It’s perfectly normal to be anxious or apprehensive about anal sex. After all, that area deals with some pretty, non-sexy situations. However, anal sex can be so pleasurable and is absolutely worth trying out, keep in mind things can go wrong if not done properly. Here are a few tips to make sure it has positive outcomes:
1. Talk It Over With Your Partner
Anal sex is not something that just spontaneously happens. Some people are very uncomfortable with the thought of anything entering their anus. This means, as a couple, you need to have a conversation and determine if it’s the right time for the two of you to try it out. This conversation should not happen fifteen minutes before trying anal sex! This is a conversation that should happen days, maybe even weeks before.
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Anonymous: Well, it’s official, Anal Only April isn’t even over and I’m already feeling like I only want to do anal and not do vaginal anymore. I saw your and other posts saying that would happen but I didn’t really believe it, I’ve always liked getting my pussy fucked too, but it’s like this past week something changed and I lost interest in my pussy and really want to stay anal only now! I don’t even understand it but I honestly kind of love it.
That’s pretty common and normal! Vaginal urges stick around for a while like a bad habit but over time as you transition into anal only, your desire to have anything to do with your pussy goes away really quickly. Stick with it, resist any short term urges, and you’ll happily stay anal only for good!
Anonymous: Hi, I don’t know if you don’t remember me exactly, but I’m a female and I have been anal only for 2 years. I do appreciate that there is anal positivity nowadays. However one thing that really irks me is how porn has become normalize, including anal porn. If you want to normalize anal, then why do people push the connotion of anal as a “porn thing” or things that exists in pornography? That’s how the stigma affects my sexuality and how I view myself all. I am not trying to push the “ban porn” and I really don’t care if anyone wants to watch it. The thing is that many women like me feel insecure and view myself negatively after getting disgusted and I really don’t wanna see any kind of pornography no matter what and I’m not interested in it. Do not learn from porn. Yes it can be amazing but you will regret it. Yes I still like anal sex rather than anal porn, but no offense to the so-called pornography and society who creates the stigma behind anal sex.
I think it’s more that porn has also become quite normalized for most people and recognized that while yes, it’s entertainment and not always an accurate representation of sex, it can be enjoyed by most people and does influence and inspire people to try new and better things as a result. A lot of people say that they first tried anal because they saw it in porn and liked how it looked.
But not liking porn is fine as well, and plenty of people enjoy anal without any pornographic connotations. Just recognize that porn has helped with the spreading of anal positivity in recent years.
Our first of two of our favorite times of the year is almost upon us! For my wife & I April means her pussy is still in play. I can lick it and play with her clit, but no penetration of ANY kind. Nothing, my penis, toys, fingers, even my tongue are all out. The inside of her vagina is out of bounds. Unlike November, when her pussy is completely out of bounds.
Just over a year ago we had seriously thought about going A.O.A (Anal only April) style all year round. While my wife found the idea to be super kinky. She decided that she wasn’t ready give up on her vagina completely.
As things stand now. Three out of four times we have A.O.A. style sex. That one time out of four she wants vaginal sex, but it only lasts for a few minutes before she wants it in her ass. Which is how we almost always finish anyway. After having twins vaginal has become uncomfortable for her and it only feels good for a very short time.
On Saturday afternoon my wife wants to use a heart shaped pastie to seal her pussy closed. Using the vee at the top to leave her clit exposed so I can lick it. Not that it takes much for play these days to get her ass ready. She has gotten to the point now that I can enter her ass “cold” with ease & no discomfort at all for her. Does anyone else have special, kinky plans for this month?Hitman1386, Anal Only Lifestyle forum
Much of what this blog focuses on is the benefits of anal sex and the anal only lifestyle for women, but there are so many advantages for men as well.
Some women have a strong preference for anal but hesitate to go anal only because they fear that men won’t want to miss out on vaginal sex. The reality is, however, that excluding vaginal and focusing just on anal increases pleasure, arousal, and intimacy for men as well.
In a physical sense, anal provides more sensation, greater depth, and an inability to get pregnant when cumming inside.
Mentally and emotionally, anal is inherently more intimate because it requires more trust and strengthens a relationship by transitioning to anal only.
The bottom line is that there are benefits to going anal only for everyone regardless of their gender and the best way to learn more about it is to try it for yourself for at least a month and see what it’s like in reality.
JennaA: Last month my boyfriend asked me to try going anal only, and I agreed to try it this month because I had seen posts about Anal Only April online. We just started doing anal about a year ago and I had never thought I would been into it at all, but we both really like it now, and my boyfriend really prefers it. I think I prefer it too, but I was always insistent that I wouldn’t go anal only because I like my pussy too.
Anyway, after half a month of anal only, I can see the point of anal only a lot more, and while I still miss my pussy getting attention, I see why it’s nice to not use it and to let it stay horny and get fucked in my ass only. It’s making me much more sexual than I was before and I love it! We haven’t decided yet but I’m honestly open to the idea of staying anal only after April now.
Glad to hear it! It’s a common theme I have encountered over the years: the idea that anal only is crazy and someone would never do that… until she tries it, and realizes how much better it is to be anal only, and after a month or two of just anal, she doesn’t want to go back to vaginal at all.
Enjoy the rest of the month, and definitely keep going after that if you enjoyed yourself in April!
We’re now halfway through Anal Only April, our annual event encouraging people to try going anal only for a whole month to experience what it’s really like to do just anal long-term and discover the benefits of doing so for them.
If you are just discovering this now, or haven’t have a chance to try it yet, it’s not too late to get started! You can either plan on taking part in the next two weeks until the end of April, or you can just get started on a full month right now!
If you have been taking part, don’t forget to check in and let us know how things are going. Updates, questions, and requests for advice are all always welcome from anyone and everyone.
Really curious how AO women handle it when they’re with non-AO men. Do they ever just take your pussy? What would you do if they did?
How do you handle it when they beg for, tease, and want your pussy so bad?
As anal sex continues to grow in popularity and become more widespread, and more women go anal mostly and anal only, an increasing number of women are coming out about preferring not just anal, but double anal.
For some women, it can simply be about preferring more of a stretch and wanting to go larger. An experienced anus can relax open easily and to get more stimulation, a logical transition is to switch to double anal and fit more inside to stretch and stimulate her better.
I do prefer double anal to single anal, because my ass is extreamly flexiable, so with just one cock, my ass tends to stretch very quickly, so after a while I can’t really feel anything. Espesially if I do anal scenes everyday, my ass is always stretched, so if I get a guy with a smaller dick than the guy the day before, theres not a hope in hell that i’ll feel much for the whole scene, which seems pointless to me. The reason I like Double A is because I LOVE to feel the S T R E T C H on my asshole.Isabel Ice, Adult DVD Talk
For others, even if the stretch isn’t needed to enjoy anal, it can be easy to get addicted to the sensation of both men moving independently inside her ass and both physically enjoying the feelings of that and mentally and emotionally being excited by knowing she has two men inside her, pleasuring her and getting pleasure from her both at the same time, together in her ass.
It can amplify the feelings and ideas of being anal only by doing double anal, because it’s not just one guy but two guys ignoring her pussy and sharing her ass together rather than either compromising for something lesser.
What are the reasons that you enjoy double anal?
We are currently long distance and only get to have sex once a week or so. We would like to prepare my arse for being used by him every day without discomfort. Am I better off plugging each day or using a dildo on it every day? I really want to be able to be used at his pleasure once were closer.