Category: Anal Sex


Message: A Decade of Anal Only

Jane: Hey there! I’ve been loving the anal only lifestyle for ten amazing years now. I thought I’d share a bit about my journey and what has kept me on this anal-only road, and a little about my slightly unconventional living situation.

A decade ago, my love life felt like a well-worn path, comfortable but pretty predictable. Anal was like a hushed secret, but it piqued my curiosity. I discovered the AOL community and felt like I’d stumbled onto a hidden treasure. So, I decided to take the plunge and, let me tell you, I haven’t regretted it for a moment.

I know a lot of people worry about the “loose anus” thing. Yes, my bum has gotten more flexible over the years, but boy, has it been a fun ride! Our society has this tight-is-right mindset. But bodies are meant to change, adapt, and let’s not forget, experience pleasure! As my anus became more flexible, my sexual experiences escalated to levels I never imagined.

Enter the double anal part of my story. Single anal was awesome, but as my bum got more accommodating, I decided it was time to up the ante. Double anal seemed daunting at first, but with plenty of prep (and a metric ton of lube!), it’s been a source of power, pleasure, and even pride. Today, I wear my “double anal only” badge with a sense of accomplishment, and my newfound bum flexibility has made this exciting journey possible.

As a double anal only woman, I live with two fantastic partners. We share an understanding, a unique bond, and a mutual respect for each other’s pleasure. Living together means navigating the practicalities of life while maintaining the thrill of our sexual dynamic. There’s always open communication, loads of fun, and, of course, plenty of double anal! And yes, every time we have sex, it’s with both of them in my ass together. When only one of them is around, we do oral instead.

For anyone who’s worried about anal only changing your body, remember this: change is growth. It’s about pushing boundaries, exploring new forms of pleasure, and most importantly, embracing every part of yourself. If you’re thinking about starting the anal only journey, dive in! This community is here to offer support, share experiences, and shower understanding. We’re all about acceptance, celebration, and breaking societal norms.

Here’s to another decade of living anal only, challenging norms, and embracing the wild, wonderful, and pleasurable changes. Remember, there’s no shame in pursuing pleasure, no disgrace in body changes, and absolutely no fear in being your true self.

Message: Ex-Mormon Anal Only

Liz94: I grew up in the LDS church with a strong belief in saving myself for marriage and preserving my virginity. So when I first heard about the anal only lifestyle, I was intrigued by the idea of maintaining my vaginal virginity while still having fulfilling sexual experiences. I never imagined that I would end up fully embracing the lifestyle, but that’s exactly what happened.

When I first started experimenting with anal sex, it was simply a way to preserve my virginity and satisfy my sexual desires. But as I learned more about the lifestyle, I discovered that there was so much more to it. The focus on anal pleasure, the deeper connection with my partner, and the increased intimacy all had a profound impact on me.

I soon realized that this was more than just a temporary solution; it was a way of life. After leaving the Mormon church, I was faced with the question of whether to continue with the anal only lifestyle or not. But after much thought and consideration, I decided to embrace it fully. The benefits of anal sex, both physically and emotionally, far outweighed any societal norms or expectations.

I was finally able to fully embrace my sexuality and enjoy the deep pleasure that comes with anal sex. I’m now a firm believer in the anal only lifestyle and I’ve never looked back. It’s been a journey filled with growth, self-discovery, and amazing sexual experiences. And I’m so grateful for this blog for providing a supportive community and a wealth of information to help me along the way.

Message: Girlfriend Wants to Go Anal Only

Anonymous: I have a question regarding the lifestyle. My girlfriend and I have been together for a few months now and she has recently expressed her preference for anal sex. She says it feels better for her and she would like us to move towards an anal only lifestyle. I have to admit, I am a bit hesitant about this. I have always been used to vaginal sex and the thought of giving that up is a bit hard. Also, I am worried about the pain and discomfort for her with transitioning to only having anal sex. But I also want to make sure that I am giving her the best possible sexual experience. What should I do in this situation? How can I make sure that we both enjoy the experience and make the transition to an anal only lifestyle as smooth as possible?

Thanks for reaching out. It sounds like you’re a lucky guy to have a girlfriend who is so open with what she wants and needs, and who loves and prefers anal.

Have you done anal together yet? It sounds like perhaps not, if you are concerned about it hurting her. If she prefers it, chances are it’s very pleasurable for her and not going to be a problem with pain or discomfort, even if you switch to doing it full time.

As for giving up vaginal, that honestly is going to be a far better experience for both of you in the long run. Anal is more pleasurable and exciting when done well, and the more you do it the better it gets. Plus it’s natural birth control and you don’t have to worry about pregnancy scares with it. Once you’ve been anal only for a few months, you won’t miss vaginal at all and you won’t want to go back to it.

The Widespread Health Benefits of Going Anal Only

When it comes to sexual activity, the world has long been fixated on vaginal intercourse as the end-all-be-all. But what if there was a way to achieve even greater pleasure, intimacy, and overall well-being? Enter the anal only lifestyle.

There are numerous health benefits of going anal only, from reducing the risk of unwanted pregnancy to preventing certain infections and cancers, the advantages of anal sex are so great it’s a wonder we aren’t all anal only yet.

First and foremost, going anal only eliminates the risk of unwanted pregnancy. With the constant threat of birth control access being limited and the sometimes severe side effects that come with it, choosing anal sex as your primary form of sexual activity eliminates this concern altogether. Furthermore, anal sex reduces the risk of certain infections such as vaginal infections and UTIs, as well as cervical cancer.

Engaging in anal sex also leads to improved muscle tone in the anus, leading to greater control and tighter muscles — a definite plus in the bedroom. Even while you gain more control to relax and loosen for easier and painless sex, you can also gain the ability to tighten and flex your muscles at will, creating wonderful sensations for your partner.

And let’s not forget about the emotional benefits. The trust, communication, and intimacy required for successful anal sex leads to stronger, healthier relationships. It also allows for a greater sense of self-discovery and empowerment as individuals take control of their own sexual desires and pleasure.

Now, I know that the idea of the anal only lifestyle may be met with skepticism or even disgust by some. But it’s important to remember that everyone’s preferences and comfort levels are different. The goal here is not to force anyone into something they’re not comfortable with, but rather to open up a dialogue and educate individuals about the potential benefits of anal sex.

It’s time for us to break free from societal stigmas and taboos surrounding anal sex and start viewing it as a viable, pleasurable option. So, whether you’re a seasoned pro or just dipping your toes into the world of anal sex, consider the anal only lifestyle and all the benefits it has to offer. Trust me, you won’t be disappointed.

Redefining Sex as Anal Only

In the 2020s, it’s become very clear that reproduction is the least desired outcome of sexual activity for most people, and while some may eventually want children, people want sex younger and younger and without the risk of pregnancy. Add the side-effects, risks and legal threats to birth control and we’re solidly in a time and place where even considering vaginal intercourse to be sex doesn’t make sense anymore.

Anal sex has been stigmatized for far too long, with many people viewing it as dirty, immoral, or unnatural. However, this could not be further from the truth. Anal sex is a natural and healthy form of sexual activity that can provide a level of pleasure and intimacy that is not found in vaginal sex. Furthermore, it eliminates the risk of unwanted pregnancy which is more and more important these days.

For centuries, women have been expected to get pregnant and give birth, engaging in vaginal sex as their primary form of sexual activity because this is seen as the correct way when reproduction is the goal, even if it is not something they personally enjoy or want to do. This expectation is not only unfair, it’s also limiting—women have the right to their own bodies and to make their own choices about what they do with them.

There is a lack of education and understanding about the potential pleasure and intimacy that can be found in anal sex. Many people view anal sex as painful and uncomfortable, but with proper communication, consent, and preparation, this is not the case. In fact, anal sex can provide a unique and intense pleasure that is not found in vaginal sex, and it shifts the focus of sex to pleasure rather than reproduction, giving women both sexual and reproductive freedom compared to vaginal sex.

People rarely have sex to get pregnant, so it’s time to stop thinking of vaginal as sex. Sex is about pleasure and intimacy. When we say “sex”, let’s think of anal instead.

Femininity is Not Defined by Vaginal Sex

In a society that often equates femininity with traditional gender roles and expectations, it can be difficult for women who do not conform to these norms to feel accepted and validated. One such norm is the expectation that women should engage in vaginal sex, and that a woman who chooses not to do so is somehow less feminine or less of a woman. However, the type of sex that a woman chooses to have has no impact on her gender or her femininity, and women who choose to focus on anal sex should not be judged or made to feel less valid for their choices.

Despite the fact that anal sex is a perfectly natural and healthy form of sexual activity, many people still view it as dirty, immoral, or unnatural. This can lead to women who engage in anal sex being viewed as promiscuous or deviant. However, it’s important to remember that everyone’s sexual preferences are different, and that there is no one “right” way to express one’s sexuality.

Women also face a societal expectation that they should be primarily focused on pleasing their male partners. This can lead to women feeling pressure to engage in vaginal sex even if it is not something that they personally enjoy or want to do. However, it’s important to remember that women have the right to their own bodies and to make their own choices about what they do with them. No one has the right to tell a woman what she should or should not do with her body.

The type of sex that a woman chooses to have has no impact on her gender or her femininity. Gender and femininity are complex concepts that cannot be reduced to one’s sexual choices or practices. A woman’s worth and femininity are not defined by her genitals or the type of sex she chooses to engage in.

Reddit: Update on an Anal Only New Year

So this is a follow up from my last post. In summary me and my Boyfriend decided to go anal only for January to celebrate our first new year living together.

Mu biggest concern was cumming, as whilst I’d cum during anal hundreds of times, it was always with clitoral stimulation.

This was definitely an issue at first, and that made the first two weeks quite challenging. Not cumming would leave me feeling unsatisfied and constantly horny. We could fuck 4 or 5 times in a day and I’d still feel horny and feel the need to fuck again. It wasn’t untill a week ago today, on the 13th, that I finally came. Honestly I was so happy and relieved that afterwards I may have cried for quite a while 😅

I was really strict, and didn’t allow myself any flexibility with the rules, and I fell like that paid off in the end.

Now, for the last 4 days I’ve manage to cum every time we fuck, and it’s amazing. Knowing that I will be able to cum means I’m so much more relaxed going into it and therefore it’s easier to climax. It feels like being able to cum from just anal means I’m in control of my body and what I enjoy, regardless of what society tells me I should like.

We kept to our agreement of at least twice a day, but in reality it’s been much more most of the time. When I wasn’t cumming I would be constantly pushing him to fuck again. Now my libido is a bit more back to normal, and we are managing 2-3 times a day, like we used to.

And as for the future, we’ll we were thinking about maybe continuing AO untill valentines day….

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Message: Should I Do Ass To Mouth?

Tess03: Hey, I’ve been anal only for a while now and it’s been amazing but my boyfriend wants me to try ass to mouth and I’m not sure if I’m ready for that or even want to try it. Is it safe and what should I know?

Hey, glad to hear you’ve been enjoying anal only! Ass to mouth, or ATM, can be super fun and enjoyable and a lot of women truly enjoy making it a part of their regular sexual routine. Yes, it may seem daunting at first, but with proper communication, consent, and sanitation, it’s a safe and enjoyable practice to incorporate into your anal only lifestyle.

First off, let’s talk about the physical side of things. It’s always important to properly clean yourself and any toys or partners before and after any anal play to minimize the risk of bacterial transmission. However, the risk is much lower with your own body’s bacteria than with someone else’s anyway.

As for the emotional side of things — the trust and intimacy involved in ass to mouth play can enhance the overall pleasure and connection in a sexual encounter. It’s all about pushing boundaries and discovering new heights of ecstasy.

But, as always, it’s important to remember that everyone’s boundaries and comfort levels are different. If you’re not feeling it, don’t feel pressured to try it. If you’re curious and want to give it a shot, go for it!

Message: Pain When Going AO?

Anonymous: I have always been curious about the Anal Only Lifestyle, but I’m worried about the pain and discomfort that I’ve heard can be associated with anal sex. What can I do to prepare for and minimize pain during anal sex?

Pain and discomfort during anal sex can be a concern for many people, but it is often caused by a lack of preparation and proper technique. There are a few things you can do to prepare for and minimize pain during anal sex:

  1. Start small: Begin with small, thin toys or fingers and gradually work your way up to larger toys or a partner’s penis. This will help your body adjust to the sensation and decrease the risk of pain or discomfort.
  2. Use lubrication: Lubrication is essential for comfortable and enjoyable anal sex. Make sure to use a high-quality lubricant that is specifically formulated for anal sex.
  3. Communicate with your partner: Communication is key when it comes to anal sex. Make sure to talk openly with your partner about your boundaries and any discomfort you may be feeling. This will help them understand what you need to feel comfortable and safe.
  4. Take your time: Anal sex can be rushed, causing discomfort and pain. Make sure to take your time and relax, allowing your body to adjust to the sensation.
  5. Practice good hygiene: Make sure to clean yourself thoroughly before engaging in anal sex to prevent any potential infections.

Remember that everyone’s comfort levels and pain tolerance are different and that it is essential to communicate openly and make sure that all parties are consenting and comfortable with the activity. Additionally, if you aren’t yet experienced with anal sex, you may not quite want to make the transition to anal only unless you have not had any sex yet and want to go straight to being anal only. Take your time and adjust to it.

Forum: AO Makes Sense For Us

After having my son 4 years ago, mine and my husbands sex life has been pretty much non existent.
When we do have sex it’s great but he pulls out every time and that’s always a disappointment, not because I want to get pregnant, I just like the feeling of him cumming inside me.

We aren’t on birth control or use condoms. For various reasons I won’t go into (except for the fact that I have fallen pregnant using these methods), they are not an option and at this point both of us aren’t keen on having tubes tied or a vasectomy even though are are 100% not wanting another kid.

I’m usually at my most aroused near ovulation and so I’m unlikely to initiate or accept a sexual invitation because I’m so paranoid about getting pregnant.
The risk of getting pregnant leaves me so anxious after every sex sesh we’ve had and it’s not worth it anymore.

We’ve had anal a couple of times since son was born and it was awesome. I’m usually always tired and the anal orgasms I have are actually invigorating and make me even more aroused, so even though I’m tired I’m still more likely to engage in sexual intimacy because I have lots of sexual energy.

My husband and I had anal the other night and afterwards he proposed that we just continue to do anal and no longer have pussy sex and it was like a lightbulb moment.

It just makes sense. More sexual energy, zero risk of pregnancy, having a much more frequent and fulfilling sex life.

I have had a fair amount of anal sex in past and it used to be way easier for me but because of the lack of sex, let alone anal I’ve been having since becoming a mom, it’s not as easy as it once was.

So husbands on the job to find some toys to make anal training part of our daily lives as well.

I feel inspired and excited for sex again. It’s been ages since I’ve felt positive about our sex life!

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