I’m Freja, 18 years old from Sweden, I’ve been reading this forum for a while so decided to join.
I first had anal sex about 2 years ago, it started that way because I was in bed with a guy I dated and we didn’t have condoms, and I’m not on birth control so in the heat of the moment we decided to try anal, and realised that we both loved it.
And so that turned into our “regular” sex and we never really talked about moving on to vaginal sex because we both enjoyed it.
We broke up half a year ago and I’m kinda seeing another guy now and we have kept it at anal too, he’s happy because he doesn’t have to wear a condom and I’m happy because it feels so good.

At this point it has almost become a “thing” for me that I haven’t had vaginal sex yet and it seems like it will stay like that for a while, the guy I’m seeing thinks it’s hot fucking with a “virgin” and my friends think it’s cool that I’m anal only.

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Hi all, just wanted to share the story of how I ended up deciding with my partner to only have anal sex, with no plans whatsoever to do vaginal again. (Perhaps for children but it’s possible we will just adopt)

My partner and I have been together for 5 years, and leading up to 2020 anal was more of a possible alternate place for cum at the end of sex, but not really a main event. Over the last year or so, their clit has become extremely sensitive. Annoyingly so , apparently. 

She doesn’t like to masterbate, preferring to save her energy or orgasm for sex, and never have I ever seen her touch her vagina during sex, except to spread her lips. She likes to cum but I don’t think she is a fan of tongue so much and doesn’t like most toys. She does like plugs though, I noticed.

What she really likes, apparently, is feeling me cum inside her. When we did vaginal, she would prefer me to pound her and just wanted me to cum. We could have sex multiple times, she just wanted to feel me explode inside her and tended to prefer quick, hot, and heavy.

This year, when COVID was just becoming national news, we started having more ox what we called ‘straight to anal’ or ‘just butt’ where we wouldn’t have vaginal sex at all. I think it originally started happening more and more because of her period (which isn’t a problem for us really, it’s just cleanup work unless in the shower) and because we both started drinking more as COVID hit and she was getting some peephole irritation that would have her asking to wait on vaginal play and just use her butt or her mouth.

She offered and I requested her butt more and more and by the summer I was clearly hooked on anal. We did it a lot. Sometimes a few days in a row without having vaginal. It occurred to me that I liked the entire experience with her more than vaginal; things were more intimate and careful, the hot and heavy was more engrossing and more passionate, and the cums were mind-blowing. The prospect of doing it more came naturally and I actually had a little conflict with her when I told her about how I was feeling.

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Are you an anal only couple or individual? Do you live, work, or go to school in an environment that is conducive to talking with other open minded people about sex? Then consider starting a club of anal only women and couples to inform and educate about the anal only lifestyle and which encourages an ever growing number of people to adopt anal only!

While this can sound like an improbable idea at first, it can in fact be very rewarding and effective at encouraging other people to consider the idea and try it for themselves. As many of us know, once you try anal only for a month or two, it’s self evident that it’s a better way of having sex and easy to move past vaginal sex for pure anal going forward.

Be Honest & Open

When you’re talking with groups of friends and others you’re comfortable bringing up sex around, be open about your preference for anal, how great it can be, and how you’ve gone anal only. If others inquire about anal, or say negative things about it, share your positive experiences and how you actually really like it or even prefer it. Many people are afraid to express their love for anal out of a fear of being judged or mocked by friends, but too often groups get stuck in a loop of following the leaders and all expressing the same negative opinions even if they’re secretly curious and want to learn more.

If anyone shows interest in anal or wants to know more about your experiences or how to enjoy anal more, take the opportunity to give them your best advice and ensure they have a good chance at a pleasurable experience so they really enjoy it and want to do more. If others who already enjoy anal open up to you, encourage them to try going anal only for themselves. Recommending a month of anal only as a fun challenge to start with and explore it without a long term initial commitment is a good option for getting people to discover just how wonderful going anal only can be for them. Most people who make it through a month and stay anal only want to keep going.

Build a Support Network

Something that can help you in your own anal only life, as well as help others starting out, is having a local support network of people you’re close with who can be encouraging, informative and supportive of each other during their journey to be anal only. Old habits, emotions, and urges can flare up and tempt people to slip from their anal only routine, and having people they can talk to when that happens helps everyone strengthen their commitment to anal only.

As you help more friends and acquaintances go anal only, you can expand that support network and introduce each other so that everyone can learn and grow from others. Some people may be comfortable playing with each other and being directly sexually involved with each other, while others may just want to talk and share. Both are very valuable.

As people graduate, move out of the area, or otherwise drift apart, it can be a good opportunity to encourage them to start a new club in their new area and spread the anal only lifestyle even further.

Provide Helpful Resources

If you want to grow an anal only club beyond a small circle of friends, especially somewhere like a college campus, but elsewhere as well, a great option is to create an informational resource like a flyer, providing an overview of tips on how to enjoy good anal sex and contact information on how to learn more. It will attract people interested in anal, and a portion will then reach out to you for more information, at which point you can also start to get them interested in going anal only and joining your club.

Let’s all work together this year and beyond to do our best and introduce as many people to the anal only lifestyle and its many pleasures as we can!

Brook: For two years of our relationship he has been vocally anti anal… in the process of moving in together he saw my plugs and has made a passing comment about fucking me while I am wearing one.
How to I encourage this interest and hopefully convince him to eventually fuck my ass?

Ease him into it. He’s already gone from being completely anti-anal to expressing an interest in vaginal sex while you’re wearing a plug, so that’s progress.

Surprise him with one of your plugs in your ass when you have sex, and just leave it in during sex. If he enjoys it, make it a normal thing. When you have sex, put a plug in.

After a while of that becoming normal, try talking to him about it again and see if he’s interested in trying anything else, like fingering your ass or using a dildo in it during sex, and then from there, tell him you really enjoy anal play with him and you’d love him to have anal sex with you and ask if he’s open to the idea now. Don’t make him feel bad or put on the spot, just try to have an open conversation about it and see what his concerns are, tell him it feels really good for you and you love doing it, and try to address any fears he may have about it.

Good luck!

Happy new year, and with it, all sorts of new opportunities for anal only fun! It’s time to make your anal only new year’s resolutions and share them with the world to help inspire others.

Some ideas include:

• If you aren’t already anal only, challenge yourself to go anal only this year. Starting out with a month or two of anal only to ease into the lifestyle and see if it’s for you is a good way to begin, and then if it works well for you, just keep going.
• If you’re anal mostly, consider taking the final step and giving up vaginal sex for good.
• If you’re anal only but still use clit stimulation and would like to switch to pure anal only, that’s an excellent 2021 goal and could be coupled with learning to orgasm from anal sex if you can’t already.
• If you enjoy stretching and want to go larger, consider setting a new goal with some bigger toys or even better, start doing double anal with two toys or two partners more often. If you already enjoy double anal and find single anal less enjoyable compared to the intensity of double anal, consider going double anal only in 2021 and move past single anal for good.
• If you’re happy with your anal only lifestyle and want to help others experience the same, consider being more outspoken about the lifestyle to friends and others and encourage them to try it for themselves. A goal of introducing others to anal only is an excellent way to have a rewarding experience for yourself while growing the lifestyle at the same time.

There are many more great options to try, and this is far from an exhaustive list. Leave a comment on this post or submit a message detailing your anal only goals and resolutions for 2021.

What a year it has been! I think we can all be glad when 2020 is behind us, but despite all the tragedy and mayhem throughout the year, it’s been a year of positive change within the Anal Only Lifestyle community.

One of our big additions this year was the publication of our Guide to Anal Sex and the Anal Only Lifestyle as a Kindle ebook. Many of you have purchased copies, which helps support this community, and we hope to have print copies available as well in the near future.

Our Patreon is another way that you can support this community, and it has continued to remain active with new members joining. If you’d like to help us out, please join.

Our community continues to slowly grow, with over 3,000 members on each the Anal Only Lifestyle forum and our Discord server. The /r/analonlylifestyle subreddit has nearly 10,000 members. This blog gets between 600 and 800 unique visitors per day, many visiting directly while others find it through various Google searches.

Posting on our Bdsmlr porn blog (NSFW) resumed in full on a schedule similar to when it was active on Tumblr. If you haven’t checked it out recently, be sure to follow us! Bdsmlr is still a much smaller community than Tumblr was, so we only have 6,500 followers there, but there’s a growing anal only presence on the platform and it could use even more people posting about and advocating for the anal only lifestyle if you aren’t already active there.

Anal Only April and No Pussy November both had quite a few participants this year, with many newcomers to the anal only lifestyle trying it out for the first time, and more than a few experienced anal only women trying other challenges, including a month of double anal sex only, several opting to stay double anal only going forward as a result. Very exciting to see the enthusiasm around both, and hope to have even more participation in challenges going forward.

The COVID-19 pandemic both interfered with and contributed to some of the above with regard to participation in challenges, and just provided some people more opportunities to do more anal or go anal only in their existing relationships. Stuck in lockdown, many couples had a lot of time and boredom on their hands and turned to anal sex, or exploring the anal only lifestyle together, and many reported deciding to stay anal only after an intensive introduction to it.

As for the new year, the plan is to continue as we have been, but with even more. Additions are underway for the Guide, and once complete, a second edition with a print edition will be published. Watch for new and additional monthly challenge schedules with routines scheduled out for various goals: anal training, clit denial, long term plug wear, anal orgasm, double anal, and more. And, with any luck, we’ll also get a store with anal only merchandise finally off the ground in 2021. Above all else, though, we continue to strive to bring more people into the anal only lifestyle and moving the world past vaginal sex to pure anal.

How has 2020 been for you with regards to the anal only lifestyle?

Sex is very confusing, but there’s one thing I’ve always been certain of: for some reason, straight men are obsessed with anal sex.

I can’t speak to why this is the case. Some part of me suspects that many of them might be bi-curious and looking for a toxically heterosexual outlet. This claim has absolutely no substance: it’s just rooted in my own speculation. It’s important to read Queer theory and even more important to critically analyze toxic masculinity, but it’s still pretty fun to tease my straight boyfriend with this notion.

Regardless, straight men definitely go crazy for anal, but for many reasons, women attracted to men don’t always feel the same way for many reasons—the biggest reason being pain.

There are many academic studies on this pain. One from 2011 found that over 40 per cent of heterosexual women (a group which I’m not a part of, but can nonetheless relate to) experienced pain their first time engaging in anal sex. Many stopped immediately, but others endured the pain to please their male partners—which is deeply problematic.

That brings me to the one thing I hope all men reading this take away: never, ever coerce a woman into engaging in any kind of sex. We aren’t yours to convince, and our sexual preferences aren’t up for debate.

Now that that’s out of the way, I can safely tell you lots of women actually enjoy anal, including me. If you really want, you can find a woman willing to do butt stuff—please just wait until the pandemic is over.

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Contrary to popular belief, and something that is echoed by many of the anal only women out there, the primary benefactors of anal sex and the anal only lifestyle are women.

So many people still insist on the misconception that women don’t enjoy anal and only do it for their male partners, and that men get far more enjoyment from anal penetration than women do.

Now, men certainly enjoy and get a lot of benefit out of anal sex as well, but the point of this article is to explore how vastly superior anal can be for women in comparison to men.

For men, it’s sexier, tighter, has more texture and grip than vaginal, and allows for deeper penetration.

For women, the contrast is more significant:

• The tightness leads to a much more intense feeling of fullness compared to vaginal, which amplifies pleasure in general and makes everything more stimulating as a result.
• The depth allows much much deeper and harder penetration without risking impacting with the cervix, which can be very uncomfortable and painful.
• Anal sex is inherently a form of natural birth control, and it’s very difficult to get accidentally pregnant from anal sex (not impossible, but rare), which allows focusing on sex and pleasure without the fear of risked pregnancy, other forms of birth control failing, or their cost and side effects.
• Less than 1/3 of women are able to orgasm from vaginal penetration alone and rely on clit stimulation in order to orgasm during vaginal. However, studies show that over 80% of women who have anal sex orgasm from it. Because many women experience negative side effects from clit orgasms, including loss of arousal, oversensitivity post-orgasm, and emotional crashes and depression post-orgasm, which generally are not present with anal orgasms, this can make a tremendous difference to long term enjoyment of sex and arousal.

So, if you or someone you know thinks that men get the most benefit from anal sex, it’s always best to try it for yourself and see what you really think. Chances are you’ll be surprised just how much greater anal is than vaginal for women, and the benefit is usually even greater for women than it is for men.

Every person who engages in anal sex fears that they will one day possess a bashed and battered asshole, one that’s not as bright and tight as it used to be. I can admit that I was once a part of that camp, fearing that every time I bottomed, I was causing permanent damage to my precious b-hole. But, as is true with most generalizations, you come to realize it’s (mostly) a bunch of BS.

I became particularly invested in this topic after working with a sexual wellness company that launched a service called Text-a-Sexpert, in which a fellow sex educator and myself would answer people’s personal sex questions via text message. Almost instantly, I was taken aback by the volume of folks who wrote me desperate that their holes were—or would soon become—loose as a result of receptive anal intercourse.

As a radical empath who despises sexual shame in any shape or form, I want to wax poetic on the power and resilience of our buttholes. To assist, I’ve enlisted the expertise of not one, but two LGBTQ butt doctors as well as one experienced anal sex advocate, author, and sex shop owner. So let’s dispel some harmful myths and put those fanny-based fears to rest.

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Hi all, I’m new to the forum and have recently started plugging regularly. I’m interested in moving toward anal only or also more regularly at least, but my partner loves the ease of vaginal sex, particularly the lack of need for lube/and waiting for prep. Any advice to increase his pleasure with/desire for anal?

Pluggedkitty, Anal Only Lifestyle forum

You’re definitely on the right track with plugging, which will help you relax open more quickly and also help you learn when and why you’re more likely to be clean. Move up in size when you’re ready!
You could also do a little discreet cleaning and lubing before you head for bed. Thanks to the plug this may be easier than you expect.
Let him know you enjoy being touched on the butt, and show him your pleasure when he does ..

FarmerDan, Anal Only Lifestyle forum

I really cannot understand what’s wrong with man who complain about going anal only and still want to fuck vaginas. Maybe they’re normal and not perverted like me but WTF?! It’s my biggest dream to find an AO girlfriend and someone who has it turn her down for the ease of pussy…damn karma…

What can I say…you shouldn’t have to do it with me of course but beside FarmerDan good advices I can say you to be slutty. Turn him on. Show him your plugged ass while you’re around in the house. Show him your gaping hole, tease him being slutty.

Gapeman, Anal Only Lifestyle forum

Thanks for the advice!

As a quick update, I told my partner how much I enjoy anal and told him I’m plugging regularly so he can easily take my ass. Unsurprisingly, he loves it and we’re having anal much more frequently. 

And as a bonus, my ass gets extra attention just from the plug. I’m regularly using the snug plug 2 (highly recommend for anyone who wants to have a silicone plug with some weight to increase the full feeling).

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