A woman asks:

My boyfriend said he likes anal with me more than normal intercourse. I know he likes my butt but did he mean that my pussy is too loose?

She gets some ignorant answers advocating for exercise to tighten her vagina, missing the point entirely that many men just prefer anal and don’t want vaginal whether it’s tight or not. Fortunately, one such man follows up:

As a fellow sodomite, some of us just prefer anal sex. For me, it’s about the dominance and how good it feels. Her vagina is nice and snug and I enjoy vaginal sex but anal is where it’s at for me.

It sounds like the conversation needs input from more anal only men and women.

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Jenny32: I have been doing anal only with my boyfriend for the past couple years and I found switching from vaginal to anal to be easy, it feels better and it turns us on more and I love that he can cum in me every day and I don’t have to be on birth control. It’s been wonderful! But I admit I am still really reliant on my clitoris and my boyfriend has told me that he’d like it if I could stop rubbing myself and be totally anal only. I’d like that too, but I am not sure how to do it because it is a lot harder for me to stop. Any advice?

I’m really glad to hear that you’ve been having a great time since going anal only, and I hope that you continue to enjoy it long term. It sounds like the perfect time to give up clit stimulation and commit to pure anal only going forward, which will further strengthen and deepen your commitment to the anal only lifestyle.

First, remember that it’s a process and failure is often part of any process of learning or mastering something. If you go back to clit stimulation at some point, don’t give up, just start again with not using it.

Establishing a challenge to go a week without clit stimulation can be a good way to start, and ease into it without worrying longer term just yet. Once you make it a week, try extending it another week, then to a full month, and just keep going from there.

If you end up giving in to clit stimulation, try setting your next challenge to be longer than your previous success and keep building on your past experiences from there! Before you know it, you’ll be clit free for good.

You might also try numbing creams like Orajel on your clit, which temporarily remove sensation and can be applied before sex to aid in giving up touching yourself. Also check out the page on our Guide about clitoral denial, which covers this topic in more detail!

Good luck! I’m sure you can do this!

Are you someone who is very happily anal only and is looking for something more, a way to add to your lifestyle or routine? While there are plenty of options, one good thing that helps you amplify your own commitment to the lifestyle and can reignite a spark of enthusiasm as well is to open up to your friends about being anal only and encourage them to try it as well!

Sharing Anal Only Helps Solidify Your Own Commitment

One of the best way to master anything is to talk about it and teach it to others. By opening up about the anal only lifestyle with your friends, it can help you to form a deeper personal commitment to the lifestyle and ensure you stay anal only long-term. As you get more confident in your commitment, it can inspire you to explore additional aspects of the anal only lifestyle and adopt something else like full time butt-plug wear, clitoral denial, larger dildo play, fisting or double anal sex. There’s always more you can explore and have fun with in the anal only lifestyle, and the more you do, the more you can share with others as well!

Friends Can Become Friends With Benefits

Sometimes when opening up about a love for anal sex, friends with similar interests may want to start playing with you. Those who want to start enjoying anal, an anal only experience, or double anal sex may be interested in playing together with people who already have established partners or other single people. Couples who want to transition to anal only can benefit from sharing some experiences with you or you and your partner to see how to get started.

Sharing Forms a Circle of Support For You and Others

Going anal only can be harder at first for some people than for others, and by having a circle of friends who are anal only, it creates a support network where you can all help, encourage and make sure you all stay anal only and can benefit from the lifestyle long term rather than giving up before it gets great.

The More People Share, The More People Go Anal Only

There’s still a lot of misinformation and misunderstanding out there about anal sex and the anal only lifestyle, and a lot of people are skeptical of some of the claims about it. Hearing from other people, especially those they already know and trust, that anal sex is actually very enjoyable and has numerous benefits over vaginal, can spark an interest that isn’t there from other people. If a friend reacts positively to stories of your own anal only experiences, talk about why and how they should give anal sex a try as well. If they already enjoy anal, encourage them to go anal only like you.

A major part of this blog is interaction with its visitors and readers, and while there is a large wealth of information already available for reading and learning from, I always encourage reaching out and asking questions or sharing your stories, or commenting on existing posts with additional information and context!

The more people send in content, the more we can stay actively posting on a regular schedule and helping everyone achieve the anal only lifestyle they deserve!

From a new blog chronicling the life of an anal only woman, Kitty Kaya:

Wow. Where do I even start? The prospect of sharing my life as an anal only girl with the world is incredibly exciting, but also a little overwhelming. There is just so much to talk about.

At great risk of all-too-predictable cliché, I guess I start at the beginning. At the time of writing, I have already made the commitment to being an anal only girl. My partner and I have always enjoyed anal sex. In fact, just a couple of months after we first met, he spent a week mercilessly fucking only my asshole whilst on holiday in Greece. Check out the pic above, taken during that week whilst I was tied up with my hole nicely plugged. It was heaven. Wake up late, inhale the fresh sea air, spend a few hours sunbathing by the pool, have my ass railed, and then fall asleep full of seafood and red wine. On repeat.

It really was bliss.

Unfortunately, it didn’t stay quite like that forever. Life happens, people are busy, and I must admit I bear responsibility for making access to my asshole a little less frequent. Whilst we still did a lot of anal, it wasn’t enough.

Fast forward until a month or two ago, and things changed. My partner (well, my Owner) decided enough was enough. Things had been slightly rocky, and he wanted to stamp his authority on me. He was going to make me become an anal only girl. The idea enthralled me. What does anal only even mean? What about my pussy? Why am I so aroused? . In another post I’m going to really dig into what it means, especially what it means to me, so please make sure to check back on my blog. For now, all I wish to say is that I didn’t take a huge amount of convincing. It’s very daunting, but I enjoy anal, and the crazy in me LOVES the mental aspect.

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Anonymous: just had to share a recent victory… I’m not AO but have been doing near-daily training over the past 5 months, sleeping plugged most nights, stretching my ass to take bigger and bigger toys, and my partner and I are having anal sex probably 80% of the time. I realized recently that I can now fit bigger toys in my ass than I can in my pussy – the largest toy I’m training with won’t even fit in my pussy. Thank you for being an inspiration – I’ve followed you for years, on tumblr and now here!

Congratulations, and thanks for sharing! If you’re anal mostly at this point, I’d encourage trying to go all in with anal only, at least for a month or two to start and see how things go from there. It sounds like you much prefer anal anyway, and committing to anal only can be the next great step for you!

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two-hole-slut: Not a question, I just needed to share… My Sir has taken away my cunt. I thought I needed it to squirt, but I don’t. I squirt so much more and so much harder when I’m stretching and fucking my arse.

Congratulations, that’s excellent to hear! Everybody’s a bit different, but in general, going anal only makes everything else more intense and pleasurable in the long term. Even if it’s hard at first, it’s worth doing.

Anal Only April has now officially begun! Read through the earlier post for the full details, but in essence, it’s a challenge for you and any partners you may have to only have anal sex for the entire month, as an opportunity to explore the anal only lifestyle without a long-term up-front commitment.

If being anal only intrigues you, here’s your chance to try it for yourself. If you’re already anal only, take it as a month of celebration and as much anal sex, masturbation and butt plugging as you can manage, or an opportunity to explore a new twist on the anal only lifestyle that you’ve been fantasizing about or are curious to try. In the past, some long-term anal only women have made Anal Only April a “double anal only” month!

As always, if you plan to participate, let us know and share your experiences and questions throughout the month and beyond. After all, most people who try going anal only for a month or two at first find that they don’t ever want to go back to vaginal by the time their trial period is over!

I’m really interested in trying anal. I bought myself a butt plug and I’ve used it and dildos anally before. I really want to try anal with my boyfriend.

The other day we were talking about a couple he knew in college who were doing anal all the time because the girl wanted to avoid PIV for religious reasons. Then he said how terrible of an idea it is because if you do it regularly you can face problems like incontinence in the future.

I thought things like that only happen if you’re doing something wrong or you’re doing something rougher/deeper than normal anal sex. Anyone care to shed some light on this? Interested in seeing some research on this, as well as personal anecdotes.

I really want to try anal with him but I get the feeling we need to talk about it more first, especially the things that are likely or unlikely to happen.

Multiple people respond with good personal experience reassuring the original poster that anal is perfectly safe when done properly.

My gf has been anal only for 5 years now… No problems. If anything it’s the opposite.

She says she has the most satisfying poops after sex, almost an orgasm in themselves.

And she feels bloated now if she doesn’t have regular anal.

I think it’s the same as asking is it dangerous for your legs to take a hike. Your body tells you when to take a brake and at the end you maybe are a little sore if you’re not used to walking long distances. But your body heals quickly and you get less soreness if you do training. If you are an athlete though, who hikes every day and ignores pain you will have issues eventually. The body adapts and gets used to things. So, doing anal more frequently is actually better imho because your ass gets used to it (no doctor, just from my experience). I’d say the worst thing you can do is never do any anal for 6 months and then do one full day of double anal pounding.

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Have you been curious about going anal only but haven’t had the push to actually try it for yourself? Well, now is the perfect opportunity. Anal Only April is one of several challenge months where we encourage people interested in the anal only lifestyle to make a month-long commitment and try out pure anal for themselves.

The rules of Anal Only April are simple: starting April 1st, whether on your own or with your significant other, stop all vaginal penetration for sex and masturbation, and replace it with anal instead.

Clitoral stimulation is optional. If you would like to go for a more advanced form of anal only, try doing it without touching your clit and only orgasming through anal. If you need your clit in order to enjoy anal, combine it with anal, but only rub your clit while also masturbating anally.

Oral sex is still allowed and encouraged, especially blowjobs and rimming. Cunnilingus is optional—some choose to exclude it, others still include it but don’t engage in any vaginal penetration as part of it.

Try your best to stick with anal only for the whole month—it’s a long enough period of time that while you might struggle a little bit with it at first, whether adjusting to the frequency of anal sex, or dealing with lingering cravings for vaginal sex or clitoral stimulation, by the end of a month most people figure out what being anal only is really like, and a majority of people who enjoyed their month trial either choose to stay anal only and not go back to vaginal, or return to it again later after a break.

If you’re already anal only, don’t worry—you can still enjoy Anal Only April yourself. Challenge yourself to have anal sex every day of the month, or to start wearing a butt plug or masturbate anally every day, or to experiment with clitoral denial and anal only orgasms if you aren’t already, or to start doing ass to mouth regularly, or to train your ass with bigger toys to be able to do anal fisting or double anal. The possibilities are endless for exploring new things as part of the anal only lifestyle. If you already enjoy double anal, consider trying making April a double anal only month—whether with two partners every time, or with a partner and a dildo, or two dildos.

Over the next week, get your plans in order, get your partner (if any) on board, and if you haven’t had anal sex yet or for a while, start working on training so that by the time Anal Only April begins, you’re ready to dive in!

If you decide to take part, let us know! Share your plans, ask any questions, and keep us updated as you start exploring the anal only lifestyle!