Category: Anal Orgasm

Posts discussing orgasms that come purely from penetrative anal sex without any vaginal or clitoral stimulation. For more information on this topic, see our guide to achieving an anal orgasm.


Discussion: Anal Sex?

A woman posts on the Circle of Moms forum, asking whether other women enjoy anal sex:

Ever tried it? If so, do you enjoy it?
I am now at the point where it doesn’t hurt and it will feel good, but only while spooning. 
How about you ladies?

She receives a lot of very positive responses from other women who enjoy or prefer it themselves:

I am at the point where it feels good and I enjoy it more than vaginal.

At one time in my life if would have ask about anal I would have said hell no, But now.. I can honestly say it feel good to me now. A few years ago I had sex with a girl friend of mine, while our husbands were gone a deep sea fishing trip. We played around as usual but while she was licking my clit she put a finger in my ass. She was very good at what she did. It didnt hurt exactly just felt diffrent. She didn’t ram her finger in me it was slow and gentle and just enough I could feel the intensity. I had an orgasm while she licked me and fingered my ass. Afterwars I ask her about it. and she said whe would help me do anal if I wanted to. For months after that when I rubbed myself I would put a finger in my ass also. It became apart of my sexual fun. My husband never knew about my thought on anal. Later when her and I were together again she used 2 fingers and eventually after sometime had passed she fucked me with a dildo in my ass. I don’t think I would have liked it if a man tried anal with me at first, so I’m glad I learned to love it the way I did. Now I love getting fucked in my ass. I want say it feels better than my pussy but it feels diffrent and I enjoy it alot..

My husband and I do anal quite a bit when were are intimate I never thought I would do anal or even like as much as I do. I always thought about trying it but never felt confident enough to bring it up in any relationship I had, But when I met my husband he opened mny eyes to a whole new world and he didnt make me feel uncomfortable he made me feel sexy. i did anal for the first time about 4 months after our daughter was born, one night we were in bed fooling around and he asked me if it would be ok if he went in the other way as he put it and I said are you talking about my butt and he said yes so i said ok but go slow I had never done it and he did go slow he went slow and it was amazing I think the neighbors even heard us…lol

First, the partner (your man or a SO wearing a strap on or even using a dildo) musrt proceed SLOWLY. For me, that means taking at least 5 minutes of very gentle very deliberate short in-and-out movement. Second, a state of mind is required, I have to purposely focus on relaxing but more importantly when I feel the first pressure on my anus I immediately start short grunting-like movements as if I’m trying to have a BM when I’m constipated. I know it is gross to some to mix having a BM with sex but lets be frank … bearing down as when trying to pass a stool actually causes the sphincter muscle to relax and that means LOOSENESS. If you don’t bear down, your back door will be tight and that will hurt. The down side for me is I sometimes let out a small fart or two when my husband is about half way inside my anus but he expects it and knows it is natural. He has been doing my ass occasionally for the past 15 years and I now find it extremely enjoyable.

Don’t know that it’s my favorite, but I have to say my most intense orgasms have been from anal. I became a huge fan of it while I was pregnant for some reason. At that moment, it just worked for me and I asked for it a lot!

A few other women express that they don’t enjoy it, or that it isn’t their favorite, but on the whole everyone is positive about it and encouraging each other to do it more and how to enjoy it. It’s very nice to see a group of women all being positive about anal and helping each other out with it. The world could use more of that. Remember, if you have friends who might be interested in anal, open up to them, share how much you prefer it, and start talking about it and encouraging them to try it for themselves. And if they already like anal, encourage them to try anal only for themselves.

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Message: Did I Cum?

Hi there.

While not anal only my dominant partner controls my sexual experience including when and how I orgasm. Generally speaking he does not allow me to orgasm often – in fact I have only been granted five orgasms in seven months!

He recently told me tho that I may cum freely from anal masturbation. I have been enjoying my effort. It feels fabulous to fuck my ass with my fingers and my dildo. When I do do my pussy gets so wet – it almost continuously flows with periodic spurts that feel great. I usually stop only because I feel overwhelmed or exhausted but not because I really feel done or sated.

Now I don’t think of what is happening as an orgasm. It doesn’t feel like an orgasm. It feels good. Sublime. And it does relieve pressure. But I’ve been comparing it more to a man getting his prostate milked than to an orgasm.

Reading your blog tho I see you often refer to anal orgasms as feeling different, leaving the woman still feeling aroused rather than sated. So my question to you is what I’m having an anal orgasm and because it is so different from a clit or pussy orgasm that I’m just not recognizing it as such? Or do others also experience the same mind boggling non orgasm milking that I’m describing and do they distinguish it from an anal orgasm?

Thank you!
DS Quean

Hi!

While different people have different experiences, anal orgasms do generally still act as a climax with strong muscle contractions, etc. While they often won’t eliminate your arousal in the same way a clitoral orgasm might, they can reduce it somewhat and you can still feel satisfied afterwards often even though you might want to keep going. (For some women, the opposite might be true and an anal orgasm can be more like a ruined orgasm instead, but that seems less common.)

I’ve heard the comparison between clitoral and anal orgasms as the difference between an orgasm concentrated right in the clit and a full body orgasm.

I suspect that while you might be experiencing a state that could lead to orgasm, your comparison to prostate milking might be more accurate—very pleasurable, but not a climax.

I welcome other people’s opinions on this as well, however!

The Amplification of Arousal With Anal

One of the more subtle but powerful effects of anal sex in general and the anal only lifestyle is the amplifying effects that it can have on arousal. For someone with an already powerful sex drive, this can be quite the intense increase, while for someone who might struggle with arousal or has a partner with a higher libido than they do, it can be an incredible gamechanger and help.

Anal Can Be Very Exciting

While anal sex is becoming increasingly popular and common, it’s still generally less common than vaginal sex, and so anal play and sex can be quite exciting and that excitement often translates into increased arousal about having and during anal sex.

However, it’s not only limited to those who are just getting started with anal. Anal only couples very frequently report an increase of arousal or desire that continues many years into their anal only relationship, and while it’s quite common for sex to become stagnant and vaginal to become boring, anal is far more likely to remain exciting and arousing for everyone.

Anal Stimulation is Arousing

The anus has a high concentration of nerve endings that make it one of the most sensitive sexual centers in the human body, and the rectum is in close proximity to other pleasure centers in a way that anal penetration easily stimulates, so it’s no surprise that anal stimulation and penetration not only feels really good, it can have an intense effect on arousal as well. Women who engage in anal sex frequently talk about how horny it makes them, and as they gain more experience, especially when shifting away from vaginal sex or clitoral stimulation to focus exclusively on anal, develop an anal arousal they can feel in their ass, and a craving for more anal sex.

The Effects of Anal Orgasms on Arousal

It’s pretty commonly known that vaginal and clitoral orgasms often result in a loss of arousal afterwards, with women losing interest in sex and even feeling bad or regretful or depressed afterwards. This unfortunate effect can result in an overall decrease in libido for some, but generally just puts an end to the fun for a while and makes people not feel very good about themselves. It’s also led to a growing interest in orgasm denial and edging for many women, which can provide pleasure and arousal without the negative side effects.

With anal sex and the anal only lifestyle, however, come the possibility of anal orgasms, which can be intensely pleasurable—often more so than vaginal or clitoral orgasms—but also for most women do not result in a loss of arousal afterwards. Women still feel great, and sexual, and horny, and happy post-orgasm, and can continue for more if they want, or just stay in that happy arousal-filled state of mind, put a plug in, and continue with their day. It’s a great sex-positive way to be, that fills one’s entire life with a state of sexuality and pleasure rather than only some occasional period of time.

So if arousal or loss of arousal post-orgasm has been an issue for you, continue the anal only lifestyle and pursuing pure anal orgasms without clitoral stimulation, and you’ll likely have a much more positive and enjoyable experience!

Message: Anal Sex Made Me Feel More Like a Woman

Monica: I found this site after searching the internet to see if there were other women like me. After reading some of the stories I wanted to tell you mine.

I am a 28 year old woman and I have Vaginismus, a condition which always made vaginal sex incredibly painful for me. My husband and I were high school sweethearts. When we fooled around in high school, any penetration of my vagina was excruciating.

After we married, I could only have sex for a few minutes (on those rare occassions I could) before I had to stop. My husband was always kind and understanding, making due with blowjobs or handjobs. I always felt like a failure. Worse, I felt like less of a woman who was unworthy of this man’s love. Although my husband tried to please me by going down on me, I never even came close to orgasm. We would occassionally watch porn together until I would get so horny I would try, failing more often then succeeding, then give him a blowjob.

One video we watched had a couple having anal sex. I watched with excitement as the woman on the video was penetrated anally and wondered if this could be the solution we so desperately wanted. I told my husband I wanted to try anal sex and he apprehensivly agreed. We knew enough to know it wasn’t going to be like the movie we watched. Suffering with Vaginismus, we always needed a lot of lubricant to accomplish penetration. My husband applied so much lube it was all over the bed. I laid on my back, my legs on my husband’s shoulders. He then placed the head of his penis against my ass. I took a couple of deep breaths and signaled him to continue. As he applied more pressure I felt my ass relax as he began entering me. I’m not going to lie, there was a little pain, but nothing like the pain I experienced during vaginal sex. After several minutes I became aware my husband was no longer sliding into me. I looked at him, afraid he was not enjoying the experience, and told him it was okay to keep going. That’s when he said he was all the way in. Then it happened. The thought that my husband was fully inside me for the first time and I felt almost no pain caused me to experience my first orgasm. As I began to orgasm, my ass began to tighten and loosen around him. I could feel his penis pulse as my husband experienced his own orgasm. As our mutual orgasms began to subside, he began to remove his penis. I told him not to. I actually told him I never wanted him to remove it. My husband, ever the joker, said he thought it might make social events a little awkward. To which we both had to laugh. He leaned over and we began to kiss. Within minutes I could feel his penis begin to harden, still inside me. Then he began slow, gentle thrusts as we gazed into each others faces, eyes locked on each other. I had never felt so loved or connected to this man as I did now. Within minutes we were both experiencing another orgasm. I never felt more like a woman than I did in this moment, fully pleasing my husband, and being fully pleased by him.

For the next couple of months we made up for lost time. We had sex every chance we had. We had sex all over the house. We tried every position we could get our bodies into. The more anal sex we had the better it got.

That was nine years ago. We never attempted vaginal sex again. While so many of the couples we know have stagnant sex lives, we usually have sex five times a week. My husband and I feel incredibly connected. In a way, we credit my Vaginismus for our incredible sex life and incredible marriage.

Although many women with Vaginismus may find anal sex just as painful, I believe there are many who could benefit as I did by having an open mind and trying anal sex.

Thanks for sharing your story. I’m sorry that vaginal sex caused such a struggle in your sex life and your relationship with your husband in the past, but I’m so glad to hear that you were able to discover anal sex and enjoy the anal only lifestyle going forward from there.

Anal can be a gamechanger for many women with vaginismus and similar conditions. While, as you note, sometimes it can affect anal as well, more often than not anal is significantly easier to enjoy than vaginal, as you discovered. I’ve talked with numerous women over the years with similar stories, who had struggled with sex and intimacy due to vaginal discomfort or pain, and who found that going anal only and excluding vaginal penetration entirely provided the pleasure, sexual expression, and intimacy they’d been missing.

While there are absolute benefits to going anal only for almost everyone, it’s very obviously advantageous in circumstances like yours where vaginal sex is actively painful and essentially impossible to do with any sort of enjoyment. Hopefully, with the growing shift towards anal positivity and openness, doctors begin recommending anal as the alternative rather than women continuing to suffer through painful vaginal sex, or undergoing surgery for something unnecessary when anal is a better option anyway.

Message: Why Are Orgasms From Anal So Much More Intense for Men?

Anonymous: There is much talk about the anal orgasm being more intense than vaginal for the woman, but what about the guys who are penetrating? Why is the orgasm from anal so much more intense than from vaginal? Is it the forbidden nature of the act? Is it the tightness of the ass vs the vagina? Is it the beauty of the ass and anus vs the vagina? For me it is a combination of all three. I find the vagina bland and boring compared to the ass and frankly I literally empty my balls into the rectum whereas my orgasms from vaginal are ho-hum at best. I would be interested in hearing other peoples views on the matter.

I agree that it is likely a combination of factors. It feels better, it’s more intimate, it’s more attractive and appealing, and it is for many people more exciting. Those things combine together to result in better orgasms for everyone.

Forum: Anal Only 2019 Update, Part 2

In a follow-up to last week’s featured forum post, the conversation continues in very interesting ways:

The elimination of clitoral stimulation has lead to much longer, intense orgasms and multiple orgasms. She never had multiple orgasms with clitoral stimulation. As well, it seems like she has these really great orgasms that wipe her out, yet she can become aroused again in a very short period of time. It really has been a great thing for us. The only down side to this is that she’s doing less ass to mouth. We talked about it, and both realized that she usually did it when the clitoral stimulation became to much for her, but she wasn’t ready to cum. After I pointed out the fact I really missed it, she has made more of an effort, but it just doesn’t seem as exciting to her as it did. Don’t get me wrong, she still does ass to mouth just about every time, it just went from 3 or 4 times to once. I’m thankful she’s willing to do it at all, let alone enjoy doing it.

So far this weekend we’ve had sex Friday night, Saturday morning, Saturday afternoon, and Saturday night. Then, she woke me up about 2AM and told me she had been having a sex dream and we fucked again. She got off every time, with the exception of Saturday morning. She’s still asleep now, but I’m hoping she’ll be up to it this morning when she wakes, as I’m ready to go writing this. 

Whenever I think about it, I’m in constant disbelief I have a wife that loves anal sex as much as I do, to the point of the total elimination of direct vaginal or clitoral stimulation. Every day I still feel like I’m going to wake up and find it was all a crazy sex dream.

LuvMyWifesAss, Anal Only Lifestyle forum

It makes sense that without clitoral stimulation, she’s not as horny and willing to do ass to mouth. Personally, I’d tell her to start rubbing her clit again if she wants to that I could get some more ass to mouth. Once a session is alright, obviously, if that’s okay with you but I would want more ass to mouth, not less over time. It seems like she would do it on her own being so horny. Now she does it because you were missing it and really wanted it.

hasani2222, Anal Only Lifestyle forum

Quite the opposite. The reason she was doing more ass to mouth before is because the clitoral stimulation would become too intense for her and she would need to stop. Otherwise, she would cum before she was ready. It’s almost like anal only, without clit stimulation, is self regulating. She now has longer deeper orgasms and only cums when she’s ready to. It’s as if anal alone gives her the perfect amount of stimulation and cause her orgasms to happen only when they are supposed to. 

She’s now firmly in agreement that she enjoys sex more without clitoral stimulation, and that her orgasms are better. 

With clit stimulation her orgasms come on fast and are done. She feels less satisfied. Clitoral orgasms, even with anal stimulation seem very localized, where her anal only orgasms seem to encompass her whole body.

LuvMyWifesAss, Anal Only Lifestyle forum

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Forum: How Does Anal Make You Feel?

From an Anal Only Lifestyle forum discussion on anal sex and the anal only lifestyle and the effects it has on people, user throwawaymedfree expands upon something she posted previously on reddit, which we also quoted on this blog recently.

Unfortunately I don’t feel as much in my vagina. It feels like the man is having sex with just the vagina. With my ass though, it feels like he’s having sex with my whole body. I can feel the shape of him and how he throbs inside me. As he thrusts, the “full” feeling goes not only in my ass, but my whole pelvic region (so my pussy is throbbing as well) and inside the stomach, the chest, and my hands and feet get weak and tingly. Because of this, it feels deeper and more intimate. My lips and breasts become swollen as a direct response to the sensation as well. 

It’s intense. Fulfilling. Feminine. It makes me feel the most comfortable in my skin during anal sex, and all I am focusing on is the pleasure. I am blown away at the striking difference between me and the man, both physically and fundamentally. I like being the receiver of pleasure and being done unto. 

Anal takes the “dirtiest” part of the woman’s body and turns it into something desirable, erotic, and even preferable. I feel beautiful when I am anally riding a man. If a man can take my asshole, he’ll take everything else.

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Message: Should I Try Vaginal or Go Anal Only?

Anonymous: Hey, so I’m a virgin but I masturbate A LOT and really want to have sex. I use a dildo in my ass a lot and have a butt plug now too that I love so I know I really want to do anal but I always imagined I would do vag too. But I see that you are telling virgins to skip it and go right to anal only. I like the idea but I don’t know if I should do it or not? Should I also stop masturbating that way? What do I do if a guy wants my pussy? Or do guys all want anal only now? Please help!

Yes! Definitely go anal only and stay a vaginal virgin. The biggest regret I hear from anal only women is that they spent any time at all on vaginal and they wish they had stayed a vaginal virgin. While it’s not the worst thing in the world so long as you end up anal only in the end, it’s an unfortunate and unnecessary detour to go down the path of vaginal before settling on anal. If you have the choice, make the anal only choice. You can always change your mind later and lose your vaginal virginity, but so long as the idea of being an anal only vaginal virgin is available and interesting to you, I highly recommend taking it!

It’s definitely becoming increasingly popular for women in your position to choose the anal only vaginal virgin path, for a variety of reasons. Anal has become much more mainstream and normal, and women are both experimenting with it more as well as less afraid to be open about preferring it and focusing on it as their primary or exclusive source of pleasure. As more women open up about that preference and their choice to avoid vaginal completely, it normalizes that idea for other women and gives them the confidence to choose to do the same as well.

It sounds like you already really love anal and prefer it, so the decision seems quite obvious. Vaginal will never be as good as anal, and you’ll always prefer anal, so with the likelihood that you would end up anal only eventually even if you did try vaginal, you will most likely regret giving up your vaginal virginity. I know several who started out anal only vaginal virgins for years before finally trying vaginal later in life, and being supremely disappointed in it, so there’s that to consider as well. It’s just not worth wasting any time with at all.

If you’re concerned about wanting to have children later in life, there are several options. Some anal only women see the only purpose of the vagina and vaginal sex being impregnation and will choose to lose their virginity in order to get pregnant but never for anything else. Others want to permanently maintain that virginity even when getting pregnant and opt to use a different strategy, having anal sex and pushing their partner’s semen out so it runs down into their spread-open vagina, repeating as necessary until pregnant, and in that way able to get pregnant from anal sex only without even once having vaginal intercourse.

And finally, yes, you should stop any vaginal masturbation as well, and focus just on anal penetration and pleasure. Vaginal stimulation just confuses and distracts from developing anal pleasure and orgasms, and if you already really enjoy anal, you should focus on that and work on mastering it.

Good luck, and enjoy. You’ll never regret being an anal only vaginal virgin.

Reddit: Anal Only Isn’t a Form of Denial

I don’t see anal only as a firm of denial for me. My orgasms have always come from a blend of sensations. Anal is simply superior in that aspect.
We have gine anal only for a number of reasons. One of which is the extreme intimacy. Vaginal has to much risk of pregnancy that it had become a source of anxiety for me. However with anal we are both more relaxed. The sensations are better. He can orgasm inside me with no fear. We are physically connected during both of our orgasms so it is infinately more intimate than vaginal ever was or could be.
We even find that due to the shape and length of our bodies we physically fit together better in some of our positions. We are in contact head to toe and that is an amazing feeling on so many levels.
Like we were designed for it…

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Anal is for Pleasure

Talk to any woman regularly engages in anal sex, regardless of whether she’s anal only or just combines anal with vaginal, and there’s a very good chance that she will say that anal sex feels better and more pleasurable than vaginal. Everyone is different and can have different preferences, but the majority of people with experience with anal sex all end up preferring anal by far.

This reinforces a principle of the anal only lifestyle that vaginal sex is for procreation and anal sex is for recreation. Because vaginal sex is generally less pleasurable, and requires additional forms of birth control to avoid its primary function of reproduction, anal naturally makes sense as the default, normal, natural form of sex for pleasure purposes.

Anal is sex purely for pleasure and intimacy without the baggage of reproduction. You just get to enjoy the best sex can be, without ever having to worry about getting pregnant or the impulses and emotions that can surround that.