Hi everyone, I’ve been lurking this forum for a while and finally joined. I’m in my 30s in a 2 year D/s and loving/romantic relationship with a man. We have historically had anal only occasionally due to his large size, though I’ve had anal throughout my whole adult life since age 18. However we’ve been doing anal a lot more lately (thanks to wearing butt plugs all day) and introducing some orgasm denial and teasing into our dynamic and I’ve never been more turned on in my life. We dirty talk about anal only but he says he still wants to use my vagina sometimes too. He feels anal can be a hassle because he has to wash himself after. I always douche and there is almost never a fecal mishap so maybe he will get over that. Anyway perhaps this is meant to be fantasy only but it’s a strong and very arousing one for me.

After an encouragement to try going ass to mouth with him after sex in order to make him feel like he doesn’t need to clean up as much, she responds:

Well coincidentally last night my man suggested I suck him after he was in my ass and when I did, he was so happy! It turns out we were both doing research into the health and safety of the practice, unbeknownst to one a other. It wasnt gross at all and I’m pretty sure this will make him enthusiastic about doing anal all the time since oral is his #1 fave.

Bonobo: I was wondering … What is the difference if any, between having anal sex with someone who is circumcised and someone who is intact.

Some people find it easier to have anal sex with an uncircumcised partner, at least when first starting out, because it can reduce the friction involved and the foreskin stays more in place while the rest of the penis slides back and forth through it rather than entirely being in direct contact with the anus. As people become more experienced with anal and know how to warm up properly and develop a routine of frequent anal sex, this becomes less relevant, however, and with proper warmup and technique, someone can enjoy any penis, circumcised or not.

So we’ve been together for about 6 years and I let her know early on that anal was my biggest kink by a long shot. I absolutely love it more than anything. So convinced her to try anal fairly early on but she didnt like it at all and only did it very rarely over the course of the next 5ish years and only if i begged her like crazy until she gave in (yeah i know. not exactly proud but i think we’ve all been there). however, very very slowly but surely she went from not liking it to not minding it so much and it became a once a month- 2 months thing.

but then early last year we had a massive breakthrough. WE FOUND THE RIGHT LUBE Its never been the same. Up until then we had used lots of spit, just vaginal juice, local store bought lube, and adam and eve lube but then I found a video somewhere I think on youtube of a girl explaining how she came to enjoy anal and the right glycerin free lube was the key. so we bought some [Sliquid H2O] and the difference was like night and day. Suddenly it didnt hurt at all anymore and it didnt dry out nearly as quickly! so then for a few months anal became a once a week thing and she started to really enjoy it. never asking for it, but not objecting to it at all really, which is a massive improvement over the constant anal rejection id faced up til then.

finally at the end of january I asked if shed be willing to try anal only for a month. (I specifically waited for the shortest month) she was reluctant at first but we came to an agreement that she would do anal only for me if I agreed to not to have any unhealthily snacks in the house for the month (i love me some snacks). so the next day or so things started getting heavy and we built up to it slowly, then when I put it in her ass that night, she described it as something finally clicked into place and it felt amazing! better than vaginal! she said she never wanted my cock in her ass so bad before. until this point, when we had anal, she would never really fuck me back during anal the way she does during vaginal. she would just kinda take it. not nearly as active. but not this time. she got on top to get my whole cock in her ass and rode me like never before. she absolutely loved it and started begging me to cum in her ass. i obliged. not that i really had a choice. some of the best sex we had ever had in >6 years. until last night.

yesterday (valentines day) was probably the best day ever. ill spare you the story of the whole day but suffice it to say: it was very romantic and overall great. now the sex. we upgraded to [Sliquid Sassy] and its 100x better than the stuff we had before. tons of build up and foreplay, just genuinely enjoying each other’s bodies, then the anal. i must have fucked her ass like 5 times that night. we just couldnt fucking get enough. she moaned and screamed like she never had before, saying all kinds of dirty shit like how much she loves my cock, how it feels amazing in her ass, how she wants me to fill her ass with cum, and so on. she never talks like that. just not her sex style, but in her words ” it just felt too fucking good not to. it was involuntary” definitely topped anything we’d done before. best sex ever. we fell asleep covered in sweat and other fluids.

then we woke up this morning and couldn’t help ourselves. she started sucking my morning wood, then looked up at me and said the magic words “i want you fuck my ass from behind”. as far as i can remember, that was the first time she has EVER asked for anal directly without any prompting or asking from me. just out of the blue. it made me so so fucking happy to finally hear her ask for it. so i did. i fucked her ass like an animal. for the rest of today she kept on telling me how amazing it felt and how she loves getting fucking in the ass. my favorite was ” it was just so good. when I think about you pounding my ass it just makes me love you so much!” I love you too, baby. I asked if she thinks we could continue anal only indefinitely and she said yes, guys. she fucking said yes. we’re both so happy right now.

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Anonymous: hello! i think aloe vera (it has to be natural) would be suitable as a lube since it’s very liquidly and has slightly jelly-like texture. if you want a more flowy-like liquid, i recommend mixing aloe vera with raw honey (90% aloe and 10% honey). idk if this is the best suggestion, but i hope it works!

Aloe vera can definitely be used as a natural anal lube, and some people very much enjoy it. I don’t hear about it nearly as much as other options, so any input about what people like most about it is welcome!

First I need to admit 2 things.
1. I usually wouldn’t have signed up to a site like this. However this must be one of the weirdest and most interesting communities I have seen. So here I am 

2. I do have vaginal (and oral) sex too and I love it. It seems that’s somehow against the rules, so please feel free to kick me out if this is a critical violation 

So… why am I here then? Well… I’ve always loved sex and had a lot of it but unfortunately I wasn’t able to orgasm for very long. Not from vaginal sex, not from oral sex, not when masturbating (though everyone was saying that’s a safe way to climax). I had a lot of fun all the time, I just didn’t know how it feels to actually cum. And with anal sex… I tried it very early in my sex life. Probably too early, so I didn’t like it that much.

So it finally took me many years and a great lover to discover how much pleasure it can give. On that particular encounter I felt like I was going to explode and I had my very first orgasm! And I had a lot more since then. Thanks to anal sex! I still don’t cum any other way but who cares. I found the recipe and I am thankful

After some encouragement to try an anal only challenge such as Anal Only April, she replies:

Thanks for the warm welcome and the great advise. Already glad I have signed up 

I think I will try what you both suggested, Anal Only April sounds great! Might make it an Anal Only Feb though

Anonymous: idk if im the only one that feels this way, but on a personal level, for me, i always get repulsed or disgusted when i hear the mentions of vaginal penetration or even see vaginal penetration, i dunno why, but this is how i actually feel to be honest. vaginal disgusts me for weird reasons (being on birth control, having menstrual cycle, afraid of getting pregnant, mainstream porn, negative perceptions). im not saying everyone should not try anal, it’s just that i hate it when people who have positive anal sex treats anal as dirty and kinky, when it’s literally pleasurable and hot, like?? anything sex (except anal sex) repulses me. i sorry for bringing some negativity and sounding like a prude, i wanted to rant since this situation had got me feeling icky and terrible (im a girl btw)

You’re definitely not alone, a lot of people share anywhere from a disinterest to an active dislike of vaginal penetration or sex, for a variety of reasons. And you shouldn’t feel ashamed or weird about it, if you don’t like it you don’t like it, and anal is definitely the better option anyway, so just focus on that and how much you enjoy it instead!

If you face anal negativity, counter it with anal positivity of your own and talk about how nice and pleasurable and sexy it is instead. Spread the joy and love of anal to others and be an encouraging force for people to try it, like it, and want more of it.

For the longest time, the representation of anal in porn was centered around the idea of it being something that guys wanted, girls rarely did, and when they did it, they would suffer through it and dislike it but do it for their guys. This gave many people the impression that that’s what anal was like in the real world, despite the fact that most of the porn actors in such scenes actually enjoyed anal and were pretending that it hurt or they disliked it. The result was a lot of women with no interest in even trying it, based on that false perception, combined with other myths and persistent ideas based on bad experiences of friends.

In the past decade, porn has generally shifted to a much more positive portrayal of anal sex and pleasure, focusing on the fact that women can and do in fact very much enjoy it, and can get a lot of pleasure from it. This is a good change, for sure, and has turned on a lot more people to the idea, encouraging them to try it for themselves to see if the same is true for them, resulting in a rapidly growing interest in and practice of anal sex by people in their regular sex lives.

More recently, however, a new trend has formed on Tumblr and Bdsmlr and other similar platforms, where a large quantity of the content and captions relating to anal sex and the anal only lifestyle are from a one-sided, misogynistic, “male pleasure is all that matters” perspective, and often focus on the idea that it’s not enjoyable or is even actively painful or harmful to women, and pushes that idea hard as a positive thing. Now, there certainly is a place for that as a kink, but it’s been unfortunate to see it become the predominant focus of porn focusing on anal only, and shift the general tone of AO in porn away from mutual enjoyment and positivity to this.

It’s a trend I’d like to see change, and I hope to see more blogs show up that focus on pleasure and enjoyment by women instead.

KateLovesAnal: I want to be able to do anal every day but my stomach gets upset often afterwards. Gas, constipation and general stomach discomfort to the point that it would be unenjoyable or even painful. This can happen even if my asshole itself is more or less fine. Any suggestions would be so appreciated. I love anal and am getting more bored with my pussy every day. I want to be able to have anal every day but sometimes my body just won’t let it happen.

This can be the result of a few different factors, and could even be something I’m not covering here. If nothing I mention helps, it may be worth talking to a doctor about it as well if you have the opportunity to do so.

It could be digestive in nature. Do you have any issues with digestion with not having anal sex, or is it triggered by the anal sex for you and you normally feel fine? Adding dietary fiber or fiber supplements to your diet and daily routine can be a good way to have a more regular digestive cycle and reduce the issues that result from anal sex.

Do you use an enema before having anal sex? How much water are you using if so? If you use too much and get it too deep, without fully doing a deep clean, you can clean yourself out briefly but end up activating your digestive tract and cause cramping or even diarrhea. Alternatively, some people need to do a deeper enema to clean themselves out suitably to avoid gas and cramping, though diet and exercise can reduce the need for this.

Are you wearing butt plugs regularly? Some people find that doing so can help regulate their digestive system and make it more accommodating for anal sex, while others find that it causes constipation if they keep large plugs in for too long.

What type of lube are you using? Some lubes can cause reactions that result in increased gas or cramping, and you might want to try a different kind if this something you’re experiencing.

Finally, you may just need to persevere for a while and stick with it. Some people get cramping as a reaction to anal penetration at first but if they keep doing anal penetration as a regular routine, it can go away.

I hope that you’re able to figure this out, and live the anal only life that you want.

Valentine’s Day is here, and whether you’ve been planning to give the gift of anal only this year, or if you need a last minute gift idea and are coming up blank, this is your opportunity.

Going anal only can not only be a fun and exciting change for you and your partner, it can be far more pleasurable than vaginal, and brings your relationship closer together and with greater intimacy than vaginal can provide.

Start with a month long challenge, so you can work out any issues you come across during the initial adjustment period and still have a few weeks to just enjoy the benefits of pure anal, and then if you found, as many do, that you don’t actually miss vaginal sex and prefer being anal only, just keep going with it after the month is over.

As a freeuse wife, I usually flirt subtly like getting all dolled up and flashing him casually by bending down so he can see up my dress. But I rarely initiate sex unless it’s waking him up with a blowjob because I like him being in control.

Well the other night, relaxing after work and we had both had a few drinks, and I’d been wearing a small plug that I bought myself last week. I was wearing a pair of thick black tights underneath my dress, but didn’t tell him I had cut a hole just low enough to expose my asshole for use, while still covering most of my cunt.

I went to the restroom and gently pulled out the plug, making sure I was nice and clean inside. I took a syringe and squirted lube up inside myself and carefully walked back over to see his glass empty, so I refilled it for him and straddled him when I came back. We kissed for awhile and I started undoing his pants and pulled his dick out. His hand moved up my dress and he sighed when he felt I was wearing tights rather than stockings. He told me to go lie on the bed, but instead I surprised him by getting up on my knees, reaching down between my legs, and pushing his cock against my bare asshole. I kept kissing him while slowly trying to force him inside me, and after a few seconds, pop he was in! I lowered myself completely down on him and kept slowly romantically riding him. It felt so close and intimate! When my legs started getting tired in that position, I turned around and kept riding him until he had me stop and just held me there, sitting on his lap with his dick up my ass. He kissed my shoulders and his hands traveled all over my thighs, ass, groin, everywhere but my cunt. He felt my tits, traveled down my stomach all the way down to where my hair would start if I had any, and stopped. He moved his hands back to my hips and I started bouncing again, he started thrusting harder and faster, and I felt so close to getting off! Alas, not today. But maybe someday.

He pulled out slowly while I squeezed myself shut, and I wiped myself down while he had a quick shower. Our love life has never been better! I’m so glad we made this change!

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