Category: Anal Only Lifestyle

Anal Only is Better for Women

Contrary to popular belief, and something that is echoed by many of the anal only women out there, the primary benefactors of anal sex and the anal only lifestyle are women.

So many people still insist on the misconception that women don’t enjoy anal and only do it for their male partners, and that men get far more enjoyment from anal penetration than women do.

Now, men certainly enjoy and get a lot of benefit out of anal sex as well, but the point of this article is to explore how vastly superior anal can be for women in comparison to men.

For men, it’s sexier, tighter, has more texture and grip than vaginal, and allows for deeper penetration.

For women, the contrast is more significant:

  • The tightness leads to a much more intense feeling of fullness compared to vaginal, which amplifies pleasure in general and makes everything more stimulating as a result.
  • The depth allows much much deeper and harder penetration without risking impacting with the cervix, which can be very uncomfortable and painful.
  • Anal sex is inherently a form of natural birth control, and it’s very difficult to get accidentally pregnant from anal sex (not impossible, but rare), which allows focusing on sex and pleasure without the fear of risked pregnancy, other forms of birth control failing, or their cost and side effects.
  • Less than 1/3 of women are able to orgasm from vaginal penetration alone and rely on clit stimulation in order to orgasm during vaginal. However, studies show that over 80% of women who have anal sex orgasm from it. Because many women experience negative side effects from clit orgasms, including loss of arousal, oversensitivity post-orgasm, and emotional crashes and depression post-orgasm, which generally are not present with anal orgasms, this can make a tremendous difference to long term enjoyment of sex and arousal.

So, if you or someone you know thinks that men get the most benefit from anal sex, it’s always best to try it for yourself and see what you really think. Chances are you’ll be surprised just how much greater anal is than vaginal for women, and the benefit is usually even greater for women than it is for men.

Forum: Overcoming Ease of Vaginal

Hi all, I’m new to the forum and have recently started plugging regularly. I’m interested in moving toward anal only or also more regularly at least, but my partner loves the ease of vaginal sex, particularly the lack of need for lube/and waiting for prep. Any advice to increase his pleasure with/desire for anal?

Pluggedkitty, Anal Only Lifestyle forum

You’re definitely on the right track with plugging, which will help you relax open more quickly and also help you learn when and why you’re more likely to be clean. Move up in size when you’re ready!
You could also do a little discreet cleaning and lubing before you head for bed. Thanks to the plug this may be easier than you expect.
Let him know you enjoy being touched on the butt, and show him your pleasure when he does ..

FarmerDan, Anal Only Lifestyle forum

I really cannot understand what’s wrong with man who complain about going anal only and still want to fuck vaginas. Maybe they’re normal and not perverted like me but WTF?! It’s my biggest dream to find an AO girlfriend and someone who has it turn her down for the ease of pussy…damn karma…

What can I say…you shouldn’t have to do it with me of course but beside FarmerDan good advices I can say you to be slutty. Turn him on. Show him your plugged ass while you’re around in the house. Show him your gaping hole, tease him being slutty.

Gapeman, Anal Only Lifestyle forum

Thanks for the advice!

As a quick update, I told my partner how much I enjoy anal and told him I’m plugging regularly so he can easily take my ass. Unsurprisingly, he loves it and we’re having anal much more frequently. 

And as a bonus, my ass gets extra attention just from the plug. I’m regularly using the snug plug 2 (highly recommend for anyone who wants to have a silicone plug with some weight to increase the full feeling).

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The Importance of Consent

It’s time we talked again about consent within the anal only lifestyle. Several discussions have come up recently in other parts of the community as it relates to consent, and I also occasionally hear from other people who have either had negative experiences involving lack of consent or have a poor understanding of it.

The anal only lifestyle is, as all sexual activities should be, built on a foundation of consent. While this blog does advocate for widespread adoption of anal only, it’s essential to understand that in no way does it ever advocate forcing that adoption on anyone, and instead opts to encourage people to try it for themselves through discussion of the many advantages, and see on their own whether they find those advantages to be beneficial and worth giving up vaginal sex for pure anal.

However, some people still have a poor understanding of this, and approach it from the perspective of “how can I make my partner go anal only?” or decide to just force it without asking. That’s not okay, and should never be done.

In addition to it being fundamentally wrong to force someone to do something against their will, having a partner who goes anal only because they genuinely enjoy and want that as well is vastly superior to only doing it because it’s what you demand. If anal is essential to your sexual satisfaction, either talk that through openly with your partner and see if it’s something they’re willing to explore together as partners, or find a more compatible partner.

Now, there are those who are anal only as part of a BDSM relationship which may involve consensual non-consent where a person allows their partner to decide what they will be doing sexually, and that is a different scenario entirely, because they have consented to the arrangement.

Make sure everyone’s consenting and on board with everything, and enjoy yourselves. If a partner is unwilling to try, don’t force them. It’s as simple as that.

Message: Double Anal With Boyfriend & Roommate in Quarantine, Part II

Anonymous: I wrote in the spring about being in quarantine with my boyfriend and roommate and how we had sex before, but in quarantine it was all the time with the three of us, and then we started trying double anal sex together and really enjoyed it.

I wanted to tell you that following your advice, we started doing it more often, and for several weeks we had double anal sex every day. Since the summer we have only had double anal sex because we like it very much, and we read about the idea of ​​double anal only here, and it was a good idea. For five months we have only had double anal sex, at least once a day.

They are not boyfriend and roommate anymore, they are both my boyfriends now, and we all like that we are in a relationship together. Doing it double anal just makes it a special connection for all of us, and we are committed to staying that way now, because it’s so nice, but also represents who we are so good.

But we want to know if this can last, is it safe and okay to do double anal so often and indefinitely? I have not had any problems so far, I feel very healthy and good about it, but I want to be sure.

Thanks for the update! So often people post a very interesting story and never return, so it’s good to hear updates from people about how things are going and progressing.

That sounds wonderful that you’ve not only been able to enjoy double anal together more often but found that it was what you really enjoyed most and decided to make your relationship double anal only going forward. I’ve posted about that subject on occasion and it definitely seems to be slowly growing in popularity with women, some trying it for the short term and others taking their anal only commitment to the next level by going double anal only.

I know and have interacted with a number of women over the years who regularly practice double anal or who are double anal only themselves, and have not heard any complain of negative side effects of going double anal only. As you no doubt have experienced, a frequent practice of double anal sex is going to result in your anus staying more relaxed and loose in the short term, though if you were to stop for whatever reason, it would tighten back up quickly. For double anal only women, staying loose and relaxed is desirable, however, so this is usually a very good side effect.

So long as you listen to your body and recognize any injuries and allow yourself to heal, you’ll be fine and are unlikely to have any negative problems. The fact you’ve been doing this daily for the past 5 months suggests you’re doing just fine and will have no issue.

I wish the three of you the best of luck and hope you are able to enjoy many years of double anal only together!

Forum: Enthusiastically Embracing the Anal Only Lifestyle

I am new here and in this lifestyle, I chose this path about nine months ago, which have been the best days and the best decisions of my life.
I chose to be AO because my life got boring and monotonous just with vaginal penetration.
The boys of my country are a bit prejudiced regarding this issue, so as you know I have not yet had a boy who has penetrated me anally.
Also my biggest concern has always been pregnancies, I already have a child and I don’t want to have more babies.
I have been single for many months, precisely for this reason of having sex and getting pregnant, contraceptive methods are not safe, that is how I am entering this lifestyle.
For a few months after I broke up with my boyfriend I was masturbating vaginally but it was very boring, so I took the initiative to practice anal masturbation.
I searched many pages, on Twitter I found Anal Only Style Life which has been a good advisor and guide for my process.
I bought a plug, a dildo and a lubricant, daily I massaged my anus with my fingers until I managed to dilate it and I was able to insert the plug.
During the nights I slept with my anal plug on, over the days I was able to change my plug for the dildo, it has been a good therapy for anal dilation.
With this experience I convinced myself that it is a beneficial lifestyle, it is the best contraceptive and much more pleasant than my pussy.
I am currently in the process of masturbating to reach anal orgasm without the help of the clitoris, I am also aspiring to be an anal queen, I am very enthusiastic about this.
I am very proud of what I have accomplished.
I must emphasize that in only anal I will remain and that there is no going back.
Once anal, always anal!

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Kink vs. Lifestyle

Because the anal only lifestyle has so much variation and different motivations for practicing it, there can at times be some conflicts and strong differences of opinion when it comes to various aspects of the practices.

A major difference is in how people approach it as simply another kink versus a full time lifestyle and almost at some levels a sexual orientation. While this may not seem conflicting at first glance, it can lead to vastly differing results.

Anal Only as a Kink

For some who come into anal only from the approach of a BDSM practice or kink, it can seem like one of many different kinks to explore, and not necessarily a long term foundation of their sexuality. They might try a month of anal only here or there but avoid long term commitments to staging anal only and ending all vaginal sex. When it’s just a kink, the idea might be fun or exciting and something they want to do, but it isn’t a part of their core identity and they aren’t making long term commitments to it.

The level of interest in anal only with someone approaching it as a kink will also be highly dependent on one’s partner, and many women will choose to let their partner dictate whether they are anal only or if they do vaginal as well, preferring to please them rather than expressing their own preferences. This action also treats anal only as just another kink that could but doesn’t have to be explored together.

All told, this does expose more people to the idea of anal only and many very much enjoy it, but it minimizes the idea of it being a long term or life commitment and the benefits that come along with that.

Anal Only as a Lifestyle

Those who approach anal only as a lifestyle have chosen to make a commitment to the idea of excluding vaginal sex completely and replacing it with anal sex for good. That commitment centers their sexuality on anal sex and grounds them in their new lifestyle.

The commitment itself becomes part of the appeal for many, with pride in how far one has come and establishing a long term streak of no vaginal sex building the desire to not stop being anal only during times of weakness where one might feel lazy or an urge to have vaginal sex again. The longer you stay anal only, the less common those urges become, but also the more you want to keep the anal only streak going.

The adoption of an anal only lifestyle can also in some ways be interpreted as a different sexuality, not in the sense of attraction to gender, but in attraction to sexual activity. Anal only people are sometimes also identified as “analsexual” or “sodosexual”.

Some people adopt the anal only lifestyle, discovering and embracing it later in life after having vaginal sex or a combination of both previously, but others are always anal centric and even if they haven’t always been able to practice it, have a strong natural preference for anal sex and may even actively dislike vaginal sex. This could be seen as an innate tendency towards the anal only lifestyle which can be easily embraced with the decision to commit to avoiding or ending vaginal sex.

What approach to anal only do you see yourself part of, and if you’ve always seen it as more of a kink, does the idea of approaching it more as a long term lifestyle have any appeal to you?

Message: My No Pussy November

Anonymous: I really want to thank you for No Pussy November. Because of it after seeing it advertised on Twitter I was inspired to try going anal only this past month and it’s really changed my life for the better!!

I struggled with vaginal since I started doing it when I was 16 and found anal when I was 17 and always enjoyed it a lot more but I never really thought about only doing anal and a lot of guys just assume vaginal and go for it so I went along with it, but when I saw No Pussy November and read about it and started reading about the Anal Only Lifestyle, it made so much sense and I was so excited to try.

This month I told the guys I hook up with that I wasn’t doing vaginal and was anal only and their reaction was actually really positive and excited and none of them bugged me for vaginal, I just had lots and lots of anal!! They seemed to enjoy it more and I know I did! I even started cumming more often because I wasn’t having vaginal half the time.

I already decided and told my guys that I’m not going to do vaginal anymore and am staying anal only, and they’re really supportive. One guy is kind of sad he won’t get to fuck my pussy anymore but I told him I’d make up for it and I don’t think he’ll really miss it. I sure won’t.

Thank you so much!! If you lived near me I’d thank you with my asshole, honestly!

Thanks for the message, and I’m very glad that trying No Pussy November was such a positive change for you and you’ll be sticking with it going forward.

I find that many women resist going anal only because they worry that guys will want vaginal and miss it, but the reality is that most women can easily say they’re anal only and take their pussy off the table and guys will be very happy with the arrangement and gladly ignore your pussy for anal and oral only. So, if you’re in that situation where you want to be anal only but fear how guys may react, give it a try for a month or two, and see for yourself. Most guys will be very, very pleased.

I wish you the best anal only life going forward!

Natural Disinclination Towards Vaginal Sex

Over the years, as new members have joined the various aspects of the Anal Only Lifestyle community, a commonly repeated statement is that they had always been more attracted to anal sex and uninterested in vaginal, and felt unusual or afraid of being judged as a result. Despite the fact that this disinclination towards vaginal actually appears to be rather common, vaginal sex still carries the sense of normalcy for many, and disliking it to prefer anal can have a stigma attached to it.

Of course, because not many scientific studies have been made on this subject, we don’t have any reliable statistics to work with, only anecdotal stories—but, within this community at least, it is common enough to be significant. Until we can get more studies into anal sex and topics related to the anal only lifestyle, this is the best we can do!

Among men, this disinterest can manifest itself as being more attracted to women’s asses and anuses, finding vaginal penetration visually unappealing or looking wrong compared to anal, or finding the idea of vaginal gross. Unfortunately, the dismissive reaction many people have to hearing this is to conclude that such men are gay and secretly want to have sex with men, rather than that they simply prefer anal sex with women. Being gay, bi or straight is about what gender you’re attracted to, not what type of sexual activity you prefer.

Among women, it can come from experimenting with masturbating different ways and discovering anal feels better, wanting to stay a vaginal virgin and being disinterested in vaginal as a result, wanting to avoid pregnancy and developing a dislike of vaginal due to the risk of pregnancy that can come from it, or even finding vaginas and vaginal penetration gross and unsexy for a variety of reasons.

Regardless of gender, it’s something that a lot of people share and can relate to within this community, and it can be empowering to realize that you aren’t alone in those thoughts and that there are other people who share them and who you can be open with, both to discuss it and potentially giving hope of finding a compatible partner who has a similar view of vaginal sex and wants to be strictly anal only.

Forum: Will My Ass Get Loose Like My Vagina Did?

In response to a question about anal looseness from going anal only:

My wife and I have been having anal sex for nearly 30 years, anal only for the past 14. Until recently she has had no issues whatsoever. Recently, she felt like she was too loose when really into it. In all honesty, I didn’t notice a difference. Performing ass to mouth when this happened seemed to help, as it removed some lubricant and allowed her ass a minute to reset, but she didn’t feel like it made enough of a difference. So, she began wearing a small glass plug with a very gradual taper for a couple hours a day. This, coupled with silicone lubricant, required her to squeeze it to keep it from coming out while going about her activities. Within a couple of weeks, we noticed a real difference. She didn’t feel she was too loose, and I felt like she had more control to squeeze me (she never felt loose to me anyway). When we really noticed it was when she orgasmed, her sphincter would squeeze and release and squeeze and release me.

So, as a couple who have probably had anal sex approaching 8000 times, from my best estimation, I can say it probably isn’t a concern. However, if it should occur, a little “light exercise” will tighten things back up again in no time.

LuvMyWifesAss, Anal Only Lifestyle forum

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