Category: Clitoral Denial

This category contains posts talking about clitoral denial, whether advice and reasons for introducing it into one’s sexual routine, stories and accounts of having done so, and questions about why one’s partner may want them to give up their clit. For more information, see our Benefits of Avoiding Clitoral Stimulation During Anal Sex page.

For those interested in denial, you may also want to visit the website Edging Space (formerly female-orgasm-denial on Tumblr).


Discussion: Is It Normal That I Want to Stay a Vaginal Virgin and Do Anal Only?

I’m 20 and I haven’t ever had vaginal sex, but I do anal all the time and I love how it feels so much. I masturbated my ass long before I tried playing with my pussy or clit, and my first boyfriend fucked me in my ass too, which got me hooked on it.

I’ve tried using a toy in my pussy and rubbing my clit to masturbate, but I just don’t like how it feels. Up my ass it’s amazing and I can cum so easily, in my pussy it’s just weird and kind of raw feeling and painful.

Plus I can’t get pregnant with anal, and all the guys love that I always want it up the ass, so I don’t see any reason to lose my pussy virginity. I think it’s a really sexy idea to stay a virgin there and just be a big anal slut until I decide to have kids someday.

Sound reasoning all around from this young woman, and it seems she already knows what she wants and needs and has no real issues with it. Still, she asks the audience of Is It Normal? for their opinion on her lifestyle choice. Unfortunately, the majority of them accuse her of being a guy, mock the idea in one way or another, or make troll comments. There are a few positive comments, but honestly, the most positivity comes from the original poster herself, who defends her position in a few cases, including to the claim that she must enjoy pain if she does anal.

What do you mean?? I don’t like pain, anal doesn’t hurt, it’s my pussy that does when I’ve tried using a dildo in it, that’s why I decided to not have vaginal.

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Message: Giving Up Clit Stimulation In 2019

Anonymous: My anal only new year’s resolution for 2019 is to give up clit stimulation. I’m already anal only. I have been for years. But I really rely on my clit a lot and I think it is holding me back. So this year I want to quit. I’m not going to try to do it all at once immediately, because I tried that before and it never worked for me for more than a few weeks. I’m going to take the whole year to try using it less and hopefully by the end of the year I’ll be clit-free! Wish me luck, everybody!

Thank you for sharing your goal for 2019, and good luck! While clit denial may not always be for everyone, if you’re interested in exploring it or have frustrations with clit stimulation, I highly recommend doing what you’re doing and seeing how it works for you to work on excluding it going forward.

Gradually reducing clit stimulation during anal like you’ve mentioned is a great way to do it. And, while you didn’t say what you do currently, I’d highly suggest not masturbating with your clit at all unless you are also masturbating anally at the same time or having anal sex at the same time. This helps shift that focus over to anal as the primary act and clit stimulation as only a secondary, supplemental act which you can reduce and eliminate over time.

For more information about clit denial, its benefits, and ways to help with the process of excluding clit stimulation, see our Benefits of Avoiding Clitoral Stimulation During Anal Sex guide.

Anal Only New Year 2019

This New Year, Make an Anal Only Resolution. Give up pussy, go anal only, January 1.

The time of new year’s resolutions is upon us, and if you aren’t currently enjoying an anal only lifestyle, consider this your prompt to move on from vaginal sex and go anal only yourself. Starting January 1, 2019, replace all vaginal sex and masturbation with anal instead. Anal is the way of the future, while vaginal is rapidly becoming a thing of the past for many people. Don’t you think it’s time you found out what the anal only lifestyle is all about for yourself?

And if you’re already anal only, this can be a good time to review your current implementation of the anal only lifestyle and see if there’s anything new that you would like to add into the mix, whether it be experimenting with clitoral denial and trying to focus on anal only orgasms, incorporating ass to mouth into your routine, starting to wear a butt plug more regularly for a constant reminder of anal pleasure or just as a practical tool to make frequent anal sex easier, experimenting with chastity devices or piercings, or anything else that appeals to you!

Be sure to check out our brand new Anal Sex Advice & Guide to the Anal Only Lifestyle page for information on introducing anal play and sex into your life, going anal only, and far more! And if you decide to make anal only your new year’s resolution, be sure to leave a comment or send us a message.

Announcing the new Guide to the Anal Only Lifestyle

Merry Christmas! For years, we’ve been answering questions about anal sex and the anal only lifestyle and giving advice to countless people through this blog, and that’s never going to change! But, while manually migrating nearly 1,900 posts off Tumblr to the new version of this blog, it became clear that many of the same questions got answered over and over again over the years.

To prevent redundant posts going forward, we’re happy to announce a new section on this blog, accessible via the Guide link in the menu at the top of each page, Anal Sex Advice & Guide to the Anal Only Lifestyle. Broken into a number of key topics, this page attempts to answer in detail most of the frequently asked questions about anal training, myths about anal sex, hygiene and enemas, types of lubricant, butt plug and dildo recommendations, how to have anal sex for the first time, how to have anal orgasms, how to go anal only and why one might want to do so, dating and finding new partners for an anal only relationship, and more.

More topics will be added in time, and more details will be added to pages as relevant additions come up or are recommended. If you see anything missing or that you believe is incorrect or should be amended, please feel free to send a message or leave a comment on this post and let us know.

Message: Reasons to Stop Non-Anal Stimulation

jeuxdepouvoir: Hi, I’m a gay male but I thought my feedback might be interesting: I actually love your blog, and I must say it changed my sexuality. I’ve always been more of a bottom, but your blog made me go full bottom and ignoring my cock (even when I’m by myself), and I’ve never had so much pleasure and such huge (anal) orgasms. Like for women, those orgasms actually keep me hot all the time, and I’m more available and ready to please. Anyone enjoying being penetrated should stop cock/clitoris stimulation.

Thanks for the message. I totally agree that everyone should at least try switching to purely anal stimulation for a while, ideally at least a few months, to see what benefits it may have for them. It’s not necessarily suitable for everyone, but it can be so enjoyable and beneficial that it’s at least worth a try.

Message: Depressed

So I made it all November with out touching my clit and for some stupid reason I used it and now I feel really depressed ashamed and guilty for using it and now I’m almost completely turned off by sex right now and I need some encouragement and advice like should I just force myself to do anal masturbation and try and get turned on again which I can orgasm from just anal also a vaginal virgin ?any ways please help ?

So it’s actually really common for someone to feel bad or depressed and have a huge arousal crash when giving in to vaginal or clitoral stimulation after a long anal only streak. This likely has to do with a combination of factors, including the breaking of a streak and a long-term goal, and the fact that clitoral orgasms already have arousal-dampening and depressive effects for a lot of women, and so a big one after a long period without them is going to amplify that effect far more.

Don’t feel too bad about it. Try to get yourself back into anal play in the next few days and your arousal will start to grow again. Remember how you felt after a clitoral orgasm the next time you feel like you might want one, and you can use this experience to build an even stronger anal only foundation for the next time around. Expect that it will probably happen again—it can take multiple cycles of building a streak of anal only and then giving in to old habits, but weakening those habits more each time, but it ultimately gets easier with practice.

Would You Go Anal Only For The Rest Of Your Life?

Anonymous: Would you go anal only for the rest of your life!

sillybimbobunny: Uh, duh!

After baby is born, Daddy says we’re going back to strictly anal and oral. I haven’t cum in 121 days, and I’ve nearly forgotten the sensation.

I’m excited and nervous for the day I get locked in chastity with a semi-permanent plug in my ass; I’m addicted to rubbing my stupid useless clit.

(I’ll probably be put on an alternating regimen of numbing spray for when we fuck and IcyHot for when I’m not in use.)

I still edge, but pretty soon I’ll just have to get all my pleasure from Daddy’s cock in my ass and his cum down my throat. I’m still learning. ?

Message: Boyfriend Wants To Take My Pussy’s Virginity, Part 2

Anonymous: I sent a message recently about wether or not I should lose my vaginal virginity to my boyfriend or not and in glad to say we talked and I haven’t! He is completely understanding and more than willing to stick to anal only. We have decided we want to be even more adventurous with our anal play. We already have his friends join us every now and again but i was wondering how to get even more adventurous? What do you recommend? Nothing is too crazy

I’m glad to hear that it worked out and that you were able to communicate your desires to him and he’s understanding that you want to stay an anal only vaginal virgin. That’s great. Communication is key, and is usually the most effective way of resolving such things and figuring out effective compromises. Keep it up!

As for being more adventurous, there are plenty of ways you could do that. Not knowing what you already do, there might be some overlap with existing activities for you, but I’ll list some ideas anyway. Not all may interest you, and while they’re listed in increasing order, they aren’t all necessarily dependent on previous ones.

  • Experiment with clitoral denial and only orgasming from anal, which can have a similar amplification effect on arousal as edging and clitoral/vaginal orgasm denial does for a lot of women. If you like edging, you can actually do anal edging as well, which can be a lot of fun.
  • Start incorporating regular ass to mouth into your routine. This pairs well with group sex with multiple men as they can take turns between your ass and your mouth.
  • Start wearing a butt plug regularly and gradually training your ass for larger toys—plugs, beads, dildos, etc.
  • After working up in size, try double anal. You can try this with toys first, then once you’re confident you’re ready, try it with your boyfriend and a friend of his.
  • Anal fisting and large toy play can be a lot of fun once you’re ready for it.
  • If you’re serious about remaining a vaginal virgin, you can help symbolize this with labia piercings that close off your pussy. This isn’t strictly necessary, of course, but some like the look and the symbolism of doing so. Plenty of women are anal only or vaginal virgins without doing this, though!

Hopefully those give you a few ideas and starting points to choose from. No doubt my followers can also reply and add some ideas of their own. Keep us updated with what you decide to do and how things progress for you! Enjoy!

Message: Finally Able to Orgasm During Anal Masturbation

mcshishi: Not sure if you remember me but I’m the one who complained about not being able to orgasm during anal masturbation, well I’m back and I wanted to say I’ve done it!! I now know what I need to cum from anal masturbation. Finally don’t need my clit to cum in any fashion. Go me haha

Congratulations! That’s wonderful. Do you mind sharing your process in case it helps anyone else get to that same point?

The original poster responded:

Since you asked so nicely I was never a penetrating masturbator, I would vibe my clit or hump a pillow (the clit makes one desperate!!) After my husband I started incorporating anal into our sex life I found I literally couldn’t cum without something in my ass, so I would plug myself, stimulate the clit and be done in 10 mins. Well I started to feel unhappy with depending on my clit to masturbate, at this point I could cum strictly anal on my husbands cock easily. This is when I messaged you

It took time, and accepting that I wasn’t going to cum every time I masturbated, which for a clit addicted woman this is hard to accept! I learned that I needed to allow my solo sessions more time, and to ride the dildo! This way the motion is sooo satisfying and I can play with my nipples while I ride my ass out = heaven! I’ve came several times this way and will never go back to clit stimulation

Thank you for sharing! Nipple play and other stimulation can be a great thing to explore along with anal penetration, and definitely can lead to orgasm and help unlock anal orgasms without the dominance of clitoral stimulation overpowering everything. I’m really glad you were able to figure this out and have no desire to return to your clit ever again.

Message: Thank You For Showing Me Anal Only

Anonymous: Thank you for showing me only anal I have been only anal for about 3 months now and my whole body has changed. When having sex before my nipples were never sensitive or hard, now even thinking about anal my nipples stand up right and are just begging to be played with. My pussy is so useless now my clit doesn’t even get touched all I care about is my nipples and ass

You’re very welcome. I’m glad you were able to discover it and how much you love it, and that this blog and its surrounding community introduced you and so many other people to it. It’s something I’ll miss the most once this blog goes away, the interactions with everyone, and the resulting relative lack of exposure that will come from losing a platform with 150,000 followers and millions more potential Tumblr users who might catch a reblogged post and say “hey, anal only, what’s that? that sounds interesting” and awaken a whole part of their sexuality they had no idea existed.

Thanks so much for sharing and for trying out anal only for yourself. With any luck we’ll find a platform where we can continue this blog and continue introducing more people to the lifestyle.