Anal sex has long been used as an alternative to preserve one’s vaginal virginity, but as that becomes culturally less important for people, vaginal virginity is becoming a matter of choice and preference instead, with women learning they prefer anal early on and deciding to go with anal as their default from the beginning and never bother with vaginal.
I’ve always known that I wanted to save myself till marriage. I tried anal for the first time at 18 years old, it didn’t hurt like I thought it would. We use lube and it burned and i guess that’s when I started to just use my spit. I’ve gotten better at anal since then and it’s great. I’m still trying to get used to being pounded for a long period of time ❤️
Cassie: Hey, I’ve been wondering lately how I can stay anal only and I wonder if you have any ideas. I’ve never had vaginal sex and I don’t want to, I love anal and being anal only because it’s what I’ve always done and I like how it feels and makes me feel and it’s natural and best for me plus I don’t get pregnant but can have sex all the time still.
But I’ve met some guys lately who have really been pushing me to do vaginal and to lose my virginity and I really don’t want to but I really like the guys too. I’d like to stay with them but do just anal. Is there a good way I can convince them that anal only is better?
Stand up for what you want. If being anal only is what you want, don’t let a guy pressure you into doing something that you don’t want to do. If you want a long term anal only relationship, a guy who wants vaginal from you and doesn’t respect your desires isn’t a guy you want to be in a relationship with anyway.
All relationships have give and take, but it’s also fine to have your own needs and requirements and hard limits, and if being anal only is important to you, it’s perfectly sensible for vaginal sex to be a hard limit in your relationship. Be up front about that with partners and if they respect it, great! If not, there are many other men out there, some of whom will share your same desires and love that you want to be anal only!
At just 12 years old, Devan Merck was diagnosed with a rare condition called Mayer-Rokitansky-Küster-Hauser syndrome, a congenital disorder that affects the reproductive tract. In Merck’s case, she was born without a vaginal canal, cervix and a malformed uterus.
Merck, now 23, underwent a hysterectomy at 13 years old, and later had reconstructive surgery, using tissue grafts to create a “man-made” vagina.
They say that success comes when luck is met with preparation. Devan has all of the former, and none of the latter; if I were lucky enough to be born with a special trait like no-vagina, I’d turn on the camera at 12:01am on my 18th birthday and just watch the money roll in. I don’t think this woman realizes just how profitable her situation is – if you heard there was a video out there of a woman with no vagina having anal sex, wouldn’t you pay half the money in your checking account to see that?
Maria: Hi, i’m Maria, independent woman, 32y old. Just wanted share my opinion why anal was the first and only option for me. Firstly oral sex is something that is not really appealing for me, first when you have oral its not a mutual experience at the same time, one is giver another is receiver. I never liked the idea of oral, so never considered having it. Ok so what’s next? Vaginal, as a women who wants to stay single independent and without family is it the most appealing sort of sex? Not for me, i see to many problems with it. Birth control, condoms, menstruation cycle etc, first time pain and bleeding. Too much to think and worry about, what should be source of joy. So whats left? Right. Anal. While having anal sex, it’s mutual exercise which brings joy to both partners at the same time and you don’t have to care about all the stuff that i mentioned about vaginal sex. Pure freedom. I’ve never tried oral or vaginal and i doubt I will ever try.
Great reasoning for why anal is the best form of sex and vaginal in particular interferes with the purity of anal pleasure and its benefits. Oral sex can be an enjoyable addition to anal, however, and can compliment it, not necessarily as an independent act but as something supplemental. Analingus can provide relaxation and warmup before anal sex, and fellatio during and after can provide additional lubrication, arousal and cleanup for anal. Cunnilingus doesn’t need to be a part of an anal only life and often detracts from it.
EllaV: Hi, I found your site because I was searching for a solution to what I want and I think this might be it. I am a virgin and I really want to stay that way, it’s not because of my family or religion really, just something that I want for myself because I don’t like the idea of vaginal sex or getting pregnant until I’m ready, so I’d like to not have vaginal sex until then which will be a long time. But I also am really horny and have been dating so I would like to have sex, and anal only seems like a good way to do it.
I started fingering myself last week and I like how it feels. How long do I need to practice for until I can try anal sex with my boyfriend? He’s been pushing for sex lately and I want to be able to give it to him but I want it to be safe too!
I agree that it’s a good solution for staying a vaginal virgin and I definitely support the idea of not having vaginal sex outside of reproductive goals and only doing anal and oral otherwise! I think that’s a trend we’re going to be seeing more and more of so that we can start to take control of our lives away from the risk of reproduction through sex and turn sex into something that serves us instead through anal only. Sex is healthy and good and should be done regularly but it shouldn’t be vaginal, it should be anal.
I encourage fingering yourself until you can fit three fingers without it hurting and then get a butt plug around that thickness or a little bigger and work to be able to wear that. From there you could either try a dildo similar size to your boyfriend or just work towards anal together with him at that point if he’s patient and gentle and won’t just push it in.
Also be sure to talk with him about your goal to be anal only and that you want to keep your pussy virgin and unused and make sure that he’s on board with this idea as well. The last thing you want is him not understanding and going for your pussy instead.
Good luck and enjoy! You’re going to love being anal only.
Hello, all!
My name is Ani, I am 23 female.
I am a vaginal virgin, doing oral and anal sex since 18 years old.
I was born in Transcaucasia in one of post-soviet republics, we are christians but we have a tradition that girls must stay virgin till marriage. Losing virginity before marriage causes scandal and shame, especially in small towns and villages. If a girl loses virginity before marriage, many people will point fingers and call her slut. Also we have a tradition when after the wedding night the groom’s mother checks the bed sheet for blood and if there is blood then she gifts a red apple to the bride’s mother.After finishing school I entered a university in Russia and came to Moscow for study. Here I got freedom from parents and traditions, of course I wanted to try sex with men here but after study I needed to return home virgin. I wanted to try blowjob only. In Moscow I met my first man, he was 43, he understood the situation and kindly promised me to keep my virginity. I started sex datings with him and I did only blowjob as i wanted and i liked to do it very much. At the fourth dating he said me that I have a great ass and I must do anal sex, also he said that he prefers anal sex this is why he easily agreed to keep me virgin. I did not want to try anal sex but he insisted. First months I dod not like anal sex at all, it was too hard for me but i did it for his pleasure. However I did not want to break relationship because I felt safety for my virginity and also because he helped me financially. My parents are very poor and they could not send me money for living. After about 2 months of intensive anal sex I began to take in ass much easier. After about 2 months more I began to enjoy anal sex. I do not get anal orgasms but I get high excitation and big pleasure. I get orgasms only from masturbation alone and from eating my pussy in sex, but I do not need to get ograsm every time, I like the process of anal sex more than getting orgasm.
After my first man I met other men and I always looked for men who prefer anal sex. Now I live with my groom, he is my 7th man and he is my first love, we plan to marry this year, and I am still virgin. He loves anal sex more than vaginal, and he highly appreciates that I love it too and that I do anal sex so easily. After marriage I will lose virginity but I have no idea about staying anal only. I do not know because i have never tried vaginal sex, but I am sure that anal sex will be at the first place as big pleasure for both and as birth control.
Vaginal virginity can be a topic of some contention within the anal only lifestyle community at times, with some people very much in favor of women who choose to remain vaginal virgins and only ever have anal sex without ever experiencing vaginal, while others argue that all women should try both before choosing which they prefer. Outlined below are some common arguments from both sides.
What are your views on this subject? Leave a comment sharing your opinion.
Ted: Hi! I’m Ted, a 26yo male VERY MUCH into anal. I knew I wanted anal only after watching my first porn video at 16yo. Thankfully, I’m attractive, with a boyish face that pleases the ladies, so I never had to compromise too much with vaginal or clitoral action. I’m either dating women who are already into anal, or getting women to try it.
My ultimate dream would be to be in a couple with a younger, complete vaginal virgin, who never had her pussy fucked and who barely/never stimulated her pussy at all (no clit/vaginal action), but who’d be available non stop for oral and anal action. Also, I’m into orgasm denial in the sense that to me, the only orgasms a woman should get are those gained naturally from anal.
Months ago, through friends, I met this cute 21 year-old who quickly grew fond of me. We had a few dates, we got closer, and recently, she confessed to me she’s a complete virgin, and she’d love me to teach her what sex is all about.
This is a golden opportunity. She’s beautiful, small, smart, innocent, funny, we have good things in common, she’s just my type of girl. I tried to question her about sex, and apparently, she has next to no experience, even by herself or through porn.
I’d like to know if you have any advice to help me get her into pure anal, no compromise. I’m very afraid to screw up and chase her away, even if she’s so much into me that IMO she could accept a lot.
I thought the better approach, rather than flat out say I prefer anal, would be to suggest anal for contraception, as a first step. I know she doesn’t take the pill, so I could say I can’t stand condoms and I’m scared to penetrate her vaginally. Then if I can get her hooked on anal, or at least be used to it, it’d be easier to go from there.
I’m already planning to use the content you have here, like the super well-made The Dangers of Clit Stimulation, to keep her from pussy action once she’s accepted anal.
What do you think?
I recommend being honest and up front and not trying to manipulate her, just present your case for preferring anal, why you think anal pleasure is so much better than vaginal, and how it can amplify her pleasure to keep things anal only from the start without distracting her pleasure with multiple sources and reducing both rather than focusing just on the one with the most potential for pleasure.
Present the benefits: greater pleasure, more intimacy and trust, and natural birth control. From there, you can talk about how it’s what you’ve always much preferred and how you think it’s really attractive and sexy that she hasn’t had vaginal sex and that you’d like her to try going and staying anal only with you and keeping her pussy virgin.
So I almost messed up last night. I was having sex with my fiance missionary style and aimed a little too high and almost put it in her vagina. She immediately jerked away and I apologised.
She’s a vaginal virgin and its important for us that she remains that way. We went from having oral/outercourse only to anal only, 2 years ago and there have been several instances where I accidentally fuck her vagina in the heat of the moment.
Any advice?
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Anonymous: Firstly I’m a virgin and only done oral. When masturbating I find vaginal penetration painful and not pleasurable compared to anal. Any suggestions on working on anal only by myself and then bringing it up to a future s/o?
Thanks for reaching out! I definitely recommend going anal only and am confident you will find it much more satisfying than vaginal.
A good way to begin is to simply stop vaginal penetration, which it sounds like something that should be easy for you if you find vaginal painful and not pleasurable anyway, and switch your masturbation routine to always include anal penetration, whether with fingers, a butt plug, or a dildo. Working to the point that you can use a life-size dildo regularly will ensure that you’re ready for anal sex when with a partner in the future.
As for bringing it up to a partner, it’s best to just be honest early on in a relationship. If you’re going to have sex soon, tell them that you’re anal only and have no interest in doing vaginal but would love to do anal and oral often. Many guys will be perfectly happy with that. And if someone isn’t, then he won’t be compatible with you anyway and it’s best to learn that early on.
For more information on these topics and others, the Guide to Anal Sex and the Anal Only Lifestyle goes into more detail, but also please feel free to follow up with more questions or updates if you have any!