Category: Anal Myths

This category contains posts that discuss common myths. For more information, see our list of Common Myths & Fears About Anal Sex and Long-term Health.


Redefining Sex as Anal Only

In the 2020s, it’s become very clear that reproduction is the least desired outcome of sexual activity for most people, and while some may eventually want children, people want sex younger and younger and without the risk of pregnancy. Add the side-effects, risks and legal threats to birth control and we’re solidly in a time and place where even considering vaginal intercourse to be sex doesn’t make sense anymore.

Anal sex has been stigmatized for far too long, with many people viewing it as dirty, immoral, or unnatural. However, this could not be further from the truth. Anal sex is a natural and healthy form of sexual activity that can provide a level of pleasure and intimacy that is not found in vaginal sex. Furthermore, it eliminates the risk of unwanted pregnancy which is more and more important these days.

For centuries, women have been expected to get pregnant and give birth, engaging in vaginal sex as their primary form of sexual activity because this is seen as the correct way when reproduction is the goal, even if it is not something they personally enjoy or want to do. This expectation is not only unfair, it’s also limiting—women have the right to their own bodies and to make their own choices about what they do with them.

There is a lack of education and understanding about the potential pleasure and intimacy that can be found in anal sex. Many people view anal sex as painful and uncomfortable, but with proper communication, consent, and preparation, this is not the case. In fact, anal sex can provide a unique and intense pleasure that is not found in vaginal sex, and it shifts the focus of sex to pleasure rather than reproduction, giving women both sexual and reproductive freedom compared to vaginal sex.

People rarely have sex to get pregnant, so it’s time to stop thinking of vaginal as sex. Sex is about pleasure and intimacy. When we say “sex”, let’s think of anal instead.

Message: On the Subject of Words

Marc C: I think there needs to be discourse on the selection of words, specifically in regards to anal sex. At the current time the English language is deficient in this area. We have plenty of euphemisms (“hershey highway”, “going in the back door”, etc), clinical descriptors (anal sex, sodomy, etc.), and reductive terms (buggery)… you get the idea. What we don’t have is a word that describes “anal sex as a loving intimate interaction”. Maybe you can start a trend and get the conversation going to help find (or define) a work for a true act of specific love.

There are lots of options: anal sex, butt sex, butt fucking, butt love, or for those who are truly committed to the anal only lifestyle, it’s just: sex.

However, what do the readers of this blog think? What are your preferred terms for anal sex?

Reddit: Positive Reception of Anal Only Lifestyle

Unfortunately, there is still a stigma and a lot of prejudice related to anal and people who choose to make it a part of their lifestyle or those who simply prefer it over other types of intercourse. On this sub we have seen a lot of posts from people who have had a bad experience sharing their desires and choices with others.

This post is different though, I want to share some positive situations, and hear your stories too.

Starting off with a simple one but very important for me. I once met a guy, we went on a few dates and eventually things started getting closer to the bedroom. I decided it would be better to just say upfront that I am AO. I expected the worst, but he was very mature and respectful about it. He wasn’t into anal at all, he didn’t even want to try it but at the same time he made me feel accepted. He didn’t try to force or preasure me into doing something I didn’t want, he didn’t mock me or anything, we just had different desires and it was comepletely ok. We still talk from time to time.

Another one happened between me and a female work colegue. She dropped by at my house to collect some documents. I wasn’t prepared for it she called me like 2min before knocking on my door. I asked her to come inside, and from the hallway she could see my kitchen. There was a towel with four freshly cleaned, butt plugs drying out right on my kitchen table. I live alone and hardly ever have unexpected guests so I completely forgot about it. You can imagine how embarrased I was when she noticed it. Fortunately, she just laughed it off and said that she also like it up her butt from time to time. We occasionaly have joke about it but it’s light hearted and we also had few chill conversations about anal where we shared our experiences.

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Article: Lots of People Enjoy Anal Sex — So Why Is There Still So Much Stigma Among Doctors?

Anal sex has always been extremely stigmatized and filled with misconceptions like it’s “dirty,” “gross,” or a sexual experience reserved exclusively for those of a certain sexual orientation. However, these thoughts couldn’t be further from the truth.

Certified sex therapist Aliyah Moore, PhD, says people likely think this way because “women, as natural vulva owners, have always been known to have sexual intercourse in the most conventional way, and that is through their vaginas.” But she also adds that it has to do with the fact that “we live in a culture that continues to associate anal with homosexuality, and where homophobia very much persists.” Thinking this way, however, not only perpetuates a harmful and sex-shame-y narrative, but it could also prevent you from exploring a sexual act that can elicit lots of pleasure.

Some medical professionals aren’t exactly helping combat the stigma, though. The British Medical Journal (BMJ) just published an article meant to call out the stigmatization of anal sex among clinicians and educate people about the health risks associated with anal sex, including “increased rates of fecal incontinence and anal sphincter injury.” The problem is in the reporting, the writers of the study use harmful language themselves that appears to shame those who engage in anal sex.

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Discussion: My Boyfriend Likes Anal More

A woman asks:

My boyfriend said he likes anal with me more than normal intercourse. I know he likes my butt but did he mean that my pussy is too loose?

She gets some ignorant answers advocating for exercise to tighten her vagina, missing the point entirely that many men just prefer anal and don’t want vaginal whether it’s tight or not. Fortunately, one such man follows up:

As a fellow sodomite, some of us just prefer anal sex. For me, it’s about the dominance and how good it feels. Her vagina is nice and snug and I enjoy vaginal sex but anal is where it’s at for me.

It sounds like the conversation needs input from more anal only men and women.

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Reddit: Is Anal Only Bad For Your Anus Health in the Long Term?

I’m really interested in trying anal. I bought myself a butt plug and I’ve used it and dildos anally before. I really want to try anal with my boyfriend.

The other day we were talking about a couple he knew in college who were doing anal all the time because the girl wanted to avoid PIV for religious reasons. Then he said how terrible of an idea it is because if you do it regularly you can face problems like incontinence in the future.

I thought things like that only happen if you’re doing something wrong or you’re doing something rougher/deeper than normal anal sex. Anyone care to shed some light on this? Interested in seeing some research on this, as well as personal anecdotes.

I really want to try anal with him but I get the feeling we need to talk about it more first, especially the things that are likely or unlikely to happen.

Multiple people respond with good personal experience reassuring the original poster that anal is perfectly safe when done properly.

My gf has been anal only for 5 years now… No problems. If anything it’s the opposite.

She says she has the most satisfying poops after sex, almost an orgasm in themselves.

And she feels bloated now if she doesn’t have regular anal.

I think it’s the same as asking is it dangerous for your legs to take a hike. Your body tells you when to take a brake and at the end you maybe are a little sore if you’re not used to walking long distances. But your body heals quickly and you get less soreness if you do training. If you are an athlete though, who hikes every day and ignores pain you will have issues eventually. The body adapts and gets used to things. So, doing anal more frequently is actually better imho because your ass gets used to it (no doctor, just from my experience). I’d say the worst thing you can do is never do any anal for 6 months and then do one full day of double anal pounding.

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Message: PSA To Women-Focused Blogs/Content Creators

Anonymous: I don’t trust people who claim to be sex-positive yet they got angry and point a finger at a woman who did harmless stuffs, minding her own business, such as preferring anal sex. The stereotypes and perceptions they perpetuate pushes back women who are curious and want to learn about anal sex with a positive mind, and the toxic cycle will keep going and will fuck up people’s mindset if you guys keep saying harmful stuffs to women. This is why I get red flags from feminist blogs/content creators who spread misinformation of anal sex and even say harmful stuffs and it’s a slap to my face as a woman who strongly prefers anal sex for reasons. I really do hope they learn the right information and education about anal sex, including willing to hear and amplify the voices of women who prefer anal, and listen to their experiences. If you think women are not capable of enjoying anal sex because of of her man or any assumptions that are straight up red flags, you genuinely don’t support that women can like different stuffs and have preferences. Women liking anal should not bother people, there is nothing wrong with enjoying anal sex.

Well said! Women can and do absolutely love and prefer anal and people need to stop claiming that they don’t or that it’s just men exploiting them and they only think they like it. The reality is that most women get more pleasure and arousal from anal than from vaginal or clitoral and it’s time the world accepted and respected that. Less than 1/3 of women orgasm from vaginal sex and yet we somehow think vaginal is normal when anal can provide orgasms far more easily than that without the side effects of clit stimulation?

If You Haven’t Tried Ass To Mouth, Here’s Why You Should

Even among the more experienced anal lovers and anal only enthusiasts there are those who are hesitant to try performing oral sex after anal sex. As such, there are many who miss out on the joys and benefits of doing ass to mouth!

Common concerns include fears that it is unhygienic and unsafe, or that it’s unpleasant and will taste bad. However, so long as you take basic precautions to have clean anal sex and only perform it on partners who have penetrated yourself, there are few health or safety concerns. Similarly, most people who do it find that it actually tastes really nice when clean and genuinely enjoy doing it.

Ass to Mouth is Sexy and Fun!

For many people, the appeal of ass to mouth is that it really turns them and their partner on. Part of that can be due to its perception as something that not as many people do, while another aspect is the general appeal of sexual openness and open-mindedness, where someone willing to put their partner’s penis in their mouth after it’s been in their anus becomes more attractive and appealing as a result.

A lot of women who start doing it say that it makes them feel sexier and turn them on, so it’s not just about pleasing your partner—it can be lots of fun for you too!

It Can Taste Great Too!

The taste and flavor, despite what one might expect, is actually very good if you’re clean. It can have an earthy and sweet taste to it, and women who do it regularly find themselves getting addicted to it, not just to the sexy and slutty act, but to the flavor itself.

It Boosts Intimacy Further

Anal and going anal only already relies heavily on trust and results in significant increases of sexual intimacy as a result, and ass to mouth just takes that a step further, with a very open expression of acceptance of one’s own body and of each other as you share even further by adding oral after anal into the mix.

Article: Moms Are Confessing About “Butt Stuff”

For some moms, anal sex is still a big ol’ mystery they might be ready to solve…and for others, well, they’re pros

No matter how you like your salad tossed, there’s a mom out there who’s done it and is ready to help anyone who’s curious about…”butt stuff.” Anal sex and foreplay are a very common part of the bedroom scene for many couples — and sometimes, you don’t even need a partner to enjoy it!

Some moms are very into it — these are the pros. The people who know exactly how to utilize their rear in the right way. Some moms are more novice and are just exploring their own curiosity about what you do, how far you can go, what they like, what’s a big NO, etc.

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Forum: Do You Get Enough From Anal?

Once a girl on social media told me That she enjoy masturbating/playing/fucking/hard-fucking her ass all the day .. and then a question came up in my mind, as the anal has no orgasm ( except the clitoral one ) do you get enough getting your ass fucked ?
Excuse my Bad english and have a healthy anal only Lifestyle

Adoomit.hinner, Anal Only Lifestyle forum

You can, in fact, have pure anal orgasms, and they’re much more powerful for someone who enjoys being penetrated than genital orgasms.

Also, they don’t give you libido crash, you’re still horny even right after an anal orgasm, and anal orgasms last very long, meaning having your ass fucked AFTER an orgasm feels incredibly good, and can lead to other anal orgasms, etc. Which means you can, in fact, fuck your ass all day and have incredible sexual pleasure.

Samy, Anal Only Lifestyle forum

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