Bdsmlr: Staying Anal Only Vaginal Virgin After Marriage

I’ve been pretty inactive for a lot of life reasons but I have some awesome updates!

1) we’re married!! Yay!! So happy to finally be a Wife.

2) I’ve graduated! Also yay!! I do have a job for now at an awesome company working a helpful role for a very traditional boss. He has been a wonderful mentor so far.

3) I was originally planning on losing my virginity when my wedding was consummated, but since we both want kids we did some fertility testing before the wedding. It turns out I’m unlikely to conceive from sex, and would need to do artificial insemination anyway. After some talking, my husband had decided I will stay anal only and a Virgin! 😱

4) my husband has decided we will pursue treatments and try to get me pregnant this year! we are doing lots of research on pregnancy, childbirth, breastfeeding, working vs staying home to figure out what the best options are for me and my particular situation. I’m so lucky to have him.

I’m overwhelmed but excited by all the changes. It was a huge relief and turn-on to have my husband completely ignore my pussy on our wedding night; I’ve cum extremely sparingly the last year or so but I’m wet everyday.  I’ve never felt more happy and devoted. ☺️ 

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Article: Anal Sex the Tantric Way

Although anal sex has been been a part of human sexuality since ancient times, couples exploring Tantric sex are not likely to find much information about anal sex and might conclude, therefore, that anal sex isn’t Tantric. However, that isn’t true. In fact, anal sex fits well within the Tantric tradition and facilitates several goals of Tantric sex.

For example, one of the key aspects of Tantra has been violating personal and cultural taboos. Though about one-third of heterosexual couples have tried anal sex, it is still a bit taboo. Tantric anal sex extends a couple’s sexual boundaries.

Tantric anal sex also fits in with the concept of complete union between partners. By having anal sex, a woman surrenders herself totally to her partner, allowing him access to all parts of her body.

Tantric anal sex can also facilitate kundalini arousal. Between the rectal wall and the tip of the tailbone, or coccyx, exists an irregular, oval-shaped gland called the “coccygeal body,” which Tantra considers the “Kundalini gland.” Anal sex can activate the gland by dilating the anal sphincters, causing a reflex effect upon the two branches of the autonomic nervous system, the parasympathetic (Ida) and the sympathetic (Pingala), which terminate in the anus and rectum. In addition to altering the state of the involuntary nervous system, anal intercourse results in the ejaculation of semen into the rectum, which, according to traditional belief, nourishes the Kundalini gland much the same way as the white of an egg nourishes the fertilized yolk.

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Message: Anal Only as Bisexual Woman

Anonymous: Hi! I am curious about combining the anal only lifestyle with being a bisexual woman. If a woman never touches her pussy nor lets it be touched when she is having sex with men, would the same apply to women? Otherwise, what sort of sexual activity would be recommended among women who want to keep the anal only lifestyle?

Ultimately it’s up to you, of course. Some anal only women allow non-penetrative vaginal/clitoral play but exclude vaginal for intercourse. Some are more strict. If you don’t touch your pussy and don’t want it to be touched, however, then I would say the same should go with female partners. Just do rimming, anal fingering, plugging and anal dildo play together and keep things purely anal only!

The Impacts of Roe v. Wade’s Fall and Anal Only

First, I want to say that I and this blog fully support women’s reproductive rights and I stand in firm opposition to efforts to remove the right to abortion and reproductive freedom in general. For anyone who thinks this is the only target, it’s not: access to contraception, LGBTQ rights, and more are the next target and we need to all prepare for a long fight for all our rights and freedom. Attempts to restore “anti-sodomy” laws is likely coming as well, trying to make non-reproductive sex illegal.

With that being said, I expect there will be an influx of people here who are looking for safe alternatives to enjoy sex without the risk of pregnancy, and the anal only lifestyle is still an excellent choice which provides pleasure, intimacy, passion and sexual freedom combined with excellent natural birth control.

If you have any questions, don’t hesitate to ask, and be sure to check out our Guide to Anal Sex and the Anal Only Lifestyle as well.

In a time of crisis and regression, the anal only lifestyle can provide sexual freedom and equality for women, and the act of going anal only can also serve as a form of protest.

Message: Concerns About Waxing from an AO Woman

Anonymous: Hi! Idk how many years I’ve been AO, but it’s been a long time. I always prioritize my personal hygiene, including waxing which is a better alternative for me since it’s more effective. I never used my front part, thus not shaving or waxing my front part since i don’t bother using it, Idk if I’m the only girl who feel this way, ofc I always practice waxing for my own leisure, not for anybody else.

Some anal only women choose to remove hair from their vulva even though they don’t use it, because they prefer how it looks or feels. Others choose to wax or shave everything else but keep their vulva hairy as a symbol of its lack of use. Both can be excellent options, depending on your personal preferences. What’s really important is not using your vagina and being anal only.

Article: Best Butt Plugs for Beginners

When it comes to butt stuff, ‘go big or go home’ isn’t the best advice. Instead, it’s best to start with something small, like one of these butt plugs aimed at newbies

As a one-time sex toy retail worker, I often noticed that when customers came into my store looking shifty-eyed and incapable of expressing what they actually wanted to buy, they were usually looking for a butt plug. Sometimes, I’d lead them to the butt plug section unprompted, just to watch sweet relief bloom on their face as I showed them what they had wanted all along.

It makes sense that so many people are skittish about trying anal play. It’s still hugely taboo and shrouded in misconceptions — like that it “makes you gay” (nope), has to hurt (nope) or will automatically be messy (not necessarily). Given how intimidating anal penetration can be, both physically and psychologically, it’s usually best to start with something small — like a finger or a beginner-friendly butt plug.

Butt plugs are different from other anal toys in that they’re designed, more-or-less, to stay put inside you. You can thrust them in and out like a dildo or a set of anal beads, but staying still is what they were made to do, so they do it very well. This makes them a popular pick for combining with masturbation or sex — they can provide some passive prostate stimulation during a blow job, enhance the sensation of vaginal sex or amp up your pleasure when you’re touching yourself. They’re also the comfiest and most practical choice if you want some surreptitious anal sensations in public, like while on a dinner date with your partner.

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Article: A 12-Step Guide to Pleasing Your Asshole

The deepest part of ourselves that we hold so much shame around, can unlock our nervous system, bring about deeper orgasms, and help release old stories that we have locked in our brains and body. The anus is connected to the root chakra, which responds to the coccygeal plexus of nerves. Anal can be a powerful way to explore these nerve responses, as well as the ideas of family patterning, feeling safe in our bodies, and primal responses. In tantra there is no abstraction. The physical body is the basis for consciousness. Anal sex requires deep, primal connection, communication and trust. Ass play, or “root chakra work” as I like to call it, can be extremely pleasurable, activating and healing.

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Forum: Pregnancy Being Anal Only

Hello everybody, I have noticed in several comments and chats that many people of the anal only community believe that to have children we must have vaginal sex, yes we keep our pussy for reproductive purposes and the ass for sex and pleasure, but there is another option that I decided to share here.

You can have anal sex and penetrate the pussy just to cum inside if you want to have children but this is not recommended because of the vaginal infections that can cause taking something from your ass to your pussy.

The better option is artificial insemination, you can go to a doctor for this but since it is not for fertility problems there is a simpler option, buy an insemination kit that is usually sold in pharmacies and do it yourself, the kits are simply sterile containers for the semen, a sterile syringe and some tube or utensil to penetrate the pussy and place the semen deep within it or directly into the uterus (a penetration much smaller than a cock)

This for example:
https://gyazo.com/da02c3eb1bcec4b692ff34513aa3931f
https://gyazo.com/cf14a9bbf433466524c148b98b09ea76

I think it’s a good option for those anal only couples who want to have children and keep the pussy unfucked and closed, they can also opt for a cesarean on the moment of birth.

I know that not everyone here wants to have children or that they are single or already have children, I dont want children but in the future if I want, I will use this option, it seems useful to me as anal only woman, I hope it will be useful to you too, in the present or the future.
Greetings, good luck and have lots of anal sex

julietagc, Anal Only Lifestyle forum

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Message: My Girlfriend and Benefit From Anal Only

Edson: Hello, I am a 25-year-old man and my girlfriend is 23 years old, we have been in a relationship for 2 years and we both have something in common that is why we get closer: we both do not want to have children, we both want to have a comfortable life without children and economically stable. She has many friends and several have become pregnant at such an early age and some with boys who do not want to start a family. I always liked anal sex a lot and I always had the fantasy of having a relationship only anal but I did not know if my girlfriend would like that. She and I for the first 6 months of our relationship she sucked my dick and we had vaginal sex until one day her menstrual period was late in coming and she was scared of being pregnant and what would happen to her like her friends. I told her that I would support her and that I was not going to leave her but she was worried, obviously I would not leave her but I was still scared. The days went by and her period came and we were relieved that she did not get pregnant.

The days began to pass but she was distant with me she did not want to have sex. After several days she told me that she did want to have sex with me but she did not want to go back to the same thing of being worried and that’s when I talked to her and told her that I will tell her something very personal and I told her my fantasy of anal sex and that I would like to have only anal and oral sex. She said that we could try it, I told her that I had never had anal sex with a girl and I was afraid to tell her why she could say no but i was really excited to do it.

She said she hadn’t had anal sex either.

The first day we started having anal sex, I put a lot of lubricant in her anus and put my fingers in her, she sucked my cock and when I was very excited I began to penetrate her anus until I ejaculated on her buttocks. I asked her what it was like and she told me that it was fine, gave me a kiss and went to bathe. We spent the next 3 days having anal sex and my girlfriend liked it more and more because she did it with more intensity and I love it because it is tighter for my penis and I love the visual. A week later she and I were in the cowgirl position with her riding on my penis with her anus and I ejaculated on her breasts.

And later when we were in the car because we were going to the bar with some of her friends, she told me, it seems that we both win with anal, you want me to suck your dick and bounce with my anus on your dick until you leave it full and I win that I can have sex without worrying about getting pregnant.

We have been like this for 18 months and we are both very happy.

That’s really wonderful, I’m so glad that the two of you realized the advantage of switching to anal only for natural birth control without needing the fear of pregnancy from vaginal sex. Anal is better in more ways than just that, of course, but the fact that it’s sex purely for pleasure without reproduction is why it should be the default way of having sex for everyone and vaginal only for getting pregnant.

Porn Needs to Stop Including Vaginal

At this point, a majority of porn and interest in porn is anal. Porn producers like AnalVids (formerly LegalPorno) have very popular series like their 0% Pussy category which focuses on exclusively anal and oral sex, and other studios have shifted to primarily or exclusively anal as well. More recently, the “Anal Only” studio has gained popularity and while they’ve occasionally included vaginal for reasons that are completely baffling, they have a huge following due to the prominent focus of vaginal abandonment and mostly anal only.

It’s time to move past vaginal sex in porn completely, recognize the great value that porn provides as an influence for people’s sexual behavior, and use that influence to help shift the world away from vaginal sex and to anal only in their own lives.

Anal Is Already Among the Most Popular Porn

When looking at popular porn categories, anal is almost always one of if not the most popular, and vaginal porn the least popular. This makes sense since people often seek porn as an alternative to what they’re getting, and most people who aren’t yet having anal sex are very interested in it and turned on by it. Very few people seek vaginal as a fantasy.

Data Shows Vaginal Gets Skipped

When looking at porn websites that track viewing statistics within the scenes themselves, scenes which contain both vaginal and anal and follow an outdated formula of oral –> vaginal –> anal have a high percentage of skipping over the vaginal portion to watch the anal directly. Why waste time and money filming an act people literally don’t want to see?

Porn Stars Prefer Anal

Talk to porn stars and the reality is that most of them prefer anal. It feels better, makes them feel sluttier and sexier, and their assholes are just more resilient and can handle more hard and deep fucking. Most can’t handle frequent vaginal sex but can easily spend the day doing double anal nonstop.

So, let’s put an end to vaginal sex in porn and start making what the world wants and needs: 100% anal only porn that goes straight to the butt.