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Anonymous: Good Day Sir I really enjoy your blog. It is a great inspiration to me. I am a denial submissive. My Masters cunt is only allowed to cum when he wishes and that is not very often. I am perfectly happy with that. My Master now has expressed the desire to only have anal sex. We already have anal sex and I enjoy it very much. I would really like to accept his wish for me, I just want to do it safely. Do you have any tipps? How can I make the transition to an anal only slut without risking my health and not disappoint my Master? Humbly honey

Thank you, I’m glad that you enjoy my blog and that it inspires you. Congratulations on the decision to go anal only, it will be wonderful for the two of you and is well worth doing. It’s absolutely worth doing some research first in order to make the transition safely and ensure that it’s sustainable long-term so that you don’t need to stop later. Essentially, so long as you warm up properly beforehand and/or stay trained and warmed up by masturbating anally and wearing a butt plug regularly, and listen to your body and don’t do anything that actively hurts or stop if there’s any bleeding, rest a day or two, and try again. Those are usually only an issue when you’re first getting started. From there, establish a routine and try to stick with it as well as you’re able. The main thing that makes anal difficult is not doing it often enough, because your anal muscles tighten back up if they aren’t used, and need to be warmed up again. Ultimately getting to where you do it every day or every other day is ideal. If you need to transition more gradually, I’d start by doing anal at least one day a week (or more often if you already do it more often) and make that be your anal only day, and then every few weeks, adding an additional day per week that’s anal only and reducing a vaginal day, until after a few months you’ve transitioned to full time anal and no vaginal. For more information on this process in more detail, read the Guide to Anal Sex and the Anal Only Lifestyle.

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Anonymous: The idea of going anal only is really hot! Is it something that you can really do or is it just a fantasy?

You can absolutely do it in reality, and while the captions on this blog are fictional scenarios and sometimes drift towards the fantastical a little bit, they’re intended to inspire people to make it their reality, not just to get off on it but not actually do it. There are many, many people out there who are practicing an active anal only lifestyle, and I encourage it for everyone who finds the idea interesting or appealing. Starting for a month or two without a long-term commitment can be a great way to explore the idea and see how you like it, and then if it works for you, keep going from there.

Anal gaping is a term you probably won’t hear much outside of porn websites. It’s probably the most extreme form of anal stretching possible, and takes hours for your anus to recover from. While you have a gaped anus, you can even see some of the internal rectal muscles.

A gape is essentially an opening in the anus. This is usually caused by an extended period of anal sex, giving the muscles enough time to get used to being open, and remain open when the penis or sex toy is removed. It isn’t necessarily done in a violent or nasty way, although it might look like that in some porn movies. Gaping is simply another aspect of sex that some enjoy, and others will find quite strange.

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If you’ve followed us for a while, you’re probably familiar with our Guide to Anal Sex and the Anal Only Lifestyle, which has been a part of this website for the past year since moving off Tumblr.

It’s always going to be a freely available resource as part of this blog for those who want to learn more about anal sex and the anal only lifestyle, but I’m happy to announce that you can also purchase it in an ebook format through Amazon as well, if that’s how you prefer to do your reading!

It can be a good resource if you’re just getting started, and it can make a good gift for friends who might be interested in anal or going anal only. Either way, it helps support this blog and the greater anal only community.

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I got fucked in the ass for the first time on my 31st birthday.

It wasn’t my first time trying. Throughout my twenties I felt pressured to try anal by a number of male partners. I even had men try it without consent. The idea of a whole cock in my ass scared me. I imagined that it would be painful, and the few attempts I made proved that to be true. When guys pressed their cocks against my asshole I felt tense and scared and pressured. I knew that anal sex was desirable for them and I wanted to give the guys I was fucking what they wanted. I wanted to be into anal sex but my body said no.

Eventually I started to let guys put fingers in my ass and I found that it felt good. When I was really turned on I was able to take a small amount of penetration. Rubbing my clit while they fingered my ass was exciting and hot. But as soon as we moved up in size from a finger to a cock, my body couldn’t take it. I couldn’t relax enough to open myself wide enough for a cock. I decided that I would never be able to.

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I always wondered if people who are AO care about it. Even if you don’t fuck it or touch it you still have to look at it. Do you care about it or no?
If so what are your personal preferences? shaved, trimmed, waxed, natural, just a stripe etc?

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Childbirth wasn’t kind to me. The beautiful birth experience I had imagined for myself – in a pristine pool with serene music playing and essential oils burning with possibly some cartoon woodland creatures gathering to greet the infant – didn’t quite happen that way. There was a lot of screaming, tearing, forceps and painkillers.

The most important thing was that my son Jasper was born healthy and we were both OK.

But at my six-week check-up, I was still sore and certainly nowhere near ready to have sex again.

I know a lot of women say they don’t feel like having sex for months or even years after having a baby, but that wasn’t me. The mind was willing, but the vagina objected quite strongly. And my husband Dan told me every day how keen he was too.

My doctor told me to give it another few weeks and then to go ahead and try to have sex, using lots of lubricant and taking it super slow. Jasper was a good sleeper, so Dan and I planned a romantic evening to try things out one Saturday night. While I fed Jasper and put him down to sleep, Dan lit a load of candles, poured the wine and put on some mood music.

Everything was right, but when we tried to have sex, I ended up in tears. I’m not sure how much of the problem was physical and how much was emotional, but I just couldn’t entertain the idea of letting Dan anywhere near my poor battered vagina.

The next week I was searching online for a solution to my problem when I came across an article about a couple who discovered anal sex after they’ve had a baby. She said that, although she’d never tried anal before, it had become her favourite type of sex now, and that she no longer had to worry about doing her vagina any more damage.

Dan and I had dabbled in anal sex a few times before and quite liked it, so a light bulb went on in my head. I got quite excited about the idea and sent Dan a text message at work that said, “Anal tonight?”

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Our culture has long put a lot of obligations onto women when it comes to sex, and this is still something that many people are dealing with even today.

While men are looked upon in a positive way for having a lot of sex with multiple partners, women are often still treated negatively for the same. Among other reasons, the fact that sex has greater consequences for women in the form of pregnancy can lead to a culture that cautions women against enjoying sex more freely.

Also relating to pregnancy, the burden of birth control is predominantly on women. Men can wear condoms (and still should when partners aren’t tested), but any other form of birth control and its negative side effects is fully shouldered by women.

This is where the beauty of anal sex and the anal only lifestyle becomes clear: it allows people to enjoy the pleasure and intimacy of sex, without pregnancy being a factor. Anal is sex for the sake of sex, not piggybacking on top of a reproductive act and trying to make it into a non-reproductive act—something that anal provides naturally.

By having the ability to enjoy sex without any connection to reproductive, a lot of the baggage associated with that disappears, and women are able to enjoy it for what it is instead of fearing what it could be. There’s no longer a burden of birth control, or a stigma of promiscuity that stems from the fear of unwanted pregnancy.

Be empowered. Free yourself from the reproductive bonds of vaginal sex. Go anal only.

Do us a favor and try to do the splits. Go ahead, we’ll wait.

Can’t do it? Most people can’t without a lot of stretching and training first.

Turns out it’s the same for stretching your anus.

Like other muscles, your anal sphincter is only accustomed to stretching so far. If you want to loosen it up, it’s going to require some work.

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hi, my girlfriend seems open to the idea of anal sex and enjoys it when i finger her butt. but when i get my finger deeper (like after the second knuckle) she complains that it feels like she has to poop, which i guess is not a sensation she enjoys. is this common? any advice on what to do?

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Its mental cause she is a newby. Assure her that she doesnt have to, that if she did you wont freak out and just try to get her to relax. Combine however she likes her clit played with with the anal fingering. You need her to tie them together mentally. I dont want to use the term brainwash but when i first met my wife she had never liked anal now she cant cum without some sort of anal stimulation. Its all about building the pleasure association.

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