jeuxdepouvoir: Hi, I’m a gay male but I thought my feedback might be interesting: I actually love your blog, and I must say it changed my sexuality. I’ve always been more of a bottom, but your blog made me go full bottom and ignoring my cock (even when I’m by myself), and I’ve never had so much pleasure and such huge (anal) orgasms. Like for women, those orgasms actually keep me hot all the time, and I’m more available and ready to please. Anyone enjoying being penetrated should stop cock/clitoris stimulation.

Thanks for the message. I totally agree that everyone should at least try switching to purely anal stimulation for a while, ideally at least a few months, to see what benefits it may have for them. It’s not necessarily suitable for everyone, but it can be so enjoyable and beneficial that it’s at least worth a try.

So I made it all November with out touching my clit and for some stupid reason I used it and now I feel really depressed ashamed and guilty for using it and now I’m almost completely turned off by sex right now and I need some encouragement and advice like should I just force myself to do anal masturbation and try and get turned on again which I can orgasm from just anal also a vaginal virgin ?any ways please help ?

So it’s actually really common for someone to feel bad or depressed and have a huge arousal crash when giving in to vaginal or clitoral stimulation after a long anal only streak. This likely has to do with a combination of factors, including the breaking of a streak and a long-term goal, and the fact that clitoral orgasms already have arousal-dampening and depressive effects for a lot of women, and so a big one after a long period without them is going to amplify that effect far more.

Don’t feel too bad about it. Try to get yourself back into anal play in the next few days and your arousal will start to grow again. Remember how you felt after a clitoral orgasm the next time you feel like you might want one, and you can use this experience to build an even stronger anal only foundation for the next time around. Expect that it will probably happen again—it can take multiple cycles of building a streak of anal only and then giving in to old habits, but weakening those habits more each time, but it ultimately gets easier with practice.

Anonymous: Would you go anal only for the rest of your life!

sillybimbobunny: Uh, duh!

After baby is born, Daddy says we’re going back to strictly anal and oral. I haven’t cum in 121 days, and I’ve nearly forgotten the sensation.

I’m excited and nervous for the day I get locked in chastity with a semi-permanent plug in my ass; I’m addicted to rubbing my stupid useless clit.

(I’ll probably be put on an alternating regimen of numbing spray for when we fuck and IcyHot for when I’m not in use.)

I still edge, but pretty soon I’ll just have to get all my pleasure from Daddy’s cock in my ass and his cum down my throat. I’m still learning. ?

Anonymous: I sent a message recently about wether or not I should lose my vaginal virginity to my boyfriend or not and in glad to say we talked and I haven’t! He is completely understanding and more than willing to stick to anal only. We have decided we want to be even more adventurous with our anal play. We already have his friends join us every now and again but i was wondering how to get even more adventurous? What do you recommend? Nothing is too crazy

I’m glad to hear that it worked out and that you were able to communicate your desires to him and he’s understanding that you want to stay an anal only vaginal virgin. That’s great. Communication is key, and is usually the most effective way of resolving such things and figuring out effective compromises. Keep it up!

As for being more adventurous, there are plenty of ways you could do that. Not knowing what you already do, there might be some overlap with existing activities for you, but I’ll list some ideas anyway. Not all may interest you, and while they’re listed in increasing order, they aren’t all necessarily dependent on previous ones.

• Experiment with clitoral denial and only orgasming from anal, which can have a similar amplification effect on arousal as edging and clitoral/vaginal orgasm denial does for a lot of women. If you like edging, you can actually do anal edging as well, which can be a lot of fun.
• Start incorporating regular ass to mouth into your routine. This pairs well with group sex with multiple men as they can take turns between your ass and your mouth.
• Start wearing a butt plug regularly and gradually training your ass for larger toys—plugs, beads, dildos, etc.
• After working up in size, try double anal. You can try this with toys first, then once you’re confident you’re ready, try it with your boyfriend and a friend of his.
• Anal fisting and large toy play can be a lot of fun once you’re ready for it.
• If you’re serious about remaining a vaginal virgin, you can help symbolize this with labia piercings that close off your pussy. This isn’t strictly necessary, of course, but some like the look and the symbolism of doing so. Plenty of women are anal only or vaginal virgins without doing this, though!

Hopefully those give you a few ideas and starting points to choose from. No doubt my followers can also reply and add some ideas of their own. Keep us updated with what you decide to do and how things progress for you! Enjoy!

mcshishi: Not sure if you remember me but I’m the one who complained about not being able to orgasm during anal masturbation, well I’m back and I wanted to say I’ve done it!! I now know what I need to cum from anal masturbation. Finally don’t need my clit to cum in any fashion. Go me haha

Congratulations! That’s wonderful. Do you mind sharing your process in case it helps anyone else get to that same point?

The original poster responded:

Since you asked so nicely I was never a penetrating masturbator, I would vibe my clit or hump a pillow (the clit makes one desperate!!) After my husband I started incorporating anal into our sex life I found I literally couldn’t cum without something in my ass, so I would plug myself, stimulate the clit and be done in 10 mins. Well I started to feel unhappy with depending on my clit to masturbate, at this point I could cum strictly anal on my husbands cock easily. This is when I messaged you

It took time, and accepting that I wasn’t going to cum every time I masturbated, which for a clit addicted woman this is hard to accept! I learned that I needed to allow my solo sessions more time, and to ride the dildo! This way the motion is sooo satisfying and I can play with my nipples while I ride my ass out = heaven! I’ve came several times this way and will never go back to clit stimulation

Thank you for sharing! Nipple play and other stimulation can be a great thing to explore along with anal penetration, and definitely can lead to orgasm and help unlock anal orgasms without the dominance of clitoral stimulation overpowering everything. I’m really glad you were able to figure this out and have no desire to return to your clit ever again.

Anonymous: Thank you for showing me only anal I have been only anal for about 3 months now and my whole body has changed. When having sex before my nipples were never sensitive or hard, now even thinking about anal my nipples stand up right and are just begging to be played with. My pussy is so useless now my clit doesn’t even get touched all I care about is my nipples and ass

You’re very welcome. I’m glad you were able to discover it and how much you love it, and that this blog and its surrounding community introduced you and so many other people to it. It’s something I’ll miss the most once this blog goes away, the interactions with everyone, and the resulting relative lack of exposure that will come from losing a platform with 150,000 followers and millions more potential Tumblr users who might catch a reblogged post and say “hey, anal only, what’s that? that sounds interesting” and awaken a whole part of their sexuality they had no idea existed.

Thanks so much for sharing and for trying out anal only for yourself. With any luck we’ll find a platform where we can continue this blog and continue introducing more people to the lifestyle.

goodlilsubbygirl: What’s your thoughts on going anal only?

bisexualattentionwhore: I’ve been anal only all this month and decided to go through November and it’s amazing. Having my ass filled is my favorite. Sometimes i have such strong urges to fuck my pussy though.., Any suggestions on what to do in December?

goodlilsubbygirl: I’ve been anal only since June, and I’ve been anal only before too. There’s a couple things I’ve done.

First I cut out all pussy touching completely. Touching it just made me want it more, and that wasn’t working. So none of that. This also forces me to play with my ass more, which helped me figure out all the different ways it can give me pleasure. Superior pleasure ?

Next I started wearing butt plugs in public all the time. This constantly kept me thinking about anal and that I’m teasing myself in the one way I can give myself pleasure. Wearing mini skirts put me in a slutty mindset and also kept me playful and thinking about who might see that plug. Really did a lot for me ?

Last I started to do more ass to mouth. This one really got me to love anal like I do. It’s so dirty and degrading but that in itself turns me on, and honestly I don’t taste that bad and I just want more ??‍♀️? this had me thinking about anal all the time and I kinda stopped thinking about my pussy that much

Honestly anal feels hundreds of times better than pussy for me. So that and doing all this really did it for me! If you have any more questions you can message me! Or we can keep replying here for everyone to see ?????❤️

Anonymous: I didn’t send you any messages earlier in the month but I did No Pussy November all month on my own (I’m single). I wore a plug part of the day every day, masturbated with my dildo at least once daily and sometimes more, and only orgasmed from anal. I had a lot of fun! I’ve always been able to cum from anal so it was easy to just not use my clit to masturbate. I think I’m going to just keep going with it, it is a fun way to masturbate. Might be hard to explain when I meet a guy, though!

I’m glad to hear it was a good experience for you and that you’re going to stay anal only! That’s the whole point of No Pussy November, encouraging people to try anal only for themselves to see how it actually works for them in their life, rather than just a fantasy or a fun idea. A lot of people think that it wouldn’t work well for them until they actually try it and see that, in fact, it’s great and they want more. So, always good to see more people having that experience!

As you say, though, it’s definitely easier to decide to become anal only on your own and commit to it in your solo life than it is when trying to incorporate it with new partners as well. You could take different approaches depending on how serious you are about being anal only going forward. You can always stay anal only on your own and have that be your thing for yourself, while being more flexible with partners and trying to shift things to more anal or anal mostly/only over time, or just be up front about what you want and tell them that you prefer anal and don’t want to do vaginal, and seek partners who share the same preference for anal. There are certainly men out there who want the same, even if not everyone does, and for the right guy, finding someone like you would be their lucky day!

So I’ve gone all this month so far with out touching my clit and I’m able to orgasm from anal, think I should just keep going strictly anal only or should I phase my clit in and use it a little more? And am I still considered a vaginal virgin if I have only fingered my pussy once?

Congratulations on being anal only and going without touching your clit all month! If you’re able to orgasm from anal and you’ve gone this long without clitoral stimulation, why not try to keep going and see how long you can go without it? There’s nothing inherently wrong with clitoral stimulation, of course, and if you really want to keep doing it, by all means go ahead, but if you enjoy not doing it and only orgasming from anal, I’d suggest that you continue to build on your month-long streak so far and see where it takes you.

Vaginal virginity most commonly refers to not having had vaginal intercourse with a partner, so yes, you are a vaginal virgin if you’ve only fingered yourself vaginally. Is remaining a vaginal virgin and being anal only long-term something that interests you?

Anonymous: Why do you keep pushing no clit so much? Do you hate women? Do you want them to not enjoy sex?

This sounds like a disingenuous and deliberately argumentative question.

Some people need clit stimulation to enjoy anal or to be anal only, or they just want it. That’s fine. You can be anal only with clit stimulation.

Other people like anal without clit stimulation and/or can orgasm purely from anal and so value that, or even dislike clit stimulation.

A lot of women, but not all, have some negative side effects from clit orgasms, like a significant loss of arousal or a depressed feeling post-orgasm, which for most doesn’t happen from anal orgasms. So it can have some of the same benefits as edging for arousal and a sort of constant, steady pleasure, but without denying orgasms and pleasure. As such, it can be really enjoyable and beneficial to explore and experiment with total clitoral denial alongside anal only. Maybe it’s not for you. But at least try it for a while and see if it is.