Category: Messages From Readers

A majority of the content on this blog is messages from readers, whether requests for advice, venting of frustrations, or shared stories and experiences. If you have your own question to ask or comment to share, send us a message.


Message: The New Normal

Chris: My girlfriend and I have been anal only a couple of years now thanks to the blog. It was the best thing ever stumbling on this. At first it took a lot of persuading before she agreed to try and several times she almost backed out. But the more anal we did the less of an issue she made about it until eventually, she came to accept it as the new normal. We both love it so much more now and she even laughs at how she used to find excuses not to do anal.

I’m saying this because I do believe most couples would come to the same conclusion if they don’t give up. I think it’s mostly something in a woman’s mind saying she can’t do it. When you are actually doing anal only you eventually see all the objections are just artificial barriers.

It’s good for the relationship as a whole as even she now agrees it feels nicer and I’m happier because I get the sex I prefer.

Most of the reasons people give to not go anal only are an internal mental block or cultural myths not rooted in reality. That’s why my suggestion is always for people to just go and try it for themselves for 1 or more months, without a longer term commitment up front, and see how they actually find the experience from there. The majority of women become much more amenable to staying anal only once they have 1 – 3 months experience of not using their pussy and focusing on anal exclusively, and see the benefits of doing so for themselves and that they don’t actually miss their pussy as much as they thought they would, or that they enjoy the increased arousal of doing so.

Message: Anal Cleanliness and Depth

Saurav: Is it safe to have anal sex without condom if both partners are clean and monogamous. How much penis to enter the anus

It certainly is safe: if you’re comfortable having sex with each other without a condom from an STI standpoint, then you can safely have anal without a condom as well, because anal is natural birth control.

As to how deep to penetrate, that depends on the receptive partner and how comfortable they are. As deep as you both want to is fine, so long as it feels good. If going too deep becomes uncomfortable, then don’t go that deep for now, and revisit it later after more practice.

Message: How Much Anal is Too Much?

Anonymous: My boyfriend and I have been anal only for about two months now and its been going pretty good. We normally do anal about 2-3 times a week and I just give him blowjobs on the days between but recently he told me he would like to start doing anal everyday. I’m definitely open to the idea but I’m a little worried that that might not be good for my health and was hoping I could get some advice here. Is it harmful for your butt to have a small enema and anal sex everyday?

Daily anal sex, so long as your body is adjusted to the routine, is perfectly fine to do. Ultimately you have to listen to your body to determine if you’re ready for that frequency yet. Try it, and see how sustainable it is for you. You can also just work up to that over the course of several weeks, where each week you add another day a week that you do it, and you should be totally fine if you take that approach.

Deeper enemas should be avoided at high frequency, but a small flush of the rectum isn’t a problem.

I say go for it, chances are you’ll love daily anal and it will ultimately make your anal only experience that much better.

Message: Am I Being Selfish?

Anonymous: My GF and I have been doing anal only for a few months now and while I’m kinda ashamed to admit I think my favourite part is knowing that I get more pleasure out of it than her. She definitely enjoys it but I know she can’t cum without her clit and I also noticed that she really urges me on to cum now like she wants it to be over faster. This turns me on so much that I can’t even think about going back to vaginal sex again but more than that I’ve been kind of obsessed with the idea of her giving up her pussy completely which for her would mean giving up orgasms too. I’m scared that if I ask her about this she will think I’m a completely selfish jerk. Do you think its wrong for me to be into this and do you think I should try asking for it or just be content with what I have?

It’s not wrong to want that, but it depends what she wants too. Some women get off on the same sort of thing, and that’s fine. Whether she’ll be open to it depends on her motivation. Tell her that you being anal only really turns you on and you love it and would love for her to stop using her clit too and just get her pleasure from anal, and ask what she thinks about that. If she’s not into it, then keep things as they are. But, if she is, then explore that together.

Message: Considering Adding Anal to a Tittyfucking Only Lifestyle

H Suzuki: My girlfriend and I have yet to engage in any penetrative sex. In the months we’ve been together and fucking we’ve been what you could call tittyfuck only, with oral foreplay, because she has very large tits and a fetish for her tits being used like a “hole”. The hottest thing she’s ever said was the first time she asked me to “impregnate her tits”, and that’s become a regular part of our dirty talk since. Anyway, our routine is usually a blowjob, followed by me fucking her tits until I cum, and then her cleaning me off with another blowjob. Sometimes we skip the first blowjob and use oil instead so the tittyfucking is extra slippery, and sometimes I stop fucking her tits and finish directly in her mouth. So basically we live the oral only lifestyle but with the focus being tittyfucking instead of oral. Recently we’ve been talking about adding penetrative sex to the routine, and I suggested anal, thinking it’d be hot if we just skipped vaginal sex in favor of just using her tits, mouth, and ass as the sole means of sex, and she seemed receptive. Here’s hoping we can make it work. I’m curious if you’ve run into any other couples who’ve centered their sex life around a tittyfucking lifestyle and either stuck with it or branched out into adding anal?

Thanks for sharing! I’ve generally encountered couples who have been anal only but would occasionally do an oral only or titfucking only month here and there, but it makes sense that people would approach it from the other direction as well!

I think it makes a lot of sense to add anal into the mix but of course keeping things anal only and completely excluding vaginal now and always. If she’s receptive, by all means you should do it!

Message: Stretching

H Dean: For about the last 2 1/2 years my GF and I have been AO. An anal virgin prior to me introducing it to her, she requested we go AO within a week after her first anal orgasm – multiples, mind you. Over the last 2 1/2 years her ass has become quite receptive.

Now, my GF is a bit hesitant with the use of plugs. I introduced a Hush plug to her about a year and a half back. She said it was okay but tended to hurt after awhile. About 6 months ago I got a Square Pegg Medium sized egg plug. We started sporadic use of it shortly thereafter. Still she was hesitant.

It was on a warm day this summer I pushed a little and managed to get her to agree to using the plug. After installing it in her ass we left the house and went about our day. After returning to the house some five hours later I asked how her ass felt with the plug. Turns out she had actually forgotten it was in until certain movements reminded her of it.

Since that occasion we have used the plug only sporadically. Most recently I installed it after sex one night. It was in for about 8 hours while she slept and she didn’t seem to notice it.

So, why am I telling you this? Well, because I have discovered some very nice things about anal stretching:

First, once an ass is properly stretched entry is quite easy. Used to be that when my GF would get a little over exuberant and thrust her ass down on my cock so quickly it would cause pain from the sudden stretch. Since we have started plugging more frequently that no longer happens. In fact, if my cock is lubricated I can enter her in one quick thrust with zero pain.

Next, once stretched there the need for lube is lessened. For a long time we have only used saliva for lube. She would suck my cock and get it good and wet and then ease in. Now, she just rubs a little saliva on her ass and I can ease right in. The increased friction sends her over the top almost instantly and there is no pain.

Another benefit since using the square peg plug, so it seems, she has gained use of previously unused muscles. As most male anal enthusiasts know the sphincter tends to be the epicenter of sensation – it squeezes. Deep inside there tends to be far less constriction of your cock. However, at least after using this plug, her anal canal feels much like a sheath and I can feel far more sensation along the entire length of my cock.

Finally, while my GF was always quick to orgasm, she seems to orgasm more quickly and with greater intensity after making use of the plug.

In closing, and based recent experiences, I would highly recommend anal stretching for anyone who enjoys anal as we do. It’s proven quite beneficial.

Message: Ass to Mouth August

Rimmer: We do ass to mouth sometimes but last month decided to make it a regular thing, so timely that you are encouraging Ass to Mouth August. we have been having ass to mouth most times for the last month or so and it certainly will be the norm by the end of August. Thanks for the encouraging challenge, it makes Anal even more sensual.

Glad to hear that you’re enjoying it and it’s becoming a daily activity for you as a result!

Message: Anal Only Since Doing Exclusively Anal Porn, Part II

Anna: Hello, I wrote to you at the beginning of this year, sorry for not replying to your question sooner. To explain my situation better, I’ll rewind to the start of my sexuality.

I started very young with an older and more experienced boyfriend. It went really well, until he started asking if I wanted to try anal sex. I always declined, but he insisted so much that I finally agreed to get it over with.

I hated everything related to the preparation (he helped me and it embarrassed me a little), but I enjoyed the sex itself much more than I originally anticipated. I told him so, and I expected we would do anal once in a while in the future, but instead, he took me anally basically every time we had sex.

Eventually, we split up, and I had two boyfriends after that. A similar thing happened with both of them: we had a normal relationship, then at one point I mentioned in a discussion that I tried and enjoyed anal sex, then my boyfriend immediately asked to try it, we had anal sex, and from that point our sex was mostly anal.

When I got with my fourth boyfriend, I didn’t want this to happen, so I was careful not to mention anal to him. Then COVID happened (I was a student back then), I got alone a lot, and like many girls during that period, I started an OnlyFans (solo at first). It made much more money than I thought, so I took requests, and most were anal. I complied, and when most of my videos became anal, my OnlyFans boomed, and I started getting very negative or even hate feedback every time a video wasn’t anal, so I announced that from now on, I’d be anal only, and I got even more popular.

Meanwhile, when restrictions became less tight, I resumed standard sex with my boyfriend. Doing anal only on a professional level and normal sex personally was fine with me. My relationship with my boyfriend became serious, though, and I felt like I had to confess to him I had an OnlyFans. He reacted much better than I feared, it even seemed to arouse him.

Then I got suggestions to do actual porn movies, and I got curious, and I contacted studios. Their offers were mostly anal, and to avoid getting my fan base angry, I decided to continue being anal only. I finally did my first studio video with an actor, and everything went fine, I rather enjoyed it, people were happy and it worked well.

Thanks for the update. It sounds like anal has always been an important part of your life, and going anal only both professionally and personally has been beneficial for you. I hope that you continue to stay anal only for good now.

Message: A Decade of Anal Only

Jane: Hey there! I’ve been loving the anal only lifestyle for ten amazing years now. I thought I’d share a bit about my journey and what has kept me on this anal-only road, and a little about my slightly unconventional living situation.

A decade ago, my love life felt like a well-worn path, comfortable but pretty predictable. Anal was like a hushed secret, but it piqued my curiosity. I discovered the AOL community and felt like I’d stumbled onto a hidden treasure. So, I decided to take the plunge and, let me tell you, I haven’t regretted it for a moment.

I know a lot of people worry about the “loose anus” thing. Yes, my bum has gotten more flexible over the years, but boy, has it been a fun ride! Our society has this tight-is-right mindset. But bodies are meant to change, adapt, and let’s not forget, experience pleasure! As my anus became more flexible, my sexual experiences escalated to levels I never imagined.

Enter the double anal part of my story. Single anal was awesome, but as my bum got more accommodating, I decided it was time to up the ante. Double anal seemed daunting at first, but with plenty of prep (and a metric ton of lube!), it’s been a source of power, pleasure, and even pride. Today, I wear my “double anal only” badge with a sense of accomplishment, and my newfound bum flexibility has made this exciting journey possible.

As a double anal only woman, I live with two fantastic partners. We share an understanding, a unique bond, and a mutual respect for each other’s pleasure. Living together means navigating the practicalities of life while maintaining the thrill of our sexual dynamic. There’s always open communication, loads of fun, and, of course, plenty of double anal! And yes, every time we have sex, it’s with both of them in my ass together. When only one of them is around, we do oral instead.

For anyone who’s worried about anal only changing your body, remember this: change is growth. It’s about pushing boundaries, exploring new forms of pleasure, and most importantly, embracing every part of yourself. If you’re thinking about starting the anal only journey, dive in! This community is here to offer support, share experiences, and shower understanding. We’re all about acceptance, celebration, and breaking societal norms.

Here’s to another decade of living anal only, challenging norms, and embracing the wild, wonderful, and pleasurable changes. Remember, there’s no shame in pursuing pleasure, no disgrace in body changes, and absolutely no fear in being your true self.

Message: Ex-Mormon Anal Only

Liz94: I grew up in the LDS church with a strong belief in saving myself for marriage and preserving my virginity. So when I first heard about the anal only lifestyle, I was intrigued by the idea of maintaining my vaginal virginity while still having fulfilling sexual experiences. I never imagined that I would end up fully embracing the lifestyle, but that’s exactly what happened.

When I first started experimenting with anal sex, it was simply a way to preserve my virginity and satisfy my sexual desires. But as I learned more about the lifestyle, I discovered that there was so much more to it. The focus on anal pleasure, the deeper connection with my partner, and the increased intimacy all had a profound impact on me.

I soon realized that this was more than just a temporary solution; it was a way of life. After leaving the Mormon church, I was faced with the question of whether to continue with the anal only lifestyle or not. But after much thought and consideration, I decided to embrace it fully. The benefits of anal sex, both physically and emotionally, far outweighed any societal norms or expectations.

I was finally able to fully embrace my sexuality and enjoy the deep pleasure that comes with anal sex. I’m now a firm believer in the anal only lifestyle and I’ve never looked back. It’s been a journey filled with growth, self-discovery, and amazing sexual experiences. And I’m so grateful for this blog for providing a supportive community and a wealth of information to help me along the way.