Category: Anal Training

The use of anal play & masturbation techniques to further develop one’s anal abilities and prepare for anal sex. See also Anal Masturbation for posts specifically referring to the use of anal play & masturbation for fun and pleasure.

For more detailed information on anal training, see our Anal Training & Preparing for Anal Sex page.


Establishing a Daily Anal Routine

One of the best things that you can do to develop a firm foundation for yourself in the anal only lifestyle, or just to better enjoy anal, is to adopt a daily anal routine. If you’ve had any struggles with discomfort or pain from anal, one of the biggest causes can be going for days or weeks between anal play or sex.

By making the commitment to do daily anal in some form, not only are you making yourself more anal-centric as a result, you also start to immediately benefit from the increased anal activity. Your anal muscles remain more relaxed from frequent use, which makes anal easier as a result, and in turn lets you do it even more frequently. It’s a positive feedback loop that just makes anal consistently better and better.

More anal, not less anal, is what makes anal better and easier. Just like anything else, practice makes perfect.

Message: Best Way to Play and Orgasm From Anal?

Ana: I need some advice about the best way to achieve an anal orgasm. I already deny my pussy and clit. But still get really wet. I have a bullet vibrator and a tail plug.

I use some numbing liquids to avoid all clit stimulation.

I want to know if i can get a routine for anal exercise each day of the week, like while i’m on the gym, cleaning my house or driving

If you haven’t already read it, our Guide to Anal Orgasms might contain some useful tips and steps for you to try. It sounds like you’re on the right track, and just need to stick with it, but there might be something useful for you there!

Getting into a daily routine is an excellent idea. I recommend plugging daily for some period of time, and gradually increasing that amount over time. I also recommend a daily routine of more active anal training as well, with a dildo. Passive training with a plug is great and important, but it’s good to not neglect more active training too, as each do different things.

Reddit: I’ve been doing anal only for 3 years today

Hi, everyone. My name is Daiane, I’m 25 years old and today marks my Anal Only Lifestyle third anniversary. On October 6th, 2016, I decided to tell my boyfriend at the time I was going to stop having vaginal altogether and switch exclusively to anal sex. Some of the reasons that led me to this decision:

I am one of the unlucky ones who are severely allergic to birth control pills. Doesn’t matter what brand I take or how many doctors I talk to, I will always get severe side effects from taking the pill. They are so bad they would pretty much make me prefer not to have sex.

Men simply do not like using condoms, period. Neither my tinder hookups, neither boyfriends liked the rubber. I would give them extra thin ones I bought myself and they would still not have a good time wearing them.

Before switching to anal sex, I had had two close pregnancy calls and I don’t ever want to go through that again. The first time me and my boyfriend were a bit drunk having sex and only 24 hours after we had sex I noticed the condom had ruptured. The second time I really was irresponsible and didn’t care, but I eventually had my period and everything worked out.

I actually like anal sex. I like the pain that comes with it, I like the taboo, I like the domination aspect of anal sex and I like that my boyfriend likes it.

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Article: 6 Things To Know Before You Try Anal Sex

So you want to try anal sex. That’s great! Anal play can be lots of fun — if you’re ready for it. Unlike other types of sex, which most people can fumble their way through when they don’t have much experience, anal sex takes some research. (And, to be clear, it’s always better to think and talk through any new sexual experience before you try it with a partner).

But you can’t just slide into anal sex (unless you’re using plenty of lube…but more on that later). If you don’t know what you’re doing and you aren’t careful, you could hurt yourself or your partner because the anus is sensitive. “Contrary to what many believe, anal sex does not have to be painful (unless people engaging in it want it to be),” says Dulcinea Pitagora, a sex therapist known as the Kink Doctor. So before you give anal a try, read our tips about how to prep, both physically and mentally.

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Article: How To Derive Even More Pleasure From Anal Sex

Squirting is a popular porn category, but although it’s not as common IRL, squirting can and does happen — including during anal sex.

As you might already know, squirting, also called female ejaculation, is the name for what happens when fluid “squirts” out of the urethra during sex. This occurs when the Skene’s gland — a gland located inside the anterior wall of the vagina — is stimulated, explains sex and dating coach Myisha Battle. This stimulation makes the Skene’s gland fill with fluid, which is then expressed through the urethra.

“Historically, we thought about stimulation of the G spot contributing to more intense orgasms and the potential for female ejaculation,” Battle explains, but “in the sexological world, we would probably lead more towards calling it the S-spot, because the Skene’s gland is something that, when stimulated, fills with fluid.” Whatever you call it — the G-spot, the S-spot, or the Skene’s gland — you’re going to want to stimulate it through “penetration of some kind, either manually, with a penis or with a toy,” Battle explains. Ideally, she adds, with a “toy that’s curved.”

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Article: Anal Sex’s 45-Degree Rule Is The Key To Enjoyable Backdoor Play

Have you ever heard of the “45-degree rule” for anal sex? Well, not many people have. It’s certainly not given the attention it deserves. You can read dozens of articles on the best ways to enjoy anal sex and never hear the rule mentioned. Meanwhile, it’s essentially the key to enjoyable anal play for both men and women… well, besides lube. Always use lots and lots of lube during anal.

The 45-degree rule refers to the angle in which you are tilting a butt plug, anal beads, a dildo, or a penis inside the anus. It’s not this straightforward “stick it in your butt and go” kind of thing.

Like with all things in sex: It’s a bit more complex than that. If you want to take your butt play to the next level, unlocking erogenous zones you may not even know you had, start using the 45-degree rule ASAP.

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Article: Your Complete Guide To Butt Plugs — One Of The Best Sex Toys Ever Invented

So what makes a butt plug different than a dildo or vibrator? While there are many toys designed for anal use, a butt plug tends to have a couple distinguishing characteristics.

A plug is designed to go in and stay in for the duration of its use. While, theoretically, you could absolutely maneuver a plug in and out if you wanted to, folks tend to use dildos for the “in-and-out” sensation. That’s because plugs have a tapered shape that begins small at the top, becomes large in the middle, and tapers back down to a slim diameter at the neck of the toy right before the flared base at the bottom. The thin neck allows for the sphincter to close a bit more so that the plug can be retained inside the body and worn comfortably.

Unlike other anal toys, plugs can easily be worn over longer periods of time. Many people enjoy wearing them for the duration of their playtime, and some folks enjoy going out with a butt plug inserted all night. You can also opt to wear a plug for just a few moments.

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Article: If You’re Not Ready For Anal Sex, Try Anal Fingering

Have you ever heard of anal fingering? It’s exactly what it sounds like — putting a finger (or several) into someone’s anus. And if you’re considering anal sex, anal fingering could be a logical first step. Even if you don’t want to move on to using a penis or dildo for anal, fingering can be erotic for anyone involved. Everyone’s anus has lots of nerve endings around the opening and inside that can feel good when they’re played with. But there are some ground rules you need to learn before you give it a try.

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Article: I prefer to have anal sex to vaginal sex

A reader writes in to an advice column with a question about preferring anal sex:

I DON’T know what is wrong with me. I prefer to have anal sex to vaginal sex. My husband has started complaining that the quality of sex we have has gone down because of that. How can I make things better? — Worried.

This is a fairly common scenario, despite people often not realizing it or thinking there’s something wrong with them for preferring anal. The advice columnist responds:

While enjoying anal is evidently your preference and choice I would advise you to also consider your husband’s needs. He likes vaginal sex, you like anal sex — mix up the two. One round you can have anal the next vaginal or vice versa but just make sure you wash your sex organs before you engage in another type of penetration. It may be vaginal sex is never going to be your thing again. But if there are underlying reasons for avoiding it, exploring and addressing those is sensible, regardless of whether you want to ever have vaginal sex again.

You and your partner clearly need to work out together what feels nice for you, and you are certainly not unique in experiencing a sexual disconnection but it is important to find common ground before it’s too late. Talking to your man is also important as you have mentioned they are OK with anal because you like it, but he might prefer vaginal penetration. Being certain your partner is genuinely fine with anal sex is important, just to be sure they are not going along with it — like you do with vaginal sex.

Advising her to suffer through vaginal sex for his behalf isn’t the best solution. I would instead suggest that she communicate with her husband and see why he thinks sex isn’t as good with her preferring anal, and figure out how to address those concerns while sticking with anal.

While it is possible that he likes vaginal more, that’s a relatively uncommon position to hold once you’ve experienced good anal, so it’s possible that there are just things interfering with anal being as good as it could be for him. Often when discussing the difference, men will agree that it does feel better but complain that it might take more time to prepare for it, make it more difficult to have spontaneous sex, and require that they go slower. All these things can be done with more proactive preparation and training and an increase in the frequency of anal sex. It truly is a scenario where more is better.

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Message: Luring a BDSM Newbie Into AO, Part 2

Anonymous: Thanks for the answer! Just to make it clear I didn’t mean “lure” as in “trick”, it was more like “convincing in a challenging an exciting way” and making her feel “part of something” (she already know about my other subs and is okay with that, it’s a whole new world for her and she’s the one who came to me proposing to give anything a try). My fault for not having English as a mother tongue!

Fair enough. So long as she’s consenting and open to and eager about the process and everything involved, then that’s great.

I think focusing primarily on anal is a great idea, and only doing vaginal on rare occasions if she is particularly desperate for it, and reducing the frequency of vaginal over time. Ultimately it all comes down to how she does with just anal and whether she really needs vaginal or does just fine with clit stimulation + anal, etc. If she doesn’t actually need vaginal penetration and enjoys frequent anal, there may not be much reason to continue with vaginal at all.

Everyone is different, so there isn’t any universal answer that works best for everyone. Find something that works for the two of you and work from there.