If you’ve followed us for a while, you’re probably familiar with our Guide to Anal Sex and the Anal Only Lifestyle, which has been a part of this website for the past year since moving off Tumblr.

It’s always going to be a freely available resource as part of this blog for those who want to learn more about anal sex and the anal only lifestyle, but I’m happy to announce that you can also purchase it in an ebook format through Amazon as well, if that’s how you prefer to do your reading!

It can be a good resource if you’re just getting started, and it can make a good gift for friends who might be interested in anal or going anal only. Either way, it helps support this blog and the greater anal only community.

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Canan the Turkishwife: First of all, I apologize for my poor English. I’ve been anal only with my husband for 2 years. I haven’t touched my clitoris since May. I only do anal masturbation without touching my pussy and clit.

I’ve been wearing anal plugs on my ass 24/7. I have the right to remove anal plugs for no more than one hour a day. My husband fucks me in the ass every day, but he says it’s not enough. My husband wants me to be “Double Anal Only” now. He wants to fuck me without removing the anal plug. He wants me to wear a second anal plug after the fuck. Do you think I should do this to make him happy?

Is it something that you want to do? Everyone’s sexual and relationship dynamic is different, and it sounds like you have a dom/sub dynamic going on, but what you want can still matter as well.

Aside from whether it’s something you want to do, my concern would be that keeping two butt plugs in your ass would become uncomfortable fairly quickly, as they aren’t designed to be worn in that manner, and a better approach might be to go up in size to a larger plug that’s ergonomically designed but still is significantly larger.

And for double anal sex, that’s certainly something that many people are exploring and enjoying, though usually with two men or a man and a dildo, rather than a man and a butt plug. It’s no doubt possible, but might not be comfortable for either of you to do with a butt plug every time. If you’re interested, give it a try and see how it goes, but if it doesn’t work out very well, you could try it with a dildo instead alongside his penis.

Ultimately, I’d suggest trying it a few times, seeing how it works, and then if you do find something that works, commit to a month of it and see how things progress from there before committing to it fully.

Ana: Hi. I want to know if any woman in here who has done only anal sex for more than 3 years has stomach issues. Me and my partner have anal sex 5 days a week and everyday I am doing colonics to be clean. For a month now i have noticed that it doesn’t work so well anymore. I prep myself and when we have sex something happens and we get dirty and when we have sex my stomach sometimes hurts. It is someone here that can relate to my story? I really can use some advice . Thank you.

I’m sorry to hear that you’re having digestive/hygiene issues that are affecting your ability to enjoy anal. That’s something that can sometimes affect people, even if they’ve had no problem before. The causes can vary, and there are different things to try, but it will generally get better in time.

• It’s possible that you have been impacted by a stomach virus or something similar which is affecting you at a lower level and that you need time to recover, especially if you’re noticing any other digestive issues. You could talk to your doctor about the issue and see if they can offer any assistance.
• If you’ve made any dietary changes recently, that may be a factor. Try adding more fiber to your diet, whether through fiber supplements or natural dietary fiber. This can make a huge impact. Even if it hasn’t been an issue before, adding fiber is usually a positive thing for an anal only lifestyle.
• You may consider backing off on the enemas somewhat—even if it wasn’t an issue before, for some people they can cause more of a mess or throw off the balance of healthy bacteria that help with the digestive process.

For more information on the above, see our guide to anal hygiene and how to have clean anal sex. It has additional details about fiber supplements and more. Good luck, and I hope everything works out for you and you’re able to get back into a clean anal routine!

Beth: I’ve been married for a few months and my husband so badly wants to fuck my ass. He has fingered my ass during sex a few times and even rimmed me on our wedding night. He knows I’m open to it but he doesn’t quite know just how much it turns me on. He’s tried to rim my ass and press his cock into me but I’m much too tight and he’s much too endowed. I know there will have to be a little training before but I don’t really know how to start & I think he’s a little impatient. I purchased a butt plug and I wear it at least once a week when he isn’t home but I know it isn’t enough.

Do I just wear it and surprise him with it? Do I ask him to plug me next time things get heated? I just don’t know the best way to bridge the gap!

It sounds like your primary concern is not being ready enough, because it seems that you do want it as much or more than him, you just want to make sure that his impatience or him being overeager doesn’t hurt you and it’s an enjoyable experience for the both of you. Is that a fair assessment?

I’d suggest making the butt plug wear a much more frequent thing for you, and to start masturbating regularly while wearing the plug, as well as fingering your ass during masturbation. Our Guide to Anal Sex and the Anal Only Lifestyle has a section on Anal Training that provides more information that process. Once you’re comfortable doing it more regularly, I would also read the Guide to Having Anal Sex for the First Time and then decide if you want your husband to help train you the rest of the way before having sex or dive right into trying it with him.

Once you do want to admit your enthusiasm about trying it, I would just be open about it and tell him. He’ll love to hear that you want to do anal too, if he’s as excited as it seems about trying it with you. Communication is best for everyone. But you can also be wearing a plug when you tell him that, and show him, and he’ll love seeing that too!

Good luck, and I hope you have a wonderful time exploring anal together!

Clara: I’ve seen a few of your posts recently where you mentioned women going “double anal only”. Can you talk some more about that and how it works?

I’ve been anal only for four years myself, since I was 16, and I’ve done double anal every now and then during the past few years. I really like it and think it’s a lot of fun, and I think the idea of going double anal only, at least for a while, sounds pretty hot, but I don’t know how I would do it practically since it can be hard to find guys into it, even enough to do it regularly.

A general increase in interest in double anal is something I’ve been seeing over the past few years, and I know there are at least several women out there—no doubt many more who aren’t talking about it publicly—who practice double anal only lifestyles, or who have done so in the past.

Generally, these women fall into one of two categories:

• those who have many different sex partners and who cultivate a group of guys who enjoy/prefer double anal until they have enough to always have some combination of at least two guys at any time
  
• those who are in a relationship and/or live with at least two partners full time and so always have two guys available for their ass at all times

Now, these aren’t always the easiest scenarios to bring about for everyone, but if you’re really motivated to make a double anal only lifestyle work for you, especially if it’s something you’ve been able to do from time to time before, chances are you’ll be able to figure it out and find some guys into the idea. You can always start doing it just for a month or so at first, and see where it goes from there.

Some people hesitate when considering the idea of going anal only, even if they prefer anal sex and consider themselves anal always by always having anal every time they have sex, but sometimes including vaginal penetration as foreplay or part of sex as well and not wanting to exclude it completely.

In general, yes, the more anal you have, the better. But being anal only isn’t just about more anal, it’s also about not having vaginal sex. At all. And there’s a good reason for that:

The longer you go without vaginal sex and focus exclusively on anal, the better the anal gets and the more intensely pleasurable it becomes. Partly this is because you’re excluding your previous sexual center and allowing your body to adjust to a new pleasure source without distracting and confusing it by going back and forth, and partly it’s the mental aspect and excitement of knowing you’re only having anal sex going forward.

It’s one of those things that you kind of just have to try in order to understand it. So, if you haven’t already, the best way is to try going anal only for a few months to give yourself enough time to adjust to it and start to see the benefits. If you can make it past a month, chances are you’ll start to understand why it’s such a popular thing and will start to want to stay anal only long term.

Merry Christmas to everyone in the anal only lifestyle, whether actively practicing, anal only in the past, or merely curious! May it be a wonderful Christmas for all of you.

And for those who are interested in being receptively anal only but haven’t yet given it a try, this can be a good opportunity to give a last minute Christmas gift to your partner—tell them that you want to try going anal only with them for a while and that they can fuck you in the ass every time. A month or two is usually a good amount of time to get started to work out the kinks, after which it becomes quite easy to just keep going anal only. Or if you really want to dive into it, you can join our upcoming Anal Only 2020 challenge! (Stay tuned for more information about that in a few days!)

Hello, my wife, Mrs. Canassman, and I have been Anal Only for several years now, but she and I have decided to see how a period of time without clit stimulation goes. Lately we’ve realized that she can squirt and that’s been a fun addition to our sex life. Normally she can have several small squirting orgasms in succession. However, with clit play she can just have one BIG orgasm and then she’s done. This period of time is to see if it alters her orgasms in any particular way, in addition she prefers to be a submissive in the bedroom and this allows her to play this fantasy out as well. For our purposes she won’t be touching her clit or stimulating it in any way at all. Nor can I stimulate her clit to orgasm either. In her submissive role she has declared that I can do anything else to her.

I’m also looking for some advice though – I love eating her pussy and I don’t get enough time for it as far as either of us are concerned. I’m thinking that I can eat her pussy still as long as I don’t bring her to orgasm. In fact it could be a lot like edging her pussy – getting her soaking wet and aroused but then taking her ass. On some sessions I’m thinking of eating her pussy but also not touching her clit at all. I feel I’m following the letter of the law in this regard, but wondering if others feel this is ok or is it not fully taking on the no clit challenge? thoughts?

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I often talk with women who agree that anal sex is best and would love to go anal only with a partner, but who don’t want to limit guys who might want vaginal as well. This generally relates to a submissive dynamic where they want guys to be able to have whatever they want sexually and getting pleasure and satisfaction from being able to provide that to a man.

However, there’s value in not only taking a stand for one’s own needs and preferences, but also in helping guys come around to the anal only lifestyle too. Many guys have a natural preference for anal sex and would love the idea of being anal only but haven’t really considered the idea yet outside of fantasy, if that. As such, they often worry they’d be judged or rejected if they prioritized anal too much or wanted to exclude vaginal altogether, and generally don’t voice the desire to do so.

Because of that, and because some haven’t even tried or considered the idea yet, even though they’d really like it, it can be valuable, if it’s a goal of your own to be anal only, to voice that to your partners and actually talk about it, and encourage them to go anal only with you and that they don’t need to be obligated to have vaginal sex with you if they’d prefer to just do anal.

And of course, if you feel more strongly about being anal only and vaginal is not an option for you at all, you should be clear about that as well, and make sure new partners know that you’re not open to vaginal sex, only anal.

That’s the question a Quora user asks, receiving the following replies:

Me I have regular guys that screw me every week so I know the day and time so I have a chance to prepare and I do a wash it’s not a complete enema I only wash the part I will be using,but more importantly is I stretch my anus twice a day with a graduating size glass plug that opens my anus up to 5 inches wide,this helps a lot when I do a DP and that I do 2times a week.

This is not a practice that should be rushed into if not had experience of it, if I know if I am partaking in in an event with the possibility of anal I want it to be painless and enjoyable, to achieve this I normally wear one of my butt plugs for the majority y the day and lub myself up before hand

Both responses get to the essential point: warm up gradually and stretch your anal muscles with plugs and other toys before having sex, keeping them relaxed and ready, and you’ll be prepared for frequent anal at any time. Additionally, the more frequently you have anal sex, the easier it gets to do regularly.

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