Category: Anal Advice

Posts containing advice about anal sex and the anal only lifestyle. For more general anal advice, see our Anal Sex Advice and Guide to the Anal Only Lifestyle page.


Message: Concerns About Waxing from an AO Woman

Anonymous: Hi! Idk how many years I’ve been AO, but it’s been a long time. I always prioritize my personal hygiene, including waxing which is a better alternative for me since it’s more effective. I never used my front part, thus not shaving or waxing my front part since i don’t bother using it, Idk if I’m the only girl who feel this way, ofc I always practice waxing for my own leisure, not for anybody else.

Some anal only women choose to remove hair from their vulva even though they don’t use it, because they prefer how it looks or feels. Others choose to wax or shave everything else but keep their vulva hairy as a symbol of its lack of use. Both can be excellent options, depending on your personal preferences. What’s really important is not using your vagina and being anal only.

Article: Best Butt Plugs for Beginners

When it comes to butt stuff, ‘go big or go home’ isn’t the best advice. Instead, it’s best to start with something small, like one of these butt plugs aimed at newbies

As a one-time sex toy retail worker, I often noticed that when customers came into my store looking shifty-eyed and incapable of expressing what they actually wanted to buy, they were usually looking for a butt plug. Sometimes, I’d lead them to the butt plug section unprompted, just to watch sweet relief bloom on their face as I showed them what they had wanted all along.

It makes sense that so many people are skittish about trying anal play. It’s still hugely taboo and shrouded in misconceptions — like that it “makes you gay” (nope), has to hurt (nope) or will automatically be messy (not necessarily). Given how intimidating anal penetration can be, both physically and psychologically, it’s usually best to start with something small — like a finger or a beginner-friendly butt plug.

Butt plugs are different from other anal toys in that they’re designed, more-or-less, to stay put inside you. You can thrust them in and out like a dildo or a set of anal beads, but staying still is what they were made to do, so they do it very well. This makes them a popular pick for combining with masturbation or sex — they can provide some passive prostate stimulation during a blow job, enhance the sensation of vaginal sex or amp up your pleasure when you’re touching yourself. They’re also the comfiest and most practical choice if you want some surreptitious anal sensations in public, like while on a dinner date with your partner.

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Article: A 12-Step Guide to Pleasing Your Asshole

The deepest part of ourselves that we hold so much shame around, can unlock our nervous system, bring about deeper orgasms, and help release old stories that we have locked in our brains and body. The anus is connected to the root chakra, which responds to the coccygeal plexus of nerves. Anal can be a powerful way to explore these nerve responses, as well as the ideas of family patterning, feeling safe in our bodies, and primal responses. In tantra there is no abstraction. The physical body is the basis for consciousness. Anal sex requires deep, primal connection, communication and trust. Ass play, or “root chakra work” as I like to call it, can be extremely pleasurable, activating and healing.

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Forum: Pregnancy Being Anal Only

Hello everybody, I have noticed in several comments and chats that many people of the anal only community believe that to have children we must have vaginal sex, yes we keep our pussy for reproductive purposes and the ass for sex and pleasure, but there is another option that I decided to share here.

You can have anal sex and penetrate the pussy just to cum inside if you want to have children but this is not recommended because of the vaginal infections that can cause taking something from your ass to your pussy.

The better option is artificial insemination, you can go to a doctor for this but since it is not for fertility problems there is a simpler option, buy an insemination kit that is usually sold in pharmacies and do it yourself, the kits are simply sterile containers for the semen, a sterile syringe and some tube or utensil to penetrate the pussy and place the semen deep within it or directly into the uterus (a penetration much smaller than a cock)

This for example:
https://gyazo.com/da02c3eb1bcec4b692ff34513aa3931f
https://gyazo.com/cf14a9bbf433466524c148b98b09ea76

I think it’s a good option for those anal only couples who want to have children and keep the pussy unfucked and closed, they can also opt for a cesarean on the moment of birth.

I know that not everyone here wants to have children or that they are single or already have children, I dont want children but in the future if I want, I will use this option, it seems useful to me as anal only woman, I hope it will be useful to you too, in the present or the future.
Greetings, good luck and have lots of anal sex

julietagc, Anal Only Lifestyle forum

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Discussion: My Boyfriend Likes Anal More

A woman asks:

My boyfriend said he likes anal with me more than normal intercourse. I know he likes my butt but did he mean that my pussy is too loose?

She gets some ignorant answers advocating for exercise to tighten her vagina, missing the point entirely that many men just prefer anal and don’t want vaginal whether it’s tight or not. Fortunately, one such man follows up:

As a fellow sodomite, some of us just prefer anal sex. For me, it’s about the dominance and how good it feels. Her vagina is nice and snug and I enjoy vaginal sex but anal is where it’s at for me.

It sounds like the conversation needs input from more anal only men and women.

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Message: How Do I Stop Clit Stimulation?

Jenny32: I have been doing anal only with my boyfriend for the past couple years and I found switching from vaginal to anal to be easy, it feels better and it turns us on more and I love that he can cum in me every day and I don’t have to be on birth control. It’s been wonderful! But I admit I am still really reliant on my clitoris and my boyfriend has told me that he’d like it if I could stop rubbing myself and be totally anal only. I’d like that too, but I am not sure how to do it because it is a lot harder for me to stop. Any advice?

I’m really glad to hear that you’ve been having a great time since going anal only, and I hope that you continue to enjoy it long term. It sounds like the perfect time to give up clit stimulation and commit to pure anal only going forward, which will further strengthen and deepen your commitment to the anal only lifestyle.

First, remember that it’s a process and failure is often part of any process of learning or mastering something. If you go back to clit stimulation at some point, don’t give up, just start again with not using it.

Establishing a challenge to go a week without clit stimulation can be a good way to start, and ease into it without worrying longer term just yet. Once you make it a week, try extending it another week, then to a full month, and just keep going from there.

If you end up giving in to clit stimulation, try setting your next challenge to be longer than your previous success and keep building on your past experiences from there! Before you know it, you’ll be clit free for good.

You might also try numbing creams like Orajel on your clit, which temporarily remove sensation and can be applied before sex to aid in giving up touching yourself. Also check out the page on our Guide about clitoral denial, which covers this topic in more detail!

Good luck! I’m sure you can do this!

The Value of Sharing Anal Only With Friends

Are you someone who is very happily anal only and is looking for something more, a way to add to your lifestyle or routine? While there are plenty of options, one good thing that helps you amplify your own commitment to the lifestyle and can reignite a spark of enthusiasm as well is to open up to your friends about being anal only and encourage them to try it as well!

Sharing Anal Only Helps Solidify Your Own Commitment

One of the best way to master anything is to talk about it and teach it to others. By opening up about the anal only lifestyle with your friends, it can help you to form a deeper personal commitment to the lifestyle and ensure you stay anal only long-term. As you get more confident in your commitment, it can inspire you to explore additional aspects of the anal only lifestyle and adopt something else like full time butt-plug wear, clitoral denial, larger dildo play, fisting or double anal sex. There’s always more you can explore and have fun with in the anal only lifestyle, and the more you do, the more you can share with others as well!

Friends Can Become Friends With Benefits

Sometimes when opening up about a love for anal sex, friends with similar interests may want to start playing with you. Those who want to start enjoying anal, an anal only experience, or double anal sex may be interested in playing together with people who already have established partners or other single people. Couples who want to transition to anal only can benefit from sharing some experiences with you or you and your partner to see how to get started.

Sharing Forms a Circle of Support For You and Others

Going anal only can be harder at first for some people than for others, and by having a circle of friends who are anal only, it creates a support network where you can all help, encourage and make sure you all stay anal only and can benefit from the lifestyle long term rather than giving up before it gets great.

The More People Share, The More People Go Anal Only

There’s still a lot of misinformation and misunderstanding out there about anal sex and the anal only lifestyle, and a lot of people are skeptical of some of the claims about it. Hearing from other people, especially those they already know and trust, that anal sex is actually very enjoyable and has numerous benefits over vaginal, can spark an interest that isn’t there from other people. If a friend reacts positively to stories of your own anal only experiences, talk about why and how they should give anal sex a try as well. If they already enjoy anal, encourage them to go anal only like you.

Don’t Hesitate to Reach Out!

A major part of this blog is interaction with its visitors and readers, and while there is a large wealth of information already available for reading and learning from, I always encourage reaching out and asking questions or sharing your stories, or commenting on existing posts with additional information and context!

The more people send in content, the more we can stay actively posting on a regular schedule and helping everyone achieve the anal only lifestyle they deserve!

Anal Only April 2022

Craving something new? Why not go anal only for a whole month? Challenge yourself to Anal Only April.

Anal Only April has now officially begun! Read through the earlier post for the full details, but in essence, it’s a challenge for you and any partners you may have to only have anal sex for the entire month, as an opportunity to explore the anal only lifestyle without a long-term up-front commitment.

If being anal only intrigues you, here’s your chance to try it for yourself. If you’re already anal only, take it as a month of celebration and as much anal sex, masturbation and butt plugging as you can manage, or an opportunity to explore a new twist on the anal only lifestyle that you’ve been fantasizing about or are curious to try. In the past, some long-term anal only women have made Anal Only April a “double anal only” month!

As always, if you plan to participate, let us know and share your experiences and questions throughout the month and beyond. After all, most people who try going anal only for a month or two at first find that they don’t ever want to go back to vaginal by the time their trial period is over!

Reddit: Is Anal Only Bad For Your Anus Health in the Long Term?

I’m really interested in trying anal. I bought myself a butt plug and I’ve used it and dildos anally before. I really want to try anal with my boyfriend.

The other day we were talking about a couple he knew in college who were doing anal all the time because the girl wanted to avoid PIV for religious reasons. Then he said how terrible of an idea it is because if you do it regularly you can face problems like incontinence in the future.

I thought things like that only happen if you’re doing something wrong or you’re doing something rougher/deeper than normal anal sex. Anyone care to shed some light on this? Interested in seeing some research on this, as well as personal anecdotes.

I really want to try anal with him but I get the feeling we need to talk about it more first, especially the things that are likely or unlikely to happen.

Multiple people respond with good personal experience reassuring the original poster that anal is perfectly safe when done properly.

My gf has been anal only for 5 years now… No problems. If anything it’s the opposite.

She says she has the most satisfying poops after sex, almost an orgasm in themselves.

And she feels bloated now if she doesn’t have regular anal.

I think it’s the same as asking is it dangerous for your legs to take a hike. Your body tells you when to take a brake and at the end you maybe are a little sore if you’re not used to walking long distances. But your body heals quickly and you get less soreness if you do training. If you are an athlete though, who hikes every day and ignores pain you will have issues eventually. The body adapts and gets used to things. So, doing anal more frequently is actually better imho because your ass gets used to it (no doctor, just from my experience). I’d say the worst thing you can do is never do any anal for 6 months and then do one full day of double anal pounding.

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