Anonymous: Hi! I’m a vaginal virgin and I’ve been anal only with my boyfriend for two years now. I really love it and I want to stay a virgin and just be his anal only girl, but he’s been talking about wanting to fuck my pussy. I really don’t want to lose my virginity and would rather stay pure anal only. What should I do?

My answer is, by nature of my preferences and the topic of this blog, going to be fairly biased in favor of staying anal only and remaining a vaginal virgin for as long as you want to. Ultimately, you have all the say in that regard. If you don’t want to have vaginal sex, you don’t have to, and your boyfriend should respect your wishes without pushing you.

Some may say that you should try all things before making an informed decision which you do and don’t want to do. There is some merit in this opinion, but there is a lot of appeal for those who start pure anal only to just keep on staying that way, especially when they love it so much and are turned on by the idea of keeping their pussy fully unused but being very skilled and experienced at anal. I certainly love that idea, myself, and I see nothing wrong with it so long as it’s what you want and you’re happy.

Why not explain the appeal of staying a pure anal only vaginal virgin to your boyfriend, tell him that you don’t want to give that up, and see if there’s anything else the two of you can do together that he might want to try instead of vaginal?

Anonymous: Nasty fuck girls I’m with there’s no using the cunt at all. Just the mouth and the ass then back to the mouth!

onlyoneentry: That’s literally me – anal only and vaginal virgin for life ?

Anonymous: I’m 20 and from a religious family. I’m now away from home at college but still a virgin. Originally I was going to stay virginal until marriage, and then I found this blog (and a couple of similar ones). Now I am thinking about living my whole life as a virgin, and finding a husband who wants an anal-only woman. The thought of it brings such intense emotions, I dream of having my vagina sewn shut and somehow having my hymen thickened so it will never tear. What should I do?

cute-submissive-nyc-universe: Thanks for getting in touch and sharing. While I’m sure many guys would be delighted to meet someone who was anal only and a vagina virgin – and who wanted to remain that way – there are certain experiences that you, as a woman, should experience. And that means vagina sex. If after trying that you would prefer to be anal only, then fine. But I suggest you try everything else first. It could also make your future chastity more profound too. But all best wishes on your life journey.

I’ll offer a related but slightly alternate opinion: if you would like to experience vaginal sex and see what it’s like, then by all means do so. If you would instead like to be anal only and remain a vaginal virgin, that’s fine too. At some point in the future, you might change your mind, and if you then want to try vaginal sex at that point, there’s nothing wrong with that either. None of these is wrong or bad, in my opinion, you just need to figure out what works for you and what you want. And keep yourself open to the possibility that you might change your mind and your desires can evolve in the future, and that’s okay too.

Hi, your post about “The Many Roads Leading to the Anal Only Lifestyle” is very true, I myself belong to two categories. I got into anal to stay a virgin until marriage, but then I fell in love with my sex friend. When we started talking about marriage, I told him about having vaginal sex after we’re husband and wife, but he didn’t want to hear about it – he’s actually not even into clitoral stimulation, even if he loves lengthily licking my asshole.

We argued about it for a few weeks, but then I noticed he was more and more dominant in bed. In fact, he’s always believed I was anal only because I liked it, and the idea anal was “forced” on me while I really wanted vaginal and clitoral sex obviously turned him on, especially since I’m still a virgin… Somehow, this misunderstanding made him much more passionate, sex got really hotter, and he also became more caring and protective with me.

The situation started to please and turn me on a lot, too. That was six months ago (I actually wrote to you about it in June), we got married in August. I’m still a vaginal virgin, obviously we’re still an anal only couple, and we’re also a dominant/submissive couple, mostly in bed but also partly in life. It’s crazy, because I got into anal to save my virginity for my husband so my marriage gets as perfect and romantic as possible, and it’s somehow what happened, but not how I had imagined.

Thanks so much for the followup submission. Congratulations on getting married, and I’m so glad everything worked out so well and in a mutually satisfactory way for the both of you. It sounds like you made the right decision to stay anal only!

Anonymous: Have you thought about staying a virgin ? Of course you could be a cumslut, but only your ass and mouth would be used.

virgin-cumslut: I have actually thought about being anal only. The idea seems hot plus I love have my ass stuffed 😉

Anonymous: I’m 18, have a bf and like buttsex (I’m AO while not getting married), but I don’t know how to be sexy or use my anal abilities to make him happy cause I’m not soooo into assfucking. I don’t feel that “fire” in my butt and my brain stills considering my pussy as my primary sex organ. I feel terrible for cannot be like the buttgirls that I watch in your blog. Please, help me! I wanna be a buttslut, but my brain do not accept it! There is any hypno video ou technique that I could use? (I’m BR)

I don’t have any hypno videos or anything of that nature to help you, but I can offer you some advice and suggestions.

Do you masturbate anal only as well? If not, and if you masturbate vaginally, that is likely a contributing factor to why you feel a disconnect between your ass being your primary sex organ like you want, because you would still be using your vagina sexually. I would suggest masturbating anally at least daily, and no longer masturbating without something in your ass at the same time. This not only puts the focus on your ass where it belongs, but combining something like clitoral stimulation with anal stimulation on a regular basis really helps further associate the feeling of anal penetration with pleasure and can make it a lot more enjoyable for you.

Also, I would suggest no longer thinking of yourself as anal only until marriage—the fact that you phrase it that way puts an end point on being AO and still keeps the priority on your pussy as your primary sex organ, just not right now, and that may be contributing as well to why you have a hard time mentally thinking of your ass being the primary focus for you sexually. Even if you might end up being open to vaginal sex with a future husband, there’s no need to be concerned about that now if anal only is what you are now, and you want to get more deeply into it. Just identify as anal only.

Wearing a butt plug regularly is not only good to keep your ass in good shape and warmed up for sex, but it also helps draw your attention to your asshole throughout the time you’re wearing it, so you think about it more instead of your pussy.

This contradicts the above advice to masturbate regularly with your clit and anal penetration, but you might also consider stopping all clitoral stimulation as well as vaginal. This will boost your arousal, make you hornier, and any time the urge gets too great and you feel like you can’t resist, rub and finger and dildo your ass instead of rubbing your clit. Over time, this can further redirect and reassociate your pleasure centers and your urges anally instead of clitorally and vaginally, and it can also unlock much more intense anal pleasure and anal only orgasms. See this recent submission to the Anal Only Lifestyle blog for a reader’s firsthand account on the topic. If you already enjoy anal anal only, I definitely encourage trying a period of time without clit stimulation too. A lot of women become extremely dependent on their clit for all pleasure, and it can hide and prevent a lot of other sorts of pleasure and more intense anal only orgasms that can occur.

onlyoneentry: When your teacher asks what your hobbies are, and you have to resist the urge of saying ‘taking it up the ass’ ?

Anonymous: Hi, i’m a virgin, because was saving myself till marriage. I’m already 38 years old and still single. I start to hate myself the world and etc. Actually i don’t expect getting married, at least any time soon, so there’s no point of not having sex. Also i having regular sex with some random guy would be so boring and first time painful, because i still have a hymen. I’m considering to become sexual freak or smth. Maybe I should be AO? Any suggestions?

If you no longer have a strong reason to continue retaining your virginity, then yes, you might consider starting to have sex. I personally don’t subscribe to the whole “saving yourself for marriage” concept, but I recognize that it’s important to some people and is obviously each person’s choice. I do think sex is a fun and important thing in life and something people should make the most of and enjoy, so if you’re at a point in life now where you want to enjoy it, then I would suggest you do so.

Anal and vaginal both have the potential to be painful or at least uncomfortable when you first experience them, though neither have to be. If you do decide to retain your vaginal virginity and become anal only, I would strongly suggest exploring that part of your body on your own first if you haven’t already, and learning how to enjoy anal penetration and stimulation, so that when you first try anal with a partner, you’re ready and will be able to enjoy it. Have you tried masturbating anally? Do you know whether you enjoy it?

If you’d like further advice or to continue conversation on this topic, you can either reply with another anonymous ask, contact me via tumblr’s messenger, or join the Anal Only Lifestyle Forum or Discord server to chat with a group of people. (The forum has a few active members who are anal only vaginal virgins and may be able to provide you a perspective closest to your own.)

Hey everybody, my name is Amy. I recently stumbled across your site and find it very refreshing. 🙂 I am 19 yo female. I have been sexually active for about 3 years now, however I am still technically a virgin. I have had a couple boyfriends and have always said I wanted to wait until marriage for sex. However, as I am still human, LOL, we have done other stuff such as hand jobs, blowjobs, I am sure you get the idea…

About 6 months ago I started having anal sex only with my current BF. It has really grown on us and we do it more and more. Until i found your site, I thought there was something wrong with what we were doing and was ashamed to talk about it… So I just wanted to say thanks for letting us know it’s not so weird!

You’re quite welcome, and I’m glad you’re able to enjoy it and not feel like you’re doing something wrong. There certainly is nothing at all wrong with anal or with being anal only, and its appeal is far greater than many people seem to realize before they see how many people share the same desire. It’s extremely common for people who want to avoid having vaginal sex until a later time, but it’s also common just because so many people prefer anal sex to vaginal.

Anonymous: First of all, I love your blog! I’m a twenty year old vaginal virgin who has been in a committed anal only relationship for five years. I literally feel like this page was made to perfectly suit my sexual taste! ???

Thank you, I’m glad to hear you enjoy it and that you share the same interests. It’s always great to hear from other long-term anal only people, and from vaginal virgins who have chosen to remain anal only!