Ronald: We’ve been anal only for almost two years and love it, but when my wife’s sister found out, she made it a whole thing and said we were depraved. How do you deal with judgment from family?

Good for you and your wife. Two years of anal only is something to be proud of, and I’m glad to hear you’re both loving it. Keep it up, and don’t look back!

Unfortunately, judgment from family—especially when they don’t understand what anal only really means—isn’t uncommon. People tend to react harshly to things that challenge their assumptions, especially around sex. And when it comes from someone close like a sister, it can feel even more personal.

The truth is, choosing anal only isn’t depraved. It’s healthy, natural, intentional and intimate. You know that, because you’ve been living it for the last two years. It’s about connection, trust, and a shared sense of purpose between two people who know what they want. There’s nothing shameful about that. If anything, it’s something most couples could learn from—setting boundaries, committing to each other’s pleasure, and not just doing what’s expected by default.

When it comes to dealing with judgment, the best approach is calm confidence. You don’t need to argue or justify your choices. You can simply say, “This is what works for us, and we’re happy.” That’s often more disarming than trying to convince someone who’s reacting from a place of discomfort or ignorance.

You don’t owe her any further explanation if you don’t want to discuss it more, but if you’d like her to see your side, try to talk about all the positives and why it’s such a good experience for the both of you. Maybe she’ll back off, or maybe she’ll even become curious and want to learn more or try it herself. Those who are most outspoken against anal often are those who are secretly interested in it.

With some content focusing on encouraging women to maintain their vaginal virginity if they have the choice and go straight to anal only without ever using their pussy, this can lead women who have already had vaginal sex to wonder if there’s a place for them in the anal only lifestyle. And the answer is: of course there is, everyone is welcome in the anal only lifestyle, you just need to commit to going anal only going forward. Anal only isn’t a prize for the untouched. It’s a choice, a commitment, and a mindset—and those are things you can embrace at any point in your journey.

What Matters Is Where You’re Headed

Maybe you’ve had vaginal sex. Maybe it was fine, maybe it wasn’t. Maybe you liked it at the time, or maybe you never did. It doesn’t matter. What matters is what your body and your mind are drawn to now.

Many women find that after discovering anal—real anal, not just a side act—they feel something click. A hunger that’s deeper. A stretch that’s more complete. A connection that’s far more intimate. Suddenly, the idea of going back to vaginal feels not just uninteresting but wrong. And for some, even repellent.

That shift doesn’t invalidate your past. It confirms your future.

A Different Kind of Purity

Pussy-based definitions of purity are outdated and don’t serve you. Anal only creates a new kind of purity—not one about “saving” yourself, but about fully embracing what you really want. It’s not about shame or restriction. It’s about intention. It’s about choosing to give your ass everything, and to give your pussy nothing.

That might mean closing a door you once opened. It might mean gently telling partners that you’ve changed. That from now on, your holes don’t share duties. The ass is for love, for sex, for life. The pussy is off-limits. Not forgotten—just irrelevant.

You’re not late. You’re right on time.

Building a Life on Anal

Being anal only doesn’t require a clean slate—it builds a stronger foundation the moment you decide to start. You plug in. You stop touching yourself vaginally. You start training intentionally. You reshape your identity around your butthole: how it feels, how it serves, how it fulfills you. And you stop apologizing for any of it.

For many, anal only isn’t just about sex. It’s about lifestyle. About discipline, devotion, and connection. About putting the past behind you—literally and figuratively—and letting your butthole lead the way forward.

So if you’re wondering whether you can still be anal only, the answer is simple: if you want to be, you’re already headed in the right direction.

Saurav: Is it safe to have anal sex without condom if both partners are clean and monogamous. How much penis to enter the anus

It certainly is safe: if you’re comfortable having sex with each other without a condom from an STI standpoint, then you can safely have anal without a condom as well, because anal is natural birth control.

As to how deep to penetrate, that depends on the receptive partner and how comfortable they are. As deep as you both want to is fine, so long as it feels good. If going too deep becomes uncomfortable, then don’t go that deep for now, and revisit it later after more practice.

Vaginal sex is, even still, often considered by many to be the default form of sexual intimacy. However, it is not universally enjoyable or even possible for everyone. A variety of medical conditions can make vaginal sex uncomfortable, painful, or even impossible. These include conditions such as vaginismus, endometriosis, pelvic inflammatory disease, and many others. The anal only lifestyle, wherein vaginal sex is set aside in favor of anal sex, provides a feasible and satisfying alternative for those dealing with such health issues.

Before delving into the benefits of the anal only lifestyle, it’s crucial to dispel some misconceptions about anal sex. Contrary to prevalent myths, when performed correctly — that is, with ample preparation, communication, lubrication, and consensual agreement between partners — anal sex can be safe, pleasurable, and free of pain.

For individuals with conditions like vaginismus, which involves involuntary muscle spasms in the pelvic floor muscles that can make vaginal sex extremely painful, the anal only lifestyle can be a lifeline. It offers an avenue for sexual expression and pleasure that avoids triggering the distressing symptoms associated with their condition. Instead of feeling left out or incapable of enjoying sexual activity, adopting the anal only lifestyle can provide a sense of normalcy and fulfillment.

Even for conditions that aren’t directly related to the vagina, such as interstitial cystitis, where sexual activity can trigger discomfort or pain, the anal only lifestyle can provide a solution. By focusing on anal sex, these individuals can enjoy sexual pleasure without the fear of triggering their symptoms.

The anal only lifestyle also offers benefits to those experiencing menopausal symptoms, such as vaginal dryness or thinning of vaginal tissues. These changes can make vaginal sex uncomfortable or painful. By adopting the anal only lifestyle, women can continue to enjoy active sex lives without resorting to hormone therapies or other medical interventions.

Furthermore, individuals who have undergone hysterectomies or other gynecological surgeries may find the anal only lifestyle a viable option. This lifestyle allows them to reclaim their sexual lives post-surgery without the need for further medical intervention or risk to their health.

Of course, the anal only lifestyle is not just about avoiding pain or discomfort. It also offers a range of potential pleasures. Many individuals find that anal sex offers a unique and deeply satisfying form of sexual stimulation. In fact, with the right techniques, many people find they can achieve orgasm solely through anal sex.

Adopting the anal only lifestyle is also not without its potential challenges. There’s often a learning curve involved, particularly for those new to anal sex. Patience, communication, and plenty of lubrication are essential. But with time and practice, many individuals find that the rewards far outweigh the initial effort.

Anonymous: I have a question regarding the lifestyle. My girlfriend and I have been together for a few months now and she has recently expressed her preference for anal sex. She says it feels better for her and she would like us to move towards an anal only lifestyle. I have to admit, I am a bit hesitant about this. I have always been used to vaginal sex and the thought of giving that up is a bit hard. Also, I am worried about the pain and discomfort for her with transitioning to only having anal sex. But I also want to make sure that I am giving her the best possible sexual experience. What should I do in this situation? How can I make sure that we both enjoy the experience and make the transition to an anal only lifestyle as smooth as possible?

Thanks for reaching out. It sounds like you’re a lucky guy to have a girlfriend who is so open with what she wants and needs, and who loves and prefers anal.

Have you done anal together yet? It sounds like perhaps not, if you are concerned about it hurting her. If she prefers it, chances are it’s very pleasurable for her and not going to be a problem with pain or discomfort, even if you switch to doing it full time.

As for giving up vaginal, that honestly is going to be a far better experience for both of you in the long run. Anal is more pleasurable and exciting when done well, and the more you do it the better it gets. Plus it’s natural birth control and you don’t have to worry about pregnancy scares with it. Once you’ve been anal only for a few months, you won’t miss vaginal at all and you won’t want to go back to it.

When it comes to sexual activity, the world has long been fixated on vaginal intercourse as the end-all-be-all. But what if there was a way to achieve even greater pleasure, intimacy, and overall well-being? Enter the anal only lifestyle.

There are numerous health benefits of going anal only, from reducing the risk of unwanted pregnancy to preventing certain infections and cancers, the advantages of anal sex are so great it’s a wonder we aren’t all anal only yet.

First and foremost, going anal only eliminates the risk of unwanted pregnancy. With the constant threat of birth control access being limited and the sometimes severe side effects that come with it, choosing anal sex as your primary form of sexual activity eliminates this concern altogether. Furthermore, anal sex reduces the risk of certain infections such as vaginal infections and UTIs, as well as cervical cancer.

Engaging in anal sex also leads to improved muscle tone in the anus, leading to greater control and tighter muscles — a definite plus in the bedroom. Even while you gain more control to relax and loosen for easier and painless sex, you can also gain the ability to tighten and flex your muscles at will, creating wonderful sensations for your partner.

And let’s not forget about the emotional benefits. The trust, communication, and intimacy required for successful anal sex leads to stronger, healthier relationships. It also allows for a greater sense of self-discovery and empowerment as individuals take control of their own sexual desires and pleasure.

Now, I know that the idea of the anal only lifestyle may be met with skepticism or even disgust by some. But it’s important to remember that everyone’s preferences and comfort levels are different. The goal here is not to force anyone into something they’re not comfortable with, but rather to open up a dialogue and educate individuals about the potential benefits of anal sex.

It’s time for us to break free from societal stigmas and taboos surrounding anal sex and start viewing it as a viable, pleasurable option. So, whether you’re a seasoned pro or just dipping your toes into the world of anal sex, consider the anal only lifestyle and all the benefits it has to offer. Trust me, you won’t be disappointed.

In the 2020s, it’s become very clear that reproduction is the least desired outcome of sexual activity for most people, and while some may eventually want children, people want sex younger and younger and without the risk of pregnancy. Add the side-effects, risks and legal threats to birth control and we’re solidly in a time and place where even considering vaginal intercourse to be sex doesn’t make sense anymore.

Anal sex has been stigmatized for far too long, with many people viewing it as dirty, immoral, or unnatural. However, this could not be further from the truth. Anal sex is a natural and healthy form of sexual activity that can provide a level of pleasure and intimacy that is not found in vaginal sex. Furthermore, it eliminates the risk of unwanted pregnancy which is more and more important these days.

For centuries, women have been expected to get pregnant and give birth, engaging in vaginal sex as their primary form of sexual activity because this is seen as the correct way when reproduction is the goal, even if it is not something they personally enjoy or want to do. This expectation is not only unfair, it’s also limiting—women have the right to their own bodies and to make their own choices about what they do with them.

There is a lack of education and understanding about the potential pleasure and intimacy that can be found in anal sex. Many people view anal sex as painful and uncomfortable, but with proper communication, consent, and preparation, this is not the case. In fact, anal sex can provide a unique and intense pleasure that is not found in vaginal sex, and it shifts the focus of sex to pleasure rather than reproduction, giving women both sexual and reproductive freedom compared to vaginal sex.

People rarely have sex to get pregnant, so it’s time to stop thinking of vaginal as sex. Sex is about pleasure and intimacy. When we say “sex”, let’s think of anal instead.

Marc C: I think there needs to be discourse on the selection of words, specifically in regards to anal sex. At the current time the English language is deficient in this area. We have plenty of euphemisms (“hershey highway”, “going in the back door”, etc), clinical descriptors (anal sex, sodomy, etc.), and reductive terms (buggery)… you get the idea. What we don’t have is a word that describes “anal sex as a loving intimate interaction”. Maybe you can start a trend and get the conversation going to help find (or define) a work for a true act of specific love.

There are lots of options: anal sex, butt sex, butt fucking, butt love, or for those who are truly committed to the anal only lifestyle, it’s just: sex.

However, what do the readers of this blog think? What are your preferred terms for anal sex?

Unfortunately, there is still a stigma and a lot of prejudice related to anal and people who choose to make it a part of their lifestyle or those who simply prefer it over other types of intercourse. On this sub we have seen a lot of posts from people who have had a bad experience sharing their desires and choices with others.

This post is different though, I want to share some positive situations, and hear your stories too.

Starting off with a simple one but very important for me. I once met a guy, we went on a few dates and eventually things started getting closer to the bedroom. I decided it would be better to just say upfront that I am AO. I expected the worst, but he was very mature and respectful about it. He wasn’t into anal at all, he didn’t even want to try it but at the same time he made me feel accepted. He didn’t try to force or preasure me into doing something I didn’t want, he didn’t mock me or anything, we just had different desires and it was comepletely ok. We still talk from time to time.

Another one happened between me and a female work colegue. She dropped by at my house to collect some documents. I wasn’t prepared for it she called me like 2min before knocking on my door. I asked her to come inside, and from the hallway she could see my kitchen. There was a towel with four freshly cleaned, butt plugs drying out right on my kitchen table. I live alone and hardly ever have unexpected guests so I completely forgot about it. You can imagine how embarrased I was when she noticed it. Fortunately, she just laughed it off and said that she also like it up her butt from time to time. We occasionaly have joke about it but it’s light hearted and we also had few chill conversations about anal where we shared our experiences.

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Anal sex has always been extremely stigmatized and filled with misconceptions like it’s “dirty,” “gross,” or a sexual experience reserved exclusively for those of a certain sexual orientation. However, these thoughts couldn’t be further from the truth.

Certified sex therapist Aliyah Moore, PhD, says people likely think this way because “women, as natural vulva owners, have always been known to have sexual intercourse in the most conventional way, and that is through their vaginas.” But she also adds that it has to do with the fact that “we live in a culture that continues to associate anal with homosexuality, and where homophobia very much persists.” Thinking this way, however, not only perpetuates a harmful and sex-shame-y narrative, but it could also prevent you from exploring a sexual act that can elicit lots of pleasure.

Some medical professionals aren’t exactly helping combat the stigma, though. The British Medical Journal (BMJ) just published an article meant to call out the stigmatization of anal sex among clinicians and educate people about the health risks associated with anal sex, including “increased rates of fecal incontinence and anal sphincter injury.” The problem is in the reporting, the writers of the study use harmful language themselves that appears to shame those who engage in anal sex.

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