odieballer: Do you have problems with hemorrhoids and stuff and painful shitting after wrecking your asshole the way you do? I always wonder about that with you or top stars like HKJ and proxy and others

bb-puta: no, i personally have never had hemorrhoids, painful bathrooms or any other problems with my ass!

The idea that anal, even larger/rougher anal sex and play, causes injury or hemorrhoids is more or less a myth. It can if you don’t listen to your body and take care of it, but if you use lube, warm up, and don’t do anything that hurts, you can do all sorts of things like double anal fisting and be totally fine. Gradual progress and increase of size is healthy and safe. Forcing things in and ignoring the pain is what gets someone injured. This applies whether you’re just getting started with anal or are an expert doing expert-level play.

Anonymous: Reality check! As a woman, let me put some things straight. No sane woman on this earth actually enjoys anal. Some simply learn to ignore or like the pain. Anal is mentally fun, physically it isn’t. Because that orifice was just not made for penetration. Even gay men only enjoy it because they sniff poppers (muscle relaxant) and because they have a prostate. Women are built differently and need at least internal stimulation of the clitoris to cum, which is impossible through the anus. Face it.

Yeah… not a single thing you said is true. I’m sorry you’ve had such bad experiences with it. I hope someday you’ll have an opportunity to experience what anal can really be.

The original version of this post on Tumblr received the following responses.

fwcouple98023: Internal clitoral stimulation? Pretty sure the clit is external and g spot is internal. If you know what you’re doing, you can hot g spot while doing anal. Just have to be good at fucking!! @hornywife84

hungandhands10me: I love that a woman told another woman that she’s lying to herself about something feeling good

lilobinx: What a fucking idiot.? She clearly knows absolutely nothing about this subject or the female anatomy/erogenous zones. Sounds like she’s desperately trying to convince herself all of this. What Anal-Loving man hurt her????

1.) Anal is fucking amazing.

2.) Not all women cum from clitoral stimulation.

3.) Not all women cum from penetration .

4.) Some women have extra sensitive anus’ which is why those types of women love anal. (??‍♀️)

5.) Shut the fuck up, you dense fruitcake…?

iridescent-sweethart: Anal is so great?

pinklioness7: Seriously? She just decided she spoke for a large chuck of the population based on her own experiences? Even going so far as to say gay meet have to sniff something to enjoy it? Guess what sweetie, you are wrong. Period. Many of us women enjoy anal, and I’ve never used any substance (besides lube) to enjoy it. Get your facts straight or maybe try voicing your statement as a personal one instead of speaking for people you know nothing about.

awesomegromm: Well count me as one of those people who only does anal for the pleasure aspect, has never used poppers, and actually knows what he’s doing when he fucks a lady in the ass.

Anonymous: I’m very excited to do anal for the first time and I’m going to do it with a friend, but I’m afraid something will go wrong if you understand what I mean. Do you have any advice for me?

You could mean several things, so I’ll answer generally.

If you’re afraid of a mess, make sure to go the bathroom in advance. If you’re really concerned, use a douche/enema bulb to squirt just a small squeeze of warm water into your rectum and push it out, repeating a few times. That should be all you need to do. You can check by inserting or masturbating with a dildo beforehand to see if your rectum is clean.

If you’re afraid it’s going to hurt, you should practice/train with fingers and toys before trying it with a partner, so you know what to expect and prepare your ass for penetration without pain. Some people can dive straight into anal sex without preparation, but most people need to practice a little first. Try it on your own time with a lubricated finger at first, and work up to a dildo.

When trying it with a partner for the first time, make sure to lubricate both his penis and your anus, and do it in such a way that you can control the initial penetration speed, angle and depth. If it starts to hurt, just pause at that position or back off slightly until any pain fades, then continue until he’s all the way in. If you need to pause a moment again to adjust to having him inside you, do so, then start slowly moving and let him take more control as you get comfortable with it. Don’t hesitate to pause again if something starts to hurt.

Combining anal penetration with clitoral stimulation can help a lot when you’re first starting out, both to relax you and to help start interpreting anal penetration as something pleasurable. It’s not necessary for everyone, but if you have difficulty with anal, give it a try.

Good luck and enjoy!

painlove1018: Playing with my clit is so stimulating. But when I’m done I’m over it. I have done anal masturbation and the climax has lasted longer then me actually fucking someone. I wanna go longer fingering and eventually fisting my ass. My fear is my ass losing its tightness. Just thinking bout anal masturbation has my clit throbbing. What do I do?

That’s something a lot of women discover, that even though clit stimulation and orgasms feel good, the abrupt end of desire when done can ultimately make one want to find an alternative. This is one of the primary reasons I advocate clit denial for anal only women, because anal stimulation and anal orgasms can provide a great deal of pleasure on their own, without the same impact to arousal.

The idea of your ass getting loose from anal sex/play is more or less a myth. Using your ass stretches and trains the muscles, which increase their elasticity and can ultimately make penetration easier over time, but that doesn’t mean that it won’t remain tight. Even after a session of fisting, you would find yourself tightening back up before long. People who have been having anal sex or engaging in anal fisting for decades report no long-term issues, and couples who have been anal only for similarly long periods report the same, with no noticeable loss of tightness. Just listen to your body and don’t go too fast at a pace that hurts and results in injuring yourself, and you’ll be fine.

By all means, go ahead and enjoy yourself. Masturbate anally only and ignore your clit and you’ll be rewarded with far greater pleasure and arousal long-term.

Anonymous: Why in this your misoginy school only women have to give up her core of womanhood that is her clit, the ultimate sex organ of nature, but men can keep using their penis?!! Why the restriction in genitalia is just to women?!! What a fucking sick idea of yours.. My God.

analonlyschool: Thank you for your message. In your hurry to direct your outrage towards me, you may have failed to notice that within the fictional scenario of this blog, the Anal Only School is a learning establishment that women choose to enroll in and can leave at any time if they find that it is not for them. A complete focus on anal sex is the advertised and stated intent of the Anal Only School, so everyone involved knows what they’re getting themselves into.

As for the reason why clitoral denial is encouraged within the Anal Only School: because there is greater pleasure for women to be had without direct clitoral stimulation, an increase in arousal, and other sexual benefits. Anal only orgasms, which stimulate among other things, the internal parts of the clitoris that surround the rectum, can be more intense and pleasurable without the negative side effects of clitoral orgasms that lead to post-orgasm mood changes and loss of arousal.

Why would you deny women greater pleasure by insisting on clitoral stimulation above all else?

whyuaskinme: I love anal sex… but I have 2 problems. It’s difficult for me to relax enough to keep going for very long, my fault not his. I want him to cum in me more often, I think it’s only been twice unfortunately. The other is more of a concern actually…. I’m worried about getting too stretched out for obvious reasons. Any help?

Practice makes perfect for learning to relax and stay relaxed for anal sex. Start masturbating anally more regularly, and wear a butt plug before having sex.

As for your concern about getting “stretched out”, that just doesn’t really happen. Think of anal stretching as more of a muscle stretch like before exercise, it warms you up, increases your flexibility, and makes you less likely to injure yourself. It doesn’t make your muscles weak or “loose”. Your natural resting state will still be tight. Even people who engage in more extreme play with huge toys or fisting on a regular basis are still tight again if they stop playing for a while. So don’t worry about that at all, enjoy training your ass and having anal sex as much as you like!

In fact, the only real effect of doing it more often will be that it will be easier to relax and able to enjoy sex much more.

Update December 2018: While this still hasn’t been written in book form at this time, we do have a new section on this blog that somewhat serves this purpose in an early form. Visit the Anal Sex Advice & Guide to the Anal Only Lifestyle page.

I want to write a book about anal sex and the anal only lifestyle. At this point, this is nothing more than idea, but it’s been at the back of my mind for a while and I want to bring it to the front and start doing some work on the idea. It would be both a guidebook to anal sex in general and to becoming and staying anal only, as well as an overview of the concept of anal only and why people should try it and what its advantages are.

Is this something people would be interested in if it existed? What sort of things would you like to see included in the book? I’m seeking any and all suggestions at this stage!

toxic-puddin50: Hi, female,25. So I’ve always enjoyed anal, like most people who’ve asked you questions, i find it feels better than vaginal. However, I worry about doing it TOO MUCH. As amazing as it is I don’t want to destroy my anus. Can you recomend any technique that might work other than moderation?? Thanks♡♡

As long as you take care of yourself, don’t ignore pain or minor injuries/bleeding and have them grow into something bigger as a result, and pace yourself and take breaks as needed if it starts hurting or getting unpleasantly sore, you can’t have too much anal, and it won’t cause harm to you.

The anus is very tough, and can handle daily sex. Muscles are strengthened through proper use, not weakened. Incontinence/prolapse and other scary sounding things as a result of anal sex are a myth. Enjoy it all you like!

Anonymous: Weird question. I started doing anal with my bf and I love it. Is it unusual to have an intense orgasm while being done in the butt? I have amazing orgasms!

Not at all! Most people experience more intense orgasms from anal. Some need to combine clitoral stimulation with anal, others can just cum straight from anal without their clit.

Have fun, and keep enjoying anal!

Anonymous: Is it weird for a girl to dislike vaginal stimulation entirely? My girlfriend only wants me to pay attention to her ass during sex, and she’s even told me that she’s always exclusively played with her butt when she masturbates. I was a bit shocked at first, since she’s a very prim and proper kind of girl, but now I’m really starting to prefer anal as well. Should I be worried at all?

Worried about what? There’s absolutely nothing to be worried about. Everybody has different physical and experiential pleasure centers and triggers, and yes, some women dislike vaginal stimulation or even experience discomfort and pain from it, instead preferring anal even for masturbation. It’s more common than you might think, in fact, for some girls to start masturbating and/or having sex anally and then staying that way (or wanting to) because vaginal doesn’t feel as good to them.

Enjoy it together and enjoy each other. Like you said, you’re starting to prefer anal now as well. So keep doing what you both prefer. Happy buttfucking!