Category: Male Anal Only

The anal only lifestyle can be enjoyed by men and women both, in either role. As more men are discovering that they enjoy receiving anal pleasure, there are some who choose to go forward focusing only on that form of sexual activity and give up all use of their penis to be entirely anal only.


Message: Anal Only Beyond Cis-Women

slut_wannabe: How would you feel about expanding the AO movement to encompass those who are not cis-women?

I am a pansexual (technically) male who desires to be receptive anal only.

I believe that ALL people, whatever gender they are should primarily practice receptive anal sex, whether it is with penises, other body parts, or toys/tools. Oral sex is fine as well, but vaginal sex should best be limited to actual breeding attempts only.

This, I believe, would eliminate most sexual hangups, encourage a much broader exploration of sexuality and erotic pleasure, and be the basis of true sexual equality.

What do you think?

The anal only lifestyle is open and applicable to everyone who wishes to be a part of it, and many different people identify as anal only. Not everyone who does so is receptively anal only, but there certainly are people with all assortments of genitals who choose to forego them in favor of being anal only. There are plenty of others who are only interested in being anal only as the penetrator, however, and they serve just as important a role in the anal only lifestyle!

Message: Men Should Choose to be Anal Only Too

John: Hello, I’ve read some post where women choose to have only anal and never had vaginal sex. I think it’s good idea for straight male as well. I was interested in anal sex since my teens when I was a virgin. Later in college i met a girl, she was a virgin too. I didn’t want a relationship with her, so i wasn’t interested in taking her’s vaginal virginity, but wanted to have some casual sex. I convinced her into anal. This was my first sexual experience with other person. Later on I though maybe it’s quite good idea to have anal only. So every with girl I met since, I had either oral, manual or anal but never had “real sex”. I share this story because I truly think we can spread this culture across the world, and if not only women refuse to have vaginal but as well men, this cat get really viral. Many are thinking right now, it’s more complicated to find a partner for casual or serious relationship who would like to have such sexual life. Yes indeed, but you can always have oral or manual instead of vaginal till you date agrees to go anal.

I completely agree, the choice to be anal only and exclude vaginal sex completely benefits everyone, regardless of their gender. Anal is a more rewarding and appealing form of sex, and combining it with vaginal ultimately ends up degrading the purity of pleasure, intimacy, and reward that comes from anal (even if it can still be good).

It’s important not to think of vaginal as “real sex”, which results in thinking of anal as something lesser, which is far from the case. Instead, recognize that anal is just as real as any other form of sex, but vaginal is the least beneficial for everyone, and so is best kept as procreative sex only.

The choice to remain a vaginal virgin has grown in popularity in recent years, especially among women who prefer anal and the idea of staying anal only, but more men are showing that interest as well. If anal is what you want, and vaginal doesn’t interest you, it’s well worth the effort to go straight to pure anal only and never compromise for vaginal sex.

Message: Starting to Subside

Vince: So I thought I’d give an update it’s the 22nd and I haven’t touched my penis. The strong urge to touch has subsided I have almost zero urge to touch my penis. The only thing I have struggled with this month is there’s times I can’t get off from just anal and then I have to just give up for the night and try again the next day. It’s both frustrating and kinda arousing cuz then I get turned on and can’t wait for the next day hopefully soon I’ll have completely zero urge to touch myself.

Well done and congratulations. Keep going and it will just keep getting better for you the more you do!

Message: Anal Only April

Vince: So I’m trying to abstain from all types of masturbation until April and then starting April 1st I’m going to try and go all month anal only. So far since my last post I haven’t given in to the urge to touch my penis. Is it normal for it to get extremely hard to resist the urge to touch and then it starts to tapper off cuz it was easy for awhile and lately it’s been really hard to resist even tho I’m having anal orgasms. So wish me luck on no touching and making it thru April

Sounds like a good plan!

It can increase and decrease in difficulty depending on a lot of different factors, and just personal variation. Stick with it and you’ll get through the difficulty, and give yourself lots of anal orgasms to make up for it and remind yourself why they’re better.

If it really gets hard to resist, you can try using a chastity device during periods of extreme temptation.

Message: First Anal Only Orgasm

Vince: So I thought I would share that I bought a new buttplug and it hits exactly the spot I need. since I’ve gotten this toy I have came from just anal twice now. it’s really hot to cum with out touching my penis what so ever. now to just keep up with it and break the bad habit of touching my penis I don’t do it often but every once in awhile I get tempted to touch

Congratulations on the anal orgasms! Like you say, you just need to stick with it now, but with the ability to cum from anal in your grasp, it will become a lot easier to avoid any other forms of stimulation—whenever you feel the urge, just start working on an anal only orgasm instead and focus all your efforts on that. As you start cumming from anal more and more frequently it will become increasingly easier, and urges to have less appealing and pleasurable sorts of orgasms will fade in favor of pure anal.

Message: Is it Still Anal Only?

Vince: So I’m a guy and would you consider me anal only if I have to use my penis to get to the edge but use anal to get past the edge?

I would say that just as with women, there are multiple ways and variations to being anal only. Fundamentally, an anal only man would use anal penetration as his primary form of sexual activity and pleasure, and wouldn’t use his penis for penetration.

Beyond that, just as with a woman who may or may not use her clit for additional stimulation to orgasm, some men may orgasm directly from anal penetration, while others may need some penis stimulation to help reach orgasm.

The fact that you’re just using it to get to the point where you can use your ass to get over the edge to orgasm suggests that anal only orgasms are your long-term goal and that you’re working to minimize non-anal stimulation, so it sounds like you’re very much in the anal only mindset. Continuing to minimize the use of your penis and keeping it to the bare minimum to orgasm will help you use it even less over time, and maybe even get to the point where you don’t need it at all.

Message: How Anna Became AO

Jeremy and Anna: So she got into anal cuz she saw me playing with my toy and when she got comfortable she started using the toy on me and she would ask questions like doesn’t it hurt and what does it feel like for me and I would tell her.

One day I asked her do you want me to try it on you and she said sure so I took things slow just starting with a finger and we continued to mix some anal play into our mix and then about 3 months ago now I asked her if she would try an anal only month and I told her if it was to hard she didn’t have to keep doing it and through that month she tried clitoral denial and then after that month she went back to using her clit but has been anal only.

Now this month she is trying clitoral denial for my birthday present plus she has been wanting to try it lately so far she’s struggling but making it maybe you could give her some encouragement to stay on track and to keep her goal in mind thanks for your blog it’s great

That’s great that she was open-minded about not only doing anal play with you but also about going anal only herself.

If she needs clit stimulation in order to enjoy being anal only, then that’s a perfectly reasonable compromise, but since she wants to try eliminating clit stimulation as well, then I definitely encourage sticking with that goal and getting to where it’s entirely unnecessary for her. It can definitely be hard at first, if she’s been very used to using her clit to masturbate and orgasm up to this point, but keeping the goal of pure anal pleasure in mind and sticking with the routine of not using her clit for increasingly longer amounts of time will help it keep getting easier. You can continue to help her as well by encouraging and praising her and telling her how sexy you find it that she wants to give up her clit and be totally anal only.

If it’s hard to resist during masturbation/sex, you can use a topical anesthetic cream like Orajel applied in a small amount directly to the clit to temporarily numb sensation and eliminate the temptation to rub it. This only lasts an hour or two, but can be helpful if the urge is hard to resist at times.

For more information on the motivations behind clit denial as part of the anal only lifestyle and some ways that people use physical means to avoid clit stimulation, see our page on the Benefits of Avoiding Clitoral Stimulation During Anal Sex and The Use of Chastity Devices in the Anal Only Lifestyle.

Message: Straight but Still Love Anal

Evan: I asked my girlfriend to go completely anal only with no clit or pussy stimulation and she said she’d do it if I did it too so I said sure I like anal penetration anyways and she said she would go as long as I can go so any tips to keep way from touching my penis so she won’t touch her clit?

Sounds like a fun and interesting challenge to try together!

For one, you could always try to play together as much as possible so you can hold each other accountable and remind each other not to touch. Otherwise you can check in with each other daily and talk about it to help keep reinforcing it for the both of you.

A physical chastity device is probably your best bet if you have a hard time with the self control side of things. You can get cheap chastity cages on eBay for considerably less than the high-end ones available, though of course fitment and comfort may not be as good as with high end or custom ones.

Message: My Anal Story

Jeremy: So I have always had a interest in anal. I played with my ass from a pretty young age and learned how to orgasm from just anal. So I went back and forth playing with my ass and jerking off till I something violent happened to me sexually and after that I had erection problems and pills don’t help all that much so after a few years of trying to be able to jerk off and it not working I mostly went anal only and then I got with my current girlfriend and we decided that we would both be anal only and let me say we both have so much fun and if done properly anal can be extremely pleasurable btw thanks for making a section for male anal only

Though many people end up anal only simply because they love it, and would rather do anal than anything else, it’s also not that uncommon for a trauma or medical condition to prevent some other form of sex from being effective or enjoyable, and in those cases, going anal only can be a great way to continue to enjoy pleasure and intimacy with a partner while moving past those other forms of sex that no longer work for you.

I’m glad it was able to fill that role for you and that you’ve found a partner who you can be anal only together with as well, that’s great! How did you meet her and bring up the idea of being anal only together, and how did she take the idea at first?

Message: Penis/Clit Denial Increases Anal Pleasure for Everybody

Samy: Hello! Even though I’m a gay bottom, I’ve always loved your blogs. A few months ago, reading on clitoral denial again, I thought: “hey, why wouldn’t I try it myself?” So, I did exactly like you recommend here: I asked my partners not to pay any sort of attention to my penis any more, I stopped touching it altogether, I started playing with my ass more often, and whenever I felt the urge to masturbate my penis, I masturbated my ass instead.

And it works! Little by little, the urge for penis stimulation decreased, and the pleasure I’m getting from my ass went through the roof, both during sex and during solo play! My partners also noticed a HUGE improvement, they say my ass feels much better, more reactive to the fucking it gets, and they find me much more submissive and slutty and eager to please.

Now I regret not having done this way sooner. Even psychologically, I now perceive my ass as my only sexual organ. I really recommend anal sex and penile/clitoral denial to anybody who likes being penetrated, it’s a life changer! Thank you so much for your blogs!

It really is a life- and game-changer. The challenge is getting started and getting past old habits, but if you stick with it, excluding non-anal stimulation, whether it be penile or clitoral, really does make anal that much better, as you’ve discovered.

I’ve heard from a lot of different people over the years who have taken the same step and moved to pure 100% anal stimulation only, whether by simply stopping all non-anal stimulation, or through physical chastity or even more permanent options such as surgical removal of their clitoris, that all arousal shifts to their ass and their sexuality becomes completely centered around anal penetration rather than their genitals.

Just as there’s a huge difference between having anal sex regularly and excluding vaginal penetration to be anal only, there’s a similarly large difference between being anal only with clitoral or penis stimulation and being truly anal only, where anal penetration is the exclusive source of pleasure. It’s hard to understand without having tried it, but it significantly boosts arousal and unlocks new pleasures and anal desires and abilities you didn’t know were possible for yourself before.

If someone doesn’t feel ready to take this step or is happy with a combination of stimulation and doesn’t find that it interferes with their long-term pleasure or commitment to being anal only, that’s certainly fine, and you can absolutely be anal only without giving up penis or clit stimulation, but if you want to dive deeper into the anal only lifestyle and experience it even more fully, this is a great way to do it and I highly recommend it for everyone to at least try for a while.