Stephen: I’ve long been interested in anal sex. I realize that the anal only lifestyle is not just about the anal sex part. It’s also about ignoring pussy completely and abandoning the clit ultimately.

Wow, it really feels so good to say. It feels so good to let women’s pussies get ignored..

I’m certain I’m anal only.
I will never fuck a vagina ever again.
I will never touch a clitoris ever again.
I will never use my mouth on any pussy or clit again.
I will stimulate her body through nipple play and never pussy play.

It’s good to admit to yourself who you are and what you need, and embrace that fact with future partners. Live that true anal only life from now on.

Tina: I’ve stopped using my pussy entirely and I love being anal only in theory, but I still haven’t had a full orgasm from anal alone. Should I go back to clit stimulation or keep pushing through?

First off, congratulations on making the commitment! Loving the lifestyle “in theory” is a great start, but we want you to love it in practice, too. What you’re experiencing—the difficulty of reaching a hands-free anal orgasm—is incredibly common during the transition phase.

The reality is, your brain and body have likely been wired for years to associate climax with clitoral stimulation. Retraining those neural pathways takes time, patience, and often a change in technique. Should you go back? Not necessarily. If your goal is to be truly anal only, “pushing through” doesn’t mean depriving yourself of pleasure; it means evolving how you achieve it.

Try these three adjustments before you give up on the goal:

• Instead of total abstinence from clit stimulation, try using it only to get yourself 90% of the way there, then stop and focus entirely on the anal sensation for the finish. This helps your brain start to “transfer” the peak to the new sensation.
• Sometimes an anal orgasm requires a different kind of stimulation than a vaginal one. Experiment with different toy shapes or depths that put pressure in different places.
• The more you stress about the orgasm, the further away it stays. Focus on the feeling of being filled and the intimacy of the act itself. Often, the first anal orgasm happens when you finally stop chasing it.

Stay the course. Stick it out. You won’t regret it.

Anonymous: Hello! Idk if you remember me but I’m still obsessed with anal and anal only since I discovered anal in 2012 and become addicted. I never forget to learn about hygiene, prep, safe practices and etc as well 😜 (I read anal only lifestyle blog frequently since 2019 btw) I remember mentioning that I’m very sex repulsed because it always revolve around vaginal sex and plus it’s too painful to think about it including getting pregnant. However my libido went crazy when it comes to anal and anal is the only healthy drug that is relaxing, soothing, and healing for my mental health and self-esteem. Anal also makes my feet curl and tingle full of pleasure wave. Since then, I’ve used duct tape to shut my front part and focus on training and pleasuring my asshole only. I could feel intense ecstasy filling my body, my lips becoming warm and my whole body heating up every time I masturbate my asshole, it’s like I couldn’t live without anal. I’m not ashamed of being addicted to anal and I wish I can be reincarnated as a different girl, cute and innocent, potentially settling down with someone special. 😀

Great to hear from you again! Your journey is a perfect example of how the anal only lifestyle can be about so much more than just a physical preference, it’s a path to reclaiming your sexuality on your own terms.

Using vaginal chastity to focus entirely on your training is a great option and shows a deep level of dedication to your own pleasure. It’s wonderful that you’ve been able to get so much pleasure from anal and vaginal abandonment and I love that it provides such a healing wave of ecstasy.

Your honesty about using this lifestyle to manage your mental health and self-esteem is something I think a lot of readers will find relatable. Thank you for staying such a dedicated reader for all these years and for sharing your experiences with us!

Gassman87: Lately I’ve heard lots about vaginal dryness in the anal only lifestyle. As a male, it’s so arousing. I wish for all the women I know that everyone becomes vagina free. Nothing is hotter. Even the thought of a woman letting her vagina just go idle and unused in favor of the ass. Do what it takes, just let that pussy disappear.

It’s a wonderful thing to see vaginas adapt to anal only by going dry, losing vaginal arousal, and becoming dormant, I agree. For those who worry about such things, don’t. It’s a sign of your commitment to anal only and it just further cements the long term adoption of pure anal only. Celebrate it!

Michalina: I have been AO since I was 16 when I had my first intercourse. I started my journey because I was afraid of pregnancy and I associated vaginal with pain, which is why I still have my hymen. To be honest, this blog helped me make the decision to remain a vaginal virgin.

Since I was 17, I stopped touching my clitoris. I felt guilty and embarrassed that other girls could only use their anus and completely abandon their vagina, and I wanted to achieve that myself. And I finally did it after many attempts. I remember my first full anal orgasm when I screamed and cried with emotion and happiness. Then I became free of my pussy and clitoris completely.

I admit that despite the temptation and persuasion from other girls, I never had cunnilingus. Instead, I chose rimming and oh my God… the feeling is wonderful. I really wish more girls would try it, because I’m sure that just as anal is better than vaginal, rimming is better than cunnilingus.

But what I’m getting at is that I’m 20 years old today and I’ve noticed for a long time that my vagina is drying up. Slowly, gradually, day after day. I used to have a lot of vaginal fluids coming out of it when I was aroused, but today there is very little. I think my vagina will soon be completely dry.

And I’m a little worried. Is it because my pussy is not being used? Should I be concerned? Should I do something about it? Will a dry vagina be a problem when I want to have children?

Congratulations on choosing to remain a vaginal virgin and go pure anal only, that’s wonderful to hear and something you should be so proud of!

Vaginal dryness is something I hear about pretty frequently from women who have gone strictly anal only, and it makes sense: you are effectively reprogramming your pleasure centers to focus on anal, and your body over time stops producing vaginal lubricant and centers arousal on your anus instead. There isn’t much reason to be concerned about this, especially since you intend to remain anal only. It’s a physical symbol of your commitment to anal only and vaginal abandonment, and I think it’s another worthy milestone to celebrate!

Artificial lubricants can always be used to aid in pregnancy/delivery if needed, after all.

Kasia: I’ve been following this blog for a long time and it’s always been a great motivation for me. I’ve been wondering how to convince more girls to try the AO lifestyle. I’ve come to the conclusion that rimming is what can encourage them to try anal sex.

Many women say that it is the stimulation of the vagina and clitoris with the tongue that gives them the most pleasure and warms them up and prepares them for vaginal sex. Why not try this approach with anal sex? Maybe it’s worth licking the anus of the girl you love, and she’ll be more willing to let you enter her asshole. Take care of her proper hole and in time she will forget about her pussy and clitoris.

I can’t remember the last time I had my vagina and clitoris licked, but I love having my ass licked and kissed like as if it were my second lips. I hope this helps abandon more vaginas and clits in favor of anuses. AO rules!

That’s excellent advice, and rimming as an introduction to anal and regular part of the anal warmup/preparation process is a great way to relax and be ready for penetration. It feels amazing, and more women are admitting to liking it more than cunnilingus, which makes it even easier to consider total vaginal abandonment in favor of anal only.

Mashiro: I always loved anal sex because of its kinky appeal. I found vaginal wrong because my favorite sex pratice is cunnilingus, and its appeal to exclude penetration to make cunnilingus more arousing for me. So when i find the Anal Only community i though im home because combine two things i love: anal penetration and exclusion of vaginal penetration. But with some months i saw many problematic posts about clitoral denial and clitoral exclusion, and using an ideal of more raw and intense orgasms coming from ther girls anus alone. Besides i confess its very arousing idea of pure anal climax, its also a very misoginistic concept encourage a girl to abandon the organ that makes her a girl. The expresion of her womanhood, as the penis is the manhood. I imagine how a man would feel with a community encouraging him to act as his penis doesnt exist. This would be offensive to him. And we dont consider offensive to say the same aboyt women, which is a exemple of misoginy hided in pur minds.

Yes, clit denial is hot. To hold my girlfriend’s hands to prevent her of reach her clit and make she feel pure anal stinulation alone till she explodes in waves of body shaking orgasms coming exclusevly from her excretory hole drives me crazy. But i feel wrong doing this after. Im denying her womanhood core. I feel bad after sex. Im trying to keep doing cunnilingus on her in other moments offside the sex. Major when she comes home from work i greet her with cunnilingus. And ends in itself. One thing doesnt interact to another. When we gonna have sex i put a duct tape over her pussy and clit touch is forbidden. She finds it arousing too. But the posts i have seen here recently about complete clit erasure made me feel bad. And made me think, if this blog is correct and clit must be banned from women sex life, so women body are a mistake? Since nature or God made women with this organ, clitoris exists only to sexual pleasure, if a better sex life involves to erase it, so women a God mistake?! Why would nature make a clitoris if we gonna cut it off and make it useless?!? This disturbs me. I don want to see my girlfriend as a mistake from the nature.

Let’s start with the part that’s causing you the most discomfort: the idea that rejecting the clit and pussy somehow means rejecting the woman. It doesn’t. AO doesn’t say women are wrong. It says that vaginal sex and clitoral stimulation are wrong, or at least that there’s something better.

Nature gave women a clit and vagina, yes—but nature also gave us things we’ve outgrown, replaced, or re-purposed over time. We’ve evolved past plenty of natural defaults in every other area of life. In sex, the AO view is that the ass is simply a better option—for both men and women—when it comes to pleasure, connection, and fulfillment. The fact that the vagina and clit exist doesn’t mean they’re the best choice. They’re just one choice—and we’ve found a better one.

That’s why clit denial or full clit exclusion isn’t about misogyny—it’s about refinement. It’s about focusing your partner’s sexual energy entirely through her ass, helping her experience deeper, more powerful anal orgasms than she ever could while splitting attention between holes or between sensations. It’s about elevating her sexuality, not erasing it.

Your partner enjoying cunnilingus outside of penetrative sex isn’t incompatible with AO—it’s just a different context. But if you both find that her most meaningful, intense, and shared sexual experiences come through her ass alone, then leaning into that isn’t denying her womanhood. It’s choosing the best of what she can be sexually. The woman stays the same—you’re just celebrating her in the way that’s most fulfilling for both of you.

AO isn’t about seeing women as mistakes. It’s about seeing the potential to go beyond the defaults we’ve been handed, to choose something better, and to live it fully. That’s not rejection of the woman—it’s devotion to her at her best.

Most people didn’t grow up knowing anal only was even an option—let alone the better one. For many, it took years of fumbling through unsatisfying or unwanted vaginal experiences before discovering that the ass isn’t just “also” good. It’s the way. But what if that discovery didn’t have to come late? What if we taught anal first?

Rethinking the Default

Right now, vaginal sex is the assumed default for many. It’s what young people are told to expect. It’s what partners are expected to want. And it’s what most women are taught to endure—even if it doesn’t feel right, even if it never really works.

But imagine a different kind of education. One where anal isn’t treated as taboo or “advanced,” but as normal. As the place where penetration belongs from the start. No pussy pressure. No clit obsession. No “just try it once” arguments. Just the calm, confident understanding that the body already gives us everything we need in the ass.

Teaching Girls the Truth from the Beginning

If girls were taught to treat their ass as their only sexual opening, everything would change.

• They’d train their bodies from the start to accept fullness, depth, and stretch where it matters.
• They’d never develop emotional or physiological ties to vaginal contact they don’t actually want.
• They’d grow up knowing that their pleasure, their power, and their place comes from being penetrated only where it feels right.
• They’d have no shame in saying “My pussy’s not for use—ever.”

Instead of unlearning the old ways, they’d be free to build something pure from the beginning.

A New Standard for Boys, Too

This isn’t just about girls. If boys were taught that anal is the only place they should penetrate, their entire mindset would shift. No more chasing pussy out of habit or ego. No more disrespect for boundaries. No more confusion about what a girl’s body is for.

Instead, they’d see the butthole as sacred, worthy, and theirs to stretch, fill, and care for. They’d learn how to train their partners properly. How to share the gift of DAP with other guys. How to admire a gape, and work to stretch it bigger. They’d become anal only men—and that would reshape culture from the root.

From Generation to Lifestyle

This kind of shift doesn’t happen overnight—but it can happen. It starts with women who choose anal only now. Who raise their daughters to follow their example. Who raise sons to seek out buttholes, not vaginas. Who talk openly, train proudly, and plug daily.

And it grows from there. With every girl who skips vaginal sex entirely. With every boy who never develops a taste for pussy. With every couple who shares anal only as their only form of intimacy. A generation is being built—one disciplined, stretched, and devoted butthole at a time.

So What If We Taught This First?

We’d raise girls who never had to recover. We’d raise boys who never had to be corrected. We’d raise lovers who go straight to double anal.

We’d raise a world where anal only isn’t a rebellion—it’s the rule. And that world would be better.

Let’s build it.

Going anal only isn’t just a decision—it’s a process. It takes time, discipline, and the right mindset to fully disconnect from vaginal habits and embrace your butthole as your true sexual center. That transformation doesn’t happen overnight. But with intention and consistency, it can happen faster than you think.

Here’s a proven 90-day timeline to transition into a fully anal only lifestyle—mentally, physically, emotionally, and sexually.

Day 0: Your Decision Point

This is the moment everything changes. You decide: no more pussy. No more fingers, no more clit, no more “exceptions.” You’re not waiting for someone to give you permission. You’re giving it to yourself. From this moment on, your ass is your only sexual access point.

Now the real work begins.

Days 1–30: Detox and Foundation

Goals:

• Cut out all vaginal contact—no exceptions, not even “just touching.”
• Begin daily plug wear for at least 1–2 hours (working up as needed).
• Masturbate anally at least several times a week, including whenever cravings are hard to resist.
• Journal cravings or temptations and how you overcame them.
• Tell your partner (or yourself, if solo) that vaginal sex is no longer on the table.

The first month is about rewiring your brain and your habits. You’re not “depriving” yourself—you’re redirecting. Every urge toward vaginal contact becomes an opportunity to re-center around your ass. Expect resistance. That’s normal. Stay committed.

Support Tip:
Install a small but meaningful ritual—e.g., plugging up when you wake up, or lighting a candle before stretching—to reinforce that this is your new norm.

Days 31–60: Stretch and Surrender

Goals:

• Increase plug size and wear time—aim for a large plug 4–6 hours daily or overnight.
• Continue intentional anal masturbation only—no pussy contact even to climax.
• Replace all porn with anal only content (include double anal porn as often as possible).
• If in a relationship, continue to maintain anal only sex exclusively—no “occasional” pussy slip-ins.

This is the surrender phase. Your ass becomes your comfort, your craving, your release. The plug, toys and cock no longer feels foreign—it feels essential. Vaginal denial is no longer an active struggle. It’s just who you are now.

Support Tip:
Join online communities or forums (like this blog) where anal only is celebrated. Hearing others’ success stories reinforces your own.

Days 61–90: Integration and Identity

Goals:

• Reach full-time plug wear whenever not actively being penetrated.
• Work up to to long-term anal stretching goals, like larger toys or even double anal.
• Commit to long-term anal only, and don’t go back to vaginal just because you’re done with your initial challenge.

By this stage, anal only isn’t something you’re “trying.” It’s who you are. Your body responds differently. Your fantasies shift. Your hole is open, hungry, and fulfilled—and your pussy feels irrelevant, untouched, and sealed in the past.

Support Tip:
Mark Day 90 with a celebration. A full-day plug challenge. A DAP session. A new custom plug. Make it real. You’ve earned it.

Beyond Day 90: Lifelong, Plugged, Proud

Anal only isn’t a challenge—it’s your lifestyle now. You may still face the occasional temptation, but they lose power quickly. The further you get from vaginal contact, the more distant it feels. The more time you spend open, stretched, used and loved through your ass, the more right your body feels.

If you’re just starting this journey: don’t rush. But don’t doubt. The timeline works. Thousands of women have gone from curious to committed in 90 days or less—and never looked back.

Anonymous: I’ve been anal only for a little over five years now. I stopped all vaginal contact gradually at first, and then fully. No penetration, no touching, no clit play. I barely even think about it anymore except to clean and groom it, and when I’m on my period… which is just a negative association, anyway. I stay plugged most days, and anal sex is the only kind of sex I have or want. At this point, my body responds entirely through my butthole. When I’m horny, I feel it there. When I climax, it’s anal only. I don’t miss my pussy. I don’t even consider it.

But recently I caught myself wondering something strange: if I never use my pussy, if I don’t touch it, don’t want it, don’t let others near it, is it still part of my sexual identity as a woman at all? I know it’s technically still there, obviously, but it’s not involved. It feels more like a closed door I never walk through anymore, or a room I’ve boarded up entirely.

I don’t feel broken or ashamed, I feel better than I ever did and more rooted in my identity and preferences. But it still sometimes catches me off guard how irrelevant that whole part of my body feels now. Like it’s disconnected from the rest of my experience. Like it’s no longer mine.

Has anyone else felt this? Does your pussy just stop counting after a while?

Congratulations on five years anal only! At that point, I think most women end up feeling similar. They have a pussy, it’s part of their body, they may like the aesthetics of it and still try to keep it pretty and decorative, but that’s about all the function it serves at this point. They don’t consider it a sexual part of their body at all, beyond aesthetics and perhaps a sign of arousal if it still gets wet (though it often doesn’t always show arousal in that way anymore either). This is a good, natural, healthy part of the long-term transition to anal only and should be celebrated!