Category: Anal Sex


Announcing Anal Only April 2019

Craving something new? Why not go anal only for a whole month? Challenge yourself to Anal Only April.

This was originally meant to be posted a week earlier to give people more notice, but a scheduling error resulted in missing the original planned date. Apologies, and hope everyone is able to participate anyway!

Yes, it’s that time of the year again! If you’ve been looking for an excuse to try going anal only for yourself, or to bring up the idea with a partner, here’s your chance.

The rules of Anal Only April are simple: starting April 1st, whether on your own or with your significant other, stop all vaginal penetration for sex and masturbation, and replace it with anal instead.

Clitoral stimulation is optional. If you would like to go for a more advanced form of anal only, try doing it without touching your clit and only orgasming through anal. If you need your clit in order to enjoy anal, combine it with anal, but only rub your clit while also masturbating anally.

Oral sex is still allowed and encouraged, especially blowjobs and rimming. Cunnilingus is optional—some choose to exclude it, others still include it but don’t engage in any vaginal penetration as part of it.

Try your best to stick with anal only for the whole month—it’s a long enough period of time that while you might struggle a little bit with it at first, whether adjusting to the frequency of anal sex, or dealing with lingering cravings for vaginal sex or clitoral stimulation, by the end of a month most people figure out what being anal only is really like, and a majority of people who enjoyed their month trial either choose to stay anal only and not go back to vaginal, or return to it again later after a break.

If you’re already anal only, don’t worry— you can still enjoy Anal Only April yourself. Challenge yourself to have anal sex every day of the month, or to start wearing a butt plug or masturbate anally every day, or to experiment with clitoral denial and anal only orgasms if you aren’t already, or to start doing ass to mouth regularly, or to train your ass with bigger toys to be able to do anal fisting or double anal. The possibilities are endless for exploring new things as part of the anal only lifestyle. If you already enjoy double anal, consider trying making April a double anal only month—whether with two partners every time, or with a partner and a dildo, or two dildos.

Over the next week, get your plans in order, get your partner (if any) on board, and if you haven’t had anal sex yet or for a while, start working on training so that by the time Anal Only April begins, you’re ready to dive in!

If you decide to take part, let us know! Share your plans, ask any questions, and keep us updated as you start exploring the anal only lifestyle!

The Benefits of Frequent Butt Plug Wear

For more information about butt plugs and other anal sex toys, see our guide to Butt Plugs & Dildos for Anal Masturbation.


The use of butt plugs among those who regularly practice anal sex is almost ubiquitous, because of the great benefits they offer. Not only are they useful for warming up and relaxing before having sex, they have long term training benefits, feel great, and are just sexy.

You don’t have to just wear them for short periods of time, however! More frequent and longer-term usage of a butt plug can be a great way to advance your anal skills and pairs well with the adoption of the anal only lifestyle.

Frequent Butt Plug Wear Helps to Always Be Ready For Sex

Just as anal masturbation and butt plug wear right before having sex helps to open you up and relax your ass for sex, making the initial penetration easier, wearing a plug more frequently even when not immediately planning on having sex shortly after will help keep you prepared for more spontaneous anal sex. The increase of frequency and duration of anal penetration results in your anal muscles staying warmed up and relaxed in between sessions, and anal sex becomes much easier to do regularly as a result. Additionally, the subtle and often involuntary muscle movements throughout the day as you retain the plug in your ass while moving around helps to not only strengthen your anal muscles, but to also develop more conscious control to be able to relax at will in the future.

Many people have commented on the fact that butt plugs are what made anal sex and the anal only lifestyle possible for them. Struggling at first with the increased frequency of anal is not uncommon when first transitioning to anal only, but wearing even a relatively small butt plug on days between having sex can really help with soreness and continued relaxation so that you don’t lose your training and return to being excessively tight in between having sex.

Staying Plugged During Everyday Life Keeps Your Focus on Anal Pleasure

For someone in the process of going anal only, vaginal or clitoral urges can still linger and try to dominate, and it can be hard to resist giving in to old habits. Wearing a butt plug throughout the day can help with those urges by keeping your attention on your ass and how good it makes you feel and how much you enjoy and prefer being anal only. It reminds you that vaginal and clitoral stimulation aren’t what’s important to you, that only anal is important. It helps you center yourself on your ass and the feeling of being filled anally.

Knowing Your Ass Is Plugged is Your Sexy Little Secret

Wearing a butt plug doesn’t just feel good, it can also make you feel really sexy and slutty, and walking around in public with a plug up your ass is a great way to enjoy your own sexy secret, either on your own or with your partner. Anal only women often comment on how much they enjoy feeling sexy and slutty for their partner, knowing they only take it up the ass and how that makes them special and different from most women. Wearing a butt plug in public has similar effects, and can really turn on and boost the confidence and morale of someone.

For those who are into exhibition, combining a butt plug with a short skirt and a lack of underwear can be an excellent way to show off one’s secret to others, too.

Discussion: Am I crazy to want an anal only relationship?

A user on Reddit asks:

I’m a 28 yr old male interested in a girl my age or younger. By girl I mean an actual female. Im not interested in men who have transitioned to females in any way.

Last few relationships have been good for the most part but the sex hasn’t done it for me tbh. They were open to anal and it was always great when that would happen but I’ve noticed I don’t enjoy vaginal sex as much.

Is it completely unrealistic of me to want an anal only relationship with a girl? I’ve tried to open up about my wants but the topic never went well at all and the relationships went downhill afterwards since after that they noticed I didn’t enjoy vaginal as much.

Is it silly of me to want a girl that’s into the same as me?

It’s more common than people think to be disappointed and disillusioned with vaginal sex. This does not mean that you don’t like women or are gay, it means that you don’t enjoy vaginal sex and (generally) prefer anal sex. Since anal is almost universally better than vaginal when done properly, it’s not surprising that a lot of men find themselves struggling to remain turned on by or to enjoy vaginal in a relationship, especially when it’s what their partner primarily expects.

In those cases, it absolutely makes sense to seek a partner who shares the same preference and either wants primarily anal sex or to be in an anal only relationship. It’s not unrealistic, and it’s not selfish.

Sex may not be the only important thing in a relationship, but sexual compatibility is still a very important part of it, and should be considered. If anal sex is an essential need for you to be sexually satisfied, then you owe it to yourself and to your partners to look for someone who shares or is open to that same preference.

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Message: Starting With Anal Was Easy

Dee: I think you’re right that it’s better to start with anal. I’m not a vaginal virgin anymore (I wish that I was) but I had anal the first time I had sex and didn’t try vaginal for 3 or 4 years after that. My boyfriend was pretty thick and long but because I didn’t know any different and didn’t really have anything to fear about it, I just relaxed really easily and he fit inside no problem from the start. We had anal sex easily and I loved it, it didn’t hurt then and never has hurt for me. My boyfriends have said I’m a natural at anal, but I think it just is a lot easier if that’s how you start and don’t know it’s “supposed” to hurt.

Another boyfriend wanted to do vaginal and pressured me into it, so I did it eventually, but I never liked it as much, and after we broke up (I always resented that he made me do vaginal) I started looking for guys that were happy with just anal and went back to anal only, and now I identify as an anal only girl and know that’s all I want.

Thanks for sharing your story and perspective, that’s been my experience as well, and is one of the reasons I think it’s beneficial for people to go with anal first if they have the choice and forethought to do so.

I’m sorry you were pressured into losing your vaginal virginity. At least now you know definitively that vaginal is not something you want in your life and it helped strengthen your identity as an anal only woman. Sometimes trying vaginal as an anal only virgin, or slipping back temporarily to having vaginal sex after going anal only, even if neither are ideal scenarios, can end up making you realize how much you actually dislike vaginal and how much better anal is and send you right back to the anal only lifestyle stronger than before, uninterested in ever having anything to do with vaginal again. So it’s not all bad always.

The Role of Anal in Sexual Education

There’s a lot that can be improved in sex-ed in general, especially in the United States, but one improvement in particular would be with a greater focus on and inclusion of anal sex.

The reality is that not only is anal a completely legitimate sexual activity on the same level as vaginal and oral, it is and always will be the preference of many people, and of interest to many to try. Without proper education, a majority of people aren’t going to know how to try it properly, and will end up getting turned off by pain or discomfort because they didn’t do things right, and may never want to try it again. If they had been introduced to it properly, chances are they’d recognize it for the enjoyable and even superior sexual activity that it really is and at the very least make it a regular part of their sex life, if not make it their priority going forward.

Going further than just the normalization and equalization of anal sex alongside vaginal, a future goal would be to focus on anal as the new default, teaching its benefits and advantages over vaginal sex and encouraging its adoption as the primary form of non-reproductive sex practiced. This would have great societal benefits, from the near-perfect natural birth control reducing unplanned pregnancies to almost zero, to the fact that sex would become much more satisfying, intimate and mutually enjoyable for everyone.

Discussion: Is Anal Sex More Common Than It Used to Be?

This is what someone on Quora wants to know. They get a few answers suggesting that it isn’t becoming any more common, though one also states that it’s becoming more normalized, which is somewhat contradictory.

This answer is straight and to the point:

Studies show it is becoming increasingly popular, thankfully! It is wonderful when done right.

Ian Morris, Quora

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Message: Seeking Anal Only Relationship

anal lover: Hello, I am a male who loves anal sex and I want to find a female partner that wishes to completely give up pussy and clit pleasure to go anal only. Unfortunately no one I find is into this, is tere a section here where we can find similar mind women?

We do not have a dating or personals section, no. There is an anal only dating server on Discord, but it is not a part of this community.

Most anal only relationships are built over time with someone who is open to trying or enjoys anal sex and gradually you end up having more anal sex out of a mutual desire to do so, until going anal only. Some people in some parts of the world have success with new partners by opening with anal only, but you have to be willing to take the time to get to know a variety of potential partners, take them on a few dates, determine general compatibility, and then open up about anal only and not wanting vaginal sex, while knowing that a significant portion aren’t going to be interested and you’ll have to move on to another potential partner.

Leading with clit denial for a new partner who isn’t experienced with AO is usually going to be a non-starter for a lot of people, as that’s generally a more advanced thing even for people who have been AO for an extended period of time. If someone is experienced with other forms of denial it could be of interest to them, but most women need clit stimulation alongside anal penetration when first starting with anal or transitioning into AO, and then if interested may want to try shifting to just anal pleasure once they see the potential of it first-hand.

Message: Is it Still Anal Only?

Vince: So I’m a guy and would you consider me anal only if I have to use my penis to get to the edge but use anal to get past the edge?

I would say that just as with women, there are multiple ways and variations to being anal only. Fundamentally, an anal only man would use anal penetration as his primary form of sexual activity and pleasure, and wouldn’t use his penis for penetration.

Beyond that, just as with a woman who may or may not use her clit for additional stimulation to orgasm, some men may orgasm directly from anal penetration, while others may need some penis stimulation to help reach orgasm.

The fact that you’re just using it to get to the point where you can use your ass to get over the edge to orgasm suggests that anal only orgasms are your long-term goal and that you’re working to minimize non-anal stimulation, so it sounds like you’re very much in the anal only mindset. Continuing to minimize the use of your penis and keeping it to the bare minimum to orgasm will help you use it even less over time, and maybe even get to the point where you don’t need it at all.

Why It’s Better to Start With Anal than Vaginal

Though there has been a long tradition of women losing their anal virginity before vaginal in order to avoid getting pregnant when other forms of birth control were not available, or to save their vaginal virginity until getting married for religious or other personal reasons, anal as the initial form of sex continues to get increasingly popular, in part because of increased exposure through pornography, articles, and other media, and the resulting lack of stigma and increased curiosity that comes from the exposure and normalization of anal pleasure.

The result is that a growing number of women are being introduced to the nuances and pleasures of anal and its far greater intensity and appeal long before they ever try anything vaginal or build up any connection with that form of stimulation and begin to normalize it over anal. Learning how to enjoy anal first and becoming used to the level of pleasure it provides virtually guarantees a life of preferring anal over vaginal, which benefits everyone and ensures that everyone will be enjoying the best form of sex.

That’s not to say that women who don’t start with anal first won’t end up preferring it as well, it just helps to eliminate some of the biggest hurdles that prevent people from even giving it a serious chance. Many women refuse to even try anal, since vaginal gives them at least some pleasure and it’s easier to just stick with what they know. Even many who enjoy or even admit to preferring anal don’t give up vaginal because they feel they have some obligation to continue doing it. But if you start with anal and learn quickly that none of those myths are true, and have no old vaginal-related habits or ideas to get over, it’s very easy to just focus on what’s best and never waste any time on inferior vaginal penetration or stimulation.

If you have the opportunity to go straight to anal sex without trying vaginal first, take it. If you have friends or acquaintances in that position, encourage the same for them. The less people have vaginal sex, the more everyone wins.

Message: First Anal Orgasm

Anna: So I just wanted to share I had my first anal orgasm and it was so so intense I just twitch and spasmed on my dildo my whole body was shaking and convulsing it was one of the most amazing feelings ever now I just have to keep up not touching my clit I wanna break this bad habit of touching my clit especially after having my first anal orgasm I never wanna go back to vaginal/clit sex hopefully my urge to want to touch my clit will fade away the longer I don’t touch it

Congratulations! The first of many, no doubt. Now that you know it’s possible, I’m sure it will help motivate you to keep having more and avoid using your clit going forward. The more anal orgasms you have, the easier it will get not only to have them, but to stop using your clit, since your ass will be the only orgasm outlet you need at that point.

Remember, though, that with any habit you’re trying to break, it’s to be expected that at some point you might revert to old habits, and it can be easy to feel bad about doing so. That’s a normal part of the process, though, and it’s best to use those bad feelings to reinforce and strengthen breaking the bad habit rather than giving up your goal. If you do end up giving in to clit stimulation down the road, compare how bad you feel after to how good you feel after an anal only orgasm, and dive right back in to clit denial even more than before and work to beat your previous record.

Good luck! Be sure to keep us updated on how it goes for you!