourage it for everyone who has the opportunity to do so. Open up to your friends and loved ones about how much you enjoy and prefer anal, how you’re anal only, and how you’re happy to help anyone else with anal play, anal sex, and going anal only themselves. Encourage they do an anal only challenge either by themselves or with a partner (a month is a good length of time to start with and extend it from there). If they’re just getting started, advise them on anal toys and anal play, how to get started with anal sex, and how to enjoy anal penetration without pain or discomfort.

If we all work together to encourage other people to explore anal pleasure and embrace anal only, more people will try it for themselves and many of those people will find that they, too enjoy anal sex more than vaginal and find a lot of benefits in being anal only.

In the end, that’s the purpose of this blog: sharing other people’s experiences and general advice in order to provide the inspiration and encouragement to explore going anal only for yourself, to find out if you like it.

Message: Is It Necessary to Stop Clit Stimulation?

Anonymous: I’ve been only having anal sex for several years and I love it. I have really wanted to stop rubbing my clit too, but I struggle with that a lot more than stopping vaginal penetration. It was easy to stop doing vaginal, anal feels a lot better. But I always still give in to rubbing my clit sometimes, especially on my own. When I’m having sex it’s easy. But if I’m just masturbating, it’s hard to resist. Do you have any advice, and how important do you think it is for anal only girls to not touch their clit?

Congratulations on being anal only for several years now!

Clit stimulation and whether it continue it as part of being anal only is very much a matter of personal preference. Many people in the anal only lifestyle have no problem with continuing clit stimulation and just replace vaginal penetration with anal. Some avoid it during sex but do it when masturbating. And others avoid it entirely, finding that it makes it harder to commit to the anal-centric mindset and lifestyle or makes it harder for them to orgasm from anal.

If you’re happy with how you are, then enjoy it and don’t worry about what other people do. Anal only is fundamentally about anal penetration instead of vaginal penetration, and things like excluding clit stimulation as well are additional choices on top of that which can pair well with it for some. But if you really want to pursue clit denial, especially if you feel like you lose arousal or feel depressed after clit orgasms, there are some things that you can do.

  • Work on orgasming from anal penetration instead. If you can already do this, try doing it more often to make it easier so your body gets more used to anal orgasms instead of clit orgasms.
  • Challenge yourself to gradually go longer and longer without clit stimulation. A few days at first, then a week, then a few weeks, then a month, etc. If you give in to the urges, just pick back up and try to beat your previous record. The longer you go without it, the easier it will get in time, and the more your arousal will become anal centric.
  • Use tape on your pussy or a small amount of numbing cream to temporarily remove sensation from your clit when masturbating. If you want a long-term solution, consider a clit shield.

For more information on clit denial and how to move past it, read our guide on the Benefits of Avoiding Clitoral Stimulation During Anal Sex.

Message: Desperate for Anal

Anonymous: Covid has made it really hard for me, it’s been a long time since I’ve had sex and I’m really lonely and really want to be in an anal only relationship. I’ve been trying my best to keep things anal only but it’s easy to give in and masturbate other ways too when there’s no end in sight and I get really jealous reading about couples who were together before it all started and have been able to use this time together to go anal only or try new things but for everyone else dating doesn’t exist anymore.

I’m sorry to hear that you’re having a hard time with it. I think a lot of us who are single are experiencing something similar, and it is hard when we want to date and meet new people but we can’t. Hopefully things get better soon, though!

As for staying anal only in the meantime, you can always try to spice things up again and give yourself new challenges, or you can try to meet someone online and have them challenge you and give you some level of motivation and commitment.

Best of luck!

Reddit: How to Avoid Haemorrhoids

I’ve been reading a lot of posts relating to haemorrhoids. Most people say it’s caused due to enemas or douching. I think I use the municipal water for enemas. I love fingering myself but after reading these post I’m scared to do enema and I don’t want haemorrhoids. Please tell me how do I avoid haemorrhoids and still continue anal play

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Message: Anal From Girlfriend

Bob: Hi we’re a MF couple with myself a Bisexual Hetero Relationship and my gf is a Bisexual.

We have discussed my interest in being pegged and she’s happy to try it out, but she doesn’t know that I have been doing anal masturbation for a few years and able to fist myself or take big toys.

I know truthfulness / trust is important for a relationship but I’m anxious that she may freak out as she doesn’t do anal herself and more on the vanilla side to sex.

And so I was wondering if I should keep it all a secret and start small, so that we can both enjoy training my hole.

She already knows that you want to be pegged, so you could open up about the fact that you already play with your ass on your own and want to include her in it as well. You don’t need to say everything all at once or how experienced you are with anal play—not necessarily keeping it secret, just easing into it over time with her. If she wants to talk about it more and asks you, tell her, otherwise let her discover your interest in it gradually as you start exploring.

Or, if she proves very receptive to the idea and enjoys exploring it with you, open up more quickly about it and tell her all about your interests in anal play.

Message: Ruined Orgasms

Anonymous: Years ago, to torture myself i used to have ruined orgasms, everyone has their opinion but i think that for you to be anal only you can’t cum at all. So i would play with my clit and when i was almost there, i would stop. I enjoyed doing that cause it was a HUGE torture. Do you recommend ruining orgasms or not touching the pussy at all?

It really comes down to personal preference and what works best for you. For many, the goal of clit denial with anal only is avoiding the distraction of an easier form of orgasm so they can learn to have anal orgasms instead, and so it makes sense to end clit stimulation as a result.

However, for others who prefer anal penetration but need clit stimulation or clit orgasms to stay focused on and committed to the anal only lifestyle, edging, ruined orgasms, or clit orgasms in combination with anal can work well for them.

If your goal is to avoid anything vaginal or clitoral, then I suggest not touching it at all and focusing purely on anal stimulation and penetration.

Bdsmlr: Going Anal Only as a Vaginal Virgin

We received this message through our Bdsmlr blog, and it’s being replicated here to be viewed by a wider audience.

Anonymous: Firstly I’m a virgin and only done oral. When masturbating I find vaginal penetration painful and not pleasurable compared to anal. Any suggestions on working on anal only by myself and then bringing it up to a future s/o?

Thanks for reaching out! I definitely recommend going anal only and am confident you will find it much more satisfying than vaginal.

A good way to begin is to simply stop vaginal penetration, which it sounds like something that should be easy for you if you find vaginal painful and not pleasurable anyway, and switch your masturbation routine to always include anal penetration, whether with fingers, a butt plug, or a dildo. Working to the point that you can use a life-size dildo regularly will ensure that you’re ready for anal sex when with a partner in the future.

As for bringing it up to a partner, it’s best to just be honest early on in a relationship. If you’re going to have sex soon, tell them that you’re anal only and have no interest in doing vaginal but would love to do anal and oral often. Many guys will be perfectly happy with that. And if someone isn’t, then he won’t be compatible with you anyway and it’s best to learn that early on.

For more information on these topics and others, the Guide to Anal Sex and the Anal Only Lifestyle goes into more detail, but also please feel free to follow up with more questions or updates if you have any!