Reddit: Tips and Opinions on Solo Play

It’s been two months since I haven’t used my dildo in my pussy. It’s now exclusively for anal play, and it’s been great. However, I haven’t had an orgasm just using it alone — I always have my nipple clamps on (an absolute must since I love the pain) and a vibrator on my clit, sometimes rubbing it with just my finger.

Do you have any tips to achieve orgasm with just solo anal play? I’m gonna try doing it tonight — firstly putting my nipple clamps on and then starting slowly with anal beads. After that I’ll go in with my dildo and try my best not to touch my clit. I can’t wait!

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Our Guide is an Ebook Now!

If you’ve followed us for a while, you’re probably familiar with our Guide to Anal Sex and the Anal Only Lifestyle, which has been a part of this website for the past year since moving off Tumblr.

It’s always going to be a freely available resource as part of this blog for those who want to learn more about anal sex and the anal only lifestyle, but I’m happy to announce that you can also purchase it in an ebook format through Amazon as well, if that’s how you prefer to do your reading!

It can be a good resource if you’re just getting started, and it can make a good gift for friends who might be interested in anal or going anal only. Either way, it helps support this blog and the greater anal only community.

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Reddit: 6 Weeks No Clit!

I haven’t posted in a while, too busy!

But we successfully got through the full month of November with absolutely zero clit contact or pussy stimulation of any kind. I am beyond happy with things!

My gf has found it more challenging than I have – she is not getting orgasms every time we have sex anymore. If it’s just a quickie, it’ll typically just be me getting to cum.

The trade off is that she says her anal only orgasms are more intense when we have time for making it happen. So much so that she’s more than happy to continue being completely anal only (apart from oral, anyway). We’re using more light bondage and domination during those sessions and we’re both finding it very enjoyable.

So my gf is now what I would consider the perfect woman! Happy to be anal-only, happy to abandon her unwanted pussy, and more fulfilled than ever to only cum when her ass is fucked.

I encourage anyone who is even remotely interested in the idea of going anal only to dive in and get started. It’s improved our sex enormously and it only gets better the more strict we are with pussy denial etc.

It’s a bit of a contradiction, but I’m really attracted to the look of female bodies and love the look of pussy, but I’m just so much more turned on by denying any contact or penetration except anal… the thought of putting my penis in a pussy literally turns me off these days, weird as it may sound!

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Message: No Clit, Anal Only & 24/7 Butt Plug

Canan the Turkishwife: First of all, I apologize for my poor English. I’ve been anal only with my husband for 2 years. I haven’t touched my clitoris since May. I only do anal masturbation without touching my pussy and clit.

I’ve been wearing anal plugs on my ass 24/7. I have the right to remove anal plugs for no more than one hour a day. My husband fucks me in the ass every day, but he says it’s not enough. My husband wants me to be “Double Anal Only” now. He wants to fuck me without removing the anal plug. He wants me to wear a second anal plug after the fuck. Do you think I should do this to make him happy?

Is it something that you want to do? Everyone’s sexual and relationship dynamic is different, and it sounds like you have a dom/sub dynamic going on, but what you want can still matter as well.

Aside from whether it’s something you want to do, my concern would be that keeping two butt plugs in your ass would become uncomfortable fairly quickly, as they aren’t designed to be worn in that manner, and a better approach might be to go up in size to a larger plug that’s ergonomically designed but still is significantly larger.

And for double anal sex, that’s certainly something that many people are exploring and enjoying, though usually with two men or a man and a dildo, rather than a man and a butt plug. It’s no doubt possible, but might not be comfortable for either of you to do with a butt plug every time. If you’re interested, give it a try and see how it goes, but if it doesn’t work out very well, you could try it with a dildo instead alongside his penis.

Ultimately, I’d suggest trying it a few times, seeing how it works, and then if you do find something that works, commit to a month of it and see how things progress from there before committing to it fully.

Discussion: Sexualization of the Anus and Rectum

So I have been doing anal play for a few years now and I absolutely love it. It feels so bad and naughty using my asshole for something that it wasn’t made to do. What really gets me to sexualize my anus is getting a cock and cum in there. I associate an erect penis and semen with sexuality and having that in my anus really sexualizes it.

A number of other people follow up with their own enjoyment of anal sex, and several reassure her that her asshole was in fact made for sex as well.

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Message: Colonics/Enemas Not Working as Effectively

Ana: Hi. I want to know if any woman in here who has done only anal sex for more than 3 years has stomach issues. Me and my partner have anal sex 5 days a week and everyday I am doing colonics to be clean. For a month now i have noticed that it doesn’t work so well anymore. I prep myself and when we have sex something happens and we get dirty and when we have sex my stomach sometimes hurts. It is someone here that can relate to my story? I really can use some advice . Thank you.

I’m sorry to hear that you’re having digestive/hygiene issues that are affecting your ability to enjoy anal. That’s something that can sometimes affect people, even if they’ve had no problem before. The causes can vary, and there are different things to try, but it will generally get better in time.

  • It’s possible that you have been impacted by a stomach virus or something similar which is affecting you at a lower level and that you need time to recover, especially if you’re noticing any other digestive issues. You could talk to your doctor about the issue and see if they can offer any assistance.
  • If you’ve made any dietary changes recently, that may be a factor. Try adding more fiber to your diet, whether through fiber supplements or natural dietary fiber. This can make a huge impact. Even if it hasn’t been an issue before, adding fiber is usually a positive thing for an anal only lifestyle.
  • You may consider backing off on the enemas somewhat—even if it wasn’t an issue before, for some people they can cause more of a mess or throw off the balance of healthy bacteria that help with the digestive process.

For more information on the above, see our guide to anal hygiene and how to have clean anal sex. It has additional details about fiber supplements and more. Good luck, and I hope everything works out for you and you’re able to get back into a clean anal routine!

Message: Mainstream Porn and Anal Only

Anonymous: to be honest, i don’t find mainstream porn appealing, because most of the time they always show vaginal sex, and i get repulsed every time i see the scene. amateur porn is enjoyable for me probably because some people focus on things they love to do.

i have been anal only girl (not in a relationship) since my private part is painful and it has many disadvantages like pregnancy compared to anal that is very pleasurable and nice feeling. i feel disgusted if i play with my private part because it’s unappealing.

i don’t understand why people say anal is not for women. anyone can love anal, including women who identified as anal only

There is indeed far too much vaginal sex in porn, even still, though there are some sources that primarily focus on anal sex, and as anal continues to become more mainstream, porn will shift more to anal at the same time. It’s already been happening in recent years. Supporting porn producers that make anal only/mostly anal porn and expressing your interest in more anal only porn will help with that, too.

Well done with your own exploration of anal only. It sounds like anal comes very naturally to you and vaginal sex and stimulation has no appeal, and there’s a lot to be said for that.

Anal is absolutely for women. Women tend to love anal the most, once they experience just how good it is.

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Message: How Do I Let Him Know I Want Anal?

Beth: I’ve been married for a few months and my husband so badly wants to fuck my ass. He has fingered my ass during sex a few times and even rimmed me on our wedding night. He knows I’m open to it but he doesn’t quite know just how much it turns me on. He’s tried to rim my ass and press his cock into me but I’m much too tight and he’s much too endowed. I know there will have to be a little training before but I don’t really know how to start & I think he’s a little impatient. I purchased a butt plug and I wear it at least once a week when he isn’t home but I know it isn’t enough.

Do I just wear it and surprise him with it? Do I ask him to plug me next time things get heated? I just don’t know the best way to bridge the gap!

It sounds like your primary concern is not being ready enough, because it seems that you do want it as much or more than him, you just want to make sure that his impatience or him being overeager doesn’t hurt you and it’s an enjoyable experience for the both of you. Is that a fair assessment?

I’d suggest making the butt plug wear a much more frequent thing for you, and to start masturbating regularly while wearing the plug, as well as fingering your ass during masturbation. Our Guide to Anal Sex and the Anal Only Lifestyle has a section on Anal Training that provides more information that process. Once you’re comfortable doing it more regularly, I would also read the Guide to Having Anal Sex for the First Time and then decide if you want your husband to help train you the rest of the way before having sex or dive right into trying it with him.

Once you do want to admit your enthusiasm about trying it, I would just be open about it and tell him. He’ll love to hear that you want to do anal too, if he’s as excited as it seems about trying it with you. Communication is best for everyone. But you can also be wearing a plug when you tell him that, and show him, and he’ll love seeing that too!

Good luck, and I hope you have a wonderful time exploring anal together!