My husband and I have done anal since the start of our relationship. We both enjoyed it, but it never occurred to us that going anal only or primarily anal was a choice we could consciously make until after the birth of our daughter who is 7.

Once I got cleared for sex, I was anxious about PIV so we opted to do a lot more anal. Shortly thereafter we met someone through the kink community who mentioned that she was “anal only” and we realized that it was something we could choose for ourselves.

For the next 2.5 years, we did mostly anal only. I think we did PIV 3-4 times in that period. At some point, we had a discussion about moving to anal only and used it to fuel some of our other kinks. For the last 6-8 months of that 2.5 year period, we did anal only. No PIV, no clitoral stimulation.

Then we decided to try for a baby, but we didn’t want to leave anal behind. While trying to conceive our second child, I monitored my ovulation and we did vaginal sex during the days I was ovulating and anal during the rest of my cycle. My husband played into our shared breeding kink by telling me that my pussy was only good for making babies and that that was the only time I’d ever be fucked in my pussy again… when he wanted to put another baby in me. It was super hot and made conceiving our second baby a lot of fun. It took us three months of trying to finally conceive. Once I got pregnant, we reverted to anal only. I actually went into labor with our second shortly after a pretty rough anal fuck while 9 months pregnant.

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I’m about 7 months, and doc says sex is fine, no health issues etc. The issue I’m having is my partner’s uncomfortable with doing it this late and my libido is insanely high. Due to my size and lack of grace, solo play is very awkward, and the real thing is better than rubber. I’d love advice on how to allay his fears. I’m due in 10 weeks, and after that, there won’t be much going on in the bedroom for a couple months. I really want to get it while I still can.

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I’ve been pretty inactive for a lot of life reasons but I have some awesome updates!

1) we’re married!! Yay!! So happy to finally be a Wife.

2) I’ve graduated! Also yay!! I do have a job for now at an awesome company working a helpful role for a very traditional boss. He has been a wonderful mentor so far.

3) I was originally planning on losing my virginity when my wedding was consummated, but since we both want kids we did some fertility testing before the wedding. It turns out I’m unlikely to conceive from sex, and would need to do artificial insemination anyway. After some talking, my husband had decided I will stay anal only and a Virgin! 😱

4) my husband has decided we will pursue treatments and try to get me pregnant this year! we are doing lots of research on pregnancy, childbirth, breastfeeding, working vs staying home to figure out what the best options are for me and my particular situation. I’m so lucky to have him.

I’m overwhelmed but excited by all the changes. It was a huge relief and turn-on to have my husband completely ignore my pussy on our wedding night; I’ve cum extremely sparingly the last year or so but I’m wet everyday.  I’ve never felt more happy and devoted. ☺️ 

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Hello everybody, I have noticed in several comments and chats that many people of the anal only community believe that to have children we must have vaginal sex, yes we keep our pussy for reproductive purposes and the ass for sex and pleasure, but there is another option that I decided to share here.

You can have anal sex and penetrate the pussy just to cum inside if you want to have children but this is not recommended because of the vaginal infections that can cause taking something from your ass to your pussy.

The better option is artificial insemination, you can go to a doctor for this but since it is not for fertility problems there is a simpler option, buy an insemination kit that is usually sold in pharmacies and do it yourself, the kits are simply sterile containers for the semen, a sterile syringe and some tube or utensil to penetrate the pussy and place the semen deep within it or directly into the uterus (a penetration much smaller than a cock)

This for example:
https://gyazo.com/da02c3eb1bcec4b692ff34513aa3931f
https://gyazo.com/cf14a9bbf433466524c148b98b09ea76

I think it’s a good option for those anal only couples who want to have children and keep the pussy unfucked and closed, they can also opt for a cesarean on the moment of birth.

I know that not everyone here wants to have children or that they are single or already have children, I dont want children but in the future if I want, I will use this option, it seems useful to me as anal only woman, I hope it will be useful to you too, in the present or the future.
Greetings, good luck and have lots of anal sex

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For my wife who is currently pregnant 3 months so far it’s mainly to reduce stress and fear. We ran into a miscarriage on our first attempt at a baby and this time we actually have one with a strong heartbeat. Any signs of blood or pains that can potentially happen through vaginal sex while pregnant cause concern for her and places stress on both of us. In the times we tried vaginal sex she bled and spotted. While the spotting and pains are normal it’s made vaginal sex unenjoyable and not wanted by both of us. Sex has always been a normal aspect in our lives and to remove it caused additional frustrations.

My wife and I have had anal sex only a handful of times in our 7 years of being together but the times that we did we both enjoyed it. So to not remove sex out of our lives I asked if she would like to be AO more as a joke but with mild interest. She was a little hesitant at first but after a few days she wanted to give it a shot because of the lack of sexual intimacy in our lives. So we have been AO for over a month now and both much happier. While we still talk about vaginal sex it has shown that doing anal has been more pleasurable for both of us. Orgasms for her prior to AO has only happened by fingering or clitoral stimulation. We found out that orgasms are possible for her through anal and a more enjoyable experience since she gets off be my penis alone which is something she’s always wanted. The interest in anal has definitely shown by our increased sexual activity and anticipation for the next time we can do it again. Idk if it will be a lifelong commitment for AO but our sex lives as of now reflect that it’s definitely possible.

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Lately me and my husband are considering having a baby, but I just became fully AO approximately 2 years ago (bc I still needed PIV once in a while). We didn’t want to ruin our progress, it was so hard for me to get to where I am now. I’m afraid if I have vaginal sex I’ll start craving it again or something.

I know all it takes to get pregnant is sperm, there’s no need for PIV, but I’m not sure if it even works. Also we’re looking for ideas to get that sperm in there without doing vaginal, so any suggestions are welcome. If anyone had any experience with this before please let us now. We’d really appreciate it.

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Anonymous: I’ve loved your blog for a long time, and I am glad that you’re active on Bdsmlr again like you were on Tumblr! I’ve reached out to you there before, a few years ago, but your blog inspired me and my boyfriend to go anal only way back in 2015. We’ve stayed anal only successfully since then and when we got married a couple years ago we vowed to be anal only together as part of it. We’re thinking about having kids now, and we’re going to try out non-vaginal ways of getting pregnant first, but it also seems like you’re okay with vaginal sex to get pregnant, is that right?

Very good to hear an update from you! I’m glad that the old readership is moving over to Bdsmlr and following along here as well, and that the community on Bdsmlr is growing more!

It’s great to hear that your anal only relationship has been so successful for the both of you and that you’re still committed to it 5 years later!

Vaginal sex for getting pregnant is definitely consistent with the anal only lifestyle if that’s the route that you want to take. However, as you yourself note, often once people have gone years without vaginal sex, they don’t want to go back to it even just for the purpose of getting pregnant. So it definitely makes sense to try non-vaginal means of getting pregnant first, if that’s important to you!

I’d suggest exploring having him ejaculate in your ass and then push it out while spreading your pussy so that it runs down and back into your vagina. Alternatively, he can pull out at the last minute while you’re spreading open your vagina and he can aim into your vagina. If you try those for a few months with no success, you could also try something like a turkey baster or syringe (without a needle) to suck up his semen after you push it out of your ass and then get it into you vagina with more force to get it deeper inside of you.

Good luck, and please keep us posted on how things go!

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Anonymous: I’ve loved your blog for a long time, and I am glad that you’re active on Bdsmlr again like you were on Tumblr! I’ve reached out to you there before, a few years ago, but your blog inspired me and my boyfriend to go anal only way back in 2015. We’ve stayed anal only successfully since then and when we got married a couple years ago we vowed to be anal only together as part of it. We’re thinking about having kids now, and we’re going to try out non-vaginal ways of getting pregnant first, but it also seems like you’re okay with vaginal sex to get pregnant, is that right?

Thanks! I’m glad I helped inspire you and that you’ve stayed anal only since for the past five years! That’s wonderful.

Vaginal sex to get pregnant and anal for everything else is consistent with the ideas of the anal only lifestyle, for sure. But, as you’ve noted, many people who stay anal only long enough like the idea of never going back to vaginal, even to get pregnant, and so often try to look for other options, whether that be artificial insemination, or ejaculating during anal sex and spreading open her vagina to let it run out and back into her. Whatever approach you decide to take, good luck and enjoy your anal only future together!

Anonymous: So I’m a vaginal virgin and I adopted my daughter to remain a vaginal virgin. My teen daughter snuck into my room and got on my laptop. I had your blog up and she asked me what anal only is and what clit denial is and why would someone like it. I told her I would talk to her later about it. so I’m kinda stuck between a rock and a hard place cuz I don’t know if I should explain it, I don’t know if I should encourage, her and I don’t know if I should tell her I do it and why. So maybe you can help me with what I should do

If she is an appropriate age to start talking about sex as a parent, then I think it’s perfectly fine to also talk about anal sex and the anal only lifestyle in an educational way. Sit down with her and have a normal, healthy conversation about it. If she wants to learn more, she’ll ask.

This article on Refinery29 goes into detail about how and why anal sex doesn’t result in pregnancy.

Anal sex is a kind of sex, but just like oral sex, it won’t result in pregnancy — no matter what genitals the people involved are working with. While you can transmit STIs during anal sex (and during oral sex, too), pregnancy won’t happen — except in one rare situation. […] Pregnancy doesn’t happen during anal sex because the anus isn’t connected to the vagina or any other reproductive organs. People without vaginas can’t get pregnant — while “m-preg” is a popular fanfiction category, it doesn’t work that way in real life: trans men can get pregnant, but cis men cannot.

It then proceeds to detail the one scenario where pregnancy can result from anal sex:

There is one way in which anal sex could result in pregnancy: if semen enters the vagina after ejaculation. According to Planned Parenthood, “Since your anus isn’t connected to your reproductive organs, anal sex can’t directly cause pregnancy. But it’s still possible for semen to get into the vagina during anal sex — if the guy ejaculates into or near the anus, and the semen leaks from there down onto the vulva. Fingers and hands could make this more likely, too, by moving semen towards the vulva.”

That means that if someone has anal sex and then ejaculates into the anus or somewhere else near the vagina, sperm could theoretically, accidentally, enter the vagina and cause a pregnancy. If someone ejaculates after anal sex, touches the semen, and then fingers their partner, that could theoretically result in a pregnancy, too. But if semen doesn’t enter the vagina, there’s no chance of pregnancy happening.

Fortunately, this is exceedingly rare, but it is possible. So if getting pregnant is not your intent, be sure to clean up afterwards and take care to avoid semen entering the vaginal canal after anal sex.

If getting pregnant is your intent, however, and you want to maintain a completely vaginal penetration-free lifestyle even while doing so, whether just because you want to avoid going back to vaginal intercourse or because you want to maintain vaginal virginity, you can utilize this method to engage in anal sex as normal, ejaculate anally, and then push it back out while spreading the vagina open for it to run down and into. This technique can work and has been used by those in the anal only lifestyle, though it may require repeated attempts to do so.

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