10 Common Arguments for Vaginal Sex — And Why They’re Wrong
If you’ve ever told someone you’re anal only, you’ve probably heard one—or all—of these. The defenses of vaginal sex come quick and loud, often with a smug certainty that you’ll eventually “come around.” But here’s the truth: most arguments for vaginal sex aren’t just weak—they’re wrong.
Let’s walk through 10 of the most common ones, and why they fall apart the moment you look a little closer.
1. “It’s what the vagina is made for.”
So? That doesn’t mean it has to be used. Tonsils were “made” to catch bacteria, but most people don’t think twice about getting them removed. Just because a body part has a purpose doesn’t mean it deserves your attention. Choosing anal only is about knowing what feels better, not what was assigned to you by anatomy textbooks.
2. “It’s more natural.”
There is nothing more natural than a well-trained ass taking what it was meant to take. Deep penetration, full stretch, complete surrender—that’s not artificial. That’s primal. If anything, vaginal sex is the lazy default. Anal is the conscious choice.
3. “It’s how you make babies.”
Reproduction is not the measure of a sex act’s worth. Not every woman wants to breed, and even if she does, that doesn’t mean her pussy needs to be her regular form of recreational sex. Anal only is about pleasure and identity—not breeding function.
4. “It’s more comfortable.”
For whom? Many women find anal becomes more comfortable—and far more pleasurable—once they’ve committed to it fully. Vaginal sex can suffer from pain, dryness, irritation, and emotional disconnect. Anal, when trained and respected, opens up a level of bliss that the pussy just can’t match.
5. “Men want it.”
Not the right men. Anal only men don’t want your pussy touched. They don’t see it as an option. They want your ass exclusively, and they want to share that commitment with you. If a guy can’t stop asking about your pussy, he’s not aligned with your lifestyle. Let him go.
6. “You’re missing out.”
No, you’ve evolved past it. Most people who say this haven’t experienced true anal devotion. They’re clinging to what they know, not what’s better. “Missing out” implies vaginal sex is some kind of peak. It isn’t. It’s a habit most haven’t had the courage to break.
7. “It’s more intimate.”
That’s a projection. True intimacy is about trust, surrender, and being known—and there is no deeper surrender than opening your butthole and taking everything there. Anal makes you feel claimed, filled, owned in the best possible way. There is no comparison.
8. “Anal is just for kink.”
Anal is not a kink. It’s the foundation of sex. It’s a way of living, relating, and loving. Calling it a “kink” is a way for people to minimize it, to treat it as an accessory instead of an identity.
9. “You’ll change your mind.”
People say this about everything they don’t understand. But the truth is, most people who commit to anal only feel more clarity, more confidence, and more connection as time goes on—not less. If anything, they wonder why they didn’t start sooner.
10. “It’s just sex—why does it matter?”
If it’s “just sex,” then why is everyone so defensive when you take the pussy off the table?
Because it does matter. Where you’re penetrated, how you’re loved, and what you give access to all shape your selfhood. Anal only is not a restriction—it’s a refinement. And it absolutely matters.
Your pussy is unnecessary. Your ass is essential. And when you stop listening to bad arguments, you finally start hearing your own truth.