Category: Anal Only Challenge

One of the best ways to get into the anal only lifestyle is to try it for an extended period of time. We recommend trying it for a whole month, as it gives you enough time to adjust to the routine and work out the kinks, but some people start just doing it one day a week, or for a weekend, then expand it to one week a month, and slowly work their way up to being anal only for a whole month or more before committing to it long-term.

For our official Anal Only challenges, see the Anal Only April and No Pussy November categories.


Bdsmlr: We Went Anal Only in 2020

Hi all, just wanted to share the story of how I ended up deciding with my partner to only have anal sex, with no plans whatsoever to do vaginal again. (Perhaps for children but it’s possible we will just adopt)

My partner and I have been together for 5 years, and leading up to 2020 anal was more of a possible alternate place for cum at the end of sex, but not really a main event. Over the last year or so, their clit has become extremely sensitive. Annoyingly so , apparently. 

She doesn’t like to masterbate, preferring to save her energy or orgasm for sex, and never have I ever seen her touch her vagina during sex, except to spread her lips. She likes to cum but I don’t think she is a fan of tongue so much and doesn’t like most toys. She does like plugs though, I noticed.

What she really likes, apparently, is feeling me cum inside her. When we did vaginal, she would prefer me to pound her and just wanted me to cum. We could have sex multiple times, she just wanted to feel me explode inside her and tended to prefer quick, hot, and heavy.

This year, when COVID was just becoming national news, we started having more ox what we called ‘straight to anal’ or ‘just butt’ where we wouldn’t have vaginal sex at all. I think it originally started happening more and more because of her period (which isn’t a problem for us really, it’s just cleanup work unless in the shower) and because we both started drinking more as COVID hit and she was getting some peephole irritation that would have her asking to wait on vaginal play and just use her butt or her mouth.

She offered and I requested her butt more and more and by the summer I was clearly hooked on anal. We did it a lot. Sometimes a few days in a row without having vaginal. It occurred to me that I liked the entire experience with her more than vaginal; things were more intimate and careful, the hot and heavy was more engrossing and more passionate, and the cums were mind-blowing. The prospect of doing it more came naturally and I actually had a little conflict with her when I told her about how I was feeling.

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Start an Anal Only Club

Are you an anal only couple or individual? Do you live, work, or go to school in an environment that is conducive to talking with other open minded people about sex? Then consider starting a club of anal only women and couples to inform and educate about the anal only lifestyle and which encourages an ever growing number of people to adopt anal only!

While this can sound like an improbable idea at first, it can in fact be very rewarding and effective at encouraging other people to consider the idea and try it for themselves. As many of us know, once you try anal only for a month or two, it’s self evident that it’s a better way of having sex and easy to move past vaginal sex for pure anal going forward.

Be Honest & Open

When you’re talking with groups of friends and others you’re comfortable bringing up sex around, be open about your preference for anal, how great it can be, and how you’ve gone anal only. If others inquire about anal, or say negative things about it, share your positive experiences and how you actually really like it or even prefer it. Many people are afraid to express their love for anal out of a fear of being judged or mocked by friends, but too often groups get stuck in a loop of following the leaders and all expressing the same negative opinions even if they’re secretly curious and want to learn more.

If anyone shows interest in anal or wants to know more about your experiences or how to enjoy anal more, take the opportunity to give them your best advice and ensure they have a good chance at a pleasurable experience so they really enjoy it and want to do more. If others who already enjoy anal open up to you, encourage them to try going anal only for themselves. Recommending a month of anal only as a fun challenge to start with and explore it without a long term initial commitment is a good option for getting people to discover just how wonderful going anal only can be for them. Most people who make it through a month and stay anal only want to keep going.

Build a Support Network

Something that can help you in your own anal only life, as well as help others starting out, is having a local support network of people you’re close with who can be encouraging, informative and supportive of each other during their journey to be anal only. Old habits, emotions, and urges can flare up and tempt people to slip from their anal only routine, and having people they can talk to when that happens helps everyone strengthen their commitment to anal only.

As you help more friends and acquaintances go anal only, you can expand that support network and introduce each other so that everyone can learn and grow from others. Some people may be comfortable playing with each other and being directly sexually involved with each other, while others may just want to talk and share. Both are very valuable.

As people graduate, move out of the area, or otherwise drift apart, it can be a good opportunity to encourage them to start a new club in their new area and spread the anal only lifestyle even further.

Provide Helpful Resources

If you want to grow an anal only club beyond a small circle of friends, especially somewhere like a college campus, but elsewhere as well, a great option is to create an informational resource like a flyer, providing an overview of tips on how to enjoy good anal sex and contact information on how to learn more. It will attract people interested in anal, and a portion will then reach out to you for more information, at which point you can also start to get them interested in going anal only and joining your club.

Let’s all work together this year and beyond to do our best and introduce as many people to the anal only lifestyle and its many pleasures as we can!

Anal Only New Year 2021

Happy new year, and with it, all sorts of new opportunities for anal only fun! It’s time to make your anal only new year’s resolutions and share them with the world to help inspire others.

Some ideas include:

  • If you aren’t already anal only, challenge yourself to go anal only this year. Starting out with a month or two of anal only to ease into the lifestyle and see if it’s for you is a good way to begin, and then if it works well for you, just keep going.
  • If you’re anal mostly, consider taking the final step and giving up vaginal sex for good.
  • If you’re anal only but still use clit stimulation and would like to switch to pure anal only, that’s an excellent 2021 goal and could be coupled with learning to orgasm from anal sex if you can’t already.
  • If you enjoy stretching and want to go larger, consider setting a new goal with some bigger toys or even better, start doing double anal with two toys or two partners more often. If you already enjoy double anal and find single anal less enjoyable compared to the intensity of double anal, consider going double anal only in 2021 and move past single anal for good.
  • If you’re happy with your anal only lifestyle and want to help others experience the same, consider being more outspoken about the lifestyle to friends and others and encourage them to try it for themselves. A goal of introducing others to anal only is an excellent way to have a rewarding experience for yourself while growing the lifestyle at the same time.

There are many more great options to try, and this is far from an exhaustive list. Leave a comment on this post or submit a message detailing your anal only goals and resolutions for 2021.

Message: My No Pussy November

Anonymous: I really want to thank you for No Pussy November. Because of it after seeing it advertised on Twitter I was inspired to try going anal only this past month and it’s really changed my life for the better!!

I struggled with vaginal since I started doing it when I was 16 and found anal when I was 17 and always enjoyed it a lot more but I never really thought about only doing anal and a lot of guys just assume vaginal and go for it so I went along with it, but when I saw No Pussy November and read about it and started reading about the Anal Only Lifestyle, it made so much sense and I was so excited to try.

This month I told the guys I hook up with that I wasn’t doing vaginal and was anal only and their reaction was actually really positive and excited and none of them bugged me for vaginal, I just had lots and lots of anal!! They seemed to enjoy it more and I know I did! I even started cumming more often because I wasn’t having vaginal half the time.

I already decided and told my guys that I’m not going to do vaginal anymore and am staying anal only, and they’re really supportive. One guy is kind of sad he won’t get to fuck my pussy anymore but I told him I’d make up for it and I don’t think he’ll really miss it. I sure won’t.

Thank you so much!! If you lived near me I’d thank you with my asshole, honestly!

Thanks for the message, and I’m very glad that trying No Pussy November was such a positive change for you and you’ll be sticking with it going forward.

I find that many women resist going anal only because they worry that guys will want vaginal and miss it, but the reality is that most women can easily say they’re anal only and take their pussy off the table and guys will be very happy with the arrangement and gladly ignore your pussy for anal and oral only. So, if you’re in that situation where you want to be anal only but fear how guys may react, give it a try for a month or two, and see for yourself. Most guys will be very, very pleased.

I wish you the best anal only life going forward!

No Pussy November 2020 is Over!

After a solid month of anal only and double anal fun for the many people who took part this year, No Pussy November 2020 has reached its end. Thank you to all who participated, it’s been great talking with and hearing from all of you, and I hope that everyone who took part will be continuing to stay anal only going forward.

No Pussy November serves as an introductory month to challenge yourself to try the anal only lifestyle for at least 30 days, but the intent is not to go back to vaginal afterwards—it’s to see how much better anal only can be for you, and to stay anal only if you enjoyed your time during the first month. So, if you did enjoy it, seriously consider staying anal only.

Similarly, if you did not have a chance to participate in No Pussy November this time around, don’t worry—it’s a fun group challenge, but it’s far from the only chance to go anal only. You can do that any time of the year, following the same general principles of No Pussy November, spending at least a month if not longer for your initial commitment to trying anal only, working out any issues during that time, and sticking with it long term if it went well during the trial.

Finally, don’t forget to continue sharing your stories and progress, how No Pussy November went for you, and whether you’re going to be continuing with anal only, double anal only, clit denial, or any other challenges you gave yourself this past month.

Halfway Through No Pussy November 2020!

We’re now officially halfway through No Pussy November 2020, but if you haven’t gotten started yet, there’s still time! Commit to a month of only anal sex instead of vaginal starting now and you can experience what the anal only lifestyle is really like and see if it’s for you.

If you have been taking part, don’t forget to send us a message and share how it’s been going, what your experience has been like so far, and whether you think you’re going to keep going with anal only once the month is over!

Bdsmlr: Participating in No Pussy November

littlehumpybunny: So I’ve decided to participate in no pussy November this year so what that means is that nothing will he touching or entering my pussy all month I can grind/hump things lol but the only touching or penetration I can have is on/in my little ass or mouth I suppose. So I would love it if any of my followers would like to join me for this wonderful month of pleasure and exploration! Give myself and others your stories and suggestions I’m sure they’ll all be well recieved 😉 everyone have fun and share with me😘

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The Dangers of Clit Stimulation

While many women regularly indulge in clit stimulation and clit orgasms as part of their sex life, and in fact a majority of women who have vaginal sex rely on their clit in order to orgasm since 1/3 or less of women are capable of orgasming from vaginal sex, there are many disadvantages and even dangers of using your clit, especially when compared to anal orgasms.

Clit Orgasms Suppress Arousal

While this doesn’t affect everyone in the same way, many women experience a crash after clit orgasms, where their arousal levels drop and they generally lose interest in continuing any sexual activities, as well as their sex organs often becoming very sensitive to the touch.

This is often combined with a mood crash as well, with some even reporting that it can contribute to depression for them. Again, everyone has different effects, but these effects can be so common that many women just think of them as a normal part of sex and orgasm, when that doesn’t have to be the case.

This is also the reason that edging and orgasm denial appeal so much to many women, because it boosts and maintains arousal levels without the orgasm itself causing that happier and more sexual state to be suppressed. But, orgasm denial isn’t the only option!

Clit Addiction Makes Anal Orgasms More Difficult

A common goal for anal only women is to achieve anal orgasms, and studies show that far more women are able to have anal orgasms than from vaginal.

But, if you have a strongly established habit and addiction to clit stimulation, where you have a very hard time resisting it and rely strongly on it for all orgasms, it can be more difficult to adjust to orgasms from other sources, including anal orgasms. Your body can become habituated to clit stimulation as the only way it knows how to orgasm, especially if clit orgasms come easily to you, and other stimulation can take a backseat to it.

By foregoing clit stimulation for a while, and focusing on anal penetration only, you can start to unlock those other paths to orgasm, and with practice anal orgasm can start to come very easily!

Of course, for some women, they can naturally orgasm very easily from anal to begin with with and it’s less of a challenge to switch to anal only orgasms.

Clit Stimulation Distracts From Natural Anal Centrism

Part of the advantage of going anal only is that by eliminating vaginal penetration, you’re focusing all your stimulation on anal and really learning to maximize its pleasure, which is already more intense and gives a stronger feeling of fullness, and becomes better without the distraction of vaginal penetration. The longer you go anal only, the better sex keeps getting, as commonly reported by many anal only couples when they check in on the forum and give updates on their years of anal only.

The same is true for clit stimulation, and while you can certainly be anal only without eliminating clit stimulation entirely, it’s a much deeper pleasure and satisfaction to stop clit play as well, and really maximizes the commitment to pure anal pleasure without feeling like your pussy and clit are still holding you back. At first, it can be a difficult urge to resist, but in time, transitioning all your stimulation and pleasure to anal just feels natural, and you’ll stop reaching for your clit.

Anal Orgasms Have None of These Negatives

Clit denial is not the same thing as orgasm denial, and as mentioned above, it can make anal orgasms easier to regularly experience. And the strong advantage of this is that anal orgasms don’t have those same downsides for most women.

  • Anal orgasms feel more full body rather than centered in one area specifically
  • Anal orgasms usually don’t cause an arousal crash at the same level as clit orgasms, and in some women can actually boost arousal, which in either case makes it possible to continue having sex and wanting to keep going as much as possible and getting multiple orgasms in a session
  • Anal orgasms usually don’t cause mood crashes and typically leave one feeling higher and happier afterwards
  • Anal orgasms usually don’t cause increased super-sensitivity to where genital or anal contact and continuing to have sex becomes uncomfortable

As with anything, there are some women for whom the above may not be true, but most women are able to enjoy anal orgasms with minimal side effects compared to clit orgasms, and the only thing holding someone back from continuing to have orgasm after orgasm is their partner’s stamina and their physical energy.

So, if you’re considering trying clit denial, go for it. The advantages are well worth the initial challenges.

Message: My No Pussy November Goals

Ann: I will be doing No Pussy November with my husband, and our goal is to not have vaginal sex or for me to have any clit stimulation. We want to use this month to try it and see if we can make it work full time, and if we can, we plan to stay anal only.

We both prefer anal but have continued doing vaginal at times when anal has been harder to do or required more work and we were lazy and we want to stop accepting that as an excuse.

Glad to hear that you’re taking part! I hope that you have a great time with it and are able to establish an anal only routine that keeps you from feeling the need to return to vaginal sex.

Frequent plug wear, a good diet/hygiene routine, and having anal sex regularly can very much minimize most needs for preparation, and makes anal only a lot more feasible.

No Pussy November 2020

It’s here! A month of pure anal only sex and your opportunity to challenge yourself to see what it’s all about or to try new things related to the anal only lifestyle.

After eight years in a row, No Pussy November still remains our flagship month each year to celebrate anal sex, the anal only lifestyle, and to encourage new people who aren’t yet anal only to challenge themselves to trying it for a solid month and seeing what it’s like.

If you’re new to the anal only lifestyle and you want to give it a try, this is a great time and way to do it! Talk with your partner now in advance of November and make sure you’re both on board with the idea, or if you’re single and want to try it with toys, get yourself to the point where you’re comfortable with anal masturbation on a regular basis—at least 3 to 5 times a week, if not every day.

If you’re already anal only, there are plenty of other things that you can try as a No Pussy November challenge this year!

  • If you still use clitoral stimulation, you can challenge yourself to stop and focus purely on anal pleasure and anal orgasms. The more you go without your clit and rely on anal only to orgasm, the easier anal orgasms get!
  • If you aren’t wearing a butt plug regularly, you can challenge yourself to wear one at some increased interval, or to spend the entire month plugged as often as possible. If you want to reach the latter goal but aren’t quite there yet, you could work yourself up to that point over the course of the month.
  • You can challenge yourself to make ass to mouth a regular part of your sex life, normalizing it by doing it every time you have sex this November.
  • You can start to introduce double anal to your sex life, either through play with two dildos, a partner and a dildo, or two partners.

Along the lines of that latter idea, for those who are particularly interested or experienced with double anal, we’re introducing an official advanced challenge this year: Double Anal Only November, where those who want to or are able to masturbate regularly with two dildos in their ass or have double anal sex regularly spend the entire month only having double anal sex every time they have sex. Naturally, this is going to be somewhat limited to people who have multiple partners who want to have double anal with them, but you can also participate by always using a toy along with their partner to achieve double anal, or by masturbating with a minimum of two toys in your ass at a time.

What are your plans? Let us know!