Anonymous: I love anal so fucking much. Best orgasms ever, more like endless best orgasms ever. My boyfriend fucks my butt quite frequently. However it takes me a good hour to be totally cleaned out. It’s a huge hassle cuz I wanna get assfucked all the time. I give myself a mini enema, a non scented vaginal douche (i.e. a balloon and a nozzle). 16oz of water done multiple times within the hour and then clean. Any tips on how to clean myself out faster? SOS cuz I need anal at least once a day!!

If you have a healthy, balanced diet that contains a good amount of dietary fiber, that level of cleaning every day is probably unnecessary. Just use a small amount of warm water in a bulb and lightly flush out your rectum at most. When you use a large volume of water, you end up cleaning out a larger area than is necessary and in the process create a bigger mess that takes more time to clean. Only the rectum needs to be cleaned for most sex, and it’s generally already quite clean anyway. Many find they can just put in a plug a while before sex, take it out right before, go to the bathroom, and good to go. Add a mild rectal flush to that if you’re still concerned about residue.

Anonymous: Hi, I see that in your advices you seldom talk about enemas. I used to take enemas just before sex (I’m anal only), but a few years ago I started to use them when I’m at home every single time after I empty myself in the bathroom, with a simple anal douche. It’s much more quick, pleasant and efficient to clean up than way than with toilet paper, you always keep a flat stomach, and of course you’re always ready for anal fun, including ass to mouth. To me it’s inseparable from anal sex.

That’s an interesting way of doing it, and it sounds like it’s quite effective for you. Probably a good approach for the anal only woman who wants to always be ready for sex and ensure cleanliness. Thanks for sharing.

Anonymous: How do you reconcile anal only with the threat of poo?

Don’t have sex when you need to poop.

Anonymous: How to ask a girl if she wants to do anal? And how to prepare it? Is it messy at the first time? I really want to do anal.

Use your words? “Hey, do you want to try anal? I think it could be a lot of fun and it can feel really good if you do it right.” Reassure her that you’ll go at her pace, let her be in control, and put the focus on her pleasure. You’re going to enjoy how it feels no matter what, so prioritize her enjoyment of anal stimulation and she’ll want to keep doing it regularly. Read up on anal training and preparation together. Start small and slow. Always use lube. Don’t go for anal sex right away, use your fingers or some toys for a while and get her into how it feels before slowly working up in size. If she’s into the idea, encourage her to play with her ass on her own whenever she masturbates.

It can be messy if you don’t prepare or know your digestive system well. She should go to the bathroom before trying, and if very concerned about cleanliness, might consider using an anal douche to flush out the rectum before anal play and sex. With a balanced diet containing a good amount of fiber, the rectum is generally quite clean on its own except right before you need to the bathroom. Experimentation and experience will help make this easier to predict.

Anonymous: Last year I went ass to mouth with my dildo (deepthroating it, too) and a few days later I got a pretty hurtful throat infection. Now, i can’t blame it for sure, it could have been the cold, but I’ve been more cautious since then. My advice to anyone who enjoys doing it would be to only do it when you’re absolutely sure you’re clean, and even if you are, don’t deepthroat it? lol

It’s a good idea in general to be visibly clean when doing ass to mouth, and generally there’s little risk of an infection from your own ass when you’re clean. It’s possible that if you had a more sensitive throat or a weakened immune system from your cold that it made an infection possible to happen where it otherwise wouldn’t have, or as you say, it could’ve just been the cold causing a sore throat/infection and nothing to do with deepthroating a dildo out of your ass.

Anonymous: I am in love with anal and wanna try it as soon as possible with my bf .I wanna ask that should I wash my anal before having his dick inside or it doesn’t matter and can I leave his sperm inside ?Also I wanna ask is the feeling of anal sex is different between male and female?

Washing out your rectum with a douche or a small enema is a matter of personal preference and depends how concerned you are about being sure you’re 100% clean vs. just going to the bathroom ahead of time and knowing you’re most likely clean and not worrying about it beyond that. If you want to check in advance, you can just use a dildo in your ass for a minute or two before sex and confirm that it’s clean.

You can leave his semen inside—it won’t cause any harm to you—but do note that there is a slim but not nonexistent chance of pregnancy if it leaks out later and runs into your vagina. If he ejaculates deep enough inside you, it’s more likely to just stay inside and be absorbed into you, or if you put a butt plug in after to keep it inside.

Anonymous: My boyfriend and I want to try anal for the first time. We’re sexually active since not a long time but we’re really open with each other and I know he’ll be gentle but how can I make this work? Like, how can I make sure he won’t hit poop or anything like that during anal? How can I “get ready” for it beside relaxing? (sorry if that’s a weird or gross question)

Go to the bathroom an hour before. If you have a generally healthy, balanced diet, that’s probably all you’ll need to do, because the rectum, where most anal sex takes place, stays empty unless you need to go to the bathroom. Some will use a small anal douche to lightly flush out the rectum as well, but this isn’t strictly necessary for everyone. Depends on your own personal preferences and needs.

Anonymous: How can I know I’m only cleaning out my rectum when douching? I just bought one of those bulb type ones offline and don’t want to over use it the first time! Is it the amount of water or like? Am I just supposed to know? People make it seem like an enema and anal douching are synonyms so I’m confused!

In some ways they’re synonymous, but an enema can often be a much higher volume of water and so goes much deeper. It may take a little bit of practice and experimentation to get it right—just try it with a small amount of water first, maybe close to a full bulb, hold it, push it all out, and repeat a couple times until the water comes out clean every time. After the last time, walk around for a few minutes before using the bathroom again—it can take a little bit for the last bit of water to come out sometimes.

Anonymous: So my boyfriend and I are going to try anal for the first time next week. How should I prepare myself so I’m cleaned out, since we are going out to dinner beforehand?

Go to the bathroom before you go to dinner, and you could use a small douche with warm water to flush out just your rectum, no deeper, an hour or so before you leave. Leave a little buffer time in there to make sure to get all the water out, but if you just use a very small amount a few times, you should be fine. You may want to practice using an anal douche in advance to know what to expect.

If you’re used to wearing a butt plug, you might try wearing it in advance, either before going to dinner or even during. Removing it in the restroom before sex can give you a chance to make a final cleanliness test, or alternatively you could use a dildo briefly in the restroom before for that purpose.

Anonymous: Last night I got my S.O. to agree to a week of anal only! I’m so excited, but I’m worried running off to clean myself every time he puts the moves on me is going to ruin the mood! I need some advice.

Congratulations!

If you have a fairly consistent time during which you often have sex (e.g. evenings) you can clean yourself in advance just to be prepared.

If you have and use a butt plug, you can put it in before possible sex time, both to warm you up and prepare you, and to help clean you out. Having a plug in can move things along, as it were, as well as provide you an opportunity to check how clean you are.

Not everyone is comfortable with just this, but if you have a balanced diet with a good amount of fiber, you’re generally going to be pretty clean anyway and can usually get away with just going to the bathroom in advance. But if you want to be totally confident that you’re clean, then you may want to do more.

Enjoy!

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meandnooneelse138: Understand that sometimes things can happen. And so what? My wife gives me anal almost anytime I want it. We are not into fecal play at all, but sometimes she does not have a chance to “empty” first. And you know what, it doesn’t matter. It’s still hot. It still feels good. And on the end there was very little mess. We just jumped in the shower and washed off. Of course we have a very comfortable relationship, so that makes a difference.

slutprogrammer: Don’t overdo the fiber, though. It can make things worse.