Anonymous: I love anal, especially brutal and dry, and forced, and I’d love to wear a plug to keep my hole ready to use at all times, but I can’t seem to hurt myself by shoving the plug in. Any advice?

Try a bigger plug, or one with more friction. Glass and steel are pretty smooth and can be used without lube fairly easily, especially for those already fairly experienced with anal, so you might want to try silicone to increase the friction. Going up in size will also increase the surface area and thus the available friction to make you feel it when you push it in.

I have recently discovered i LOVE anal never thought i would! super proud of myself lol!  BUT i think im overwhelming my husband as he does love it but he does not LOVE it like i do.( I take it or im receiving? im sorry i dont know the lingo yet! he does not and is not into that, no judgment this is just us!) Anyway I dont want him to feel forced to have more sex but sex 3x a week isnt enough for me! we start with bjs he doesnt finish, then move to vaginal, then the beloved anal until we cum. its beautiful.He does work a physically demanding job during the week so i know he is tired and i do take that into account! But any help or tips would be appreciated!! I would probably be anal only if he would be into it but i dont think he is. I made this tumblr just for this question! I have been stalking this blog for a month now at first i was surprised,  i thought ,like really anal only how could that be. But after the purchase of my first awesome training plugs and some different positions ive just fallen in love with it. I just feel alone and a little weird but then i find all these beautiful people who love it to, i just have no one who relates irl i suppose…Thank you for having this blog and everyone flowing it!! and  just allowing me to feel less alone!

I’m glad you were able to discover how much you love anal and that you’d like to go anal only, as well as discovering this community. (Don’t forget to check out the forum and Discord chat as well!)

Have you talked with your husband about it? Tell him that you really love and prefer anal and you’d like to try just skipping your pussy and start going straight to anal. No Pussy November, our annual month-long anal only challenge, is coming up soon, and is a good opportunity for people to experiment with going anal only without an up-front long-term commitment. You just give up all vaginal sex for a month and do anal as much as you can, and then at the end of the month reassess and if you’re still loving it, then commit to going anal only indefinitely. Perhaps you could try that with him?

If the frequency isn’t enough, masturbate your ass and wear plugs when you aren’t having sex. You can start by going anal only in your solo play, never masturbating vaginally and only playing with your ass, and then working to get to that same point with your husband.

Communication is important, though, and you should have an honest discussion with him about how much better anal is for you and that you want to try going anal only with him, at least for a while to start out.

Good luck!

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multitrack-mind: Thank you so much! He really likes it too, just I guess not as much as me haha. I am so excited for anal only November. We decided just yesterday so we aren’t going to do anything until nov. 1! I’m going to start more solo play for now! Thank you so much for you’re advice I will try and convince after November maybe he just needs more examples of why it’s the best!

To which the following response was made:

If he’s already agreed to try No Pussy November, I’m sure that month of anal only will help show him why pussy is unnecessary and anal is best, and it will no doubt be easier to convince him to stay anal only after then.

ilikeitintheass: Wedding planning and 3 full busy work schedules means we barely have time to see each other. I’ll be honest I’m having a rough go at it. I often feel when the day is over that I need more hours because the work isn’t done. I can’t be the only one that goes through that, but it feels like it at the moment.

Because I’m anal only, I find I’m horny more than ever. I’m someone who needs sex, on a daily basis. If it’s not sex then at least masturbate. Is anyone here like that? Do you find sometimes that work and life get in the way? And by the time you’re home all you want to do is crawl into bed alone? These questions have invaded my mind.

I need more sex if that’s at all possible. Who can relate? I need my arse fucked and filled all the time! Can’t be normal?!

puxxxyy: Thoughts

1. I love my plugged up little ass.. it makes me so drippy
2. My cunt is useless, I should only fuck my ass
3. My holes should ALWAYS be tight for master
4. I’m tired, I should be sleeping
5. I’m a desperate whore, id do anything to touch

Anonymous: I fuck my girlfriend in the ass about once a week. We both enjoy it, and she has great orgasms, but she says it makes her too sore to have it more often. I really want to be able to fuck her ass every time we have sex. She said she would too if she didn’t get so sore. Is there anything we can do to keep her from getting so sore so we can be anal only? It’s the only time we can fuck without using a condom.

It sounds like you need to spend some more time on warmup and ease into things a bit more, as well as perhaps doing some lower intensity anal play more often. I would suggest that you let her go a week or so to get over any soreness after her last anal session, but then rather than having anal sex, start doing lots of anal play alongside other sexual activities. Have her wear a plug, both during oral/vaginal sex, and at other times. Doing this 3 – 5 times a week, if not daily, can really start to make a difference over the course of a week or so, even if just for a relatively short amount of time each day.

When you do have anal sex the next time, have her wear her plug first, then warm her up some more with fingers or a toy before having sex. This helps warm up her muscles and relax so that soreness is less likely to occur.

From there, return to your once a week anal session but keep up the anal play in the meantime as long as she’s not too sore for it. If after a week or two she’s able to do both with less soreness, try going to anal sex twice a week, and keep working up from there. You can absolutely get to the point where she can have anal sex daily, if not more than once a day, without getting sore, it just takes time and gradually working towards that goal, and then maintaining a relatively consistent routine so that her ass stays in that state where it’s ready for sex regularly.

hitmemister: My boyfriend and I are turning over a new stone. Up until now he hadn’t been much interested in orgasm denial but he’s extremely interested in giving me what I need lately and I am grateful.

So here’s to another denial period, guided by my partner this time and not just by myself. So, it should be a lot longer and more difficult this time because I am accountable to the one I love.

Also told him about my need to be anal only and my cuckquean fantasies. I’m apprehensive, nervous, and scared but I know he 100% listens to me as I do him.

Currently have a plug in my ass, and I’m going to start edging. ? Wish me luck!

Asks and replies of encouragement are appreciated. ❤️

Hi, it’s the girl you tagged 20180705 again. Nearly one month after my latest ask, I thought it was time to give you some feedback. We’re still anal only, my boyfriend is very happy, and he’s getting me more involved into the lifestyle: he gifted me some backless panties and a jewel butt plug to wear, and sometimes he talks about us getting tattoos. Our sex life really changed: before it was mostly routine with mediocre length, now it’s much more frequent and either longer or much shorter.

Actually, he does a lot of quickies now, which he never did before: mostly before we have to go outside or before friends come over, he directly fucks my ass with both of us barely undressed and little foreplay, then plugs me. It doesn’t affect the frequency of longer sessions, so I don’t mind and it actually turns me on. In fact, my view on sex has changed completely: before, it was just something that happened once in a while, and I otherwise didn’t think about it all that much.

Now, I’m sort of obsessed with it. Wearing very often the butt plug and backless panties play a role, of course, but sex is always on my mind anyway. It probably changes how I behave and dress: at work or with friends, I get a lot of “you’re very sexy today” that I didn’t get before. I guess it’s all related to the fact I just can’t cum anally yet: at every intercourse, I feel I’m very very close, but it just never happens. The strangest thing is, I’m not frustrated any more, I’m sort of hooked.

It’s like I’m flooded with hormones that make me horny, and I became addicted to the sensation itself. It’s weird and I don’t know if I make myself clear. I thought a lot about what you said, that there’s nothing wrong with submission so long as it’s my choice, and that acting like my boyfriend wants me to act “retrains” my brain and what I enjoy, to eventually cause pleasure and a refocus on other areas.

You’re basically one of the only persons I talk to about this, since I wanted my boyfriend to be 100% comfortable with it and think I was 100% OK with being anal only, without any doubt. My gay friend talked about what I said to him to his husband, who apparently talked about it to my boyfriend: we spent an evening at their place, and to my surprise the subject naturally came during conversation, and was talked about all evening in embarrassing details.

I was sort of mortified (and my friend too, since we’re both the “receivers”), but my boyfriend seemed to really love openly talking about it, and it was sort of fun and instructive. I admit it also turned me on to some extent.

I guess my main problem is the sensation of losing control, and not knowing where this is all heading. I don’t know if I can keep up with not orgasming at all, but I really dislike the idea of using clitoris stimulation in his presence, and I don’t want to come in secret.

Thanks for the update! It sounds like you’ve really settled into the anal only lifestyle very well as well as successfully incorporated clitoral and orgasm denial into your personal routine.

While it can certainly be a challenge at first for most people to start orgasm denial, because orgasms are a very powerful addiction, it’s not at all uncommon for people to discover with time just how much they enjoy an ongoing state of arousal and its associated pleasures far more than the short burst of pleasure from an orgasm.

That said, there’s nothing wrong with orgasms either for those who enjoy and want them, and with more time you may discover the ability to orgasm from anal as well.

Anonymous: Today is the day I finally tried out my butt plug and honestly I’m loving it so much

Congratulations! You’re going to have a lot of fun with it going forward, I’m sure!

abundanciadeporno: I woke up horny this morning. I haven’t got a Dom or anyone to really help take care of this problem, so I started to masturbate a bit in the shower when it occurred to me… this isn’t a problem. If I deny myself and stay horny, I can do orgasm denial on my own. I could use an orgasm as a prize for myself for something far off in the future, like getting a scientific paper published or… passing my dissertation proposal. I can use my horny sexual energy and channel it into other things. Positive reinforcement, right? I can make it… let’s say 30 days to start. I’ll work my way up to 100.

So instead of finishing myself off in the shower, I put my buttplug in instead. It’s about 4 inches long, not very wide, but shaped for all-day wear. And I’ve done all-day wear on this one before, so no big deal right? It’s been a while, but… what the hell. Let’s give it a shot. It’ll keep me soaking wet all day.

So I get to work. I’m a graduate student, and it’s summer, so the lab is a little bit deserted right now. I’m the only one in all day, and I’m working from a personal computer that’s not hooked up to the university wifi… so of course the first thing I do is pull up tumblr. And I’m looking at all the anal-only porn I follow, all the orgasm denial porn, all the bondage and kinky shit… and I can feel my panties soaking through already. It’s 9am.

Around 11am, I’ve taken a break from looking at porn to writing it instead. I’ve got a little smut I’m writing for myself, and it’s making me ridiculously horny. I decide something needs to be done. I text my fuckbuddy who works on campus too. He’s cute and pretty well hung but doesn’t really do D/s so not a candidate for long-term companionship.

“Hey, do you want to come down to my lab and fuck my ass? Don’t let me cum, no matter how much I beg”

“Uh, fuck yeah. Be right there.”

Five minutes later, I’m on my knees taking his cock down my throat in my office. I love sucking cock- I could do it for hours, but that’s not what he’s here for. When I decide I’m done sucking him off, I give him a good coat of lube then bend over my desk. He shoves his thick cock in my ass and wraps his hand around my throat. I’m immediately fighting not to cum, riding the edge with all I’ve got, letting him pound my ass as hard as he can. After about 20 minutes, his hand tightens around my throat when he cums. I almost lose it. I can feel his cock throbbing in my ass, filling me up with his load, and then he pulls out. I pop the buttplug back in and show him to the bathroom so he can clean off, and then he’s gone.

I spend the rest of the afternoon dripping cum from my ass and feeling my pussy just getting wetter and wetter.

When I finally get home, a friend has stopped by to say hi and let themselves into my house. I’m dying to masturbate, but I know this is for the best. I’d just let myself cum, and I don’t want that. I haven’t decided what my punishment will be if I let myself cum before 30 days, but I know it won’t be good.

Finally, at midnight, my friend has left, and I’ve got the house to myself. The moment the door shuts behind them, I’m running to my bedroom to masturbate. I pull out clothes pins, my favorite 9in dildo, some oral anesthetic cream, my magic wand, and lube. Clothes pins firmly on my nipples (and pinching nicely against my piercings), I start to run the oral anesthetic cream on my clit. I’ve never really used it for this before, so I use just a little bit and rub it in really well. Within seconds, I can’t feel my finger on my clit anymore. I give it a good flick, and nothing. A hard smack? Still nothing. AWESOME.

I lay on my back and plunge the lubed-up dildo into my ass. It’s SO much bigger than the plug, but it feels like heaven as it stretches me out. I start working away, fucking myself HARD when I decide it’s time to up the ante. I switch the magic wand on and press it against my numb clit. I can feel it vibrate around my clit and on my labia, but it’s like someone is holding a pillow up against it. I crank it up to full blast (this can normally make me cum in SECONDS) and still feel nothing. Laughing, I keep fucking my ass with the dildo and pressing the wand up against me. I know if I hadn’t numbed my clit I’d be cumming like a freight train right now. I can feel the edge building up, but it just can’t go any farther. I fuck harder, I rub the magic wand against my clit in the way I know would normally set me over the edge… and I back off.

I breathe for a few minutes, let my heart rate get back to normal… then another coat of lube on the dildo and I’m back in the saddle. I edge again, and again, each time more painfully aware of how close the orgasm feels and how impossible it is to reach it.

As I’m catching my breath from my last edge, my phone buzzes. It’s 12:30, but there’s a text from my fuckbuddy. He’s near my apartment complex and wants to know if I want another round?

Fuck yes I do. I’m exhausted and sore but my pussy is still dripping wet. I rinse off real quick and reapply the oral anesthetic. Right as I’m laying back down in bed to wait for him, he walks into my bedroom. Immediately I’m ass-up and face-down, enticing him into my bed. Like a flash, his pants are off, he’s lubed up, and his hard dick is plunging into me again. His hands are all over me, squeezing my nipples hard and pulling on the piercings there. Then one is on my throat again while one rubs my clit. Feeling another edge and knowing I can’t cum, I gasp out that I used numbing cream. He pinches my clit hard. When I feel nothing, he flips me over from doggy into a sort of modified missionary, slapping my clit hard while he fucks my ass. He pulls on the piercing, flicks it, but I don’t feel anything. Usually any of these things would make me cum immediately, but right now they’re just making the edge hold longer and longer while he fucks my ass even harder. He plunges his fingers into my sopping wet pussy and then puts them in my mouth, telling me to suck it off. As I wrap my lips around his fingers and taste my desperation on them, he groans and fills my ass with his hot cum for the second time today.

He pulls out and I feel his cum dripping out of me. Roughly flipping me over onto my belly and lifting my ass, he grabs the plug from the nightstand, lubes it up, and sticks it back in my ass for me.

“Whatever you’re doing with this anal and anesthetic cream, it’s making you an insatiable sex-fiend… Let me know if you want to go again tomorrow.”

Writing this, I can feel my wet swollen pussy throb with need even as my clit is on fire from the abuse it took… My ass feels so well-used and sore, but I know it’ll be taking a beating again tomorrow one way or another.

Here’s to Day 1 of my personal Orgasm Denial Challenge.

Anonymous: I’m interested. Problem is I don’t have any toys, and no boyfriend. What should i use as a makeshift dildo for now?

Start with just your fingers. Add some lube, massage around your anus with a finger, rubbing across it and around it in circles, let yourself get into it and relax. As it starts to want to open up a bit more, slide one of your fingers inside and move it in and out a bit. Keep adding another finger as you feel yourself relaxing further and wanting more. If something hurts, go back down in size again. It might take multiple play sessions to go up in size. Listen to your body and go at a pace that works for you. Once you can fit three or four fingers with relative ease, then you would be ready for something more.

A cucumber and similar vegetables can make for a reasonable makeshift dildo if you don’t have anything better available. Wash it and make sure it doesn’t have any sharp points on it before trying, and if you have a condom available, try putting that over it as well. Some make do with small bottles as well. But real dildos and butt plugs are best, as they’re designed to go in your ass, so I would recommend getting some.

Good luck!