Anonymous: I don’t trust people who claim to be sex-positive yet they got angry and point a finger at a woman who did harmless stuffs, minding her own business, such as preferring anal sex. The stereotypes and perceptions they perpetuate pushes back women who are curious and want to learn about anal sex with a positive mind, and the toxic cycle will keep going and will fuck up people’s mindset if you guys keep saying harmful stuffs to women. This is why I get red flags from feminist blogs/content creators who spread misinformation of anal sex and even say harmful stuffs and it’s a slap to my face as a woman who strongly prefers anal sex for reasons. I really do hope they learn the right information and education about anal sex, including willing to hear and amplify the voices of women who prefer anal, and listen to their experiences. If you think women are not capable of enjoying anal sex because of of her man or any assumptions that are straight up red flags, you genuinely don’t support that women can like different stuffs and have preferences. Women liking anal should not bother people, there is nothing wrong with enjoying anal sex.

Well said! Women can and do absolutely love and prefer anal and people need to stop claiming that they don’t or that it’s just men exploiting them and they only think they like it. The reality is that most women get more pleasure and arousal from anal than from vaginal or clitoral and it’s time the world accepted and respected that. Less than 1/3 of women orgasm from vaginal sex and yet we somehow think vaginal is normal when anal can provide orgasms far more easily than that without the side effects of clit stimulation?

EllaV: Hi, I found your site because I was searching for a solution to what I want and I think this might be it. I am a virgin and I really want to stay that way, it’s not because of my family or religion really, just something that I want for myself because I don’t like the idea of vaginal sex or getting pregnant until I’m ready, so I’d like to not have vaginal sex until then which will be a long time. But I also am really horny and have been dating so I would like to have sex, and anal only seems like a good way to do it.

I started fingering myself last week and I like how it feels. How long do I need to practice for until I can try anal sex with my boyfriend? He’s been pushing for sex lately and I want to be able to give it to him but I want it to be safe too!

I agree that it’s a good solution for staying a vaginal virgin and I definitely support the idea of not having vaginal sex outside of reproductive goals and only doing anal and oral otherwise! I think that’s a trend we’re going to be seeing more and more of so that we can start to take control of our lives away from the risk of reproduction through sex and turn sex into something that serves us instead through anal only. Sex is healthy and good and should be done regularly but it shouldn’t be vaginal, it should be anal.

I encourage fingering yourself until you can fit three fingers without it hurting and then get a butt plug around that thickness or a little bigger and work to be able to wear that. From there you could either try a dildo similar size to your boyfriend or just work towards anal together with him at that point if he’s patient and gentle and won’t just push it in.

Also be sure to talk with him about your goal to be anal only and that you want to keep your pussy virgin and unused and make sure that he’s on board with this idea as well. The last thing you want is him not understanding and going for your pussy instead.

Good luck and enjoy! You’re going to love being anal only.

I am not a newbie, but recently I have experienced things I have never seen before. My girl likes to be fucked longer, harder and more all the time. She has been getting really into total pussy denial, i used to be allowed to lick her and spank her pussy but now she wants it absolutely untouched. She is also really insisting on natural lubricants and without her pussy it’s just spit (mine and hers) and she has become totally obsessed with deep-throating ass-to-mouth for extra lube.

I have known girls who love anal above all else. I even knew anal-only girls, but I never experienced something like that. It’s like a manifestation of the anal-only mythology where she always wants more and I get addicted to her ass.

She says she always loved anal but this is the first time she realizes that she wants to have her pussy completely denied, only have her ass licked and fucked and only come from anal or not at all.

Has anybody had such an experience too. Is that happening more often or am I just experiencing something very special?

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Even among the more experienced anal lovers and anal only enthusiasts there are those who are hesitant to try performing oral sex after anal sex. As such, there are many who miss out on the joys and benefits of doing ass to mouth!

Common concerns include fears that it is unhygienic and unsafe, or that it’s unpleasant and will taste bad. However, so long as you take basic precautions to have clean anal sex and only perform it on partners who have penetrated yourself, there are few health or safety concerns. Similarly, most people who do it find that it actually tastes really nice when clean and genuinely enjoy doing it.

Ass to Mouth is Sexy and Fun!

For many people, the appeal of ass to mouth is that it really turns them and their partner on. Part of that can be due to its perception as something that not as many people do, while another aspect is the general appeal of sexual openness and open-mindedness, where someone willing to put their partner’s penis in their mouth after it’s been in their anus becomes more attractive and appealing as a result.

A lot of women who start doing it say that it makes them feel sexier and turn them on, so it’s not just about pleasing your partner—it can be lots of fun for you too!

It Can Taste Great Too!

The taste and flavor, despite what one might expect, is actually very good if you’re clean. It can have an earthy and sweet taste to it, and women who do it regularly find themselves getting addicted to it, not just to the sexy and slutty act, but to the flavor itself.

It Boosts Intimacy Further

Anal and going anal only already relies heavily on trust and results in significant increases of sexual intimacy as a result, and ass to mouth just takes that a step further, with a very open expression of acceptance of one’s own body and of each other as you share even further by adding oral after anal into the mix.

Hi – from Wales, in the UK (until Wales gets independence that is!)

I’m a woman in my late 60’s, bi and have been widowed and then living alone (by choice) for many years now. Life has shown me that I only have loving relationships with other women and since being alone I’ve realised that I don’t want to have another relationship – my life of love was full and I do not seek more…

But – I still have a body which annoys me with its wants, and I did spend several years on the swinging scene – just for physical gratification, nothing more. Out of that I found that my interests and desires were slowly converging towards just one want…

First I found that I just wanted to be fucked by men, with no romantic or emotional content at all – I loved just being taken and used, and coming home wet with their spunk…

In time I realised that I was drawn far more towards anal, and then wanted just that – anything concerned with either vagina or clit just turned me cold…

I can’t quite explain it, but I expect that you all understand – the whole aspect of anal just became the single core of my desires – going out knowing that I was going to give myself to someone – being taken – the enjoyment of being used – and (yes, dangerous, I know) the all-consuming desire to be gifted with a load of hot, wet, live spunk up me, delivered deep into my rear end…. to walk around later knowing that somebody’s sperm was swimming up inside me… (I always tried to keep it inside all night…)

Well, the years have passed and I haven’t been active for quite a while – age hasn’t been kind to me and I’m no longer the desirable young thing that I once was… but when I lie alone in my bed, the craving is still there, to feel some stranger’s cock thrusting up inside me and delivering that wonderfully rewarding load of cum…

Anyway – that’s how I’ve ended up here – too old to do much about it, but hoping to at least find some like-minded souls to talk to, and to just be able to share thoughts that I can’t share with anyone else….

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It’s very primal and taboo. I’m submissive so, I really like how vulnerable I feel when someone wants to fuck my ass. Also, to know that my partner is enjoying the tightness of my asshole brings me even more pleasure. Anal is more intimate, requires more communication and trust, so that brings partners closer together. At least for me but, I don’t have any sort casual sexual or intimate encounters. So my experience may be different from people who are more sexually open.

Limited use of my vagina keeps it tight so, I feel more “pure”. That’s a benefit of anal as well.

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Anonymous: Dear Sir

I wrote to you last June asking for advice on becoming anal only for my Master. First, a huge thank you. Your advice was great and i am officially an anal only slut since April. It feels amazing to say that and my Master is so proud of me. Second, i would like to get your opinion on something. What is your stance on orgasms in the anal only lifestyle? My Master never allowed me to orgasm freely and always made sure i earned it. But since i am anal only it feels wrong to ask for clitoral stimulation (my only way to orgasm). I still want to orgasm but it just does not feel right. Do you have any advice?

Thanks for your guidance and your blog. 

humbly honey 

Thank you for following up! You’re quite welcome, and I’m glad to hear that you have decided to officially go anal only and are loving the experience! Ultimately, that’s what matters most, that you and your partner want it and are happy with it, and if so, then by all means, being anal only is what you should do!

As for orgasms, I’m all for them personally, but each person has their own individual preferences and goals. Excluding clit stimulation can certainly help with amplifying anal pleasure and arousal even further, and if that also works with your dynamic of orgasm denial, then I encourage continuing to explore it further. You may discover that after an extended period of time without clit stimulation, you can start to orgasm from anal penetration on its own!

This is a topic that has been discussed in detail before, but as the community and the world continues to evolve, the primary reasons for anal sex and the anal only lifestyle can evolve along with it. These are some of the common reasons people commonly cite more recently as motivations to be anal only:

Anal is more pleasurable

For some people, it’s as simple as this. They get more pleasure and arousal out of anal sex than they do vaginal, and even if they may still have urges for other sorts of stimulation, they find that sticking with just anal sex amplifies their pleasure and keeps them horny for more sex.

Anal is more dominant/submissive

For others, it may be that anal is less pleasurable but it puts them in a dominant or submissive mindset that amplifies their emotional enjoyment of sex beyond just the physical, and that can overcome less physical sensation, or enjoying it physically less can in fact make them enjoy it as a whole more.

Being anal only subverts societal norms

Some get similar pleasure from both but enjoy the fact that not having vaginal sex and only doing anal is different from societal norms and makes them different in a special way they can share with their partner or even just enjoy on their own. This can come with additional benefits like not needing other forms of birth control, etc.

What are your reasons for being drawn to anal only? Are these representative of you, or is there another reason? Leave a comment sharing your perspective!

For some moms, anal sex is still a big ol’ mystery they might be ready to solve…and for others, well, they’re pros

No matter how you like your salad tossed, there’s a mom out there who’s done it and is ready to help anyone who’s curious about…”butt stuff.” Anal sex and foreplay are a very common part of the bedroom scene for many couples — and sometimes, you don’t even need a partner to enjoy it!

Some moms are very into it — these are the pros. The people who know exactly how to utilize their rear in the right way. Some moms are more novice and are just exploring their own curiosity about what you do, how far you can go, what they like, what’s a big NO, etc.

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Anonymous: When I have anal sex or use a butt plug, it stings and continues to whenever I try anything for a few days. Do you have any suggestions so I can try anal more often without it hurting?

It sounds like you may need to warm up a bit more, starting with lots of lube and gentle massage to gradually work your anus open with fingers, then progressing to a small toy. If it stings, you may be tearing it slightly by going too quickly.

Once you get to where you can use a toy without it stinging, try using it regularly, at least part of each day, and that will help you to stay relaxed and warmed up without risking injury. Even a minor injury can become irritated and last longer if it keeps happening or isn’t allowed to heal, so do what it takes to warm up without pain and you’ll enjoy long term satisfaction of anal sex!