Message: Can Dominant Women be Anal Only?
Anonymous: I’m a dominant heteroflexible cis woman. I love anal and am intrigued by the benefits of anal only and clit denial described in your blog. I see space for me to partake in this with my sexual preferences and proclivities. I’m hoping you can offer suggestions or advice on switching over to AO? I have never cum without my clit before and only recently have been able to without a vibrator. I’ve read your guides as well, very helpful!
I don’t see any reason why not! There’s nothing inherently dominant or submissive about anal sex or about being anal only, it can be what we make of it and how we fit it into our existing sexuality. As someone who already loves anal, surely you would agree that it’s something you can enjoy as a dominant woman. Being anal only is just about focusing on that thing you already love and making it your priority with the exclusion of other, lesser forms of stimulation. It’s an opportunity to explore anal pleasure and learn to pursue greater forms of orgasm and learn how to do so by other means than what you’re already familiar with, taking you out of your comfort zone in order to grow.
I would generally suggest switching to anal penetration only first, without abruptly eliminating clitoral stimulation. Some people try it all at once together with positive results, but if clit stimulation is a strong habit and need for you, it may make it more challenging and unsustainable to do it all at once. So perhaps starting by only orgasming and using your clit when having anal sex, masturbating anally or wearing a butt plug, and eliminate vaginal penetration from your sexual routine in favor of anal penetration only.
Then, after a few months, if you find you’ve adjusted well to being anal only in that regard, start exploring the process of gradually reducing clitoral stimulation in favor of exploring anal pleasure on its own. There are a variety of ways to do this, from completely stopping and seeing how long you can go without it, to reducing clitoral stimulation to a twice a week activity for a week or two, then going to once a week, twice a month, once a month, etc., gradually building up the amount of time you can go without it and letting your arousal build in between in order to help with achieving pure anal only orgasms.
Good luck, and you’ve certainly got my encouragement to go anal only! It’s definitely something that anyone can enjoy and benefit from in the right circumstances, and if it’s something that interests you, you should definitely try it! If you have any other questions, don’t hesitate to ask.
A dominant woman who loves anal becomes a power bottom.
I think a lot of dominant women who are into anal sex not only appreciate how extremely pleasurable anal is but also have a unique perspective on their interest. Buggery has historically gone on in the military between rough dominant men. A dominant woman who loves anal demonstrates that she is the kind of strong tough woman who can handle (and even prefer) a stiff cock in the ass just as competently or more so than a man. Such a woman has freed herself from the idea that women have sex for procreation and sees it being for pleasure (as men do) by reorienting her ass as the primary sex organ.
An anal dominant woman could also be very practical. Such women could know that their partner’s needs and their needs are met far more efficiently through anal sex so she doesn’t waste time pussying around. Such a woman also teaches her partner(s) that she is not some prissy piece of fine china that needs gentle vaginal sex but a hard hot woman who likes the best kind of sex just like most men.