I’ve been with my boyfriend for the last 3 years, and since the beginning it’s been established as being both a poly and kinky relationship where I am the sub. I’ve always considered myself pretty open to different kinks and have liked the idea of being anal/oral only, even before I met him. My boyfriend also likes the idea a lot, but in the past hasn’t want to dive into trying it because he still wanted to be able to fuck my pussy if and when he had the desire to do so.
We started dating another woman a couple months ago, and she is great in so many ways. My boyfriend and our girlfriend have a much more sexual relationship together than I have with her, which has been talked about and agreed upon with all three of us.
I’ve always liked the humiliation side of things when it comes to kinky sex, and in the last couple weeks my boyfriend and I have decided that my pussy is off limits, and that my role is now simply a masturbation aid for him. As I mentioned, I’ve always thought the idea of anal/oral only was really hot, but now the added part that I am simply there to help make sure he feels good and gets off, as well as knowing that he does have another pussy to fuck and feels amazing to him, is REALLY fucking hot.
Now to my question. I do very much want and need to maintain intimacy with my boyfriend, and so does he. We both love and care for each other so much, but neither of us are quite sure how we can keep that physical intimacy and love between us that comes with having face-to-face vaginal sex, yet also still maintain the strong denial aspect that I desperately want and need.
Can anyone help me understand what you do to maintain that intimacy while also enjoying the objectification that comes with this? How did you get over the societal norm of vaginal sex being the only truly intimate way for two people to have sex? Are there any particular positions or styles of anal sex that allow you to still feel that intimacy?
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Hey everyone, never thought i’d post here, but due to a surgery I can’t have any vaginal sex for two weeks. My partners and I have a free use arrangement, and now that I’m mostly recovered except for this limitation, they’re getting creative with how they want to take me.
One of my boyfriends has always expressed interest in anal and we tried it but I didn’t enjoy it, because I never have. I’ve done lube, training, etc, I just don’t like it. However, because of all this, I have agreed to wear a plug for a few hours every day (having to show my bf proof) until I’m ready to try taking him.
And yall. It has been great. i’ve done chores while wearing it and it makes me feel so domestic, doing these things for him and wearing the plug for him. I still wouldn’t say I love it or anything, but it doesn’t hurt and it’s not bad at all, plus it makes the orgasms I can have more intense, since clitoral stimulation only isn’t really strong enough for me to be satisfying on its own.
I recently walked to the store while wearing it and it made me feel very slutty and hot; I always end up with my hand between my legs when I’m wearing it just because of the idea. I’m looking forward to actually regularly incorporating this into our sex life.
Anonymous: Covid has made it really hard for me, it’s been a long time since I’ve had sex and I’m really lonely and really want to be in an anal only relationship. I’ve been trying my best to keep things anal only but it’s easy to give in and masturbate other ways too when there’s no end in sight and I get really jealous reading about couples who were together before it all started and have been able to use this time together to go anal only or try new things but for everyone else dating doesn’t exist anymore.
I’m sorry to hear that you’re having a hard time with it. I think a lot of us who are single are experiencing something similar, and it is hard when we want to date and meet new people but we can’t. Hopefully things get better soon, though!
As for staying anal only in the meantime, you can always try to spice things up again and give yourself new challenges, or you can try to meet someone online and have them challenge you and give you some level of motivation and commitment.
Best of luck!
I’ve been reading a lot of posts relating to haemorrhoids. Most people say it’s caused due to enemas or douching. I think I use the municipal water for enemas. I love fingering myself but after reading these post I’m scared to do enema and I don’t want haemorrhoids. Please tell me how do I avoid haemorrhoids and still continue anal play
Without a doubt Corona is a catastrophe for the whole world with a vast social impact for nearly one year now.
There are restrictions in meeting new people. Couples and families are put together in homeoffice and distance learning.
Did it affect your analsex life, or rather your anal only lifestyle?analogue, Anal Only Lifestyle forum
How do you manage this?
Working from home gave me the opportunity to increase my plugging, which helped increase anal opportunities. At least a silver lining to the pandemic.Pluggedkitty, Anal Only Lifestyle forum
I don’t live with my partners, so I haven’t had sex in months. If I lived with a partner, I probably would have more sex, it’s a good stress reliever.Samy, Anal Only Lifestyle forum
The pandemic made it possible for us to return to the anal life. I can say with certainty that the pandemic has made us AO again.BBS, Anal Only Lifestyle forum
My girlfriend and I want creative ways to lose any desire for vaginal sex!
We have been anal only for a year, but there is still a trace of wanting vaginal. At the same time, we don’t want to break that one year mark!
Suggestions are welcome
I’m a 28M have a wife whose 27 we’ve been together for about 7 years got married for nearly 2 years. I was always interested in anal but never tried because scared to ask for it. but 8 months ago when my wife asked out of nowhere to put my penis in her ass mid-sex. at first, I was confused because I never thought she would ever ask for anal (i thought she was joking) so I asked are you sure about that and she said yes without wasting time I put my penis in her tight ass at first I felt very pleasurable but when I did back and forth some her feces stick in my dick which turned me off instantly because of that I didn’t even cum on that night and we slept in different rooms because of the embarrassment.
After that day, we made up and have the usual vaginal sex. we didn’t talk about those things from that day. After a week, we are in the car stuck in traffic so, I asked her about the anal stuff she said she watched a lot of evil angel, elegant angel porn(those who don’t know those porn’s have a common theme around anal) on that she was curious about how anal sex feels like that’s why she asked for dick in her ass on that day. so I asked her “how did she feel on that day,” she told me it was terrible and painful she didn’t feel good at all she asked me how those porn-stars do those acts, and then we came to the conclusion that we must be doing it wrong on that day and we gonna try again sometime soon and then
we did a bunch of research about that online(which also led me to find this community) and also I asked my friends and she asked her friends about these things she learned about Enema and much other prep work she also bought some anal toys and I brought lots of lube.
finally, when we are ready to do the did I begin with PIV and then I started fucking her anus. at first, I thought she is not enjoying but after a while, she started riding my dick like crazy I never seen anything like that from her before, she described she never had a more intense orgasm like that before. on that night we got so horny that we end up having sex 6 times on the same day we also did Anal to mouth. we didn’t sleep that whole night we both agree that that day was the best sex we ever had.
after that day we agreed we gonna have anal on a weekly basis because it takes too much time to prepare for anal sex than for normal sex and also those days when she’s menstruating we also gonna have anal on those days too.
after a month, on an anal day, I went straight for anal which she actually liked it. she told me she prefers anal over vaginal since then we are having anal only on anal days. we also realized we aren’t enjoying vaginal sex anymore so we start having a normal followed by an anal day followed by a normal day and soon on. On an anal day, we are having sex 2-4 times(we are getting lots of free time because of the lock-downs) whereas 1 or no sex on a normal day. she also spotted having Clitoral Stimulation at the same time.
and finally, in October we tried an anal-only month trial 1 week in she didn’t want to go back to having normal sex anymore because we both enjoy anal much more than vaginal sex and now she got faster with her anal prep so we don’t have to wait that much time anymore.
and now we are planning for having a kid so we promised each other that would be our last vaginal sex in our life.
since we started having anal we are happier than before we also changed our lifestyle such as eating healthy and light food, no more pills, condoms, and no more pregnancy check-ups every week, we are enjoying sex much more and we got much closer than before. all thanks to my wife who wants to try something new in her life led me to this awesome lifestyle and also shootout to those online guides.
and also to those who want to have anal but are scared to ask your partner. don’t be afraid who knows she also thinking about anal just like you.
John: I am an American contractor working in Kazakhstan. While working here I met a woman and we began a relationship. The county is predominantly Muslim. Although she is not, many of her friends are. Although Kazakhstan has become much more open to the use of birth control methods, a woman must visit her doctor to obtain them. In the area I work, a doctor will not issue birth control to a woman who is not married. So, when our relationship progressed to the point of wanting to have sex, I was surprised how nonchalantly she told me virtually all non-married women here practice anal sex as their form of birth control. She said it was so common, that she didn’t know anyone who didn’t have anal sex. Even after marriage, most couples continue to practice anal sex to avoid pregnancy. As she had two boyfriends prior to meeting me, she was already experienced at practicing anal sex. I, on the other hand, had never experienced anal sex in any of my prior relationships. I was always turned on by anal sex in adult movies, but thought it was really only something done in the movies.
I was amazed how much better anal sex feels than a woman’s vagina. It was as if I was experiencing sex for the first time. It was the greatest orgasm I’d ever experienced. The feeling of unloading my balls deep in her ass, as she experienced her own orgasm, was unlike anything I’d ever experienced. Although the women I slept with in the past had orgasms, hers seemed more primal. Her ass felt like it was milking my cock dry inside her. She let out a cry of passion as the last of my cum exploded deep into her. As we lay in bed recovering, I asked her if anal sex was always like this. She told me it was. At that moment I was hooked. I could honestly say that I didn’t care if I ever had vaginal sex again. I asked her if she thought she would continue to have anal sex when married. She said she did. She believes having sex in a woman’s vagina is only for the purpose of reproduction.
We are now engaged to be married in October. We’re hoping that, when my company’s contract expires in 2025 she will be able to immigrate to the United States as my wife. Eventually, we hope some of her family can come to the United States as well.
We’ve now been together for more than a year and still have anal sex almost every day. I was amazed that I never knew so many people here have anal sex. Thanks to a VPN (Kazakhstan is not the kind of place you search the internet for this kind of thing) I was able to find your blog and discover there are others who, whether by necessity or choice, only have anal sex. After experiencing it myself, I can’t say I’m surprised. What I’m more surprised about is that more people aren’t having anal sex.
While it is certainly surprising that anal sex isn’t more universally embraced as the primary form of sex that everyone has, there are a lot more out there practicing it than openly talk about or admit to it, both as a form of birth control and just out of preference for it. Conscious adoption of the anal only lifestyle has grown significantly in recent years, but there are also numerous cultures out there like you describe who already prioritize anal over vaginal and take the much healthier and more natural view that anal is for non-procreative sex and vaginal is for procreative sex.
Through education and increased experimentation with anal, and a cultural shift away from the negativity and taboo surrounding it, as well as the recognition that anal is far healthier a birth control method than hormonal birth control that comes with so many side effects for so many women, I have no doubt that widespread adoption of anal as the primary form of sex and the anal only lifestyle will follow.
Happy New Year, Everyone!
Yes, you read that title correctly. I made a resolution at the start of last year to be Anal-Only in 2020, and with your help, I was able to not only keep that resolution, I’m renewing my commitment for another year of Anal-Only living.
I wish everyone luck in achieving their Anal-Only goals. The past year was a difficult one, but I, personally, drew a lot of comfort from refocusing my erotic center, and if you’re like me, I suspect you might too.
Enjoy fucking (and being fucked in your) ass!
Becky: Have there been any updates from the girls who have been doing double anal or going double anal only? I’ve been really excited to read about that the past year and it’s my fantasy to do it myself too, I have always wanted to have a relationship with multiple men at once and having it not just be anal only but double anal only makes me so excited. Do you have any advice on how to do it?
There have been some updates and new posts on the subject in the Double Anal category, though not everyone who has shared their double anal stories has followed back up. Through other channels, I’ve communicated with about half a dozen women who have either experimented with going double anal only for a month or more, or who have decided to go full time double anal only with one or more partners.
As for making it happen for yourself, there are several elements. First, you need to be able to accommodate the size of two penises in your anus and rectum together at the same time. Practicing with two dildos, or with one partner and a dildo, is a good way to get started. Once you can regularly masturbate with two dildos or do double anal with one partner and a toy, it’s time to try it for real.
Experimenting with roommates, friends, or clubs suited to group sex (the latter can be difficult during a pandemic) is often a good way to start a double anal relationship. It can be trickier than finding a single partner, which is true for any group sex or multi-partner relationship, but pursuing the same channels used for those while keeping things focused on double anal is usually a good way to go about it. Most double anal only relationships seem to have originated fairly coincidentally with multiple roommates or a boyfriend and a roommate, so you might get yourself into a situation that would provide such opportunities.