Anonymous: I sent a message recently about wether or not I should lose my vaginal virginity to my boyfriend or not and in glad to say we talked and I haven’t! He is completely understanding and more than willing to stick to anal only. We have decided we want to be even more adventurous with our anal play. We already have his friends join us every now and again but i was wondering how to get even more adventurous? What do you recommend? Nothing is too crazy

I’m glad to hear that it worked out and that you were able to communicate your desires to him and he’s understanding that you want to stay an anal only vaginal virgin. That’s great. Communication is key, and is usually the most effective way of resolving such things and figuring out effective compromises. Keep it up!

As for being more adventurous, there are plenty of ways you could do that. Not knowing what you already do, there might be some overlap with existing activities for you, but I’ll list some ideas anyway. Not all may interest you, and while they’re listed in increasing order, they aren’t all necessarily dependent on previous ones.

• Experiment with clitoral denial and only orgasming from anal, which can have a similar amplification effect on arousal as edging and clitoral/vaginal orgasm denial does for a lot of women. If you like edging, you can actually do anal edging as well, which can be a lot of fun.
• Start incorporating regular ass to mouth into your routine. This pairs well with group sex with multiple men as they can take turns between your ass and your mouth.
• Start wearing a butt plug regularly and gradually training your ass for larger toys—plugs, beads, dildos, etc.
• After working up in size, try double anal. You can try this with toys first, then once you’re confident you’re ready, try it with your boyfriend and a friend of his.
• Anal fisting and large toy play can be a lot of fun once you’re ready for it.
• If you’re serious about remaining a vaginal virgin, you can help symbolize this with labia piercings that close off your pussy. This isn’t strictly necessary, of course, but some like the look and the symbolism of doing so. Plenty of women are anal only or vaginal virgins without doing this, though!

Hopefully those give you a few ideas and starting points to choose from. No doubt my followers can also reply and add some ideas of their own. Keep us updated with what you decide to do and how things progress for you! Enjoy!

Anonymous: I didn’t send you any messages earlier in the month but I did No Pussy November all month on my own (I’m single). I wore a plug part of the day every day, masturbated with my dildo at least once daily and sometimes more, and only orgasmed from anal. I had a lot of fun! I’ve always been able to cum from anal so it was easy to just not use my clit to masturbate. I think I’m going to just keep going with it, it is a fun way to masturbate. Might be hard to explain when I meet a guy, though!

I’m glad to hear it was a good experience for you and that you’re going to stay anal only! That’s the whole point of No Pussy November, encouraging people to try anal only for themselves to see how it actually works for them in their life, rather than just a fantasy or a fun idea. A lot of people think that it wouldn’t work well for them until they actually try it and see that, in fact, it’s great and they want more. So, always good to see more people having that experience!

As you say, though, it’s definitely easier to decide to become anal only on your own and commit to it in your solo life than it is when trying to incorporate it with new partners as well. You could take different approaches depending on how serious you are about being anal only going forward. You can always stay anal only on your own and have that be your thing for yourself, while being more flexible with partners and trying to shift things to more anal or anal mostly/only over time, or just be up front about what you want and tell them that you prefer anal and don’t want to do vaginal, and seek partners who share the same preference for anal. There are certainly men out there who want the same, even if not everyone does, and for the right guy, finding someone like you would be their lucky day!

No Pussy November 2018 has officially come to a close! Thanks to everyone who has participated and shared their stories and experiences both publicly and privately. Feel free to continue sharing, send us your conclusions, let us know if you’ve decided to stop or continue staying anal only, etc. Tumblr has disabled NSFW tag search, so we can no longer search for terms like “no pussy november” to find posts made on the subject—please share with us via an ask or chat if you make such posts.

If you didn’t get a chance to participate in No Pussy November this year but would like to try going anal only, why not give it a try anyway? Whether you start out for a few days, a week, a month, or more, it doesn’t have to be November or April during our official challenge months to try going anal only. You can, and should, do it at any point!

So I’ve gone all this month so far with out touching my clit and I’m able to orgasm from anal, think I should just keep going strictly anal only or should I phase my clit in and use it a little more? And am I still considered a vaginal virgin if I have only fingered my pussy once?

Congratulations on being anal only and going without touching your clit all month! If you’re able to orgasm from anal and you’ve gone this long without clitoral stimulation, why not try to keep going and see how long you can go without it? There’s nothing inherently wrong with clitoral stimulation, of course, and if you really want to keep doing it, by all means go ahead, but if you enjoy not doing it and only orgasming from anal, I’d suggest that you continue to build on your month-long streak so far and see where it takes you.

Vaginal virginity most commonly refers to not having had vaginal intercourse with a partner, so yes, you are a vaginal virgin if you’ve only fingered yourself vaginally. Is remaining a vaginal virgin and being anal only long-term something that interests you?

Anonymous: So Daddy used his pussy before the end of no pussy November. It was amazing but im disappointed for not making it to the end. Sad to say he doesn’t want to do anal only anymore. What can I do to change his mind??

What are his reasons for not wanting to continue with anal only? With a specific idea of his reasoning, there might be different approaches you can take, but in a general sense, you can back away from it a little bit for a while but still maintain a strong anal focus and positivity, wear plugs, play with your ass, tell him how hot it makes you and how sexy you feel when he fucks your ass, etc., and see if he wants to try anal only again in the future. Some people dive straight into it and it sticks, others ease into it very gradually over time, and others yet cycle back and forth for a while before settling one way or the other.

Anonymous: Sadly I don’t think we will stay anal only this month has been awesome, finding out I love anal more than anything else, the amazing orgasms, Ahh oh well; I’m going to keep following to hopefully be able to keep up the dream 🙁 I will continue my solo play and get it when I can. Hubs just loves the vagina too much. Thank you all for your lovely posts.

I’m sorry to hear that he doesn’t want it as much as you do, but don’t give up hope for it just yet. Not everyone gets there immediately, but it can still be possible to gradually move towards anal only over time. Try to come up with a compromise with him where you incorporate anal into your routine together even still doing vaginal. You can be completely anal only with your solo play, and get as much anal with him as you can. Some end up “anal always” where they still do vaginal but always (or usually) at least end sex with anal. Others go back to vaginal but then do anal on a regular interval as well, or intermittently go back to a period of anal only, whether for a week at a time, or another month a few times a year. Over time, who knows? He might come around.

Good luck!

Anonymous: Anal is my favorite thing, it feels amazing every time. My boyfriend hasnt fucked my pussy in almost 2 months and i could care less if he ever does again. His friend and his girlfriend wanna try it out too, so they asked us for pointers, and i hope she likes being an anal slut as much as i do.

It really is the best thing ever. You should tell him that you want to commit to being anal only with him and make it official if you haven’t already. (It is No Pussy November, after all! The perfect time for an anal only commitment.)

It’s a really positive thing for anal-loving women and anal only women to help their friends do anal and go anal only themselves, because that direct connection and trust can really help people open up to the idea of doing anal and have a good experience, countering the myths and bad experiences that are still somewhat pervasive in the world. Do your best, make sure they’re both well-informed and ready for anal together, and I’m sure she’ll have an awesome first experience and want to keep doing anal more and more after.

bisexualattentionwhore: I think I’m going to continue being anal only for the rest of November. What do you guys think? I don’t think my pussy deserves to be filled anyway

Go for it! Being anal only is always better. By the end of the month you probably won’t want to go back to using your pussy anyway.

thatchocolatecoveredloli: It’s been very interesting and I kind of want to keep going. Me and Daddy talked about waiting one entire month before he uses my pussy again. It surprises me how much of an anal slut I’ve become. I never thought I could be so satisfied from having only having my ass filled over and over again. Should I…can I keep going?

Yes, you should keep going! Go for at least a whole month at a minimum. It sounds like you’re loving it—so why stop now? Wait until the end of the month to reassess. If you’re still having fun then, stay anal only.

thatchocolatecoveredloli: You guys helped convince Daddy and me! He says it sounds like a good idea. I think he just likes filling me up completely. No pussy November challenge accepted. ?

Anonymous: I’ve talked to my husband before about wanting to go anal only. I love it so much, pretty much wear a plug all day but I don’t think he loves it as much as I do, how do I get him to want to be only anal with me. He gets all the forplay fun bjs, footjob, boibs, hands. I tell him I love him and his body, but I get none of that, just light kissing and fondling right before sex. He never wants to finger my ass or ass worship nothing. I live vicariously through this blog lool much love!

Keep communicating your desires, and try to have actual conversations about it and work out if you can find a mutually acceptable compromise between your two positions on it.

You can also work to that point more incrementally: rather than jumping straight to wanting to go anal only, first work to start having anal sex more often, then add something like anal only weekends into your routine, then one week a month, then try going anal only for a full month, etc., and then after that see if he’s willing to try it longer term.