Anonymous: I really like anal, like a lot; I don’t get much pleasure from vaginal sex / vaginal penetration, so I’m thinking about being anal only. My problem with that is I love clitoral stimulation. I mean I’ve had anal sex were I didn’t touch or barely touched my clit but I like to masterbate using my clit. Is it bad I still want to masterbate with my clitoris?

Fundamentally “anal only” means “no vaginal penetration for sexual purposes”. A lot of anal only women still use clitoral stimulation if they want/need to. Do what works best for you, and don’t let a desire for clitoral stimulation otherwise prevent you from going anal only.

I would suggest that if you masturbate with your clit while being anal only, make sure to have a finger, dildo or butt plug in your ass at the same time, to remain anal-centric in your masturbation and work towards just using your clit to get over the edge to orgasm.

That said, I do encourage exploring anal without clitoral stimulation, at least from time to time, and figuring out what sort of pleasure you can experience and unlock without your clit overpowering things.

Anonymous: I’m a girl who’s never masturbated or played with my clit much, I like the idea of sex being more about mutual pleasure and it just seems selfish to rub my clit and makes me feel bad. I’ve been reading your blog for a while and I want to go anal only, and my boyfriend is on board, but I need to train my ass before I can do it every day. We do it sometimes together but I need to do it more often than he has time for. How can I get past the feeling of it being masturbation so I can do it more?

Inherently there’s nothing wrong with masturbation, but I’ve known a number of women who have a similar perspective as your own, and as long as you’re happy and it’s what you want, there’s nothing wrong with avoiding it either, especially if you have a healthy sex life.

I’ve also talked with other women in similar scenarios, where they or their partner wants to be anal only but struggle with pain/discomfort from doing it too frequently and need more practice, but don’t want to masturbate and so end up in a somewhat frustrating cycle.

I’d suggest considering it as not being something selfish because you’re preparing and training yourself for a mutually pleasurable anal only future together. Make your boyfriend a part of it as often as you can, but think of your solo anal masturbation time as anal training for when you are together, and I think it will come a lot easier to you and you’ll be able and eager to go anal only sooner than you think.

thecuckqueanchronicles: My Daddy returns home today, and I awoke this morning with a deep ache… literally an empty, longing feeling… needing my ass filled with Daddy’s cock. I am such a butt slut for Daddy, and He always says that’s one of the many reasons He loves me so! ?

I can’t recall the last time Daddy used my pussy, and just that thought alone actually makes my pussy throb. But it does not throb to be filled. No, that’s reserved for my asshole and my mouth only. What I mean is that knowing Daddy only wants to use my other two holes, leaving my pussy untouched… well, it’s just super fucking hot. That’s the only way I can describe it. I prefer that my pussy be denied and that I am a filthy little insatiable butt slut for my Daddy. And, of course, my mouth is His other fuckhole. ?

I do remember that the last time that Daddy shoved His cock in my pussy, however long ago that was – just for a few strokes, before destroying my asshole – I felt a delicious, searing pain. It was so tight, and Daddy fucked it so deep and rough. Since it doesn’t get used much, yet I still practice my Kegels, it stays nice and tight like that. I remember Daddy grunting and groaning that I have such a tight, wet, slutty pussy. That made me feel very proud! ?

But, as He told me then, what Daddy truly craves is that ass! And so He fucked it, deep and hard and rough, just like we both like it. Daddy has trained my asshole to take His cock very well, but there’s still always that initial pain when He forces His hard cock inside me because, no matter how often He fucks it, my asshole stays tight, too. That pain really gets me off, though! I just love it! And Daddy says He loves the noises and whimpers and cries I make when I’m in pain like that. I simply love to suffer for my Daddy and please Him by being a big girl and just taking it! ?

So, yes… my asshole needs Daddy’s cock in it something terrible. And I will thank Daddy profusely when He gets home and decides to make use of His property. I ALWAYS thank Daddy when He uses my asshole. That’s usually how it starts and ends with us. He forces His cock in balls-deep with the first stroke and I ball up my fists and whimper and cry out, “Thank You, Daddy! Thank You for using me!” And when Daddy then pushes my face into the bed, holding me there while He violates my little hole, there’s still a muffled “Thank You, Daddy!” screamed into the matress.

And then, when He’s finally painting my insides with His thick, hot ropes of cum, my legs shake and twitch, and I buck on His cock, and I cry out again, “Thank You for dumping Your load inside me, Daddy!” And I mean every single word of it. Being used by Him fills me with an inner peace. It re-centers me. It reminds me who I am, of Who owns me.

Early on, when I would thank Daddy for using my hole, He’d reply back, “No, thank YOU, slut.” Because Daddy is still a loving, caring, concerned Daddy, no matter how rough He may get with me. I did not want to disappoint Daddy, so I let it go at that for a long time. But it just never quite set well with me in my submissive heart. Finally, one day after He buttfucked me, we had that exchange again, and I spoke up. “I don’t like that, Daddy. I should be the one thanking You only… for finding me worthy, for using my holes, for anointing me with Your cum. It feels funny to me when You say that.” I was so worried I’d make Daddy feel bad by speaking my mind. He thought for a moment and then said He understood.“ Thank you for being such an obedient little cum receptacle for Daddy and draining His balls so well, my little butt slut. Now, does that sound better for you, slut?”

I just about melted into the bed! Sploosh! ?

“Yes, Daddy! I love that! Thank You, Daddy!”

And so, that’s how it’s been ever since with us. I do not want to be thanked for “letting” Daddy fuck my holes. Daddy owns all of my holes and has access to them whenever He needs them. I should always be the one thanking Him for choosing to use them. He could always choose to just jerk off or use His Fleshlight or whatever the case may be… but if He chooses me, that’s an honor I don’t take lightly. It’s a privilege for Daddy to make me useful to Him. And being blessed with a nice, big load of His cum?? That’s the ultimate reward. It makes me feel like I’ve served my Daddy well and pleased Him. ?

There are currently no others/thirds/cuckcakes/girlfriends/sluts/whatevers in our lives, and there’s so much going on in our vanilla lives that it’s not a priority at the moment. So, until there are other butt sluts in His life to help shoulder some of the load (so to speak, ha!), it’s doubly important that I honor my duty as His submissive in keeping my Daddy drained and satiated and relaxed.

I cherish my role as Daddy’s Cuckquean Cum Receptacle! Just that title alone gives me shivers. I don’t want to cum. I don’t need to cum. I only want Daddy to cum. Daddy needs to cum. His orgasm is the priority here, and it is quite enough for me. It satiates me. It pleases me. I simply can’t wait for Daddy to destroy my ass, to leave me a gaped, used-up, sloppy, cummed-in mess… just like any proper cuckquean cum receptacle should be! ?

Have a beautiful weekend, you kinksters you!!

~xoxoxo ?

Anonymous: Thank you for the training. I’ve been following for almost a year and been trying to follow as best I can to become the perfect anal only girl. I’ve started and stopped a lot but every time I get further, and tonight I want to start it and stick with it. I’m going to try and go anal only and not ever go back to my pussy. Wish me luck!

Good luck! You can do it, you know you want it, you know it’s right for you, and if you’re this far into it, you know you won’t be happy until you’re anal only for good.

Hi, it’s the girl you tagged 20180705 again. Nearly one month after my latest ask, I thought it was time to give you some feedback. We’re still anal only, my boyfriend is very happy, and he’s getting me more involved into the lifestyle: he gifted me some backless panties and a jewel butt plug to wear, and sometimes he talks about us getting tattoos. Our sex life really changed: before it was mostly routine with mediocre length, now it’s much more frequent and either longer or much shorter.

Actually, he does a lot of quickies now, which he never did before: mostly before we have to go outside or before friends come over, he directly fucks my ass with both of us barely undressed and little foreplay, then plugs me. It doesn’t affect the frequency of longer sessions, so I don’t mind and it actually turns me on. In fact, my view on sex has changed completely: before, it was just something that happened once in a while, and I otherwise didn’t think about it all that much.

Now, I’m sort of obsessed with it. Wearing very often the butt plug and backless panties play a role, of course, but sex is always on my mind anyway. It probably changes how I behave and dress: at work or with friends, I get a lot of “you’re very sexy today” that I didn’t get before. I guess it’s all related to the fact I just can’t cum anally yet: at every intercourse, I feel I’m very very close, but it just never happens. The strangest thing is, I’m not frustrated any more, I’m sort of hooked.

It’s like I’m flooded with hormones that make me horny, and I became addicted to the sensation itself. It’s weird and I don’t know if I make myself clear. I thought a lot about what you said, that there’s nothing wrong with submission so long as it’s my choice, and that acting like my boyfriend wants me to act “retrains” my brain and what I enjoy, to eventually cause pleasure and a refocus on other areas.

You’re basically one of the only persons I talk to about this, since I wanted my boyfriend to be 100% comfortable with it and think I was 100% OK with being anal only, without any doubt. My gay friend talked about what I said to him to his husband, who apparently talked about it to my boyfriend: we spent an evening at their place, and to my surprise the subject naturally came during conversation, and was talked about all evening in embarrassing details.

I was sort of mortified (and my friend too, since we’re both the “receivers”), but my boyfriend seemed to really love openly talking about it, and it was sort of fun and instructive. I admit it also turned me on to some extent.

I guess my main problem is the sensation of losing control, and not knowing where this is all heading. I don’t know if I can keep up with not orgasming at all, but I really dislike the idea of using clitoris stimulation in his presence, and I don’t want to come in secret.

Thanks for the update! It sounds like you’ve really settled into the anal only lifestyle very well as well as successfully incorporated clitoral and orgasm denial into your personal routine.

While it can certainly be a challenge at first for most people to start orgasm denial, because orgasms are a very powerful addiction, it’s not at all uncommon for people to discover with time just how much they enjoy an ongoing state of arousal and its associated pleasures far more than the short burst of pleasure from an orgasm.

That said, there’s nothing wrong with orgasms either for those who enjoy and want them, and with more time you may discover the ability to orgasm from anal as well.

Anonymous: I recently started adding anal into my masturbation play as a means of having stronger orgasms. While I don’t know if I could ever go anal only, I’ve discovered that the right combination of edging and denial combined with generous anal play gives me just what I need for a harder, stronger, longer clitoral orgasm overall! Thanks to this blog for all the ideas and support!

Congratulations on discovering that anal is the ultimate orgasm multiplier! It’s a big part of what draws so many people to anal.

And just for what it’s worth, clitoral stimulation doesn’t mean you can’t be anal only, if that’s part of what might hold you back from considering it. Plenty of anal only women include clitoral stimulation in the mix, they just replace vaginal penetration with anal and in many cases only masturbate when also including anal penetration.

justfor-daddy: So all my materials and everything came in today so daddy and I are moving my chastity up to tonight.

I figured the sooner the better even if it does cut another day out of my time left with my pussy. I’m ready to begin the process and waiting kills me!

I’m definitely going to make my pussy look perfect before we start tonight so I’ll take some pics and gifs. We’re scheduled at 9pm my time tonight so I have five hours, more like 3 once I get home from work. Talk about a weird day…thinking you have another 24 hours but then deciding to go into chastity a few hours after you get home?

But like I’ve said, I’m ready. I wouldn’t be anymore ready tomorrow. Part of me is scared of course, it’s a big change, but I am so ready to grow closer with daddy.

I just know I’ll feel a sense of loss once I start edging for daddy before chastity. It’s going to hit it’s the last time I’m going to play with my pussy without being locked up. On special occasions daddy may allow me to play with it again, but it will be for his pleasure of course and not mine. So tonight will be the last time I play with my pussy and cum.

I’m going to try to think moreso that daddy has let me play with my pussy the past few days, is letting me cum tonight, and I’ll be able to edge for him in the future. Not that I’m losing access to my pussy, or I’ll never feel a vaginal or clitoral orgasm again. I’m honestly a really lucky buttslut. Anal is still something I can enjoy and play with even if my training is mandatory, it’s still pleasure I can seek out on my own. Well, for now.

I was thinking on Monday I would rather just be locked up right then and there instead of having to wait, but damn, I’m glad I had some time with my pussy, just me touching it and cumming, not edging for daddy or anything. I would be lying if I said I’m not nervous about tonight. If I’m not going to have second thoughts as I lay with my legs spread, ready to climax for my final orgasm. But I’m going to have some really good memories, knowing that I had some of the strongest orgasms of my life the past couple of days. I’m moving on to a new chapter in my sex life.

I’ll post some pics of me testing the lighting in my room and some more rambles before my night begins I’m sure.

I might have to reread this entry before I enter chastity…right now I feel really confident and happy about it. But I’m sure right before 9 I’m going to be nervous as hell.

euphoriasslove: I want to be anal only. I orgasm so much harder. But my significant other doesn’t enjoy anal as much as pussy. What do I do? Cheat on him?

I don’t and won’t advocate cheating. That’s not fair to anyone. If you’re unhappy in a relationship, respect him enough to be up front and end it before having sex with anyone else.

Before doing that, there are other things you can try. You could compromise and have all your own masturbation/play be strictly anal only and not use your pussy or clit for anything except with him.

You can talk with him and try to figure out why he thinks he likes pussy more. A lot of guys say they do, but it’s rooted in a societal concept that men are supposed to prefer pussy and think of it as a woman’s primary sex organ, rather than a true superiority over anal. If anal regularly requires waiting for cleaning or lots of warmup, some impatient men can find it less exciting than vaginal, because less preparation is needed there. Regularly being prepared for anal at a moment’s notice through regular plug wear or play can make anal and the anal only lifestyle more appealing to such men.

You can ask him if he’ll try going anal only with you for a month and give it a chance on its own merits rather than his preconceived notions about it.

bublgum-bitch: umm i want my pussy to be ignored and to be only fucked in the ass and kept on edge without cumming at all times ????

Anonymous: I’ve been anal only for two weeks and I love it. My pussy is constantly dripping but it’s getting hard to ignore it, how can I keep myself from touching?

Whenever you feel the urge to play with your pussy or clit, rub and finger your ass instead, or squeeze a plug in your ass, or ride a dildo. Take that arousal and redirect it to your ass. The more you do that, the more you’ll start feeling that arousal anally.

You can also experiment with numbing creams like Orajel to make your clit lose sensation temporarily and see if that helps in times of difficulty resisting.

Also remember that clit stimulation isn’t explicitly disallowed by the anal only lifestyle. If you truly can’t resist it anymore, you can always give yourself an orgasm during anal masturbation or sex to reset a bit if you feel the need to, then dive right back in and try to go longer the next time. So long as you don’t involve vaginal penetration, you’re still anal only.