Category: Anal Sex


Message: Orgasms in the Anal Only Lifestyle

Anonymous: Dear Sir

I wrote to you last June asking for advice on becoming anal only for my Master. First, a huge thank you. Your advice was great and i am officially an anal only slut since April. It feels amazing to say that and my Master is so proud of me. Second, i would like to get your opinion on something. What is your stance on orgasms in the anal only lifestyle? My Master never allowed me to orgasm freely and always made sure i earned it. But since i am anal only it feels wrong to ask for clitoral stimulation (my only way to orgasm). I still want to orgasm but it just does not feel right. Do you have any advice?

Thanks for your guidance and your blog. 

humbly honey 

Thank you for following up! You’re quite welcome, and I’m glad to hear that you have decided to officially go anal only and are loving the experience! Ultimately, that’s what matters most, that you and your partner want it and are happy with it, and if so, then by all means, being anal only is what you should do!

As for orgasms, I’m all for them personally, but each person has their own individual preferences and goals. Excluding clit stimulation can certainly help with amplifying anal pleasure and arousal even further, and if that also works with your dynamic of orgasm denial, then I encourage continuing to explore it further. You may discover that after an extended period of time without clit stimulation, you can start to orgasm from anal penetration on its own!

The Many Different Approaches To Anal

This is a topic that has been discussed in detail before, but as the community and the world continues to evolve, the primary reasons for anal sex and the anal only lifestyle can evolve along with it. These are some of the common reasons people commonly cite more recently as motivations to be anal only:

Anal is more pleasurable

For some people, it’s as simple as this. They get more pleasure and arousal out of anal sex than they do vaginal, and even if they may still have urges for other sorts of stimulation, they find that sticking with just anal sex amplifies their pleasure and keeps them horny for more sex.

Anal is more dominant/submissive

For others, it may be that anal is less pleasurable but it puts them in a dominant or submissive mindset that amplifies their emotional enjoyment of sex beyond just the physical, and that can overcome less physical sensation, or enjoying it physically less can in fact make them enjoy it as a whole more.

Being anal only subverts societal norms

Some get similar pleasure from both but enjoy the fact that not having vaginal sex and only doing anal is different from societal norms and makes them different in a special way they can share with their partner or even just enjoy on their own. This can come with additional benefits like not needing other forms of birth control, etc.

What are your reasons for being drawn to anal only? Are these representative of you, or is there another reason? Leave a comment sharing your perspective!

Article: Moms Are Confessing About “Butt Stuff”

For some moms, anal sex is still a big ol’ mystery they might be ready to solve…and for others, well, they’re pros

No matter how you like your salad tossed, there’s a mom out there who’s done it and is ready to help anyone who’s curious about…”butt stuff.” Anal sex and foreplay are a very common part of the bedroom scene for many couples — and sometimes, you don’t even need a partner to enjoy it!

Some moms are very into it — these are the pros. The people who know exactly how to utilize their rear in the right way. Some moms are more novice and are just exploring their own curiosity about what you do, how far you can go, what they like, what’s a big NO, etc.

Continue reading on ScaryMommy

Message: Stinging When Trying Anal?

Anonymous: When I have anal sex or use a butt plug, it stings and continues to whenever I try anything for a few days. Do you have any suggestions so I can try anal more often without it hurting?

It sounds like you may need to warm up a bit more, starting with lots of lube and gentle massage to gradually work your anus open with fingers, then progressing to a small toy. If it stings, you may be tearing it slightly by going too quickly.

Once you get to where you can use a toy without it stinging, try using it regularly, at least part of each day, and that will help you to stay relaxed and warmed up without risking injury. Even a minor injury can become irritated and last longer if it keeps happening or isn’t allowed to heal, so do what it takes to warm up without pain and you’ll enjoy long term satisfaction of anal sex!

Anal Sex is Most Popular With Gen Z

In an excerpt from an article on sexual trends, it appears that Gen Z is far more enthusiastic about anal sex than previous generations, showing that the trend of anal normalization is continuing:

But when it comes to type of sex, Gen Z is outdoing every other generation with anal sex: 37 percent of respondents, overall, report having anal sex once per week or more, whereas over half of Gen Z respondents (55 percent) report having anal sex once per week or more. In fact, according to the survey 52 percent of baby boomers have never had anal sex whereas only 19 percent of Gen X respondents and 20 percent of millennials have never had anal sex.

Continue reading on Yahoo News

Talk to Your Friends About Anal Only

Are you someone who enjoys anal sex and the anal only lifestyle and practices it yourself in your personal life? Has going anal only changed your life for the better and made your sex life more rewarding and fulfilling?

Why not talk about it with your friends as well and encourage them to try it too? If they haven’t tried anal yet, give them advice on how to do it properly. If they enjoy anal regularly but also do vaginal, have them try a month of anal only to start learning why it’s better to be anal only rather than just doing anal along with vaginal.

In the end, you’ll not only help others discover the joys and benefits of anal only, you’ll have a group of friends who can all support each other in your collective anal only life.

Anal Only April 2021 Is Over

Craving something new? Why not go anal only for a whole month? Challenge yourself to Anal Only April.

It’s always a sad day when one of our anal only challenge months ends, because they can tend to be a whirlwind of fun activity as everyone gets involved and builds off each other’s enthusiasm for sexual exploration and the anal only lifestyle to all support and encourage each other to go anal only together, but it’s also a time for celebration for all those who made it through a month of anal only and came out the other side no doubt improved in various ways.

If you’ve stayed anal only all month and found yourself really enjoying it and not especially missing vaginal sex, don’t let this be the end. Keep the streak going, see how far you make it, or even just commit to long term anal only if you feel that’s what you now want. If a month of anal only feels great, think of how amazing two or three months, six months, or a year and beyond will feel! It just keeps getting better.

If you are just discovering this now, or haven’t have a chance to try it yet, it’s not too late to get started! You can start your own month-long anal only challenge at any time!

Don’t forget to check in with us now that the month is over and let us know how your Anal Only April went, what your experiences were, what you learned, and whether you plan on continuing with long-term anal only going forward!

Article: Learning to Love Anal Sex

It’s perfectly normal to be anxious or apprehensive about anal sex. After all, that area deals with some pretty, non-sexy situations. However, anal sex can be so pleasurable and is absolutely worth trying out, keep in mind things can go wrong if not done properly. Here are a few tips to make sure it has positive outcomes:

1. Talk It Over With Your Partner

Anal sex is not something that just spontaneously happens. Some people are very uncomfortable with the thought of anything entering their anus. This means, as a couple, you need to have a conversation and determine if it’s the right time for the two of you to try it out. This conversation should not happen fifteen minutes before trying anal sex! This is a conversation that should happen days, maybe even weeks before.

Continue reading on Slutty Girl Problems

Message: I Already Only Want Anal

Anonymous: Well, it’s official, Anal Only April isn’t even over and I’m already feeling like I only want to do anal and not do vaginal anymore. I saw your and other posts saying that would happen but I didn’t really believe it, I’ve always liked getting my pussy fucked too, but it’s like this past week something changed and I lost interest in my pussy and really want to stay anal only now! I don’t even understand it but I honestly kind of love it.

That’s pretty common and normal! Vaginal urges stick around for a while like a bad habit but over time as you transition into anal only, your desire to have anything to do with your pussy goes away really quickly. Stick with it, resist any short term urges, and you’ll happily stay anal only for good!

Message: Anal Porn

Anonymous: Hi, I don’t know if you don’t remember me exactly, but I’m a female and I have been anal only for 2 years. I do appreciate that there is anal positivity nowadays. However one thing that really irks me is how porn has become normalize, including anal porn. If you want to normalize anal, then why do people push the connotion of anal as a “porn thing” or things that exists in pornography? That’s how the stigma affects my sexuality and how I view myself all. I am not trying to push the “ban porn” and I really don’t care if anyone wants to watch it. The thing is that many women like me feel insecure and view myself negatively after getting disgusted and I really don’t wanna see any kind of pornography no matter what and I’m not interested in it. Do not learn from porn. Yes it can be amazing but you will regret it. Yes I still like anal sex rather than anal porn, but no offense to the so-called pornography and society who creates the stigma behind anal sex.

I think it’s more that porn has also become quite normalized for most people and recognized that while yes, it’s entertainment and not always an accurate representation of sex, it can be enjoyed by most people and does influence and inspire people to try new and better things as a result. A lot of people say that they first tried anal because they saw it in porn and liked how it looked.

But not liking porn is fine as well, and plenty of people enjoy anal without any pornographic connotations. Just recognize that porn has helped with the spreading of anal positivity in recent years.