In a follow-up to last week’s featured forum post, the conversation continues in very interesting ways:

The elimination of clitoral stimulation has lead to much longer, intense orgasms and multiple orgasms. She never had multiple orgasms with clitoral stimulation. As well, it seems like she has these really great orgasms that wipe her out, yet she can become aroused again in a very short period of time. It really has been a great thing for us. The only down side to this is that she’s doing less ass to mouth. We talked about it, and both realized that she usually did it when the clitoral stimulation became to much for her, but she wasn’t ready to cum. After I pointed out the fact I really missed it, she has made more of an effort, but it just doesn’t seem as exciting to her as it did. Don’t get me wrong, she still does ass to mouth just about every time, it just went from 3 or 4 times to once. I’m thankful she’s willing to do it at all, let alone enjoy doing it.

So far this weekend we’ve had sex Friday night, Saturday morning, Saturday afternoon, and Saturday night. Then, she woke me up about 2AM and told me she had been having a sex dream and we fucked again. She got off every time, with the exception of Saturday morning. She’s still asleep now, but I’m hoping she’ll be up to it this morning when she wakes, as I’m ready to go writing this. 

Whenever I think about it, I’m in constant disbelief I have a wife that loves anal sex as much as I do, to the point of the total elimination of direct vaginal or clitoral stimulation. Every day I still feel like I’m going to wake up and find it was all a crazy sex dream.

LuvMyWifesAss, Anal Only Lifestyle forum

It makes sense that without clitoral stimulation, she’s not as horny and willing to do ass to mouth. Personally, I’d tell her to start rubbing her clit again if she wants to that I could get some more ass to mouth. Once a session is alright, obviously, if that’s okay with you but I would want more ass to mouth, not less over time. It seems like she would do it on her own being so horny. Now she does it because you were missing it and really wanted it.

hasani2222, Anal Only Lifestyle forum

Quite the opposite. The reason she was doing more ass to mouth before is because the clitoral stimulation would become too intense for her and she would need to stop. Otherwise, she would cum before she was ready. It’s almost like anal only, without clit stimulation, is self regulating. She now has longer deeper orgasms and only cums when she’s ready to. It’s as if anal alone gives her the perfect amount of stimulation and cause her orgasms to happen only when they are supposed to. 

She’s now firmly in agreement that she enjoys sex more without clitoral stimulation, and that her orgasms are better. 

With clit stimulation her orgasms come on fast and are done. She feels less satisfied. Clitoral orgasms, even with anal stimulation seem very localized, where her anal only orgasms seem to encompass her whole body.

LuvMyWifesAss, Anal Only Lifestyle forum

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From an Anal Only Lifestyle forum discussion on anal sex and the anal only lifestyle and the effects it has on people, user throwawaymedfree expands upon something she posted previously on reddit, which we also quoted on this blog recently.

Unfortunately I don’t feel as much in my vagina. It feels like the man is having sex with just the vagina. With my ass though, it feels like he’s having sex with my whole body. I can feel the shape of him and how he throbs inside me. As he thrusts, the “full” feeling goes not only in my ass, but my whole pelvic region (so my pussy is throbbing as well) and inside the stomach, the chest, and my hands and feet get weak and tingly. Because of this, it feels deeper and more intimate. My lips and breasts become swollen as a direct response to the sensation as well. 

It’s intense. Fulfilling. Feminine. It makes me feel the most comfortable in my skin during anal sex, and all I am focusing on is the pleasure. I am blown away at the striking difference between me and the man, both physically and fundamentally. I like being the receiver of pleasure and being done unto. 

Anal takes the “dirtiest” part of the woman’s body and turns it into something desirable, erotic, and even preferable. I feel beautiful when I am anally riding a man. If a man can take my asshole, he’ll take everything else.

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Anonymous: Hey, so I’m a virgin but I masturbate A LOT and really want to have sex. I use a dildo in my ass a lot and have a butt plug now too that I love so I know I really want to do anal but I always imagined I would do vag too. But I see that you are telling virgins to skip it and go right to anal only. I like the idea but I don’t know if I should do it or not? Should I also stop masturbating that way? What do I do if a guy wants my pussy? Or do guys all want anal only now? Please help!

Yes! Definitely go anal only and stay a vaginal virgin. The biggest regret I hear from anal only women is that they spent any time at all on vaginal and they wish they had stayed a vaginal virgin. While it’s not the worst thing in the world so long as you end up anal only in the end, it’s an unfortunate and unnecessary detour to go down the path of vaginal before settling on anal. If you have the choice, make the anal only choice. You can always change your mind later and lose your vaginal virginity, but so long as the idea of being an anal only vaginal virgin is available and interesting to you, I highly recommend taking it!

It’s definitely becoming increasingly popular for women in your position to choose the anal only vaginal virgin path, for a variety of reasons. Anal has become much more mainstream and normal, and women are both experimenting with it more as well as less afraid to be open about preferring it and focusing on it as their primary or exclusive source of pleasure. As more women open up about that preference and their choice to avoid vaginal completely, it normalizes that idea for other women and gives them the confidence to choose to do the same as well.

It sounds like you already really love anal and prefer it, so the decision seems quite obvious. Vaginal will never be as good as anal, and you’ll always prefer anal, so with the likelihood that you would end up anal only eventually even if you did try vaginal, you will most likely regret giving up your vaginal virginity. I know several who started out anal only vaginal virgins for years before finally trying vaginal later in life, and being supremely disappointed in it, so there’s that to consider as well. It’s just not worth wasting any time with at all.

If you’re concerned about wanting to have children later in life, there are several options. Some anal only women see the only purpose of the vagina and vaginal sex being impregnation and will choose to lose their virginity in order to get pregnant but never for anything else. Others want to permanently maintain that virginity even when getting pregnant and opt to use a different strategy, having anal sex and pushing their partner’s semen out so it runs down into their spread-open vagina, repeating as necessary until pregnant, and in that way able to get pregnant from anal sex only without even once having vaginal intercourse.

And finally, yes, you should stop any vaginal masturbation as well, and focus just on anal penetration and pleasure. Vaginal stimulation just confuses and distracts from developing anal pleasure and orgasms, and if you already really enjoy anal, you should focus on that and work on mastering it.

Good luck, and enjoy. You’ll never regret being an anal only vaginal virgin.

I don’t see anal only as a firm of denial for me. My orgasms have always come from a blend of sensations. Anal is simply superior in that aspect.
We have gine anal only for a number of reasons. One of which is the extreme intimacy. Vaginal has to much risk of pregnancy that it had become a source of anxiety for me. However with anal we are both more relaxed. The sensations are better. He can orgasm inside me with no fear. We are physically connected during both of our orgasms so it is infinately more intimate than vaginal ever was or could be.
We even find that due to the shape and length of our bodies we physically fit together better in some of our positions. We are in contact head to toe and that is an amazing feeling on so many levels.
Like we were designed for it…

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Talk to any woman regularly engages in anal sex, regardless of whether she’s anal only or just combines anal with vaginal, and there’s a very good chance that she will say that anal sex feels better and more pleasurable than vaginal. Everyone is different and can have different preferences, but the majority of people with experience with anal sex all end up preferring anal by far.

This reinforces a principle of the anal only lifestyle that vaginal sex is for procreation and anal sex is for recreation. Because vaginal sex is generally less pleasurable, and requires additional forms of birth control to avoid its primary function of reproduction, anal naturally makes sense as the default, normal, natural form of sex for pleasure purposes.

Anal is sex purely for pleasure and intimacy without the baggage of reproduction. You just get to enjoy the best sex can be, without ever having to worry about getting pregnant or the impulses and emotions that can surround that.

Anonymous: I’m a self-described anal only slut and I just can’t ever seem to get enough of big things in my ass. I’ve been doing anal since I first started masturbating and knew right away I liked to put my finger in my butt more than my pussy, and pretty much have been anal only ever since, only trying it in my pussy a few times along the way, but otherwise it’s barely been used and I’m done trying, I just want it all in my ass all the time! I cum easily from anal and never have from my pussy.

I like using big toys, stretching my ass as much as I can and making it bigger until it gets easy and I go even bigger yet. I really like fucking guys one on one still too and it feels great but I’m compelled to stretch it more and more as well. I started doing double anal pretty often last year and that’s a lot of fun, both on my own with toys and with two guys at once. I think that’s my current favorite, but I’m getting into fisting now too and I’d like to start doing triple anal.

But how big should I go? Should I stop somewhere or just keep chasing my need to go bigger and bigger? I know how to be safe and not hurt myself and I always stop if something starts to hurt, I don’t want any long-term injuries or ill effects, and I don’t have any problems as a result of my passion even though I’ve been at it for years now. I saw you posted about some girls going double anal only and I’d like to try that at least for a while. I wear a 2″ plug every day and sometimes bigger, should I go larger with that?

Thanks for the message! Sounds like you have an awesome and healthy anal only sex life! While not everyone craves going to bigger and bigger sizes, there’s nothing at all wrong with that desire and I think it’s totally normal as you really get into anal and the anal only lifestyle, especially when combined with a slut lifestyle.

Go as big as you want and keep chasing that craving. As long as you play it safe, you aren’t going to hurt yourself or develop long-term issues. And don’t worry about getting “loose” either, assholes don’t really get loose, they just increase their upper size limit. And you can have a lot more fun with a well-trained, flexible asshole than an overly tight one! So definitely keep doing what you enjoy most.

Double anal is definitely becoming more popular lately. It’s been a popular porn genre for a while, but in recent years I’ve seen a huge uptick in real women starting to practice it, some occasionally, some regularly. I know several who have gone “double anal only”, as you mentioned, and who have made it their primary sexual activity, only having sex with two or more partners penetrating them anally at the same time. If that sounds appealing to you and you have the partners to make it work on a regular basis, it could definitely be something to explore. It’s a very fun idea for the right person.

There are a lot of large plugs out there. If you find your everyday plug really comfortable and not pushing your limits anymore, you might try going to a larger one as your primary one, which will help keep you relaxed open for bigger and better things.

Good luck, and let us know how things go. I’m sure you’re in for a very fun time going forward.

As part of an ongoing discussion on the Anal Only Lifestyle forum about anal sex and the anal only lifestyle with the exclusion of clitoral stimulation, this excellent post was made:

How does one truly know they need clit stimulation to orgasm without truly trying to have one anal only? Just as many women have vaginal sex many times before they learn how to orgasm, the same holds true for anal. As well, if the woman has a hang-up about eliminating clitoral stimulation, the likelihood she will orgasm from anal only is low. She has to go into it willingly. 

As many of you know, my wife and I have been anal only for many years now. For a long time our anal only to anal with clit stimulation was about 60/40, then 50/50. Then, about the first of the year, she began using her Hitachi Magic Wand and it seemed like she wanted to use clit stimulation every time we had sex. I talked to her about anal only April and asked if she would be open to doing anal only, without clit stimulation, all month. I made it clear that, if she didn’t think she could do it with an open mind, we should not try it. She seemed a little skeptical, but agreed she would try to do it. I was confused by her skepticism, as it had only been a few months since she had orgasms from anal only.

The first half of the first week of April she was still on her period, when she usually only gets off about once anyway. She wasn’t able to get off. As a side note, we are trying to have anal sex every day this year (more about that coming in another post). For about another week she wasn’t able to get off either and seemed to be a little frustrated. I told her she could use her wand, but she was determined to not to. It seemed like that did it. She was able to have a small orgasm that night. The next night she built up to it a little more and was able to have a little better orgasm, but still seemed disappointed. The following night, we were both tired and did a quickie just to keep up with our daily commitment. The same was true for the next morning (she rarely gets off in the morning anyway). 

The next night, I entered her and just remained buried to the hilt in her ass. After a few minutes, she began to grind back on me. I could tell she was much more into it this time. Rather than the quick orgasm brought on by anal with clit stimulation, this orgasm plateaued, as her anal only orgasms had in the past. She maintained this blissful state for about five minutes, then gradually came down. She admitted she had forgot how good her anal only orgasms were. Later that night, i rolled over so I was spooning her and she began to push her ass back toward me. I quickly lubed my cock and pushed inside her as she pushed back against me. Again, i just held my cock buried in her ass as she rhythmically worked her muscles so that they almost sucked my cock. Again her orgasm built to a plateau on the edge of release, where she remained for nearly 10 minutes. Through raspy breathes I could hear her saying, “Oh god, oh god, oh god,” as i felt her ass begin to pulse and engulf me ever deeper. It was then she let out a muffled scream as she began to cum, causing me to release my second load of the night deep within her. Unlike a clitoral orgasm, she didn’t immediately come down. My cock remained in her ass, softening as we both drifted off to sleep again.

The next morning I hit the snooze button several times before we got up, causing us to forgo our (more often than not) morning session. We kept shooting each other the kind of looks only lovers do over breakfast. As I left for work, she gave me a passionate kiss and said she hoped we could repeat the previous night’s performance. That night it was much the same, but her plateau lasted a little longer. Once again, she had an intense orgasm, but it slowly subsided, unlike those she has with clitoral stimulation. 

The next morning, we did our usual routine, we both go to the bathroom, then return to bed to snuggle and have sex. Although my wife usually enjoys the closeness of sex in the morning, she rarely gets off. But this time it was different. She asked me to lay still inside her. Once again, I felt her begin working her ass on my cock. And, once again, she experienced a plateau on the edge or orgasm that lasted a number of minutes. Then release, followed by a gentle letdown. 

It’s been nearly a week since then and she has managed to orgasm at least once every single day. It seems like her libido remains much higher, almost as though the clitoral stimulation was keeping her from orgasming more often before. My wife has admitted she has really enjoyed the last week and a half and wants to go all month without clitoral stimulation, but says she doesn’t know about giving up clitoral stimulation. She says it takes her too long to get off with anal only and sometimes just needs a quick release. 

I’m curious to see how the rest of the month goes, and how she’ll do if/or when she decides she wants to reincorporate clitoral stimulation.

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Note: while this article is also about vaginal penetration, the data shared as it relates to anal orgasm is still relevant and interesting for the topics this blog explores.

At Lioness, we are all about exploring our bodies through the biofeedback graphs to learn how our orgasms and pleasure change from things like weed lube, concussions, alcohol and more. We always theoretically knew from a study done in the 80’s that anal muscles contract in a similar fashion to the pelvic floor and vaginal muscles during an orgasm, but my friend Charles was right…we should be practicing what we preach! So, I got two Lioness vibrators, thick water-based lube, and went to double penetration town and lived to tell the story.

After comparison, she discovers that while anal and vaginal orgasms trigger muscle contractions in a very similar way, anal orgasms are much stronger and more intense:

As you can see, they’re almost identical to each other during the same session except for two distinct differences:

The data from the anal Lioness toy is registering at a MUCH higher force throughout the entire masturbation session and the orgasm itself.

The anal orgasm has a larger peak-to-peak amplitude, meaning those anal muscles relax and squeeze stronger than my vaginal muscles during orgasm.

Read the full article and see the associated charts at Lioness

So asks a Quora user, and fortunately they are almost universally given the correct and obvious answer, to only have anal sex and not waste any time on vaginal.

What’s the problem here? If anal sex is what gets you off, then the obvious answer here seems to be to engage in more anal sex.

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Anonymous: I love love love your blog and loved your blogs on Tumblr when you were there. I’m 28, and a vaginal virgin by choice since I was 16 when I first had sex. I have never liked my vagina or vaginal sex, and always been turned off by it and wished I didn’t even have it. I’ve always played with my ass, and barely even tried playing with my cunt after I did it a few times and hated everything about it. It just feels gross and wrong to me and turns me off immediately.

So instead I’ve been putting things up my ass as long as I can remember and having anal sex only for the last 12 years and I plan to never have vaginal sex. The idea of being anal only forever and keep my cunt totally unused and untouched makes me really happy and so that’s my goal. I love everything about anal and nothing about vaginal. I do it all—ass to mouth, permanent clit denial for the last decade, even double anal I love! I’m engaged to a wonderful man who I have amazing anal sex with almost every day and who feels the same way and wants to keep me a vaginal virgin too.

My only hesitation at all is that we want to have children, and while it makes sense that vaginal sex is for getting pregnant and anal sex is for everything else, I just don’t ever want to get fucked in my cunt even for that. I read that some people have been able to get pregnant without having vaginal sex, can you give us some advice on that? I hope to get pregnant but never have to get fucked any way but in my ass. Thank you!

You sound like a wonderful woman and your fiance is a lucky man. Everything you described about yourself is exactly what I would consider an ideal partner in every way.

As for getting pregnant without having vaginal sex, that’s a topic of growing interest among anal only women, and there are multiple women in the anal only community who have success with that goal.

Some have gone to a fertility clinic and undergone in-vitro fertilization treatments in order to achieve that goal. This is a very successful way to go, but also expensive.

Some will have anal sex like normal and then pull out and spread open her vagina to ejaculate inside without penetrating. The use of a speculum or other tool to help hold it open can aid with this, as can certain medical lubricants in the vagina to help his semen penetrate more deeply quickly.

My personal preference is a variation of the above, where anal sex is done normally in a doggy style position but he ejaculates inside and then spreads open your vagina while you push out his semen and it runs down into your vagina. Potentially paired with the above lubricant technique, this can be very effective and is a pure anal technique that involves anal sex to completion. It can take repeat attempts over several months to be successful, but that just means more anal sex to enjoy!

Good luck to the both of you.