Category: Anal Masturbation

Masturbating anally for fun and pleasure. See also Anal Training for posts specifically referring to the use of anal play & masturbation techniques to further develop one’s anal abilities and prepare for anal sex.


Reddit: Tips and Opinions on Solo Play

It’s been two months since I haven’t used my dildo in my pussy. It’s now exclusively for anal play, and it’s been great. However, I haven’t had an orgasm just using it alone — I always have my nipple clamps on (an absolute must since I love the pain) and a vibrator on my clit, sometimes rubbing it with just my finger.

Do you have any tips to achieve orgasm with just solo anal play? I’m gonna try doing it tonight — firstly putting my nipple clamps on and then starting slowly with anal beads. After that I’ll go in with my dildo and try my best not to touch my clit. I can’t wait!

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Our Guide is an Ebook Now!

If you’ve followed us for a while, you’re probably familiar with our Guide to Anal Sex and the Anal Only Lifestyle, which has been a part of this website for the past year since moving off Tumblr.

It’s always going to be a freely available resource as part of this blog for those who want to learn more about anal sex and the anal only lifestyle, but I’m happy to announce that you can also purchase it in an ebook format through Amazon as well, if that’s how you prefer to do your reading!

It can be a good resource if you’re just getting started, and it can make a good gift for friends who might be interested in anal or going anal only. Either way, it helps support this blog and the greater anal only community.

And, if you’re looking for another way to support the anal only community, consider becoming a Patron!

Message: Mainstream Porn and Anal Only

Anonymous: to be honest, i don’t find mainstream porn appealing, because most of the time they always show vaginal sex, and i get repulsed every time i see the scene. amateur porn is enjoyable for me probably because some people focus on things they love to do.

i have been anal only girl (not in a relationship) since my private part is painful and it has many disadvantages like pregnancy compared to anal that is very pleasurable and nice feeling. i feel disgusted if i play with my private part because it’s unappealing.

i don’t understand why people say anal is not for women. anyone can love anal, including women who identified as anal only

There is indeed far too much vaginal sex in porn, even still, though there are some sources that primarily focus on anal sex, and as anal continues to become more mainstream, porn will shift more to anal at the same time. It’s already been happening in recent years. Supporting porn producers that make anal only/mostly anal porn and expressing your interest in more anal only porn will help with that, too.

Well done with your own exploration of anal only. It sounds like anal comes very naturally to you and vaginal sex and stimulation has no appeal, and there’s a lot to be said for that.

Anal is absolutely for women. Women tend to love anal the most, once they experience just how good it is.

Message: How Do I Let Him Know I Want Anal?

Beth: I’ve been married for a few months and my husband so badly wants to fuck my ass. He has fingered my ass during sex a few times and even rimmed me on our wedding night. He knows I’m open to it but he doesn’t quite know just how much it turns me on. He’s tried to rim my ass and press his cock into me but I’m much too tight and he’s much too endowed. I know there will have to be a little training before but I don’t really know how to start & I think he’s a little impatient. I purchased a butt plug and I wear it at least once a week when he isn’t home but I know it isn’t enough.

Do I just wear it and surprise him with it? Do I ask him to plug me next time things get heated? I just don’t know the best way to bridge the gap!

It sounds like your primary concern is not being ready enough, because it seems that you do want it as much or more than him, you just want to make sure that his impatience or him being overeager doesn’t hurt you and it’s an enjoyable experience for the both of you. Is that a fair assessment?

I’d suggest making the butt plug wear a much more frequent thing for you, and to start masturbating regularly while wearing the plug, as well as fingering your ass during masturbation. Our Guide to Anal Sex and the Anal Only Lifestyle has a section on Anal Training that provides more information that process. Once you’re comfortable doing it more regularly, I would also read the Guide to Having Anal Sex for the First Time and then decide if you want your husband to help train you the rest of the way before having sex or dive right into trying it with him.

Once you do want to admit your enthusiasm about trying it, I would just be open about it and tell him. He’ll love to hear that you want to do anal too, if he’s as excited as it seems about trying it with you. Communication is best for everyone. But you can also be wearing a plug when you tell him that, and show him, and he’ll love seeing that too!

Good luck, and I hope you have a wonderful time exploring anal together!

Forum: Can’t Have Vaginal but Curious of Anal

I have a disease that makes it painful to have vaginal penetration and so I haven’t had sexual intercourse or an orgasm. To be honest I don’t really have that much of a sex drive at all. But I’ve heard that you actually can have an orgasm from anal sex and so I got curious. I’ve tried it on myself and my sex drive has gone up somewhat (now I actually fantasize about sex) but I can’t seem to get an orgasm or really get horny by it.

How long does it usually take before you can have an orgasm or enjoy it. How does guys usually respond to girls that only have anal sex, it seems quite taboo.

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Forum: Learning to Prefer Anal

I’ve been in a relationship for around 9 months now and he is very into anal, if I’m honest I can take it or leave it. I don’t dislike it but it doesn’t make me climax and we currently do it around once a week compared to 3 or 4 for ‘regular’ sex.

From this weekend, we’re going to have a few weeks of Anal Only, partially because he is really keen to go AO but also to see if my enjoyment gets any better if it’s the only type of sex we’re having, the plan is for 4-5 weeks and see how we both feel.

I have mixed feelings about it at the moment, I want to give it a go but am a bit concerned about the shift from once a week to 4/5 times a week, mainly I’m concerned about becoming sore. Any tips or advice will be welcome

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No Pussy November 2019 is Over!

It went by too fast! After a solid month of anal only celebration, challenge and experimentation, we find ourselves at the end of No Pussy November once more.

Thank you and congratulations to all who participated! Whether you made it through the whole month, or tried it for a smaller amount of time, or are still going to hit the target of a whole month because you started late, we’d love to hear from you about how things went for you and your goals for the month.

If you went through the entire month and found that you really enjoyed being anal only, here’s your next challenge: don’t stop now that the month is over. Instead, stick with anal only and continue to move away from vaginal sex for the long term. Trust us: it only continues to get better the longer you stay anal only.

No Pussy November 2019 is Half Over!

It’s hard to believe that we’re already halfway through the month!

If you haven’t had a chance to start participating in No Pussy November yet, it’s not too late to begin. Stop having vaginal sex or masturbating with vaginal penetration now and shift to just anal for the rest of the month (and beyond, if you find that you enjoy it). The benefits of going anal only usually show themselves after about a month, once you get past the initial challenges, so stick with it! If you’re already anal only but would like to take part in No Pussy November anyway, you can work towards a new goal, like anal only orgasms without clit stimulation, long term butt plug wear, double anal, etc. If you already regularly enjoy double anal, try doing daily double anal for the month, or going double anal only as some women are doing.

If you have been taking part in No Pussy November, send us a message and let us know how things have been going! Whether you just want to update us and share your adventures and excitement, or if you need advice or encouragement to keep going, all messages and questions are welcome!

Stick with it! Together we can all go anal only!

Message: Want to Love Anal and Stay Vaginal Virgin

Jade: Hi, i never had a man in my life but i want to remain vaginally virgin. I bought a dildo 2 weeks ago to train me anally.

I kinda like it but i’m nowhere near to take true pleasure. Can you give me some advices?

That’s an excellent goal, I highly recommend staying a vaginal virgin and going anal only.

First of all, be patient. If you’ve just started exploring anal two weeks ago, you’re just getting started. Stick with it, and keep practicing and training regularly—every day, if you can. The more you make it your normal routine, the more quickly it will start to become very pleasurable and something you not only enjoy, but start to crave.

How do you ordinarily masturbate and orgasm? Does it involve vaginal penetration, or just clit stimulation? Especially while you’re getting started with anal, including clit stimulation if that’s what you already enjoy is not a bad thing—do it as often as possible, in fact, and try to give yourself as many orgasms as you can while masturbating anally. This helps to build up the association of anal and pleasure and unlocks the pleasures of anal. If, after you start to really enjoy anal on its own, you want to shift away from clit stimulation as well and only focus on anal pleasure, you can do that, but when getting started, combining anal with things you already like can be a good approach.

If your goal from the start is achieving an anal only orgasm, you can look at some of the strategies in our Guide to Anal Orgasms. Also be sure to read through the rest of the Guide to Anal Sex and the Anal Only Lifestyle for lots of other useful information.

Good luck, and feel free to follow up with more questions!

Establishing a Daily Anal Routine

One of the best things that you can do to develop a firm foundation for yourself in the anal only lifestyle, or just to better enjoy anal, is to adopt a daily anal routine. If you’ve had any struggles with discomfort or pain from anal, one of the biggest causes can be going for days or weeks between anal play or sex.

By making the commitment to do daily anal in some form, not only are you making yourself more anal-centric as a result, you also start to immediately benefit from the increased anal activity. Your anal muscles remain more relaxed from frequent use, which makes anal easier as a result, and in turn lets you do it even more frequently. It’s a positive feedback loop that just makes anal consistently better and better.

More anal, not less anal, is what makes anal better and easier. Just like anything else, practice makes perfect.