Anonymous: I am literally just waiting for my partner to take my anal virginity. I always masturbate with a plug in my ass and he doesn’t last long enough for me to cum with my pussy so I’m hoping he starts fucking my ass soon. My body is made like whore so I should be fine.

Just tell him you want to be his anal girl and that you want him in your ass. He should be happy to accommodate.

Anonymous: Do you have any suggestions on finding the right plug for my girl? She really enjoys anal play and I really enjoy doing it to her. I just want to make her happy. Thanks for all you do.

Using fingers or other toys, figure out about what size of anal penetration she’s currently comfortable with, and find a plug that’s a little wider than that at the widest point, so that it gives her a little push but when it’s inside is still comfortable.

The Tantus Ryder, Implicit Creations Core Plug (3 sizes) and others in that size range are what I often recommend as a starter plug. You don’t want to start too small, or it’ll just get replaced quickly, so work up to ~1.5″ diameter first and then try for a good small/medium plug.

Anonymous: My Fiancé and i really want to try stretching out my ass and you seem to be knowledgeable about these things. Ive done a little research on my own but I’d like to see what tips, cautions, and thoughts you have on going about this.

If you’re just starting out and want to stretch/train it for anal sex, start with a finger and work up in size from there. If you’re already experienced with anal sex and want to go bigger, the same basic principles apply.

Essentially, increase in small size increments, generally no more than 1/4″ diameter at a time, warm up through smaller sizes before jumping to the larger sizes, and stop for at least a few days if you become particularly sore or if there’s any bleeding.

Feel free to follow up if you have any more specific questions!

Anonymous: What does it mean when I’m laying with a plug in my ass that was seated all the way in, just pops out. I wasn’t doing anything wasn’t even masturbating. But it popping out is Really very annoying

It’s probably not the right size plug for you. You may have advanced in your anal training so you can relax your anal muscles more easily now and it’s too small for that now, or it might not be the ideal shape for your body. If the difference in size between the widest part inside you and the neck is too little, or if the neck is too short, it can have difficulty staying in place. It might be time to start looking for a new plug!

The original poster responded:

What do you mean shape for my body? Don’t plugs really only come in one shape?

Plugs come in many different shapes and sizes. Some have very thin necks and wide internal “bulbs”, some have thick necks and are more like dilators, some have very stubby “bulbs”, some are tapered, some are egg-shaped, etc. Some have short necks, some have long necks. Some have flat bases, some have T-shaped bases, some have loop bases. All these factors can contribute to a plug that is comfortable to one person but not another.

Anonymous: Hi I had a couple questions , how do I get my girlfriend to want to do anal and like it more ? She loves it when I lick her lil butthole and rub it and put my finger in when I’m making love to her but other then that she says it hurts and I try to tell her to relax … we use lube and what not but her being anxious makes her scared … is there anything I can do? I recently bought her a princess plug but we haven’t used it yet. Thanks

Keep doing the things she likes and make them regular parts of sex for the two of you. Start using the plug as well. From the baseline of what she enjoys, gradually work up in size at a pace that she’s comfortable with. Encourage her to play with her ass as well and masturbate anally, and to tell you what feels good, what’s comfortable, and when things start to not be. Push her limits, but gently and slowly. As you work up in size and get near your own size, only then should you try going ahead with actual anal sex.

Play with her clit and give her lots of orgasms during anal training, and that will help her relax and develop the association between anal penetration and pleasure, and she’ll start wanting more and more.

say-no-to-the-o:

3 November, 2018
From @littlehumpybunny (Say No To The O Member and Sister in Denial)

From today onwards I, @littlehumpybunny, swear that I for at least one week will be participating in “No Pussy November, which means the following

1. I must play with my ass until I edge at least once a day.
2. I may not touch my clit unless I am also playing with my ass.
3. Toys may only be used on or in my ass.
4. That I must have my plug in at least an hour a day.
5. That if by the end of the week on Nov. 10th if I feel good about the week I will swear to my aforementioned statement for another week so on and so on until “No Pussy November” is over.

If I don’t follow these rules, the only way I’m allowed to edge for the rest of the week is by humping with clothespins on my pussy lips.

________________________________________

Sleep well, @littlehumpybunny. The arousal will likely kill you in the morning (fingers crossed). You friends at Say No To The O Member

Read more about @littlehumpybunny HERE.

Anonymous: i’m working up to anal only as part of my edging + denial. currently, vaginal penetration is off-limits but i still touch my clit. i only allow myself to edge my clit with an anal plug inserted or while fucking my ass. having my ass full gets me to the edge so quickly and makes me drip so much. it also helps me train to associate pleasure with my ass. i’m scared to see what removing clit stimulation does to me. ?

It sounds like you’re approaching this in a way that works really well for most people, easing into anal only and gradually increasing your reliance on your ass for pleasure while removing your reliance on your pussy and reducing it on your clit, only using it to supplement and increase your anal pleasure, until you no longer need it anymore.

In a broad sense, if you no longer use any vaginal penetration, you’re already anal only. A lot of anal only women still use clitoral stimulation, and just replace vaginal penetration with anal every time. Over time, however, many work to remove their dependence on clitoral stimulation to be even more strictly anal only, and that’s a great thing if it’s what you want to work towards as a goal.

It sounds like you’ll love it.

Anonymous: It’s those few days of the month for me where I’m unbearably horny and it’s hard to stay anal only. So I’m currently out shopping, wearing an anal plug under my chastity belt. To add to my torture, I put some earbuds in and I’m forcing myself to listen to the sounds of women cumming hard as I feel my empty pussy drip. It’s making me wish a stranger would come pull my leggings down and fuck my ass hard while I’m locked in this belt. Ugh ?

A lot of anal only people get those challenging days where sticking to their goals seems hardly worth it and it’s so easy to give in, but at the same time you know that if you do, you’ll regret it. Having an outlet to share and talk about it is always a good way to back away from that edge, so I’m glad you shared this message.

At the same time, it sounds like you are familiar with the routine, and have a good strategy for dealing with it yourself—as well as deliberately making it worse for yourself! Here’s to hoping your wish comes true.

Anonymous: Maybe a weird question but I can’t really find answers. Are we suppose to be relaxed with a butt plug in, or staying clenching on it like a keagel? I usually relax totally with the plug but feel that while it’s stretching the anal opening itself it doesn’t do much for further up there. Maybe just a longer wider plug would be beneficial… Any suggestions or tips would be appreciated!

You can do and benefit from both. Most people are relaxed when they’re inside. You’re correct in that it’s primarily affecting the anal muscles rather than deeper inside the rectum. You would want to use a dildo for more active anal masturbation.

Anonymous: My boyfriend and I have been anal only for 2 years now and things are great, but we are trying to find something to really test my anal limits. We’ve used toys like dildos, vibrators, etc.. But we are looking for something new. Are there any interactions you can think of that will take our anal sex to an extreme? We are very adventerous. 🙂

Congratulations on the two years anal only! There are all sorts of things you could try doing to push your anal limits and get deeper into the anal only lifestyle.

• If you use clitoral stimulation currently during masturbation or sex, you could work to stop that and focus on pure anal only and learn to orgasm from just anal (if you can’t already). Using numbing creams like Orajel can be a good part of this process as well, temporarily removing any sensations from your clit.
• You could start wearing a butt plug more often until you more or less always have one in whenever possible aside from when having sex, using the bathroom, or cleaning.
• You could buy larger dildos and plugs and continue pushing your size limits with them. Depth play can be fun in addition to increases in width.
• You could start working towards double anal, whether with a third partner if that’s something that interests the both of you, or with a dildo alongside your boyfriend.
• Similarly, you can start working towards anal fisting. The stretch can be similar to larger toys, but with the more intimate connection of your boyfriend’s hand inside you.
• Chastity piercings to close your pussy and anal only-themed tattoos can be more advanced ways of symbolizing your anal only status.

I’ll be interested to hear what you end up trying!