Anonymous: Hi, I’m the same person asking about orgasm vs pleasure. I meant to say I wonder what’s the difference between climax and orgasm, specifically for anal at least

For many people, they can be the same thing, I think. However, for most women, I don’t think that anal orgasms are a climax in the sense of one big explosion of pleasure that then ends their arousal and sex is over. There can be a building and release of pleasure, but often without that loss of arousal, and they can keep going and stay aroused and want more.

For others, anal orgasms are climactic and wear them out quickly and they have to stop after, but that seems far less common than with clitoral/vaginal orgasms.

For those who are anal receivers, all the time spent at home during the COVID-19 pandemic can be a great opportunity to train your ass and practice going anal only, even if on your own, or prepare yourself for a future anal only lifestyle by getting your ass ready for it through daily practice.

Set up a daily routine of anal fingering, masturbating with dildos, and butt plug wear, gradually going larger and for longer amounts of time as you get more experienced. If you need your clit to relax enough for it, use it, otherwise try going without it and seeing if you can learn to orgasm just from anal.

Be sure to check out our guide to anal sex and the anal only lifestyle for detailed advice on how to train for anal sex and adopt the anal only lifestyle.

And as always, share with us how your training goes, or any questions you might have!

Is there any tips on how to cum from anal only? Or is it different for everyone?

Just relax and enjoy it. Once you get past the initial stretch and mild pain (if you’ve learned to relax) it will automatically turn into pleasure. If you mentally want it and your not fighting it then you’ll feel it hit all the right spots deep inside you. From that you’ll release and should have a very strong orgasm. It’s part mental part physical. You have to want it and learn to relax and accept it in. Once you’re use to it you shouldn’t have any trouble. I hope you enjoy and have fun.

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Anonymous: Hey, I have a question. I know that both waves of pleasure and orgasm are pleasurable, but not exactly the same. What does anal orgasm feel like? I have played with my asshole since entering into my AO lifestyle, I have always preferred feeling waves of pleasure and arousal-like feeling in my asshole. I don’t mind if I get orgasms just from anal, it’s just that every time I play with my asshole, it feels amazing and intense.

Different people experience anal orgasms a little differently, with some feeling it as a climactic event with strong muscle spasms, while others describe it more like you’re experiencing it with waves of pleasure that just keep coming without being as climactic as other types of orgasms might be.

Ultimately, it doesn’t matter—if you enjoy what you’re experiencing and it provides you with the pleasure and satisfaction that you need in order to stay anal only, then it sounds like that’s exactly what you need!

Anonymous: Hey, is it normal to identify as anal only at under 18? I discovered anal sex before I turned 18 and I fell in love with it immediately. However, I had to wait until I turned 18 in order to use the websites for it like the forum.

This website, the forum, the chat, and the rest of the anal only lifestyle is intended for use by adults over the age of 18. Many people are sexually active before that age, and discover their own preferences and interests before they turn 18, but the communities where people interact and discuss such topics are restricted to adults only to help protect people from being harmed or exploited by others when they’re at an age with less experience and ability to protect themselves.

It’s appropriate for a person to identify however they like, whenever they’re ready to identify that way, but regardless, this community is for adults only.

We’re now halfway through Anal Only April, our annual event encouraging people to try going anal only for a whole month to experience what it’s really like to do just anal long-term and discover the benefits of doing so for them.

If you are just discovering this now, or haven’t have a chance to try it yet, it’s not too late to get started! You can either plan on taking part in the next two weeks until the end of April, or you can just get started on a full month right now!

If you have been taking part, don’t forget to check in and let us know how things are going. Updates, questions, and requests for advice are all always welcome from anyone and everyone.

Insuredtongue: Any issue with putting a latex condom on plug and leaving in overnight?

Not at all, so long as you aren’t sensitive to latex, the toy material doesn’t negatively interact with latex, and the lube you use doesn’t degrade latex.

Plenty of people commonly put condoms onto anal toys, either for hygiene/cleanup purposes, to protect themselves from the toy’s material, or in combination with a sock between the toy and condom to make it temporarily larger without buying a bigger toy.

Anonymous: Hello. I’ve been with my husband for about three years and a half now, we’ve been married for about two years. When we met, I had never done anal, but he gradually introduced me to it. At one point, we were doing it quite often (every time we had sex, in fact), and that’s when he confessed to me that he was anal only, and that he only did vaginal sex with me in hope it’d change and I’d agree to switch to anal only with him. I tried anal only for a few months, and I finally agreed to switch. He asked me for marriage very shortly after that (I was 28), obviously I agreed (he’s gorgeous, I’m very much in love, and I really enjoy anal). It was a bit strange to think I’d nearly have no vaginal sex for the rest of my life, but eventually it became normal to me.

My husband is a blue collar worker, and he’s usually very tired when he comes home from work, so we generally fuck about three to four times a week. With the virus outbreak, however, we’re both trapped home, and he’s fucking me every day – several times a day, actually, up to four times a day. It’s to the point I woke up in bed several times with his cock deep inside my ass, plowing me while I was asleep. I’m not used to this at all, but I don’t want to turn him down: sex is a very good way for him to get the stress out – so far, everything is going fine at home despite the situation, and I want it to stay that way. I tried getting him off with blowjobs, but he’s always going after my ass no matter what.

What could I do to avoid being sore, and to be able to take it all? Apparently, this crisis will last for quite some time, and I’m not sure I’ll be able to provide anal sex at that frequency for that long. So far, I don’t feel sore and I’m having pleasure, but I’m a bit worried. Are there creams I could use? Will I gape permanently? My husband marvels about the gape I have lately and he jokes about it, but I’m worried about my ass not being able to close properly in the long term. How could I increase my sex drive to get closer to his? I talked to him about it a bit, and he told me to stop touching myself (I still touch my clit during sex, even if it has always annoyed him) – would that change anything?

Thank you for your work and for your answer.

Thank you for sharing, and it sounds like you have a great anal only relationship. Well done to the both of you for being able to make it work.

Daily anal, even multiple times a day like you’re doing right now, can be entirely manageable and safe, so long as your body is ready and adjusted to it. If it doesn’t hurt and you aren’t sore, then there’s nothing really to worry about. Listen to your body. If you start getting sore, maybe try a little less for a couple days. But really, once you get to where you can have anal four times a day every day, or more, without pain or significant soreness, you should be able to keep doing that indefinitely. Yes, you will likely relax more as a result and have a bigger gape, because your ass is staying more warmed up, but that is not a bad thing and if you take a break from it, it will get tighter again. And remember, being warmed up and relaxed does not mean being loose. It just means that you’re more flexible and elastic and need less preparation. It sounds like your husband appreciates you being warmed up and gaping, so it’s not a bad thing at all! It won’t harm you, so long as you aren’t injuring yourself, and if it doesn’t hurt, you aren’t.

As for higher sex drive, definitely try going without clit play and focusing on pure anal pleasure. If you can orgasm just from anal, try doing only that going forward. If you can’t, try to learn by going without clit stimulation for a while. Or if you really need to cum, use your clit the last time you have sex at the end of the day only. You could also try edging with your clit but not using it to actually orgasm.

Good luck to the both of you, especially in this trying time. With any luck you’ll be able to use the time to get closer and further develop and improve your anal only lifestyle in ways that you’ll both be able to enjoy for the rest of your lives!

I’ve been dating a new guy for 6 months or so. The sex is terrific. He’s very relaxed and sex positive. He is very sensitive around his anus and loves for me to play with it. He also loves mine. So we’ve starting talking about anal sex. I told him that I used to do it quite a bit with my husband 15 or so years ago. He asked, why did you stop? and I really had to think about it – so long ago – I said I thought we were just in a phase and then we lost interest.

Well… I suddenly remembered WHY we stopped. 15 years ago I had my 3rd and last baby. During that pregnancy I had terrible hemorrhoids. They cleared up years ago and I can’t remember the last time they bothered me. However, having hemorrhoids stretches out the tissues, and now I’m a little worried about being, well, ruined back there.

Has anyone else dealt with this? I guess I could “test things out” with a dildo or vibrator. The whole thought of it is making me nervous which I know moves things in the wrong direction. I’m not feeling forced into this. I really want to try it! But I also want it to go well.

Any thoughts? Suggestions?

CaptCorriander

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There’s a difference between the question of whether anal sex can be romantic and whether anal sex is romantic for me. Although I personally don’t find anal sex romantic or desirable, I have no difficulty acknowledging that for some people, it can be very romantic. Like most things in life, romance is subjective.

Why not? Romance means different things to different people. As long as we are talking about consenting adults where everyone’s needs are being met and everyone’s boundaries are being respected, anything goes. Not everyone enjoys anal sex or finds it romantic, but not everyone enjoys a box of chocolates and a bouquet of roses either.

Romance is not reserved for the vagina. Besides, not everyone has a vagina anyway, and not everyone wants one either, and that’s wonderful. Society is finally approaching a point where we realize that sex and romance is about more than inserting Tab A into Slot B, where “Tab A” equals the penis, and “Slot B” is the vagina.

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