Category: Messages From Readers

A majority of the content on this blog is messages from readers, whether requests for advice, venting of frustrations, or shared stories and experiences. If you have your own question to ask or comment to share, send us a message.


Message: How Does Anal Feel as Opposed to Vaginal?

Anonymous: How does anal feel as opposed to vaginal? If you are the guy how does anal feel to your dick? Why is it so good?

Everyone has a slightly different experience and opinion, but in general, anal is tighter, grippier and much more “responsive” than vaginal—with anal, you can feel everything your partner does and when their muscles twitch with pleasure, especially during orgasm. In addition to the direct differences in sensation, it also tends to allow for deeper penetration, is more visually appealing and exciting, and has a much more primal and natural feeling to it than vaginal.

Message: Guys in Straight Porn That Prefer Anal to Vaginal

Anonymous: I was wondering how many straight guys in porn prefer anal to vaginal. I know a while back you had a post about woman in porn that preferred anal to vaginal. It would be interesting to see how many guys in porn like anal over vaginal.

Information on that is much less available, because the porn industry is still so focused on a male audience and makes interviews and personal information about female porn actors widely available, while male porn actors still tend to largely blend into the background and not share their own personalities or interests publicly in the same manner.

It’s an interesting question, though, and it would be interesting to explore more if there were more information available.

Message: DIY Butt Plug?

Anonymous: What can I use to make a DIY anal plug? I can’t order online or go to a sex shop. I really want to get into the AO lifestyle but I live with family.

It’s great to hear that you want to go AO, and I’m sorry that you aren’t able to buy anal toys due to your living arrangements. Perhaps you could go to a shop with a friend or have a toy delivered to their house if you aren’t able to have it delivered at home?

Alternatively, you can masturbate anally with your fingers or use vegetables like cucumbers as dildos. Certain thin bottles or pens and markers like Sharpies can work as well.

Message: Should I Try Vaginal or Go Anal Only?

Anonymous: Hey, so I’m a virgin but I masturbate A LOT and really want to have sex. I use a dildo in my ass a lot and have a butt plug now too that I love so I know I really want to do anal but I always imagined I would do vag too. But I see that you are telling virgins to skip it and go right to anal only. I like the idea but I don’t know if I should do it or not? Should I also stop masturbating that way? What do I do if a guy wants my pussy? Or do guys all want anal only now? Please help!

Yes! Definitely go anal only and stay a vaginal virgin. The biggest regret I hear from anal only women is that they spent any time at all on vaginal and they wish they had stayed a vaginal virgin. While it’s not the worst thing in the world so long as you end up anal only in the end, it’s an unfortunate and unnecessary detour to go down the path of vaginal before settling on anal. If you have the choice, make the anal only choice. You can always change your mind later and lose your vaginal virginity, but so long as the idea of being an anal only vaginal virgin is available and interesting to you, I highly recommend taking it!

It’s definitely becoming increasingly popular for women in your position to choose the anal only vaginal virgin path, for a variety of reasons. Anal has become much more mainstream and normal, and women are both experimenting with it more as well as less afraid to be open about preferring it and focusing on it as their primary or exclusive source of pleasure. As more women open up about that preference and their choice to avoid vaginal completely, it normalizes that idea for other women and gives them the confidence to choose to do the same as well.

It sounds like you already really love anal and prefer it, so the decision seems quite obvious. Vaginal will never be as good as anal, and you’ll always prefer anal, so with the likelihood that you would end up anal only eventually even if you did try vaginal, you will most likely regret giving up your vaginal virginity. I know several who started out anal only vaginal virgins for years before finally trying vaginal later in life, and being supremely disappointed in it, so there’s that to consider as well. It’s just not worth wasting any time with at all.

If you’re concerned about wanting to have children later in life, there are several options. Some anal only women see the only purpose of the vagina and vaginal sex being impregnation and will choose to lose their virginity in order to get pregnant but never for anything else. Others want to permanently maintain that virginity even when getting pregnant and opt to use a different strategy, having anal sex and pushing their partner’s semen out so it runs down into their spread-open vagina, repeating as necessary until pregnant, and in that way able to get pregnant from anal sex only without even once having vaginal intercourse.

And finally, yes, you should stop any vaginal masturbation as well, and focus just on anal penetration and pleasure. Vaginal stimulation just confuses and distracts from developing anal pleasure and orgasms, and if you already really enjoy anal, you should focus on that and work on mastering it.

Good luck, and enjoy. You’ll never regret being an anal only vaginal virgin.

Message: Whose Fault Was It?

Anonymous: I was fingering a woman (in the ass of course) and poop mixed with lube came out and messed up the bed sheets. Whose fault was it?

That was no one’s fault. Accidents happen sometimes, and it’s not a blame game. Instead of trying to decide who’s at fault, laugh it off and if you want to avoid it going forward, take a look at our guide to hygiene for anal sex and play.

Message: How Big To Go?

Anonymous: I’m a self-described anal only slut and I just can’t ever seem to get enough of big things in my ass. I’ve been doing anal since I first started masturbating and knew right away I liked to put my finger in my butt more than my pussy, and pretty much have been anal only ever since, only trying it in my pussy a few times along the way, but otherwise it’s barely been used and I’m done trying, I just want it all in my ass all the time! I cum easily from anal and never have from my pussy.

I like using big toys, stretching my ass as much as I can and making it bigger until it gets easy and I go even bigger yet. I really like fucking guys one on one still too and it feels great but I’m compelled to stretch it more and more as well. I started doing double anal pretty often last year and that’s a lot of fun, both on my own with toys and with two guys at once. I think that’s my current favorite, but I’m getting into fisting now too and I’d like to start doing triple anal.

But how big should I go? Should I stop somewhere or just keep chasing my need to go bigger and bigger? I know how to be safe and not hurt myself and I always stop if something starts to hurt, I don’t want any long-term injuries or ill effects, and I don’t have any problems as a result of my passion even though I’ve been at it for years now. I saw you posted about some girls going double anal only and I’d like to try that at least for a while. I wear a 2″ plug every day and sometimes bigger, should I go larger with that?

Thanks for the message! Sounds like you have an awesome and healthy anal only sex life! While not everyone craves going to bigger and bigger sizes, there’s nothing at all wrong with that desire and I think it’s totally normal as you really get into anal and the anal only lifestyle, especially when combined with a slut lifestyle.

Go as big as you want and keep chasing that craving. As long as you play it safe, you aren’t going to hurt yourself or develop long-term issues. And don’t worry about getting “loose” either, assholes don’t really get loose, they just increase their upper size limit. And you can have a lot more fun with a well-trained, flexible asshole than an overly tight one! So definitely keep doing what you enjoy most.

Double anal is definitely becoming more popular lately. It’s been a popular porn genre for a while, but in recent years I’ve seen a huge uptick in real women starting to practice it, some occasionally, some regularly. I know several who have gone “double anal only”, as you mentioned, and who have made it their primary sexual activity, only having sex with two or more partners penetrating them anally at the same time. If that sounds appealing to you and you have the partners to make it work on a regular basis, it could definitely be something to explore. It’s a very fun idea for the right person.

There are a lot of large plugs out there. If you find your everyday plug really comfortable and not pushing your limits anymore, you might try going to a larger one as your primary one, which will help keep you relaxed open for bigger and better things.

Good luck, and let us know how things go. I’m sure you’re in for a very fun time going forward.

Message: Even the Bible Teaches Anal Sex is Natural

Anal Evangelist: Many think the Bible teaches that anal sex is wrong. To the contrary, I believe the Bible teaches anal sex is the “natural use of a woman.”

The intention of this post is not to attack homosexuality, but to point out some interesting things I noticed regarding the teachings of the Bible in regard to anal sex. This is why I have truncated the following verses, as the remainder doesn’t effect the context in regard to anal sex between a man and a woman.

Some may say the Bible teaches sex is just for procreation, but that flies in the face of Proverbs 5:18-19:

Proverbs 5:18-19 says, “May your fountain be blessed, and may you rejoice in the wife of your youth. A loving doe, a graceful deer — may her breasts satisfy you always, may you ever be intoxicated with her love.”

That doesn’t sound like the writer is talking about procreation, but recreation.

Romans 1:27 says, “And likewise also the men, leaving the natural use of the woman, burned in their lust one toward another…”

What then is the “natural use of the woman?”

Leviticus 20:13 says, “If a man has sexual relations with a man as one does with a woman…”

As anal sex is the only way a man can have sexual relations with another man, the logical conclusion is that “the natural use of the woman” would be for anal sex. In other words, normal sexual relations for pleasure were meant to be anal sex. This seems only logical in that there was limited means of birth control at the time these passages were written.

1 Corinthians 7:5 says, “Do not deprive each other except perhaps by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.”

This verse seems to indicate sexual relations were expected to be frequent. As it is today, with limited resources, few couples could afford to feed and clothe a large family. Anal sex was (as it is today) the perfect solution to allow frequent sexual relations, while limiting the number of children a family would have.

I’d be interested to know what others think.

It’s an interesting theory, and looking back at it from our perspective it makes sense, and we do know that there were a number of cultures in history who engaged in anal sex as their primary form of sex in part for birth control purposes. I don’t think there’s enough evidence within the Bible to definitively say this was the case there, but it’s fun to imagine if nothing else!

Message: Love Tasting My Ass

Anonymous: Hey! I love your blog and everything it talks about and want you to know that I went anal only like five years ago the first time I had sex because of it and I totally agree it’s the only way to live.

Besides that, though, I haven’t seen you talking about ass to mouth too much lately and I wanted to say that it’s one of my favorite things and I think every anal only girl should do it because it’s just so good! I love tasting my ass on a guy’s cock that’s just been fucking me. It tastes amazing, it’s so sexy and slutty, it turns him on almost as much as it turns me on, and it’s just so natural to do as an anal only girl. I’m totally addicted to it now and honestly crave it.

So yeah I think you should write about it more!

Thanks for the message! That’s awesome that you’ve been anal only since you first had sex, and that you’ve stayed AO for so long. It sounds like you’re planning to stay anal only and a vaginal virgin for good? I definitely strongly encourage that and wish you the best of luck!

I also agree about ass to mouth—it’s something I’ve touched on quite a bit over the years and should do so more, because everything you said is right. It is amazing for everyone involved, and should be a natural part of the anal only lifestyle for more people.

Message: Girls Should Stay Vaginal Virgins

Anonymous: I totally agree with your encouragement for girls to keep their vaginas virgin and to start with anal and only ever do sex that way. I’m in my 30s and I only did anal until my early 20s before I decided to start using my pussy too, basically out of laziness, in order to be easier to date and fuck guys. I never really enjoyed it, and spent a few years kind of miserable and unsatisfied as the guys I dated spent all their time there and barely paid attention to my ass.

After I got out of a long vaginal only relationship where I was really hating myself for what I’d become, I took some time for myself and got back into playing with my ass, wearing butt plugs and riding dildos anally almost every day. I really loved it, and it wasn’t until this time that I was really conscious about what an important role anal and being anal only played for me. I followed one of your anal only challenges and only masturbated anally—not even my clit, as I’ve always been able to orgasm anally and I thought stopping all use of my pussy and clit would be the best way to refocus my sex life back where it belongs—for an entire month, and I’ve just kept going since. I started dating again and was much more selective, making it clear that I’m only interested in anal. I had some good hookups with guys who were okay with skipping my pussy and going straight for my ass.

And now I’m a few months into a new relationship with a guy who loves anal almost as much as I do. Things are going great, and we’re both really happy with being anal only. But I really wish I hadn’t spent so many years wasting my life on vaginal and my biggest regret is that I didn’t stay a vaginal virgin. So if you’re a vaginal virgin right now who is interested in or practicing the anal only lifestyle, listen to the advice and stay that way. You’ll never regret being an anal only vaginal virgin, but you will regret giving up your vaginal virginity.

Thank you for sharing, and well said! As I’ve commented before, you can only give up your vaginal virginity once, so if you have hesitations about doing so, don’t do it. If you do, it’s not the biggest deal in the world, and you can (and likely will, as you’ve discovered) end up back in the anal only lifestyle eventually because vaginal will never compare to the pleasures and benefits of being purely anal only, but there’s something special about choosing to keep your vagina completely unused and focusing purely on anal pleasure and sex, so if that’s still an option for you—take it!

Message: Anal Only Summer

ButtBabe: Hey! I want to share an idea I had after reading this blog. I’m not anal only right now but I do anal probably 80% or 90% of the time and really only use my pussy for sex if I can’t do anal or if I’m having a threesome. But it’s not my first choice and I think the idea of doing just anal and making it a choice not to ever do vaginal is really hot!

So I was thinking of making this summer anal only and see how it goes. I would start at the beginning of June and go through July, which is when I’m off from school. Since I wouldn’t have many responsibilities in the summer compared to during school I could keep my ass ready for sex more easily and just do it all the time.

What do you think?

I think that sounds like a wonderful idea. You’ll be able to focus fully on it and staying in top shape for frequent anal sex. Dedicating a full two months to anal only will really show you what it’s all about to focus 100% on anal, and since you’re already a very anal-centric person, I’m sure that you’ll notice a lot of subtle, and maybe some not-so-subtle, improvements over continuing to use your vagina intermittently.

I will say, if you really enjoy yourself during the summer, just keep going with anal only. After two months of anal only, your ass will be well adjusted to the routine and I’m sure you’ll be able to go full time even during a regular school/life routine. Rather than seeing this as a short term summer thing to do, see it as an opportunity to spend a few months getting ready to go fully anal only long-term. And, if you already know you want to do this, why not get started now? Just keep doing anal regularly as you already do, and when you get to a situation where you would do vaginal, just don’t do it and either do anal or oral instead. No point delaying your goals if you can get started sooner and get even more time in.