Anonymous: I’ve been lurking here for a while and finally decided to jump in because this place gave me the courage to speak up and maybe get some real advice.

I’m almost 30, pretty sexually experienced and adventurous. I’m currently in a relationship — stable, grown-up, and organized, just like I wanted. Before this, I was all over the place: multiple boyfriends, threesomes, and somewhere along the way, I discovered my absolute passion for anal sex. It’s become my biggest turn-on.

Now, here’s the thing. My boyfriend is super wealthy and spoils me in every way except in bed. He’s mostly into oral and vaginal, and no matter how much I try, he’s just not into anal. I’ve even tried to get him to experiment with it, but no luck. Meanwhile, I find myself masturbating to anal-heavy porn, recently even mostly double anal scenes — those drive me wild. I even catch myself daydreaming about being in those scenes, completely taken and stretched, and it’s honestly the hottest thing I can imagine. What’s wrong with me?

I’m seriously craving an anal-only sex life, but how do you convince him to open up to that? I’ve tried everything I can think of, but he’s just not there. And forget about double anal or group stuff — I don’t even know how to bring that up without killing the mood or freaking him out. Am I crazy for wanting this so badly? Should I just accept a stable but kind of boring sex life? Or… is it okay to explore this behind his back if he won’t meet me halfway? How do you balance wanting wild, kinky sex with wanting a steady relationship? Has anyone been stuck in this spot and figured out a way to have both? Or should I just end the relationship and look for what truly makes me happy?

I’m really torn and could use some honest advice.

Thank you for being so open. What you’re feeling isn’t “wrong” — it’s deeply human. It’s okay to crave more than what you’re currently getting, especially when you’ve discovered a part of your sexuality that brings you such intense, personal pleasure. Anal, and particularly anal only, can be deeply affirming, and wanting to share that with your partner isn’t selfish — it’s a desire for intimacy, connection, and mutual expression.

At the same time, your partner’s disinterest isn’t a personal failure either. People have limits and preferences, and while those can sometimes shift, they don’t always. The tough part is realizing that compatibility in a relationship isn’t just emotional or practical — it’s sexual too. And when there’s a deep mismatch, especially on something you’re passionate about, it can create a quiet ache over time, even if everything else seems stable.

You’re not crazy for wanting double anal or group sex, or even for fantasizing about it. You’re not broken. You’re a sexual person with vivid and evolving desires — that’s normal. But no matter how strong the craving, going behind your partner’s back isn’t the right move. It might offer a thrill, but at the cost of trust and long-term peace of mind. That doesn’t mean you’re trapped either. It just means the choice you make should come from clarity, not desperation.

If you haven’t already, try having an open, pressure-free conversation with your boyfriend. Not just about anal, but about what arousal means for you now — how it’s become core to your sense of self. He may not be willing to join you fully, but if he loves you, he’ll listen.

If he still can’t or won’t meet you partway — even just with a toy in a low-pressure setting — then you have to ask yourself: Is staying with him more important than living as your full sexual self? That’s not a decision anyone else can make for you.

Anal sex has undergone a profound cultural transformation over the past fifty years. What began as a whispered taboo — something framed as dirty, degrading, or niche — has steadily become a central part of modern sexual identity and representation. From porn studios to pop music, memes to mainstream dating discourse, anal has not just entered the conversation, it’s taken it over.

Below is a deep dive into how anal sex became integrated into pop culture and why its rise signals something even larger: the decline of vaginal sex as the default and the inevitable rise of the anal only world.

1970s–1990s: Taboo, Transgression, and Silence

In the 1970s and 80s, anal sex was considered perverse even in porn. Golden age films avoided it entirely. When anal did appear in fringe films or hardcore imports, it was often framed through dominance, pain, and degradation. Scenes focused on girls saying no, flinching, and being pushed past their limits.

In these early portrayals, anal wasn’t about pleasure. It was about control. Women were shown enduring it rather than enjoying it. The message was clear: anal was something men did to women, not something women wanted or enjoyed.

Even into the 1990s, anal remained a “special event” in porn. A performer’s first anal scene was treated as a shocking milestone. Titles emphasized pain or transgression: Painful Pleasures, Anal Perversions. The anus was still Othered — never the focus, never the norm.

Outside of porn, anal was virtually absent from the public conversation. It didn’t appear in mainstream sex education, wasn’t featured in romantic comedies or dramas, and was still coded as “dirty” or deviant. Anal sex was culturally associated with homosexuality, and even in progressive circles, it was rarely discussed openly. Comedians avoided the topic, and if referenced, it was a punchline, not a real option.

2000s: Visibility and Curiosity, But Not Yet Acceptance

In the early 2000s, the rise of the internet allowed viewers to search for exactly what they wanted. Anal categories began climbing in popularity on emerging tube sites. Yet despite growing interest, there were almost no true anal only scenes. Most porn still revolved around vaginal sex, with anal tagged on at the end or mixed in.

Performers who specialized in anal (Belladonna, Sasha Grey, Rocco Siffredi) were seen as extreme. Even popular anal scenes still emphasized domination, mess, and roughness. Viewers watched it, but the framing hadn’t changed: anal was still a performance, not a preference.

In mainstream pop culture, anal began surfacing — slowly. TV shows like Sex and the City (1998–2004) featured hesitant, awkward anal plotlines, often framed as something embarrassing or reluctantly agreed to.

Early 2000s music was still conservative on the topic, but hip hop and underground comedy began to reference “backdoor” sex. American Pie and Road Trip leaned into anal as a gross-out joke. It was visible now — but only barely, and always framed as discomfort, not desire.

2010s: Normalization Through Porn, Music, and Memes

The 2010s saw a dramatic tone shift. Performers began speaking more openly about their real sexual preferences, and for many, anal was at the top of the list. In interviews, on social media, and in cam content, women described anal not as painful but as more intense, more pleasurable, and more fulfilling than vaginal.

Examples:

• Anya Olsen, in a pre-scene interview: “Girls, if you’re watching, try anal! Please! It’s amazing. I cum so easily from anal. It’s like the most intense orgasm ever.”
• Adriana Chechik, on the Pornhub podcast: “Honestly, I cum better from anal. I’m mostly anal only with my boyfriend.”
• Charlotte Sartre, via Twitter: “Why fuck the pussy when there is a perfectly good asshole right there.”
• Lexi Grey, via Twitter: “It’s been a month since a dick has been in my pussy. I’m officially anal only.”

Studios like Tushy and LegalPorno responded by centering anal in almost every scene. No longer just an add-on, it became the entire purpose. For many newer European studios, anal became the default. Most scenes skipped vaginal altogether.

The framing changed too: no more grimaces or tears. Instead, genuine anal orgasms, ass-focused worship, and proud presentation. Women were not just enduring it, they were choosing it.

Outside porn, the pop shift exploded.

• Music: Lyrics about anal and eating ass went mainstream. Kevin Gates’s 2014 declaration, “I eat ass,” went viral and helped popularize the phrase across social media. By 2016, ass eating was a meme genre unto itself.
• TV & Streaming: Broad City featured a full anal sex scene played for humor and honesty. Girls and Euphoria integrated anal into character relationships without shame or scandal.
• Social Media: Tumblr, Twitter, and later TikTok normalized plug wear, anal masturbation, and anal cravings. Anal wasn’t edgy content — it was standard sexual content.
• Dating Culture: “Anal only” preferences began appearing in bios, with women proudly listing plug use, anal training, and anal only expectations.

🔹 2020s: Anal Only as the New Cultural Center

By the 2020s, double anal (DAP) had become a new standard in porn. Once treated as extreme, it’s now common across major platforms. AnalVids features multiple anal only scenes, often focusing on DAP and TAP, almost daily. Women train for it. Fans expect it. And increasingly, DAP is treated as the new default.

Anal only stars, still typically only those making independent content, are celebrated for never having vaginal sex at all. Their commitment is admired, and their scenes set a new bar for purity of focus.

Meanwhile, vaginal sex is quietly vanishing. In most European anal scenes, it’s not just avoided — it’s structurally removed. The anus is the only point of penetration. Viewers no longer expect a pussy shot. They expect camera focus on the ass — stretched, filled, opened.

Pop culture reflects the shift:

• Ass-eating is considered more intimate than oral sex on a vagina.
• Women post openly about plug training, “needing to be filled,” and being permanently stretched.

The Future: Denormalizing Vaginal Sex

This is no longer just about acceptance. It’s about replacement. Anal is:

• More orgasmic for many women
• More intimate
• Feels better, is tighter, takes more discipline

Vaginal sex, by contrast, is increasingly obsolete: associated with reproduction, tedium, and compromise. It lacks focus. It doesn’t serve the body or the relationship the same way.

Culture has already normalized anal. What comes next is simple: the denormalization of vaginal sex.

Not long ago, anal sex was considered taboo — something whispered about, joked about, or relegated to the most “extreme” corners of porn. For decades, it was painted as deviant, dirty, or something reserved for late-night experimentation. But culture has shifted — not just quietly, but dramatically. And the truth is simple: anal isn’t fringe anymore. It’s becoming the norm.

We’re watching in real time as society reorients itself around anal pleasure — and not just as a kink or an alternative, but as the main event. The next step is clear: it’s time to stop treating vaginal sex as standard and finally recognize anal sex as the superior, default path for pleasure, fulfillment, and connection.

Anal Is No Longer a Taboo — It’s the Preference

Today, anal is everywhere. It’s no longer hidden or taboo. Mainstream porn sites consistently show “anal” as one of the most searched and watched categories — often dominating over vaginal, lesbian (unless anal lesbians!), or oral categories entirely. For many viewers, anal scenes are not a niche preference — they’re the default. Performers who specialize in anal are elevated, desired, and followed. Even if a scene contains vaginal, it’s seen as warmup for anal, which is the main event. Porn stars who focus on vaginal-only content are increasingly seen as irrelevant. Even among women, “anal” ranks as a top fantasy and search term. This is not a coincidence — it’s a shift in what arouses, what satisfies, and what defines real sex.

And it isn’t just porn. Everyday couples are embracing anal as a central part of their sexual lives. What used to be a rare request is now openly discussed. More and more women are not just allowing anal — they’re craving it, requesting it, and taking pride in it.

Eating Ass Is Becoming More Normal Than Eating Pussy

If you needed more proof, look at oral culture. A decade ago, the idea of “eating ass” was still a punchline. Now? It’s a basic expectation. Songs, jokes, TikToks — eating ass is openly celebrated, often more commonly and confidently than eating pussy. The stigma is gone. It’s normal, it’s hot, and it’s what people want.

The popularity of rimming doesn’t exist in a vacuum. It reflects a broader reorientation of sexual focus — one that privileges the ass over the vagina. The anus isn’t just an accepted site of pleasure. It’s becoming the primary one.

Double Anal: Not an Exception — a Goal

Double anal penetration was once reserved for the most “extreme” corners of porn. Now, it’s everywhere. Major studios center it. Viewers expect it. And more women are choosing it — not as a challenge, but as a preference. It’s not shocking anymore. It’s celebrated. In many cases, a performer’s first DAP scene is framed as a milestone achievement — a sign of full submission, full evolution, full readiness.

As the physical, emotional, and symbolic depth of double anal becomes more understood, it’s clear that DAP isn’t just an act — it’s a statement. And for more women, it’s a standard. One hole, fully claimed, fully stretched, fully filled. That’s not fringe anymore. That’s focus.

Vaginal Sex Is the Outdated Standard

So what’s left? One thing: the vagina. Still clinging to its cultural position as the default. Still seen as the starting point for every relationship. Still handed over as a sign of affection, availability, or expectation.

But let’s be honest — vaginal sex is outdated. It’s built around reproduction, not pleasure. It’s boring, hormonally volatile, less intense, and frequently dependent on clitoral stimulation to even function. It lacks the depth, intimacy, and discipline that anal demands — and it keeps too many people stuck in a model of sex that doesn’t actually work for them.

Most people don’t need their vagina touched to feel loved. They need their ass opened to feel taken.

The Next Step: Denormalizing Vaginal Sex Entirely

We’ve already shifted the conversation. Anal is no longer taboo. It’s desirable. Preferred. Dominant. Now we must take the final step: removing the vagina from the equation entirely.

That means:

• Ending the idea that vaginal sex is expected in a relationship
• Rejecting porn that centers or even includes vaginal penetration
• Encouraging couples — especially women — to retire vaginal sex permanently
• Celebrating anal only as the default, not the deviation
• Supporting women in choosing to stay vaginal virgins

Anal only is not just an identity. It’s the future of sexual culture. One that centers intensity, intention, trust, and real satisfaction — not legacy acts based on reproduction. The shift has already begun. Porn reflects it. Relationships increasingly reflect it. Language reflects it. All that’s left is to let go of the outdated standards that no longer serve us and step fully into the lifestyle that does.

Anal isn’t taboo anymore. Vaginal is. And that’s how it should be.

Anonymous: My girlfriend is incredibly skilled and passionate about anal fisting and double anal — I’m so proud of her and love bragging about her talents to trusted circles. I fantasize about her showing off those skills in some good, hard gangbangs or intense group sessions, really owning her sexuality.

She was raised Christian and, while she’s not deeply religious anymore, the idea of actually engaging in group sex still feels like a heavy conflict for her. This creates tension between my desire to see her fully express herself and her lingering reservations.

Am I okay wanting her to move on to real-life double anal experiences with others, even if it challenges her comfort zone?

It’s completely okay for you to want that. Fantasizing about your partner being fully used, admired, and celebrated for her abilities—especially when she’s as talented and passionate about anal fisting and DAP as you describe—is a natural extension of your pride, arousal, and deep admiration for her. There’s nothing wrong with craving that next level of intensity, or even feeling like it would unlock something deeper in both of you. That’s part of the anal only mindset: wanting to go further, stretch wider, and be even more fully shared.

At the same time, her background and concerns matter too. Even if she no longer holds strict religious beliefs, years of internalized messages don’t just disappear. Group sex, especially in the context of showcasing her body and talents, can feel like a direct challenge to everything she was taught to suppress or avoid. That doesn’t mean she’ll never move in that direction, but it does mean she may need time, space, and the right framing to get there.

Instead of pushing her toward a decision, consider framing it as a shared evolution. Not “I want you to do this,” but “I love how you’ve embraced anal and DAP, and I can’t stop imagining how powerful it would be to see you fully celebrated in that way. Not because I need it to happen, but because it excites me to think of you being admired and filled and stretched for others the way I already admire and desire you.” Let her feel how much this comes from love and erotic awe, not pressure.

So yes, wanting it is okay. Even if it never happens exactly the way you imagine, the fact that you’re proud of her, aroused by her skills, and eager to see her reach her full potential in this lifestyle is beautiful. I hope that you’re able to enjoy DAP together with other partners, and maybe even go double anal only if you aren’t already!

2InA: My girlfriend and I haven’t ever had vaginal sex, we started with anal when we got together and just went with it. We got into anal porn together early on, especially double anal. She started talking during sex about how good it would feel to be stretched by two cocks. She’d say things like “I wish there was another cock my ass right now too”. We started experimenting with toys: me pushing a dildo into her ass while fucking her, moving both together or alternating. The more we did it, the more it became part of our regular sex life.

About six months ago, we invited our roommate to join us for double anal. He’s someone we’re good friends with, trust, and who also loves anal and DAP from our conversations and when he’s seen us watching porn on occasion. It was supposed to be a one-time experience at first, but it felt so good. Since then, he’s been joining us for double anal a couple times a week. My girlfriend has taken to it in a way I didn’t expect, while it feels great for me, she goes wild with it and cums harder than she ever has before. Both our cocks in her ass gives her something that single anal just doesn’t.

Today she told me she wants to go double anal only. No more single anal, no more just me inside her. She says it’s not about me — that she still loves me, still craves me — but that her body and mind feel more complete, more satisfied, more truly taken when she’s being fully stretched by both of us. She wants the three of us to be in a relationship together and to only do DAP.

I’m not insecure about sharing her. We’ve already done that. But I do feel kind of weird about the idea of never again having her ass to myself. No moments where it’s just me inside her, just the two of us, just that simple connection. Do you have any suggestions? I know you’re going to push us to go double anal only since that’s a big part of your blog, but how can I wrap my head around it better?

You’re right — I am going to encourage you to go double anal only. Not because it’s a rule, or because it’s what I prefer. It’s clearly where your relationship is already heading, and your girlfriend isn’t just craving DAP as a novelty. She’s thriving on it. Her body, her orgasms, and her words are all telling you exactly what she needs. You’re not losing something. You’re seeing the next evolution of what you already started together.

It’s normal to feel something about the idea of never having her ass only to yourself again. That’s not weakness, it’s just adjustment. But think about where you’re actually at: you built your relationship and sex life on anal only. Double anal isn’t a threat to your connection — it’s a deepening of it. You’re not being replaced. You’re part of what makes her feel even more complete.

Try reframing it like this: when you were the only cock in her ass, you gave her everything she could handle at the time. Now that she’s ready for more, she’s inviting you to be part of that with her. Don’t step back, step in. The relationship doesn’t shrink when another cock joins yours in her ass, it expands. The trust gets stronger. The bond gets tighter.

If you still want moments of one-on-one time, you can do so through oral sex, or perhaps still having some cock + dildo sessions or even working her up to taking your cock and fist at the same time if your roommate isn’t available to join in.

This isn’t about replacing connection — it’s about completing it. Together in her ass, always. Always full. Always shared. That’s what anal only becomes at its peak — and you’re already there.

Amy: Hi, I’ve been anal only for the past year and a half, and at first my boyfriend was really into it. We had amazing sex, I was stretching regularly, and we even do double anal using toys. He said it was the hottest sex we’d ever had.

But lately, he’s been asking if we can “mix it up” and have vaginal sex again. I told him that I’m committed to anal only, that I don’t get anything out of vaginal sex anymore, and that I don’t want to go backward. He said he understood, but I can tell he’s disappointed, and it’s starting to make me feel guilty. Should I give in once in a while just to make him happy? I really don’t want to.

It can be normal for some people to want what they don’t have and if he feels like vaginal is off the table he may be feeling the desire for it again to either “establish dominance”, even subconsciously, or to just try it again. I’m of mixed feelings about the best response here—it’s clear that you don’t want vaginal, and that’s completely reasonable. Sometimes, though, it can be valuable for people in that state of craving to try vaginal again only to discover how truly inferior it is to anal, and it strengthens their resolve to stay anal only going forward. It gets rid of the fantasy through cold, hard reality: vaginal just isn’t that good.

I would suggest talking with him about other ways you could compromise. Are there other fantasies he might want to explore instead? Tell him you want to keep your vagina unused going forward but you’re open to trying other things with him that he’d like. Does he want to do double anal more often? Would he like to start sharing your ass with a friend for some real DAP? Ass to mouth? Piss play? Physical chastity for you? There are all sorts of things to explore without using your pussy at all. Vaginal sex will just hold the two of you back.

Anal Obsessed: I saw your post about Vicky Sol, and I think it’s great that you promote more anal only content here, you should feature other stars, maybe double anal only stars next too.

On the note of promoting anal only porn—I’d be curious if anyone can recommend any audio or literary porn that promotes anal only, double anal or clit denial, or even anal only hypno videos, I’d be very interested!

Lastly can I just say I appreciate the more frequent updates here! Keep up the amazing work, I love reading your site while stretching my ass and ignoring my clit.

Thank you, I’m glad that you enjoyed it. I would love to feature more anal only/double anal only stars but I’m not familiar with many who are strictly AO/DAO.

We do have an Anal Only Porn Stars post that stays semi-updated, and also a list of Anal Only Stories.

I hope that you continue to ignore your cunt and clit permanently.

In a porn landscape where anal is increasingly the norm but almost every girl is still expected to do vaginal as well, Vicky Sol has carved out something different — and something much more meaningful to anal only devotees. Quietly, consistently, and with increasing intensity, she has built a career defined not by compromise, but by clarity: it’s anal only for her.

From her early days in Greek amateur porn to LegalPorno/AnalVids, Vicky Sol has become a living icon of the anal only movement — and a very dedicated double anal devotee.

Her Career: Anal from the Start

Born on June 14, 1989, in Greece, she began her adult film career in 2010 under the alias Elli, appearing in Greek productions such as Oi Xaderfes and Ellinides Nymfomaneis. These early works showcased her anal preference and aside from brief moments of vaginal penetration in two early scenes, she was nearly anal only from the start. By 2019, she had adopted the stage name Vicky Sol and transitioned to international platforms, notably collaborating with producer Giorgio Grandi on LegalPorno/AnalVids, where she shifted her focus to double anal penetration in almost every scene going forward.

To date, Vicky Sol has filmed nearly 50 anal only scenes, with almost 30 double anal scenes and at least 1 triple anal scenes under her belt — and not a single vaginal scene recorded after her first few years. While she may not hold the record for the most DAP scenes, her more recent focus on it and her unwavering dedication to anal only sets her apart.

The Anal Only Standard: A Call to Action

Vicky Sol’s career proves that vaginal sex is not necessary for erotic power, pleasure, or pornographic success. She’s not the flashiest performer, nor the most extreme — but her consistency is what makes her legendary. She chose anal. She stuck to it. She made it her brand.

Now it’s time for others to follow.

If you’re a performer: you can say no to vaginal. You don’t need to open every door just because someone expects you to. You can do only what you love — and if what you love is anal, then do that. Commit to it. Build your brand on it. Become a true anal only performer.

If you’re a fan: stop settling for vaginal porn. Don’t accept “just a little pussy.” Support the stars who give you exactly what you want — anal only, no compromise, no apologies. Let producers and performers know: the future of porn is anal only, and we won’t settle for less.

And if you want to help reshape the industry?

• Only buy anal only scenes.
• Skip anything with vaginal sex.
• Promote the women who live anal only — like Vicky Sol.
• Make it clear: we don’t want pussy.

We want more women who choose what Vicky has chosen: to never do vaginal again. To be anal only for life. Porn is changing. And with your support, it can change even faster.

Let’s make vaginal sex obsolete — in porn and in life.

Jessica: I’m a 23-year-old woman and about two months ago I discovered a passion for anal with my current boyfriend. I’m even considering going anal only, as it seems to be a normal choice for some couples. While exploring, I’ve noticed a lot of content related to double anal penetration on this site and across the internet, and honestly, I feel a bit overwhelmed by how much double anal content there is. I’m also worried that there could be a lot of fake or exaggerated information out there. I’m curious—are there really women who engage in double anal outside of porn actresses?

Are there any real-life stories, communities, or links that document or discuss real women’s genuine experiences with double anal? I’d love to hear from people who have done this or know more about it.

Thank you for your message — it’s awesome to hear that you’re discovering a passion for anal and even considering going anal only. That’s a huge and positive step toward building a more focused and satisfying sex life.

It’s understandable that the amount of double anal content can be a bit overwhelming! Double anal is definitely growing in popularity and having quite a moment right now, with a lot of interest both in and out of porn. While no one can really tell what content is real vs. fantasy, I can tell you: yes, absolutely, real women outside of porn engage in double anal, and it’s growing in popularity rapidly. It’s not just a performance for cameras, it’s something more and more women choose for themselves — because it feels good, because it pushes their bodies to new levels of pleasure, and because it deepens trust and connection with their partners.

Here on the blog and in the greater anal only lifestyle community, there are plenty of real-life stories. Many women who start out as anal only eventually develop a natural craving for more fullness, and double anal becomes the next evolution. It’s often a gradual process — starting with toys, stretching, double penetration with dildos, and eventually moving toward two cocks if and when it feels right.

It’s not something you need to rush, and may not even have interest in—it’s not a requirement. It’s something that some women grow into when their body and mind are ready. And for many, once they experience it, it feels not extreme, but natural — like the way anal was always meant to be.

But keep enjoying the anal joy and pleasure and if you have any questions about going anal only, please reach out!

Anal Only Lesbian: DAP is my biggest fantasy, I’m anal only in relationship with another woman and we both only use our ass. It’s always been a kink of mine but I never said it, as I was a bit shameful. Now though, it feels like double anal is everywhere! I feel like the world is telling me to do it as I see it everywhere in porn and on Reddit.

I’m still not sure how to do it in practice though. I have a number of toys and am planning on getting a chute butt plug soon which allows for anal with the plug left inserted. I think this is a good start and I’m training with my largest existing plug until then.

I’m curious how to broach the topic of “real” DAP with my girlfriend as I’m worried she’ll be insulted that her lesbian girlfriend needs not one but two real cocks in my ass. She’s less extreme than me sexually and I don’t think she thinks about double anal even with toys or anything. She doesn’t watch or read any porn so I don’t think she’s been very exposed to DAP.

How can I discuss this with my girlfriend gently so I don’t scare her off? Also any suggestions or anything for getting more into DAP, I’m all ears.

Thank you for reaching out — it’s always encouraging to hear from women who are living a committed anal only lifestyle and still pushing themselves forward. Double anal really is the natural next step. It’s not just a kink — it’s the true expression of the anal only mindset: one hole, stretched and shared, fully opened and fully claimed. And you’re absolutely right — DAP is having a moment. It’s more visible than ever because more women are realizing it’s not just for porn — it’s for them.

As for how to move toward real double anal, you’re already on the right path. Training with large plugs and investing in toys like the chute-style plug are all smart steps, and as you open up, start using two dildos side by side. The more consistent your practice, the more ready your body will be when the opportunity comes. If you haven’t yet, take a look at our Guide to Double Anal Sex — it breaks down the process in more detail.

Now about your girlfriend — your instincts are right to approach it with care, but you also shouldn’t hide your desire or feel ashamed for wanting more. Let her know you’ve been fantasizing about double anal for a long time and it’s a craving that’s growing. Frame it as something you want her to be part of, even if it’s just with toys at first. Let her see how much pleasure and intensity it gives you — how much your body responds.

If you already use strapons together, you could ask her to fuck your ass while you ride a second dildo. Or invite her to be in full control — one dildo in her hand, one you’re riding — both in your ass at the same time. Let her see it, feel it, claim it. That shared experience may help open up her own interest in stretching further, or at least in supporting you in it.

If the fantasy involves real men, that’s something you’d want to approach separately, and only if the relationship is ready for that kind of shift. But it doesn’t have to be about other men. You already live a fully anal only life with your girlfriend, and you can absolutely enjoy double anal together as well. She may not be ready to receive DAP herself, but you are, and hopefully she wants to help you get there.

The most important thing is that you stay open, true to yourself, and proud of what your body is craving. DAP isn’t just a fantasy — it’s a calling for many anal only women. And you’re ready.