Kayla: Hi, I’m 19 and just got into my first real relationship with a guy who really wants to have sex. I’ve never been on birth control, and my sisters have had bad luck with hormonal interactions, but I don’t want to get pregnant. My boyfriend suggested we have anal sex instead, and I found this blog about only having anal sex. Can I just go anal only as a way to not get pregnant? Is that actually safe? Is there anything else I need to know?

Yes, going anal only is absolutely a valid and effective way to avoid pregnancy. There’s no risk of pregnancy from anal sex itself, as long as semen doesn’t come into contact with your vagina — including indirectly from hands, toys, or accidental slipping. Many women choose anal only as their exclusive form of sex for exactly this reason, especially when they want to avoid hormonal birth control. It’s an ideal natural form of birth control!

It’s important to be clear with your partner about boundaries, and to use condoms or get tested to avoid risk of STIs, especially in a new relationship. If you stay anal only and keep your limits firm, it can be a safe and empowering way to have sex without risking pregnancy. You’re not alone in this choice — a lot of women find that it’s not just a workaround, but going anal only is something that they genuinely prefer.

Felicja: I’ve been following this blog for a while now, and I noticed that the old posts weren’t as anti-vaginal as new ones. I mean you used to allow clitoral or vaginal use, but now you are in favor of ignoring the vagina completely. Even remaining a vaginal virgin for life and getting pregnant without using a vagina is promoted.

Where does this great change come from? What has made anti-pussy radicalism grow in strength? Is this the only way to completely denormalize the use of vaginas and clits among girls?

There’s still a very wide variety of ways people implement anal only in their own life, and whatever works for you is great. But, as the past decade of anal only enthusiasm and advocacy has evolved, more and more people do prefer stricter implementations of anal only: no vaginal penetration at all, and preferably no clit stimulation. And with that growing in popularity, there isn’t much reason to cater to the pussy. Why not strive for the ideal if possible?

I think as more people have tried anal only they’ve learned that pussy just holds them back and moving past it completely causes better pleasure, arousal and enthusiasm for greater anal joy.

Zack: I have a serious question. You said in your blog that there’s a lot of advantages of women keeping their virginity by never having vaginal sex. However, would you recommend to women to never have vaginal sex until the day they die? Or should they loose their vaginal virginity someday? Also are there any advantages to staying a virgin from a woman’s perspective? Thanks

Advantages to remaining a vaginal virgin for life include:

• The pride in being purely anal only and never even once wasting time on vaginal sex, which can be appealing both for women and for their male partners.
• The focused pleasure and arousal through only ever experiencing anal penetration without the distraction of vaginal stimulation. Those who commit to pure anal only often experience much more pleasure from it long-term.
• Ensuring consistent birth control and avoiding unwanted pregnancy by never having vaginal sex. When and if children are wanted, women can get pregnant by their partner ejaculating into their rectum and then pushing out the semen while holding open the vagina. While this can take longer to achieve the same goal, it is possible and does work. Alternatively, the partner can pull out and press against the vagina without penetrating to ejaculate inside.

Ultimately it’s up to each person what they want to achieve, but generally if someone commits to the anal only lifestyle before doing vaginal, it’s rare that they want to try vaginal. If they do, it tends to just push them back to pure anal, so why waste the time and lose the beauty of pure vaginal virginity?

Monique: Recently I’ve been exploring my sexuality and I’ve discovered that I’m highly interested in anal stimulation. I know this might sound surprising, considering I’ve never had any kind of sexual intercourse, vaginal or anal, and I’ve only engaged in self-pleasure through anal stimulation with my fingers and toys never with another person.

My curiosity about anal arose when some of my female friends discussed having anal sex with their boyfriends as a way to remain virgins and avoid unwanted pregnancies. I was secretly fascinated by the idea, but more importantly, I discovered that when I explored myself, I genuinely enjoyed and preferred anal stimulation to vaginal. It’s a sensation that feels uniquely satisfying to me and since then I’ve abandoned any vaginal play.

I’m writing to ask if I might be part of the “Anal Only” community, even though I’ve never had any anal intercourse with another person. I hope you can help me make sense of my own desires and preferences. Am I part of this community, or is there a more appropriate term or category that fits my situation?

You absolutely are anal only! You haven’t had sex, but you choose to focus all your sexual stimulation/masturbation on anal only and that certainly counts. Consider yourself a proud member of the community and lifestyle.

I hope that when/if you choose to have sex with a partner in the future, you continue your anal only commitment.

AnalOnlyMom: When my daughter first shared her decision to engage the Anal Only lifestyle while choosing to remain a vaginal virgin, my initial reaction was a mix of concern and curiosity. As a mother, my instinct is always to protect and guide, but I’ve learned that supporting her means respecting her autonomy and choices, even if they are different from what I might have expected or chosen for myself. She’s an adult now, and I admire her confidence in making a choice that aligns with her personal values and desires.

As I listened to her explain her decision, I couldn’t help but reflect on my own experiences and choices. I realized that her decision had sparked a curiosity in me—one I hadn’t anticipated. I found myself wondering about the motivations behind her choice and the experiences she might be having. It wasn’t just about the specifics of her sexual activities but also about the underlying reasons and feelings she had.

Her choice led me to think about my own perceptions and experiences with sexuality. I started to explore the idea of what it would mean for me to consider something similar. Not that I’m planning to make any drastic changes in my life, but her choice made me more introspective about my own desires and boundaries. It’s fascinating how learning about someone else’s journey can prompt a deeper exploration of our own.

Supporting my daughter has also opened up a space for us to have more honest and open conversations about sex and intimacy. We talk about her experiences and the reasons behind her choices, and through these conversations, I’ve come to appreciate her decision even more. It’s helped me realize that being open to new ideas and perspectives, even those that challenge my own, can lead to a greater understanding of both my daughter and myself.

Thanks for sharing! I think it’s great that you were able to reflect and get inspired to consider anal only in your own life based on her decision and explanation. You say you aren’t planning to make drastic changes but also that you’re considering AO for yourself. I highly encourage embracing anal only and making the transition as soon as you can—at least to try it at first, before committing long term if you enjoy it! Is there anything holding you back?

Jasmine: As a young Muslim woman from Pakistan, I grew up with the strict expectation of remaining a virgin until entering into an arranged marriage. The values instilled in me by my family and community placed a significant emphasis on maintaining my virginity as a symbol of purity and honor. However, my life took an unexpected turn when I emigrated to a western country on a student visa to study medicine. It was in this new environment, surrounded by different cultures and perspectives, that I met my roommate’s brother, who is non-Muslim. Our connection was immediate and deep, challenging many of the traditions and expectations I had grown up with. Within a few months of knowing each other we’d fallen in love.

Our first sexual experience was a significant and transformative moment for me. After much thought and consideration, I requested that we engage in anal sex to preserve my vaginal virginity, which is of supreme importance to me due to my cultural and religious beliefs. Despite my nervousness, I was also filled with excitement and curiosity. He was incredibly understanding and patient, taking exceptional care to ensure my comfort and pleasure throughout the experience. He approached our intimacy with tenderness and respect, making me feel safe and cherished. This careful and loving approach allowed me to fully embrace our relationship, marking the beginning of a profound and intimate connection.

For the past four years, he and I have maintained a secret but highly pleasurable anal-only relationship. This unique aspect of our intimacy has allowed us to explore and express our love in ways that honor my commitment to preserving my virginity. Together, we chose several intimate chastity piercings as a symbol of our commitment and a way to ensure my virginity remained intact. These piercings represent not only our love but also our shared understanding and respect for my cultural and personal boundaries. Over time, we have ventured into various other sexual activities, such as ass to mouth, golden showers, and the regular daily wearing of a butt plug. Each of these experiences has been deeply fulfilling, enhancing our bond and strengthening our intimacy in ways I had never imagined possible.

Throughout our relationship, I have come to realize that I never want to have vaginal sex, a sentiment that he shares. Our mutual respect for each other’s desires and boundaries has created a deeply fulfilling and loving partnership. His unwavering support and understanding have made me feel valued and respected, reinforcing my decision to preserve my virginity while still experiencing profound intimacy. As I near the completion of my studies, my hope is to stay here and marry him, embracing our unique love story and the deep connection we share. Our relationship has not only defied cultural norms but has also strengthened my sense of self and my ability to navigate the complexities of love and tradition.

I will always be proud to be an Anal Only vaginal virgin.

So wonderful to hear that you were able to find a partner who supported your desire to preserve your vaginal virginity and focus on anal only, and has celebrates your commitment with piercings and more! It sounds like you have a wonderful relationship and sex life and I wholeheartedly support your decision to never have vaginal sex and stay an anal only vaginal virgin for life!

How do you handle clitoral stimulation along with your anal only life? Is it something you include or do you keep it off limits as well?

Do you see yourself adopting any additional activities beyond ass to mouth, piss play and butt plugging as you continue to progress in your anal only lifestyle?

Linda: I’ve been Anal Only for seven years now and Double Anal Only for just over one year, with occasional triple anal.

I’ve been an advocate for the AO lifestyle and successfully encouraged many other women and girls to become Anal Only and beyond.

One of my close friends, who is on her own AO journey, has a daughter who has asked me a lot about anal sex and being Anal Only as a woman. She’s still a virgin in every sense and is aware of the special status of vaginal virgins in our lifestyle and community.

One of the questions she has asked me, that I didn’t have an answer for, is it possible to perform artificial insemination on a vaginal virgin so they can get pregnant without vaginal penetration?

Good to hear from you again! It’s great that you’re still double anal only and advocating anal only (and hopefully double anal only!) to others, as well as helping to preserve vaginal virginity as much as possible!

It certainly is possible to achieve pregnancy without vaginal penetration, and there are a few options, ranging from full on IVF, pulling out and holding the penis at the entrance of the vagina to ejaculate inside, ejaculating into the rectum and holding the vagina open while pushing out the ejaculate, using something like a turkey baster to transfer ejaculate from the rectum to the vagina, etc. More information can be found on our Guide to Anal Only Pregnancy.

Hope to hear more from you soon!

Claire: Hello, I have a question for you, but first I have to explain my background.

I met my first boyfriend nearly five years ago in college. I had a crush on him, he felt it, and dated me for a very long time. At first, I thought it was sweet of him to take so long before making a sexual move, but then I became worried that he wouldn’t be that much into me. I told him about it, then he looked very serious, and announced he had something important to tell me.

I imagined all sorts of stuff, and then he said he really loved me and wanted to start a relationship with me, but he only enjoyed anal sex, and not only that, but he didn’t want his partner to have any sort of genital stimulation of any kind at all, ever. He knew I was a virgin (I’m younger than him), and he promised that if I was OK with this, he would use his experience to be very caring and careful that I enjoyed it too.

I was very surprised, but mostly felt relief because I expected horrible things that would cancel our relationship. I thought I could try anal sex, and if it didn’t go well, we could always break up. Besides, I didn’t know anything about contraception, so it was something less to care about.

It went very well: he first taught me how to do blowjobs and how to clean up my ass, and he stimulated me more and more slowly so that I was comfortable when he finally took me. It didn’t hurt at all and I enjoyed it right away. It lasted about two years, then he asked if I wanted to move to his apartment, I did, and we stayed together two more years and a half.

When I moved in, our sex frequency heightened up dramatically and I had trouble following that, I told him about it and expected him to slow down, but instead he gifted me a butt plug, asking me to try to wear it as often as possible: it was supposed to make it easier for me to take his cock more frequently and to increase my pleasure. I was doubtful about it but did it anyway, and he was right, things went really well.

The next logical step was to get engaged and I know it was his intention, then his job required him to move to another city, but I still had to stay for my studies. He tried to get me to move with him, but I thought it was an opportunity to gather my own experience: he was the only man I ever knew, and I wanted to build my own journey for a while before getting married. He was sad about it but understood my point of view, and we’re still planning to get back together later.

So, now, my question is: how do you people meet? I didn’t realize it right away because it had become so natural to me, but most people don’t do exclusive anal sex, and I have no intention of changing this aspect of my sexuality.

Thanks for the question and for sharing your story! It sounds like you had a great introduction to anal only and I don’t blame you for not wanting to stop being anal only.

As for meeting people, it’s rare to find a central place that works reliably for finding a partner based on sexual preferences. Date like you normally would but it feels natural for sex to come up as a topic, be up front from the start, and accept that maybe not everyone will be into it but there will be many more guys who love the idea.

For more information, check out the section in our guide on Anal Only Dating!

There’s a revolution happening in bedrooms around the world—a shift from traditional sexual norms that’s empowering women in a completely unique way. It’s the fusion of two concepts: the anal only lifestyle and a commitment to lifelong vaginal virginity. This unconventional pairing offers a fresh perspective on female sexuality, allowing women to explore their bodies while preserving a significant part of their physical identity. This combination is not only appealing but potentially game-changing.

The anal only lifestyle is about more than just physical pleasure. It’s about redefining sexual norms and taking control of your body. It’s about taking the path less trodden, and for women, it’s about going straight to anal from the first time they explore their bodies, embracing a lifestyle that is uniquely pleasurable and deeply personal.

Now, why would a woman choose this path? The first reason is empowerment. Choosing to engage solely in anal sex and preserve vaginal virginity is an expression of control over one’s body. It is a deliberate decision to break free from traditional expectations of sexuality and rewrite one’s sexual narrative. In a world where women’s bodies are often the subject of societal scrutiny and control, this choice represents a reclaiming of power.

This choice also disrupts the conventional focus on vaginal penetration as the primary source of pleasure for women. Anal sex can offer unique, intense pleasure—an entirely different sensation that many women find far more satisfying. It’s not a ‘second-best’ option, but a legitimate and fulfilling primary means of sexual enjoyment.

Moreover, preserving vaginal virginity while engaging in the anal only lifestyle is a potent symbol of autonomy. It’s a personal declaration of the value placed on virginity, which has often been defined and controlled by societal expectations. This lifestyle choice is a woman asserting that she can be sexually active and maintain her vaginal virginity, a decision that is hers to make and hers alone.

When it comes to the practicalities of sexual enjoyment and satisfaction, the anal only lifestyle delivers. Multiple orgasms are a reality for many women, and the feeling of fullness experienced through anal penetration is different but equally gratifying when compared to vaginal sex. The anal only lifestyle celebrates this unique pleasure and encourages women to explore and indulge in it.

Finally, there’s the distinct sense of shared adventure that comes with embracing the anal only lifestyle. The world of anal pleasure requires patience, trust, and open communication between partners, which can lead to a deeper level of intimacy.

So if you’re a vaginal virgin, don’t waste the gift that you have. Take the chance you are given and commit to staying a vaginal virgin and going pure anal only.

We hope you found this post insightful and inspiring. Your journey and experiences are unique, and we’d love to hear about them. Are you living the anal only lifestyle? Are you curious to explore it? Have you experienced something extraordinary, faced challenges, or discovered personal insights you’d like to share? If so, we invite you to share your story with us.

Liz94: I grew up in the LDS church with a strong belief in saving myself for marriage and preserving my virginity. So when I first heard about the anal only lifestyle, I was intrigued by the idea of maintaining my vaginal virginity while still having fulfilling sexual experiences. I never imagined that I would end up fully embracing the lifestyle, but that’s exactly what happened.

When I first started experimenting with anal sex, it was simply a way to preserve my virginity and satisfy my sexual desires. But as I learned more about the lifestyle, I discovered that there was so much more to it. The focus on anal pleasure, the deeper connection with my partner, and the increased intimacy all had a profound impact on me.

I soon realized that this was more than just a temporary solution; it was a way of life. After leaving the Mormon church, I was faced with the question of whether to continue with the anal only lifestyle or not. But after much thought and consideration, I decided to embrace it fully. The benefits of anal sex, both physically and emotionally, far outweighed any societal norms or expectations.

I was finally able to fully embrace my sexuality and enjoy the deep pleasure that comes with anal sex. I’m now a firm believer in the anal only lifestyle and I’ve never looked back. It’s been a journey filled with growth, self-discovery, and amazing sexual experiences. And I’m so grateful for this blog for providing a supportive community and a wealth of information to help me along the way.