Category: Anal Advice

Posts containing advice about anal sex and the anal only lifestyle. For more general anal advice, see our Anal Sex Advice and Guide to the Anal Only Lifestyle page.


Anal Only April 2022 is Coming Soon!

Craving something new? Why not go anal only for a whole month? Challenge yourself to Anal Only April.

Have you been curious about going anal only but haven’t had the push to actually try it for yourself? Well, now is the perfect opportunity. Anal Only April is one of several challenge months where we encourage people interested in the anal only lifestyle to make a month-long commitment and try out pure anal for themselves.

The rules of Anal Only April are simple: starting April 1st, whether on your own or with your significant other, stop all vaginal penetration for sex and masturbation, and replace it with anal instead.

Clitoral stimulation is optional. If you would like to go for a more advanced form of anal only, try doing it without touching your clit and only orgasming through anal. If you need your clit in order to enjoy anal, combine it with anal, but only rub your clit while also masturbating anally.

Oral sex is still allowed and encouraged, especially blowjobs and rimming. Cunnilingus is optional—some choose to exclude it, others still include it but don’t engage in any vaginal penetration as part of it.

Try your best to stick with anal only for the whole month—it’s a long enough period of time that while you might struggle a little bit with it at first, whether adjusting to the frequency of anal sex, or dealing with lingering cravings for vaginal sex or clitoral stimulation, by the end of a month most people figure out what being anal only is really like, and a majority of people who enjoyed their month trial either choose to stay anal only and not go back to vaginal, or return to it again later after a break.

If you’re already anal only, don’t worry—you can still enjoy Anal Only April yourself. Challenge yourself to have anal sex every day of the month, or to start wearing a butt plug or masturbate anally every day, or to experiment with clitoral denial and anal only orgasms if you aren’t already, or to start doing ass to mouth regularly, or to train your ass with bigger toys to be able to do anal fisting or double anal. The possibilities are endless for exploring new things as part of the anal only lifestyle. If you already enjoy double anal, consider trying making April a double anal only month—whether with two partners every time, or with a partner and a dildo, or two dildos.

Over the next week, get your plans in order, get your partner (if any) on board, and if you haven’t had anal sex yet or for a while, start working on training so that by the time Anal Only April begins, you’re ready to dive in!

If you decide to take part, let us know! Share your plans, ask any questions, and keep us updated as you start exploring the anal only lifestyle!

Reddit: What Tipped You Over the Edge?

Seeing a lot of posts from ladies who say they enjoy AO (Which is fucking Awesome btw)

But, what got you started? What made you choose AO? What keeps you AO?

I find the stories hot for one, but also just trying to see what made you interested, and what made you move from interested to actively enjoying, and seeking.

Wifey loves me, and vice versa. She’s sort of open to the idea, wondering if there’s a way to make Anal special for her too. I don’t want to just take, I’m a giver by heart.

So yeah, how do I expand on this productively, and without pressure or coercion? Would love for us to enjoy this journey together and not with some other random…

ASatyromanticGuy, /r/analonlylifestyle

Continue reading on /r/analonlylifestyle on Reddit

Message: Heterosexuality and Vaginal Disinterest

Joe: I am a straight man who is and has only ever been into women my whole life but I have always thought vaginas were a turn off and never liked the idea of vaginal sex. Some of my partners made me feel bad and wrong for this or said I was gay because I only wanted anal. But I am not interested in men, I just love anal sex with women.

Why do we think sexuality has to do with genitals rather than with sex and gender? I am attracted to women, I just prefer anal sex rather than vaginal sex and will not do vaginal because anal is more natural for me and what I love.

My friends prefer anal too but are afraid to go anal only because they think they will also be called gay if they stop having vaginal sex. It is wrong that we are forced to do something unnatural to us and it is equated to being unnatural in a different way if we don’t.

For the most part, this comes from the fact that people’s genitals are an intimate part of their body and often associated not only with sex for them, but also come with various insecurities. When someone is not interested in having vaginal sex with them and only wants anal, it can feel like a rejection of their genitals which can trigger those insecurities and result in them lashing out.

It’s important to express your needs and preferences in a manner which shows them that you aren’t putting them down, you just find their ass and anal sex with them to be so sexy, and that there isn’t anything wrong with their vagina, you just prefer anal. Make them feel hot and sexy to be doing anal with you and they’ll be much more open to it.

Article: How To Have Anal Sex Safely And *Still* Prioritize Pleasure

Even though anal sex—or at least, talking about anal sex—has become significantly less taboo in the past decade, it still remains the big elephant in the bedroom, despite the world becoming a lot more comfortable with the derrière.

Butts have taken on an entirely new status (thanks, social media!)…and the good news is society has become more sex-positive overall (yay!). Still, actually having anal sex remains ~controversial~ among women, no matter how often it’s discussed.

“Unfortunately, there is still a tendency to stigmatize acts that might be considered ‘non-traditional’ for some people, due to lack of information,” explains Alexis Clarke, PhD, a licensed psychologist who specializes in sex and relationships.

Thing is, anal sex can oftentimes become the preferred method for women who don’t have vaginas, for those for whom vaginal penetration is especially painful, and for women who simply experience more pleasure that way, Clarke says.

Continue reading on Women’s Health Magazine

Message: Anal Only Because Vaginal Hurts

Bruce: My wife has abandoned vaginal sex as she now finds it hurts to fit my cock in there but finds anal is fine so when we fuck its now only in her ass is this a common problem as its usually the other way around

It’s surprisingly more common than people think, and anal is easier for a lot of women who experience discomfort or pain from vaginal. Going anal only is a common solution to this and makes perfect sense. Of course, with practice, going anal only can be a better experience for everyone—some are just naturally better suited to it without needing much practice.

Replace Birth Control With Anal Only

As we enter the new year, hormonal birth control methods can still be difficult for people to obtain in many parts of the world, in addition to the wide variety of negative side effects they can cause for many women. Rather than relying on an artificial and potentially harmful method for birth control, why not go anal only instead?

All Natural

Anal sex is the original, all-natural method of birth control. You can have all the anal sex you want and you aren’t going to get pregnant from it unless you really try. Anal lets you have sex stress-free without any reproductive fears or baggage.

Pure Pleasure

Anal is sex for pleasure and intimacy alone, without anything to do with reproduction. It separates sex from reproduction and provides sexual freedom for women who don’t need to worry about pregnancy or taking birth control. Going anal only is the real sexual revolution.

An Uncertain World

In these trying times in the world where access to birth control is not always reliable or affordable, and abortion is at risk of being limited in various places, humanity needs a reliable outlet for non-procreative sex. Anal sex gives more pleasure, more intimacy, and more reliability of birth control.

What are you waiting for? Go anal only today!

Anal Only 2022

As we bring in the new year, it’s time for new year’s resolutions. If you’re a follower of this blog and you aren’t yourselves actively anal only yet, this is the time to go for it! Why wait any longer when you can commit to the anal only lifestyle you really want. If you’re single or don’t have a partner who wants to do it yet, you can do it on your own or communicate your wants and needs with them. If you have a willing partner, take the time and effort to work together and get to where you’re anal only full time.

If you are already anal only, consider if there are any new anal goals you want to achieve—clit denial, full time plugging, stretching with larger toys, double anal, or even going double anal only—and make it happen!

Happy Anal Only New Year!

The Time is Now for Porn to Go Anal Only

As anal sex continues to become more common and the anal only lifestyle more frequently adopted around the world, pornography for once is somewhat lagging behind rather than being a trendsetter.

This is not universally the case, of course: the anal focus can be found in many porn productions with vaginal sex either nonexistent or an afterthought at best, but even the latter should be eliminated until the vagina serves no role at all other than decorative in any porn whatsoever.

The reality is that people are influenced and inspired by porn and continuing to show occasional vaginal inspires people to keep having vaginal sex occasionally rather than committing to the purity of anal only and the benefits that come from doing so.

Stop including any sort of vaginal sexual activity. No more vaginal sex, no more double or triple penetration involving vaginal, no more vaginal dildoing or fingering, and no more clit stimulation. The time is now for porn, and all of us, to go purely anal only.

Message: Struggled With Identity Before Discovering Anal Only

Anonymous: Hey, I really want to thank you for this blog. All my life I’ve had struggles with my identity and whether or not I was a real woman. I often thought of myself as different or maybe as a man and thought perhaps I was transgender, embracing that identity for a while. But the reality is that a lot of that confusion came out of being uninterested in vaginal sex and finding it a total turn off while I loved playing with my ass and then having anal sex.

After I found this blog and community I realized there are lots of women who prefer anal or who are anal only and that it doesn’t make them less of a woman and knowing that has helped me with my own identity and I am happy to say that I am proud to identify as an anal only woman now and will not use my vagina and that will not make me any less of a woman. Thank you.

I’m glad that my blog has helped you come to terms with your identity, and I hope that you find peace in embracing being an anal only woman. Whatever your gender identity, I think anal only can be enjoyed and embraced by and benefit everyone! Let’s move forward together without vaginal sex and be more equal as a result!

Message: Vaginal Abandonment and Orgasm Denial

Anonymous: So, I’ve followed this site for a while. I’m a female. I get super turned on at the thought of vaginal abandonment and orgasm denial. However, the vaginal abandonment term is not something I hear or read about often. Wondering why that is? I’ll be discussing this with my partner and I am unsure of how he will feel about it. He comes from a fairly conservative culture. So it’s something I’ll need to bring up lightly initially. At any rate I’ve tried finding good resources such as other blogs or articles and even testimonials about specific vaginal abandonment and why it’s done. Not sure if I’m making sense. Perhaps it’s just a terminology issue and I’m missing the point. I dunno.

“Vaginal abandonment” is used interchangeably with “anal only”, and the latter is catchier and easier to use so is more common. But they generally mean the same thing. The end result is avoiding use of your vagina and having anal sex in its place.

There are lots of resources on the topic here, but outside of this community it’s less commonly discussed. If you have any other specific questions or advice wanted, feel free to ask! And let us know how it goes when you discuss it with your partner—I hope for your sake that he agrees to go anal only with you!