In the 2020s, it’s become very clear that reproduction is the least desired outcome of sexual activity for most people, and while some may eventually want children, people want sex younger and younger and without the risk of pregnancy. Add the side-effects, risks and legal threats to birth control and we’re solidly in a time and place where even considering vaginal intercourse to be sex doesn’t make sense anymore.

Anal sex has been stigmatized for far too long, with many people viewing it as dirty, immoral, or unnatural. However, this could not be further from the truth. Anal sex is a natural and healthy form of sexual activity that can provide a level of pleasure and intimacy that is not found in vaginal sex. Furthermore, it eliminates the risk of unwanted pregnancy which is more and more important these days.

For centuries, women have been expected to get pregnant and give birth, engaging in vaginal sex as their primary form of sexual activity because this is seen as the correct way when reproduction is the goal, even if it is not something they personally enjoy or want to do. This expectation is not only unfair, it’s also limiting—women have the right to their own bodies and to make their own choices about what they do with them.

There is a lack of education and understanding about the potential pleasure and intimacy that can be found in anal sex. Many people view anal sex as painful and uncomfortable, but with proper communication, consent, and preparation, this is not the case. In fact, anal sex can provide a unique and intense pleasure that is not found in vaginal sex, and it shifts the focus of sex to pleasure rather than reproduction, giving women both sexual and reproductive freedom compared to vaginal sex.

People rarely have sex to get pregnant, so it’s time to stop thinking of vaginal as sex. Sex is about pleasure and intimacy. When we say “sex”, let’s think of anal instead.

In a society that often equates femininity with traditional gender roles and expectations, it can be difficult for women who do not conform to these norms to feel accepted and validated. One such norm is the expectation that women should engage in vaginal sex, and that a woman who chooses not to do so is somehow less feminine or less of a woman. However, the type of sex that a woman chooses to have has no impact on her gender or her femininity, and women who choose to focus on anal sex should not be judged or made to feel less valid for their choices.

Despite the fact that anal sex is a perfectly natural and healthy form of sexual activity, many people still view it as dirty, immoral, or unnatural. This can lead to women who engage in anal sex being viewed as promiscuous or deviant. However, it’s important to remember that everyone’s sexual preferences are different, and that there is no one “right” way to express one’s sexuality.

Women also face a societal expectation that they should be primarily focused on pleasing their male partners. This can lead to women feeling pressure to engage in vaginal sex even if it is not something that they personally enjoy or want to do. However, it’s important to remember that women have the right to their own bodies and to make their own choices about what they do with them. No one has the right to tell a woman what she should or should not do with her body.

The type of sex that a woman chooses to have has no impact on her gender or her femininity. Gender and femininity are complex concepts that cannot be reduced to one’s sexual choices or practices. A woman’s worth and femininity are not defined by her genitals or the type of sex she chooses to engage in.

So this is a follow up from my last post. In summary me and my Boyfriend decided to go anal only for January to celebrate our first new year living together.

Mu biggest concern was cumming, as whilst I’d cum during anal hundreds of times, it was always with clitoral stimulation.

This was definitely an issue at first, and that made the first two weeks quite challenging. Not cumming would leave me feeling unsatisfied and constantly horny. We could fuck 4 or 5 times in a day and I’d still feel horny and feel the need to fuck again. It wasn’t untill a week ago today, on the 13th, that I finally came. Honestly I was so happy and relieved that afterwards I may have cried for quite a while 😅

I was really strict, and didn’t allow myself any flexibility with the rules, and I fell like that paid off in the end.

Now, for the last 4 days I’ve manage to cum every time we fuck, and it’s amazing. Knowing that I will be able to cum means I’m so much more relaxed going into it and therefore it’s easier to climax. It feels like being able to cum from just anal means I’m in control of my body and what I enjoy, regardless of what society tells me I should like.

We kept to our agreement of at least twice a day, but in reality it’s been much more most of the time. When I wasn’t cumming I would be constantly pushing him to fuck again. Now my libido is a bit more back to normal, and we are managing 2-3 times a day, like we used to.

And as for the future, we’ll we were thinking about maybe continuing AO untill valentines day….

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Tess03: Hey, I’ve been anal only for a while now and it’s been amazing but my boyfriend wants me to try ass to mouth and I’m not sure if I’m ready for that or even want to try it. Is it safe and what should I know?

Hey, glad to hear you’ve been enjoying anal only! Ass to mouth, or ATM, can be super fun and enjoyable and a lot of women truly enjoy making it a part of their regular sexual routine. Yes, it may seem daunting at first, but with proper communication, consent, and sanitation, it’s a safe and enjoyable practice to incorporate into your anal only lifestyle.

First off, let’s talk about the physical side of things. It’s always important to properly clean yourself and any toys or partners before and after any anal play to minimize the risk of bacterial transmission. However, the risk is much lower with your own body’s bacteria than with someone else’s anyway.

As for the emotional side of things — the trust and intimacy involved in ass to mouth play can enhance the overall pleasure and connection in a sexual encounter. It’s all about pushing boundaries and discovering new heights of ecstasy.

But, as always, it’s important to remember that everyone’s boundaries and comfort levels are different. If you’re not feeling it, don’t feel pressured to try it. If you’re curious and want to give it a shot, go for it!

Anonymous: I have always been curious about the Anal Only Lifestyle, but I’m worried about the pain and discomfort that I’ve heard can be associated with anal sex. What can I do to prepare for and minimize pain during anal sex?

Pain and discomfort during anal sex can be a concern for many people, but it is often caused by a lack of preparation and proper technique. There are a few things you can do to prepare for and minimize pain during anal sex:

1. Start small: Begin with small, thin toys or fingers and gradually work your way up to larger toys or a partner’s penis. This will help your body adjust to the sensation and decrease the risk of pain or discomfort.
2. Use lubrication: Lubrication is essential for comfortable and enjoyable anal sex. Make sure to use a high-quality lubricant that is specifically formulated for anal sex.
3. Communicate with your partner: Communication is key when it comes to anal sex. Make sure to talk openly with your partner about your boundaries and any discomfort you may be feeling. This will help them understand what you need to feel comfortable and safe.
4. Take your time: Anal sex can be rushed, causing discomfort and pain. Make sure to take your time and relax, allowing your body to adjust to the sensation.
5. Practice good hygiene: Make sure to clean yourself thoroughly before engaging in anal sex to prevent any potential infections.

Remember that everyone’s comfort levels and pain tolerance are different and that it is essential to communicate openly and make sure that all parties are consenting and comfortable with the activity. Additionally, if you aren’t yet experienced with anal sex, you may not quite want to make the transition to anal only unless you have not had any sex yet and want to go straight to being anal only. Take your time and adjust to it.

After having my son 4 years ago, mine and my husbands sex life has been pretty much non existent.
When we do have sex it’s great but he pulls out every time and that’s always a disappointment, not because I want to get pregnant, I just like the feeling of him cumming inside me.

We aren’t on birth control or use condoms. For various reasons I won’t go into (except for the fact that I have fallen pregnant using these methods), they are not an option and at this point both of us aren’t keen on having tubes tied or a vasectomy even though are are 100% not wanting another kid.

I’m usually at my most aroused near ovulation and so I’m unlikely to initiate or accept a sexual invitation because I’m so paranoid about getting pregnant.
The risk of getting pregnant leaves me so anxious after every sex sesh we’ve had and it’s not worth it anymore.

We’ve had anal a couple of times since son was born and it was awesome. I’m usually always tired and the anal orgasms I have are actually invigorating and make me even more aroused, so even though I’m tired I’m still more likely to engage in sexual intimacy because I have lots of sexual energy.

My husband and I had anal the other night and afterwards he proposed that we just continue to do anal and no longer have pussy sex and it was like a lightbulb moment.

It just makes sense. More sexual energy, zero risk of pregnancy, having a much more frequent and fulfilling sex life.

I have had a fair amount of anal sex in past and it used to be way easier for me but because of the lack of sex, let alone anal I’ve been having since becoming a mom, it’s not as easy as it once was.

So husbands on the job to find some toys to make anal training part of our daily lives as well.

I feel inspired and excited for sex again. It’s been ages since I’ve felt positive about our sex life!

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Anna: Hello! During the COVID years, I was a student, and like many others, I started an OnlyFans. It worked well beyond my expectations, so I offered to do requests, and most of them were anal. I noticed that my anal videos worked much better than others, so I quickly specialized in anal videos.

When COVID restrictions were lifted, I contacted porn studios, and most of the offers I got were 90% anal at least. Since I was already specialized, to keep my fan base happy, I took the ones that were anal only.

I have a boyfriend, with whom I was already in couple before I did my OnlyFans. He knows about my activity and doesn’t mind, it was then strictly separated: my OnlyFans was 100% anal, but sex with my boyfriend was vanilla vaginal sex, and he didn’t watch my videos, which was perfect for me. I was nervous his attitude would change when I shot with other actors, though, since my boyfriend was eager to watch those videos: wouldn’t he become jealous?

It turns out my porn studio experience went all right, but from the moment he watched those videos, my boyfriend only took me anally. It started right after my first video: he completely ignored my pussy, our sex went 100% anal even orally (he licks my asshole and I do ass to mouth, like in my movies). He watches all my videos, and an actor even told me my boyfriend chatted with him through Twitter, and that my boyfriend is a nice, friendly guy and I’m lucky to have him.

I didn’t expect this at all, my boyfriend never showed any interest in anal previously. Not only that, but our sexual activity greatly increased, which is a lot of anal action for me. It’s not what I have planned at all, but I don’t see how I could refuse to my boyfriend what I give to strangers for money, I’m already relieved that he isn’t jealous and I haven’t lost him, I genuinely love him.

So, I’m a bit lost. I realize I went into anal because men around me like anal, but now it has taken my entire life, it’s been a year and a half now that I only had anal sex both professionally and personally. My boyfriend even gifted me an anal princess plug for my birthday two months ago, and I feel like I have to wear it really often so he doesn’t feel rejected, he even puts it back on after we had sex. What is it with men and anal sex?

Is this something that actually bothers you or do you just wonder why it has happened? I’d encourage viewing it as a positive: it has benefited your career as well as your sex life and resulted in a lot more sex and intimacy between you and your boyfriend, and he clearly loves it and loves you, as do your fans.

The reality is that most men prefer anal, not vaginal, and once they know that they can do anal instead of vaginal that’s going to be the majority if not all of what they want. And anal only girls are one of the biggest turn ons for guys, there’s just something so special and naughty about a girl who chooses to only have sex in the ass and not use her pussy, and men cherish that.

Embrace the anal only lifestyle and don’t worry about your pussy anymore, you can clearly have a far more successful and enjoyable sex life with just your ass and mouth and your fans and boyfriend all love it.

Marc C: I think there needs to be discourse on the selection of words, specifically in regards to anal sex. At the current time the English language is deficient in this area. We have plenty of euphemisms (“hershey highway”, “going in the back door”, etc), clinical descriptors (anal sex, sodomy, etc.), and reductive terms (buggery)… you get the idea. What we don’t have is a word that describes “anal sex as a loving intimate interaction”. Maybe you can start a trend and get the conversation going to help find (or define) a work for a true act of specific love.

There are lots of options: anal sex, butt sex, butt fucking, butt love, or for those who are truly committed to the anal only lifestyle, it’s just: sex.

However, what do the readers of this blog think? What are your preferred terms for anal sex?

A follow up from Ani, a vaginal virgin who shared her experiences in a traditional Russian community and who initially planned to lose her vaginal virginity upon getting married.

So I am again here! I wanted to post after losing virginity and to compare vaginal and anal sex 

Unfortunately it did not happen… Or maybe fortunately??? 

In the wedding night I was too nervous to lose virginity, I was afraid to cry because my parents were sleeping in the next room, so I asked my husband to go anal as usual. Next day we went with my husband for a wedding journey, and there I was again nervous to stain the hotel sheet with my blood, so the hotel workers might see my blood on the sheet. Also I think the main reason to be nervous is that I have been keeping my sweet pussy virgin too long and I have got used to stay virgin. I am not so afraid of pain, my husband is very kind and intelligent and he surely would be gentle unlike those men with whom I started anal sex. I guess it is more a psychological problem, because I have been waiting for this monent several years, but now when the moment has come, I am psychologically afraid of it.
However, I do not need to lose virginity, my husband loves anal sex much more than vaginal, and it is a good way for birth control too, so he does not demand to have vaginal sex at all. Before me he dreamed to meet a girl who at least allows anal sex sometimes, so he is very happy with me doing anal sex every day. Also I like to be “special”

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Samantha: I recently heard of “anal only”. I find sexual psychology very interesting and I was browsing around trying to understand why anyone on planet earth would ever want to have anal sex, especially anal only. what goes through someone’s mind when they decide to use the anus for sex?

Thanks for the question! The anus contains a high concentration of nerve endings that feel really good when stimulated, the sensation of being filled is greater with anal, and it’s possible to orgasm easily from penetration alone without clitoral stimulation from anal. It’s also natural birth control, which is a great advantage!

For men, it’s tighter, it’s not self lubricating so there isn’t an issue with loss of sensation like happens often with vaginal, it’s got more of a grippy feeling, and it has a greater feeling of intimacy and being primally and naturally the right thing to be doing.

It’s also just sexy to reject the reproductive-centric norm of vaginal sex and replace it with pure anal.