Ana: I need some advice about the best way to achieve an anal orgasm. I already deny my pussy and clit. But still get really wet. I have a bullet vibrator and a tail plug.

I use some numbing liquids to avoid all clit stimulation.

I want to know if i can get a routine for anal exercise each day of the week, like while i’m on the gym, cleaning my house or driving

If you haven’t already read it, our Guide to Anal Orgasms might contain some useful tips and steps for you to try. It sounds like you’re on the right track, and just need to stick with it, but there might be something useful for you there!

Getting into a daily routine is an excellent idea. I recommend plugging daily for some period of time, and gradually increasing that amount over time. I also recommend a daily routine of more active anal training as well, with a dildo. Passive training with a plug is great and important, but it’s good to not neglect more active training too, as each do different things.

Regular readers of this blog know that I frequently encourage people to combine the anal only lifestyle—which eliminates vaginal sex—with the additional exclusion of clitoral stimulation for—despite sounding contradictory—increased pleasure and arousal.

It doesn’t always seem to be clear to everyone what the purpose of this is, however, and many simply interpret it as a kink focusing on the denial of pleasure. That may appeal to some people and may be a motivation for them, but it’s not at all the goal of this blog when encouraging clit denial.

Anal Orgasms and Pleasure are Better

When polling women who can orgasm anally, a vast majority of them agree that anal orgasms are more intensely pleasurable and full-body than clitoral orgasms. It’s a more raw, pure, primal pleasure, and very addictive—once you start to experience it regularly, it’s hard to want anything less.

Anal Orgasms Cause Less Arousal Loss

It’s no secret that clitoral orgasms often bring with them a crash in arousal post-orgasm, which can affect mood and happiness and even make people feel depressed after. This is one reason many women are interested in exploring orgasm denial, but with anal orgasms, no denial of orgasm or pleasure is needed—just a shift to anal pleasure and orgasms instead. Because unlike clit orgasms, for most women, anal orgasms feel great but don’t have nearly as strong a post-orgasm crash.

Pure Anal Pleasure Has Its Own Appeal

The idea of getting all one’s pleasure from anal sex without needing anything additional or external to be able to orgasm is a common fantasy and goal for many women who love anal or who are anal only. There’s something about the idea that is a major turn on to women and to their partners, and it’s one of the driving motivators for moving past clit stimulation to pure anal pleasure.

So, with that, why not try it for yourself? Let us know your progress!

Sara: Hi, i don’t think my pussy looks Nice and i would like to cut My clithood or clit lips first. Then maybe get further to cut My clit later. Never use before the glue, would like to know where i can find it to get it Nice covered for it. Also ideas to make it less sensitive. I Dream about been an only anal wife, love to find a blog about it.

While I think that it’s every person’s right to alter their body however they want to do so, I also encourage everyone interested in such things to seriously think about it for a while before, since it is a permanent change.

If you’re interested in making your clit less sensitive or moving away from using it to orgasm, look into numbing creams that temporarily remove or reduce sensation. You can also get piercings that let you place a clit shield over it to remove physical access to it without permanently removing it. But if after an extended period of time you know that you truly don’t want clit stimulation anymore and just want anal only, clit removal can be a legitimate option, though finding a surgeon willing to do it is difficult.

Just for aesthetic alterations, many plastic surgeons will do that.

For glue, you can use superglue or eyelash glue, but you need to leave a gap if you close your labia with it so that you can still urinate.

And finally, if you want to be anal only, you don’t need to do any of the above, you just need to move away from vaginal penetration and towards anal penetration only. From there you can also work to stop masturbating clitorally as well if that’s a goal. That’s not to say that you can’t do more if that’s what you want, but don’t think that it’s a requirement to consider yourself anal only. And you can go anal only now without a partner, even—just start masturbating anally and stop masturbating vaginally.

Jasper: First off thanks for setting up this community. It’s been fun reading about others who have found anal only to improve their sex lives!

I’ve been anal only with my girlfriend for almost a year and it’s honestly been life changing. I was lucky enough that she initiated the transition (I posted the story to the Reddit group) and it’s made me realise how superior anal sex is over the alternative. I always enjoyed sex but it feels like going anal only has unlocked another level of true pleasure.

Our anal only “anniversary” is in November and it will be no problem for us to complete the challenge, but after reading your recent post about other ideas for couples who are already anal only I mentioned the idea of trying to go “no clit” for a month to my gf. Although I rarely touch her clit she does quite often finish herself by masturbating her clit or using a dildo while we have anal sex. I told her I don’t like her doing that because it makes me feel like what I’m doing for her isn’t enough and to my amazement she’s agreed to try excluding all clit and pussy for November!

I’m super excited for November now because for me the idea of adding clit and pussy denial to our AO life has become more and more of a turn on the longer we’ve been anal only.

If it works out and we end up excluding clit and pussy 100% full time, I’ll be sure to thank you for the suggestion!

Down with vaginal! Down with clit!

Congratulations on your upcoming anal only anniversary and on what sounds like an excellent plan for No Pussy November! Thanks for sharing, and good luck. We’ll look forward to hearing from you as the two of you progress through clit denial over the next month!

Whether you’re new to the idea of anal only, returning to it after doing it in the past, or already committed to the idea for a while now, No Pussy November is an annual event that you can participate in and enjoy!

If you’re new to anal only, the main activity is to spend the entire month of November completely replacing vaginal sex with anal sex. If you want to take it even further, you can also completely exclude clitoral stimulation and only orgasm anally.

If you’ve been anal only in the past, this is your opportunity to get back into it and rekindle your commitment to the anal only lifestyle.

And if you’re already anal only, use the month to celebrate how much better life is when anal only and how glad you to have given up vaginal sex in favor of pure anal. Try a new activity as an additional challenge for the month—start doing ass to mouth, avoid using your clit to orgasm for the month if you haven’t already, start wearing a butt plug regularly, have anal sex daily, train for double anal—the possibilities are endless!

For our previous anal only challenge month, Anal Only April, several women pledged to only do double anal for the entire month, and one decided to stay double anal only after the month was over, and others are making similar pledges for No Pussy November. So if you’re already experienced with double anal, that can be an option!

If you plan to participate, take the time now to make your plans and arrangements with partners, or get any necessary toys. Whatever you decide to do and whatever your experience level currently is, be sure to let us know what your goals are and keep us updated!

I always wanted more anal but never thought my GF was into it so didn’t often try to initiate. Then one time she asked me to fuck her in the ass because she was having a heavy period when we started messing around, then next time she asked for anal again saying she’d cut herself shaving her pussy and wanted to let it heal before I fucked her there again. Then she said it was taking a while to heal and wanted anal AGAIN… eventually I asked if she was just making excuses and she said she was and that she prefers anal but didn’t think I did! Since then we’ve been anal-only for about a year. I fuck her ass at least 3 times a week and these days her clit barely gets touched either. Honestly I wouldn’t mind if I never fucked another pussy, ass is just the best way to fuck a girl by miles!

Continue reading at r/analonlylifestyle on Reddit

Ronald: Hi, I found your blog when I was searching Google for advice on my situation and it seems like you might be able to help me.

My wife and I enjoy anal sex often but she recently asked me if we can stop having vaginal sex because she doesn’t enjoy it as much as anal. Now I love anal, but I don’t want to stop using her pussy either.

She says vaginal hurts sometimes and is harder to get turned on by and she doesn’t orgasm from it as easily. What can I do so that she wants to do both? Or should I?

Thank you.

I would ask you to consider why you want vaginal. There are a number of different reasons some guys can struggle with the idea of going anal only.

• You feel denied a part of your wife and your sex life and see it as a sort of closing off herself to you in a way. Instead, recognize that it’s more of her opening up her most intimate and pleasurable part of herself to you fully and wanting to focus more fully on the thing you do together that give her the most pleasure.
• You fear that excluding an option for sex will result in less variety and make sex more boring. This is a common concern that doesn’t actually hold up in practice most of the time. Anything can become boring, but most often people become bored of vaginal all the time—because vaginal is inherently pretty boring compared to anal, and anal gives a lot of opportunities for other variety and fun things that you can do to mix things up—butt plugs, ass to mouth, double anal, developing pure anal orgasms, and much more.
• You think the preparation needed for anal will make sex less spontaneous. This can be solved with a bit of compromise—on your part, recognizing that it can take a little time and practice to get fully into the routine and that with practice there will be little preparation needed—and on her part, wearing butt plugs or using dildos in between having sex on a more regular basis, and establishing a daily cleaning routine in order to be ready for sex at any time.
• You think that vaginal sex is something couples need to do in order to be normal. This may not be a conscious thought that you have, but it may drive your concerns about going anal only. Often, people admit that they don’t enjoy vaginal as much as anal, but they still do it anyway because that’s what people do and that’s the “normal” way to have sex. The reality is, there is no normal. Do what works best for you. If you prefer anal and find you don’t actually like vaginal all that much, why waste time on it? Focus on what you do enjoy.

Ultimately, consider also whether your wanting vaginal is more important than her enjoyment. Vaginal isn’t as enjoyable for her as anal, and that’s actually not that uncommon for a lot of women, so her wanting to focus on anal, the thing that is more fun and pleasurable for her, makes a lot of sense.

I’d suggest giving it a try for a few months and see how it goes. In practice, you’ll most likely find that you don’t miss vaginal sex at all and will quickly recognize the many benefits of being anal only and of having a partner who is thoroughly pleased with the type of sex she’s getting.

Annabee: So I stumbled upon your blog. it has opening me up to a new world. When I was preteen-teen I touch my clit and it felt kinda good. but once I was 16 it started feeling awkward. so never really masturbated that much. when I did with my clit it just felt weird in a way that made me not want to touch myself. almost depressed so I just didn’t masturbate that much and I really only did cuz I thought it was weird that all my friends were talking about how great it felt and I was the complete opposite I thought I was weird. fast forward to now I’m 30 and happy to say a vaginal Virgin I just found your blog and I thought I’d give anal a try so I bought a toy and some warming lube. I’ve tried a few times but haven’t been able to orgasm yet. One thing I do love seeing and doing is ride my dildo and watch my close pussy in the mirror but Just thought I would share my story and also see if you had any suggestions to help me orgasm from just anal.

Thanks for sharing, and I’m glad that you have found the blog helpful and inspirational.

Regarding anal only orgasms, you can try some of the tips in this article on the subject. It can take some time for some people to get to the point where anal orgasms are easy, but it’s well worth it once you get there. Some also find it easier with a partner but more difficult when just masturbating.

If you don’t like clitoral stimulation, you may not prefer to go down this path, but some like or prefer combining clitoral stimulation with anal penetration.

Good luck! The more you explore anal, the more you’re going to love it.

Anonymous: I am so happy this blog exists because for many years I felt like I was such a freak for thinking the things you and others post about on this blog.

I have never had vaginal sex with a girl, because it doesn’t interest me or appeal to me at all, and I never will. I’ve only ever fucked girls in the ass. It’s been hard, though, and lots of girls act like I’m some kind of freak for wanting this.

I truly think anal sex is the only way anyone should have sex, and that vaginal sex is not just inferior, it’s wrong and shouldn’t be done at all. There are so many reasons, it doesn’t feel as good, it isn’t intimate in the same way as anal, it totally ruins a woman’s arousal and mood, and it’s just so unappealing. Anal is natural, vaginal isn’t.

Even though it took a while, I have an anal only girlfriend who believes the same as me and is completely anal only like me. We’ve been together for about a year now and things couldn’t be better. We don’t use her pussy or clit at all and neither of us ever want to. So I’m really glad your blog helped me feel normal and like I could ask girls again about an anal only relationship.

Always remember there really isn’t any such thing as “normal” when it comes to sexual preference. Anal only may be less common, but it’s totally normal and there’s nothing at all wrong with it. All that matters is that you’re happy and that you find a partner who shares your interests and preferences.

I’m very happy to hear that you have found just that, and it sounds like you’re perfect for each other. Enjoy your anal only life together.

Though we haven’t promoted Anal Only August here for a while (which might change, given its popularity elsewhere!) there have definitely been other people practicing it this year. For those who missed it, fear not—there’s still No Pussy November later this year—but for anyone who did give Anal Only August a try, let us know how things went for you!