Rafael: Hello, thank you for your blog. It has a lot of useful information and interesting user messages. I’m a gay male, mid-30s, bottom exclusive. After reading your double anal article, I wanted to try it out. My first attempt with dildos wasn’t successful, it felt awkward and difficult to achieve penetration, so I decided to change tactics.

I presented your blog to my boyfriend, let’s call him John, and he liked reading it as much as I did.
Then, I suggested John to use one of my dildos along with his penis. He accepted and we tried the next day. I was pushed to my limits and it was a bit painful, a similar pain that I felt when I was new to anal.
John was very helpful and patient, he gave me all the time I wanted, even if it meant only oral for the night. After many tries, I managed to take both John and the dildo at the same time.

And I have to say you are right. The feeling was incredibly intense! I was stretched to my limits but in a good way. I’m used to having prostate orgasms and didn’t have one that time but the effects were as powerful in different ways. I’ve heard about a type of anal orgasm that is focused on the sphincter and rectum, maybe it was that.

After that night, I wanted to go for the true double anal experience but there were problems. John and I are monogamous, we’ve been together for more than 5 years and we’ve never cheated on each other.
When I suggested having another man for double anal, John was uncomfortable. We talked a lot about it and I think he’s feeling insecure about his size since I enjoyed DAP a little bit too much. He even commented about the size of one of my dildos, something he never did before.

Here’s the thing, I love John. He’s a great partner and amazing in bed. I often have prostate orgasms with him. I’m now feeling guilty. Our life outside the bedroom is going strong but the sex now is less intense. There wasn’t another double anal night ever since my suggestion. I kinda don’t know what to do and want to hear your opinion about this.

It’s great that you were able to experience DAP together—even using a dildo, that’s a huge milestone, especially as a first time. The fact that it triggered something new in you doesn’t mean you’ve outgrown what you have, or that you don’t enjoy sex with your partner. Double anal is a type of stimulation that can’t be replicated with just one penis or dildo, it’s a unique sensation and experience that requires multiple dildos, partners, or a combination thereof.

It also makes perfect sense that John might feel insecure or hesitant. When a partner sees you crave something that they alone can’t physically give, it can stir up feelings of inadequacy—even if they’re totally unfounded. That doesn’t mean he isn’t enough. It means he’s human. The best thing you can do now is help him feel chosen again. Let him know how much that DAP night meant because it was with him, not in spite of it. Remind him how you trust him to take you to your edge safely, and how no toy or fantasy can replace the connection you have.

As for involving another man—it’s okay that the idea was hard for him. But it doesn’t have to be off the table forever. You’ve already laid the foundation by being honest. What matters now is showing him that this isn’t about replacing or comparing—it’s about exploring something you want to share. You can keep the door open gently. Maybe frame it less as “bringing someone in” and more as “experiencing something together that we couldn’t otherwise do.” Let him feel like it’s an adventure you’re inviting him on—not a compromise he has to make.

In the meantime, you don’t have to give up DAP entirely. Keep training. Try dual toys again now that you’ve done it with him. Keep your body open and engaged. And most of all, keep celebrating what you and John already have. This doesn’t have to be a roadblock—it can be the beginning of something even deeper between you.

L: I’m 23, and I’ve never had sex. For a long time I felt like I was behind and really missing out, but more recently as I’ve learned more about anal only I’m actually glad that I didn’t have vaginal sex and lose my virginity with my pussy. I’ve been reading a lot, watching a lot of anal porn, and masturbating anally and I want to make my first time really special and train myself to be able to have double anal sex to lose my virginity and hopefully if it goes well, stay double anal only. I think it would be really fitting, not to mention exciting, to have saved myself for something special like this.

I’ve been wearing a butt plug most days, going bigger every month or so, and I’ve been masturbating with dildos a lot. I found I really like the feeling of a big stretch which is a good sign I suppose, and I’ve started using two dildos within a few minutes most sessions. Is there any advice you can give me to be ready to go straight to DAP the very first time without needing to warm up? And of course, how I can meet guys who are interested in DAP and who would be good to have sex with the first time?

I love your take on that, not missing out by not having sex, but saving yourself for the right thing. And I fully support and encourage your desire to go straight to double anal. You’re doing exactly the right things with your training and practice for it. Keep it up, work up to larger dildos until you’re at or exceeding average penis thickness every time you train, and start practicing trying to penetrate with both dildos together at the same time. You’ll get there, and once you can do that every day, you’re ready.

Finding two guys to lose your virginity to might be the harder thing, but it’s very doable. If you have two close male friends you could bring it up to them, or you could seek out people in a group sex lifestyle and see if anyone is interested. Men experienced with double anal would be best, but even just those who are open to or experienced with group sex could be quickly adapted to DAP. Just be clear you want it to be double anal only, no single anal, no vaginal, and set those ground rules immediately from the start.

Going anal only isn’t just a decision—it’s a process. It takes time, discipline, and the right mindset to fully disconnect from vaginal habits and embrace your butthole as your true sexual center. That transformation doesn’t happen overnight. But with intention and consistency, it can happen faster than you think.

Here’s a proven 90-day timeline to transition into a fully anal only lifestyle—mentally, physically, emotionally, and sexually.

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Day 0: Your Decision Point

This is the moment everything changes. You decide: no more pussy. No more fingers, no more clit, no more “exceptions.” You’re not waiting for someone to give you permission. You’re giving it to yourself. From this moment on, your ass is your only sexual access point.

Now the real work begins.

Days 1–30: Detox and Foundation

Goals:

• Cut out all vaginal contact—no exceptions, not even “just touching.”
• Begin daily plug wear for at least 1–2 hours (working up as needed).
• Masturbate anally at least several times a week, including whenever cravings are hard to resist.
• Journal cravings or temptations and how you overcame them.
• Tell your partner (or yourself, if solo) that vaginal sex is no longer on the table.

The first month is about rewiring your brain and your habits. You’re not “depriving” yourself—you’re redirecting. Every urge toward vaginal contact becomes an opportunity to re-center around your ass. Expect resistance. That’s normal. Stay committed.

Support Tip:
Install a small but meaningful ritual—e.g., plugging up when you wake up, or lighting a candle before stretching—to reinforce that this is your new norm.

Days 31–60: Stretch and Surrender

Goals:

• Increase plug size and wear time—aim for a large plug 4–6 hours daily or overnight.
• Continue intentional anal masturbation only—no pussy contact even to climax.
• Replace all porn with anal only content (include double anal porn as often as possible).
• If in a relationship, continue to maintain anal only sex exclusively—no “occasional” pussy slip-ins.

This is the surrender phase. Your ass becomes your comfort, your craving, your release. The plug, toys and cock no longer feels foreign—it feels essential. Vaginal denial is no longer an active struggle. It’s just who you are now.

Support Tip:
Join online communities or forums (like this blog) where anal only is celebrated. Hearing others’ success stories reinforces your own.

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Days 61–90: Integration and Identity

Goals:

• Reach full-time plug wear whenever not actively being penetrated.
• Work up to to long-term anal stretching goals, like larger toys or even double anal.
• Commit to long-term anal only, and don’t go back to vaginal just because you’re done with your initial challenge.

By this stage, anal only isn’t something you’re “trying.” It’s who you are. Your body responds differently. Your fantasies shift. Your hole is open, hungry, and fulfilled—and your pussy feels irrelevant, untouched, and sealed in the past.

Support Tip:
Mark Day 90 with a celebration. A full-day plug challenge. A DAP session. A new custom plug. Make it real. You’ve earned it.

Beyond Day 90: Lifelong, Plugged, Proud

Anal only isn’t a challenge—it’s your lifestyle now. You may still face the occasional temptation, but they lose power quickly. The further you get from vaginal contact, the more distant it feels. The more time you spend open, stretched, used and loved through your ass, the more right your body feels.

If you’re just starting this journey: don’t rush. But don’t doubt. The timeline works. Thousands of women have gone from curious to committed in 90 days or less—and never looked back.

Riley: I’ve been doing anal only for almost two years and recently started experimenting with double anal with my husband and his close friend. When it works, it’s absolutely incredible—stretching, overwhelming, intimate, and deeply fulfilling in a way I didn’t expect. But I’ve also had sessions where my body just wouldn’t take it, or I ended up too sore to keep up my plug routine afterward.

We really want DAP to be a regular part of our life. Not just an occasional treat, but a foundation. But I also don’t want to risk setbacks or burnout. Do you have any advice on how to build up the stamina and flexibility to make double anal sustainable, not just possible? I’m all in—I just want to do it smartly.

It’s amazing to hear how much DAP is already positively affecting you both emotionally and physically. It really is an amazing thing when it goes well. If you want to start doing it more regularly or even go double anal only, you’ve got to get to where it works easily all the time, not just sometimes.

Double anal demands more from your body than single anal, and it takes time to adapt to that, especially when you’re doing it regularly. You need to build up to where you can take two cocks at a moment’s notice with ease.

I suggest more regular plug wear in between sessions, especially focusing on larger plugs with thicker necks to keep your stretch active. Masturbate/train regularly with two dildos, or a large single dildo, so that you continue getting used to the more active penetration of two cocks in your ass together. When it’s just your boyfriend, you can use a dildo alongside his cock to stay warmed up for double anal.

After sessions, use aloe vera gel (make sure it’s pure aloe vera and not mixed with alcohol or other additives that may be harmful for anal use) on your anus and rectum to sooth it and help it recover.

Gradually increase the frequency and over the course of a month or two you should be where you can do double anal every time you have sex!

Pam & Sam: I’ve been wanting to share some of my personal experiences and confirm a few things I’ve read here. I’m a woman, happily married with no kids, and over the last couple of years, my husband and I have discovered a fierce passion for the stag & vixen lifestyle.

Together, we dive into this wild world, exploring swinger clubs and tight-knit circles where we connect with other couples—and sometimes with multiple men. Sometimes my husband jumps right in, other times he prefers to watch me take full control. This dynamic has pulled us closer and added a deliciously raw edge to our relationship.

Not long ago, I took a bold leap from double penetration to double anal. At first, it was challenging, but it quickly became a game-changer. I never imagined we’d enjoy it this much. This new thrill lets me—and us—fully indulge in group sex action, and I won’t lie—I got hooked on double anal. Now, we’re enjoying it to the absolute fullest without me having to step into porn or expose myself publicly. It’s our private, dirty secret—and it feels fucking amazing.

He even wanted me—actually allowed me, call it what you want—to go solo with double anal while he watched a couple of times. He told me it was mind-blowing for him to see how I was completely owning all those men, stretching and filling my ass to the max. The way I mastered every inch had him utterly captivated. You can’t imagine how empowered and damn sexy I felt afterward. That raw, intense feeling of control and pleasure was intoxicating—pure power.

For us, this lifestyle is about personal growth and self-discovery, the thrill of voyeuristic and shared pleasure, and exploring sexual possibilities that keep our relationship vibrant and alive. It’s a journey that requires trust, communication, and openness, but the rewards are beyond worth it.

I hope sharing this encourages others who are curious or considering this path. Living boldly and loving freely has truly transformed us.

I love being a hotwife. There’s something wildly liberating about owning this role with my husband’s full support. Despite the steamy encounters with other men and couples, there are no romantic feelings involved—our love is exclusive, fierce, and rock solid.

Thanks so much for sharing, I’m glad that you’re enjoying this experience and have made the transition from DP to double anal. I hope that you are also embracing anal only as part of this transition and no longer use your vagina anymore. If you really enjoy DAP over time you may find yourself wanting to explore going double anal only!

Joslynn: I’m a trans woman and for about 2 years I’ve been trying to find the limit my ass can be stretched, almost every day. I can see I’ve definitely progressed, but I want it even looser. How do all the porn stars have such blown out assholes and are able to take huge toys, literally, 2 feet deep in their asses? How are they able to be very rapidly fisted? I know part of it is a lot of practice, but there has to be something else, right? What am I missing?

Thanks for your question, Joslynn, and for sharing your goals. What you’re describing is something a lot of people who are deep into anal play wonder at some point: what does it really take to reach those advanced levels of stretch, depth, and responsiveness? You’re right that consistent practice is a big part of it, but there are definitely other elements that go into what you’re seeing in extreme anal performers.

First, body type and anatomy matter. Some porn performers simply have a more naturally relaxed pelvic floor or rectal elasticity, which gives them an easier time going deeper or looser. Hormonal status, body size, and even connective tissue flexibility can all influence this. That doesn’t mean it’s unattainable — just that some people may progress more quickly.

Second, many of the stars who can take massive toys or hands rapidly have put in years of very specific training. Daily or near-daily play helps, but longer-duration stretching sessions (think 30–60 minutes minimum daily with large plugs or toys, often multiple hours a day) are often a key factor. Many performers use incremental toy sizing systems, work up slowly over time, and frequently revisit sizes they’ve already mastered to maintain openness.

You might also be seeing the effects of temporary gaping and preparation — often, stars warm up with trainers or hands well before filming. What you’re seeing on camera isn’t always just what their body can do “cold.” Some also use enemas or douches not just to clean but to soften and relax the lower rectum beforehand.

Lastly, don’t underestimate the mental side. A lot of what allows people to reach those extremes is a deep mental connection to submission, surrender, or accomplishment, and training your mind to associate big stretch with arousal, not fear.

You’re already doing a lot right. Keep listening to your body, celebrate your progress, and don’t rush pain or strain. Some of the deepest, most blown-out girls you see in porn got there over 5–10 years — and with plenty of trial and error. If you stay patient and intentional, you’ll keep making progress.

Anonymous: I’ve been lurking here for a while and finally decided to jump in because this place gave me the courage to speak up and maybe get some real advice.

I’m almost 30, pretty sexually experienced and adventurous. I’m currently in a relationship — stable, grown-up, and organized, just like I wanted. Before this, I was all over the place: multiple boyfriends, threesomes, and somewhere along the way, I discovered my absolute passion for anal sex. It’s become my biggest turn-on.

Now, here’s the thing. My boyfriend is super wealthy and spoils me in every way except in bed. He’s mostly into oral and vaginal, and no matter how much I try, he’s just not into anal. I’ve even tried to get him to experiment with it, but no luck. Meanwhile, I find myself masturbating to anal-heavy porn, recently even mostly double anal scenes — those drive me wild. I even catch myself daydreaming about being in those scenes, completely taken and stretched, and it’s honestly the hottest thing I can imagine. What’s wrong with me?

I’m seriously craving an anal-only sex life, but how do you convince him to open up to that? I’ve tried everything I can think of, but he’s just not there. And forget about double anal or group stuff — I don’t even know how to bring that up without killing the mood or freaking him out. Am I crazy for wanting this so badly? Should I just accept a stable but kind of boring sex life? Or… is it okay to explore this behind his back if he won’t meet me halfway? How do you balance wanting wild, kinky sex with wanting a steady relationship? Has anyone been stuck in this spot and figured out a way to have both? Or should I just end the relationship and look for what truly makes me happy?

I’m really torn and could use some honest advice.

Thank you for being so open. What you’re feeling isn’t “wrong” — it’s deeply human. It’s okay to crave more than what you’re currently getting, especially when you’ve discovered a part of your sexuality that brings you such intense, personal pleasure. Anal, and particularly anal only, can be deeply affirming, and wanting to share that with your partner isn’t selfish — it’s a desire for intimacy, connection, and mutual expression.

At the same time, your partner’s disinterest isn’t a personal failure either. People have limits and preferences, and while those can sometimes shift, they don’t always. The tough part is realizing that compatibility in a relationship isn’t just emotional or practical — it’s sexual too. And when there’s a deep mismatch, especially on something you’re passionate about, it can create a quiet ache over time, even if everything else seems stable.

You’re not crazy for wanting double anal or group sex, or even for fantasizing about it. You’re not broken. You’re a sexual person with vivid and evolving desires — that’s normal. But no matter how strong the craving, going behind your partner’s back isn’t the right move. It might offer a thrill, but at the cost of trust and long-term peace of mind. That doesn’t mean you’re trapped either. It just means the choice you make should come from clarity, not desperation.

If you haven’t already, try having an open, pressure-free conversation with your boyfriend. Not just about anal, but about what arousal means for you now — how it’s become core to your sense of self. He may not be willing to join you fully, but if he loves you, he’ll listen.

If he still can’t or won’t meet you partway — even just with a toy in a low-pressure setting — then you have to ask yourself: Is staying with him more important than living as your full sexual self? That’s not a decision anyone else can make for you.

Anal sex has undergone a profound cultural transformation over the past fifty years. What began as a whispered taboo — something framed as dirty, degrading, or niche — has steadily become a central part of modern sexual identity and representation. From porn studios to pop music, memes to mainstream dating discourse, anal has not just entered the conversation, it’s taken it over.

Below is a deep dive into how anal sex became integrated into pop culture and why its rise signals something even larger: the decline of vaginal sex as the default and the inevitable rise of the anal only world.

1970s–1990s: Taboo, Transgression, and Silence

In the 1970s and 80s, anal sex was considered perverse even in porn. Golden age films avoided it entirely. When anal did appear in fringe films or hardcore imports, it was often framed through dominance, pain, and degradation. Scenes focused on girls saying no, flinching, and being pushed past their limits.

In these early portrayals, anal wasn’t about pleasure. It was about control. Women were shown enduring it rather than enjoying it. The message was clear: anal was something men did to women, not something women wanted or enjoyed.

Even into the 1990s, anal remained a “special event” in porn. A performer’s first anal scene was treated as a shocking milestone. Titles emphasized pain or transgression: Painful Pleasures, Anal Perversions. The anus was still Othered — never the focus, never the norm.

Outside of porn, anal was virtually absent from the public conversation. It didn’t appear in mainstream sex education, wasn’t featured in romantic comedies or dramas, and was still coded as “dirty” or deviant. Anal sex was culturally associated with homosexuality, and even in progressive circles, it was rarely discussed openly. Comedians avoided the topic, and if referenced, it was a punchline, not a real option.

2000s: Visibility and Curiosity, But Not Yet Acceptance

In the early 2000s, the rise of the internet allowed viewers to search for exactly what they wanted. Anal categories began climbing in popularity on emerging tube sites. Yet despite growing interest, there were almost no true anal only scenes. Most porn still revolved around vaginal sex, with anal tagged on at the end or mixed in.

Performers who specialized in anal (Belladonna, Sasha Grey, Rocco Siffredi) were seen as extreme. Even popular anal scenes still emphasized domination, mess, and roughness. Viewers watched it, but the framing hadn’t changed: anal was still a performance, not a preference.

In mainstream pop culture, anal began surfacing — slowly. TV shows like Sex and the City (1998–2004) featured hesitant, awkward anal plotlines, often framed as something embarrassing or reluctantly agreed to.

Early 2000s music was still conservative on the topic, but hip hop and underground comedy began to reference “backdoor” sex. American Pie and Road Trip leaned into anal as a gross-out joke. It was visible now — but only barely, and always framed as discomfort, not desire.

2010s: Normalization Through Porn, Music, and Memes

The 2010s saw a dramatic tone shift. Performers began speaking more openly about their real sexual preferences, and for many, anal was at the top of the list. In interviews, on social media, and in cam content, women described anal not as painful but as more intense, more pleasurable, and more fulfilling than vaginal.

Examples:

• Anya Olsen, in a pre-scene interview: “Girls, if you’re watching, try anal! Please! It’s amazing. I cum so easily from anal. It’s like the most intense orgasm ever.”
• Adriana Chechik, on the Pornhub podcast: “Honestly, I cum better from anal. I’m mostly anal only with my boyfriend.”
• Charlotte Sartre, via Twitter: “Why fuck the pussy when there is a perfectly good asshole right there.”
• Lexi Grey, via Twitter: “It’s been a month since a dick has been in my pussy. I’m officially anal only.”

Studios like Tushy and LegalPorno responded by centering anal in almost every scene. No longer just an add-on, it became the entire purpose. For many newer European studios, anal became the default. Most scenes skipped vaginal altogether.

The framing changed too: no more grimaces or tears. Instead, genuine anal orgasms, ass-focused worship, and proud presentation. Women were not just enduring it, they were choosing it.

Outside porn, the pop shift exploded.

• Music: Lyrics about anal and eating ass went mainstream. Kevin Gates’s 2014 declaration, “I eat ass,” went viral and helped popularize the phrase across social media. By 2016, ass eating was a meme genre unto itself.
• TV & Streaming: Broad City featured a full anal sex scene played for humor and honesty. Girls and Euphoria integrated anal into character relationships without shame or scandal.
• Social Media: Tumblr, Twitter, and later TikTok normalized plug wear, anal masturbation, and anal cravings. Anal wasn’t edgy content — it was standard sexual content.
• Dating Culture: “Anal only” preferences began appearing in bios, with women proudly listing plug use, anal training, and anal only expectations.

🔹 2020s: Anal Only as the New Cultural Center

By the 2020s, double anal (DAP) had become a new standard in porn. Once treated as extreme, it’s now common across major platforms. AnalVids features multiple anal only scenes, often focusing on DAP and TAP, almost daily. Women train for it. Fans expect it. And increasingly, DAP is treated as the new default.

Anal only stars, still typically only those making independent content, are celebrated for never having vaginal sex at all. Their commitment is admired, and their scenes set a new bar for purity of focus.

Meanwhile, vaginal sex is quietly vanishing. In most European anal scenes, it’s not just avoided — it’s structurally removed. The anus is the only point of penetration. Viewers no longer expect a pussy shot. They expect camera focus on the ass — stretched, filled, opened.

Pop culture reflects the shift:

• Ass-eating is considered more intimate than oral sex on a vagina.
• Women post openly about plug training, “needing to be filled,” and being permanently stretched.

The Future: Denormalizing Vaginal Sex

This is no longer just about acceptance. It’s about replacement. Anal is:

• More orgasmic for many women
• More intimate
• Feels better, is tighter, takes more discipline

Vaginal sex, by contrast, is increasingly obsolete: associated with reproduction, tedium, and compromise. It lacks focus. It doesn’t serve the body or the relationship the same way.

Culture has already normalized anal. What comes next is simple: the denormalization of vaginal sex.

Not long ago, anal sex was considered taboo — something whispered about, joked about, or relegated to the most “extreme” corners of porn. For decades, it was painted as deviant, dirty, or something reserved for late-night experimentation. But culture has shifted — not just quietly, but dramatically. And the truth is simple: anal isn’t fringe anymore. It’s becoming the norm.

We’re watching in real time as society reorients itself around anal pleasure — and not just as a kink or an alternative, but as the main event. The next step is clear: it’s time to stop treating vaginal sex as standard and finally recognize anal sex as the superior, default path for pleasure, fulfillment, and connection.

Anal Is No Longer a Taboo — It’s the Preference

Today, anal is everywhere. It’s no longer hidden or taboo. Mainstream porn sites consistently show “anal” as one of the most searched and watched categories — often dominating over vaginal, lesbian (unless anal lesbians!), or oral categories entirely. For many viewers, anal scenes are not a niche preference — they’re the default. Performers who specialize in anal are elevated, desired, and followed. Even if a scene contains vaginal, it’s seen as warmup for anal, which is the main event. Porn stars who focus on vaginal-only content are increasingly seen as irrelevant. Even among women, “anal” ranks as a top fantasy and search term. This is not a coincidence — it’s a shift in what arouses, what satisfies, and what defines real sex.

And it isn’t just porn. Everyday couples are embracing anal as a central part of their sexual lives. What used to be a rare request is now openly discussed. More and more women are not just allowing anal — they’re craving it, requesting it, and taking pride in it.

Eating Ass Is Becoming More Normal Than Eating Pussy

If you needed more proof, look at oral culture. A decade ago, the idea of “eating ass” was still a punchline. Now? It’s a basic expectation. Songs, jokes, TikToks — eating ass is openly celebrated, often more commonly and confidently than eating pussy. The stigma is gone. It’s normal, it’s hot, and it’s what people want.

The popularity of rimming doesn’t exist in a vacuum. It reflects a broader reorientation of sexual focus — one that privileges the ass over the vagina. The anus isn’t just an accepted site of pleasure. It’s becoming the primary one.

Double Anal: Not an Exception — a Goal

Double anal penetration was once reserved for the most “extreme” corners of porn. Now, it’s everywhere. Major studios center it. Viewers expect it. And more women are choosing it — not as a challenge, but as a preference. It’s not shocking anymore. It’s celebrated. In many cases, a performer’s first DAP scene is framed as a milestone achievement — a sign of full submission, full evolution, full readiness.

As the physical, emotional, and symbolic depth of double anal becomes more understood, it’s clear that DAP isn’t just an act — it’s a statement. And for more women, it’s a standard. One hole, fully claimed, fully stretched, fully filled. That’s not fringe anymore. That’s focus.

Vaginal Sex Is the Outdated Standard

So what’s left? One thing: the vagina. Still clinging to its cultural position as the default. Still seen as the starting point for every relationship. Still handed over as a sign of affection, availability, or expectation.

But let’s be honest — vaginal sex is outdated. It’s built around reproduction, not pleasure. It’s boring, hormonally volatile, less intense, and frequently dependent on clitoral stimulation to even function. It lacks the depth, intimacy, and discipline that anal demands — and it keeps too many people stuck in a model of sex that doesn’t actually work for them.

Most people don’t need their vagina touched to feel loved. They need their ass opened to feel taken.

The Next Step: Denormalizing Vaginal Sex Entirely

We’ve already shifted the conversation. Anal is no longer taboo. It’s desirable. Preferred. Dominant. Now we must take the final step: removing the vagina from the equation entirely.

That means:

• Ending the idea that vaginal sex is expected in a relationship
• Rejecting porn that centers or even includes vaginal penetration
• Encouraging couples — especially women — to retire vaginal sex permanently
• Celebrating anal only as the default, not the deviation
• Supporting women in choosing to stay vaginal virgins

Anal only is not just an identity. It’s the future of sexual culture. One that centers intensity, intention, trust, and real satisfaction — not legacy acts based on reproduction. The shift has already begun. Porn reflects it. Relationships increasingly reflect it. Language reflects it. All that’s left is to let go of the outdated standards that no longer serve us and step fully into the lifestyle that does.

Anal isn’t taboo anymore. Vaginal is. And that’s how it should be.

Anonymous: My girlfriend is incredibly skilled and passionate about anal fisting and double anal — I’m so proud of her and love bragging about her talents to trusted circles. I fantasize about her showing off those skills in some good, hard gangbangs or intense group sessions, really owning her sexuality.

She was raised Christian and, while she’s not deeply religious anymore, the idea of actually engaging in group sex still feels like a heavy conflict for her. This creates tension between my desire to see her fully express herself and her lingering reservations.

Am I okay wanting her to move on to real-life double anal experiences with others, even if it challenges her comfort zone?

It’s completely okay for you to want that. Fantasizing about your partner being fully used, admired, and celebrated for her abilities—especially when she’s as talented and passionate about anal fisting and DAP as you describe—is a natural extension of your pride, arousal, and deep admiration for her. There’s nothing wrong with craving that next level of intensity, or even feeling like it would unlock something deeper in both of you. That’s part of the anal only mindset: wanting to go further, stretch wider, and be even more fully shared.

At the same time, her background and concerns matter too. Even if she no longer holds strict religious beliefs, years of internalized messages don’t just disappear. Group sex, especially in the context of showcasing her body and talents, can feel like a direct challenge to everything she was taught to suppress or avoid. That doesn’t mean she’ll never move in that direction, but it does mean she may need time, space, and the right framing to get there.

Instead of pushing her toward a decision, consider framing it as a shared evolution. Not “I want you to do this,” but “I love how you’ve embraced anal and DAP, and I can’t stop imagining how powerful it would be to see you fully celebrated in that way. Not because I need it to happen, but because it excites me to think of you being admired and filled and stretched for others the way I already admire and desire you.” Let her feel how much this comes from love and erotic awe, not pressure.

So yes, wanting it is okay. Even if it never happens exactly the way you imagine, the fact that you’re proud of her, aroused by her skills, and eager to see her reach her full potential in this lifestyle is beautiful. I hope that you’re able to enjoy DAP together with other partners, and maybe even go double anal only if you aren’t already!