Bonobo: I was wondering … What is the difference if any, between having anal sex with someone who is circumcised and someone who is intact.

Some people find it easier to have anal sex with an uncircumcised partner, at least when first starting out, because it can reduce the friction involved and the foreskin stays more in place while the rest of the penis slides back and forth through it rather than entirely being in direct contact with the anus. As people become more experienced with anal and know how to warm up properly and develop a routine of frequent anal sex, this becomes less relevant, however, and with proper warmup and technique, someone can enjoy any penis, circumcised or not.

Anonymous: hello! i think aloe vera (it has to be natural) would be suitable as a lube since it’s very liquidly and has slightly jelly-like texture. if you want a more flowy-like liquid, i recommend mixing aloe vera with raw honey (90% aloe and 10% honey). idk if this is the best suggestion, but i hope it works!

Aloe vera can definitely be used as a natural anal lube, and some people very much enjoy it. I don’t hear about it nearly as much as other options, so any input about what people like most about it is welcome!

First I need to admit 2 things.
1. I usually wouldn’t have signed up to a site like this. However this must be one of the weirdest and most interesting communities I have seen. So here I am 

2. I do have vaginal (and oral) sex too and I love it. It seems that’s somehow against the rules, so please feel free to kick me out if this is a critical violation 

So… why am I here then? Well… I’ve always loved sex and had a lot of it but unfortunately I wasn’t able to orgasm for very long. Not from vaginal sex, not from oral sex, not when masturbating (though everyone was saying that’s a safe way to climax). I had a lot of fun all the time, I just didn’t know how it feels to actually cum. And with anal sex… I tried it very early in my sex life. Probably too early, so I didn’t like it that much.

So it finally took me many years and a great lover to discover how much pleasure it can give. On that particular encounter I felt like I was going to explode and I had my very first orgasm! And I had a lot more since then. Thanks to anal sex! I still don’t cum any other way but who cares. I found the recipe and I am thankful

After some encouragement to try an anal only challenge such as Anal Only April, she replies:

Thanks for the warm welcome and the great advise. Already glad I have signed up 

I think I will try what you both suggested, Anal Only April sounds great! Might make it an Anal Only Feb though

For the longest time, the representation of anal in porn was centered around the idea of it being something that guys wanted, girls rarely did, and when they did it, they would suffer through it and dislike it but do it for their guys. This gave many people the impression that that’s what anal was like in the real world, despite the fact that most of the porn actors in such scenes actually enjoyed anal and were pretending that it hurt or they disliked it. The result was a lot of women with no interest in even trying it, based on that false perception, combined with other myths and persistent ideas based on bad experiences of friends.

In the past decade, porn has generally shifted to a much more positive portrayal of anal sex and pleasure, focusing on the fact that women can and do in fact very much enjoy it, and can get a lot of pleasure from it. This is a good change, for sure, and has turned on a lot more people to the idea, encouraging them to try it for themselves to see if the same is true for them, resulting in a rapidly growing interest in and practice of anal sex by people in their regular sex lives.

More recently, however, a new trend has formed on Tumblr and Bdsmlr and other similar platforms, where a large quantity of the content and captions relating to anal sex and the anal only lifestyle are from a one-sided, misogynistic, “male pleasure is all that matters” perspective, and often focus on the idea that it’s not enjoyable or is even actively painful or harmful to women, and pushes that idea hard as a positive thing. Now, there certainly is a place for that as a kink, but it’s been unfortunate to see it become the predominant focus of porn focusing on anal only, and shift the general tone of AO in porn away from mutual enjoyment and positivity to this.

It’s a trend I’d like to see change, and I hope to see more blogs show up that focus on pleasure and enjoyment by women instead.

KateLovesAnal: I want to be able to do anal every day but my stomach gets upset often afterwards. Gas, constipation and general stomach discomfort to the point that it would be unenjoyable or even painful. This can happen even if my asshole itself is more or less fine. Any suggestions would be so appreciated. I love anal and am getting more bored with my pussy every day. I want to be able to have anal every day but sometimes my body just won’t let it happen.

This can be the result of a few different factors, and could even be something I’m not covering here. If nothing I mention helps, it may be worth talking to a doctor about it as well if you have the opportunity to do so.

It could be digestive in nature. Do you have any issues with digestion with not having anal sex, or is it triggered by the anal sex for you and you normally feel fine? Adding dietary fiber or fiber supplements to your diet and daily routine can be a good way to have a more regular digestive cycle and reduce the issues that result from anal sex.

Do you use an enema before having anal sex? How much water are you using if so? If you use too much and get it too deep, without fully doing a deep clean, you can clean yourself out briefly but end up activating your digestive tract and cause cramping or even diarrhea. Alternatively, some people need to do a deeper enema to clean themselves out suitably to avoid gas and cramping, though diet and exercise can reduce the need for this.

Are you wearing butt plugs regularly? Some people find that doing so can help regulate their digestive system and make it more accommodating for anal sex, while others find that it causes constipation if they keep large plugs in for too long.

What type of lube are you using? Some lubes can cause reactions that result in increased gas or cramping, and you might want to try a different kind if this something you’re experiencing.

Finally, you may just need to persevere for a while and stick with it. Some people get cramping as a reaction to anal penetration at first but if they keep doing anal penetration as a regular routine, it can go away.

I hope that you’re able to figure this out, and live the anal only life that you want.

Preface: I know not everyone goes without vaginal contact, but we do and it works well for us.

I was doing amazingly well enjoying my husband pounding my ass and going no contact with my cunt these last few months, but out of the blue I started struggling! I figured out that I’m probably ovulating thanks to going off birth control and it has awoken my needy little clit. I got the courage to talk to him about it last night after spending all day working out and cleaning the house to keep my mind off of the sudden and overwhelming urge to touch myself. He thanked me for being honest with him about my difficulty, and I feel so relieved knowing he is here to help me instead of being disappointed in me for not being absolutely perfect. We are all a work in progress.

So he introduced me to clit snapping. I keep a rubber band around my wrist so it’s always handy, and when the urge gets severe, I lightly stretch it out and snap it against my clit. Thankfully there are so many nerves there it doesn’t take much and doesn’t leave it too red or do any damage, but it hurts enough to take the edge off my desire to pleasure myself. Then I use my energy for something useful instead.

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From elegantphdap on Bdsmlr, who has asked questions and shared on this blog before, and who has lived the anal only lifestyle for about 4 years, and practices double anal when possible:

When I had my first anal experience I was insecure. I hadn’t have that much feedback from other woman who tried this too. Is it normal? Is it safe? How can I make it a better experience.

I want to change that for all the women out there regarding double anal. 

My first contact with DAP was in a porn movie. I saw this scene where Rocco and another guy sticked their dicks into a girls ass. The way she performed and showed her feelings hit me. Since then I secretly wished to experience that myself.

Since then I tried to find other informations about other women who had experienced this kind of intercourse. It is somehow still hard to find nowadays.

My first real life experience was indeed with two men after a party. It was my first time with two men. We started with DP but due the fact that I preferred anal it didn’t feel good. I asked the if it would be ok to try it to put both in my butt and they agreed. We took it very slowly, I was scared… but, what for? It felt amazing.

Girls, don’t stop trying and pushing your boundaries. Double anal is amazing!

Feel free to share your own great double anal experience with me and the rest of the girls out there.

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A question people sometimes have is why anyone would want to go anal only and fully exclude vaginal sex, when they could have the “best of both worlds” and do both vaginal and anal. While it may seem counterintuitive at first, there really are advantages to fully replacing vaginal with anal.

Pleasure and Arousal are Amplified With Anal Only

While it’s certainly possible to enjoy anal in combination with vaginal, and many people have and enjoy both regularly, the pleasures of anal get even better when making it the primary or only way you have sex, because you’re focusing entirely on it and mastering it as your source of pleasure. When you switch frequently between both, your body has to adapt to both forms of pleasurable input and you can miss out on the full potential of pleasure. People who go anal only find that anal just gets increasingly pleasurable over time the more they focus exclusively on it.

Additionally, anal leads to the greatest levels of arousal for most women, and going anal only further amplifies that arousal. Because vaginal and clitoral stimulation is often an easier outlet (but not a stronger outlet) for pleasure, it tends to effectively short circuit the anal pleasure pathways and get people to orgasm before anal can do the same, at least in people who are more used to non-anal orgasms. That, combined with the fact that anal orgasms generally don’t have the same arousal suppressing after-effects that other orgasms can, means that focusing just on anal pleasure and orgasms almost always results in significantly increased arousal.

The Benefits of Anal Birth Control Are Lost With Vaginal

Those who choose to use anal sex as their primary form of birth control have very positive results with significantly reduced risk of pregnancy compared to vaginal sex without supplemental hormonal or barrier forms of birth control. Many women have serious side effects from hormonal birth control and the idea of being able to have sex without worrying about pregnancy and without those negative effects is highly appealing and can be a major factor in going anal only for some women.

However, if vaginal is still in the mix, that benefit is lost and one has to still use other forms of birth control in order to safely avoid risk of pregnancy.

I got my ass fucked for the first time recently and I loved it. The only thing is I can’t help but rub my clit because it feels so good. Then my clit cums and my ass cums and I’m spent. It’s such an intense orgasm I have to call it quits.

I want to try anal only but I’m worried I’m going to have such a hard time ignoring my pussy. My boyfriend loves it when I rub my clit because it makes me squeeze his dick since it feels so good.

My pussy also gets super wet when he’s fucking my ass it just starts throbbing and I can’t ignore it.

I also don’t know about how my boyfriend would feel about going anal only. He loves my pussy and always tells me how incredible it is. Loves how convenient it is where he can just quick fuck me and go on with his day without feeling like he needs to shower. I also feel like I need to shower after anal as opposed to just having a wet pussy for the rest of the day.

Another thing is he has a thick cock and I can already feel my asshole getting stretched and little bit looser after he’s just been pounding away at it recently. My plugs just slide in now and my asshole opens almost immediately when he pushes his cock in.

What should I do

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In order to more directly respond to various parts of this message, it has been broken up into several chunks with replies in between.

Laura: Hello, I’m Laura, the wife getting into anal only for her husband – you’ve kindly answered my questions the 17th of December. I replied to you, but I’m not sure you got my message. I wanted to give feedback and ask some more questions.

I appreciate your advice to talk openly with my husband, but I don’t want him to know the only reason I’m getting into this is because I was frustrated and spied on his browser history, discovering vaginal and clitoral sex “disgusted” him. So far, he thinks the shift to anal only comes from me genuinely wanting to get into it, and it makes him feel extremely good according to what he posts online on dedicated boards (I spied more on him) and according to his general behavior. I don’t want to spoil it.

I admit I first tried this because I felt trapped (married, two kids) and upset he was “disgusted” by vaginal and clitoral sex, it was initially a simple effort to save my marriage, but I’m enjoying this more than I thought I would. I liked anal sex as soon as he introduced me to it, but anal only is something else.

When you answered me, we were actually already doing anal for three to four times a week, without me being sore. I followed your advice to get him off from blowjobs when anal started to get uncomfortable, but in just two weeks like you said, he could take my ass whenever he wanted without me being sore. Now he fucks it about every day on average (more on weekends, less during the week), and I feel fine despite him being quite large.

I’m glad to hear that you’re adjusting to it easily and finding that you can have anal sex daily without an issue. Maintaining that routine will just get easier and better for you as you continue.

I bought a toy like you said, a dildo about the size of my husband to practise. I hid it in the bathroom, and every time I have to empty myself, I rinse my ass with water (not too much) to be clean, then I use the dildo to help push the remaining water and learn to get pleasure just from anal. I stopped clitoral stimulation like you recommended and like my husband wants. Is it normal that the frustration feels sort of good and makes me enjoy anal more (both during sex and masturbating)?

It’s quite common for women to enjoy the frustrating of ongoing arousal even if they don’t ultimately orgasm. Some women prefer not to orgasm at all, as maintaining that constant arousal leads to more positive sexual interaction and a healthier sex life, and it can just be more fun. Others do want to orgasm but like to find ways of orgasm that don’t impact that buildup of arousal so much, like anal orgasms do.

So far, I can’t orgasm from anal at all, but I do get a lot of pleasure. I stopped birth control, and I feel a bit different, I don’t know if it’s related to the pill or if it comes from anal sex.

Likely a bit of both. Hormonal birth control does impact people pretty hard, and it’s common to feel different and better without it, but going anal only also has positive impacts of its own, so it’s probable that you’re enjoying the benefits of both.

Has it, therefore, been several months since you last orgasmed? The arousal must really be building in you. Are you able to manage or do you find it hard to resist? If you want to persist in avoiding clitoral stimulation entirely, really keep focusing on the anal sex and play and doing it as often as you can. It can take months to get to anal orgasm for some women, and while some do find that they can’t ever quite get there, they end up enjoying not orgasming even more and the pleasure of anal on its own makes up for it for them.

Like I said, I spied more on what my husband says online, and it turns me on to read his fantasies then do it like it’s my own idea. His “I can’t believe my luck” face every time I do something he talks about online makes me feel incredibly good. So far, this adventure really got us closer together and really changed the way I look on sex. Sex now feels as hot as when we started our relationship (a bit better, actually), and our couple works better too, with less tension. My husband seems more confident and a lot happier.

That’s wonderful to hear, and I think you’ll find it just keeps getting better. Some people use anal only as a spark to revitalize their sex life, but often, if you stick with it, it’s not like vaginal where it’s fun at first and then becomes less so down the road—anal only stays exciting and keeps getting better.

I have a question about ass to mouth, which is apparently a big fantasy of his: is it safe? From what I understand, since it’s my own body, as long as I’m clean it’s OK (like I said, I rinse a lot, so I’m always clean)?

Yes, it’s safe to do ass to mouth, especially from your own ass and if you’re visually clean. Many, many people do it without issue regularly, and given the popularity of rimming, it’s likely that even with other people if everyone’s healthy and clean, it’s rarely an issue.