Category: Anal Health

This category contains posts that discuss questions and concerns about anal health and safety. For more information, see our list of Common Myths & Fears About Anal Sex and Long-term Health.


Message: Anal Only Because Vaginal Hurts

Bruce: My wife has abandoned vaginal sex as she now finds it hurts to fit my cock in there but finds anal is fine so when we fuck its now only in her ass is this a common problem as its usually the other way around

It’s surprisingly more common than people think, and anal is easier for a lot of women who experience discomfort or pain from vaginal. Going anal only is a common solution to this and makes perfect sense. Of course, with practice, going anal only can be a better experience for everyone—some are just naturally better suited to it without needing much practice.

If You Haven’t Tried Ass To Mouth, Here’s Why You Should

Even among the more experienced anal lovers and anal only enthusiasts there are those who are hesitant to try performing oral sex after anal sex. As such, there are many who miss out on the joys and benefits of doing ass to mouth!

Common concerns include fears that it is unhygienic and unsafe, or that it’s unpleasant and will taste bad. However, so long as you take basic precautions to have clean anal sex and only perform it on partners who have penetrated yourself, there are few health or safety concerns. Similarly, most people who do it find that it actually tastes really nice when clean and genuinely enjoy doing it.

Ass to Mouth is Sexy and Fun!

For many people, the appeal of ass to mouth is that it really turns them and their partner on. Part of that can be due to its perception as something that not as many people do, while another aspect is the general appeal of sexual openness and open-mindedness, where someone willing to put their partner’s penis in their mouth after it’s been in their anus becomes more attractive and appealing as a result.

A lot of women who start doing it say that it makes them feel sexier and turn them on, so it’s not just about pleasing your partner—it can be lots of fun for you too!

It Can Taste Great Too!

The taste and flavor, despite what one might expect, is actually very good if you’re clean. It can have an earthy and sweet taste to it, and women who do it regularly find themselves getting addicted to it, not just to the sexy and slutty act, but to the flavor itself.

It Boosts Intimacy Further

Anal and going anal only already relies heavily on trust and results in significant increases of sexual intimacy as a result, and ass to mouth just takes that a step further, with a very open expression of acceptance of one’s own body and of each other as you share even further by adding oral after anal into the mix.

Message: Stinging When Trying Anal?

Anonymous: When I have anal sex or use a butt plug, it stings and continues to whenever I try anything for a few days. Do you have any suggestions so I can try anal more often without it hurting?

It sounds like you may need to warm up a bit more, starting with lots of lube and gentle massage to gradually work your anus open with fingers, then progressing to a small toy. If it stings, you may be tearing it slightly by going too quickly.

Once you get to where you can use a toy without it stinging, try using it regularly, at least part of each day, and that will help you to stay relaxed and warmed up without risking injury. Even a minor injury can become irritated and last longer if it keeps happening or isn’t allowed to heal, so do what it takes to warm up without pain and you’ll enjoy long term satisfaction of anal sex!

Article: How to Safely Stretch Your Anus for Anal Play

Do us a favor and try to do the splits. Go ahead, we’ll wait.

Can’t do it? Most people can’t without a lot of stretching and training first.

Turns out it’s the same for stretching your anus.

Like other muscles, your anal sphincter is only accustomed to stretching so far. If you want to loosen it up, it’s going to require some work.

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Reddit: Anal Only for Medical Reasons

My wife (41) has developed a chronic UTI. If she stays on a 20 day round of Cipro, it will go away, but as soon as we have sex, it comes back. And the Cipro makes her feel sluggish and bad.

Has anyone in this group chosen to do an anal only lifestyle because of this reason or another medical issue that made vaginal sex difficult/impossible?

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Reddit: How to Avoid Haemorrhoids

I’ve been reading a lot of posts relating to haemorrhoids. Most people say it’s caused due to enemas or douching. I think I use the municipal water for enemas. I love fingering myself but after reading these post I’m scared to do enema and I don’t want haemorrhoids. Please tell me how do I avoid haemorrhoids and still continue anal play

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Forum: Menopause and Anal

My wife started menopause around 45 yo and now 52 yo. We are working her back into anal since I now have a inflatable penile implant and can get great erect ions anytime. She says, that she doesn’t have the hormones to orgasm from anal anymore. We never had a lot of anal, couple times a year, but she always had big orgasms from it.
My question is are there women that still orgasm and enjoy anal during and after menopause?

g65389pon, Anal Only Lifestyle forum

One of several good responses to his inquiry:

My wife is perimenopausal, which comes with all the negatives of having a period and all of the negatives of menopause. She had a couple of months where she felt off and her libido dipped. On top of that, her mom was battling cancer at the time. Not that she didn’t continue to have sex, she just wasn’t that into it. This was a drastic change, as my wife usually got off four or five times a week. When she visited our doctor for her annual physical, she talked to her about it. Her doctor sent her to an endocrinologist. The endocrinologist asked her some questions, took blood and urine samples. About a week later my wife returned. The doctor said she was perimenopausal and outlined a treatment plan. Within two weeks my wife was back to normal. Now she visits the endocrinologist quarterly (well, there’s only been two quarters so far) to see if things need to be adjusted.

The point is; yes, women can very much enjoy anal sex, whether pre, peri, or post menopause. I would highly recommend talking to your wife about seeing her doctor for a referral to an endocrinologist. I’ve talked with several post menopausal couples who found they actually enjoyed anal sex more post menopause, or even transitioned to anal only, due to the dryness issues and loss of feeling many women experience post menopause.

With any luck, you’ll make her happy putting some milage on that inflatable penis.

LuvMyWifesAss, Anal Only Lifestyle forum

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Message: Double Anal With Boyfriend & Roommate in Quarantine, Part II

Anonymous: I wrote in the spring about being in quarantine with my boyfriend and roommate and how we had sex before, but in quarantine it was all the time with the three of us, and then we started trying double anal sex together and really enjoyed it.

I wanted to tell you that following your advice, we started doing it more often, and for several weeks we had double anal sex every day. Since the summer we have only had double anal sex because we like it very much, and we read about the idea of ​​double anal only here, and it was a good idea. For five months we have only had double anal sex, at least once a day.

They are not boyfriend and roommate anymore, they are both my boyfriends now, and we all like that we are in a relationship together. Doing it double anal just makes it a special connection for all of us, and we are committed to staying that way now, because it’s so nice, but also represents who we are so good.

But we want to know if this can last, is it safe and okay to do double anal so often and indefinitely? I have not had any problems so far, I feel very healthy and good about it, but I want to be sure.

Thanks for the update! So often people post a very interesting story and never return, so it’s good to hear updates from people about how things are going and progressing.

That sounds wonderful that you’ve not only been able to enjoy double anal together more often but found that it was what you really enjoyed most and decided to make your relationship double anal only going forward. I’ve posted about that subject on occasion and it definitely seems to be slowly growing in popularity with women, some trying it for the short term and others taking their anal only commitment to the next level by going double anal only.

I know and have interacted with a number of women over the years who regularly practice double anal or who are double anal only themselves, and have not heard any complain of negative side effects of going double anal only. As you no doubt have experienced, a frequent practice of double anal sex is going to result in your anus staying more relaxed and loose in the short term, though if you were to stop for whatever reason, it would tighten back up quickly. For double anal only women, staying loose and relaxed is desirable, however, so this is usually a very good side effect.

So long as you listen to your body and recognize any injuries and allow yourself to heal, you’ll be fine and are unlikely to have any negative problems. The fact you’ve been doing this daily for the past 5 months suggests you’re doing just fine and will have no issue.

I wish the three of you the best of luck and hope you are able to enjoy many years of double anal only together!

Message: Infection Scare

Anonymous: I have an uncircumcised penis of length 5.6″ and will it be ok for anal sex ? will analingus, anal penetration, cunnilingus and felatio go one after the other during sex and which lubricant is best for anal sex?

Circumcised and uncircumcised penises are both fine for anal sex, and you just need to wash after sex and urinate.

The order of sexual activities is largely up to you and your partner and what you both want, though you shouldn’t have vaginal sex after anal sex without cleaning first.

As for lubricants, we have a Guide to Anal Lubricants that you can read through.

Article: How to Avoid Painful Anal Sex

For most people, anal sex can be painful, especially when it is their first time or is with a partner who is not gentle. In a survey of 412 people by the San Francisco Aids Foundation, 96% of participants reported having, or having had, anal sex. Of those participants:

• 86% said that they had experienced pain at least once, while 9% had never experienced pain
• 36% said that they had enjoyed pain during anal sex
• 64% of people who had anally penetrated a partner said that their partner had asked them to stop because of the pain

Anal sex may hurt for several reasons, including:

• the anus not producing lubrication for sex
• the sphincter muscles of the anus being very tight
• certain health issues, such as hemorrhoids, making it painful

However, anal sex does not have to hurt, and severe pain may indicate that a person is doing something potentially harmful.

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