Category: Anal Orgasm

Posts discussing orgasms that come purely from penetrative anal sex without any vaginal or clitoral stimulation. For more information on this topic, see our guide to achieving an anal orgasm.


Guest Post: My Anal Only Bucket List

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Serve Anal Only Clients as a Sex Worker

As a sex worker, my job is primarily to cater to the fantasies of my clients. I have little control over what those are and most of the time, they already know what they want when they approach me to book an appointment.

That said, some of my clients certainly do have anal sex fetishes. And that’s fantastic! Needless to say, they are automatically bumped to the top of my list.

Unfortunately, I don’t have a large enough group of clients with an anal fetish to exclusively offer services to them while still being able to fully support myself financially.

That part is something I could probably overcome with enough time and patience. It wouldn’t be impossible to slowly build a list of steady clients who love anal sex.

But the bigger problem with that is the majority of those clients I have with an anal fetish also seem to expect vaginal sex as well. I only have two reliable clients who are truly anal only.

Alas, it would be the ultimate accomplishment if I were able to pull this off!

Have 100% Anal Only Orgasms

While each woman is different, I know I can’t be the only one who struggles to master the art of the 100% anal only orgasm.

While there is absolutely no doubt that anal sex feels far superior to vaginal in terms of pleasure, neither type of penetration has ever resulted in orgasms for me.

I have arrived at the conclusion that the pleasure I feel from anal is more intense and far preferable to any orgasms I could have by stimulating my clit.”

Ashly

Which is actually kind of okay, I have come to realize over time.

I know some women who are anal only still include clitoral stimulation in their sex lives in order to climax, and there is nothing wrong with going that route at all!

But I happen to be in the no clit stimulation camp, which may simply mean I end up not experiencing orgasms at all.

While this might not be acceptable to all women, I have arrived at the conclusion that the pleasure I feel from anal is more intense and far preferable to any orgasms I could have by stimulating my clit.

Get My Boyfriend to Commit to Anal Only

Don’t misunderstand me here, my boyfriend loves anal sex as much as I do!

In fact, according to him, it was when I told him to put it in my ass during our very first hookup that he claims was the moment he knew he wanted to marry me someday.

All jokes aside though, we are both all about it. But to be honest, I have not brought up the idea of being strictly anal with him yet. Granted, we have only been together about six months so far.

It’s not that I’m worried he will react in a negative way, but I want to be sure that he understands where I’m coming from fully before I broach the subject.

I guess it’s just got to be the right time and setting and I need to be totally confident in how I communicate the idea to him.

I don’t imagine it will be much longer before I bring it up, so wish me luck!

Get a Vaginal Chastity Piercing

I first found out about this type of body art several years ago when I stumbled upon a couple of Tumblr blogs featuring photos of all the variations available.

While I had heard of clit piercings, I had no idea about chastity piercings or how many different styles were possible.

While imagining myself in the chair about to be pierced makes me wince a good deal at the pain involved, the main reason I haven’t taken the leap yet is that I’m pretty shy about this sort of thing with strangers.

I’m not the type of gal who would just walk into a body piercing parlor and walk right up to the desk and ask if vaginal chastity piercings are a thing they offer. I’m just not comfortable with that situation.

Personally, I’d need to do enough research privately beforehand or get a recommendation from someone I know in real life before approaching any place where I could get something like this done.

But once I have a trusted recommendation, I think I would like to get one.


Of course, this list is just the tip of the iceberg for me.

Ideally, I’d like to publish more about my love for anal sex and help to promote its acceptance as a healthy and desirable way of life to help others discover better sex sooner in life than I did!

My hope is that I can make some small contribution to normalizing the lifestyle on a greater societal level.

Cheers!
Ashly

Message: Is It Necessary to Stop Clit Stimulation?

Anonymous: I’ve been only having anal sex for several years and I love it. I have really wanted to stop rubbing my clit too, but I struggle with that a lot more than stopping vaginal penetration. It was easy to stop doing vaginal, anal feels a lot better. But I always still give in to rubbing my clit sometimes, especially on my own. When I’m having sex it’s easy. But if I’m just masturbating, it’s hard to resist. Do you have any advice, and how important do you think it is for anal only girls to not touch their clit?

Congratulations on being anal only for several years now!

Clit stimulation and whether it continue it as part of being anal only is very much a matter of personal preference. Many people in the anal only lifestyle have no problem with continuing clit stimulation and just replace vaginal penetration with anal. Some avoid it during sex but do it when masturbating. And others avoid it entirely, finding that it makes it harder to commit to the anal-centric mindset and lifestyle or makes it harder for them to orgasm from anal.

If you’re happy with how you are, then enjoy it and don’t worry about what other people do. Anal only is fundamentally about anal penetration instead of vaginal penetration, and things like excluding clit stimulation as well are additional choices on top of that which can pair well with it for some. But if you really want to pursue clit denial, especially if you feel like you lose arousal or feel depressed after clit orgasms, there are some things that you can do.

  • Work on orgasming from anal penetration instead. If you can already do this, try doing it more often to make it easier so your body gets more used to anal orgasms instead of clit orgasms.
  • Challenge yourself to gradually go longer and longer without clit stimulation. A few days at first, then a week, then a few weeks, then a month, etc. If you give in to the urges, just pick back up and try to beat your previous record. The longer you go without it, the easier it will get in time, and the more your arousal will become anal centric.
  • Use tape on your pussy or a small amount of numbing cream to temporarily remove sensation from your clit when masturbating. If you want a long-term solution, consider a clit shield.

For more information on clit denial and how to move past it, read our guide on the Benefits of Avoiding Clitoral Stimulation During Anal Sex.

Message: My Anal Only Experience

Anonymous: I just discovered your blog and wanted to share my anal experience because I think its objectively pretty hot and you seem like folks who would enjoy it. My boyfriend is 12 years older than me and only likes anal and never lets me touch my pussy during sex. And while I really like anal I can’t come from it alone, but I get really turned on by being submissive to him so I just sort of learned to focus on his pleasure, and now there’s nothing I like more than the feeling of him tensing up and cumming inside of me and knowing that I satisfied him.

Granted we don’t have anal everyday because it’s a bit too much work so on the days we can’t I go down on him whenever he wants. But on the days we do have anal he’s usually really rough and wild and does a bunch of fun kinky stuff like spit on me, or slap my butt and my pussy, or call me mean naughty names.

As much as I like our sex life I’m always on the prowl for new kinky things we could do, and was wondering if you have any suggestions for novel kinky stuff we could try.

A couple things come to mind based on what you’ve shared.

  • You mention that you can’t orgasm from anal alone, and that you don’t touch your pussy during sex. Do you touch it when you’re on your own and masturbating? While everyone is different, something that has worked for a lot of women to start experiencing anal orgasms without clit stimulation is to also transition to anal only when orgasming, so that their body can adjust fully to anal stimulation only and learn to orgasm that way. Clit orgasms tend to be a lot easier but less satisfying and because they happen more quickly, they can prevent getting to the point where you orgasm from anal.
  • What part of having anal every day is too much work for you, is it the cleaning or the warming up/stretching part of the preparation process? If it’s cleaning, you might try a higher fiber diet or taking fiber supplements as a way to naturally stay cleaner and require less manual cleaning. If it’s warming up and stretching, have you tried wearing a butt plug for at least a few hours a day if not longer (sleeping with one in can work well)? This can really help with staying warmed up for anal sex and making it more spontaneous, and also boosts your anal arousal and sensitivity. As you get used to wearing a plug longer term, you can try experimenting with 24/7 plugging.

Beyond that, there are all sorts of fun things you could try. Tape on your pussy to cover it up and prevent access to it, numbing cream to prevent feeling anything in your clit temporarily, stretching with bigger plugs or toys, double anal play, ass to mouth, rimming, and more!

Message: Ruined Orgasms

Anonymous: Years ago, to torture myself i used to have ruined orgasms, everyone has their opinion but i think that for you to be anal only you can’t cum at all. So i would play with my clit and when i was almost there, i would stop. I enjoyed doing that cause it was a HUGE torture. Do you recommend ruining orgasms or not touching the pussy at all?

It really comes down to personal preference and what works best for you. For many, the goal of clit denial with anal only is avoiding the distraction of an easier form of orgasm so they can learn to have anal orgasms instead, and so it makes sense to end clit stimulation as a result.

However, for others who prefer anal penetration but need clit stimulation or clit orgasms to stay focused on and committed to the anal only lifestyle, edging, ruined orgasms, or clit orgasms in combination with anal can work well for them.

If your goal is to avoid anything vaginal or clitoral, then I suggest not touching it at all and focusing purely on anal stimulation and penetration.

Reddit: FWB Suddenly Started Loving Anal

We’ve had anal on several occasions, she was always quite “meh” about it, mostly doing it for me. She would eat and prep so we’d get one day of hassle free buttstuff, however this time it was entirely different. Whether it was the stars and moons aligning or some other cosmic event we were not prepared for what happened. This day, a girl that has never had a penetrative orgasm in her life had multiple serial orgasms, squirted and could hardly walk to the bathroom afterwards. Needless to say that one day turned into a week of anal, she can’t wait for more and neither can I. She won’t be going anal only, but she’s now got a strong preference, and I’m not complaining!

Has anyone had something similar happen? A previous girlfriend of mine would have full body, seizure like orgasms from anal, however it was like that since I first introduced her to anal.

Wiceroy, /r/analonlylifestyle on Reddit

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Anal Only New Year 2021

Happy new year, and with it, all sorts of new opportunities for anal only fun! It’s time to make your anal only new year’s resolutions and share them with the world to help inspire others.

Some ideas include:

  • If you aren’t already anal only, challenge yourself to go anal only this year. Starting out with a month or two of anal only to ease into the lifestyle and see if it’s for you is a good way to begin, and then if it works well for you, just keep going.
  • If you’re anal mostly, consider taking the final step and giving up vaginal sex for good.
  • If you’re anal only but still use clit stimulation and would like to switch to pure anal only, that’s an excellent 2021 goal and could be coupled with learning to orgasm from anal sex if you can’t already.
  • If you enjoy stretching and want to go larger, consider setting a new goal with some bigger toys or even better, start doing double anal with two toys or two partners more often. If you already enjoy double anal and find single anal less enjoyable compared to the intensity of double anal, consider going double anal only in 2021 and move past single anal for good.
  • If you’re happy with your anal only lifestyle and want to help others experience the same, consider being more outspoken about the lifestyle to friends and others and encourage them to try it for themselves. A goal of introducing others to anal only is an excellent way to have a rewarding experience for yourself while growing the lifestyle at the same time.

There are many more great options to try, and this is far from an exhaustive list. Leave a comment on this post or submit a message detailing your anal only goals and resolutions for 2021.

Anal Only is Better for Women

Contrary to popular belief, and something that is echoed by many of the anal only women out there, the primary benefactors of anal sex and the anal only lifestyle are women.

So many people still insist on the misconception that women don’t enjoy anal and only do it for their male partners, and that men get far more enjoyment from anal penetration than women do.

Now, men certainly enjoy and get a lot of benefit out of anal sex as well, but the point of this article is to explore how vastly superior anal can be for women in comparison to men.

For men, it’s sexier, tighter, has more texture and grip than vaginal, and allows for deeper penetration.

For women, the contrast is more significant:

  • The tightness leads to a much more intense feeling of fullness compared to vaginal, which amplifies pleasure in general and makes everything more stimulating as a result.
  • The depth allows much much deeper and harder penetration without risking impacting with the cervix, which can be very uncomfortable and painful.
  • Anal sex is inherently a form of natural birth control, and it’s very difficult to get accidentally pregnant from anal sex (not impossible, but rare), which allows focusing on sex and pleasure without the fear of risked pregnancy, other forms of birth control failing, or their cost and side effects.
  • Less than 1/3 of women are able to orgasm from vaginal penetration alone and rely on clit stimulation in order to orgasm during vaginal. However, studies show that over 80% of women who have anal sex orgasm from it. Because many women experience negative side effects from clit orgasms, including loss of arousal, oversensitivity post-orgasm, and emotional crashes and depression post-orgasm, which generally are not present with anal orgasms, this can make a tremendous difference to long term enjoyment of sex and arousal.

So, if you or someone you know thinks that men get the most benefit from anal sex, it’s always best to try it for yourself and see what you really think. Chances are you’ll be surprised just how much greater anal is than vaginal for women, and the benefit is usually even greater for women than it is for men.

Forum: Enthusiastically Embracing the Anal Only Lifestyle

I am new here and in this lifestyle, I chose this path about nine months ago, which have been the best days and the best decisions of my life.
I chose to be AO because my life got boring and monotonous just with vaginal penetration.
The boys of my country are a bit prejudiced regarding this issue, so as you know I have not yet had a boy who has penetrated me anally.
Also my biggest concern has always been pregnancies, I already have a child and I don’t want to have more babies.
I have been single for many months, precisely for this reason of having sex and getting pregnant, contraceptive methods are not safe, that is how I am entering this lifestyle.
For a few months after I broke up with my boyfriend I was masturbating vaginally but it was very boring, so I took the initiative to practice anal masturbation.
I searched many pages, on Twitter I found Anal Only Style Life which has been a good advisor and guide for my process.
I bought a plug, a dildo and a lubricant, daily I massaged my anus with my fingers until I managed to dilate it and I was able to insert the plug.
During the nights I slept with my anal plug on, over the days I was able to change my plug for the dildo, it has been a good therapy for anal dilation.
With this experience I convinced myself that it is a beneficial lifestyle, it is the best contraceptive and much more pleasant than my pussy.
I am currently in the process of masturbating to reach anal orgasm without the help of the clitoris, I am also aspiring to be an anal queen, I am very enthusiastic about this.
I am very proud of what I have accomplished.
I must emphasize that in only anal I will remain and that there is no going back.
Once anal, always anal!

JuneSweetyHot, Anal Only Lifestyle forum

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Forum: Returning to Anal Only

Mr P and I enjoyed months of anal only pleasure last year and after a dry spell we have decided that anal only gave us both true pleasure. He loves owning my arse and how tight it feels around his cock. I am on way to orgasming from anal only as we’ve discovered I can only cum if he fingers my arse when touching my clit. Mr P wants my arse to cum for him on demand I am therefore giving up my clit, pussy and nipples for him. He has allowed me to have once last clit orgasm whilst he is at work. I had to film it for in and send it to him as my last piece of free will. My outer labia lips are pierced and now sealed shut with a padlock. I am to give Mr P the key tonight. That area now belongs to him. I have checked my arse gape and pleased to say I can take a plug that is 4 inch circumference and 6 inch length. I’m hoping I can take his cock for him tonight and please him fully

Mr&missP, Anal Only Lifestyle forum

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The Dangers of Clit Stimulation

While many women regularly indulge in clit stimulation and clit orgasms as part of their sex life, and in fact a majority of women who have vaginal sex rely on their clit in order to orgasm since 1/3 or less of women are capable of orgasming from vaginal sex, there are many disadvantages and even dangers of using your clit, especially when compared to anal orgasms.

Clit Orgasms Suppress Arousal

While this doesn’t affect everyone in the same way, many women experience a crash after clit orgasms, where their arousal levels drop and they generally lose interest in continuing any sexual activities, as well as their sex organs often becoming very sensitive to the touch.

This is often combined with a mood crash as well, with some even reporting that it can contribute to depression for them. Again, everyone has different effects, but these effects can be so common that many women just think of them as a normal part of sex and orgasm, when that doesn’t have to be the case.

This is also the reason that edging and orgasm denial appeal so much to many women, because it boosts and maintains arousal levels without the orgasm itself causing that happier and more sexual state to be suppressed. But, orgasm denial isn’t the only option!

Clit Addiction Makes Anal Orgasms More Difficult

A common goal for anal only women is to achieve anal orgasms, and studies show that far more women are able to have anal orgasms than from vaginal.

But, if you have a strongly established habit and addiction to clit stimulation, where you have a very hard time resisting it and rely strongly on it for all orgasms, it can be more difficult to adjust to orgasms from other sources, including anal orgasms. Your body can become habituated to clit stimulation as the only way it knows how to orgasm, especially if clit orgasms come easily to you, and other stimulation can take a backseat to it.

By foregoing clit stimulation for a while, and focusing on anal penetration only, you can start to unlock those other paths to orgasm, and with practice anal orgasm can start to come very easily!

Of course, for some women, they can naturally orgasm very easily from anal to begin with with and it’s less of a challenge to switch to anal only orgasms.

Clit Stimulation Distracts From Natural Anal Centrism

Part of the advantage of going anal only is that by eliminating vaginal penetration, you’re focusing all your stimulation on anal and really learning to maximize its pleasure, which is already more intense and gives a stronger feeling of fullness, and becomes better without the distraction of vaginal penetration. The longer you go anal only, the better sex keeps getting, as commonly reported by many anal only couples when they check in on the forum and give updates on their years of anal only.

The same is true for clit stimulation, and while you can certainly be anal only without eliminating clit stimulation entirely, it’s a much deeper pleasure and satisfaction to stop clit play as well, and really maximizes the commitment to pure anal pleasure without feeling like your pussy and clit are still holding you back. At first, it can be a difficult urge to resist, but in time, transitioning all your stimulation and pleasure to anal just feels natural, and you’ll stop reaching for your clit.

Anal Orgasms Have None of These Negatives

Clit denial is not the same thing as orgasm denial, and as mentioned above, it can make anal orgasms easier to regularly experience. And the strong advantage of this is that anal orgasms don’t have those same downsides for most women.

  • Anal orgasms feel more full body rather than centered in one area specifically
  • Anal orgasms usually don’t cause an arousal crash at the same level as clit orgasms, and in some women can actually boost arousal, which in either case makes it possible to continue having sex and wanting to keep going as much as possible and getting multiple orgasms in a session
  • Anal orgasms usually don’t cause mood crashes and typically leave one feeling higher and happier afterwards
  • Anal orgasms usually don’t cause increased super-sensitivity to where genital or anal contact and continuing to have sex becomes uncomfortable

As with anything, there are some women for whom the above may not be true, but most women are able to enjoy anal orgasms with minimal side effects compared to clit orgasms, and the only thing holding someone back from continuing to have orgasm after orgasm is their partner’s stamina and their physical energy.

So, if you’re considering trying clit denial, go for it. The advantages are well worth the initial challenges.