I wrote to you last June asking for advice on becoming anal only for my Master. First, a huge thank you. Your advice was great and i am officially an anal only slut since April. It feels amazing to say that and my Master is so proud of me. Second, i would like to get your opinion on something. What is your stance on orgasms in the anal only lifestyle? My Master never allowed me to orgasm freely and always made sure i earned it. But since i am anal only it feels wrong to ask for clitoral stimulation (my only way to orgasm). I still want to orgasm but it just does not feel right. Do you have any advice?
Thanks for your guidance and your blog.
Thank you for following up! You’re quite welcome, and I’m glad to hear that you have decided to officially go anal only and are loving the experience! Ultimately, that’s what matters most, that you and your partner want it and are happy with it, and if so, then by all means, being anal only is what you should do!
As for orgasms, I’m all for them personally, but each person has their own individual preferences and goals. Excluding clit stimulation can certainly help with amplifying anal pleasure and arousal even further, and if that also works with your dynamic of orgasm denial, then I encourage continuing to explore it further. You may discover that after an extended period of time without clit stimulation, you can start to orgasm from anal penetration on its own!
Once a girl on social media told me That she enjoy masturbating/playing/fucking/hard-fucking her ass all the day .. and then a question came up in my mind, as the anal has no orgasm ( except the clitoral one ) do you get enough getting your ass fucked ? Excuse my Bad english and have a healthy anal only Lifestyle
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You can, in fact, have pure anal orgasms, and they’re much more powerful for someone who enjoys being penetrated than genital orgasms.
Also, they don’t give you libido crash, you’re still horny even right after an anal orgasm, and anal orgasms last very long, meaning having your ass fucked AFTER an orgasm feels incredibly good, and can lead to other anal orgasms, etc. Which means you can, in fact, fuck your ass all day and have incredible sexual pleasure.
Vaginal virginity can be a topic of some contention within the anal only lifestyle community at times, with some people very much in favor of women who choose to remain vaginal virgins and only ever have anal sex without ever experiencing vaginal, while others argue that all women should try both before choosing which they prefer. Outlined below are some common arguments from both sides.
Arguments In Favor of Preserving Vaginal Virginity
The idea of remaining vaginally pure has deep roots in many civilizations and appeals to many people, and this modernizes those ideas to advocate for lifelong vaginal purity and reclassification of the vagina as purely a reproductive organ while the anus becomes a woman’s sex organ
Many men who prefer anal only girls are extremely attracted to vaginal virgins who have never and don’t want to have vaginal sex, ever
By focusing on anal stimulation and anal pleasure only, without ever experiencing vaginal, it is much easier to get even more pleasure from anal because there are no habits or connections with vaginal penetration or (in some cases) clitoral stimulation to overcome
You can always decide later in life to have vaginal sex if you change your mind, but you can’t go back to being a vaginal virgin
Arguments Against Vaginal Virginity
To make a truly informed decision, someone has to experience everything before deciding what they prefer
What are your views on this subject? Leave a comment sharing your opinion.
Phelix: So I recently told my ex girlfriend I liked to receive anal. She broke up with me because I like receiving anal. She told me that I was gay and that it was weird. I don’t understand it what do you think?
And I have a question? I started play anally about a year and a half ago. I’m trying to orgasm from anal only do you have any tips to stop using my penis to have an orgasm. Right now I can use anal to get to the edge but I have to touch my penis to actually orgasm.
Enjoying anal as a giver or a receiver doesn’t inherently have anything to do with someone’s sexuality. Sexuality has to do with who you’re attracted to. You can be a straight man who likes giving or receiving anal sex from women. You can be a gay man who likes giving or receiving anal sex from men. Or all sorts of other combinations. The sexual act is separate from the gender you’re attracted to and want to have sex with. But because men receiving anal sex has been so associated with being gay in our culture, it’s assumed by some less informed people that liking anal means you’re gay.
As for orgasming from anal, just keep going. It takes time. Try committing to at least several months without anything but anal stimulation and you should gain significantly more sensitivity and start to get over the edge from anal stimulation alone.
At the moment I can only cum from clitoral stimulation and anal, but I’ve read some posts on here where ladies have cum from just anal and I want that
An excerpt of several good responses:
I started to be fucked in the ass in July or August last year. Then closer to Christmas I started using buttplugs when I played with myself and earlier this month I used a vibrator and a dildo to play only with my ass! I kept playing when my body wanted to stop and then I squirted and came on the dildo! I was so proud I had to tell my Daddy (Dom) immediately
My wife is the same way as you but unfortunately she doesn’t have the same hunger to cum solely from anal as you. We’re AO at this point because of some ongoing vaginal issues she’s having (which we suspect are due to her taking immunosuppressants for her autoimmune disease), but she needs her vibrator on her clit to cum, no matter what. She’ll have massive anal orgasms, but once she cums her psychological lust for anal dissipates, and she’s like “honey you gotta try to cum, I can’t go much longer.” Every time I broach the subject of “why don’t we try to slowly gradually train you away from your vibrator?” She gets pissed.
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Serve Anal Only Clients as a Sex Worker
As a sex worker, my job is primarily to cater to the fantasies of my clients. I have little control over what those are and most of the time, they already know what they want when they approach me to book an appointment.
That said, some of my clients certainly do have anal sex fetishes. And that’s fantastic! Needless to say, they are automatically bumped to the top of my list.
Unfortunately, I don’t have a large enough group of clients with an anal fetish to exclusively offer services to them while still being able to fully support myself financially.
That part is something I could probably overcome with enough time and patience. It wouldn’t be impossible to slowly build a list of steady clients who love anal sex.
But the bigger problem with that is the majority of those clients I have with an anal fetish also seem to expect vaginal sex as well. I only have two reliable clients who are truly anal only.
Alas, it would be the ultimate accomplishment if I were able to pull this off!
Have 100% Anal Only Orgasms
While each woman is different, I know I can’t be the only one who struggles to master the art of the 100% anal only orgasm.
While there is absolutely no doubt that anal sex feels far superior to vaginal in terms of pleasure, neither type of penetration has ever resulted in orgasms for me.
Which is actually kind of okay, I have come to realize over time.
I know some women who are anal only still include clitoral stimulation in their sex lives in order to climax, and there is nothing wrong with going that route at all!
But I happen to be in the no clit stimulation camp, which may simply mean I end up not experiencing orgasms at all.
While this might not be acceptable to all women, I have arrived at the conclusion that the pleasure I feel from anal is more intense and far preferable to any orgasms I could have by stimulating my clit.
Get My Boyfriend to Commit to Anal Only
Don’t misunderstand me here, my boyfriend loves anal sex as much as I do!
In fact, according to him, it was when I told him to put it in my ass during our very first hookup that he claims was the moment he knew he wanted to marry me someday.
All jokes aside though, we are both all about it. But to be honest, I have not brought up the idea of being strictly anal with him yet. Granted, we have only been together about six months so far.
It’s not that I’m worried he will react in a negative way, but I want to be sure that he understands where I’m coming from fully before I broach the subject.
I guess it’s just got to be the right time and setting and I need to be totally confident in how I communicate the idea to him.
I don’t imagine it will be much longer before I bring it up, so wish me luck!
Get a Vaginal Chastity Piercing
I first found out about this type of body art several years ago when I stumbled upon a couple of Tumblr blogs featuring photos of all the variations available.
While I had heard of clit piercings, I had no idea about chastity piercings or how many different styles were possible.
While imagining myself in the chair about to be pierced makes me wince a good deal at the pain involved, the main reason I haven’t taken the leap yet is that I’m pretty shy about this sort of thing with strangers.
I’m not the type of gal who would just walk into a body piercing parlor and walk right up to the desk and ask if vaginal chastity piercings are a thing they offer. I’m just not comfortable with that situation.
Personally, I’d need to do enough research privately beforehand or get a recommendation from someone I know in real life before approaching any place where I could get something like this done.
But once I have a trusted recommendation, I think I would like to get one.
Of course, this list is just the tip of the iceberg for me.
Ideally, I’d like to publish more about my love for anal sex and help to promote its acceptance as a healthy and desirable way of life to help others discover better sex sooner in life than I did!
My hope is that I can make some small contribution to normalizing the lifestyle on a greater societal level.
Anonymous: I’ve been only having anal sex for several years and I love it. I have really wanted to stop rubbing my clit too, but I struggle with that a lot more than stopping vaginal penetration. It was easy to stop doing vaginal, anal feels a lot better. But I always still give in to rubbing my clit sometimes, especially on my own. When I’m having sex it’s easy. But if I’m just masturbating, it’s hard to resist. Do you have any advice, and how important do you think it is for anal only girls to not touch their clit?
Congratulations on being anal only for several years now!
Clit stimulation and whether it continue it as part of being anal only is very much a matter of personal preference. Many people in the anal only lifestyle have no problem with continuing clit stimulation and just replace vaginal penetration with anal. Some avoid it during sex but do it when masturbating. And others avoid it entirely, finding that it makes it harder to commit to the anal-centric mindset and lifestyle or makes it harder for them to orgasm from anal.
If you’re happy with how you are, then enjoy it and don’t worry about what other people do. Anal only is fundamentally about anal penetration instead of vaginal penetration, and things like excluding clit stimulation as well are additional choices on top of that which can pair well with it for some. But if you really want to pursue clit denial, especially if you feel like you lose arousal or feel depressed after clit orgasms, there are some things that you can do.
Work on orgasming from anal penetration instead. If you can already do this, try doing it more often to make it easier so your body gets more used to anal orgasms instead of clit orgasms.
Challenge yourself to gradually go longer and longer without clit stimulation. A few days at first, then a week, then a few weeks, then a month, etc. If you give in to the urges, just pick back up and try to beat your previous record. The longer you go without it, the easier it will get in time, and the more your arousal will become anal centric.
Use tape on your pussy or a small amount of numbing cream to temporarily remove sensation from your clit when masturbating. If you want a long-term solution, consider a clit shield.
Anonymous: I just discovered your blog and wanted to share my anal experience because I think its objectively pretty hot and you seem like folks who would enjoy it. My boyfriend is 12 years older than me and only likes anal and never lets me touch my pussy during sex. And while I really like anal I can’t come from it alone, but I get really turned on by being submissive to him so I just sort of learned to focus on his pleasure, and now there’s nothing I like more than the feeling of him tensing up and cumming inside of me and knowing that I satisfied him.
Granted we don’t have anal everyday because it’s a bit too much work so on the days we can’t I go down on him whenever he wants. But on the days we do have anal he’s usually really rough and wild and does a bunch of fun kinky stuff like spit on me, or slap my butt and my pussy, or call me mean naughty names.
As much as I like our sex life I’m always on the prowl for new kinky things we could do, and was wondering if you have any suggestions for novel kinky stuff we could try.
A couple things come to mind based on what you’ve shared.
You mention that you can’t orgasm from anal alone, and that you don’t touch your pussy during sex. Do you touch it when you’re on your own and masturbating? While everyone is different, something that has worked for a lot of women to start experiencing anal orgasms without clit stimulation is to also transition to anal only when orgasming, so that their body can adjust fully to anal stimulation only and learn to orgasm that way. Clit orgasms tend to be a lot easier but less satisfying and because they happen more quickly, they can prevent getting to the point where you orgasm from anal.
What part of having anal every day is too much work for you, is it the cleaning or the warming up/stretching part of the preparation process? If it’s cleaning, you might try a higher fiber diet or taking fiber supplements as a way to naturally stay cleaner and require less manual cleaning. If it’s warming up and stretching, have you tried wearing a butt plug for at least a few hours a day if not longer (sleeping with one in can work well)? This can really help with staying warmed up for anal sex and making it more spontaneous, and also boosts your anal arousal and sensitivity. As you get used to wearing a plug longer term, you can try experimenting with 24/7 plugging.
Beyond that, there are all sorts of fun things you could try. Tape on your pussy to cover it up and prevent access to it, numbing cream to prevent feeling anything in your clit temporarily, stretching with bigger plugs or toys, double anal play, ass to mouth, rimming, and more!
Anonymous: Years ago, to torture myself i used to have ruined orgasms, everyone has their opinion but i think that for you to be anal only you can’t cum at all. So i would play with my clit and when i was almost there, i would stop. I enjoyed doing that cause it was a HUGE torture. Do you recommend ruining orgasms or not touching the pussy at all?
It really comes down to personal preference and what works best for you. For many, the goal of clit denial with anal only is avoiding the distraction of an easier form of orgasm so they can learn to have anal orgasms instead, and so it makes sense to end clit stimulation as a result.
However, for others who prefer anal penetration but need clit stimulation or clit orgasms to stay focused on and committed to the anal only lifestyle, edging, ruined orgasms, or clit orgasms in combination with anal can work well for them.
If your goal is to avoid anything vaginal or clitoral, then I suggest not touching it at all and focusing purely on anal stimulation and penetration.
We’ve had anal on several occasions, she was always quite “meh” about it, mostly doing it for me. She would eat and prep so we’d get one day of hassle free buttstuff, however this time it was entirely different. Whether it was the stars and moons aligning or some other cosmic event we were not prepared for what happened. This day, a girl that has never had a penetrative orgasm in her life had multiple serial orgasms, squirted and could hardly walk to the bathroom afterwards. Needless to say that one day turned into a week of anal, she can’t wait for more and neither can I. She won’t be going anal only, but she’s now got a strong preference, and I’m not complaining!
Has anyone had something similar happen? A previous girlfriend of mine would have full body, seizure like orgasms from anal, however it was like that since I first introduced her to anal.