Category: Anal Hygiene

This category contains posts that discuss anal hygiene, enemas and related topics. For more information, see our guide to Anal Hygiene & the Use of Enemas for Clean Anal Sex.

Message: Cleaning Every Time I Go to the Bathroom

Anonymous: I went anal only over a year ago after finding your blogs on Tumblr and I just love it. I’m a committed anal only girl now who’s totally sold on the idea and using my pussy again doesn’t interest me at all. But I wanted to share some advice for other girls doing anal sex and going anal only, because I used to worry a lot about cleanliness, and doing an enema before each time kinda got in the way of spontaneous sex.

So what I do now is I keep an enema bulb in my bathroom and whenever I use the toilet, I just wash it out after I’m done with some warm water and then I’m good for the rest of the day. It helps that I have regular digestion so I only need to do this once a day and I’m always clean and ready for sex otherwise. I can have anal all I want and do ass to mouth (which I love 💖) without worry. It really helped take care of one of the things that kept me from going anal only before and has made all the difference for me so I really suggest it to others!

That’s a great piece of advice, thank you for sharing, and thanks for sharing your story as well. I’m glad my blogs helped inspire you to try going anal only for yourself and discover just how great it is!

I’ve heard of other women doing similar things with a daily enema/anal douche/rectal flush after going to the bathroom as a regular part of their bathroom routine, and it seems to really work for people so long as you use just a small amount of water and don’t go too deep with your enema. (For more information on good/safe enema practices, see our page on anal hygiene in our new guide to anal sex and the anal only lifestyle.) Some will go so far as to attach an enema hose to their shower head or get a bidet for their toilet (which helps with hygiene on its own) that has an enema attachment.

Announcing the new Guide to the Anal Only Lifestyle

Merry Christmas! For years, we’ve been answering questions about anal sex and the anal only lifestyle and giving advice to countless people through this blog, and that’s never going to change! But, while manually migrating nearly 1,900 posts off Tumblr to the new version of this blog, it became clear that many of the same questions got answered over and over again over the years.

To prevent redundant posts going forward, we’re happy to announce a new section on this blog, accessible via the Guide link in the menu at the top of each page, Anal Sex Advice & Guide to the Anal Only Lifestyle. Broken into a number of key topics, this page attempts to answer in detail most of the frequently asked questions about anal training, myths about anal sex, hygiene and enemas, types of lubricant, butt plug and dildo recommendations, how to have anal sex for the first time, how to have anal orgasms, how to go anal only and why one might want to do so, dating and finding new partners for an anal only relationship, and more.

More topics will be added in time, and more details will be added to pages as relevant additions come up or are recommended. If you see anything missing or that you believe is incorrect or should be amended, please feel free to send a message or leave a comment on this post and let us know.

Message: Anal Cleanliness Without Harming Intestinal Flora

sarlic91Hey there, I’m starting to live the anal only lifestyle with my girl, but there’s a thing that troubles me. We both want to keep everything as(s) clean as possible, but I read on several sources that a repeated use of anal douches will damage the intestinal flora. Can you suggest a way to clean her gut on a regular basis (we have sex a few times a day) and also keep her health in mind? Thanks ahead ?

We discussed this in the Anal Only Lifestyle Discord already, but I’ll sum up my answer here as well for a general audience.

Essentially, if you stick to a small amount of water at a time, and just flush out the rectum, release the water, wait a moment, and repeat, until all the water comes out clean, there should be no significant impact to the balance of her intestinal flora deeper in the colon or to her digestive processes.

Message: Stomach Problems and Anti-Anal Laws

Anonymous: Just a few random questions for you!! What do you do when stomach problems come up? Like period cramps or just regular stomach bugs? Do you still use a plug? Does your partner still want something in return like oral or do you just wait until you can both participate? Also what is your opinion about states in america that deem anal illegal would you still participate if you lived there? Anywho have a great day!

You should listen to your body, and if it feels like your digestive system is not up for anal sex or play, take a break from it until you recover. If you’re with a partner and you’re anal only, you can always switch to just oral until you feel up to more, or just take a break entirely if you don’t feel well. There’s no universal answer here, what works for you and your partner is what you should do. Whatever kind of sex you prefer to have, there are always times someone can not be up for it.

While anti-anal laws might still be on the books in some states, nobody is enforcing them. We should work to get those laws eliminated, but in the meantime, don’t let them get in your way of enjoying anal sex and pleasure.

Message: Avoiding Accidents During Anal

Anonymous: I’m so happy I came across this blog! It feels good knowing I’m not the only one who loves anal just as much. Although I am not anal only(working on it) my boyfriend and I love anal sex. It’s an indescribable feeling. For the first time the other day I had an accident on his penis and he ignored it and kept fucking me. Even though he didn’t mind I would like to know how to prevent that from happening again?

For most people, a balanced diet with a healthy amount of fiber and not too much fat, and going to the bathroom before sex, will prevent it the majority of the time. A small amount of warm water used to flush the rectum before sex can clean up any remaining residue without the need for any sort of deeper enema.

But, every now and then, an unexpected mess can occur, even when you do everything “right”. It’s just the nature of anal sex, and it shouldn’t be a big deal. It doesn’t sound like your boyfriend was bothered by it, and I’d suggest just accepting it as an occasional small price to pay for enjoying the otherwise superiority of anal pleasure for you.

Good luck on working towards becoming anal only! It’s definitely worth it!

Message: Loved How Anal Felt, But Embarrassed By Residue

Anonymous: I’ve only tried anal sex once— it was spontaneous (my partner and I were drunk) and I found that it felt amazing, but I was humiliated because i noticed some residue on my partner and made him stop.. is a mess common during anal? Any tips for a cleaner experience? I loved the way it felt but was so embarrassed.

If you’re concerned about even a small amount of residue, get an enema/douche bulb and use a small amount of warm water in your rectum, hold it a moment, then push it back out, and repeat several times. Don’t use very much water, just enough to flush your rectum. If you go too deep with it, you can cause a bigger mess, so it’s better to go small and repeatedly until it comes out clean, and then you should be good to go. You might want to try it on your own first to see how best it works for you.

Beyond that, I would suggest trying to not be embarrassed by it. While most people don’t like a mess from anal sex, it is a function of that part of your body, and so it’s best to just be mature about it and accept that sometimes it might happen and it’s not that big of a deal, you just clean off and keep going, or try again later. It’s definitely not worth letting it get in the way of enjoying the best possible way to have sex and share intimacy.

Message: She Wants To Be Anal Only, But Hygiene Gets In The Way

crownjules69My partner really loves anal, she actually prefers it. The only reason we don’t do it every time is because of hygiene. She says she always wants it in the ass though, she just doesn’t know what to do. I was wondering if you have any non-obvious tips?

A balanced, low-fat, high fiber diet along with occasional douching as needed is all most people need. It can become a standard part of your daily routine without too much effort or commitment if you want the many benefits of being anal only. It’s well worth it.

If you have more specific questions about hygiene/cleanliness, I can try to answer more specifically.

Message: Good Habits For the Anal Only Lifestyle

Anonymous: My wife and I have been moving more into the AO territory. (We both give and receive. ?) However, occasionally we’ve noticed that our diets (and daily activities?) can affect the amount of pleasure as well as “unwanted visitors”. What are some good habits to get into food or otherwise, that you’ve noticed help with the AO lifestyle? How much prep goes into each time?

A generally balanced diet that’s relatively low fat and relatively high fiber, along with a good exercise routine, can really help establish a natural baseline for cleanliness. From there, light douching/rectal flushing with warm water as needed. Not much cleaning effort should be generally needed once you establish a good routine.

Message: Making Enemas Sexier

Anonymous: As a female going anal only, I was wondering about enemas. I bought a bulb and will be using that. Is there anything to make an enema sexier? Or just accept it’s part of the lifestyle?

Congratulations on going anal only, first! That’s always a great decision.

Not everyone finds enemas/douching to be necessary, and many people primarily control cleanliness through simple dietary control (a low-fat, low-sugar balanced diet with a healthy amount of fiber does wonders for natural cleanliness) and getting to know their daily digestive routine to know the best times of day to have sex.

For those who do or who want to make extra sure, a small douching is all that you really need, just enough warm water to flush out the rectum without going deeper, repeated a couple times. Done after going to the bathroom each day, you rarely need more, and it can just take a few minutes. So in that sense, it can just be a quick, easy and routine part of the lifestyle. Some see it as another form of warmup, getting clean and starting to relax before play/sex.

There are those who really enjoy enemas as a form of sexual play in and of itself, but that usually involves longer and deeper enemas, which get into cleaning out the colon well beyond the rectum, and aren’t generally as good to do quite as often as it can disrupt the natural balance of the intestinal flora, whereas a simple rectal flush doesn’t do that.