Anonymous: Those ATM/ATOGM posts are really hot. Never done it in real life, but would like to. It’s nice to hear people’s experiences/perspectives. Many people find it degrading or disgusting, however, I think it’s so beautiful, like completing a full circle of anal fun. Can’t really explain it. Mesmerized by its explicitness and daring-ness.

While I suppose it could be degrading under certain circumstances, it really isn’t inherently and (in my opinion) shouldn’t be seen as such. Similarly, it could be disgusting if done when not clean, but otherwise isn’t at all. It’s intimate, beautiful, exciting and just a lot of fun. It’s an inherent and critical aspect of anal sex for some people, and I highly encourage trying it if you’re interested in it and find it appealing.

The original version of this post on Tumblr received the following response.

analsexislove: After few times done, It becames so natural… ATM its Just oral sex like any other…

Anonymous: Hi, I see that in your advices you seldom talk about enemas. I used to take enemas just before sex (I’m anal only), but a few years ago I started to use them when I’m at home every single time after I empty myself in the bathroom, with a simple anal douche. It’s much more quick, pleasant and efficient to clean up than way than with toilet paper, you always keep a flat stomach, and of course you’re always ready for anal fun, including ass to mouth. To me it’s inseparable from anal sex.

That’s an interesting way of doing it, and it sounds like it’s quite effective for you. Probably a good approach for the anal only woman who wants to always be ready for sex and ensure cleanliness. Thanks for sharing.

Anonymous: Last year I went ass to mouth with my dildo (deepthroating it, too) and a few days later I got a pretty hurtful throat infection. Now, i can’t blame it for sure, it could have been the cold, but I’ve been more cautious since then. My advice to anyone who enjoys doing it would be to only do it when you’re absolutely sure you’re clean, and even if you are, don’t deepthroat it? lol

It’s a good idea in general to be visibly clean when doing ass to mouth, and generally there’s little risk of an infection from your own ass when you’re clean. It’s possible that if you had a more sensitive throat or a weakened immune system from your cold that it made an infection possible to happen where it otherwise wouldn’t have, or as you say, it could’ve just been the cold causing a sore throat/infection and nothing to do with deepthroating a dildo out of your ass.

Up until a year ago I was an anal virgin. My current boyfriend opened my mind and my ass. I love anal sex and since we started i have been doing it more than vaginal (i still passionately blow him). After finding this blog i have some advice and one question.

Advice: Girls, never let a guy push you. A good anal lover allows you to take him in the ass willingly rather than taking your ass without being asked to. Once you have established trust you can go full-on submissive anal slut if you like, but make sure it is on your terms. You will enjoy it more, believe me.

Question: Are there any women out there who have experience with ass-to-mouth? The idea turns me on and I would love to surprise my bf with it (I surprised him with anal and he got so hot) but i do not want any health issues or messy things happening. How do you prepare for that kind of thing?

Glad to hear you’ve had wonderful anal experiences and are enjoying it more than vaginal (not that that’s uncommon!). Nearly everyone who identifies as anal only still practices various forms of oral sex, just to be clear—the name “anal only” can be confusing, but in almost all uses just refers to an exclusion of vaginal sex.

Thank you for sharing the excellent advice about not being pushed into anal. Hesitation or fear or disinterest in anal often leads to being tense and less relaxed when you try it, which in turn makes it far more likely to be painful or uncomfortable and not build positive anal experiences that leave you wanting and needing more. Do anal if and because you want to, and you’re far more likely to enjoy it and want to keep doing it for the rest of your life.

I am not a woman, and women should absolutely respond to this with their own experiences as well, but I can share my own advice about ass to mouth. Preparation comes down to personal choice, usually—some will only do it if they have anally douched or had an enema beforehand to ensure they are perfectly clean inside. Others who are just generally naturally clean most of the time will do it if their partner is visibly clean upon removal. In both my personal experience and conversations with others who do ass to mouth both solo with toys and with partners, I haven’t encountered any health issues doing it when visibly clean.

NPNWife: Been awhile since I checked in! We decided to continue going anal only for the rest of 2016. And after having a couple really deep, intense conversations about it, we decided to make our New Years Resolution to be 100% anal only—no vaginal anything, no clit touching, no orgasms for me unless I can have them anally—for all of 2017. My husband was in my ass when the ball dropped and he’s been in me 3 times since. It feels liberating giving up my pussy/clit for him this way.

Congratulations, sounds like an excellent choice for the both of you. A few months ago when you were just going to do anal for the first time as your anniversary gift to your husband, could you have imagined that this is where you’d be now?

Anonymous: When I told my wife about No Pussy November she laughed and said no. Then she proceeded to have me go straight to her ass the next time we had sex, and then the time after that. The third time we had sex in November I just went straight up her ass. Three weeks in after having nothing but anal sex two or three times a week I asked if we were doing no pussy she just smiled. Last week I went to put it in her pussy and she said the month wasn’t over yet. She’s even done ass to mouth.

That’s great! You’re lucky to have such a wonderful wife. Have you talked at all about why she changed her mind about it? How have the two of you enjoyed it? And now that November is over, is everything back to how it had been before?

NPNWife: This Thanksgiving, I’m thankful for trying new things! Like I said last time, closing my pussy really opened my mind. My husband and I have been talking about—and experimenting with—lots of other fantasies we’ve both had but never brought up. I mentioned going out with his friends last Sunday to watch the game. He showed more of my pics/videos there, while I was with them. Lots of questions and compliments. My pussy was visibly soaking through my pants. They joked about how I wouldn’t get any relief, which just made me wetter.

When we got home, I was beginning for my husband’s cock in my ass. When he was fucking me, he was asking how I liked showing the guys my videos, and I admitted how much it turned me on, obviously. He started talking about fucking my ass in front of them, so they could see in person how I gave up my cunt for him, and it trigged a huge anal orgasm for me. And I started begging him to do it, to show my ass off in front of them. After he came he asked if I was serious or if it was orgasm talk. I told him I wasn’t sure and asked how he felt. He got hard again talking about showing my ass to them in person, fingering me, fucking me, making me do ATM while they watched. And I took him back inside my ass and told him that this was his month, and if he was sure he wanted to do that, then he could. I admitted how NPN had me feeling so incredibly submissive to him, how I wanted to do anything to turn him on. This time he came inside me.

It hasn’t happened yet. But he’s been sending every video/picture he takes to his friend Charlie (who I mentioned previously). That’s his “safety” friend, that he trusts most. Yesterday, he made me text with Charlie while his dick was in my ass, asking him if he liked the videos, if he wanted to watch me get fucked in person, if he wanted to see my asshole spread open for my husband’s cock… it was so fucking hot. Anyway, only a couple days of November to go. Not sure what’ll happen next.

NPNWife: Found out yesterday that on Friday night out with his friends, my husband drunkenly revealed to them my insistence that we do No Pussy November. None of them had heard of it and didn’t believe him. So he showed them the posts here (and they’ll probably see this one and know for sure he was telling the truth). They didn’t believe they were from me, so he also showed them a video of me begging him to fuck my ass and ignore my pussy. I wasn’t mad, but I was mortified!

But he fucked me and kept telling me how hot it was to show them that video, to show them that I was his anal whore, that I loved being his anal slut so much that I begged him to give up my pussy, and that I was willing to give up having my own orgasms for him. He was telling me how hot the other guys found it, how they complained about their wives/gfs not doing anal, and how proud he was of me for giving my ass to him this way. He had me watch the video he showed them, on loop, while he fucked me. It was so hot, but I was still so embarrassed.

He told me even after that, they didn’t believe I did ATM, so he wanted to show them that too. So he took the phone and started to record himself in my ass, then recorded me taking his cock in my mouth. Then he put the phone in front of me and made me watch it while he went back to fucking me. I asked when he was going to show them. He told me to send it to his friend Chuck (Hi Chuck!) right then. And I started cumming, hard. I thought I was going to pass out, I was cumming so hard. I never felt anything like that orgasm. So I did. I sent it and said “[Hubby] told me you wanted to see this.”

Lots of messages came back about how sexy it was, how sexy I am, promises to not show anyone. But, in the moment, it was so fucking hot having him see. And knowing the rest of my husband’s friends would see it. And just knowing that I’d been outed. I never thought that kind of embarrassment would turn me on so much. Anyway, we’re hanging out with some of them at the bar this afternoon/evening. So I expect a lot of stares and a lot of questions. I’m nervous to be in front of a group that knows this about me, but at the same time, it’s a very sexy, exciting kind of nervous. Apparently, going anal only has really opened my mind about more sexual things. Last month, if my husband had shown his friends a video of him fucking me, I would have never left the house! Close your pussy, open your mind, I guess!

Sounds pretty hot, and a great way to help spread the word about the fun that can be had with anal only and No Pussy November! Maybe some of them will now go and want their wives and girlfriends to try the same thing. You’re spreading the joy of anal only to others!

And what a closing line!

NPNWife: So half the month is over and we’re still going strong! He’s been fucking my ass every morning when we wake up and then at some other point(s) during the day. We haven’t missed a day so far. I’m sore, but fuck is it worth it. I still have not touched my pussy/clit at all, and struggle not to accidentally cum when I’m showering.

We do ATM nearly every time, and 100% of the time when we’re in public. He especially loves it when his cock is dirty, and, oddly, so do I. Makes me feel like such a dirty slut for him. He loves making me walk around after having just licked his dirty cock clean and not allowing me to clean out my mouth. It’s so filthy, and such a turn on. I had no idea I would like this so much. I keep waiting for someone to notice my tongue is dirty, or my breath, and that anticipation of humiliation gets me so fucking wet that I just want to do it all over again.

He’s noticed how much more submissive I’ve been acting this month and has told me that he doesn’t want that to end. Neither do I. We’ve both been looking at all of the anal only and vaginal/clit/orgasm denial tumblrs together and have been really enjoying them and considering where we go from here. He’s finally stopped trying to touch my pussy and now really gets off telling me how much he loves ignoring it, how my pussy is worthless to him. This morning he was fucking me before work and told me that if he ever wants pussy again, he’ll get it from someone else, because mine was done, and I almost came just from him saying that, with his cock in my ass. I wasn’t sure if mentally I was ready for that yet, but fuck it was hot!

Now I’m sitting here, running the entire thing through my mind again and feeling my pussy ache for attention. On the one hand, I can’t wait until the end of the month. On the other, I almost don’t want to break the streak … to see how long we can actually go. Either way, I’ll keep you updated!

I’m glad to hear everything is still going so well for the two of you and that he’s gotten as into it as you are—or maybe even more so, especially if he’s ready to stop using your pussy for good and go fully anal only. As for your own excitement and reservations about what to do after November is over, I will say that it’s a common outcome for people who try No Pussy November, or a month of anal only in general, to want to keep going when the month is over and not break the streak, as you said. I think you should keep going and just stick with it and see how it goes. You don’t have to commit to anything specific, necessarily, just stay anal only and make it the norm, and see what happens.

Anonymous: Isn’t it unhealthy to practice ass-to-mouth? My girlfriend and I have been doing anal for a long time, and I wanna try ATM, but she says that there are a lot of bacteria and she could get sick. I think she’s totally right about that. What can we do?

If it’s visibly clean, and it’s her own ass, she’s probably going to be fine. Plenty of people do it without ever getting sick, but everyone and their immune system is different and it’s up to each person to decide the risk for themselves. There is a much greater risk of getting sick from another person’s ass than from your own.

You can also further minimize risk by doing an enema first. This is what’s what’s done in porn before any anal, ass to mouth included or otherwise.