I’ve been dating a new guy for 6 months or so. The sex is terrific. He’s very relaxed and sex positive. He is very sensitive around his anus and loves for me to play with it. He also loves mine. So we’ve starting talking about anal sex. I told him that I used to do it quite a bit with my husband 15 or so years ago. He asked, why did you stop? and I really had to think about it – so long ago – I said I thought we were just in a phase and then we lost interest.
Well… I suddenly remembered WHY we stopped. 15 years ago I had my 3rd and last baby. During that pregnancy I had terrible hemorrhoids. They cleared up years ago and I can’t remember the last time they bothered me. However, having hemorrhoids stretches out the tissues, and now I’m a little worried about being, well, ruined back there.
Has anyone else dealt with this? I guess I could “test things out” with a dildo or vibrator. The whole thought of it is making me nervous which I know moves things in the wrong direction. I’m not feeling forced into this. I really want to try it! But I also want it to go well.
Any thoughts? Suggestions?CaptCorriander
Category: Anal Masturbation
Masturbating anally for fun and pleasure. See also Anal Training for posts specifically referring to the use of anal play & masturbation techniques to further develop one’s anal abilities and prepare for anal sex.
My current challenge:
Every time my pussy is wet, slip in a buttplug. So right now! I’m hoping to work up to a bigger size. I’m thinking of getting vixskin’s Tristan 2 for a constant stretch. I just don’t like how thick the base looks – it’ll be hard to hide. But I think my husband will like the outcum
First announced a few weeks ago, Anal Only April 2019 has now officially begun! Read through the earlier post for the full details, but in essence, it’s a challenge for you and any partners you may have to only have anal sex for the entire month, as an opportunity to explore the anal only lifestyle without a long-term up-front commitment.
If being anal only intrigues you, here’s your chance to try it for yourself. If you’re already anal only, take it as a month of celebration and as much anal sex, masturbation and butt plugging as you can manage, or an opportunity to explore a new twist on the anal only lifestyle that you’ve been fantasizing about or are curious to try. At least one long-term anal only woman is making this Anal Only April a “double anal only” month!
As always, if you plan to participate, let us know and share your experiences and questions throughout the month and beyond. After all, most people who try going anal only for a month or two at first find that they don’t ever want to go back to vaginal by the time their trial period is over!
Jay: Do you know where I can find anal only hypnos with women? I’m a FTM Transman who wants to try to be anal only in april and I’m looking for hypnos to watch while anal masturbating.
There isn’t a ton of content out there, but there are a few which you can find by searching Google for “anal only hypnos”. The first ones that come up in such a search are about the only ones that truly contain inspirational/hypno-style text.
Otherwise, the bulk of the content available is anal/anal only PMVs (Porn Music Videos), which can serve a similar purpose but generally don’t include text.
Anonymous: I just started my first ever anal masturbation (I’m anal only, btw as well as being single) and I use jojoba oil as lube and a hot dog sausage as a sex toy to pleasure my asshole. And it feeeeels amazing and it felt so good having something in my asshole. I feel waves of pleasure in my asshole every time I push it deeper in my asshole. I will train my asshole more to make myself feel good <3
Congratulations on an excellent experience! Keep it up, as it only gets better from here!
Yes, it’s that time of the year again! If you’ve been looking for an excuse to try going anal only for yourself, or to bring up the idea with a partner, here’s your chance.
The rules of Anal Only April are simple: starting April 1st, whether on your own or with your significant other, stop all vaginal penetration for sex and masturbation, and replace it with anal instead.
Clitoral stimulation is optional. If you would like to go for a more advanced form of anal only, try doing it without touching your clit and only orgasming through anal. If you need your clit in order to enjoy anal, combine it with anal, but only rub your clit while also masturbating anally.
Oral sex is still allowed and encouraged, especially blowjobs and rimming. Cunnilingus is optional—some choose to exclude it, others still include it but don’t engage in any vaginal penetration as part of it.
Try your best to stick with anal only for the whole month—it’s a long enough period of time that while you might struggle a little bit with it at first, whether adjusting to the frequency of anal sex, or dealing with lingering cravings for vaginal sex or clitoral stimulation, by the end of a month most people figure out what being anal only is really like, and a majority of people who enjoyed their month trial either choose to stay anal only and not go back to vaginal, or return to it again later after a break.
If you’re already anal only, don’t worry— you can still enjoy Anal Only April yourself. Challenge yourself to have anal sex every day of the month, or to start wearing a butt plug or masturbate anally every day, or to experiment with clitoral denial and anal only orgasms if you aren’t already, or to start doing ass to mouth regularly, or to train your ass with bigger toys to be able to do anal fisting or double anal. The possibilities are endless for exploring new things as part of the anal only lifestyle. If you already enjoy double anal, consider trying making April a double anal only month—whether with two partners every time, or with a partner and a dildo, or two dildos.
Over the next week, get your plans in order, get your partner (if any) on board, and if you haven’t had anal sex yet or for a while, start working on training so that by the time Anal Only April begins, you’re ready to dive in!
If you decide to take part, let us know! Share your plans, ask any questions, and keep us updated as you start exploring the anal only lifestyle!
Anonymous: hello! i think aloe vera (it has to be natural) would be suitable as a lube since it’s very liquidly and has slightly jelly-like texture. if you want a more flowy-like liquid, i recommend mixing aloe vera with raw honey (90% aloe and 10% honey). idk if this is the best suggestion, but i hope it works!
Aloe vera can definitely be used as a natural anal lube, and some people very much enjoy it. I don’t hear about it nearly as much as other options, so any input about what people like most about it is welcome!
A question people sometimes have is why anyone would want to go anal only and fully exclude vaginal sex, when they could have the “best of both worlds” and do both vaginal and anal. While it may seem counterintuitive at first, there really are advantages to fully replacing vaginal with anal.
Pleasure and Arousal are Amplified With Anal Only
While it’s certainly possible to enjoy anal in combination with vaginal, and many people have and enjoy both regularly, the pleasures of anal get even better when making it the primary or only way you have sex, because you’re focusing entirely on it and mastering it as your source of pleasure. When you switch frequently between both, your body has to adapt to both forms of pleasurable input and you can miss out on the full potential of pleasure. People who go anal only find that anal just gets increasingly pleasurable over time the more they focus exclusively on it.
Additionally, anal leads to the greatest levels of arousal for most women, and going anal only further amplifies that arousal. Because vaginal and clitoral stimulation is often an easier outlet (but not a stronger outlet) for pleasure, it tends to effectively short circuit the anal pleasure pathways and get people to orgasm before anal can do the same, at least in people who are more used to non-anal orgasms. That, combined with the fact that anal orgasms generally don’t have the same arousal suppressing after-effects that other orgasms can, means that focusing just on anal pleasure and orgasms almost always results in significantly increased arousal.
The Benefits of Anal Birth Control Are Lost With Vaginal
Those who choose to use anal sex as their primary form of birth control have very positive results with significantly reduced risk of pregnancy compared to vaginal sex without supplemental hormonal or barrier forms of birth control. Many women have serious side effects from hormonal birth control and the idea of being able to have sex without worrying about pregnancy and without those negative effects is highly appealing and can be a major factor in going anal only for some women.
However, if vaginal is still in the mix, that benefit is lost and one has to still use other forms of birth control in order to safely avoid risk of pregnancy.
In order to more directly respond to various parts of this message, it has been broken up into several chunks with replies in between.
Laura: Hello, I’m Laura, the wife getting into anal only for her husband – you’ve kindly answered my questions the 17th of December. I replied to you, but I’m not sure you got my message. I wanted to give feedback and ask some more questions.
I appreciate your advice to talk openly with my husband, but I don’t want him to know the only reason I’m getting into this is because I was frustrated and spied on his browser history, discovering vaginal and clitoral sex “disgusted” him. So far, he thinks the shift to anal only comes from me genuinely wanting to get into it, and it makes him feel extremely good according to what he posts online on dedicated boards (I spied more on him) and according to his general behavior. I don’t want to spoil it.
I admit I first tried this because I felt trapped (married, two kids) and upset he was “disgusted” by vaginal and clitoral sex, it was initially a simple effort to save my marriage, but I’m enjoying this more than I thought I would. I liked anal sex as soon as he introduced me to it, but anal only is something else.
When you answered me, we were actually already doing anal for three to four times a week, without me being sore. I followed your advice to get him off from blowjobs when anal started to get uncomfortable, but in just two weeks like you said, he could take my ass whenever he wanted without me being sore. Now he fucks it about every day on average (more on weekends, less during the week), and I feel fine despite him being quite large.
I’m glad to hear that you’re adjusting to it easily and finding that you can have anal sex daily without an issue. Maintaining that routine will just get easier and better for you as you continue.
I bought a toy like you said, a dildo about the size of my husband to practise. I hid it in the bathroom, and every time I have to empty myself, I rinse my ass with water (not too much) to be clean, then I use the dildo to help push the remaining water and learn to get pleasure just from anal. I stopped clitoral stimulation like you recommended and like my husband wants. Is it normal that the frustration feels sort of good and makes me enjoy anal more (both during sex and masturbating)?
It’s quite common for women to enjoy the frustrating of ongoing arousal even if they don’t ultimately orgasm. Some women prefer not to orgasm at all, as maintaining that constant arousal leads to more positive sexual interaction and a healthier sex life, and it can just be more fun. Others do want to orgasm but like to find ways of orgasm that don’t impact that buildup of arousal so much, like anal orgasms do.
So far, I can’t orgasm from anal at all, but I do get a lot of pleasure. I stopped birth control, and I feel a bit different, I don’t know if it’s related to the pill or if it comes from anal sex.
Likely a bit of both. Hormonal birth control does impact people pretty hard, and it’s common to feel different and better without it, but going anal only also has positive impacts of its own, so it’s probable that you’re enjoying the benefits of both.
Has it, therefore, been several months since you last orgasmed? The arousal must really be building in you. Are you able to manage or do you find it hard to resist? If you want to persist in avoiding clitoral stimulation entirely, really keep focusing on the anal sex and play and doing it as often as you can. It can take months to get to anal orgasm for some women, and while some do find that they can’t ever quite get there, they end up enjoying not orgasming even more and the pleasure of anal on its own makes up for it for them.
Like I said, I spied more on what my husband says online, and it turns me on to read his fantasies then do it like it’s my own idea. His “I can’t believe my luck” face every time I do something he talks about online makes me feel incredibly good. So far, this adventure really got us closer together and really changed the way I look on sex. Sex now feels as hot as when we started our relationship (a bit better, actually), and our couple works better too, with less tension. My husband seems more confident and a lot happier.
That’s wonderful to hear, and I think you’ll find it just keeps getting better. Some people use anal only as a spark to revitalize their sex life, but often, if you stick with it, it’s not like vaginal where it’s fun at first and then becomes less so down the road—anal only stays exciting and keeps getting better.
I have a question about ass to mouth, which is apparently a big fantasy of his: is it safe? From what I understand, since it’s my own body, as long as I’m clean it’s OK (like I said, I rinse a lot, so I’m always clean)?
Yes, it’s safe to do ass to mouth, especially from your own ass and if you’re visually clean. Many, many people do it without issue regularly, and given the popularity of rimming, it’s likely that even with other people if everyone’s healthy and clean, it’s rarely an issue.
As we enter February, Valentine’s Day is only two weeks away. If you and your partner love anal sex and your partner would consider or is eager to try going anal only, this is a great opportunity for a gift of pure anal pleasure and exploring the anal only lifestyle together.
Start thinking about it and making plans, and on February 14, surprise them with the gift of anal only! It’s common to start with a month long challenge and if that goes well, keep trying for even more from there.