Anonymous: I’ve been training for double anal and my goal is to work toward being double anal only, but sometimes I still do solo plug play or have one-on-one anal sex with my boyfriend without a dildo. It feels good, and it keeps me stretched, but lately I’ve been wondering if I’m stalling. Every time we go back to just one cock, I feel a little underwhelmed, like we’re slipping into something too easy.

I feel like single anal is a crutch and I’m not fully committed if I’m still leaning on it. Is it okay to mix both still as part of the journey or do I need to leave single anal behind completely and commit to double anal only?

It’s a process to get to double anal only, especially if you started with single anal, but it sounds like you’re at the point where it’s time to commit fully to DAO and move past single anal if you’re already regularly having double anal and just occasionally doing a single anal break.

Take the jump, commit, and don’t look back.

Anonymous: Vaginal sex never felt good for me, and anal always felt wrong but deeply pleasurable.
We were not in sync in our life or in bed, and even though the few times we tried anal we felt incredibly united and intimate, I carried this heavy feeling that it was somehow a sin.

The real turning point was my mindset shift: if something felt so good, loving, and connecting for us, maybe it wasn’t wrong at all. I decided to go all in on anal and on my sexuality, because I didn’t want to lose my marriage and I was done ignoring what actually worked for my body and our bond.

As we focused more on anal, I slowly started to explore my own body with more curiosity and less shame. I didn’t know what I was missing until now!

Then I discovered double anal. For the last three years I’ve been doing only double anal with a toy, and it has never felt better. I’m loving double anal and will never go back; it changed my life, my mood, and the way I experience intimacy with my husband. I am hooked!

I’m not saying this is for everyone, but for us, choosing what truly feels good and consensual has brought more freedom, connection, and joy than following someone else’s idea about what sex “should” look like.

For our anniversary I want to surprise my husband with a tattoo about “double anal” as a playful tribute to this journey, something slightly edgy or even a bit nasty, but meaningful to us but mostly to me. I want to stand by my passion. I think this is the right creative community that could help me, what ideas do you have for places and motives for a tattoo like this?

That’s wonderful you were able to embrace anal only, and now double anal only. It truly is the best, and everyone should be able to enjoy it freely. I’m glad you want to commemorate your commitment and lifestyle with a tattoo—it’s a very fun idea that I support!

A simple “double anal only” or “DAO” over your ass is one option. More symbolically, perhaps two “male” symbols (♂) with one “female” symbol (♀)—the male symbols could be angled in towards the circle of the female symbol, something like:

L.E.: I take it that by your definitions when a woman trained to constant wear of anal stretching rings (MEO style) or tunnel plugs is penetrated through the hole that does not count as double anal since the one insertion is entirely within the circumference of the other. Stretching rings at least do not seemed designed to allow anything to enter her alongside rather than within them. I like the idea of her being penetrated by a man and a toy at the same time rather than be forced to choose between them but what insertables do you think are most suited to a woman who graduates to “monogamous DAO” life?

I think all these definitions ultimately are somewhat up to interpretation by each person and what works best for them. I would say that penetratable butt plugs do somewhat count in the realm of double anal and there’s a lot of appeal of keeping a plug in and just fucking through or beside it as a sort of “double anal only”, but I would argue that the stretch should increase with the additional penetration.

What makes double anal unique is two objects “fighting” for space within the anus, rectum and colon. If it’s a more rigid ring/plug that has a hole to penetrate through, you’re just adding depth but not girth. If it’s a soft, flexible toy with a penetratable hole, that stretches the plug out around the penis and makes it more along the lines of some sort of double anal.

To be more true to real double anal, though, I would suggest a more traditional large, soft, flexible butt plug like those from Square Peg Toys or Topped Toys which a male partner can penetrate alongside and have sex with her while she stays plugged.

Francesca: Hi everyone, so… what does really qualifies someone as living a double anal only lifestyle?

I’m living with my new partner, and we love watching hardcore porn together, always focused on pure anal and double anal, no pussy at all. The latter annoys me more then my partner. Honestly, I can’t remember the last time I had anything in my vagina, not even a toy. When we have sex, usually about three times a week, we start directly with anal. But I get impatient pretty fast and make my boyfriend take out my beloved artificial dick and put it in my ass too, even if it’s a bit uncomfortable at first. I’m willing to accept that small discomfort to satisfy my craving for double anal.

Does this count as a double anal only lifestyle, even though we usually start with single anal for a minute or two? Or am I missing something? I’d love to hear your thoughts!

Thanks for reaching out! I would classify that as double anal always/mostly, and well on its way to double anal only. A minute or two isn’t much single anal, but it’s still a little bit. Once you get to the point that you don’t consider any single anal fucking as part of sex, and always go straight to sliding one in and then the other to get started, or both together, that’s when I think the pure double anal only mindset kicks in.

That’s not meant to lessen what you’re doing, though, I think it’s wonderful that you’re at this point, and encourage you to keep it up and maybe even consider taking the last little step to pure DAO.

Welcome to the 13th annual No Pussy November! It’s that time of the year again where we challenge everyone to forego vaginal sex entirely and fully embrace the benefits and pleasures of the anal only lifestyle.

Whether you’re new to the anal only lifestyle or a long-standing devotee, No Pussy November offers a unique opportunity to explore or strengthen your commitment to the anal only path and explore new levels of pleasure and intimacy.

For newcomers to the lifestyle, this month is a great opportunity to try out anal sex and masturbation as your exclusive sexual activities. Commit to daily anal stimulation, either by yourself or with a partner, and see how your body responds. You may just find that it’s an enjoyable and satisfying change!

For our experienced anal only followers, we challenge you to push your boundaries even further. Are you regularly wearing your butt plug? Maybe it’s time to upsize or try to wear it for longer periods. Have you tried double anal yet? This might be the perfect opportunity to introduce this more intense pleasure into your routine.

We’re also continuing our advanced challenge from years past: Double Anal Only November. For those of you who are up to the challenge, try to incorporate double anal in every sexual encounter this month, either with two partners, a partner and a toy, or two toys if you’re playing solo.

So, who’s with us for No Pussy November this year? Let us know what your plans are, and keep us updated with your progress.

Eva & Michael: Hey folks, just wanted to pop in and share a little slice of our delightfully naughty life from somewhere in Europe. Happily married with kids, we stumbled upon this blog a while back that helped us open some pretty wild doors, so thought it’d be only fair to give a little something back.

It all started innocently enough when our kids were little and we enjoyed loads of couple time at home, often surfing the porn waves together. Slowly but surely, we veered into anal centric territory. We discovered double anal. She liked the look of it and we dived headfirst into DAP (with a toy), and… my wife downright fell in love with it. These days, she’s pretty much “Double Anal Only” and proud of it.

Now that the kids have outgrown the baby stage, we get to ditch them with their grandparents for a couple of days and hit the swinger clubs about once or twice a month to fortify our relationship, to recharge and play a little.

My wife’s a force of nature: bold, brash, sometimes cocky and chose to be on a to disrupt old-school thinking. She targets “couple nights” at the clubs, gets chatting, and susses out which women are stuck in the “pussy only” mindset versus those who might dare to try max anal. We usually end up in a fun little orgy with one or two of those more conservative couples.

Always condoms, naturally.

When things get hot and heavy, my wife either taps me or another guy in the group to get the party started in her ass… and that’s when she hits full ecstatic mode. The men get the real full DAP thrill, and the women? Well, some get envious and want to jump on the bandwagon and try it out, but most blush hard. BUT all of them head home with their partners confronting some new and very intense bedroom expectations. Either way, she’s pumped when her plan works.

So yeah, this blog helped us explore and embrace things many shy away from, and we hope sharing our little happy marriage receipt inspires a few more to open their minds and, well, their horizons.

That’s so great to hear, anal only and double anal evangelism really go a long way in encouraging more people to try. Have you had many AO/DAP converts as a result? It’s also awesome to hear that your wife is basically double anal only at this point herself! Any plans to make that full strict DAO in the future?

DAP Anal Slut: Curious what everyone’s views on multiple partners is for those who frequently have DAP with two partners? Do you feel part of existing communities like swinging groups, fetish groups or poly communities? How about thoughts on monogamy as someone who has DAP with two partners?

I’m curious about the shift in attitude on these things as we societally shift towards being anal only and in turn more heavily DAP and TAP focused. I’m in a lesbian relationship and have DAP with toys but would love to have it with two partners however the logistics of this is a barrier versus a store bought friend. Interested if similar DAP fantasies have changed your relationships over time after bringing in other partners, either just for sex or romantically.

I welcome more input from other DAP/DAO people in the comments, but in my experience a lot of DAP-focused and double anal only women have either embraced the lifestyle with a current partner plus a dildo, or by seeking an additional partner and at first just including them intermittently but then over time if things work out, adding them as a full-time part of the relationship. My sense is that MMF relationships will become much more common as DAP becomes the norm.

Plugged Anal Whore: What happened to the old Anal Only October posts? I think we should bring it back with a Double Anal October month.

Obviously anal is the new standard so makes sense we don’t need to make general anal only a challenge but for the people who aren’t already—double anal only is the clear next step.

For those of us already proficient, I think Triple Anal October could be a good one…

We never really had an Anal Only October, but we have promoted Anal Only April, Anal Only August and No Pussy November. We also have done a Double Anal December challenge month in the past. At this point we mostly formally feature No Pussy November each year, while encouraging people to do their own challenge month outside of that for whatever goal they have.

100% agree that Double Anal Only is an important challenge for anyone already anal only and interested in going further!

Maya: I always thought of DAP as something extreme—like a special occasion thing you might work up to, but not something you’d crave regularly. But after finally doing it with two guys I trust, I was completely overwhelmed. Not just physically (though yes, wow), but emotionally too. It felt like something inside me clicked. Like my body had been waiting for this all along.

Since then, regular anal feels… nice, but almost incomplete. I still enjoy it, but there’s this ache, like I’m only being half-used. Is that normal? Does this mean I’m headed toward being double anal only? I thought that was just fantasy stuff, but now I’m not so sure.

What you’re describing is something I hear often from people who try double anal for the first time with the right partners and the right mindset. There’s the physical thrill, of course—but what really stays with you is that emotional click you mentioned. That deep sense of this is how it’s supposed to be.

It’s completely normal for single anal to start feeling “nice, but incomplete” after that. Once your body knows the fullness of DAP—how completely it can be stretched, filled, and claimed—it’s natural to crave that as the new standard. That ache you’re feeling isn’t a problem. It’s your body telling you it’s found its real baseline.

Does that mean you’re headed toward being double anal only? Possibly—and that’s not something to fear. Many people discover that DAO isn’t just a fantasy, but the form of penetration that feels most right for them. The more you train, the more your body adapts, and the more natural it will feel to have two inside every time.

You’re not losing your love for anal—you’re evolving it. If you want to explore DAP/DAO further, take it at your own pace. Train regularly, communicate openly with partners, and notice how your mind and body respond. That “fantasy stuff” you used to imagine might just be the future you’re ready to live.

Once you’ve felt your true capacity, it’s hard to go back—and that’s okay.

E: I used to think double anal was just a porn fantasy—something that looked hot but wasn’t realistic for me. Then a friend shared one of your DAP training posts, and I decided to give it a try.

It’s taken me 8 months of consistent work, but last week, I took my boyfriend and our housemate up my ass together for the first time. I cried afterwards, in a good way. It felt so good and so rewarding and we all want to keep doing it and I’m starting to think DAO might be my end goal, not just an occasional treat.

That’s so awesome to hear, truly. I hope you continue to enjoy it regularly—within a month or two it’s likely that you could be doing DAP every time you have sex. Listen to your body and stay in communication with the guys, but you’re all going to be loving this!