Anonymous: It really frustrates me when people talk shit about anal without knowing the truth. I hear guys and girls both saying bad things about it, saying it’s bad for you, will make you have to wear diapers, hurts or is degrading to girls, liking it means you’re gay, etc etc. I bet almost none of them have even tried it! I’m anal only because my boyfriend and me love anal and don’t want to do vaginal, it doesn’t hurt and it’s not degrading, it’s just what we love! But if I say that, they’ll mock me.
Don’t worry about what people say out of ignorance. You know that you’re right, because you’re actually experienced anal and know that it’s not just great, it’s better than vaginal. That’s the reality. Like you said, they probably haven’t even done it or have only tried it once or twice with someone who didn’t know what they were doing. People who don’t know what they’re talking about with a sexual subject will often make fun of it or spread misinformation to try and fit in with the other people who are similarly ignorant.
That said, I think it’s a great opportunity to speak out and share the reality of anal with them. Just tell them that actually, you really like anal and do it all the time, and it’s not bad, it doesn’t hurt, it’s not degrading, etc. Share your experiences and your perspective and tell them how it’s your favorite way to have sex. More often than not, you’ll get some of them interested, even the ones who mock it the most, and they might want to learn more and try it for themselves. If they do, help them discover just why anal is so much better. You have an opportunity to make a real difference with them.