Category: Vaginal Virginity

Anal sex has long been used as an alternative to preserve one’s vaginal virginity, but as that becomes culturally less important for people, vaginal virginity is becoming a matter of choice and preference instead, with women learning they prefer anal early on and deciding to go with anal as their default from the beginning and never bother with vaginal.


Message: Am I Normal?

Annabee: So I stumbled upon your blog. it has opening me up to a new world. When I was preteen-teen I touch my clit and it felt kinda good. but once I was 16 it started feeling awkward. so never really masturbated that much. when I did with my clit it just felt weird in a way that made me not want to touch myself. almost depressed so I just didn’t masturbate that much and I really only did cuz I thought it was weird that all my friends were talking about how great it felt and I was the complete opposite I thought I was weird. fast forward to now I’m 30 and happy to say a vaginal Virgin I just found your blog and I thought I’d give anal a try so I bought a toy and some warming lube. I’ve tried a few times but haven’t been able to orgasm yet. One thing I do love seeing and doing is ride my dildo and watch my close pussy in the mirror but Just thought I would share my story and also see if you had any suggestions to help me orgasm from just anal.

Thanks for sharing, and I’m glad that you have found the blog helpful and inspirational.

Regarding anal only orgasms, you can try some of the tips in this article on the subject. It can take some time for some people to get to the point where anal orgasms are easy, but it’s well worth it once you get there. Some also find it easier with a partner but more difficult when just masturbating.

If you don’t like clitoral stimulation, you may not prefer to go down this path, but some like or prefer combining clitoral stimulation with anal penetration.

Good luck! The more you explore anal, the more you’re going to love it.

Message: So Good to Feel Normal

Anonymous: I am so happy this blog exists because for many years I felt like I was such a freak for thinking the things you and others post about on this blog.

I have never had vaginal sex with a girl, because it doesn’t interest me or appeal to me at all, and I never will. I’ve only ever fucked girls in the ass. It’s been hard, though, and lots of girls act like I’m some kind of freak for wanting this.

I truly think anal sex is the only way anyone should have sex, and that vaginal sex is not just inferior, it’s wrong and shouldn’t be done at all. There are so many reasons, it doesn’t feel as good, it isn’t intimate in the same way as anal, it totally ruins a woman’s arousal and mood, and it’s just so unappealing. Anal is natural, vaginal isn’t.

Even though it took a while, I have an anal only girlfriend who believes the same as me and is completely anal only like me. We’ve been together for about a year now and things couldn’t be better. We don’t use her pussy or clit at all and neither of us ever want to. So I’m really glad your blog helped me feel normal and like I could ask girls again about an anal only relationship.

Always remember there really isn’t any such thing as “normal” when it comes to sexual preference. Anal only may be less common, but it’s totally normal and there’s nothing at all wrong with it. All that matters is that you’re happy and that you find a partner who shares your interests and preferences.

I’m very happy to hear that you have found just that, and it sounds like you’re perfect for each other. Enjoy your anal only life together.

An Argument for an Anal Only World

While it’s no secret that we are strong advocates in favor of going anal only, we here also strongly respect the fact that everyone is different and that everyone has the right to have whatever sort of sex works best for them personally and they enjoy the most. That said, this article is going to make the argument in favor of a global shift towards everyone becoming anal only and the benefits thereof.

The personal benefits of the anal only lifestyle are well documented already across this blog and through our Guide to Anal Sex and the Anal Only Lifestyle, particularly in the article Reasons to Go Anal Only & Advantages of Abandoning Vaginal Sex. This article will instead focus on the cultural and societal reasons to go anal only.

Overpopulation is a Global Concern

It’s pretty well established at this point that the Earth is overpopulated, with climate change and other serious environmental and social issues becoming worse as a result. While sex may fundamentally exist for reproductive purposes, humans have repurposed it as a form of mutual pleasure, stress relief, and bonding, only intending it as a reproductive act for a fraction of sexual activity we engage in.

And yet, unwanted pregnancies are still quite a common thing, even with the use of birth control. Birth control isn’t perfect, and it’s easy to mess up or avoid using it due to the hassle or issues that come with it. Therefore, it’s time for anal to become the new norm instead and relegate vaginal for the rare scenario where one actually wants to deliberately become pregnant and have children.

Anal is Natural Birth Control

Expanding on the previous section, birth control has a lot of different negatives associated with it. Condoms are a hassle, often unpleasant, and easy to forget or try to justify not using. (Condoms provide more than just birth control, however, and should absolutely be used if having sex with a new partner who has not been tested to avoid the spread of sexually transmitted infections.) Hormonal birth control can mess up a woman’s libido and mood, or even cause more serious effects for some.

Anal is a natural form of birth control that is highly effective, is an extremely pleasurable and appealing form of sex in its own right, and doesn’t have any of the side effects of other forms of birth control. If anal is your birth control method, and you forego vaginal entirely in favor of it, it’s not something you’re going to forget or try to avoid—it’s something you’ll already love and want, so you’ll want to do it every time.

Societal Harmony Through Anal Sex

Everyone can enjoy anal sex and find the appeal in it, and engaging in it with a trusted partner fosters that trust and a sort of mutual empathy, helping each other become more intimate and better bonded. The more people have anal sex, the closer everyone will become and more accepting and trusting of each other. We live in a time where we could sorely use something to bring us all together again. Let’s let anal sex be that thing.

Message: Men Should Choose to be Anal Only Too

John: Hello, I’ve read some post where women choose to have only anal and never had vaginal sex. I think it’s good idea for straight male as well. I was interested in anal sex since my teens when I was a virgin. Later in college i met a girl, she was a virgin too. I didn’t want a relationship with her, so i wasn’t interested in taking her’s vaginal virginity, but wanted to have some casual sex. I convinced her into anal. This was my first sexual experience with other person. Later on I though maybe it’s quite good idea to have anal only. So every with girl I met since, I had either oral, manual or anal but never had “real sex”. I share this story because I truly think we can spread this culture across the world, and if not only women refuse to have vaginal but as well men, this cat get really viral. Many are thinking right now, it’s more complicated to find a partner for casual or serious relationship who would like to have such sexual life. Yes indeed, but you can always have oral or manual instead of vaginal till you date agrees to go anal.

I completely agree, the choice to be anal only and exclude vaginal sex completely benefits everyone, regardless of their gender. Anal is a more rewarding and appealing form of sex, and combining it with vaginal ultimately ends up degrading the purity of pleasure, intimacy, and reward that comes from anal (even if it can still be good).

It’s important not to think of vaginal as “real sex”, which results in thinking of anal as something lesser, which is far from the case. Instead, recognize that anal is just as real as any other form of sex, but vaginal is the least beneficial for everyone, and so is best kept as procreative sex only.

The choice to remain a vaginal virgin has grown in popularity in recent years, especially among women who prefer anal and the idea of staying anal only, but more men are showing that interest as well. If anal is what you want, and vaginal doesn’t interest you, it’s well worth the effort to go straight to pure anal only and never compromise for vaginal sex.

Message: Should I Try Vaginal or Go Anal Only?

Anonymous: Hey, so I’m a virgin but I masturbate A LOT and really want to have sex. I use a dildo in my ass a lot and have a butt plug now too that I love so I know I really want to do anal but I always imagined I would do vag too. But I see that you are telling virgins to skip it and go right to anal only. I like the idea but I don’t know if I should do it or not? Should I also stop masturbating that way? What do I do if a guy wants my pussy? Or do guys all want anal only now? Please help!

Yes! Definitely go anal only and stay a vaginal virgin. The biggest regret I hear from anal only women is that they spent any time at all on vaginal and they wish they had stayed a vaginal virgin. While it’s not the worst thing in the world so long as you end up anal only in the end, it’s an unfortunate and unnecessary detour to go down the path of vaginal before settling on anal. If you have the choice, make the anal only choice. You can always change your mind later and lose your vaginal virginity, but so long as the idea of being an anal only vaginal virgin is available and interesting to you, I highly recommend taking it!

It’s definitely becoming increasingly popular for women in your position to choose the anal only vaginal virgin path, for a variety of reasons. Anal has become much more mainstream and normal, and women are both experimenting with it more as well as less afraid to be open about preferring it and focusing on it as their primary or exclusive source of pleasure. As more women open up about that preference and their choice to avoid vaginal completely, it normalizes that idea for other women and gives them the confidence to choose to do the same as well.

It sounds like you already really love anal and prefer it, so the decision seems quite obvious. Vaginal will never be as good as anal, and you’ll always prefer anal, so with the likelihood that you would end up anal only eventually even if you did try vaginal, you will most likely regret giving up your vaginal virginity. I know several who started out anal only vaginal virgins for years before finally trying vaginal later in life, and being supremely disappointed in it, so there’s that to consider as well. It’s just not worth wasting any time with at all.

If you’re concerned about wanting to have children later in life, there are several options. Some anal only women see the only purpose of the vagina and vaginal sex being impregnation and will choose to lose their virginity in order to get pregnant but never for anything else. Others want to permanently maintain that virginity even when getting pregnant and opt to use a different strategy, having anal sex and pushing their partner’s semen out so it runs down into their spread-open vagina, repeating as necessary until pregnant, and in that way able to get pregnant from anal sex only without even once having vaginal intercourse.

And finally, yes, you should stop any vaginal masturbation as well, and focus just on anal penetration and pleasure. Vaginal stimulation just confuses and distracts from developing anal pleasure and orgasms, and if you already really enjoy anal, you should focus on that and work on mastering it.

Good luck, and enjoy. You’ll never regret being an anal only vaginal virgin.

Reddit: Ready to Give Up

I have been anal only my entire life (I’m only 19 but still) and I have a few other kinks. But it’s seeming impossible to find a Daddy or another little/cow anywhere near me that is ok never putting anything in my pussy. I am ready to just go back to the last Daddy I tried to date who was willing to only if he could fuck my pussy (and “pop my cherry”).

I don’t know what to do and I’m scared I’m going to have to give up being anal only.

Lilly_Moonstar, /r/analonlylifestyle

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Message: Love Tasting My Ass

Anonymous: Hey! I love your blog and everything it talks about and want you to know that I went anal only like five years ago the first time I had sex because of it and I totally agree it’s the only way to live.

Besides that, though, I haven’t seen you talking about ass to mouth too much lately and I wanted to say that it’s one of my favorite things and I think every anal only girl should do it because it’s just so good! I love tasting my ass on a guy’s cock that’s just been fucking me. It tastes amazing, it’s so sexy and slutty, it turns him on almost as much as it turns me on, and it’s just so natural to do as an anal only girl. I’m totally addicted to it now and honestly crave it.

So yeah I think you should write about it more!

Thanks for the message! That’s awesome that you’ve been anal only since you first had sex, and that you’ve stayed AO for so long. It sounds like you’re planning to stay anal only and a vaginal virgin for good? I definitely strongly encourage that and wish you the best of luck!

I also agree about ass to mouth—it’s something I’ve touched on quite a bit over the years and should do so more, because everything you said is right. It is amazing for everyone involved, and should be a natural part of the anal only lifestyle for more people.

Message: Girls Should Stay Vaginal Virgins

Anonymous: I totally agree with your encouragement for girls to keep their vaginas virgin and to start with anal and only ever do sex that way. I’m in my 30s and I only did anal until my early 20s before I decided to start using my pussy too, basically out of laziness, in order to be easier to date and fuck guys. I never really enjoyed it, and spent a few years kind of miserable and unsatisfied as the guys I dated spent all their time there and barely paid attention to my ass.

After I got out of a long vaginal only relationship where I was really hating myself for what I’d become, I took some time for myself and got back into playing with my ass, wearing butt plugs and riding dildos anally almost every day. I really loved it, and it wasn’t until this time that I was really conscious about what an important role anal and being anal only played for me. I followed one of your anal only challenges and only masturbated anally—not even my clit, as I’ve always been able to orgasm anally and I thought stopping all use of my pussy and clit would be the best way to refocus my sex life back where it belongs—for an entire month, and I’ve just kept going since. I started dating again and was much more selective, making it clear that I’m only interested in anal. I had some good hookups with guys who were okay with skipping my pussy and going straight for my ass.

And now I’m a few months into a new relationship with a guy who loves anal almost as much as I do. Things are going great, and we’re both really happy with being anal only. But I really wish I hadn’t spent so many years wasting my life on vaginal and my biggest regret is that I didn’t stay a vaginal virgin. So if you’re a vaginal virgin right now who is interested in or practicing the anal only lifestyle, listen to the advice and stay that way. You’ll never regret being an anal only vaginal virgin, but you will regret giving up your vaginal virginity.

Thank you for sharing, and well said! As I’ve commented before, you can only give up your vaginal virginity once, so if you have hesitations about doing so, don’t do it. If you do, it’s not the biggest deal in the world, and you can (and likely will, as you’ve discovered) end up back in the anal only lifestyle eventually because vaginal will never compare to the pleasures and benefits of being purely anal only, but there’s something special about choosing to keep your vagina completely unused and focusing purely on anal pleasure and sex, so if that’s still an option for you—take it!

Going Anal Only is the Ideal Form of Birth Control

In a world filled with a variety of birth control options, it may seem unusual to make the claim that foregoing vaginal sex entirely in favor of anal is the best option, but there are a number of reasons why it’s true.

Anal is Natural and Requires Nothing Else

With unwanted pregnancy, especially among teens, an ongoing problem, one has to wonder why, in an age of widely available birth control options, this continues to happen. For younger women, it can be the result of being scared to ask their parents for birth control, or not having the means to do so. In the heat of the moment, some people just give in to their impulses and forego safe sex practices, which can have long-lasting effects on one’s life.

With anal sex, none of that matters. You can just have sex, as often as you like, and it isn’t going to result in pregnancy. It’s natural birth control, and it’s better as a result. You don’t need to remember to use condoms, take pills, or go to a doctor to get a birth control implant. You don’t get the unwanted side effects of hormonal birth control. You just forego vaginal sex in favor of anal every time, and get beautiful sex and pleasure as a result.

While care should be taken after ejaculation to ensure that semen doesn’t run to the vagina, the chances of unwanted pregnancy from anal sex outside of deliberate efforts are very slim. And of course, with new and untested partners, the use of condoms is essential for safe sex to avoid the spread of sexually transmitted infections.

Anal Offers Better Pleasure and Intimacy

In addition to the natural birth control effects, anal is superior in every other way as well: it’s better for pleasure and intimacy compared to vaginal sex.

Done properly, with appropriate warmup and practice, anal sex is the most pleasurable form of sex, leading to more powerful and intense orgasms than can be had from vaginal penetration or clitoral stimulation alone. And in part because of the fact that the anus is a person’s most sensitive and private part of their body, trusting a partner to exclusively have sex with them there leads to a great increase of intimacy. Being anal only with a partner can also be a delightful and sexy secret that you share with each other, which also amplifies intimacy. Anal only couples commonly report the increased intimacy being a major draw towards staying anal only long-term.

Save Vaginal Purely for Getting Pregnant

If you’re just getting started with sex, or are struggling with other birth control options, consider foregoing vaginal sex entirely and electing to go anal only instead. Not only will the sex be better, but you’ll immediately benefit from the natural birth control effects of being anal only.

Keep vaginal for procreative sex, when and if you choose to have children at some point in the future. Focus on anal for everything else—pleasure, arousal, intimacy, bonding. It’s better for all forms of recreative sex.

Message: I Hate My Vagina

Anonymous: I love love love your blog and loved your blogs on Tumblr when you were there. I’m 28, and a vaginal virgin by choice since I was 16 when I first had sex. I have never liked my vagina or vaginal sex, and always been turned off by it and wished I didn’t even have it. I’ve always played with my ass, and barely even tried playing with my cunt after I did it a few times and hated everything about it. It just feels gross and wrong to me and turns me off immediately.

So instead I’ve been putting things up my ass as long as I can remember and having anal sex only for the last 12 years and I plan to never have vaginal sex. The idea of being anal only forever and keep my cunt totally unused and untouched makes me really happy and so that’s my goal. I love everything about anal and nothing about vaginal. I do it all—ass to mouth, permanent clit denial for the last decade, even double anal I love! I’m engaged to a wonderful man who I have amazing anal sex with almost every day and who feels the same way and wants to keep me a vaginal virgin too.

My only hesitation at all is that we want to have children, and while it makes sense that vaginal sex is for getting pregnant and anal sex is for everything else, I just don’t ever want to get fucked in my cunt even for that. I read that some people have been able to get pregnant without having vaginal sex, can you give us some advice on that? I hope to get pregnant but never have to get fucked any way but in my ass. Thank you!

You sound like a wonderful woman and your fiance is a lucky man. Everything you described about yourself is exactly what I would consider an ideal partner in every way.

As for getting pregnant without having vaginal sex, that’s a topic of growing interest among anal only women, and there are multiple women in the anal only community who have success with that goal.

Some have gone to a fertility clinic and undergone in-vitro fertilization treatments in order to achieve that goal. This is a very successful way to go, but also expensive.

Some will have anal sex like normal and then pull out and spread open her vagina to ejaculate inside without penetrating. The use of a speculum or other tool to help hold it open can aid with this, as can certain medical lubricants in the vagina to help his semen penetrate more deeply quickly.

My personal preference is a variation of the above, where anal sex is done normally in a doggy style position but he ejaculates inside and then spreads open your vagina while you push out his semen and it runs down into your vagina. Potentially paired with the above lubricant technique, this can be very effective and is a pure anal technique that involves anal sex to completion. It can take repeat attempts over several months to be successful, but that just means more anal sex to enjoy!

Good luck to the both of you.