Anonymous: I am going anal only for August and I just wanted to thank you for this page, it help keeps me on track. I have always loved anal but would never have gone anal only, even for just a month, without the help of this page. I am still training my ass with plugs and toys at the moment, as I don’t have a partner, but am hoping I have a well trained hole soon 😀 Keep up the work and thank you for keeping me going. K x

You’re quite welcome, and thanks for sharing. I’m glad I was able to inspire you to give it a try. Good luck, and feel free to send updates at any point if you would like to!

Anonymous: heyyyy, im currently looking for a girl whos willing to do just anal. Im a guy but I love girls who are hooked on it, its just my thing when a womam lets me play with her asshole. any ideas on how to find a girl whos into it or a permament partner somewhere?

People generally don’t wear their sexual preferences on their sleeves, so this is always somewhat of a challenge when dating or looking for a new sexual partner. If it’s an important requirement for you, just be up front about only wanting anal with a new partner when you first have sex. It can be scary, and no doubt not everyone will be interested, but it’s kind of the only way to do it.

Places like FetLife allow people to list their fetishes/preferences, but it’s not strictly a dating site and many people there aren’t interested in being propositioned.

You can also just find someone you like and work gradually towards the idea of anal only, but obviously there is no guarantee that she’ll be interested or have the same level of interest as you. Most anal only couples, however, started out not anal only and became that way due to one partner asking to try it, and one thing led to another.

Quite a long article into the positive effects of semen ingestion and absorption by women, but the most relevant point:

There have been claims that semen can do everything from making women sleepy after sex to strengthening the emotional bond with their partner. One 2002 study, based on a survey of 300 students, even found that women whose partners did not use condoms scored lower on a measure of depression.

If that effect is real, depression in some people might be treatable with artificial-semen suppositories.

For anal only couples, the suppository is unnecessary and the effects would be able to be replicated simply through ejaculation in the woman’s rectum, a process many are no doubt already doing anyway.

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Anonymous: I’m trying solo anal play and I’ve never attempted any anal play before. How do I clean myself out properly to prevent accidents?

Everybody is a bit different in this regard, so you kind of just need to experiment and get to know your own body, but in general, with a reasonably healthy and high fiber diet, the rectum—which is where most anal sex and play occurs—stays empty except for right before the need to go to the bathroom. You can try some of your first play in the shower in order to have an easy way to clean up in the event of any sort of mess.

Some people do regular anal douching or even enemas, but they can be a hassle. Douching requires that you don’t get the water too deep or else you can end up causing more of a mess rather than just flushing out the rectum. Enemas, which usually go deeper, can be fine on occasion, but perhaps shouldn’t be done regularly due to the risk of causing an imbalance of good bacteria that aids digestion.

Chances are, however, that you can get by with just going to the bathroom to empty out, then playing shortly after. If you have a butt plug, insert that after going to the bathroom, then remove it before play and if it’s clean you’re probably good to go.

curvy-slut: It has been six weeks and today I’m allowed to cum. I’m not even sure if I want, but I need to reboot myself to start a new denial period.

To deserve cuming, I had to fuck my ass using mint toothpaste as a lube for 20 minutes which felt really really long. It stung SO much, that was like a torture. And the worst thing is that I want to repeat this soon. God, I’m so messed up.
Btw, since new year I’ve been officially anal only. Nothing goes into my cunt for pleasure, I don’t even think about it and refer to my ass as my “hole” – the only hole worth mentioning, and this really turns me on. It seems so fitting. And ass-fucking feels soooo much better.

play-in-the-rain: I started doing anal only with a partner, and I loved it. I may not be the best anal only girl because I still crave a cock in my pussy sometimes, but to me the denial is part of the fun. Anyway, I haven’t had a cock in my pussy in 9 months, and I’m kind of proud of that. The problem is, I’m no longer with the guy who started me on this, but I think I want to continue it. What scares me is the idea of bringing up to new partners that I want anal only. Any suggestions on how to present that?

First of all, congratulations on being anal only for the past nine months—that’s great, and really something to be proud of! Very understandable that you wouldn’t want to stop now, and I (of course) highly recommend continuing.

It can understandably be a bit scary bringing such a preference up with a new partner. If it’s something you want to strictly stick to, I think it’s best to be very up front about it and how important it is to you the first time you have sex. You’ll no doubt get different responses from different guys, but I have to imagine a large number of men would react positively. This is non-scientific and may be incorrect, but I suspect women who want to be anal only may have a somewhat easier time finding a partner who is willing to embrace that than men in the same situation, as men tend to be a little more open minded about anal. This is certainly not universal, though—I have heard from women who want anal and can’t find a partner willing to try.

You could also try a (slightly more) subtle introduction to the up front disclosure about wanting to be anal only and wear a butt plug the first time you have sex so he sees that and immediately knows, without you having to say anything yet, that you like anal. Then you can take it from there and tell him what you want. Visual aids can be good.

I wish you good luck and hope you’re able to meet someone who can satisfy your anal only needs.

Anonymous: Hi, I was the anon with 2 questions earlier today! Just wanted to say that I already started using your advice, and my Master and I finally had anal after a long spell. We decided to do anal only for the month, and I’m so excited!!! I can’t wait to have a nice gape and please him with just my ass and mouth &<3 Thank you for your help!!!

Excellent, I’m so glad to hear it. Good luck, and please keep us updated as the month progresses if you feel like continuing to share.

Anonymous: I actually have a couple questions if you don’t mind 🙂 Q1. I’m looking to stretch my hole and create a cute little gape, how do you suggest going about this? I know to use plugs but I’m not sure how many times and for how long! Q2. My Master and I are thinking about participating in AO August, however, we haven’t done much sexually in quite some time. I’m craving it but not sure if I could handle a whole month. Some tips? Thank you! 🙂

1. A gape is something that becomes possible as you gain greater muscle control and can relax at will, generally in combination with recent anal sex or play to help temporarily relax the other involuntary muscles around that area. Just keep training with plugs and dildos as regularly as is appealing to you. Wearing a plug while you walk around and do other things can really help develop muscle control as you retain it and keep it inside you. It’s up to you and your body how long you keep one in per “session”. Do it for as long as it’s comfortable or you are otherwise able, then take it out and put it back in at a later time. Over time, the duration you can comfortably wear a plug will increase. You also, of course, want to make sure you have a plug that’s comfortable to wear for longer than a few minutes and which stays inside easily and comfortably without wanting to pop out all the time. As you stick with this, gradually increasing the size you can fit, you’ll be able to relax more easily, and as you can do that, you’ll find yourself able to gape your ass.

2. Anal August doesn’t have to be a whole month of anal. It can serve as a first introduction to anal only of whatever length works for you. If you’re worried about a whole month, try a week or two. (And you could of course continue after that if you wanted.) Anal August is something that’s been around for a few years now, unrelated to and before this blog existed, and isn’t strictly Anal Only-specific. If you end up enjoying whatever duration of anal only you try and then want to go for a full month, keep an eye out for announcements later this year for the third annual No Pussy November, an actual full month anal only challenge. (Or try it on your own anytime!)

Hope that was helpful in some way, and feel free to ask more if you have any other questions.

Anonymous: You seem to quite knowledgeable in all things involving ass play, hopefully including using butt plugs and training your ass? I have a lot of questions and do not know who to ask. I’ve got a bit of experience in anal, but I want to train my ass to accept a dick more easily. Right now, it’s a slow entrance with lots of lube before we can get to the good stuff. So I’m wondering where do I start, how long to keep it in, and what to use, etc? Thank you.

Anal training in the long term and anal warmup before sex in the short term are both really quite simple in theory. You start with something small and work up in size. When the transition to something larger feels uncomfortable or hurts, you’re not quite ready to go to that size yet and should either go back to the size you were using before or a size in between for a while before trying again.

Train as often as you can and feel up to it. Daily is fine if you’re able to do it, but a few times a week works as well. If you injure yourself at any point by sizing up too quickly, however, take a break from the training for a few days to a week.

You want to have a few different toys, both plugs and dildos of a few different diameters. Don’t bother with anything too small—tiny plugs don’t stay in place, and you can use your fingers to warm up at that size instead, plus you’ll outgrow small things rapidly. Get good quality materials—silicone, glass, stainless steel. Every time you masturbate, have something in your ass at the same time. Wear a butt plug when having other sorts of sex.

As you do this more often, you’ll develop more conscious muscle control and can loosen up “on demand”, as it were, by pushing out as if going to the bathroom while being penetrated. Chances are you already can do this to a certain extent, but the ability increases with training. Not all muscles in the anus are able to be controlled consciously, however, so wear a butt plug for 15 to 30 minutes before having sex and it will also greatly aid penetration with a partner.

kinkyflo: I’m so glad I found your blog, I really like anal sex but I want to be a better anal girl. I just bought my first plug to start training and Im super excited and all the amazing advice you give is making me even more excited, since now I have a better idea of what to do.

I’m glad to hear it! I’m sure you’ll have a lot of fun with the anal training. If you have any other questions along the way, be sure to ask.