Anonymous: I’m a dominant heteroflexible cis woman. I love anal and am intrigued by the benefits of anal only and clit denial described in your blog. I see space for me to partake in this with my sexual preferences and proclivities. I’m hoping you can offer suggestions or advice on switching over to AO? I have never cum without my clit before and only recently have been able to without a vibrator. I’ve read your guides as well, very helpful!

Thank you!

I don’t see any reason why not! There’s nothing inherently dominant or submissive about anal sex or about being anal only, it can be what we make of it and how we fit it into our existing sexuality. As someone who already loves anal, surely you would agree that it’s something you can enjoy as a dominant woman. Being anal only is just about focusing on that thing you already love and making it your priority with the exclusion of other, lesser forms of stimulation. It’s an opportunity to explore anal pleasure and learn to pursue greater forms of orgasm and learn how to do so by other means than what you’re already familiar with, taking you out of your comfort zone in order to grow.

I would generally suggest switching to anal penetration only first, without abruptly eliminating clitoral stimulation. Some people try it all at once together with positive results, but if clit stimulation is a strong habit and need for you, it may make it more challenging and unsustainable to do it all at once. So perhaps starting by only orgasming and using your clit when having anal sex, masturbating anally or wearing a butt plug, and eliminate vaginal penetration from your sexual routine in favor of anal penetration only.

Then, after a few months, if you find you’ve adjusted well to being anal only in that regard, start exploring the process of gradually reducing clitoral stimulation in favor of exploring anal pleasure on its own. There are a variety of ways to do this, from completely stopping and seeing how long you can go without it, to reducing clitoral stimulation to a twice a week activity for a week or two, then going to once a week, twice a month, once a month, etc., gradually building up the amount of time you can go without it and letting your arousal build in between in order to help with achieving pure anal only orgasms.

Good luck, and you’ve certainly got my encouragement to go anal only! It’s definitely something that anyone can enjoy and benefit from in the right circumstances, and if it’s something that interests you, you should definitely try it! If you have any other questions, don’t hesitate to ask.

As we enter February, Valentine’s Day is only two weeks away. If you and your partner love anal sex and your partner would consider or is eager to try going anal only, this is a great opportunity for a gift of pure anal pleasure and exploring the anal only lifestyle together.

Start thinking about it and making plans, and on February 14, surprise them with the gift of anal only! It’s common to start with a month long challenge and if that goes well, keep trying for even more from there.

Anal gets me very lustful, and hiding it makes me feel even hotter. I only talk about them online.

I like the idea of being the receiver of free-use anal. Available to anyone who just walks up and wants some, no refusal. Men approach me, play with my tits then take me somewhere private. No prepping, I just pull my skirt up and feel my asshole stretch and grip around an eager cock. All that moaning and noise just attracts more men to the scene, who then want some fun themselves.

I have to imagine being at the center of a hard, raw anal gangbang to get off. Something is just very primal about it. Feeling all those hungry eyes on me as I am displayed in high heels, then all those hands, mouths, and cocks “taking care of” me. Being the center of all that action really strokes the ego. Also, being surrounded by multiple guys would make me feel safe as well, like they’re all doting on me and for my pleasure, and of course I love pleasing multiple guys in return. I like it “hard” as in high energy and a lot of action, not slapping and namecalling (no BDSM please…). Get airtight and have all my holes filled up with cum. Swallow, ass to mouth. Be very receptive and uninhibited.

For something more animalistic, I am fisted anally by a man with many other men watching, then once the hand is pulled out and leaves a gape, everyone can take turns having fun with it.

Sorry if these are a bit gross, I cant even say these to a lover with a straight face. I think we all have something like that though?

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I’ve had buttplugs in for hours, playing with it and pulling it in and out to edge myself. My asshole would loosen up, accepting bigger and bigger objects more easily. I want to be able to take dick for hours, preferably with a lot of hard thrusting on top of that. I’ve heard of girls receiving it anally for hours during gangbangs, and I find it really hot and want to work up to it myself.

How long were you able to go in one session, and how did you work up to that level?

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Anonymous: Thank you to the people who shared their own stories of anal only on this blog, I was inspired to try it myself because of seeing these people and how many different experiences they had, mostly good!

I have gone anal only with my husband for one year since the start of this year and we love how close it has brought us since we stopped the vaginal sex. I had to use the birth control pill before and it affected me badly, so with this we are able to stop that and enjoy sex naturally but without getting pregnant. I think this is the best.

Please, post more stories of other people who are anal only, it is my favourite thing to read and learn from and to see that there are many others doing the same as us.

Thank you for sharing, it sounds like anal only has been a wonderful thing for you! Readers of this blog regularly say that other people’s AO experiences are what they most enjoy reading, so you’re not alone there!

However, it depends on each of you reading this to share your own stories and perspectives—even if you aren’t anal only currently, let us know what appeals to you about the lifestyle, what your goals are, what you’d like to do, your past experiences with anal and AO, and whatever you like. We’re always happy to share, offer advice and suggestions, and even debate. Send us a message here.

little backstory: I’m happily married to my husband, who’s way more into anal than I am (unfortunately).

We both sort of fetishized anal since we started dating, and I gave it a few tries back then. I quickly found out that I liked the idea of anal more than anal itself, which was basically : that it hurt a bit, that it was uncomfortable, and that my husband loved it. (I know it might sound messed up to some, but I guess it’s a kink).
But I really enjoyed it back then, in those terms, and was able to orgasm sometimes (through clitoral stimulation only tho)

We slowly started opening up about our fantasies, then we got married and really started acting on them.
One of mine envolved fisting, I was really curious but my husband was afraid I’d get too loose (not that he refused to do it, we just share everything that’s on our minds basically) he also knew I didn’t quite enjoy anal but I’d do it anyway, because he loved it (and the idea of it turned me on, I guess).

I might’ve gone a “little” overboard with the fisting thing, because he eventually started to notice (and me too tbh) I was a bit (quite) loose after a year or so. But I didn’t want to give up on it, so we both agreed on doing more anal to compensate for the lack of tightness he complained about . Then it became doing anal almost everytime we had sex, or a fisting session.

^This really started to aggravate me. We had sex very often back then and I wasn’t able to keep up with all the times I had to do some preparation beforehand. This led to some accidents that embarrassed the shit out of me (LOL). It got to a point that I gave up on fisting and sex in general just so we wouldn’t do anal anymore. But I noticed my husband really missed it, so I ended up trying again. Anyway it took a toll on our sex lives.

Then, (5 years ago) I had a child (long story, surrogacy), and I don’t know if the fisting or the delivery but my vagina never really snapped back to normal. It got to a point that he claimed he had almost no feeling, basically he was doing PIV just to please me. We talked it out cause I didn’t want to seem selfish (I already was my sister’s surrogate against his will, I convinced him into trying fisting, I had that “abstinence” moment, I mean…) And that’s when he suggested we’d go AO.

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greetings!! my girlfriend and i talked a lot about it and she agreed to just accept anal sex in our relationships, we are together for 4 months and we don’t miss vaginal sex

Well, for now I don’t have much to talk about, I don’t like to use condoms and we don’t want to have children for now, I explained to her this desire that I have and she gladly accepted, I can say it’s the best sex there is

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Anonymous: My bf got me into anal only last year and I like it but struggle with some things. It’s still harder for me to get to orgasm from anal but he doesn’t want me to keep using my clit anymore. I haven’t used it so far this year, because he wanted me to try 2020 without my pussy at all, but it’s hard to not cum every time. Do you have any advice? Is there anything I can do to cum from anal more often?

Congratulations on being anal only and starting out the year with a new challenge to commit even more fully to the anal only lifestyle!

It’s a good sign that you’re able to orgasm from anal at least some of the time! That suggests that by focusing purely on anal pleasure and excluding clitoral stimulation from your routine, you’ll start orgasming more easily from anal in time. Pay attention to what sort of positions and speeds you’re in when you orgasm more frequently and try to replicate that towards the end of an anal session in order to make it more likely that you will orgasm regularly from anal.

In the long term, moving past clitoral stimulation to pure anal will pay off immensely and there are many benefits to doing so, which you can read about in our Guide to Clitoral Denial. I wish you the best of luck!

A commonly held belief about anal sex is that you always need artificial lubrication because the anus does not self-lubricate like the vagina does. While additional lubrication is certainly necessary for many people, especially when starting out, the idea that there’s no natural lubrication in the anus and rectum is in fact not correct—for some people more than others.

Everyone has some level of natural lubrication that aids with the digestive process, called “anal mucous”. This substance is produced and secreted by the rectal and colon walls to provide protection and lubrication to the natural digestive process. On its own, it does not provide enough lubrication for the much more active motions of anal sex for most people.

However, some people find that, once they become more experienced with anal sex, their natural anal mucous combined with a little bit of saliva or other lubricant at the start, provides enough lubrication for anal sex, and they don’t need anything else.

Additionally, there are some people, though it seems to be a fairly small percentage, who produce natural anal lubricant in higher quantities and find that they don’t need any other lube at all for anal sex. Anecdotally, some claim that this product is even tied to their arousal, similar to vaginal lubrication. This phenomenon doesn’t appear to have been studied anywhere, and may have other explanations, but practically speaking, people who experience such a phenomenon can easily enjoy anal sex without any additional lubricant.

Do you or anyone you know enjoy the benefits of natural anal lubrication? Leave a comment or send us a message!

Last night my husband brought home a little surprise for my cunt, as a gift for happily agreeing to his new proposal to leave it in our past. Many of you probably know about plenty of numbing creams and gels, but he chose liquid anbesol. He took a q-tip and dipped it in the bottle, then dabbed it all over my clit and blew on it for a few seconds. Then he told me to start massaging my clit. It was so strange to be completely unable to feel it at all! I kept looking between my legs, watching my worthless pussy giving me not even a hint of pleasure. After a few minutes watching me unable to even get myself wet, he spit on it and I still couldn’t feel a thing. Then he put his thumb on my asshole and started to ease it inside, and the difference of being able to actually feel it took away any desire to keep playing with myself. I moved my hands to hold behind my knees and let him work on me with his fingers awhile. Lifting my legs and watching him enter me, I let myself feel the pain I usually try to ignore, the stretching, the fullness. As he eased out and back in a few more times, I was so turned on looking at my unused cunt finally starting to get wet. He looked surprised when I tucked my knees behind my shoulders and spread myself open so he could get deeper. He was still gentle with me but pushed as deep as he could and rocked my hips while never breaking eye contact. He took my hand and pushed hard on my stomach to feel him moving in and out of me. It was so close and romantic.

By the time he was ready to finish I was actually starting to feel about as much pleasure as I was pain. I was nowhere near orgasm and might never get there, but I’m really looking forward to him coming home tonight to try again and I’m newly invigorated to ignore the random excitement I get between my legs.

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